Who spoiled my mood?

Abdulfattah Adeyemi


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The speakers stress the importance of being aware of one's moods and avoiding bad moods, emphasizing the need for people to avoid scamming and giving too much information. They also stress the importance of staying calm and avoiding certain areas of social interaction. The conversation touches on the benefits of healthy eating, reducing one's risk factors, and improving one's health through practice. The focus is on avoiding scams and giving too much information.

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Give thanks to Allah for another opportunity to be here gathered today. May Allah

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grant us the best of our gathering here. May Allah grant us the best of reward, the best of understanding the best of mercy, the best of blessings, the best of everything in this world and the hereafter.

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Our topic of today is in the form of a question, it goes, oops point my mood.

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Whoo spoiling my Mood.

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Mood as in mo od mood was pointed. Now we have made it to be personnel so that you will know that it's actually referring to you it's, it's an emotional state. mood is an emotional state. You know, just the way you feel happy, you feel sad, you feel worried, you feel distressed, you feel impressed. You feel depressed, all those moods. So it's like asking who spoil my mood? Can anybody spoil your mood? Can? Can you take care of your moods so that nobody can spoil it?

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And what are the rules of moods in our lives? What are the importance of our moods, you have good moods, you have bad moods, you have ported moods, you have destroyed mood, you have unprotected mood, you have stolen mood.

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You have sports mood, you have fresh mood, or you have moods that can energize you have moods that can animate you have moods, that can

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also depress somebody?

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Can you protect your mood from being stolen? What are the things that surround mood? What are the things that can enhance mood? What are the things that can bring down your mood?

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Are there foods that we can eat? That can affect our moods? Are there some things we can drink that affect our moods? Are there some colors around us that can affect our moods? Are there some things we can hear that can affect our mood things we can read, that can affect our moods, things you can watch that affects our moods, things that can happen to us that can affect our mood, or happen to somebody else that affect our moods or happen around us that God forbid, I think that did not happen at all, that can facilitate our moods.

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Can somebody steal your mood? Can somebody alter your mood? Can somebody destroy your mood? Can somebody postpone your mood? Can somebody do something to your mood? How will you know if somebody tried to control your mood? I wouldn't know how to control your mood by yourself. Can you have internally generated mood that is controlled? Or it is all things that happen to us externally?

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These are so broad. And there's also one aspect where you have a moody person around you how do you handle such a person?

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You know, moods are contagious? How contagious? Can they be Insha Allah, we want to look at some of these issues. visa vie Harvey's family life, as the case may be. So inshallah we hope that we're going to learn a lot from that today. I'm also going to ask you some questions. This is a research area in humanity. But we want to just scratch it on the surface. And we want to bring it home to each and every one of us so that we can learn how these things work.

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I will read it down. So what's your mood now? Are you in a happy mood? Are you in a sad mood, and we're in a happy mood now? Okay, well, who's in a sad mood? Or will say in the neutral? Do you know how you feel now? Alright, neutron would want to three? Can the weather affect the person's mood?

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Maybe yes, maybe no. If the weather is one kind, so to speak, can you protect your moods from being affected by the weather?

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Okay, let's see what you can do about that. So we call it a massage in Arabic mood, Allah massage, meme zine. And g Moon al massage. So we said it's an emotional state, and people typically speak of being in a good mood or in a bad mood broadly and generally, how good is your mood? A person may not be able to explain but you know, you feel good. Then how bad is your mood? You may not be able to say but it's one or the other thing. So it's internal. It's also subjective. Your mood may not be exactly my own mood, I may not be able to explain precisely how I feel in my mood. So I may not be objective about it. It can be very subjective depending on how I feel or how I perceive what I feel.

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Some people feel

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feel happy, but they don't know that they actually happy.

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And some people feel sad, they're not sure that they actually feel sad. Sometimes some people mix it up, because these are some things that happen to us in life. You see, incidentally, or Interestingly, some things happen together and they're not supposed to be together, but they have come together. For example, somebody is laughing I shedding tears at the same time, have you seen that before? They say laugh seriously, and tears coming from person's eyes. It happens right? Word, some things get mixed up. Some people can be very sad, I will see them laughing.

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Instead of crying, well, some things happened. Recently pathing reached certain extent, to be smiling.

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You know, some things like that happen. And some people will be very, very happy to just start crying. Very, very happy like your mother who has not seen the sun for a long time, the day the sun arrives, you just start crying.

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Things happen like that somebody will go and hide for the first and see the Kaaba and say Allahu Allahu Akbar, instead of jubilation and being happy that Alhamdulillah I can see the cover, you will start crying.

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Things happen like that. Sometimes moods are mixed up, but they are very subjective. What makes you to feel happy may not be what makes me feel happy. What makes you me to be in a good mood may not be what makes you to be in a good mood, it depends so much on who you are.

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And depends so much on how you're able to observe your mood. So we have what they call Takadanobaba massage, that is mood swing, the conduct from what called called Woo is hot. But call will also mean things that are not stable. human hearts are not stable or they they're not stable. So takanobu massage, moods can also swing it will move from one side, move to another side. Another point which I understand is Mood swings are universal. Everywhere in the world, every human being that brings peace, oxygen, they have moods. However, most people's mood swings remain in the mild, you know, in the mild to moderate, mild to moderate. And range is a range of emotional ups and downs varying

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between feelings of sadness and happiness. So people will feel very happy. Some people feel very sad. Some people are in between neither happy nor sad. If he's very happy, he's not very, very happy if he's, if he's sad is not very, very sad. The Crassula kala Tazza Allameh father, Walter Farah who

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don't feel too sad about what you miss. And don't be too happy about what you have been given. That's a first of granddad's talking about moods that is labeled your mood, don't be too euphoric. And don't be too depressed, be somewhere in between. Because when mood becomes too bright to live, you think you believe you can fly then you think you can really fly. Then you jump off from two storey building and you break your neck.

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So beware don't let your mood be that's what Kayla, sow Allama Fatah, don't be too sad, or what to miss. That means don't don't feel so some people will just break down just because the mistletoe they have lost something. You know. So the grant talks about that when we will look more on some verses of grant that talk about a person's mood, a person's mood, then what's the duration of the mood? Well, it varies. Sometimes they leave the lasts for a few hours. Sometimes they extend two days, sometimes weeks, the person will remain in a certain mood for a very long time for Mindy's you are sitting in that mood, you know, and how do you control it? How do you stop it? Maybe we say

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we're going to look at that later but some people's mood scheduled me for two hours, three hours, two hours, three hours because maybe in a very bad mood very sad mood. But as soon as person receives a lot of salary ladies a person who just Should I hit deceided, masha Allah, he has seen a lot with God when

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I have heard the word radio somebody was singing.

