Channel: Abdulbary Yahya
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the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed by a great
pass by actually two graves. And he said, these two are being punished. But they're not being punished for anything that they perceived as being major.
When they It is very big, it is very great, or it is something that is major.
As for one of them, he used to
not protect himself from the splatter of urine.
And that's for the second person. He used to
mischief or slander or causing problems amongst the people. And so the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then put on a took some branch with leaves. And he said, I hope that my data will
lighten the punishment of these two, until these videos become dry. And so
from this heading,
there are two major sins, two major sins that people don't think that they are considered major. And
that brings us to the topic of the time.
And it's something that
very easy for us to always use, but we don't realize the danger of it, we don't realize the danger of the time. And thus, if we use it incorrectly, it is a major sin. And in fact, the majority of the people who enter the Hellfire, it is a result of the tongue. It is a result of what the tongue does. And so that's why this is something that is very, very
important. That's why this particular topic is of the utmost importance. Why? Because it's a dangerous at the same time. It's something that's very beneficial. It's like a double it's like a sword or a knife, you use it, it could be very, very beneficial, but at the same time it can be very harmful, harmful also. Why because when the person wants to harm somebody,
your hands, your feet, your limbs can only harm
From a certain distance, but when it comes to the time, you can harm people, no matter where they where they are, no matter
how if they're, whether they're close to you, or far away from you, even if they are across the globe, you can still harm that person. So that's why the, it's very dangerous because the loss of data remember will hold us accountable for every single thing, every word that we say, every utterance that comes out of our mouth, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, By
my elfi, lumen oulun illa de la ke bonati. There is not a single utterance that comes from the mouth, except that there is no t bone it rotti angels, there are they're writing down every single thing. Everything that we say, my back my grandma when he was in his last
few days. And when he was on his deathbed
he was moaning
because of the pain
because of the pain that he was feeling. And then all the sudden he stopped.
And there was not a single word that came from his mouth and not a single sound that was coming from his mouth. And so he signed the Dover towards him, son, Abdullah said founded the site.
And they said, No, it did not subside.
But I was thinking about Hadeeth, or I was thinking about the verse in which Allah subhanho wa Taala says, may I film in Poland, in less than a European unity? There is not a single utterance, except that it is being recorded, or even it carefully recorded by the angels. And so he stopped just making those sounds, because he didn't want these things, the sounds to be recorded. And so this
shows us some of the scholars that before of how careful they were with what they said, and that will lay them out. Do you guys know? Brian's his nickname was army, the army
and army worshipper of Alfa Romeo
was the two most
the two most holy sites in Islam. He was so because of his piety and righteousness, he was known as the worshipper of masculinity. And, you know his story. Of course, he wasn't before he wasn't very good. He was actually hyper Robert. But he repented, repented to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And he changed his ways. And he was known for until he was known for his righteousness and piety, so much so that it became evident to me. And one day, he said,
he said, I know someone
And he counts the words that he speaks on any given week.
So if you were to ask him, how many words did you speak this week? He wouldn't know. Because he's so careful. Because he's afraid that Allah Subhana, Allah will hold them accountable for all those things. So any word that comes out and thinks about it first. And that's what and who is this person, by the way as blatantly out? It's no other than himself. He didn't want to show up. He just said, I know someone, and so on. The scholar said, when he said that everybody knew was him. It was no other than he Why? Because he was known for his righteousness, and piety. And so, the utterance of the tongue,
the tongue, is
the is that expresses that which is in the heart that expresses that which is that which is in the heart, the heart is good. Then whatever is being uttered is also good. So when you see somebody whose foul mouth, someone who is always using foul language, that's also an indication actually what's in his time. And that's why if you want to get married, there's a couple of questions, a couple of topics that I'm sure anyone would like really, really tired or you don't want to hear. You know, you're tired about the topic or something like that. You can always wake people up when you speak about marriage right there to marriage in general.
I was actually thinking about maybe we should have a topic about getting married man.
is the expressive of what's in the heart. That's why the person wants to get married. You want to get married.
