To Marry or Not – All About Istikhara
Channel: Abdul Wahab Saleem
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To Marry or Not to Marry – All About Istikhara by Abdul Wahab Saleem
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So it seems that the sisters have truly outnumbered the brothers on this one. What did I?
So the topic of our discussion today, as you must have already seen in the
in the pamphlet on the flyer was to marry or not to marry. And the reason why I called it that essentially wasn't maybe some of you can see that there
don't think that's a good idea. So the topic of the discussion, as I said, is to marry or not to marry. And the reason why I called it that was because whatever the concept of his daughter comes around, the
foremost thing that people think about is what marriage,
the entire life goes by. And a person has never even heard of a staccato but when he or she is about to get married. everybody's like, go and make us too hot. I'll go and make it too hot. I don't try to put the YouTube thing out again. Okay.
All right, good. So
the idea is that because people have connected this concept so closely to marriage, I thought that it may be appropriate for me to call it that. And also, the other thing is that there's another aspect to which a lot of people have connected as to hada as well. And that's like the that's like a punch line in marriage.
Everybody knows it. If you're married, you must know it. And if you don't, I'm telling you now,
people sometimes when they have marital problems, they say,
my husband, my wife I've made is the hall. And what do they mean by that?
What do they mean by that? they mean by that I've made it harder as in it's time for us to, you know, separate. So when they're about to separate, they also think about Suharto again, and, you know, that's the only time two times most of the time times people remember this concept of as the hot tub but in reality, it's too hot or has a beauty within it in that it helps us get through life at every single phase in every single moment. Any decision that you're making,
whether it be very small, whether it be very, very big. The profits of Allahu alayhi wa sallam at our estimate make is too hot. And that's why jabil villa in a famous editor of his, he said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to teach us to make this taharah feel more equally in every single matter. So no matter no matter what matter it is, the profitsystem would teach people to make us to hotter in it. Because it's the hora is a little bit greater than just, I have this big decision to make. And this is a ritual, it's a little bit bigger than that. It's you trying to get closer to Allah subhana wa tada remember the theme of our discussions when we're talking about
Sudoku this last last month was much to do with the heat connecting to a lots of panel data. Well, you know what, it's too hot is another form of you connecting to Allah subhanaw taala. This is how you have to proceed, proceed it, this is your way of connecting to a lot. When times get tough. You need some you need to shoulder to cry to because the life is not just going the right direction, you need some decisions to make you need a word of advice on which way you should be going. Your first and foremost place to find advice is where a loss of handle, but that doesn't mean that you don't ask people that may have information about the specific situation that you're in, as well. Like for
example, someone in trouble with the law, may Allah subhanaw taala preserve us, then you go to a lawyer, but also when you're picking your lawyer you may want to now make is to have think about which way which direction should you be going to, because now you're up against the real decision.
Now you're up against the decision, which may be not enough may not be enough for you to simply ask people, sometimes you get into like you have two people in marriage, we're talking about marriage, right? somebody thinks about getting married, and they have two candidates, the sister, she knows that there's two, two brothers interested in her and they're the brother and he's interested in more than one sister so on and so forth. She doesn't know what they make, which decision to make which one to go with. And a sister doesn't know which one she should go with as well. It's too hot or comes into play. It's a loss of Hannah with the other helping you make a decision. And historically,
pagan practices. The people of old Johnny Lee people, ignorant people, pre Islamic people, they would have another practice similar to this as well. And that was known as an example. When Islam and Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the Quran, enamel hammer will maizuru when unsavoury when Islam is
Assuming I'm going to ship on, indeed, drinking, indeed, gambling, indeed, pagan worship in general, and Islam specifically, is religion, its impurity.
And what exactly is this Islam is a practice of old people have different renditions of this practice even till today. And I'll give you one an example which I know you'll relate to it yourself as well. But the idea is that there are certain practices that were there before that people would use to make decisions. And Allah subhanaw taala, give them another choice. And that is the heart of what they would do is they would have arrows in a bag, and they would put these arrows in the bag, and they would shake it. And after having shaken the bag, they would put draw their hand and or they would put their hand into the bag, and then draw an arrow out. What are those arrows would have
written on it? I'm not on your ob, Allah has commanded me. And the second arrow would say, Nahanni Allah,
that Allah Subhana, Allah has forbidden me. And the third arrow would have nothing written on it.