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God we knew then what are the things that can affect the person's mood I'm summarizing now before we go into the details a person's energy level. If your energy is low, then your mood may also be low. If you don't have energy, you are tired, you are weak. It will go down alongside with your mood. There are some of these drive when it comes to Holborn our relationship. Council affects your mood. Some people's drives are very high, some people's lives are very low. Someone who has a very low drive when it comes to husband and wife relationship may also have a low mood and in fact the activity affect people's moods. You know, sometimes you see problems in marriages because that

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aspect of bedroom is not well taken care of so their moods will be down most of the time they'll be depressed most of the time.

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and people sleep patterns if you don't sleep well, or they don't have enough sleep or they're interrupted in their sleep, it can also affect their mood service team concentration and drug use can affect the person's mood, or can even lead to, can be a sign of an oncoming mood disorder. So many things that trigger it, we are going to look at that. But let's start with bad mood.

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bad mood, and people have really experienced really bad mood. How do you feel when you are in a bad mood? Well, bad moods have important connections with our mental and physical well being, depending on what goes on your mind. How bad is the mood depends on your temperament. Sometimes, there's this there's no intentional object that causes the bad mood. It has no specific start and stop date. So it can last for hours, days or weeks or longer. or less, you can say this is the cause of my bad mood, or you remove it.

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And if you remove it, it's not like a switch that you can switch from good mood to bad mood. So sometimes it goes and comes on its own, and we don't know what to do about it. So bad moods can affect how you perceive how you see things. If you're in a bad mood can affect how you interpret something, or how you judge or translate the world around you. Somebody will say something and then depend on your mood.

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A person may insult you if you're in a good mood you're saying I used to be and you could only person and continue. But if you're in a bad mood and somebody does impressive very well, you will still feel angry.

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Do you understand what I just said now? Yes, bad mood affect the way you react? Somebody may just walk past without greeting you. If you're in a good mood, say which one are you? Are you I know? He knows. Okay, good morning, you know, if you're in a bad if you're in a good mood, but if you're in a bad mood

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or phone app doom for this person, so you can see walk past minutes without greeting, then you bottle that up. You hold resentment against that person and then you feel bad throughout the day that can you imagine they don't even get me anymore. Whereas the person just didn't see you now which one? Because they didn't notice that you were there. Then you see So, it is now 10 You will not notice me a

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How will that happen? It will happen because of your mood you and your bad people in a bad mood that he wants people to go and ask for money.

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Somebody is owing you or you go ask for the money when was in a bad mood you hear a lot of things

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you are looking for wahala How did that man sing the song

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somewhere somebody is going somebody has lost his job is looking for what to eat and landlord came and say pay my rent.

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Within a day for

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all of you are looking at Mercy you don't know the song. There is God

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bad mood can make you read wrong meanings to others actions. Harmless statements because of bad mood, you study the meanings to it. Somebody will just crack a joke in your present you read meanings to it. Somebody just coughed in your present you read ministers in so it's not your fault. I can cough at me. But this is just coughing. Normally you say you say harmless human situation to cough. But because we're in a bad mood, you say how can you be coughing? Or how can you be talking to me like that? How can you be asking me that kind of question. How can you be looking at me like that?

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Why should I be talking to you or not talking? Or talking? Are you talking about? I'm talking and you are not responding? I'm talking I not listening? Then because your mood is bad. If you're dancing around, we'll go by the day the mood of the motor of the house goes bad. Everybody in that house will starve

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because she can't cook and if you cook she will shut on everybody. Before the food is ready. bad moods are bad. Have you noticed? bad moods are really bad, very, very bad. Then it can make you send wrong signals to other people without knowing it. And without meaning it somebody comes down the grid where you can hardly answer or somebody says something that you're supposed to reveal it over you just shrug it off.

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And the person may read meanings to that can you might be able to hear that somebody delivered a child and he didn't even show any happiness maybe he's not happy about

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you or jelly having your bad Moodle somebody came and said

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Mama boy has just delivered twins

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and people will look at what do you mean by a hey, are you not happy about it? That's if they say they will just go and tell us can you might be able to hide that you delivered a child to see from

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she said

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or they say somebody's mother died that is that is that my headache. So people who need meaning to what you say and what you do, even when you didn't mean it, and notice very well to that when the tables are turned around, you may say something to someone and the way the person respond may not be favorable issue understand that this person was in a very bad mood. They're very bad. So bad moods are connected with depression. A person who's depressed is usually in a bad mood, anxiety, aggression or poor self esteem. People will laugh, but I want to notice these people who have very low self esteem, they are in a bad mood, when they see somebody that is better than them.

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Somebody who doesn't have any good feeling of themselves, they are very difficult to relate with. People don't feel good about themselves, who in fact, if you give them money, for example, they will still feel bad because so my own don't bad rich me that they give me money.

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You understand what I mean by that? This will say so. So my life is so bad like that. In early level, malaria is so bad that they will give me money giving me money, a woman like myself dashed nude upon

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bad news or bad, honestly, bad news or bad. If a patient has low self esteem, there's nothing you can do that will satisfy that.

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If you smile, other person who develops the what is what is going, What is wrong with you.

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What I don't know the meaning of all this smile, your smile, depends in a bad mood. And if you cry, it will be acid, who's asking for pity or they're gonna cry from you.

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So what does he want?

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Pause ever since the bath in psychological stress, and decrease in arousal, when it comes to husband and wife relationship, someone who is very low in arousal will always connected to the person's bad mood. So if a person has burdened us by the province said over an hour ago, they should send messages to each other so that as we remove the bad mood forced, if the mood is bad, no matter what, a person will not be aroused. And so in some individuals, there's observation that depressed or anxious mood may increase interest in life generally, you know, both generally also men are more likely than women to report increase the

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bad moods. Do you agree with that? Or normally have bad mood more men or women?

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I'm asking men or women will normally experience bad mood more.

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Okay, yes, for a longer period of time, women experience bad mood moods. I'm generalizing this generosity. Some women are different. So women, they are perpetually happy, and there's nothing to do about it. So women, if you abuse it, you smile. If you cause her she will laugh.

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You say she is Monkey she will make this. They'll make you look at her like Gilmore Girls, you will find it very funny that you say that you text him you say the monkey. Truly Oh, let me look at the mirror. I look like monkey smooth.

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People. Some people are like that they are very good with good moods. And some people. They're very good with bad moods. Nothing that you do will make them to smile. I'm going to talk about those sorts of things as we move along. So then those who are

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well, some people believe that it's their wives that caused bad moods. And some women believes their husbands that are known for their bad mood. In fact, some men engage in extra marital activities. And they blame it on their wives and says because their wives give them bad mood.

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This a very bad acquisition, you know, and it's not a terrible excuse for anyone. With before I go to good mood when you have bad mood. What are the signals that make you to know that you are in a bad mood? Ahead? you frown

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you become cranky? Uh huh. You get angry over small things.