Don't just look at his prayers or
Maybe his worship, but also see how he speaks? What kind of language does that person use? Because that's the expression of what's in the heart. And so if you want to marry somebody with a good heart,
then because that's what you're looking for, you know, you want you want someone with a good heart, someone, you know, outer appearance, they come and go, right. But when it comes to the heart, and character, that's what remains with you. And that's why I say you have to look at that person's speech. Also watch how they talk to other people, specifically, how they speak to their parents.
And so you might say, Well, why? Well, the reason is, because if that person is a good son or daughter, and they know how to respect their parents, then they're more likely to respect you. And if they don't respect their parents, then most likely, they're not going to show respect to you. If they don't respect the parents, you think they should respect you? later on. Of course, you know, maybe the first few, maybe the first year or so forth might be everything going smooth, like you know, you know, the first year right, the wife speaks, the husband's always the husband will listen, right? Second year, the hospital will probably speak and the mind will have to listen, you're the
third year both of them speak and the neighbors are the ones that are here.
So if you want to get married, I want you to look at the person's speech. And that's why the Prophet said,
he said, lies the people.
A person, a person's belief will not be firm, until his heart is firm until it's hardest for and if it's hard, it's not for us art is upright. And Ted's tongue is upright, and his tongue cannot be upright. And his heart is also up until his heart is up. And so that's why the belief that he man comes, it's it's in the heart, but it shows in the words that a person says, and as a result of that, also, it shows in the actions of that particular person. And so as by default as Muslims, we are ordered, not to just be silent, okay? It's not so nice. Just always be quiet. Most people think they're not gonna say anything sooner just to be quiet. No, it's not something that to be quiet.
It's also not so not to always be to always talk. What's the correct way, the correct path is the middle path. Islam is always the middle path. And it's always the most balance of dimension. And that's why when you hold on to the Quran, and Sunnah doesn't matter how extremely you hold on to the Quran and Sunnah, the more extreme you hold, the more balanced you become. Why, because the most balanced of all religions is Islam. So the more you hold on to Islam, the more balance you become. And so it's not just suddenly just to be quiet, and it's not so nice just to say whatever you want to say and talk about whatever you want to talk about. But a person who believes in a loss of
Paradise Island, a person who has faith will speak, when it is beneficial, will speak when it is beneficial. And if it's not beneficial, then you don't say it. In other words, there are certain there's a category in speech, you have that which is beneficial that which is called mobile, mobile or just not hot, it's not hot. It's hot out, but it's just, uh, you know, it's you're not, you're not going to be rewarded for for saying any of these things. There's a type that you're going to be rewarded for words, words and phrases and things that you say that you'll be rewarded for. And then there's a middle, which isn't in between. And then of course, that there's that which is sinful. Now
those who are true believers, those who watch
what they say, even the middle category, they avoid it. And that's because the prophet SAW the level it said mechanic
Alia Smith, whosoever believes in a loss of power that in their judgment, let's let him or her Be quiet, but I have heard him say that which is good, or Be quiet, because
it's easy. It is very easy to
say something if you have not said it yet, and you need to say it, but that which has already come out already, you can take back
that which has come up the slip of the tongue, you can pull it back. Once you've already said it, you pretty much it's difficult, you can't pull it back. Now you're gonna have to try to make it up by apologizing or things like that, and that's why but if you haven't said certain things yet, you can always make it up
So that's why, if you don't have anything good to say, then then be quiet. And thus we mentioned that
the default is that you shouldn't say anything except that which is that which is beneficial. And at the same time, we also mentioned that the majority, the majority of Well, one of the biggest reasons for a person entering the Hellfire is because he does not take care of his time. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu wasallam when he was asked by a companion, who said, dulany I'm immutability, gender, show me a deal that will enter me paradise. You know, if you want to enter Paradise, I want you to look for it. That said that the companions are asking, show me a deep, intimate paradise, or the prophets, Allah tells you a deed. And he says, this deed will install it into paradise. When you
