Abdulbary Yahya – Formula For Change
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The Prophet sallahu alayhi used to pray for the Muslim community and the need for change in the community. Prayerers need to set up relationships, share gifts, and create a community. It is crucial to love one another and be consistent with birthdays. It is also important to emphasize the importance of changing behavior and perception of the Muslim community. It is essential to strengthen connections with Allah Subhana wa Tada and strengthen community relationships.AI: Transcript ©
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It was in the middle of the night.
A man came out of his room.
And he went to the living room.
He loves his warm bed.
He loved his wife.
And he went to the living room.
And he turned on the TV.
Afterwards,
he put on, he put in a cassette tape or a video, video cassette tape.
And he was sitting down to watch
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At this moment,
his daughter,
who was five years old,
came out of her room.
And she saw her father
watching what he was watching.
And she said, shame on you, Father, shame on you.
And she turned around.
And we talked return to her room.
The brother looked for the remote tried to turn off his TV in time but he was too late.
In the words, shame on you, Father, shame on you kept on repeating over and over and over again and again in his head.
That morning. This was in the morning. I mean, this is the time
when the believers get up to play to pray to Allah subhanho wa Taala.
to hydrate
and he was watching *.
Because of the words of his son, his daughter.
He went and he took a shower.
And he went to the masjid.
And tears were coming down his eyes the whole time.
When prayer started, he started crying profusely.
After prayer, he continued crying.
tears were coming down his eyes. He was crying so much that the brothers around him who attended fudger they thought may be such a great calamity had fallen upon this brother. So all of them asked when they went
Buying a brother, is there anything I can do for you? Is there something wrong? Is there anything I can help you with? So he just shook his head.
That day he went to work.
And his eyes were read
from the crying
from what happened last night.
And his coworker asked him, he said to him,
brother, is there something wrong?
So he told him, he said,
Brother for almost 40 years,
I haven't made the due to a loss of Hannah tanta this morning.
I haven't missed the due to Allah willingly until this morning.
So he was remorseful for all those years that had passed. So he came back home, he found his wife cry
from work after coming back from work, he found his wife crying.
And
he said, What's wrong? In his mind, he was thinking maybe his daughter had said something to her.
And so he said, What's wrong? She said, Do you know that her daughter just passed away?
And so they prepared the janessa.
And when it was time to bury his daughter, he was the one that was in the grave. He was about to put her inside the lab aside, in the integrate, put it in the grid.
And a smile came to his face. His smile came to his face. So his friends were there. They said, Now you've been crying all this time? Why is it when at the time when you put your daughter in the grave? The smile has come in on your face? Why do you see a smile on your face? they're wondering this, this is friend.
So he said,
Today,
I lost my daughter. But she left a light in all that still remains in my heart right now.
Then later on Afterwards, he continued he always went to the masjid and he was a changed person. Always close to Allah subhanho wa Taala always kept keeping up with his prayers and so forth.
This light remained in his heart, and he was a changed person from that time on.
Change.
This is a word that we always
promise ourselves every day, every month, every year every round one, we will say you know, we'll be a change person, we will change and Allah subhanho wa Taala
gives us many opportunities to change.
He gives us the Juma the five daily prayers. So our two hands now Juma in a Joomla, from Joomla Joomla, vanilla, mocha.
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These are explanations for you, if you avoid the major sense. So lots of Hamlet that it makes us or tells us to pray. So that we can change and so that we ourselves, change within ourselves and have the opportunity to also change the community. And this is what Ramadan was for us. And we are changed after Ramadan.
Then this is also a sign that Allah subhanho wa Taala has accepted our deeds afterwards.
But if we are the same, returned back returned back to the old
our old self, then this is also a bad sign that maybe I will also handle I did not accept our deeds. So
during
the times, right now that we are in
our community
the Muslim oma
is in need of change.
And I'm not talking about a change. That's mentioned in McCain's political slogans or Obama's political slogans not the oma itself. The Muslims, we ourselves we have to change. But where do we start? Where do we start with this change?
Let's learn from some of the teachings of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam
when he first came to Medina,
what were his first words,
because these words will be the foundation of a stronger community. These words will be the foundation of a stronger old man. These words will be a stronger foundation, a foundation for
stronger, a stronger family.
And so when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he arrived in Medina,
from Mecca, the turning point in this lab, this is the time in which before the Muslims were oppressed. Now this is the turning point, the time of change, where the Muslims will have the upper hand from From now on, they will be strong and there'll be an established Muslim state. But how what did the Prophet sort of love until the companions
when he arrived?