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You don't feel like eating sometimes.

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And once you're in bad moods when they eat most

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they eat your debt. Well in a bad mood you don't feel like taking a bath true or false?

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Yes, what happens in those bad mood? What will you notice? If bad mood is coming? What will you notice?

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Or you start complaining a lot. Then there are some people who are Mr. bad moods when they are coming you will know the

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more I'm good to be sat to do

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and when some people are coming, you see that ellos

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you're in trouble. In pence who come? Oh, hello. If you see the best Misko

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If you call back you are by a bad mood for yourself. Because now so so bad news the person gets a hair when you see the person if you call back you have invited bad mood for yourself.

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But a lot of good mood let's go to good mood force down I mean next now, good mood can be caused by many facets of life as well as have such an effect on people as a whole good moods are nice good news, good moods is usually considered instead without an identified cause. You can't even know why you are happy.

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Sometimes you cannot pinpoint exactly why you are in a good mood. You understand what I mean? By that people seem to experience a good mood when they have had a good night's sleep when you sleep very well and you wake up very nicely. You feel it that you have a good mood

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for the when the person you are Oh incidentally died

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will have a good mood that way.

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Okay, this you know that you have good mood when you have slept very well. When you have a clear conscience. Yes, when your mind is clear, you are not thinking bad about other people, then when you feel no sense of stress in your life, your good moods are going to be there. In fact, they are seen it as a major for you in mood. That's how you have your good mood. Some studies are still in a good mood, let people think creatively. You know, you become creative when you are in a good mood. And you, you you you behave freely with people, you will mingle freely with people, you become more imaginative. You think better when you're in a good mood, you know,

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not some things are not too surprising to you when you're in a good mood.

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While in a good mood, you'd like to help people so more you like to assist me when you can. Somebody needs one person comes to you and we are in a good mood. Most of them you like to have that person isn't it? When we're in a good mood, so many things can become very funny to you. When you're in a good mood you like to talk easier with people you like to talk for a longer time with people you like to have conversation with people when we're in a good mood, when people are speaking to you you like to respond well when somebody greets you you respond in a very nice manner right. And when you see someone that is worried your good mood may want to you know brighten up the person's life. Good

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moods are very nice, good moods are very, very nice. It is good institution where you need to think you think very, very easily. You know, you think very deeply and you are unlimited. You have some zest added to your life. You you even behave like a child sometimes you play with children you love with children, you crack jokes and so many things are funny to you. When you are in a good mood. Now you see that good moods are very important.

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Very, very important. It's something that you need to strive for you need to work for you need to sustain and maintain and attend

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compare compared to bad moods now. Which one do you think we experienced longer than the other ones?

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Is it 5050?

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Okay, you as a person now within a week, good moods and bad moods. What is the percentage?

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As anybody noticed there? Have you been monitoring your moods?

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Generally, I think we have more good moods than bad moods.

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If we monitor it very well.

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Unless somebody is in a very bad marriage, then you have more you see, they say if you are if you have a if you have a good marriage, you may not be very smart.

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But you have a bad marriage you become a philosopher.

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Or you become extra Smart. If you start analyzing women ladies we'll be looking at today.

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If you're a bad mark, when a good marriage, you don't notice some things you don't you don't pay attention to some things. If you're in a good mood and you're in a good marriage so many things will appear so normal. So normal to you. Live is not cruel. Life is not difficult. Life is sweet. Life is good. Even eat ice cream.

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Yes, once in a while you eat ice cream. Once in a while you like to have cravings for yogurt. Sometimes you like to eat cake, you like to eat all sorts of things, but I'm going to tell you Inshallah, that some of those things that you eat can kill your mood without you realizing it. So now I was talking about importance of mood or good mood for you. Let's leave that one now. But let's go into when you have moody people around you when you have somebody with bad mood around you. Now a moody person may be going through a difficult stage in their lives. If that we have forgotten a wife. There may be many reasons why people have bad moods. A person who's having a difficult stage

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in their lives. Maybe it teenager

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or an adolescent, which is transiting from being a boy to a man or from a girl to a woman? Is it turbulent time. So you see that their moods are always shrinking, not stable. One moment, they're very happy moments, they're sad one way they like to talk and they like to face their laptop. And they like to start chatting with their friends, they will ignore normal human beings, they'll be chatting with machine.

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That's not a very good mood. You see that amongst young people a lot. They cut people off by putting a piece and be listening to their thing. They don't want to hear what anybody is saying

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these turbulent times for them, so they behave that way. Whenever you see them like that, you know that these ones have problems, they have issues with their moods. Because of this issue. They have the moods, they want music, to enhance their moods.

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They want partying, visiting friends, talking with friends to enhance their mood, boy doesn't always work. Unfortunately, they will listen to the music and you still feel sad. And some of them will tell you that is hardly a solution. They say music is the fruit is the source of the food of the soul for where they try to enhance their mood with it. But as soon as the music stops, their moods go down so they quickly pick the music.

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So before they get addicted to listen to music.

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So sometimes they go through difficult stages in their life. Some men are going through middle age crisis. So his moods are very bad. Some women are going through well approach of menopause or during menopause or after menopause. It can affect people's moods, they're not always happy, and they don't always start either. But any small thing can trigger the mood to swing in this direction in that direction. Sometimes when they fall into these moods only they can bring themselves out nobody else can do that.

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Then some people are just exhausted when you are tired your mood will not be fit

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one way exhausted sometimes mental exhaustion you have been working on working from monetary night. People who work so hard later when they get back home their moods are usually down

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so let the husband and wife understand that okay, this this woman is very tired We shall not walk into this one don't touch out. Allow her to be used to say your food is already better go out and look for something to buy buy bread

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go and buy bread by boat or by ACARA MC sandwich with a

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bag sandwich if there was gifted will you see that the mood is very bad where she come and she started shouting on everybody in the house.

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Don't put your mouth to

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as the whole bathroom put your mouth allow her to shout on people as she wants when she started. Hey, what are you going to eat?

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Over to you that's what it means. Over to you What do you want to eat? Abu

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I'm okay. I'm okay

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let me escape. No, I'm not hungry.

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I'm not hungry. Allah Akbar, endo masala Hubbell Are you going to eat on Bismillah

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bring it in that in fact, that's what I've been wanting to eat since if you now say into me, it's roomy Am I come and go and make better soup for me then you are going to look for trouble.

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So you see some people are just exhausted. Not that they are bad people. They're just tired. You go to some offices, public office, you miss some people, they were not trained to know how to control their moods. You know, when you get there you see how some of them will be they will just know you are there you say yes, I'm going to report to the officer. I'm going to report that person in charge. You shout and make noise, look, understand this humanity. This person you are going to meet your busy human being. Maybe that man has caught up with his wife last night and you don't expect him to behave optimally just understand with him that now just your mood, get that view.

