My Message to All Parents

Abdul Wahab Saleem

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of praises due to Allah Subhana Allah, we praise Him and we thank him and we seek refuge in Allah Allah Buddha is that he will Jalon from the evils of our own selves

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and we seek help from Allah alone.

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My dear brothers and my dear sisters, I want to enjoin upon you the Taqwa of Allah azza wa jal, as Allah tells us in the Quran, you will leadin Allah helper to party he will attempt to Nilla and Thomas Freeman

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I have two messages for you. And these messages today are for the parents.

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And there's a lot that can be said. But I want to focus on two things.

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And before that, I want to remind you, that your children my brothers, are but gifts from Allah.

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Allah tells us of this in the Quran, when he says that you're heavily Manisha or Inessa.

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Well yeah, bulimia shout with the Quran, that Allah gifts to whomever he wills female children's children and Allah gifts to whomever He pleases male children. I will use a widow whom do Quran and we're in artha or Allah azza wa jal chooses to give some people both males and females together. So this is all a gift from Allah azza wa jal, he can either give you males he can give you females Allah can choose to mix the two meaning he can give you males and females both right. Some people are always longing for that daughter, but they don't get the daughter. It's a gift from Allah. Some people are longing longing for the sun, but they don't get the sun.

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Others they want only one kind but Allah decides to give them both.

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And then Allah azza wa jal tells us also, that when he Manisha Akima, and there are some people Allah chooses to make them bear and they're not able to have children, they can't have children. Their situation is as such, but he's not doing this because Allah azza wa jal is unable to gift and grant to whom He wills. Allah says that Allah is a Lehmann cadet in Allah Alima. Allah is completely capable, and Allah is completely knowledgeable as well as in the Hua Lehmann Kadir Allah is completely capable, he has the realm, and he has the Quran as well. So he knows that for some people, maybe the female children will be a test they cannot bear. For other people, the male

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children might put them through a test that they can't bear. For other people, maybe they're not going to be able to handle the responsibility of progeny altogether. So Allah azza wa jal chooses not to give to them in who are Lehmann Cadila. Allah is completely knowledgeable, he understands everybody's private circumstance, he understands everyone situation he's not incapable of granting, but Allah knows who to grant what to, and when to grant that person as well. Some people they live through their whole life and they don't have wallet. They don't have children.

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As the wife of our dear Prophet, Ibrahim Ali surrounded, she lived throughout out her whole life, Sarah, and she was waiting for a child and she didn't get a child. But when she got to 99 years of age, Allahu Bucha is at all Jalon he sent angels to Ibrahim and to surah and they gave her a glad tiding and they gave her the glad tidings of Allah and Aleem. They gave him the glad tidings of the fact that they will be granted a child will be very knowledgeable, to make up for all those years of of wish and hope that they will become parents, my dear brothers and my dear sisters, this is a gift from Allah. Accept the gift of Allah azza wa jal, but recognize that there are some responsibilities

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that come with this gift. As parents you have responsibilities. It's not just about the fact that you have your child and that's the end of that, but there are responsibilities, and I want to focus on one thing.

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And if you do this, you end up benefiting your child, your progeny, and yourselves as well. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he told us in a hadith of bowrider Eslami the hadith is in Muslim imam Yama den, it's an authentic hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said that on the head of a child who memorizes the Quran, who is the Sahaba Quran, and in some of the reports, someone who memorizes the Quran as well.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that on the head of this child, Allah horrible is that he was Jalon on the Day of Judgment

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I will put the crown of serenity, dodge will walk on.

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And the Prophet continued. And he said, Well, you were a leader who, who Latane

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La La you owe 100 Dunya, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he continued, and he said, that the parents of this child will be dressed and clothed with a cloak, that will be so beautiful,

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that the entirety of the humanity cannot bring something like this.