hear any of those deeds, or any of those hobbies, I want you to memorize them, I want you to write them down, I want you to make sure you try to apply every single day as much as you can, and collect those heavy to remind you so that, you know, what's your plan and how to get the jump is because just you know, if you want to do something you want to be successful in business or anything. We always plan right? Now do you plan you put it to that you put it to action. But when it comes to the gentleman, which is the most important, you know, the life of the Hereafter, and the eternal life, we don't plan for it. We just live as if haphazardly. And so he said, What deeds can I do? Show me
something that I can do that will enter to enter me, gentlemen. And so he said, I'm sick Annika. He said, hold on to them. And he said, watch and take care Be mindful of this. Be mindful of your time. And hope that your time and then he started he pointed his his time. And he said thank you like komak he's a fabulous book. May your mother your mother lose you and then this is like saying of great importance you know, it's not like
he's not making do I made you die and your mother You know, lose you know, it's not like something that's literally like in English we have a lot of phrases that we don't really mean where it's just for emphasis that we say things for emphasis. So this is for emphasis many may you may you may you may your father, may your mother lose you
lose you right away when you have something like that you're getting attention nothing. I'm just saying this okay? This the shop important. It's like It's like I'm talking about death here life and death. But I'm talking about life and death situation. It's not something that's small. So when you hear the message of the loss of a loved him saying that he let go
that's a life and death situation here. Listen carefully. And we're not talking about breakfast or dinner or lunch here. But what to choose what to have for breakfast, where you're gonna drink coffee or tea No, this is not a thank you letter, almost maybe your father made your mother lose your mean, this is a life or death situation. So listen up carefully. And so the purpose of the low body
make the mother lode as you listen up, this is a life and death situation here. And he said,
Are people dragged
into the Hellfire by their faces with their, by their noses, dragging their noses on the ground and thrown into the alpha except for what their times except for the result of the sins that are caused by by the time and so that's why the Messenger of Allah emphasize this point very, very, very
firmly, because of the importance of it. And so sometimes, you know, sometimes it's good to,
to speak, sometimes it's not always good to be quiet. And those are the times when you know that it is beneficial or when you have to say certain things to correct things for the sake of Allah Subhana Allah. So, if you see something wrong for example, you should speak about it, you should say it you should mention it to them, you should remind the other person in the best possible way. You know, you do it the best possible way. Because
you, you do not want you do not want to get the sin of having somebody doing something in front of you because it's mandatory upon us if we're able to okay that's why the prophets have
been minko mancora whosoever much you see a monkey see something bad for you like it will be any change with his hands meaning if you're able to physically change something with your hands, meaning you
Physically, you can stop it, then you do so. And of course, this is what your children are the people who have authority over if you're the interview of somebody of authority, and you can do it by force, and you have the authority to do so then you do so. But there are some things that we don't have the authority, maybe with our children, maybe they want to go somewhere, and they're about to the we can pull them back, and let's put our hands we prevented them from doing that, which is not good. And we can physically prevent them from doing that. But when it comes to other people's children or other people, they were not able to do that. But we might be able to say something so
that they would, it would stop them. So then you go to the next, the next level of changing that which is wrong or changing around. And that's what the top. So if you see such a thing that you should change, you should try to remind the people, but sometimes, you know, the shape is very, very, very,
very deceptive. And it's very smart. And so he might say to you, that you yourself sometimes do that.
Right? You yourself, you do that sometimes also, who made you the police?
Or why should you? Why should you stop? And you should change also. So in this case, what do you do? Do you stop him? And remind him also because you might be doing that also? Or you might fall into that? That which he's falling into also? So do you say oh, no, since I don't? And I'll also handle a tire that says,
Oh, you mean, what do you do that? Which is why why do you say that what you don't do?
is it's a great thing inside of something that's big inside of a lot that you say that, that you do that once you do that you say that what you do not do? So now? How can you prevent somebody when you yourself?
So should you or not, you should you should still tell? Why? Because it's an obligation upon you. Right? It's an obligation upon you to prevent them.
So if you don't prevent the moon card, then you have not fulfilled an obligation. So that's a wrong. And you are also doing that wrong, it's also wrong. But you don't want two wrongs. Now you've already got one wrong upon yourself. So you prevent the other person but make that also as a reminder for you, so that maybe you will remind them, Hey, you know, you prevented the other person? Why are you gonna do that I'm gonna stop.