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How is anybody listening to what I'm saying? So hence, some people are just tired. They're exhausted who are the people that display bright moods the most? Among those who have observed the air hostesses discipline aeroplanes.

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Do you remember they will smile they will say fasten your seat belt. They will say all of those things like small radio trying to pick the BBC. They will they will be saying no speaking nicely to people and the rest of them but notice very well night flights where these guys are tired. So you handle them with care. They are ladies. They have moods. They have been trained to smile always but if you give them *, they will give it to you back in a very subtle manner.

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These are human life. These are human relations, you know things happen. Some of them like that they will not tell their bosses that they are going through their menstrual cramps, so that you will not tell them not to come to work. And some of them will just manage a man so somebody is now managing with that pain she's going through, and we are now approaching her life. She does mistakenly pass you when somebody has food. If you bother her too much. Do you understand what I'm saying? So some people are not bad, who is just that they are tired and then tiredness will have a will will affect their moods.

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Your mind is back from work he's very tired, or you see his mood upside down is there you asked him for money, he will not give you you will not give you that money or you will just look at you and see you don't even understand. Sometimes you will have money standards when you want to just

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imagine what happened what caused them what happened today. He's tired, you want to relax, give him so many let him rest. When his mood calmer. There you go. Some of you may don't know how to read the language of a moody man who if a man is moody, he's tired and he just wants to raise this then you start talking about when

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someone wants to marry and they don't get money they won't marry. It will just tell you that you can sort themselves out and snobby words and then there'll be call it because people do understand that moods come in. Now we see all these kinds of moods we are talking about somebody is worried, chronically worried about something love, love is not expressed to them literature and that do not have love expressed to them. You see they become very moody, they become very cranky. Some of them grow up to become miscreants, they'll go and be breaking people's things just to look for attention. Yeah, they want people to notice them to add to I heard of the of the child that throws two numbers,

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somebody's windscreen

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and I said what was shot? Ah, you devoured them. He was just laughing.

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You know why he was laughing. He was enjoying the attention. So people can pay attention to me like this. was laughing when they accused you of breaking somebody's windscreen. So that people started coming around and pointing to him and talking to him. He was just like that was enjoying it, because he never had attention from anyone. You know, some children who wish they will become blacktop. So they can get attention of their fathers. Some students wish they will become phone iPad. So to get the attention of their mothers, nobody pays attention to them, they go to school, they come back home the next thing they should do their assignment after assignment, they go to sleep, there is no

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interaction with their parents. So students moods may be affected adversely, then, lack of sleep, too much challenge or lack of security. These are normal things that can make people's moods to fluctuate. But there's another type of moodiness, this way of going now. There's not a goodness that is not caused by any of these ones I've mentioned, but cost by the intention to bully.

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You know what I mean by that? The intention to bully other people to intimidate or to manipulate other people.

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Some people use these moods to garner attention, to get power or to get praise or to get pity from people. This is the acid of moodiness that I want us to look at briefly now. When you have such people around you that are tend to use their moods to exert their power over you. Or somebody will use the mood to intimidate other people. Or maybe the hot man uses is mood to.

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Other points to what would you say to remove power from somebody? To weakened somewhat Yes, some men use their moods deliberately to weaken their wives. And some women use the mood to control their husbands. This one is bad, this one is wrong. Or that one's excusable. Somebody is tired, you need to give him some time he will get out of his mood and it will become normal. But these ones do not become normal because they are doing it deliberately, deliberately. Now, here's the trick. Now.

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Whenever you have such a person around you, that is using mood to control you. Number one, you must rise up to the challenge. Rise up to the challenge. This is not the kind of moves that money can kill, or that anybody can kill. The person is a weird business using it as a tool of power was a tool of control. The tears one of the tricks that couples use against one another.

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They call it charging.

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Charging. There's another what they call sarcasm. Now let me measure sarcasm briefly as the English word

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Oops, they will want to say something but they will behave in another way.

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I don't even understand what that mean.

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For some of you ask somebody what's the problem you see there is no problem

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whereas there is be probably yes there is a problem. The chattering part of it is when a person wears a sad face

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that apparently shows so or an angry face of a vexed wet end

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the person is angry who shows on the face and then the person will not talk the person will not be waiting for somebody to ask

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what is the problem before they will be long thirdly after a long time explain what the problem is that one is a control strategy

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someone who just sit down in the house

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to brief every letter

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from time to time you know when someone has given like that was the next thing the hot man should do?

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Those I will say what happened using it

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what happened now? Nothing No

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What's the problem

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Lila okay, what is the problem? Okay, so men who have made their own they will just stop eating, here's your food, I'm not hungry.

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But the food is there is run cold let you run cold now.

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So, what is the problem does what is as you know, is instantly you know, when you ask what is the problem is charging

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you know what, I don't know where we learn these things from?

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Is it our mothers that taught us or our fathers that taught us to behave like that when something will be wrong with you you will not talk some people they will not just be quiet they will start crying

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I know some women who do that whenever they have a promo they have your situation and they need attention she will use this mood to garner attention towards herself she's just crying What is the problem

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so somebody dies No Nobody dies.

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So, what is the okay you want to know the problem

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you got an easy man where to go before Will you go out when a woman is dying like that?

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You know what?

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I say okay, sorry, sorry for what?

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Some men who are not smart enough you don't sit down. So, what happened is this one is is that one is it me? Is it your mother is it my mother that is still with us? Is it my father that this thing is it because of it is because the mind will go on and on and on when she is hired when she is satisfied I yet have gotten is I tell you not say

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Okay, I will tell you you can work because when you come back

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what kind of a word is him is that you will just watch the old madman will be confused. You will not know. Okay, what exactly is wrong with this woman, some will not just start crying, then somebody will start shouting.

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I see somebody died, then you will not be so confused. Now you see how some other people use their own.

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They use this power. This mood thing is power. Because they know that moods are contagious. When you have a mood you can affect somebody else with your mood.

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I want to emphasize is when you have the moody press around you be a nice person but have your principles.

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Be a nice person and have your principal. Your intention could be just to show a simple sympathy for the moody person be nice. The person may be really sad or depressed. But that should not be a reason for you to allow them to waste your time or play with emotion.

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Your husband or your wife may be sad. Something may be going wrong in their office. something may be wrong in their life, but that is not an excuse for them to destroy your own emotion also, don't we are actually supposed to love one another. If I fully love you, I shouldn't bring my own mood to come and spoil your own.

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Think about let's be objective about this for a little while. Okay, we say we are all going away. We love one another. I have a very bad mood. Am I supposed to come and spoil your own or I'm supposed to come and let you know how you can remove me from my bad mood.