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This is

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the virtue not of the person who memorizes the Quran, not of the person who learns the Quran, but rather the parents of the child who chooses to learn the Quran. Why? Because most of the times, people who learn the Quran they learn it when they're young, and who is the one behind them, who is teaching them, who is following up with them, who is making sure that there's a schedule, who's ensuring that they have the time and the peace to be able to do that. It is the parents, my dear brothers, it is you. You are the one who can add the Quran into the lives of your children. You are the one if you didn't have that nema. You didn't have that blessing during your lifetime. You can do

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it now. And you can give that blessing to your children. My dear brothers and my dear sisters, because your child will be among the people who can intercede and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said in a hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said that the PERT the example of the person who reads the Quran and memorizes the Quran,

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prophets of Allah who sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he set the example of this person who's able to do it flawlessly, who's able to do it perfectly, who's able to do it as best as possible. The example of that person

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is the example of a being that is with the angels, not just average, angels must suffer until caramel Bharara, he will be with the angels who are the most noble of all angels. And then the example of a person who knows it, but doesn't really know it. He is trying to keep up with it, but he can't do it. And usually that happens if you do it at an older age, as the Prophet told us In another Hadith as well. Because when you have something that you learn as a child, it ends up becoming established within your life. And you end up remembering it no matter how long if you did it right the first time, you'll always be able to go back to it even if sometimes you forget, you

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can always go back to it Repeat a few times and you can get it all back and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the second person who doesn't really have it down who doesn't really have it fully done, who doesn't have it protected, perfected, but he's trying, maybe he's busy with this and busy with that, but then he goes back whenever he gets the chance starts reading, maybe he's unable to pronounce certain things, recollect certain things the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, such person will be given two rewards, one for trying and one for attaining whatever he had attained. But that doesn't mean he's like the one who's perfected. Never the one who's perfected.

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That's another level. That's a person who spends his whole life with the Quran. Those people are very special. They're different, but those who try nonetheless they will be also granted a reward by Allah Allah azza wa jal, listen to this hadith my brothers, because you and I all have children. If you don't implement this today, then you lost the opportunity. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said in a Hadith also authentic, very rarely mentioned and quoted. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, that mentor alum Al Quran, fee shall be better he whoever learns the Quran, while he's a young man, or a young woman, if tolerable, Quran will be like me here with me.

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The Quran becomes mixed into his blood and into his flesh as well. It becomes part of him, it becomes part of her, no matter what happens even if time goes by, they can always go back and recollect it because they did it when they were children or when they were young. And when they had that energy. The prophets have said let me continue with and he said, Woman to alemayehu Fie Kibera, he and whoever learns it as he grows older, and he's become older, fell away and fell into Minho. Then the Quran keeps leaving him. He tries, but leaves him he tries or she tries, but he forgets or she forgets one thing and then forgets another, but the one who does it as a child, and that's why

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those children of yours if you want the Quran in their lives, this is the time this is the opportunity. Don't cheapskate

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In this particular domain, you can send send your children to all sorts of sports and you can send them to cross training, and you can send them to everything and pay big bucks for that. You can send them for martial arts.

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But unless you get a teacher, and they sit with your child, and they teach them, and they regularly do, so, you will not be able to give this nanometric your child, you will not be able to,

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you can try, but you will not be able to fully have this netmail within the life of your child.

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Yes, the Saturday schools are great. And we have a Saturday school here as well. Yes, the Sunday schools are great, but that's part time, it's not going to work. If you really want the Quran completely in the life of your child. You want them to learn how to read and hamdulillah maybe they'll be able to accomplish that on a Saturday on a certain Sunday. If you do that part time than the Quran will always be part time in the life of your child. You want the snare drummer, you want to be that parent who has a child who's whose head is crowned with a crown of wakame.

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And they have to spend time

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you want to be that parent who on the day of judgment comes and Allah azza wa jal gives him a whole Latane as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam described, you want to be that parent that you have to spend the time you have to spend the resources, you have to get yourself a teacher for your children, you have to make sure that you are investing within the scope just as you're willing to invest in all sorts of other scopes as well. You know, when you go to a teacher, when you go to a teacher, and you want your children to learn martial arts, do you ever negotiate with the teacher and you say, You know what, I can't pay 150 or $200, a week or three weeks or whatever else. But

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when you want to hire a teacher to teach your children, the Quran, I guarantee you every one is going to negotiate. Because you don't really care for this Quran.