He said are you hiddenness old people,
all people
he called out all the people
in Medina because there are a lot of Muslims in Medina.
And he told them,
he said,
Oh people,
first thing that you do,
he said,
help each other, add them up and start feeding each other.
Sophie was
and come in join relations.
He said firstly set up just
give this allows
him upon
and then
help the needy.
And then the Prophet sallallahu wasallam
said, we're sitting at home and enjoying relations was so lovely lady when NASA Nia and pray at nighttime when the people are sleeping, that for the agenda to be Salah.
The first thing that you do the first one that has been forgotten. I mean, the one of the Sooners that have been forgotten in our times right now
is spreading the salons.
Spreading the salons most people they look at the salons as something that's very insignificant.
But this is the beginning of your path to paradise to give some advice, because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said
in another Hadith, which is authentic.
He mentioned clearly to us. He said, Let us pull agenda data to me No,
you will not enter Paradise until you believe what we know.
And you will not believe until you love each other of Allah. Allah Shea.
After Salah, would you like me to show you something that if you were to go forward and do it, you will love each other? Spread this elapse. And amongst the signs of the Day of Judgment is that people will need this sooner. You might say, Well, people are still giving salons. But you know what the purpose of the lives must assign is
that when a person gives the lambs it's only because he needs something wants to know. So for example, somebody comes into the machine and he says brother Assalamualaikum Brother,
do you know where the closest restaurant is?
salam o Alaikum. Brother. Did you see the key that was left here? Do you see anybody taking? What do you have given Salam? If he didn't need to know anything?
He would. We don't give sometimes to each other. And we only give setups to the people who are closest that we know. When we meet Muslims. We don't give some as it's only for information for something that we need. And then afterwards, after you give celebs,
the Prophet Solomon said, you will not enter the Atlanta you believe you will not believe until you love each other. Would you like me to show you something that if you were to do it, you would love each other give this one. So the second is that we have to love each other. We have to work with each other
and the fundamentals of our belief. Part of our Eman is loving our brothers for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in a hadith I'm sure all of us have heard before and all of us we know. But we practice it and what's that had he
had a Wi Fi my epilepsy? None of you truly believes. And so he loves for his brother, what he loves for himself.
You will not believe until you love for your brother what you love for yourself. Most people think this is a high level to achieve. This is martial law. If somebody can achieve this particular that's like the epitome of a man. No. You know what? Lima manavi Rahim Allah. He said this the minimum requirement for every Muslim
This is the minimum requirement that you know how to code. None of you truly believes. This is minimal require you have to love for your brother, what you love for yourself, then what's the Praiseworthy position?
The praiseworthy position is that you love for your brother more than what you even love for yourself. It's preference prefer your brother over your own self. So we'll use zero knowledge to see him when Oh, can I be masasa
that's the Praiseworthy position.
And so as Muslims, we ourselves, in order to establish a strong community, we have to start working together, we have to start with the little things and loving each other. So how do we build this love amongst the community? How do we build this love among in our family members?
How do we do it? The first thing, one of the one of the ways is by giving each other gifts, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, due to how boo as Muslims, you know, with the holiday seasons coming up in America, right? It's the sun, it's a time of giving, and so forth. But you know, that's the most stressful time to the Americans, the people in America and non Muslims, those who celebrate Christmas and so forth, this is you, you ask them, What is the most stressful time of the year? They will tell you?
It's the holiday seasons? Why is it so stressful? When they should be happy? It's a time of joy and happiness. Why? Because
it's no like the gifts and so forth. Shouldn't they make each other? When they make them love each other?
Shouldn't it helped them to bring? Bring them? bring it bring them closer to each other? Why is it when you personally ask anyone? Most they'll say, you know, that's, that's a very stressful time. Just ask. So is it stressful for you when in the holiday season? They'll say, Yes, it is. It's a very stressful time for us. Why is it? Why? as Muslims, some Muslims also, you know, during like their aid, aid, and so forth, we make that as a day, or a time in which we give gifts to our parents, give gifts to our friends and family members, and so forth. But you know, as Muslims, there's no specific time to give gifts.
The prophet SAW the Lotus and generalized that he opened it up, whenever you give gifts in the gifts that have the most meaning, or the gifts that you give when the other person is not expecting.
If he is expecting it, then it isn't a surprise that it doesn't build that love. So it isn't a time to give gifts. as Muslims you give gifts all the time. But if you're expecting it, like for example, the holiday seasons you have right now people are expecting it.