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I think it makes more sense to say look, I'm in a very good mood today. I don't know what happened. I just feel so sad and

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depressed. If you almost there is an essential look for ways of okay or should I cook this home or should I prepare this for you? Okay let me take the children away to the pile so that you can rest in the room. The womb you understand maybe you just need some rest. If you open up if you can just open up and talk that see I saw a lot of things that made me feel so sad in the office today. And I am not able to get over it then you who ever say some nice words that can cheer you up or allow you to come out of it although you will not she will not touch you she will not bother you should not disturb you and when you are okay then you come back to life isn't it better that we if we love

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somebody do do we go home and somebody somebody was driving along with you in a row and versus a walk out to you outside you couldn't catch the person and say walk back you know get home and you start transferring digression on your watch is it good?

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Is it a Good

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Idea to everybody?

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Before the census you are very stupid.

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killing somebody to you are stupid outside. You could not fight with that person. It's

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so Mencia you cannot fight at the start telling you whether she's stupid over words. Now.

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Ahead. The thing is, if we love one another, we shouldn't spoil each other's moods. Now. The person who is in a good mood should be encouraged while the person who is in a bad mood to find ways of joining in a good mood, not the other way around, then you may be nice. You may be a nice person but be very careful.

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Don't become a rescuer.

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You know what I mean by a rescuer? A rescuer is somebody who likes to rescue people from troubles.

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You may be very nice, but when you are you have moody people around you don't turn yourself to receive you.

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It is not everybody in bad mood that you can have

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is not everybody in bad moods can bring out of the bad mood, a good mood. So if you turn yourself to a rescuer, the person who uses mood to disturb you will make it a habit.

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They will not learn to bring themselves out of bad moods, but will be waiting for you to come and remove them from that. And that is going to be a lot of inconvenience for you.

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Do you understand what I mean by not being a rescuer? Now is not every time that you try to rescue somebody is in a bad mood. Boy, you're in a good mood. Now, if you are if you become a rescuer, the person expects you to drop your good mood

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or dot a bad mood level up with him in that bad mood. And then he told me what to do together in bad mood for a long time. And then when the two of you are both tired, you don't come out in for him you come out of his bad mood I leave you there.

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It happens. So don't turn it like somebody is drowning.

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And you know you cannot see well don't jump in say you want to rescue the person. Call firefighters rescue the person or you throw live why you throw something throw a rope.

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But don't jump inside saying no to rescue that person. Do you want to sell them trying to say no. Now don't be a rescuer. Say okay, tell me whatever your problem is. Tell me. What's your problem? What are you feeling sad about? You insist and insist and see that person to tell you their problem. After they tell you their problem. Can you handle it?

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Can you solve it? Now this how that doesn't. I've gotten used to playing with people's moods and emotions. And you capture you with high emotion. She will enslave you with high emotion. She will tie you down with high emotion. She will inconvenience you with high emotion. She will make you look stupid with high emotion

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and nobody can rescue you from her when she's ready to release you.

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Yes, not this video. I'm saying this because you ladies you know how you show care for one another. I'm not saying it's wrong. But there are some amongst your friends who are in slivers.

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Men do this to themselves sometimes came to borrow your own. You have your family you will have place to go you have wrongs to do you say

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feasability Allah insha Allah Subhana Allah Alhamdulillah he will say all of those things to Ghana, your emotion, to bottle up to both you up and tie you to his belt so that you be attached to him to be at the beck and call of his emotion. Don't be a rescuer. You are not the savior. You are a friend, not a savior. I'm not saying you should not help your friends. I'm not saying you should not be good and nice to people. I'm just saying that you should be careful people use.

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You use them tricks to play on your moods. That's why I say don't allow people to

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steal your mood from you your mood, your emotion, they come play with it and then they enslave you.

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It is this slavery this wicked, but they will you will not know that they are wicked. They are cruel towards you, we love each other, we will give each other if you love a bird, you set it free. You don't love a bed and keep it in a cage. So they use their moods to lock you up in a cage and make you stay there with them. They will not allow you to go on to when they're ready to release you to go. Number three, don't take it personally.

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When people use their moods against you or people, people who have mood swings, and always use this mood to enslave you, or they use this mood to make you feel bad. Don't take it personally. It's all about them not about you. Do you know what I mean by this many other men who go on and off on their moods. Today Sahaba tomorrow is an Abu Lahab

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you don't know how to relate with him. So women are also like this one moment they are nice and charming that moment, they behave as if they are possessed.

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When you have to like that sometimes they throw tantrums another time they stop to go together so that they are silenced on that they shout source people as these men and women leave orders wondering and guessing

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they want people to start guessing what they could have gone wrong. What has happened, what is going on. They wanted to start this without telling you see it's not as if you're doing anything wrong. Stop blaming yourself for somebody else's mood. He is the one that has problem not you

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when somebody cannot control their moods they like to make you feel guilty

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over non issues.

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You have some of these people in your families to not only have been our extended families, some uncle some and some in laws.

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A mother in law can just come to your house and be looking at see if they force her to eat *.

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Just do her mother. See if she's asleep everybody is

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there you start one what's wrong with Mama? What are we doing? What is wrong? What is the problem? Was it nothing is wrong? We have not done anything wrong. She is the one who is just crazy in her head with her mood. Let her be with her. Don't let her use her mood to carry you and your husband away.

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Yeah, so Auntie's are like that. If the artists are listening, let them listen now. Some answers that if you have bad mood, keep it in your house. Don't take it to the House have another call for instability. Don't feel sad as something's wrong. They will come to the house and start looking for faults.

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Anytime want certain Auntie Auntie in law comes to the house is either they were dealing with how well or they didn't even have food on time. Or the food they brought to it he said it's not it's cold. And look at the way she's looking when she gave me the food and you're not hungry. You have food in my household and let them know they insult me because I come to your house you now bring food that cannot be a fool is what became

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excuse me again the Oba work now. She will call and she will leave with quality leave your home and start battling with for the next two months while your husband will have to Cora you don't even know what the cause is she cost it look where she lives. Be wise now couples my wife where she lives get broom and sweep her feet.

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Make sure she has gone when she looks back as you

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mature Shall we just Sit sit sit three feet all of her wahala just pocket ladies

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trade us I will have and come back to us and say who we are no Corelli.

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We are no Coralie letter who say look, my dear, we are not going to look at all of those who said let it go with her. Then you continue with your life if not, some people come with bad mood and drop it to your house. In fact, they will not come with buckets or they'll call with with tank.

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Yes, they'll come with tanker and drop bad mood in your house and the way we are being joined. You or your husband will be called beware of this kind of people. Beware. It is all about them not about you.

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If somebody is somebody who has more thing is not because you are wrong.