So if the first one comes, I'm not on your be allies commanded me, they would say, Okay, well, now I can travel, if it was related to travel, if they were trying to make a decision. Well, if it was related to marriage, they would say, Okay, well, now I can go ahead and get married. And if it was related to something else, then they would make a decision accordingly, and if the second one came out, then they would stop. And if the third one came out to try again until they come to a decision, and also some of the people of old, they would also do another practice. And that was known as a theater and the profitsystem said, Now theater, and another duration, the profitsystem, set up Liana
to shake that this whole idea of theater is, is associating partners in a sense of the loss of power. And what's the arrow, and that is that
a bird is in front of you. And that's what they would do. We don't do that. But we haven't we have other things that are similar to this in our, in our cultures. So what they will do is if there will be a bird in front of them, they're coming out of their house to see a bird or something and they need to make a decision. They will try to harsh that bird away. So it flies. And if it goes to the right, then what do you think it is positive.
If it goes to the left,
then it's negative.
And then sometimes they will not even meet harsh their bird away, they will just wait for a bird to fly look around for a bird. And essentially, they would practice this specifically for the crow. And then the practice developed over time. And they started practicing it to all birds, and then slowly but surely, animals, other things, anything that they could find a good and a bad omen. They started to
take that with into their lives, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he did not approve of this and the pagan Arabs they went so far, to the degree that they started to even paint the prophets and messengers in this manner.
One day, the prophets of send them on the day of In fact, the conqueror of Mecca, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had entered the harem. And when he entered the Kaaba, inside of the Kaaba, there was pictures and idols. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Did not I did not want to enter until all of those would be cleared up.
And one of the things and the profits and send them solid, and one of the things that the prophet SAW sent him saw
before they were cleared up was that Ibrahim and his marine were standing and they had in their hands this Islam that I was talking about his arrows that I was talking about, so they were drawing the arrows. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said pata whom Allah, Allah subhana wa tada go to war with them, as in the people, people that are drawn this particular image. In his step semma be as D'Amico. They have never ever done this is the exam, this idea of taking arrows out of a bag ever before it's Mary and Ibrahim, because there are of course, there were there were people of monotheism, monotheism, what is known by Ibrahim and they said them that's how we refer to militar
Ibrahim, the religion of Ibrahim Ali Sara monotheism to all cultures and all religions is known by Ibrahim Ali Salaam. So these people they started to go to a degree where they even painted the pictures of Ibrahim and is married in this manner, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was enraged at that.
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had also told us that he would love and full and we have numerous narrations where the prophets on cinema taught us to scan it and if you saw Selim, or other people have told about the Prophet SLM can interview solo he was sending you the profits and send them used to love positivity. short arm is like when you see something awkward for example, people in certain societies they have a problem with
The block app. So they see a block cap, you look at it and they'll say, Oh, this is a problem. Right? The prophet SAW Selim did not love this particular type of behavior, your work call should entirely be in Allah subhanaw taala the trust should be fully in Allah subhana wa Tada. And for that reason that people will go to people that would be palm readers, people that would be when I mean people that will be a stroller, people that would be engaged in astrology, and so on and so forth the profits and send them through a loss of Hana with Allah, Allah gives him this practice of Alister hora. What exactly is this practice of it is to haul it, it's too hot comes from the word
Hi, are here, linguistically,
linguistically comes from the word Hyatt or Kyoto goodness or choice is different.
Every time you have the word insert, in the beginning of any word, or most words, you'll notice that it has this tendency of changing the meaning so to mean that wanting this ballclub seeking this, so you're seeking goodness, and you're seeking choice. Remember, we said it comes from Hollywood, and Sierra. So it's the harder means to look for that goodness. And to look for that choice as well. But the choice removed from a loss of Hannah with that. So now when you make it as staccato for anything, let's say you're picking your college or deciding on what university to go to, you need to make it to heart all about that, because that's a big decision. And you it doesn't have to be a big
decision, by the way. And it doesn't have to be decisions when you're not certain about sometimes people saying it's all about certainty, if you're certain of a matter, then you know what, that's fine, you can go ahead without these 200, even if you're certain, go ahead and do is to harder, because how often is it that we're certain of goodness, being in something, but in reality ends up being in something else.