You pet to the last panel, I'm gonna stop, I'm going to stop that person also. And it's reminder for you also. Because sometimes when you don't, when you don't let when you let that person do it, do whatever is wrong. And you also fall into that category. And you don't say anything, what happened, what ends up happening, it entered, like, Hey, you know what everyone else is doing? Let me just continue. Right everyone else is doing so you never made the conviction to turn around, you never make that user. So there are certain times in which you have to speak up, even if you yourself are, you know, fallen near yourself or fall into that hole awesome. So don't be tricked, if you've been
tricked by the shaman once Don't be tricked by him twice. And so these are the little subtle things that the shaper tricks us concerning. And many matters. And this is one of them. And the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam also mentioned the gravity of this just the word.
Sometimes a person says something that they don't even feel the importance of or you know that it is severe. But it's sometimes it's very severe. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said in the module, they have to kind of depending on a person will sometimes say a phrase or say a word May he doesn't mean it's not clear to him he doesn't know or
he doesn't realize is it will be happy now.
He will be tossed into the Hellfire or be thrown into hellfire. The distance that's further than the east and the west. That means very deeply deep down in into the Hellfire inside and then in another narration. So the vena halifa seven, the distance of 70 years, the distance of 70 years into the Hellfire that's like dropping a rock. Right? And it keeps falling for seven years. How much distance I think you guys can figure that right with math. But math, you'll see how far a person will fall. Technically, you can actually do that. But in every language, when the word 70 is used, or word the word when the when the numbers have indeed, or the number 100 100 is used. The majority the majority
of the time, it means it's a very, very long amount of time or a lot and that's why the prophets of the lives have said well in the nasty big guy he knows how does my soul in the last two centuries.
Indeed I make I repent to Allah I asked forgiveness and repent to him in a day more than 7070 times then that does that mean Okay, I'm gonna do something
At some time, or another generation 100 times, or 100, I'm gonna stop No. I mean, it's you should do it always, you should continually continually do it. And so, in other words, if a person sometimes he says a word, he doesn't realize the gravity, the magnitude of this word, or this particular phrase, and he will be thrown in the Hellfire, deep, deep into the Hellfire the distance of 70 years. And so a person, that's what the prophet, someone said, in the logic layer to kind of be kalama.
He said, a person will say a word or a phrase, and he doesn't even think there's anything wrong with it yet, we'd be at Sabina halifa. Now, he will be thrown in for 70 years, or not for the distance, we're talking about. Here, the distance of 70 years, down into the hellfire. And so this is just for one word. This is for one word, or one thing. And sometimes a person doesn't realize he's just trying to make people laugh.
You're just tried to make people laugh, and you say so. But it is a mockery, making a mockery of Islam, believe it or not, that can take a person outside instead of Islam, because making a mockery of Islam or any of the rituals of Islam, making fun of any part of the poor iron ore that which has the teachings of the Quran. That
is one of the actions or the things that will take a person outside the state of Islam.
To take a person outside is that Islam. And so if somebody that's why I'm going to give you an example, this is a in the Hanafi, the Hanafi scholars, they said, if a person
he's a seven. It's a major seven.
If a person
drinks alcohol, and says Bismillah he's a Catholic,
nun Muslim, you take out the red, you say Bismillah. Who knows why? Because you're making a mockery of Bismillah you're committing a sin, you're committing a major sin and you're saying this.
It's like saying Allah, I'm doing it for your sake.
and preventing you from doing that. And you're saying you're doing it for Allah sake. That's this little thing. Sometimes, you know, somebody somebody might say, from listening just just just to just to make somebody laugh, that person is not so mysterious.
And so there's some words or some things that people say, they don't realize the magnitude of it. And that's why you have a lot of, you know, sometimes some comedians that come up or Muslim comedians right
there, they'll say certain things that might take them outside instead of just trying to make people laugh. But you also have to differentiate, okay, you have to differentiate, Not everyone who says something that's related to the Quran and Sunnah. Or that will take the person outside instead of Islam, you have two different, let's say, if somebody makes fun of the beard, if there's somebody who makes fun of the year, as it is the beard, because, because it is, the sooner, then that's, that takes a person outside of themselves, if they're making fun of the beard on that particular person. So they're not making fun of Islam, or a ritual of Islam. But they're making fun of that person
saying that person's ugly with a beard or something like that. And they're making fun of him. That That, of course, that's something that's, you know, that's something that's not appropriate and not permissible in Islam, to make fun of another person. But it's not something that takes a person outside of state of snap. So you really have to differentiate that also, for some people, they know you may be putting on islands if you're not
making fun of you.
