Abdullah Hakeem – Our Children Our Future

Abdullah Hakeem
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The importance of parenting and creating environments for future children is emphasized, along with the challenges of parenting and the "monster culture." The success of children in being educated, including the importance of choosing teachers and environments, is also emphasized. The importance of rewarding children with things they buy and give them, and teaching them to read and pray for the sake of Allah is also emphasized. The importance of teaching children to handle distractions and avoid mistakes is also emphasized, along with the need to teach children to read the Quran and pray for the sake of Allah. The importance of teaching children to use their words in daily life is emphasized, along with providing guidance on practical work and making healthy decisions.
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administrate colonial regime Smilla Rahmanir Rahim in Al hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa seldom at the Sleeman Kathira propitiously. Salary. were suddenly Emery wash No look, that's Amelie Sadie. You have a Holy Mother.

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Mighty Brothers and Sisters Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

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We firstly begin by praising Allah subhanho wa Taala we praise Him, we seek His help and we ask for his forgiveness. We should praise and thank Allah subhanahu wa taala for once again, allowing us all to be gathered here together in this beautiful Masjid. We have just performed the celestial mothering together in Jamar you know many places right now around the world. They can't go to the masjid. But Alhamdulillah Allah subhanahu wa taala has blessed us to pray together, this itself is a great Nirvana, it's a great blessing from Allah subhanho wa taala. So we should praise him for this. And I asked Allah subhanahu wa taala to bless each and every one of you. And I ask Allah subhanahu

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wa taala to gather all of us, like we are gathered here, but in general for adults. I mean,

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today, as you all know, the topic is our children, our future.

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And it's all about raising children, especially in a society, like in a western society. I'm sure you've heard a lot of talks before about how to raise children. And it's always a good reminder, reminder for all of us. So that we can insha Allah Huhtala improve on ourselves. For those of you who have young children, then this is for you. But for those of you who are not even married yet, this is also for you, because you will inshallah have children, and for those of you who your children are already grown up, it is for you to teach them how to raise their child. So it is for everybody. Insha Allah Huhtala I ask Allah subhanahu wa taala to bless us.

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I'm going to begin this short talk in sha Allah with a beautiful story. And I remember watching a chef live, he was giving a talk a reminder. And that institute where he was they were allowing live questions and answers. So towards the end of his talk, a few people whoever wants from around the world can call that number. And then they direct that to the chef and they can ask the question to the chef. So one lady she was put through, and she asked a question, a very interesting question to the chef. She said to him, I have a teenage son,

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a teenage son, maybe in his 1516 year old. And he is very bright. He's very intelligent in terms of education.

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And she said that when he comes back home from school, he studies very hard.

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And he studies so much so much so that he sleeps around 11 or 12 o'clock at night. So he prays his mother, he praises Russia, he sleeps quite late. She said that in the morning, I times I go to his room to wake him up for failure.

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But she said I can't find it in my heart to wake him up. Because he didn't have enough sleep. And as a mother, you feel like he needs more rest. So she said what I do is I wait until sunrise just before school starts. That's when he gets up. And that's when he performed his schedule.

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So she asked the chef, is what I'm doing. Okay.

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So the chef replied, with a question. He said, If there was a fire in your home in the middle of the night,

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what would you do? Would you wake up your son or you wouldn't? So she said, No, I will. I will wake my son up as well. So the chef asked why?

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She said because I don't want him to burn, I don't want him to die.

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So then the chef then said to her, if you see the fire of this world for your son, then see the fire of Johanna for yourself. It's a very amazing reminder. And the reason why I started off with this story is because we as parents of maybe future parents, we want to inshallah establish an environment for our children that we went when we want to get to a stage where our child as they are growing older. We don't have to wait them off of a journeyman. We don't have to remind them to do good deeds anymore. We don't have to remind them to open up the Quran and recite and learn and memorize and understand. We don't want to remind them to give charity we want to have done

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On enough for our child, that they are now trained well, and they are on their own doing the things that we have taught them that we want to get to. So the journey to get there is quite difficult. It's quite tough, but Subhanallah we need to understand there are a few factors that relate to the success of our children. Number one is he died from Allah subhanaw taala you can try all you want but if there's no he died for your child, he's not going to be successful. I mean, look at new highlight the salah. He tried on his child. He tried very hard on the entire OMA that he had, but it did he succeed with his child. No, he didn't. Even to the last moments, while the water was coming