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If you wish to have it, you would be doing this by any means necessary. If you wanted that crown for your children, on the Day of Judgment, you would do anything, you would pay any price. If you wanted to have that cloak on yourselves, you would do anything.

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So if you want the Quran, you have to do anything for it. You want the Quran, you have to be willing to pay any price. You want the Quran, you have to do it regularly. It has to be part of your life. It has to be not a part time thing you need to make sure you're doing it on a regular basis. And of course they could do it when they get older as well. But this would be a favor that you favored your children with which they can never repay you for and that's why Allah Hara Bula is evil Jalil is the one who will repay you, my dear brothers in my dear sisters. Another thing you will be doing for your child by bringing the Quran within their lives is that you will make them among the people who

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will be under the shade of Allah azza wa jal on the Day of Judgment. The Prophet told us in that very famous hadith of seven people that will be under the shade of Allah on the Day of Judgment, that shade of the Throne of Allah azza wa jal on the day of judgment.

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And the prophets I said, Let me said, one of them is Shaban Nisha Fei Riba, that Allah, a young man who grew up worshipping Allah azza wa jal, and what better worship can you ensure that your children are doing than for them to be reading the Quran? So this reading of the Quran and prophethood all of these things are usually given to people who are young, the Prophet, even more Abbas or the Allahu taala. And he told us in a hadith, the Prophet sallallahu IDNA Abbas, he said, he said that Allah had never sent a prophet, except that he was a young man. And he continued, and he said that a person is never given knowledge except that he's a young man as well. Because at that time, you have

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the energy you have the ability, you're able to, to persevere, you're able to read you're able to spend those extra hours. This is your opportunity. As your children are young, you establish good habits within their lives. And you make sure that you give them this gift I ask Allah Subhana Allah to make the Quran habia Kobina. When also during are SallAllahu ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala early you are so heavy here.

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Without him the love salatu salam ala Rasulillah Alhamdulillah Hamden UF in your AMA, who are you Cafe owners either or so Allah Allahu Allah Sakina Mohamed Anwar Allah early he was gonna be here as remain.

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But your brothers and my dear sisters, the second thing that I want to tell you about is I want you to make dua for your children. Make dua for your children. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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He said in a hadith, he said that there are three to us, three to us that are always accepted. There are three to us that will always be accepted.

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What are those three of us? Or who are those three derives from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and one of them he said, what better way to inwardly deliver the, one of the three types of donors that are accepted is the dua of the father for his child. So when you make dua for your children, as parents, Allah, Allah azza wa jal accepts this too, and that's why the prophets of God, they will all make dua, and you see, there are two people in the Quran about whom Allah Subhana Allah, Allah says there there is a great example for us in those two. One of them is our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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left by the Quran, Allah confini rasool Allah azza wa jal, Hassan, this is when it comes to the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And then Allah also said that there's also a hacer una for us in Ibrahim when livina Ma, and also the people that were with Ibrahim Ali Sarah. So there's a an example for us in the Prophet Muhammad and there's also an example for us in Ibrahim Ali salaam, and Ibrahim Ali Salam used to make dua for a progeny in many places in the Quran. Allah tells us in Surah tube Rahim Allah says that Ibrahim had said what BJ had Bella than Amina. Oh Allah Bucha al hurdle, Bella Domina, oh Allah make this land perfected, make this land peaceful, make it comfortable, make it easy, make it make it a place of security incident serenity for the people. And he would say that, Oh Allah protect me. And also

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my children from ever worshipping other than you protect me and my children from worshipping the idols, protect us from worshipping the idols. So this is a dua that Ibrahim Ali Salam is making for his children. And he would say, or beat your honeymoon theme of Salah to Allah make me among the people who established the prayer, and also from our children make people who establish the prayer and oh Allah except my dua as well. And so Korea Ali Salam, he would make to as well. And he would say that Oh Allah, give me a beautiful progeny. So they're all making dua for their children, and they're always making dua that Allah azza wa jal grants them a beautiful progeny. But the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he told us to the opposite effect as well, just as the dua of the parents is accepted for the children. Similarly, the dua of the parents can be accepted against the children as well. And there's a myth that people have, they say, You know what, I was just saying that and I'm a parent, Allah knows my intention. That whiny the Prophet told us don't make dua against your children. He literally said this, in a hadith were verbatim word for word, the prophets Allah said, Let me said, Let the rule Allah and fusi come, don't make dua against yourselves. Why not doesn't rule Allah, Allah decom. And don't make dua against your children. This is an authentic