Know, that's also wrong. But it doesn't bring that person to the level where that person is outside of the State of Israel. And so that's what the great scholars of the past, they were very, very careful in the choice of words, and that which they say, you know, whether it is
They're so afraid of harming people.
And one of the most, one of the most careful in terms of the pursuit of the terms of speech unless the companions of the Prophet SAW the lives unless it was the general
of man of
the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
described him as the most shy of this or
the most shy I want you to think about this carefully because every time we speak about China's could we think of we think about men. I mean, think of a woman right? We speak Chinese. We're always the first thing that comes to your mind woman. Right? It's but you know what the most shy person and this old man is not a woman.
It's a man of mine have not been robbed the love of it.
So what does shyness mean?
Listen to what the prophets of the Lord did when he saw
he was above or below I know and Alma and they were sitting down reclining. And you know, when you're when you're with friends, you're usually more relaxed, right? usually more relaxed. And when you see somebody, like let's say, you see the mom come, right? You might be sitting down, relax, like playing around, you're talking about things. And then when the mom comes, right, you might be talking about football.
How much is the prayer? What's the sooner
you change the topic when you see somebody pious and righteous like you change
your posture when you're sitting down.
The Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam was sitting down.
and he's actually part of the size where he was just sitting down, relaxing, reclining, that he covered up in his head up with a metal cup, okay? And so I was astonished, then why did he do this? Why did the Messenger of Allah do this? He's with who I'm about.
Who You know what?
We all know.
That man came, he sat up. And then when she asked him, she said, you were sitting with a weapon, and you just reclining. But then all of a sudden, one of
you set up? Why
should I not be bashful Chai, from someone whom the angels,
If you knew he was, then you know why?
Because he was someone who was greatly respected. And he had shyness, shyness is something that's very good. shyness is if you're, you're, you're afraid of saying things that will harm somebody that will hurt. And you're always conscious.
You're always conscious of that. And you're afraid, of course, the greatest challenge is to silence silence between you and
me, even when you're alone. That means even
when he was alone, when no one is there,
even only the only Allah knows. And then the ages, of course, they can see that there, they can see that he's the same
public or private.
And one of the characteristics attributes of
the law was that he never hurt anyone with any risk.
Because of his shyness, he did not want to hurt anyone, because of his character, and that's why shy This is part of the map. You don't want people to say and he that's why he never drank himself.
In the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam. reported, they never
talk about the law. And also, they never drank wine or alcohol, even in Jamia. Why
the law, you know, he said, he said enough, it is enough.
It is enough
for me to avoid alcohol, just seeing what a person may say, and not realizing that shyness that he might say something, he doesn't realize it and that might be shameful. People say, Well, how could you say such a thing, but you know, that person might be drunk, right. And so when a person is drunk, because he's afraid of saying anything that might hurt anyone, or that someone might say something bad about him that, you know, some reputation might be applied to him as a result of that. And so that's why part of being shy and shyness is part of the man is being careful with your words, making sure you don't hurt anyone. And that's why it's the time is something that's it's a miracle
in itself, the muscles on their hands off whether you make different, different sounds with it, and when the time that itself is a miracle. And if you just hear the different languages that come with that it's such a great miracle that Alaska has given us the time that you're here to communicate and you can
you can describe things so vividly, by using the words with this blessing of the time. And that's
a lot when Allah Subhana Allah has given us a such a great blessing we should use in the obedience of Allah Subhana for any blessing that He has given to us.
If we're thankful to Allah for that blessing, then we have to use it in obedience.
So if Allah subhanaw taala has given you
some wealth, then if you want Allah
To increase it for you, then use that blessing in the obedience of Allah Subhana Allah, that's how you show thankfulness. And if you're thankful for what you have been given, then a lot increases it for you. Allah always gives more, gives you more. And so
that's why every morning
this has been perfected my character, also perfect, my teachers.