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in. The water was rising, and he was telling his child to come on board for safety for success. All Issawi Elijah Billy al Simoni Minalima he said I will go to that mountain and that mountain will save me and no honey Sam said to him Bala Lau Seema Yom I mean, I'm Rila elaborate, that there is no safety now from anything from the Command of Allah except whomsoever ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada is merciful towards wahala, you know, who will vouch for criminal McLaughlin, and between them came the wave. And he was from the ones who drowned. So it is Hidayah from Allah subhanaw taala. First and foremost, number two, it is your parenting, and how you raise that child, the best way that you can,

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for the sake of Allah subhanho wa taala. Number three are the teachers of your children, the educational institutions your child goes through. So it's very important to choose the correct places for your child to be educated. It is very important to choose your teachers if you can, so that you know how they are being educated.

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And also the friends that I hang around with the associates, who they befriend who they get close to who they look up to. And lastly, the environments they are growing up in. So there are certain factors that we need to think about. And we only ask Allah subhanahu wa taala for the success of our children.

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Now, we all know that this day and age that we live in a lot of us, a lot of people, it's a culture now that we start believing having children is a burden. It's an absolute burden. And there's articles that have been published Subhanallah that talk about the amount of parent spends on each child until he's 18 years old. And they do the calculation, they say that if your child goes to a public schooling system, you know, until he's 18, you, you approximately pay about $100,000 for that child 100 $250,000 for that child for everything. And that is only if they go to a public system. And if they go to a private system, I mean, you're you're spending a lot of money. So they already

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making you think negatively about having children Subhanallah there is a culture known as the dink culture. Have you heard of that culture, di n k, it's very common in the city. It's called di n k dink known as double income, no kids.

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And subhanAllah this culture, it's it's apparent, it's real. Because they say children burden. We want to live our life. We want to travel the world, they may have a partner, they may be married, we want to buy the most expensive car that we want. We want to buy the most expensive house we want. We want to live in luxury. And when we have children, it's a big burden. The amount of money you got to spend SubhanAllah. And these thoughts creep into the minds of people it does. So much. So Subhanallah, I was only a student. In university, I got married quite young, I was a student, and in Islamic University with my wife and my wife, subhanAllah she fell pregnant when we were three years

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into our studies with a six year course. And I also had that thought, how am I going to raise my child? Where's that money going to come from? I only worked three months in a year. When I go back to Australia. How am I going to you know, raise my child. I don't want to you know, the man has that pride. You don't want to borrow money from your parents? How am I going to raise my child? So I went to one of my checks. And I asked him this question. I said, you know, I've, I'm having this child that Hamdulillah you know, but I'm afraid how am I going to raise him? You know, the where's the income going to come from? The chef Subhanallah he replied, a very beautiful reply. He replied from

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a part of the verse from the Quran. He said, Allah subhanahu wa taala says while I talk to Allah

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The community in LA nationala Zuko, como el? That's all he has to say. I knew the verse. But when someone tells you that verse again and reminds you, it just clicks, Allah subhanaw taala says And do not kill your children because of poverty. People used to do that. What did Allah say? No, no it is us we will provide for you and for your child. And Wallah. He said Pamela when I had my first child that is just kept coming. Subhanallah and this is a gift from Allah subhanho wa taala. So know that having children is a gift from Allah. Allah says that in the Quran, Allah Allah will Balu Xena tool hayati, dunya, that having wealth and children they are in a dormant for you happiness for you. But

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at the same time, never forget that with that happiness comes responsibility. Everything you have everything that is under you, you are responsible for as Allah subhanho wa Taala says, In Nama and Wailuku What will I do confits now that verily your wealth and your children array tests for you, they are a trial for you. But do not think about that way that I'm not going to have any children. Or I'm not going to encourage my child when they grow up to have many children. No, just go back to your grandparents generation, your parents generation. They had maybe 10 to 15 siblings, the one mother and they lived fine. They grew up well. Subhanallah and today, you know if you have five or

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six kids, what's wrong with you? Yeah, how you gonna raise them what car you're gonna buy? You know, we all the rooms Subhanallah the busiest human beings on earth who were they? They were the prophets of Allah subhanaw taala the busiest human beings on earth Zecharia alayhi salam at such an old age. He asked Allah subhanaw taala for a child who Nanika as a carrier of color have been heavily Milan Calgary yet unclear but an indica semi Rudra Allah, he begged Allah subhanaw taala for a child for a righteous child. And he said he Allah you are the one who use old ah, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, How many children do you have? 26? Anyone Any other guesses? Five? Five?