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Is not because you are wrong is because they are the ones who have problem. Don't take paracetamol, person's headache. Do you understand that point very well. It's all about them not about you. Your husband does come from behaving like like a CV has been processed from outside. He's done about him known about you. Some people look for excuses to justify their bad moods. Instead of owning of that they have been who they will be looking for your own fault. To put the blame on you that even though because when I enter this house, I didn't see you

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tillow The word was hiding under bid, even though because you didn't give me what that you didn't know it is not about the word. It's about whatever is carrying from outside. Now number four

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Take them out for yourself. Take time out for yourself you to you or to bottled up inside. Take them out for yourself. If you live with or walk with or you're married to an extremely moody person, then make sure you get them out to relax.

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Take them how to have fun and rest very well recuperate a way from them if necessary.

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You understand what I mean? They may be office colleagues, in fact that some of us colleagues later you may share offices together. Once the person come with bad mood and will be in a bad mood throughout. Have you noticed?

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Look, when's this letter, excuse yourself from them, take them out, take time out. Don't stay too much in the office. Unless you have daily agenda that you must treat. And if you have oriented to treat, sit down and do your work. If it was good to go get a piece and be playing Quran

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and face your job. Let the person finish up their bad mood depends maybe shouted don't listen.

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Unless there's a way you can help the person out. So if you don't keep away from people a bad mood.

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Number one, they will drain your mental energy is the danger of staying around people with bad mood of mood swings that nobody can predict. They will drain your mind. You know what I mean by mental energy, they will have the body energy you get tired when you are overworked yourself. But your head, you will not be able to think if you have mental energy, you drain your mental energy. You can't think straight.

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You can be creative. You can think right you'll be thinking of bad things. Even if you sleep you'll be having nightmares. Because these were put their bad moods inside your head. Number two, they will exhaust your zest. You know what I mean by zest, you know this energy that makes us to to bounce when we walk.

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He will stay around people with bad mood too much they will exhaust your zest, you will even be tired of life. Number three, they weigh down your spirit. Your spirit will be down instead of having a high spirit, you'll be in the low spirit, then they will occupy your mind with unnecessary worries. Have you noticed now if you're a woman or your husband is moody or you keep sitting down there? It will It will also occupy your mind that you will think the world will collapse on you.

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They will occupy your mind we don't necessarily want you start worrying about is it because I didn't dress well. Is it because I didn't talk well? Is it because I didn't appear well? Is it because I didn't cook well? Is it because this is because you will be bothering your head while they are there relaxing.

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Then they will leave you to keep guessing I keep thinking of what I've done wrong. It's not fair as soon as there is not fair, but you allow them to do that to you. If you don't know how to control yourself, then you start feeling moody like them. The question is one bad egg cloth one good egg makes what

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it makes too bad eggs. When people bad moods are around you for too long.

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It is most likely that they will drag you into their own bad mood. So what you should do keep away from them. Now what do I mean by keeping away when your husband is behaving like evil spirits.

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He just comes home is he has upside down mouth.

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He's not talking to anybody is very moody is very he is very touching is very grumpy. He's very scratchy. He's very stupid. He does all of those things just to ensure that he brings you down and you have been in the house playing with the children and laughing all these whites look creates a demarcation

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rather than allow him to drag you to his bad mood once you have attended to him and give him what you want. Don't say a word.

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And don't give him the room to start telling you bad things.

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If you have children going to be playing with your children generally give him the time to recuperate. You know why? If you don't do that, it will drag you to his bad mood and you start quarreling.

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One thing we need to do and that is exactly where she is on lock most

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shaytaan infest people's homes like viruses under certain conditions. Number one, when one of them is perpetually in a bad mood. Number two, when there's something of fear that happened in the family, and of course when there's no car in the house, you see that people will always be in a bad mood. May Allah have mercy on us. So what did I say take time out for yourself and you're going to be okay insha Allah is a matter of hours he will get well and then life will continue but don't allow someone to talk to me. Now let me quickly mention 1234 without number one, stop spending time with the wrong people.

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If you want to have good mood, or you want to sustain your good mood, stop spending time with the wrong people. What do I mean by wrong people?

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People complain a lot.

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There are some people everything I

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But their life is complaint. This wrong people are people who cannot motivate you. People cannot encourage you, people who don't have statements of hope in their mouth, people who cannot see you having problem and come into offer solution. People who always see bad things in everything

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those people spend time with. There's a verse of the grant, with Grace wrapped in chapter four verse 140.

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Then chapter six verse 68, what that verse say when whenever you see people that they hear the verse have already begin to move with it, and they bring to me just have Allah Allah says, Do not sit down with them or see them engage in another talk apart from that. So you bring this principle into solving mood issue. It means that when you see someone who doesn't see anything good to talk about get away from that do sit and after they didn't force you to sit up

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nada us but they civil nothing good in this country again, this country is if it gets too much better get up and walk away.

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Such people may be wrong when they call you. You know some people like that. When they call they want to gossip. They want to backbite they want to talk ill of somebody else don't pick their calls.

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Look, I'm very serious about this in and I want you to be convinced. I'm trying to convince you I'm trying to sell it to you. There are some times you need to be very conscious of what's happening to you if you want to be still want to survive. In this environment. You want to survive your marriage. You want your marriage to survive you need to be conscious of something. Look if you have a friend who all he does is tell you bad news.

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Once the President calls I will see the miss call. Please don't call back.

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Or if you must speak business call don't stay too long.

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Hello, sir.

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Go Okay, no problem. Let's talk some other time.

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I'm in a very good mood. Now. Let's just call that some other time.

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Maybe the person will get the message. Because what the best one to say is Hey,

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how'd you fit?

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Guess what happened? A little lie there. And guess what happened? You won't believe that one woman delivered a baby in the market today.

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As soon as the baby came out lady the head Dorothy the ground

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whether it happened or whether it didn't happen, you will notice that that your friend does the pattern either somebody died or one house caught fire or there was an accident or somebody put acid on what van or somebody listened or somebody drove from 20 storey building in the person who shared videos, videos of goofy pictures, bad pictures.

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And somebody put acid on themselves. somebody's head got excluded because that was using a piece when the phone was charging. And some of these chairs got melted and burnt because the person was using power pack to charge the phone. These are the kinds of pictures they like to send Have you noticed

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the person will post it and post it again and post it again.

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Then the mood of all of you who are 100 people in the group they will do this in WhatsApp groups. The mood of the world that people will be spoiled simultaneously. All of you wherever you will receive it you will be sad throughout the day.

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And when you say please stop sending this kind of photograph who then the person who after twice this will send a worse

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I said as you share this with you Brothers and Sisters in Islam

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the will such people in your group group admin please remove such people or at least warn them and then remove them that you don't post these kind of pictures yet. So when you will notice such people around you please keep away from them.