So they might even they have to give somebody else too. So if they give, so if they receive something that is less than their expectations, they say, you know what, I spent more money for this guy, but I could just get this little thing. I spent him over the other person. So they are not happy. But that I guess must be might be very valuable. It might be very, very expensive. But he doesn't have that effect. But what if
you never you're not expecting anything. And the brother comes to you. He says brother, I have here a box of candy or a watch or anything or just something very small insignia very, very small, but he gives it to you as a gift. Are you happy? So Mashallah, brother, the next thing next thing you know, immediately. It helps you build this bond, right? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
was approached by the companions all the time, they would come with him with with gifts, right? And the companions would give gifts to each other also, to build this love. And they didn't give like that. The little things. You know, they didn't give like little things they gave the things that they love.
Because this is also part of your mind, to give, to help the needy and to help others. And you give the things that you love that you want. That's why I lost the Panama palaces.
In a corral carrying
a bow, you shall never attain piety until you spend from that which you have
to use spend from that what you love. And this is how the companions were led no matter what the law no every time it would come across this is he would think what is it that he loves the most
And he would think these are like valuable things that he would have would be land would be might be, it might be something that he really wanted, that he didn't have for a long time, then he got it and he would think he would come across and he finished the Quran every three days. So he would give it I would come across as every three days, you would think what's the most valuable thing, that's the most beloved thing to me, they would give that thing to, to the poor or to well, whoever was more needy, this is preference. We have to build this love amongst Muslims amongst ourselves. And then when we start up a community,
when we start, we want projects like schools, project, data, projects, social projects, and so forth. Then you once you build this love, it's easier for us to work with each other.
And once otherwise, you have you always have enmity. This person is this this person that as soon as you start up a committee, a brother comes up, Brother, you know what I put $3,000 into this project, with my own money, I'm not even part of the board.
I'm not part of the board. What's wrong? So you have sometimes is these discussions. But if we had this love amongst ourselves and not not this enmity, and hatred and jealousy, and so forth, in the Muslim community, then it's much easier for us to work with. And it starts off with what we're discovering sometimes, to somebody you don't even though
via for example, you walk by and you don't know this brother. So now my brother, he gives some Epson, y'all give just a little heartwarming silence. You don't just give a little select skip.
As if you know him for like the last 20 years.
He'll be what will happen to that brother. That brother will probably be surprised, right?
I know this, he's he's probably thinking, right? Do I know this? Brother? Maybe let's be somewhere before. Right? But then, if you did that, the next time you see him at Walmart or wherever you're shopping,
you know, wherever your local supermarket and so forth, you would
immediately that brother, that connection that you made because of that salad. You see him in the streets, whatever, brother Salaam Alaikum. Brother, it's like you guys know each other for the last 20 years for real? Isn't that the case? So that's why it starts with that by just giving these little slumps. I remember when I was in, in Vietnam, I used to,
I tried to revive giving of silence the way that it should be. He gives a lot when you leave when you come in when you leave. And so I would walk by a Muslim brother, Solomonic.
Immediately, he would stop. He would say, Yes. Do you need something? No, I just want to go. I would go again.
Yes, brother, Do you need anything?
Is there anything I can do?
No, no, I just want to give
every time I would walk by the space, somebody I guess last summer, they would stop and ask me because, um, you first of all, you don't just give regular give a warm, warm sometimes give it within from your heart.
And I do it for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala put a smile on your face, and give some lamps to the brothers gifts loves each other and shake their hands. And this is what the companions did, when they would buy something, if the weather a tree or a pole or a wall or anything came between them, they would immediately give sometimes again,
if somebody did this, you probably think they're crazy.
You know, and so we have to start practicing this, even in our family members. You know, for example, give me an example if you come by, you get into a car, your wife goes the other side of the car, you come this side of the car. Once you sit down on
the car separate you two right when you when apply this Sunday, right then your mother, your father, whoever's on the other side, Salaam Alaikum brother,
or your sister or your wife, and so forth, put this into application. And you'll see it does wonders. And this is just the beginning. And then we have to start loving each other and giving each other
Of course, gifts and don't think that you have to spend like $100 200 or $300 every time be consistent. Every time you go to the store next time you want to buy something. Next time you go to the store, think of somebody think of somebody
I don't care who it is your cousin, your brother, your sister, your mother, your aunt, your uncle, your grandfather grandmother, buy them something. When you buy something for yourself, buy something for them also
Next time, think of your best friend, buy something. Next time, it might be the man. Next time your father, your mother, are they expecting anything, it's not eat right
now,
it's not their birthday or anything like that right now that we should be celebrating birthdays or anything like that, but for no particular reason, just be consistent with it. And you will see
that within your circle your family,
the love amongst yourselves
will build, it will become stronger, even within your family. And that's where we start off and then the community of course, you start thinking of the other Muslim brothers are in need. That's why when you give the cat
you have to look for the sooner to go yourself to go and give yourself so you can see the conditions of the Muslims. You don't want to send it here and there. You want to look at the community first.