Our loss of Hannah with data says this one, Takahashi and maybe you hate something, and I love what's good in it. And maybe you love something, I love what's bad in it. So you may love something, you think that this is good for you. But in reality, it's bad for you. And as I said that this particular idea, this is why it's so strongly connected to marriage, because at times, we're not able to decipher whether this person is going to be good for us or not until we actually live with them on a regular basis until we actually you know, see them on a regular basis. With the makeup, it looks all fine and dandy, but when you wake up and seven o'clock in the morning, and it looks a
little bit different now. So that is the heart I will help you make that decision, inshallah.
The Sahara will help you make that decision.
And this is linguistically, but in terms of a more technical definition, or the legal definition of is the harder it means that that particular act of worship, which Allah Subhana Allah has legislated,
in which a person prays to lock us two units of prayer. And after the two prayer two units of prayer, he makes a specific drop. What's that specific bra? I will share it in shalom data during our lesson number one, number two at the same time, what we can do is if you can sign up with the brothers give your emails will emailed out to you. So it's easy for you. It's accessible.
So a person prays to workers in prayer. And after the prayer, what happens after the prayer, you have this person he makes a certain plot. And what's that draw and chart along with data we'll definitely definitely get to that this in a nutshell is the hardest, but I want to share over here something that along with the staccato Remember we said there's also this concept of is the shadow. And that is to sort of seek counsel with people. Sometimes you're making a decision in life. You can't make the right decision until you seek counsel with people, right. And then if somebody else is making a decision on your behalf, if they make the decision solely what happens.
Let's say your parents are deciding your future. You know, you're from those South Asian families who can only study medicine and engineering. That's it.
So if you're any if you're from the Arab, you can maybe become a pharmacist as well. Possibly. You have some leeway there.
The point is that
your parents are making that decision for you. How do you feel about that?
Excellent because this is being recorded by the way.
So you don't feel so good. It's a reality. Let's face it, somebody else makes your decision for you. And you've got your mind made up with something else. You're not gonna feel too good.
And we say we have within Islam this concept of other we have within this within Islam this concept of Divine Decree right
And that means that a loss of Hannah with Allah has written for everybody everything that will be till the day they die, including how much food they will eat. But at the same time, Allah subhanaw taala has given the decisions within the hands of the people. So if you make a choice all by yourself, and you now have the room, to, you know, hindsight is 2020 you start looking behind and look at that decision, you realize it's a bad decision. How do you think you'll feel about yourself? You'll say to yourself, this is the father of a lot and you'll start hating it, disliking it. This is the decree of Allah and you'll start disliking it. So Allah Subhana Allah has given you room to
seek counsel with Allah subhana wa Tada. So it's a way of consoling an individual and you know what people that are fried it they know this, that when you make is too hard or even if you feel like what you've done is bad. You feel consoled at the fact that you made it harder to Allah subhanaw taala you consulted Allah subhana wa tada in your decision and this is one of the beauties of this concept of is to hado
it's the harp is something that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam hadn't been reported to do, but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had encouraged it. And it was a it was an auction and the reason for that is because the profits are low it will send a notice that he I think Salatu was set on was an individual that was divinely guided
the profits or send them was taken care of by Allah Subhana Allah so even if we don't have a report with the profits I'll send them is doing is too hard on that is because he knows something to be everything is doing to be definitely good.
Do you see what I'm saying? You know, so everything that he's doing to be definitely good, but that's everybody that do something know what they're about to do is definitely good. The answer is no. But sometimes you know, something to be definitely good. Like for example, Allah commands you to do something. If Allah has commanded you to do something, is there any room now for you to make this too hot all about it? I last told you go ahead and pray five daily prayers. Is there any room for us to
know if Allah subhana wa tada has forbidden you from drinking? The person says I'm going to make is too hot. I'll wait till I get a dream and go for it. Allah Allah, right. So you can't do that.
You can make it harder for things that have already been done and over with a lie said this is how Tom, this is mukou even things that are disliked something that's disliked you don't make it harder to see if you should be doing it or not. You're not supposed to be doing it. That's it.
And something you're supposed to do you don't make it too hard to decide whether you should do it or not. However, things that are indifferent. That is what is the hot outcomes. Now remember, I said sometimes you may know something to be definitely good, but in reality, it's not. How can you know something to be definitely good or almost definitely good. But in reality, it's not. I'll give you an example. An example of that is the marriage of Xena.