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When your TV stations are showing too much bad you switch to another thing now but is switched off in fact he's okay. Most news now are bad news. If you watch news too much, you will see full adage you don't want to eat malice evil. There stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself is another thing. Stop feeling sorry for yourself you keep feeling sorry for yourself. You always be in a bad mood.

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Don't you don't have to organize pity party for yourself.

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Don't eat people when you want people to come and see ya. So you eat for how long? Now only you take. You are not the only one who has proved everybody has problem they are just hiding it you to hide your own wants to know why not to go and organize pity party invited me to come and do a year for you. They will do a year a year you spoil their mood, your mood is not any better. Some people will enjoy it for years to come and be great

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In the er

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What do you want to get from that? Start looking for silver lining in tough situations you are not the only one that has problem. Try and make yourself to be happy. Stop holding grudges against people start forgiving yourself.

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If you have made a mistake forgive yourself now you don't have to wallow in bad mood forever.

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If you meet made mistake move on with your life. It's just part of life to make mistakes. So these are some of the ways you can have something have muscle your mood. Then I asked another question, are there colors that can affect your moods?

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Yes or no?

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No because we are overgeneralizing in some quarters blue colors means happiness. in some quarters blue colors means moodiness.

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Now if you go paint your bedroom blue color, you always be sleeping there. Let's say that was acceptable. But if you paid your bedroom red color you don't you know be able to sleep.

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Then if you're not paid to Apollo blue collar people will not be happy when they're inside.

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Yes so you can paint your your panel dark blue.

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People will be feeling blueish inside

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the place where they use blue collar is in the hospital. You notice that some hospitals are Martin zoom their curtains are usually blue. Have you noticed in some hospitals, the wall will be white because they want people to have a feeling that the place is wide, not constricted on them. And then they have the coatings maybe blue so that you can be relaxed when you are there. Now in your home, you delight books are burnt out. is only one tiny one that is reflected in the follow up in bad moods now, haven't you noticed? Now you want to be happy you want to be a you want to be cheerful have bright colors inside your room inside of Paulo have bright happy colors. You know use nice

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color. That's why baby dresses children this is actually bright color because they are children. They are usually bright. We want them to be in good mood. Children pleasing children's toys are usually bright colors. And so call us wants one way or the other affect our moods. So if your pillow is such that the color that was painted by the time you rented about 50 years ago

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in same color that is day after were both of you hold on will you start behaving like old people?

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Well, I'm generalizing about this matter I don't I cannot say because it is quite subjective. Now, do you notice that listen to this now. Have you noticed that you are very happy any day you were new on the ways

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have you noticed that your mood is nice. Whenever you were new on the weekends. Even as a man when you have new books or your mood is enhanced you would even like your wife to see that boxer.

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Now this ones that are smelling these ones that you didn't you've been wearing for the past two weeks. A man we're on boxer for two weeks.

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And the smell there you people can use for armed robbery.

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They put the books and somebody's gonna see your money or your life you say take my money because this man from the boxer is enough to make you pass out

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how what kind of mood with that man have

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where to switch things around in the house. And the lady that is winning this one that you people where she Allahu Akbar it as Koto she use pin safety pin to hold it like this should be like somebody whose life is a safety pin.

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did I lie some people are guilty of this man saying some people are guilty. You feel happy today you wear a new dress don't you? But because some people like bad mood, they really wanted to wear nice dress. So they keep nice dresses inside the cupboard and we were in the old ones about their sweat for you.

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Depends on when you dress up and down and this old dress gets into their head it affects their moods.

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The grasses yell at someone who's rude Z that upon indicating in their cooling massage it take via your nerves aquarelles whenever you go to the mall in fact probably who says they want you to use

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one what you smell nice, your mood is nice the mood or require around you is lifted,

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knows how to be smelling and people will be having a headache. I

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know some people now they just sit near you and then you start when there is a dead rat around you. There's no dead rat is because of their smelly nature and then they put people in bad mood because of their smell. Many things affect his mood too. So number one is the same coloring you don't know how you feel

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I'll change your coffee and honestly think about it. Now you ladies, you know, when you just put new coat in, that's the way the room changes. Everybody in the house will feel happy, isn't it, then the central with the kind of corner you have around you. Some corals are not meant for where human beings live, they are meant for most words,

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most to kidney mortuaries where you have a bed as well made with nice bed sheet Don't you feel aligned on it. But when you have a bed sheet, look at oil, look at poopoo look at the way we use a student or his children now everything is smelly, nobody likes us, in fact, will be having nightmares. When you sleep in that kind of house, when that kind of a room, some people will come to your house, they can't stay five minutes they want to run away because the ambience in your room is a bad mood.

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And that's why in some houses people always call it

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notice this very well. I want you to research on it.

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environments that are dirty. People call it they're more than environments that are clean. Have you noticed? Didn't call for example, houses where there are so many people with dirty things all around them. They will always call it Have you noticed that? Either. Mama This was called with my mother for this one is keeping malice with this one. This one he doesn't want to this one children are wanting to do that you will see oil war all around the house because of the data environment, it affects their moods. Now, are there foods that can promote good mood or spoil your mood?

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Yes, what we eat sometimes affects our mood. I want you to discuss this more with experts.

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If you don't eat often, your mood will be affected. You should eat at least between four and five hours interval between four and five hours. If you are someone who eats regularly like that, you see that your mood will be optimal.

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But when you starve yourself or you skip meals for those who don't eat breakfast, for example, you don't eat before you go to work by the time is 1011 You're too busy with work, you can live your walk and you can eat then you start behaving like like banana spirit.

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So if somebody is hungry, they behave like someone that's possessed. When people are tensed because of hunger.

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Allahu Akbar. Have you seen that? Oh, Allahu Akbar. Have you noticed that nations communities and tribes that are poor, they're the ones who kill each other the most when they're scoring when they're thriving. When there's insurgency, it is poor communities that people are even hungry already.

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They're already hungry. When there is hunger, it affects their moods, they become cranky they become they begin to eat one another.

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Most husbands they behave like wild spirits when they are hungry.

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He comes home there is no food for him to eat. He's very hungry is then the wife says she wants to start cooking beans. He will bear like madness if you're hungry man is an angry man. So food affects our moods

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and that's why they say some women if they want to get the attention of their husband they cook nice food for you. But then he's eating you know what because Santi What do you call it in English

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you will start saying things you didn't ask him

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whether it's good for yourself you know you know these do humans with nice food, everything smelling nice nice dishes. You presented them before him let's start yet to this one is just the first course. So don't eat too much of it. Second course after finishing now bring dessert

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and then by then finish it

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he benches like that and then by the bed you will bring to kick you put you that is incidental you will not know how unconsciously is kept go to this place

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honestly, this will just serve now if it is not serving paradise I will not enter Jannah

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now you now see how food affects people's moods now and that's why people who are very good at culinary things you know Jeff and Debbie were presenting food

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when he presented free will and you want to eat and your moods are elated. So now that was discussed within the ship nutrition is they will tell you how foods affect your mood some more? Can some jobs affect your mood?