Perfect, my teachers also perfect my character awesome. So be thankful
for what he has given you, and so on. We're thankful for the time that we have, the way that we communicate and how we talk, then you should use that in your obedience of Allah. How can we use it in obedience of Allah? First of all, by remembering Allah Subhana Allah, always remembering Allah subhanho wa Taala with our times, and that's why we remember one of the deeds a companion companion, the companion is asked about what will what what are some of the major sins? And by the way, what is what's the difference between a major sin and minor thing, you know, you always have this major sin, this is a minor set of as Muslims. In truth, we should always not look at the sin, the magnitude of
the sin. But look at who you are, actually, this will make
the greatness of Allah subhana wa Tada. Look at the greatness of the men. Whether sin is big or small, you should always avoid all sins. But of course, we know that there are major sins and there are minor sins, because we know that it's in
the proofs in the Quran. So now, what are the difference between the majors and the minors? And I said, the beginning I said, Remember those two people, they were committing major sins, but they did not realize that these would make no sense. Why? What was the difference between them? Well, a major sin is a major sin is a sin in which there is a warning of punishment in this life, or the hereafter. Or if there's a curse related to that particular act, then that's considered a major sin. So for example, stealing is a major sin. Why? Because there is a specific punishment, punishment for Islam in his life, and
not protecting yourself against urine.
It is a major sin. When you are when you go to the toilet, whenever you go to the bathroom. You have to protect yourself sure that this bladder doesn't get on. And you might think well, but I don't know. You know, it gets on me or not? How can I be responsible for something that I can't even see? Right?
So am I accountable for that? Yes, you are accountable for it. Even if you don't see the splatter. If you're negligent, if you didn't take the precautionary measures.
What's the proof for that? The proof for that is during the time of the companions, the Messenger of a loss of a body of some saw some saw some companions. Who, because they were so tired, remember, they come they were coming from a book, and they were so tired that some of them were when they will, they were not careful enough. And so he saw some spots on their heels that were not washed.
So he said What do you
mean? Whoa, to the heels male fire. Whoa, to the hills in the hellfire. So this is a warning of punishment.
This is a major sin, remember, any anything, that there's a warning of punishment hereafter, or a specific punishment? This slide is considered a major sin. So he said well to be heroes and the Hellfire, none of those companions? Did they know that they have spots on their heels that were not washed? That they know? They did not know? Because if they knew that when I washed it,
why was there a punishment associated with that? Why? Because not because that they did it because of their negligence. So ignorance due to negligence is punished.
So just because you can't use necklet ignorance as a proof.
If you are negligent to say let's say on the day again, when you say well, your ally didn't know that that was a sin.
What did you spend your whole life doing? Did you did did you not know that there were classes and there were people who are speaking about that at such and such
University and that data to see the sign by you didn't know that that was a sin. Because you didn't come you did you have time, but I had to go watch a movie
well, you know
That day, so that person may or may have seen it, but they had the opportunity. But they were negligent. So you're, you can't say, Okay, I didn't know. And so I might as well not know better. It's better not to know, right? No, because I know that I'll be accountable. No, even if you don't? If you don't know, and your negligence, then you're still whether you don't know. Or if you don't know, if it's due to your own negligence, you're accountable still? Don't you say? Okay, I don't know. And then you don't study anything, you don't learn anything? No, it's mandatory upon us to study. And so
those, that's a major sin, and going around, speaking of other people, that's a major sin. And but sometimes, you know, sometimes
the sometimes there are things that are harder for a woman than it is for a man. And sometimes things are harder for men. And this for a woman is just natural, right? Like, you know, when it comes to the problem, some sentences mentioned, it said, Whoever,
whoever can preserve, take care, be mindful of two things,
then I will guarantee you
one of those two things, he said, Whoever can take care of that, which is between his jobs, which is his time, control the time between his legs, there's probably a part of you can control those two things.
Right. But generally, you know, for general, sometimes it's for men, it might, you know, between two legs might be more difficult. For a woman, maybe it's the time Well, what do you guys think?
What do you get?
Sometimes, you know, when it comes to systems, usually the more detail that comes with when it comes to talking and so forth, things like that.
Let me give you an example. Okay. Give an example. There was a brother, okay. There was a brother, man.