Omen what meaning Xena
who had the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had asked for her in marriage.
So when ns came to her and he told her this
Zeynep said that not gonna be Sonia, I think she and had that I'm not gonna be
I'm not going to do anything until I go and ask my Lord.
So do you think that they never could have had a better husband than the prophet SAW Selim himself? Is that even possible?
Is that possible? Or no?
Is there anyone that would be a better husband than the prophets of the longer it was sent him? The answer is negative, and you have to be definite of this. So why is she going to do is to hora. It's not a commandment.
The prophets of Salaam is asking to get married to her. It's not a commandment, even though she knows it to be definite. She still goes and make us to homemade makes us to holla The reason why I bring this story here is to make you realize that even if you're almost sure of the fact that this is good, so long as it's not like a commandment, you go ahead and make it harder because maybe there will be something wrong, that Allah Subhana Allah will show you in this situation Xena was almost sure we can we can even say she was definite of the fact that she would have gotten herself into a good deal. But the answer is that but nonetheless, she said, I'm not going to do anything until I go
and ask Allah subhana wa Tada. So anything you do in your life, where it's indifferent, even if you think it's good, and even if in your brain, it's perceived to be very, very good. You still go ahead and make it's too hot and harder, can be done many, many times as well. Not it doesn't have to be one time
and in that, we have the story.
Abdullah in Zubaydah
are the alone gala, in which we have in history and example a time where the cowbell was burnt. Okay, the Kava started to burn.
when this started to occur or it started to break, so when this started because there was a war happening in that area. So when this happened after things settle down of the lightning zubaid and I'm cutting the story short of the lightens of bed, he asked the people should we rebuild the Kava, to make it look nice? or short? What should we do? Or should we just simply fix what's what we can see of the camera, the problems and that's the end of that just renovate the camera that we have before us?
So everyone I've asked him
and he said that I have a great decision on this matter of law and to see Hama wilhemina.
He said that fix up whatever you can see of it, and let the rest of it be. So whatever problems you can see go ahead and fix it whether there are beaten us lemon national, LA, and also leave this house this house of Allah Subhana Allah Allah upon which the Sahaba themselves and accepted Islam and everybody knows of this house and leave that very house, just with the same tiles just with the same bricks just with the same wall, just as it is, as it used to be when the profits are lower it was send them was sent down as a profit or sent as a profit when he was given profit.
So the lions debate he thought and thought and thought and then he said, Look, at that time, Mecca was under the rule of the lions debate. Of course, it was under the siege and this was this was a time of a lot of fitna in the Muslim ummah. And then it's settled down after that. So the lemons debate.
He said, think about it. If one of you were to have a house that got burnt down, none of you would be happy until you fix the entire house and not just renovate the portions that have gotten damaged.
forgave every bayfield have become Then what about the house of your Lord then? And the house to which everyone directs their worship? How about that? So he said, Okay, what I'm going to do it in the booster hearing, or B cell and I am going to do is taharah how many times three times he's going to do is too hot up three times. And then after he did it three times. Then he made his decision. And then he fixed up the GABA. And of course, he did a little bit of an extension in the Kaaba as well at that time, just as a tangent. What he did is that essentially the prophets all along while he was setting them. When he had received power Dominion within Mecca, he had told it Chateau de La
da da da, he said Lola and another Hadith where I had him
if the people weren't to be recent Muslims basically. Okay, recently, just a little while ago, there used to be non Muslims. If they weren't to be of this nature, then what would I have done? I would have broken this scabbia down and then included within it.