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No, no, just altogether how many children did he have?

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He had 11. Maybe you're thinking about wives.

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He had seven children. Six, he had six from one wife who did Khadija and he had one from Marissa. So he had seven altogether four boys and four girls, and three boys Subhanallah imagine today the family says I have six or seven children or what's wrong with this panel, the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam, one of the most busiest human beings on earth at that time, yet he was able to have children, and he was able to bring them up. Yes, they all die. When they were young, or the boys during infancy. The daughters died when they were in adulthood. Only one only one remained alive after the death of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam but he had children SubhanAllah. So we

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should always ask Allah subhanaw taala for righteous children, I remember your righteous children, they will benefit you after you pass away, they will make dua for you. And that is what will continue in your deeds inshallah we'll time.

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Remember when raising kids,

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it starts even before you get married. The thoughts of raising children start from before you get married, help those of you who are not married. And those of you who already have children, remind your children about this. You need to choose the spouse, the correct spouse. Why? Because she is going to be the mother of your child. And he is going to be the father of your child. You're going to think about that. And this is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said to get helemaal Yaga Lee Maliha well is generally what he has to be Hawala Taenia for me that he didn't tell you but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he reminds the people he reminds them in women are married

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for four reasons. Number one, their beauty, their wealth, the lineage and the theme. Now the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam emphasized he said, choose the one that has been why? Because she's going to be the mother of your child. You got to think about that. She's going to be the first teacher of your child, she's going to raise your child. So you need to choose the right one. And likewise, In another Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam talks to the fathers of daughters and he says to them, if a righteous man comes to you, asking for your daughter's hand in marriage, and you are happy with his deen and with his US law, then marry your daughters to him, of

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course with their permission, and if you do not do so, then there'll be facade on Earth.

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This is an authentic hadith. Why? Because he is going to be the father of that child. So we need to plan ahead, even before marriage today. Subhanallah I deal with, you know, school aged kids, you need students who come up to me and say, I love you. I'm in love why? I want to get married. Why? Because she's beautiful. That's it. That's the only criteria one looks at. She's beautiful. I mean, of course, that can be a criteria. But have you thought that she's going to be the mother of your child? Have you thought of that? Do you want your children to be raised in a way that you know you don't want? And that's something really important to think about. Number two.

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Give your child a good name.

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Give your child a good name Ibrahim, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said in a heavy last night our child was born to me. And I named him after my father Ibrahim. Of course his father, meaning the father of the Prophet, Ibrahim Alayhi Salam. And he chose that name. Why? Because he wanted his child to resemble Ibrahim Ali Salam and another Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, choose good name for your children because they will resemble it. Choose good names.

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Subhanallah I remember one of my friends while I was in uni, called me up and he said, you know a friend of mine.

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He's he his wife, Kay bus and I need to be want to go see, you know, see him see the baby. And he didn't have a car. So he said to me, Can you can you drive me? So I said no problem. And we went to the house. Hello. Very nice couple. And we saw the child, you know, and we made a lot of dua to the child. And then I asked the father, I asked the brother I said, What did you mean your child? And he said, I named him Salman, you know, and I thought mashallah, what a beautiful name. In my mind, I'm thinking what a beautiful name after amazing Sahaba Salamander. 30 see, you know, a Sahaba the quest of truth. I mean, the journey he came, he embraced Islam, and his idea of the trench Subhanallah the

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Muslim victory in the Battle of 100. And maybe those thoughts were running through my head. And then a friend of mine asked him, Why did you name him Salman

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Wallahi. The response was, my wife and I, we love Salman Khan. We love Salman Khan, for those of you don't know who he is, he's that famous Bollywood actor, you know, And subhanAllah all those good thoughts just went down the drain. But people are naming their children after superstars. You know, although the names sound really nice, but they they named them, you know, these type of names, and now they want to name their children something unique, something unique, no one has that name. But they forget. They forget that we need to choose beautiful names, names that have good meanings. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, choose the names of the prophets of Allah choose

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Abdullah choose Abdul Rahman the greatest names the sahabi adds the Greatest Women who ever lived on this earth so far. You know girls that come to our school, there's four sisters, three of them come the younger one is going to come soon inshallah. Four Sisters no no brothers, their parents named them, Maryam. asiyah, Khadija and Fatima Masha Allah beautiful names the four Greatest Women to walk the face of this earth. How amazing is that? SubhanAllah. So let's name our children good names. Insha, Allah Allahu taala. Number three, be a good role model, you as a parent, need to be the best role model for your child. Why? Because your child will most likely resemble you remember your child

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at a young age, you're their hero, they look up to you, they want to do things that you do, and you won't even know it. Some of the things that you do, you won't even realize your child is resembling you just to impress you, they will do certain things that you do because they know you'll like it.