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hadith in Sahih. Muslim

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to me to her against your children, when you make dua against your children, some of those highs are accepted. And among the examples of that, is the example that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he gave us of three children who spoke while they're still in the cradle. He said that one of them was isa Alayhis Salam, and one of them was the child that was with George H. And the story of Jurij. Or George in English is that he used to be a used to be a person of worship from the Israelites. And he was inside of his temple and he was worshiping Allah azza wa jal, when from afar his mother came, and she said, Yeah, your age. Oh, George.

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And so he said, hola, hola, amigos, el Salam, O Allah. Should I look at what my mom is saying? Or should I continue to pray? Then he chose his prayer. The second day again. The mother came, and she said, Yeah, your age. And then in some of the reports, she said, I'm your mother speak to me. So George, he said, that

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Allahumma Emile Salatin, Oh Allah, should I choose my mother? Or should I use my shoes, my prayer. So he chose his prayer. And the third day again, same thing happened. And Judah he chose his prayer at that moment. The mother of Jurij. Jurij is a famous worshipper of Israel at that time, and they are the people of the religion at that time as well. So

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The mother she said, Hola Hola. Hola to meet who had to Rhea who would you help me with that? Oh Allah don't let this man die until you let him see the faces of the prostitutes. So some time went by. And the bento is sort of in there we're speaking to one another. And some of them they said Jura, he is such a beautiful man and he worships God. And one of one day this prostitute, she overheard the conversation. And she said, You think he's a person of righteousness? I will show you I'll make him fall. So they said, Okay, let's see if you can make him fall. She goes to his temple, and she tries to make them fall, but he doesn't fall. So then she finds another man and commits Zina

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with that man, and this person was a shepherd. And she has a child from this relationship outside of wedlock. And when she had this child,

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she went to the people and she said, here's the proof that I made them fall.

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So all of them are is sort of ill they went and they started breaking the Temple of Jurij, down one brick at a time. And he was praying, he doesn't know what's happening. So he comes down, and he looks at what's happening and they start beating him as well. And then he said, Tell me what happened. He said, Your they said, you're asking us what happened. And here's a child you've had outside of wedlock. And you tell us, you're a preacher, and you're, you're a person of worship and this and that and the other. So he said, This is not my child, give me a minute. He went and started making dua to Allah azza wa jal. Then he came back, and he poked that child in the stomach, and the

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child spoke. This was one of the three people three children who spoke in the cradle. Hadith in Sahih, Muslim and the child he said that my father is the shepherd of the sheep.

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So then they started apologizing to George. But what happened? He lost his reputation. There's a scandal around him. People, all of the goodness that he had people, they started to look at him in the wrong way. All of that, because the pain mother made against her child. If she was to go back to herself after she saw what had happened, would she ever ever done that? Is there a parent who will ever want to harm their own child? No parent who has a heart will ever want to do that. Don't make dua against your children that do against your children is accepted, just as the dua for your children is also accepted as well. I ask Allah subhana wa Taala to grant us children of

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righteousness Allah humma Amin, I ask Allah Allah, Allah azza wa jal LAN to grant us children who are righteous or bene habla and I mean, as wodgina was reacting to what your Tokina II mama Robina Nash Khurana amateur Keleti Ananda Elena, what Allah wa Idina what not Annamma la sala Hunter LA who Aslan enough is RIA Tina in tupuna earache. We're in nominal Muslimeen Robina. muesli Mina luck, woman Zuri yachting Oh, mama Muslim better luck, arena Manasi Kana whatever. Elena in NACA entered the web Rahim. Robina attina fit dunya Hassan Orfila harati Hasina Latina Agha now we're at Villanelle Jannetty Abrar Yeah, as is we have a fall for Athena salata in the solitaire tinha and

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