Or rather just included within it. The way a smiling salon had made the Cabernet Brahim. Because if you have ever seen the cabinet, there's like a little semicircle on the corner of it. Does anybody know that? Raise your hands if you know it. Okay, on the one hand of the camera, there's like a little semicircle. So that part of that semicircle and not the entire semicircle used to actually be part of the gabbeh. But then what happened was it got destroyed. And after it got destroyed, the pagan Arabs, they wanted to make sure that they only rebuilt the cabin upon pure wealth. And they weren't. They weren't very wealthy of people. And a lot of their wealth was mixed with, with things
that were impermissible. So what they decided to do is this decided to keep only the amount that they can find and halaal permissible money and build the GABA based on that. So when they did they weren't able to complete the structure. So their profits I send them said, had I known that your people wouldn't revolt, then I would have taken this entire guy taking the GABA and included within it just as Mary, Arlene saddam had done so Abdullah COVID put it back to that structure. And then later on, it was also restructured to to be as it used to be during the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And the structure that we see today is that used as it used to be
during one of the time of the prophets of Salaam, so I'm delighted to have ABS he'd restructured it, but then it was restructured again, by just the next person in charge, it was restructured again and then after that it remained just that way and nobody
else want to change you back again, because they thought that, you know, maybe people will start making a joke about it. Every time a new lead comes, you'll say, Well, I'm fixing it back to the way it used to be during the time, then the next one comes, you'll say I'll fix it back to the way it used to be during the profits time, then then, you know, back and forth so they didn't want to make a joke out of this where they left it since that day, which is over 1000 years ago. Since that date, we've found that the Kava has remained just as it was during the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
So this is Abdullah Adnan's debate also hobby making his taharah three times that means that the is the harder can be made more than once no problem.
And there was other Sahaba during that time available as well as you notice he had a conversation will do if you're a bus, so if not a bass was there as well. And he said that to him directly. This shows us that you can go ahead and make it harder again and again. Don't just settle for one, you're now consulting Allah subhana wa Tada. You want to be able to do that as much as possible. Do it once pray tonight guys.
I'm going to describe the scenario is too hot again. So it really settles into your head, pray to God and after you pray that you guys go ahead and make dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala, which to us, inshallah, tada, we will be studying that there are just now Okay. What is that there are and what is the Hadith that basically establishes for us this concept of is to call that is the Hadith as I said, of jargon, or the low data. And there's other ideas as well. We'll simply look at this one, guide and abuse along with them. You are eliminating none is the hottest Harada Phil gulia. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to teach us is to harder in all of our fears, every single
And then notice he says you are limitless, the hora, he said teach it to us.
And then he continued to explain how keen the profits of cillum was on teaching it because surah t Miller put on, he would teach us teach it to us, can I eliminate Surah miniport, just as he would teach us a surah from the Koran. Now we know that the Sunnah of the Prophet send them a time that's not narrated verbatim.
And that's fine. When I speak to you, and I give you a statement, you will pass my message on to somebody else does it have to be verbatim? The answer is no. But generally, the amount of Heidi's would stay as close to the wording of the messenger as possible. So that doesn't have to be verbatim because this is the speech of a man, the idea is the concept that he's discussing.
Now, on the other end, we have the Koran, which is what
this is different. Now. This is the word of God. And that's what he said, this is miraculous in nature. So this has to be verbatim. And it's always been verbatim. And the proof of the fact that it's verbatim is because the fact that if you were to pick up manuscripts 1200 years ago, and you have manuscripts that old 1000 years ago, you were to pick up manuscripts 800 years ago, none of them are at all variant, they're all the same.
All over the generations have always remained the same. So the odd is verbatim, it's been transmitted verbatim, and you're not allowed to change even a vowel with it.
Now considering this, one job is saying that he would teach it to us as he would teach us to hold on what does that mean?
That means you have to learn this to verbatim learn exactly what the doctor says, Do not make your own job for yourself.
You don't make your own job. You make the other the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had made for us another example of how the prophets of cinema taught someone to make a certain dollar verbatim was at the shadows as well. He would teach people to shadow a shadow
or salado, you teach that there are how verbatim as well. So those are certain drivers that the prophets of sentiment taught us to do in a verbatim manner. No notice the prophet SAW Selim continued, and he said either Hannah, when one of you decides makes a decision
makes a decision to do what any decision in your life, but the wording that's used is hammer. And what exactly does this word mean? Do we have any candidates to give me an answer?
Come on, everybody knows what the word ham means. A lot of people that speak Arabic must know.
worry. Um, yeah, that's like him. That that is kind of there but it's not exactly what I'm looking for here. Basically, whenever when someone decides whenever someone thinks about, but we in terms of thought thought process in the head, we have different levels of thought. Okay. We have a level of thought that is called him then we have
another level of thought, and that's called limb, then we have another level of thought. And that's called the hospital. And these basically three levels of thought are that level of thought where you don't actually have a resolve to do something. Okay, you don't have a full resolve, they may be a different degree, sometimes your thinking around 30% 40%, sometimes you will be thinking less, sometimes you might be thinking more, you see what I'm saying.