Every around the country, there are people who are needy, don't give me the you know this, this and that about you know, people here don't need any, there are no needy points of No, it's your responsibility when you get set up as a captain so far. Go look at the people around your area. Shallow brothers, could you please move up a little bit? Because I think if you have any space, have the brothers in the back and Charlotte can have fun. So move up a little bit. So
that's why the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, Well, I've been to Japan,
when he said him to
when he sent him to Yemen.
What did he tell him? He said, You're coming to a people in the cabinet in the Parliament and the data for you can tell me like that, the first thing you call them to you come into the two people the book, when you come into the people that were Christians and the Jews.
And so let the first thing you call them to his lab.
And then tell them that it's obligatory partner play the five daily prayers, and then tell them
to give this a cat to min alvernia him for Torah to Allah fukumura him
taken, take that from their rich, and return it to full power rather poor, the power of the poor people amongst them.
Because if you keep on sending your cat, out here and there, outside to the other places, and you forget the people around the area and your area, you know, of course we should always be thinking of Muslims, no matter where they are, you can get you can send your setup anyway. But specifically is take care of the area of the community because that's the person who you see and when you go to the masjid. These are the people in your community, strengthen your community, start from the inside out your family or community and so forth, and start the change from within.
And then go out further and further around the outer circle. And so as Muslims, we should have mercy upon all in build this love amongst us because the love for the sake of of love is the strongest love of God
in the event of hope with a with
the strongest
bond of a man
not every man but the man is the bond which is the love for Allah sake. And this liking for the sake of Allah subhana wa Tada. And so you we love for the sake of Allah and the love for the sake of Allah. There's nothing like
loving for the sake of Allah, and giving for the sake of Allah and helping for the sake of Allah, this is the strongest thing, even with your family members, even with your wife,
you should love her because you have this natural love. But that love for Allah should be the strongest. And that's what will keep your relationship stronger than anything else is when you love for the sake of Allah. Why is this the case? Why is that love for the sake of Allah the strongest, because you're not expecting anything back. You're only hoping from Allah.
So when you are kind to your wife, your spouse, you or your wife or your husband and you're kind to them,
you are kind to them and you're treating them nicely for the sake of Allah. And so if you don't receive that back, you're not even expecting it to start with. So you will continually be kind to them, even if you don't get the same treatment from them.
But if you do get, you know, you get that kindness
from them.
You're not expecting it, then you appreciate it even more.
You appreciate even more. And so do things for the sake of Allah. Love your brothers and sisters, love your aunts and uncles, your family members have loved them for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
And this is what also keeps us strong, keeps the community strong. And as Muslims.
This is how the
society in Medina, when they came together, it was built on a line of law. It was built upon
loving for the sake of Allah worshipping Allah alone, and everybody was connected with Allah subhanho wa Taala. So the prophets of Allah said after Salaam will help the needy feed, feed the poor,
was sitting
in enjoying relations, we should always try to join relations with us, you know, all the time with our family members.
That's what the law says I love women and sadly kometa syllabi,
learn your lineage your relatives, so you can enjoy this relationship. You learn who your your relatives are, so you can enjoy relations, even if they're a second cousin, third cousin. These are acts that Allah subhanho wa Taala does. And that will strengthen community and strengthen the family. And once that's strong, then your Eman will go up because it's easier to go to the masjid because we have problems in the masjid. Yeah, people say, brother, I don't want to see I don't want to go to the machine. I don't want to see that brothers face.
Like every time I see the brothers faces like.
So this causes you to stay away from the community and so forth. So start building this. And instead of blaming other people, when things go wrong, when this thing happens, put the responsibility on your shoulders.
To Why is that? What is it? Maybe it's you. Maybe it's the sins that you are committing? Maybe because you're not participating. So if things go around, you don't blame anyone except yourself.
Then aluma neighbors, Amanda were able Faena, all they said is
we blame the times that we're living in, there's nothing wrong with the times we're living in, the only thing that's wrong is us.