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I mean, my daughter hates cricket. But I love cricket. That's me. My daughter will play cricket just to make me happy. That's why she's only five years old. But that's something that she will try to resemble you.

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I remember one some, you know, a an elderly man who passed away. And the son of that man he invited me that night after the burial just to give an A see how I talk to the people you know about death and the reminder of death.

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And there was a lot of people there was a lot of people and you know, I was sitting there and I'm giving a talk about death.

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And I'm thinking to myself, you know, it's it's, it's a good reminder for myself and everybody else. And at that moment a person just passed away. And I'm speaking about death. But the audience were laughing

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and I didn't understand why they

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laughing. I had no idea. I'm trying, I'm talking about death. But then there's, there's people in the audience who are laughing. And then in the corner of my eye, I see my son.

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And guess what he's doing. He's doing the exact same hand gestures that I'm doing while I'm speaking. He's resembling me, just going like this guy like this, you know, is getting up and I had no idea he was right next to me, my uncle noticed it. And my uncle had to come up and grab my son and take him away. SubhanAllah. But the point one, he was resembling me, he was trying to be like me, your child will try to be like you. In another incident. I remember going to school in the morning. I'm a school teacher. And there's a traffic light. Close to the school, there's a traffic light, I'm on the left lane. Turning right, there were two lanes turning right. So I'm in the left

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lane. And this brother is in front of me, this person is in front of me. And there's another car on the right lane. So as we turn to the right, the left lane ends, and you need to merge. So what this person does in front of me, he tries to cut into the guy that is on the right. But the guy on the right is not letting him go. He's not letting him go. So what this person does, he puts down his window, and he shouting, his screams yell he swears up here from behind that car, and he's sticking the finger up. And he's swearing SubhanAllah. And I'm just thinking, I hope this guy's not a Muslim. I hope this guy is not a Muslim.

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Not only was he Muslim,

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but he was the parent of a child coming to my school. And the child was in the car. He dropped the child. And when I looked at the child, I realized why the child's behavior is like this. Subhanallah he was flagged as one of those who had behavior issues. I mean, he's in the car looking at his father swearing, why is he getting all this fall? So be the best role model for your child? Allah subhana wa Tada. He says, Yeah, you are living in poo and full circle. What? Alikum now, what do I NASWA hijab, Allah reminds all of us, Oh, you who believe Save yourselves. But not only yourselves, save your families, also from the fire who's fuel these men instance. So we have to make sure that

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our family is also safe. By us being that role model your child on the Day of Judgment will not care about you. It's all necessary to see myself myself. Your child will go in front of Allah and say, Oh, my father, my father never taught me about Allah. My father never used to pray in front of me. My father never told me about Quran, he will throw you under the bus. You will do it. I will say Ma'am, my mom yell Allah, my mother, and my father never taught me Salah never told me to put the hijab on. She never did it herself.

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They will try to throw you under the bus.

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And because in the Day of Judgment, it's all about you. So you need to be that parent. Now. Teach your children now so that on the Day of Judgment, they will not have those excuses. You've done your part and you're leaving the rest in the hands of Allah subhanahu wa taala.

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Also the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said Kulu, Qumran will Kulu masala. And right here at all of you are shepherds. And each and every one of you are responsible for your flock. So be that responsible parents and be that role model for your child. Number four, the way we treat our children. Very, very important. We need to treat them with justice. A lot of people say we have to treat them equally. You know, all your children treat them equally. But I don't say that when equally I'd say the word justice. Because there's a difference between equality and justice. What is equality? Now think about the classic example where there's a fence and the three boys. You know,

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one is very tall, medium height short, and they tried to look over to see the game. The tall one can see it. The middle one can't see it, you know, the level of their head is defense, and the shoulder has no chance. Then the father finds three boxes, or three crates. Equality is equality is you give each one one crane

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the tool one he doesn't need it, but he gets up on it. And now he's really high up the middle one, you can see it again the show wants to concede social justice is in that example, the first one doesn't get it because he doesn't need. The second one gets one and the third one gets two. Now they're at the same level and they can see the game. Likewise, when we're treating away, we're giving our children we're supporting our children. We need to make sure we're just with them. When you give one child give the other something similar or what they deserve. Very, very important. Once a man came to the Prophet that Allahu Allah, he was telling me he said you're a pseudo Allah. I gave

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my child this garden of mine.