So the profits is synonym is basically saying that whenever you have that 30 40%, even then you can go ahead and do yours too. You see what I'm saying? Even then you can go ahead and do that, and suhara, and you do it. And when you leave it, you're sure you left it for good reasons. Because the Prophet salallahu it was setting them had assured us that a person that does is too hot on he will never have remorse,
he will never be a person that does is to shout or a person that seeks counsel, he won't have remorse, and a person that makes us the heart of this person will definitely never be in loss, you'll always be assured of the fact that what he's done is right. So we have these three levels of thought. And then we have a higher degree of thought as well. And that is called inada.
And azeema, and Nia, so these are a bit higher. Now, this is when you start to get a resolve, you start to think definitely of the thought that you're going to go into this. So even when you start to think definitely, you can go ahead and make a staccato as well. Okay, and the reason why I made that differentiation is because some scholars, they said, you don't make it in the first set, you only make it when you get the errata when you start to have a result. So now you're actually thinking about getting yourself into this adopt point, that's when you make is to holla This isn't a thought that some people have said or they said no you know what, even if you're around 30% you're
not just a thought that's coming to you and you know, it's bothering you go ahead and admit it's the harder and get yourself cleared up. You know, if you decide not to do it now, you would have done the right thing
failure, or katene then let him do two workers then let him pray to workers. And based on this, the scholars said that you have to pray to workers, no less than that. And why do I say no less than that? Because there is a law that is a little bit less than that.
Does anybody know of any prayer that is a little bit less than two little guys with it yes with it.
So can you go ahead and make us the huddle afterwards?
The answer is the profits are synonyms Ed Sayaka alacati then let him do tonight guys min Hayden for the other two lockers that are not considered obligatory so not obligatory prayers and they have to be two lockers and they can be more than two if you please but the best is to do them in units of two and go ahead and pray your is to make her there if it's too hot out after that to arcos
mins latest video blog prayers that are not obligatory so after fudger even though it's too late guys, we don't make us to hump we can do it after according to some scholars we can do it after Sooners, okay, you have this enough idea you want to do is to how to after that, go ahead and do it. No problem, no qualms nobody's gonna stop you. But the best thing to do is to do two separate records that are just for the sake of this is to help you do to go ahead and use those two records to get closer to Allah Subhana Allah. And also then make that dog. Now let me ask you something. Notice that there's a law and there is also a dog right? In the door, you're going to be asking a
law about what something related to your worldly life normally, you're trying to make a decision. If it's something related to your hair after we said you don't need to make us too hot off, we know it's good, it's good. Something that is really good. No problem. We don't have to ask Allah subhanaw taala he's already told us to do it. Praying Salah he's already told us doing Hajj, he's already told us, right?
So you're doing a do r for something related to the dunya. And then you're doing is a law which is something related to the hereafter. And there's a hidden meaning within this practice. And that is the fact that when you do these two things, you're trying to tell the loss of data that I want whatever I'm doing to be good for me in this life and I want it to be good for me in the hereafter as well. And that's why this is part and parcel of that itself as well. I want it to be good in this life and I want it to be good in the hereafter as well. I'm going to take a little step think with me, ponder with me. I don't want to lose anybody. Anybody that gets lost is gonna have to walk out
of this room.
Come on man smile, didn't know. I was trying to make people laugh.
So anybody that gets lost
You can just raise your hand and I'll try to, I'll try to address it. And so
we said that you can only do this for indifferent acts. But at times, you can also do it for acts that are obligatory and acts that are that are preferable. Now I'm contradicting myself,
because I just previously told you that that's not permissible. Or that's not how you do it.
You don't do it to figure out whether this act is good for you or not. You can do it when you're trying to decide where you have to acts of worship, which one should you do?
Okay, so for example, you have two acts of worship. That is that you can either let's say, you can work in your days during University at the masjid or you can volunteer at the MSA. Now, of course, there's no doubt you should be doing it for the MSA. Right.
Um, but you're trying to make the decision, you only have enough hours in your life to either do this or that. So you're trying to make your decision. Now, you can go ahead and make this too hard on to help you make your decision. Right. They're both good things, you have an obligation to Allah subhana wa, Tada. That is to make hedge.