He had his wife, his wife. She was always on the phone.
She was always on the phone. If the phone rang, you know that that's at least 30 minutes.
She had a problem. It's like, she just loves to talk. Okay, that's it. So he said to her, I said, you know, you really have to take care of the problem. This is a big problem.
And, and so she said,
really, honestly, I tried to do it.
I tried to, you know, control myself. Just watch next time.
the phone rang.
And so she picks up the phone.
And she was on the phone for 15 minutes. And so she hangs up.
And he looks at his mind.
Like I was watching the clock. Normally, it's like at least 30 minutes. 15 minutes. And
that's an improvement, right?
You might think it's still a lot, right? But then he said, Well, anyways, who was that? I was wrong phone number.
Also, and you know, it's sometimes not every sister, okay, some sisters don't like to talk a lot. Very simple. It's straight to the point. But many are like that, like, like four. But you know, generally, generally, generally, not always the case.
Woman generally like to talk more than guys. It's a little more detail oriented. Like, you know, for example, in my husband, I get a phone call. And a brother, very close friend of mine met me and very close friend.
Maybe his wife just gave birth. So if I pick up the phone, this will happen to pick the phone.
Now, she just had a baby, right so I'm picking up
Is it a boy or girl? Oh boy.
What time What time is you guys decide right now where you guys? Which hospital for them? Maybe just one or two questions, right? Maximum three questions about how I buy muscle.
If my wife were to pick up the phone,
I said yes. Labor difficult.
What is the baby look for like your mom or dad?
And then it keeps on going? Did you guys get a name for it? I didn't think about asking what the name was.
All of a sudden is like, it keeps on going. All the details are coming out. Right. But when I picked up the phone and thought about it
sometimes it's like that sometimes it's normally but but generally, you know, sometimes I'm sisters is slipping, but sometimes it's some guys. They like to talk a lot too. So it's not
always a rule or anything like that.
But when you're speaking, when you have to say something,
make sure you always remember a loss of power.
No matter what you're speaking about, trying to always remember Allah subhanho wa Taala. And don't make the conversation related to only this world.
Why? Because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the human calamity really
did not speak a lot, without the mentioning, or the remembering of Allah subhanho wa Taala, for the customer to Colombia very clear.
Because when you speak of us without the ministry without remembering Allah subhanho wa Taala, it hardens the heart. it hardens the heart. And he said, we're in the
RC, and the one who's furthest from Allah is the one who has a heart or a heart. So your heart becomes hard, your heart becomes hard. When you don't remember our last panel, I don't remember the last half of the heart. But you know, there are some people, especially the people that don't you, when you can speak, you can speak about anything, you can speak about politics, and then we'll just keep on going and going, you can speak about football, you can speak about the movies, as soon as you put in Dean, why do you have to ruin the conversation? Like right away? Right, they don't want to hear it. They don't want to hear anything about the team whatsoever. No, but if you keep on
joining people, those types of conversations, and now reminding people of Allah Subhana, Allah, your heart will continue to be hard. And then you have to understand the more you speak. The more you speak, the more mistakes you make, the more mistakes you make, the more people will dislike you.
And so that's what
he said, when
he said, Whoever, you know, whoever makes the narration, or whoever speaks a lot, then he will make, his mistakes will increase. And who's ever increased, mistakes increased, in a sense will also be increased, your sense will also be increased human capital will come to know Li B. And if you have a lot of sense, Hellfire is you're more likely to enter the hellfire. And so that is why you have to, you have to control your time.
Control your time, and sometimes is difficult, right? It is for some people, it's more difficult than other people. So everybody's tested with different things. There are some people who just I gotta say it, I gotta say it's like, they try to hold that, you know, it's wrong. But you know, it's
okay, you know, what happened to the system?
But you can't control it, because I had to tell him, right, even though you know, it's wrong. But it's hard for him to how do you control yourself? How do you control yourself, first of all, be mindful of a loss of timeline, but then remembering how greatness isn't. But sometimes even that's difficult. You know, when the great scholars of the past when they attended, please tell me, he said he had that problem. And that problem when
it would be very difficult for him not to Batman.