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And the Prophet said what

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Did you give your other children

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give your children something similar they deserve and give it to them? Definitely, don't be the one who gives one and not the other. But of course, it doesn't mean that you give one you give the same thing to the other one no depends on their situation and circumstance. And of course, give them as well during the same time you give others during aid, during times of happiness, give presents, but of course to the level insha Allah Who to Allah, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, have taqwa in Allah subhanahu wa taala. And treat your children fairly, you must make sure that you do that, at times we need to reprimand them. At times when they do something wrong. We need to

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punish them. And they certain forms of punishment. Not once did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam have to raise his hands on his child not once, not once. But how many times do we do it? And the negative impact that has on the children? We say, you know, we live in this country, we can't even smack our children anymore. The Prophet never did.

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The Prophet never did. It's not the society, don't blame the society. We gotta blame my parenting. The Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam never did. So be kind to them. Be gentle to them, let them make mistakes. They're human beings, you make mistakes, too. But they will learn from those mistakes, be there when they make those mistakes. Let them share that mistake with you. Because they know my dad's not gonna hit me. My dad's not gonna yell at me. But my dad's going to explain to me, be that far be the mother who is there for the child and doesn't yell or scream, or watch the kids tunnel. We are not like that we are the followers of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but don't be

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the one who punishes them negatively. You know, sometimes Subhanallah your child is watching too much TV and you had enough you're sick of it. They own the device for too long, and you're sick of it. You yell at them and say put that away and go read the Quran.

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Guess what the Quran becomes a punishment for your child now. So he looks at the Quran, negatively. Low Expo we need to think of these things, but rather reward them when they read the Quran. Reward them, give them things buy them gifts, when they memorize a certain verse, or surah. Give them something, let them aim for something in sha Allah. You may think but we want to teach our children to read Quran and pray for the sake of Allah and who forgives. I mean, why do we Why do we pray? Why do we fast? Why do we because we want to, we want to get from Allah, we want paradise. So give your kids gifts, and inshallah when they are older, they will long for Peridots that's what we want insha

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Allah to Allah. Number five.

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One of the biggest mistakes we make today, as parents,

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I want you to think of the way you are at home when it comes to the dinner table.

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Today, unfortunately, why families are breaking apart. One of the main reasons is because of something like this, the devices that we have during dinner.

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And of course it could be other times. But specifically I'm talking about while everyone is together in the home, a

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lot of parents what they do is they send their children to a separate table, put the food in front of them, put the device on so that they can watch quietly and not disturb the parents. Then you have the husband on one side, his device is on and then the wife on the other side her devices on where's the communication? Where's the love. Your child is going to look for that love elsewhere.

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Your wife,

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you know she's not communicating with you anymore. And this is where marriage is breaking up as well. The distractions of life is making our families fall apart. Subhanallah the device today is breaking families apart. You need to make this rule for yourself and for your family. That at least one moment in the day where you are together. And I say during you eat when you eat that moment spend that time together. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in a hadith he said Converse while you're eating because food brings people together. It brings love, speak, talk to each other. Ask them how their day was how was it at school? What did you learn today, let them take the onus to

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teach you during the dinner.

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Let them teach you Subhanallah and then praise them for the good that they have done. Help them when they've done something wrong. But have that conversation with them. Subhanallah very, very important. Quality, time, quality time. I urge all fathers

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to take your child you know out together you and your car. If you have more than one. Then take them on separate days. Maybe take them together at once. But take a child separately at different days as well make them

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feel special to fishing if you like, go for a drive to even 711 to buy something if you like. But that moment that you have with your child, they will never forget it. They will not forget it. Because you made them feel special. You made them feel special. Ask them questions, ask them if they need any help what's going on in their life? What did you learn today, that one on one time will love you they will not forget mothers as well. Take your children out. If this people who love to go shopping, take one of your children with you. Talk to them during that moment, spend that quality time with them go and you know, buy a drink and sit together. Have a meal together. Have that

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quality time well Allah He works.