To make hedge, you don't necessarily have to make the hedge right away. Even if you have the wealth, according to the Sharia, yeah, you can go and do it the next year or the year after, and so on and so forth. But if you die, then you're going to be responsible for delaying it. In the court of Allah subhanaw taala. But you can delay it this year, you're not sure if it's going to be the perfect scenario for you, you have the money. So you make your it's harder to decide whether this year you should be doing it, or should you be doing it next year. That's okay, as well. You see what I'm trying to say? So it's not about whether this obligation is good for me or not. It's an obligation
you have to do. And now if you're dealing with an act of worship, where you have no choice, you have to do it. For example, prayer. So lots of you can't say Should I pray in our time? And let me make us too hot about it. No, you go ahead. And by the time you make it, you get a break. Look.
So go ahead and pray you're low on time because there's no choice in that particular scenario.
Okay, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, He then said so many apples, then let him say, let him say what?
he said that,
Oh Allah, now you're making your as to hotter now you're getting into your DAW itself. Now, let me ask you a question for a second.
This or are you supposed to do it after your prayer or between your prayer or when is it supposed to be?
It's supposed to be after the prayer. This is what some of them are. They said, according to other such as if we say Mia, he said that you can do it. You can do it during your prayer right at the end. Or you can do it after your prayer like right out right at the end after prayer when you say setup. So if a person wishes to do that is to huddle.
After the prayer, you can go ahead and do that. And if you wish to do during your prayer, you can go ahead and do that as well. Now another thing to note over here is that this is a drop, this is a drop. So even if you're doing it outside of prayer, any other job you've ever learned in your life of their art, you can implement it now. This is something that a lot of people forget. You're basically making your art almost
any other that you've ever learned in your life. About the art, this is your time to implement it. Why? Because you want your daughter to be accepted. It's not like a magic potion. You make us too hard on the work. No, you make your istikhara and challah work if Allah subhanaw taala accepts your accepts you're turning in servitude to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So this is really important to note, it is
a time for you to cry your heart out when you're making that door either the profits or send them has taught you and inshallah tada we're just going to be learning it now when you're making that are that the prophets of Allah where it was cinemas taught you, this is your time to totally turn to Allah subhana wa that
that there are goals as such.
The prophet SAW Selim said, somebody upon then he should say, he, after the Tisha hood, after the solitary, solitary Bohemia, after the all of the prayers that you're supposed to do after all this applications that you're supposed to do in the final Tisha hood, after that, or after saying that I'm ready to come up with the law said I'm ready for either one.
So, when you're about to make your dry now, you say Allahumma Iniesta Hiroko. Oh Allah
I am doing is to harder with you through you're in.
And remember we said is too hot our means Bala will hear seeking the choice from Allah subhanaw taala. And it also means bubble height seeking goodness from Allah subhana wa at that. So you're now it's your opportunity to turn to a law with your heart. You know in absolute mind, imagine if somebody comes to you you can notice people, Allah subhanho wa Taala can look deep inside of people, you get when somebody comes to you and asks you a question. You can see the sincerity within that question, you can see the lack of sincerity. Sometimes people ask me a question. And I recognize that the purpose of the question is simply to cast me. That happens. By the way, sometimes people
have this thing within themselves, this die the sickness within themselves, where they just want to go and test people, they don't want to just think good of people their primary purposes. Let me test them and see if he makes a mistake. Let me test her and see if she makes a mistake.
Now the idea that I'm trying to get to over here is the fact that you are turning to a law think about the fact that you are supposed to have the most sincerest of intentions at this moment. Allah is going to notice your intention and according to that, the goodness in your deed is going to come according to that when you wake up at seven o'clock in the morning, that makeup makeup wouldn't have come off it. That's not funny.
So the point of the matter is that you have to make this though I sincerely and when and if you do a loss of penalty, Allah will give you that much though fear in the action that you're just about to do allow my knees to field Okay. Well, I stuck to the rotator quadratic. And also, I seek power from you through your portal. What does that mean?
That means that sometimes you are not able to do things, even if you're trying, you're trying really hard. Let's say you're trying to apply to University of Toronto, and you ended up having to settle for University of Alberta. If so. Oh, my goodness. I'm sorry. I'm very, very sorry. I'll write an apology letter. I used to go to Alberta. Okay, so let's say you're trying to do that. And
I'm not gonna try to offend anybody. No.