Right? It is, you know, younger, it was difficult for them not to buy because he just felt the urge to do so when he saw something, or somebody did something very funny or very strange. Even though you know, it's Batman, he knows his backbiting. He just has to tell it to other people. He just said, he said, You know, it was difficult for me. And so I had to force myself and had to find a way to stop myself. So he said, so I made a pledge or made a promise that if I were to back by anyone,
then I would give in charity.
And so he said I did that. And so every time I wanted the urge, I knew that it's going to cost me
and so I stopped myself. Because you know what? The nuts right? The nuts likes something. But it likes to sometimes some people it takes the back bite. So that person had that desire to back by but that desire also sometimes what is what else is that desire or your likes? What is it likes? Well, right? So you said you know I'm gonna punish you. If you're gonna get this one. I might take something else away that you like, What does everyone like?
Money, right? The mouse likes money. So it was gonna cost you the bagpipe and you're gonna think twice, but don't make it an amount that's very extravagant.
That you can't afford or that you are going to take off, we get it i'm not i'm not going to pay.
Otherwise it won't work. And don't make it such a small amount that it doesn't affect you. Because then you say,
okay, it's only like,
you know, it's only like maybe half a year or something like there's nothing, you know, I can tell you that I have even a college student.
So don't make that make you that amount. That's not too much, not too little. But that you feel that you feel as though you're thinking how much is lunch? Or how much is dinner, and you're going to give that amount.
That's, that's a nice dinner at a restaurant, I'm just gonna throw it away, give that away, you know, I'm gonna keep it. Okay, I'm not gonna benefit. So that's, that's one way that some of the, some of the scholars what this what this, that's what some of the scholars did, in order to try to help control themselves. And so
if you start controlling your time,
then at the same time, your hearts, your heart starts to cleanse itself.
Because you're going to decrease in the amount of sins that you have.
Remember, the person's demand will not be upright, until his heart is upright, what is the T Mobile boo boo and his heart will not be afraid, what is the design, and his heart will not be upright until his heart until his tongue is upright. So that's why you want to start with controlling your time, if you want to cleanse your heart.
Once you control your time, then you'll be able to also cleanse your heart. And
every single morning,
every morning, the messenger will
for in the outbox.
He said everybody, every single morning, the limbs of the children of Adam, they scold the time.
And so they say that the left theater of concern us
because we are going to face the consequences of you, the
famous the punter is the if you're afraid that he will also meet up, right? And if you're not up like also we will not. So that's a result of a result of the time. And believe it or not, sometimes, you know, the society that we're living in right now.
we have so much so many time saving gadgets, right? You have microwave, cell phones, laptops, iPads, all kinds of
all kinds of gadgets that are supposed to save us time, right? The only thing we don't have is time.
The only thing we don't have is time. It's like there's so many things that we have at our fingertips that we need to know something
right away, you know, come up with everything, the information comes right away. But
we don't have time.
You know, one of the best, you know, the time saving advice
is from the messenger.
the IDs, the words of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are also very, very precise and concise with for a lot of meanings. It is very clear, but it has a lot of meaning. And it's very,
you know, very powerful. And,
and they said,
and so this remember, this one will help us to save time if
you want if you're thinking you're gonna get a lot of stuff to do and you don't have enough time, I want you to just
think about this
all the time. The purpose of
this man and
monks part of the excellence of this lab of a person is him abandoning and leaving that which does not concern.
So before you do anything before you read this or read that or do this, do that talk about this or talk about that. I want you to think and say this appertaining is that going to benefit me? Is that or is it just somebody else because there are people right now there are so many people so many times we waste so much time, you know like the internet is very beneficial. But as soon as it becomes
more of a distraction than
benefits, then maybe you should look for other meanings to try to quench your thirst for knowledge.
Because now it's going to distract you even more. It's going to take whatever time you feel. You have to control some because you know, when you have a book, that's all you have, right? But when you're reading off the internet,
right, next thing you know, you hit a link, and all of a sudden you don't know how you got there.
to the world. Wow, how did I get there? I was looking for something else. And you look, oh, it's been two hours. Right? And you didn't get what you were looking for. But you ended up reading so many other things. Right. So sometimes the internet
The internet is very beneficial. beneficial, yes. But sometimes, you know when you're living in information,