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Play sports together. I also encourage a lot of families, the entire family, mother, father, children go outside. If you have to go to the park, you don't have a big backyard, go to the park, play sports with your children. That's so important. You know, because children see that bond. And if they can't get that from you, they'll get that from somewhere else. And maybe that somewhere else is a place where they're going to be destroyed. So it's very important you spend that quality time with your children.

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Number six, education, education. The best example and there's no other that is great at the moment are obviously the prophets of Allah Allah Salam. But in the Quran, Allah subhanahu wa taala gives examples. It doesn't have to be prophets. He gives examples because Allah knows how great those examples are for us to learn lessons. Allah tells us about Look man, and how He taught his son.

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When fire Look, man, we're living in a world where I think we are gonna hear to shake in a shaky level now him. Look man, one of the first things he taught his child was connection with Allah subhanahu wa. That's the first thing he taught. And that is something we need to teach our children from a very, very young age. Who Allah is why we perform the salah we perform for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala we need to build a love with Allah subhanaw taala look at the wisdom behind the shorter Sutras of the Quran. What is if you remember the first Surah You memorized? Surah Fatiha or Surah to a class. Why do you memorize the Saudis? Allah the wisdom, Allah put that wisdom there why?

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Because the other shorter students and children learn them first. So that the children can know what Allah is. That's the wisdom behind the Subhan Allah. Allahu Allahu Ahad say there is only one Allah, Allah was solid. Let me delete Willa mula teach him about the Oneness of Allah subhanaw taala that he doesn't have any children. And he's not. And he's not a child of any parent teaching this and there's nothing like Allah subhanho wa Taala I should have the Allahu Allah He said that the first revelations to be revealed in the Quran in Makkah, was about Allah the love of Allah, the fee of his punishment about Jana and Johanna, about Yom we'll ask, why. So that the Sahaba could absorb the

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love of Allah in their hearts. Then when they migrated to Medina, then the halal and haram Ayat came. She said if the halal and haram is came first, the Sahaba would have said, I will never give up Zina. I would never give up alcohol. Why? Because if they were the first verses, they wouldn't give it up, I should say is that Allah wanted the Sahaba to absorb the love of Allah. Once that love is there, everything is then Samana. Altana, whatever Allah says I'll do if Allah says do this, I'll do it. Because of that connection with Allah subhanho wa taala. Look, man continues, and he talks about salah to his Trouw connecting with Allah subhanho wa Taala through Salah connecting with Allah

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subhanho wa Taala to teach people good and to forbid people evil and to have patience when calamity hits you. So look at the example of Look man, and you need to be that example for your children. Insha Allah Who Tod

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number seven

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in your homes, and inshallah I will enter two more points in your homes.

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Have a moment I call it the Halacha L in your homes established a time we talked about you know, that's a separate one, have an established time, even if it's 15 minutes, it's 30 minutes, 30 minutes or even an hour. Will you sit with your children, their entire family and you speak maybe the stories of the prophets of Allah subhanaw taala and teach them lessons, or it could be the spirit of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam

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Are all the stories of heroes as the harvest? Why kids love stories, they love stories, they will listen to stories. And if you notice, in my speech, I give stories, because we love stories, too. I love it. I love hearing stories, and the audience may talk a lot. But as soon as someone is telling a story, they'll listen.

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So teach them the heroes of his of Islam, the heroes who walk the face of this earth Subhanallah how many of our children know the so called Heroes on TV? The fully stars, the soccer players. You know, I remember I went into the classroom once, and the students were talking about the English Premier League, the soccer match that happened, it was a while back, they were talking about the game that happened the night before. And they were just talking about it. I couldn't get them quiet. They were going crazy over it. So I said to them, okay, can one of you tell me the names of all the players in that team? And they were very excited. Few of the hands went up, chose one person. He made all the

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plays. He named the plays in the bench, and he named the coach. I'm hoping he was right. I have no idea. Right? So I'm like great, mashallah, who can now name your the players in the other team? Few other hands went up, was one of them again, all the plays, plays on the bench and the coach. I was stunned. And then I said, All right, all right. How many of you can name me the 25 prophets mentioned in the Quran? Finally, there was silence in the room. Subhanallah no one. One hand went up. Can I try sir? You can try. Amazingly Subhanallah she got 21. She got 21, which is great. But it's sad that our children know the names of so many people, but they don't know the names of the