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Some jobs? Can they affect your mood? Give me an example of a job that will kill your mood.

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When a grave digger for example, even a grave digger if you're not careful, it may get to your mood. A medical doctor for example,

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when they lose a patient that they have tried and battled over it affect them they train them to detach themselves from their patients. They are trained some of them are really well trained and sometimes this didn't get out of hand. You are battling with the level of a patient who struggles struggles to have this person eventually gives up. That doctor will not be lucky enough they will feel sad. They feel worried so some jobs affect your mood and when salaries are supposed to pay and they're not paid your your moods are also affected isn't it? Haha people will feel angry when their size or not be aware where they see a lot they get very hot, very happy.

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May Allah have mercy on us. Now ages and genders and moods, age does it affect our moods? Gender does affect our mood. Men and women I think women are more moody than men. We are generalizing there are some hormones affect our mood assistant they call endorphins. When we do exercise after exercise is released into your system and you feel happy.

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and moody be moody or the natural.

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What Amin is cheerfulness Is it a natural gift? Is it as some people are gifted to be cheerful naturally?

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Is it

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is it as some people are not blessed it to be cheerful?

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Allahu Akbar.

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So in other words, there are some people that are always happy. And there are some that are always sad.

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I have met one or two people like that before, who are always sad.

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They don't smile. They don't laugh. They don't joke. They don't discuss they don't have rapport. And they are just like that.

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If you ask them to smile

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as I say you want to kill them. Say smile is the word for

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this. Oh, yes, my now.

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There's no You look sad that way is no this is my happy face.

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Have you seen that before? I've seen a lot of people like that. They may be happy and sad about their faces. I like that.

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Like this is how they move. They're this like upside down you that's the direction of their mouth. If you say smile, they do that when they smile. You be scared

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when they laugh you want to run? Ha is that laughter

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And that's only the only laugh once in a month.

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Once in a month, that's awesome. I love this nothing sounds strange to you love it.

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Man who told me that the wife doesn't love this. He said his wife doesn't laugh.

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He says he didn't marry he had never seen her love.

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The highest she will do is

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I even when she knows that it is ugly. Somebody who smile as if she's crying

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and you tell them to love it. They laugh as if, as if somebody died.

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Now does it seem let's let's agree and be fair to these people? Does it mean that's how Allah made them naturally?

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Or they learnt it?

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Do people learn it? Yes. So there are some human beings like that, that they don't know how to smile. Can you learn how to smile?

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Can you practice how to smile? I think people who make it a habit learn how to smile. Look at the mirror and smile. You should look at smile in in, in in works. You know what I mean by works? There is 50 Watts, there's 40 Watts, the way you have a bob lightbulbs. There's 100 watts. Yes, there's 1000 watts. Let's all give me an example of 50 watts of smile. I'm looking at your face. 50 watts of smart. No, that was too much. That was more than 50 words. Yes, that's the nice 150 words or smile. There's over you flush. You know the way you flush somebody on phone, you flush your spine. And you stop.

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No you'll be able to flush that was a long call. Can somebody flush? Is my legacy just flush? Flush the heck yes, that's a nice one flush. So can you flush it later? You flush it at people 1000 Was anybody

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know that one is laughter now talking about smile. If are they to be from here to here? Yes, from one year to another is learn to smile, teach the children how to smile. Tell him I'm going to give you this more smile for me. If you don't teach them that when they grow up, they will become like that person I said

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They don't even know how to smile in the lie when a Roger when you see smile is the most natural expression you can ever have. Even babies who don't understand dogs they smile.

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And somebody told us that even babies who are born blind they know how to smile. Smiles are the most recognizable emotion even from the distance. If you saw from the start the person smile you will know that this person smile. And because smile is contagious, when one person's smile into effect and smiles are more more efficient than makeups a woman who has makeup with a smile is all big.

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Right? If you don't wear makeup and you smile, you you just look beautiful. Now women and men learn to be beautiful. This is how your moods can affect other people in the house. Please learn to smile, brothers and sisters. In fact, next time we are having this garden, you people pay a smile to enter. If you don't smile, you know they're allowed to enter this hole.

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Maybe we should start doing that until you return back home. So in other words, cheerfulness and natural differs on people. Right. And there it's also observed that

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it has also been observed that if you practice for now the profit you will have good moods. All of these people are only at as cater for it will not bother you. If you understand this stuff very well. It will not bother you. Things that make people to be sad naturally it won't make you to decide. And finally brothers and sisters, this is where we rounded up. Good mood has connection with play with leisure time in the home. Husband and wife. What do you do together? How do you relax? How do you play together? Do you play games? Do you play computer games? Do you race with one another Aisha is to race with them at first who is with Aisha when I said Harvey betake when they raced at

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Italia I shout out ran the profit

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at sunrise and I said now let us run again when I had to begin with

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and then pop it out. Ron Harper said as the heebie tikka, now this is a solution for the one you did to me the other time Allahu Akbar SallAllahu wasallam this that was someone who was was better than all of us.

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What image do you have that you can compare some of the profit what knowledge we have what how what kind of a man are you that you are better and profit hopefully, which is why men don't pay with their wives. Julie 10 So men smile at their wives is when they need higher the bedroom.

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Isn't hadiza He had this idea that even the smile is normally and this

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is when you need somebody you normally smile at is useless match you know see that.

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So why should we reserve when we play it in when we need each other in the bedroom. It's not sooner. The real sooner we know is led over a while playing together. Let him chart together. Let them discuss together, let them share good moods together. Let one person in a good mood. Pull the other person up to train them up in good mood. When you come home and your husband and your wife is happy. Join them in that happiness. You just come home and your wife is singing in the kitchen. You should join her in the Sangha, Sangha so that the happiness will continue when your husband come home and he smiled from ear to he suppress your own bad mood. join him in his good mood. Welcome him. Let him

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feel happy that yes, I like it that you are smiling. Not that we look bad and miserable to one another. Some people are so mean stop being mean to people.

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Be happy person this how marriages work. Now I hope we have all learnt how to look at matters of moods now. Now who is it that supports your mood? You know that you are the one that's responsible for your mood. It can be very difficult can be very hard but you have to keep practicing it. The more the better your moods are, the higher your chances of living a happy marriage. You will be more productive, you will contribute to your society. You will be contented what to have you will not be worried unnecessarily. You will not fall sick unnecessarily or you may most likely live longer, because you are somebody of good mood, spread good mood to people. How about Association of People

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with good moods? May Allah make it easy for us and guide us right. Robin Alika Takanawa la cannabinol Alekan Macias Baraka la Hamdi inshallah in Isla Vista to Lake wa salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.