And so we ourselves, we have to change, when you see things going around, then you change, change all the things as much as you can, and don't think that it won't, it can't happen.
It starts off with the core core, the Muslim communities working together. And if we can change something about it, then we should change something for the better and make something more Islamic and so forth, then we should do such we should do such things. Like for example, you have right now, what is it proposition eight, with the marriage, and so forth, if there's a proposition, and this proposition, is calling for something, that islamically it's part of, it's part of this part of Islam, like for example, you have like you might have some propositions like, you know, gambling, for example, in other places, you know, they want to legalize gambling in certain cities and so
forth. It's okay for Muslims in order to keep this away, because gambling is, of course, we know what it is. In Islam, we know it's prohibited. And so, if we participate, we can change that, then we are subsequent for forward and we should change that. And also, as I mentioned, we should try to do all that we can to change the community and also change the perception of the Muslim, the non Muslims towards the Muslims also, we should get involved in helping Muslims and non Muslims when it comes to short social things. And this is part of
part of Islam.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned Hadith show in the first clip, but with this hadith about a prostitute, she came to a well, she was very thirsty. So she entered the well, she went down into the wall, and she drank and so she was quenched. When she came back out, she looked outside and she saw that there was a dog there. That dog had been the dog was licking the wet ground around the well. And so she said, Yeah, she said, yeah, this is, this dog is just as thirsty as I was before I went to drink. So she went down into the wall again, and filled up her foot for leather socks with water and she fed this dog. And because of this action,
the prophets of Allah said Allah forgive our sins in the narration of Sahih Muslim, Allah Subhana. I've entered paradise Subhana Allah
Institute enters paradise because
of giving water to a dog.
What if this person was a human?
What if this person was a Muslim?
What if this person was a relative of yours and there's really a need?
That's why chef
Escalante, escallonia Rahim Allah, he said, he mentioned his commentary on this. So, this is proof that it is recommended, not only for Muslims are known to be kind to animals, but of course, with even with non Muslims is LLM in all, I mean, it's even more worthy. And so that's why we should also show this that Islam, that the prophets of the Lions
have mercy upon those on earth and the one who is in the heavens will have mercy upon you.
And so we should start the change by loving each other for the sake of a loss of Hammond working together. And it starts with some of these little things that we can do. Cool. Stuff
hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen
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sallahu wa ala alameen wa sallahu wa salam, ala Ashraf, Lambie it was more serene Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi at 9am my bad yeah you heard in a monitor Paula Walton Verona some epidemics la vida de la in LA Motta Milan. So I mentioned the profits of the virus and said, what I'm upon please help each other. And then at the end is suddenly the lady when Estonia and pray at nighttime when other people are asleep, that for the agenda to be Salah. The thing also, that in order for us to build
a stronger community we have to strengthen our connection with Allah subhana wa Tada. And that is by standing up at nighttime, praying to Allah subhanho wa Taala then select the tahajjud be consistent consistent with this. Even if just to rock as before, before further before the prayer for the time comes in. Wake up before for the time. And it's just try to try to be consistent with it at least just to have I guess, you can do more than enough but at least to like us to strengthen your connection with Allah subhanho wa Taala when everyone is asleep, you communicate with Allah Subhana Allah, Allah, Allah Subhana descends down to the lower heavens and he asks, Is there anyone there
who asked forgiveness for me? For me, there's so that I can forgive him? Is there anybody that wants anything so that I can give him and Allah subhanho wa Taala does this every single day, the last third of the night. And we have to strain to strengthen our connection with the last man with them, and close our hearts and by repenting to Allah subhanho wa Taala and strengthen this in sha Allah, and then inshallah our community will be stronger and building this love amongst ourselves. And then of course, it starts as I mentioned, with this, these little things that I've just given, and there's a lot more things that we can do to strengthen ourselves. So I want you next time when you
go to the market, when you see another brother, just give some lamps and you don't know him but just give him a warm silence. And do that as much as you can. Because every time you do so you're getting reward from Allah subhana wa dude for the sake of Allah. Then when you go to the store next time, when you get a store, buy something even it's just a piece of chocolate. If your brother is not expecting it, he's going to be very happy. Even just the Hershey's bar.
It's gonna cost you 55 cents, 59 cents, 60 cents, but you know, you'll still be happy. You won't break the bank doing it. But you'll build love amongst yourself.
Just be consistent with that also, alone. endlessly meant well meaning and one minute.
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