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MDL Allah subhanaw taala. They don't know the names of the children of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, they don't know the names of the 10 who were given glad tidings of paradise this harvest, we need to teach our children these heroes. So that insha Allah Huhtala they can resemble them. How amazing would it be? You know, right now we see our children, youngsters, they're going around with a sword or whatever it is, I'm Superman on this and that whatever the heroes are today, I have no idea. But Savannah How amazing would it be that they are running around saying you know I am, I'm one of the Allahumma I'm either you know the hola Juan, you know, today it's um, Earth rule, you

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know, who else rule Subhanallah great, no problem. But we want to teach them also the Gambia of Allah subhanaw taala. So how does so have that Halaqaat time with them. That could also be Quran, that could also be Hadith, where you sit there and you teach them in sha Allah. Also, with the theory comes practical. Sometimes you need to teach your children in a practical sense as well. So I urge all parents, take them out and make them do good action. For example, if you teach them about sadaqa make them go and do the work of sadaqa

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Subhanallah go to the city and take food with you until you children to give food to the poor do that there's a family Subhanallah that i The two boys I used to tutor them. The mother was telling me that every second year, every two years, they take their children to a country where they live with the villages, the poor villages, and they do charity work for two weeks. They live with them. They go buy groceries and they go hand up Wallah. He has two boys the most beautiful boys will ever meet great boys, because they're humble of what they have. They live in a beautiful home, but they are humble of what they have. They love each other they share things with one another. And that's

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something we want do the practical work as well. Teachers we are told don't just teach theory do practical, that's how kids learn. But we parents need to also do the same inshallah. Because I have that moment. Other things you can do as well in your homes, have reminders on the wall, have reminders in the wall dua on the wall. You know when you're leaving the home what's the driver when you're entering the home? What's the DA when you're traveling in the car? What's the dog have them around? Because your kids will look at things and try their best to memorize them and and do that inshallah use a lot of you know Arabic phrases. dua for example, say Salaam Alaikum we meet each

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other Jazak Allah Hadees said Oh, thank you, you know, say Masha Allah instead of well done. You know, use these words inshallah and your child will learn them. Very, very important and give good for your children when they deserve the gift that's very important. Obviously, besides,

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you know, I, this is my opinion, you don't have to follow my opinion. But in my opinion, I don't celebrate birthdays. I believe celebrating birthdays is a sin. That's my opinion.

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The reason one of the reasons there's other reasons, but I tell my child, my child comes up to me and says, Dad, how can that person is celebrating birthdays? You know, they invited all these people and I can't go so I tell them listen,

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We'll give you a party a celebration. If you aren't something great, you do something great. For example, if you can read the Quran from finish the end, you will get a party.

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You who you memorize the Quran, I'll buy you a cup. I'll do all these for you definitely, but you need to earn it. You need to be the one who deserves it. So that children will know that when they work hard, they will get something in sha Allah. So give them gifts aid as well. You give them gifts, of course that's normal, but make them earn their gifts as well in sha Allah Huhtala. Last

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Last point, as a parent who make a lot of AlphaGo a lot of the algorithm the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said that the parents dua is accepted by Allah subhanho wa taala. So make that sincere dua for your children. One of the DUA that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he recommended was to say, or ogbonna habla and I mean as well as you know well RIA Tina Kurata is what your anonimo Tofino Humana you're asking Allah subhanaw taala Oh Lord, grant us from our wives and our offsprings comfort to our eyes. Meaning make them successful make us happy because of what they do. That's what we want your Allah and make us an example for the righteous. So this is a dua

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beautiful to other the prophets that Allahu alayhi wa sallam he told us,

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very comprehensive, masha Allah so make that dua on a regular basis in your Salah if you can every day. That dua is very powerful. So I hope Insha Allah, Allah Tala that myself in all of us, we've learned something and inshallah Huhtala we will implement it in our lives. Again, if you have young children, try to implement this. If you have older children who will inshallah have their own that remind them about this. And if you don't have any children of your own, or you're not married, then think about who you're marrying. And know make dua to Allah subhanaw taala before you have children, to help you gain the success of yourself and your children in this world and the FL We ask Allah

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subhanahu wa taala to bless each and every one of us. We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to help us learn the lessons of today and we ask Allah subhanaw taala to help us implement those lessons. And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to gather all of us like we are gathered here but in general for those who

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are Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.

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