Calgary, I know that can that can work. So
the point is, you're trying to make a decision, right? And you know, that you're not able to you you it's not in your hand, either you're gonna get accepted or you're gonna get rich, it's not in your head. Right. So you see a stuck a doodle, tick, I am going to ask you for help or Allah subhanho wa Taala through your capability and sometimes upon Allah, you think you're not capable of doing something. And oftentimes, this happens to us as well in our lives, we try to do something and we're like this is there's no way this is going to happen. And people give you a lot of negativity about it as well. There's no way this is going to happen. But when the power comes from a loss of Hana
with data, then and only then will a person will be able to do an action and on the other end, sometimes people think they're going to be able to achieve it. You have a straight A student he thought he was gonna get into like the, you know, the best schools in the world but he's not able to do it. Because they don't see it didn't come from a law, the capacity the capability did not come from Allah subhana wa Tada. This is why he wants you to turn to him. is Allah mucuna Amina la he's in Santa Maria de la he had was a port used to say that if there was no help from Allah subhanho wa Taala for a person ponder this very carefully amazing line of poetry, write it down and think about
it at home. If a person doesn't have our own from a loss of help from Allah subhana wa tada then the first thing that is going to work against him is his own efforts. You try you try and you try and then you realize your own efforts are coming back to haunt you. They're not working in your favor anymore. So this is why we turn to a loss of data. And we not only asked him to make a good decision for us that has played and theater that has a choice and has goodness within it. We also ask Allah subhana wa tada to give us the capability to be able to handle this what Stephen doodle COVID put rhotic was a new campaign for the Likud lobby. And also I asked you a loss Aparna with the other men
for the weekend I'll be of your great virtue of your great
you know, of your great virtue. Because Allah subhana wa tada is very gracious, sir asking Allah subhana wa tada of his grand grace.
And remember, everything that you have within your life is from the grace of Allah subhana wa tada and this is part and parcel of Sunni Arpita. If you're a Sunni, this is part and parcel of your belief. And so knowing Gemma, I believe in this, that any goodness that you have within your life is what it's from the grace of Allah subhana wa Tada.
And there are other sects that have different beliefs in this regard, but we believe that any goodness that we have
From the grace of Allah subhana wa Tada. So unless or until you have grace from Allah, then you're not going to be able to get that goodness. And this is why the Arabian afterlife same thing, same thing goes for the afterlife as well. And this is why the profits on the long run he was selling them. He said that
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none of you will be entered into Jenna because of your actions. Sometimes we do action then we start looking at them. And we think that's upon a lot. Look what we've done for Allah sake. And you know what, when we're doing that when we have that sickness of our job, this is a destructive matter as the prophets of cinema called in another heading. You have the sickness of looking at your own actions and thinking I've done something great. Believe you me all the things that Allah subhana wa tada has given you, you haven't done anything to repay that. And this is why the prophets I send them said you will not enter into agenda because of your actions. So harbor shock, this is not even
you Oh prophet of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that not even in the hamadani alone, except that the prophets of sin accepted Allah subhana wa tada envelops me within His mercy.
So it's the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala, the grace of Allah subhanho wa Taala that if we get enveloped in, that's when we can have goodness within our life, for indicators to do wonders, for you know, for you or Allah are capable, and I'm not capable. When you are living on an island, and you don't, and I don't know, what, who you are, and you Oh, Allah knows the most eternal things.
So Allah Subhana, WA, let me I'm going to give you a little small example that's very relevant to you today. very relevant to you today, the very moment that you're living in at the moment, okay.
Yesterday, it was relevant. And it's always been, but these pressing times is becoming even more relevant. And that is the fact that look,
Allah Subhana, WA, tada knows everything. He knows that which is apparent, he knows that which is not apparent that which is hidden within things. Okay. I'm going to give you an example. And I've given this example before maybe even at this particular session last month, if you think about an egg,
and inside of an exit chick, now you have never seen that before in your life. When you see opening, what do you think is gonna happen in your mind?
come on left, please.
Okay, so the point of the matter is that you will have that particular feeling, okay? You will be shocked at it. And just imagine in yourself for a second in your mind, someone that has never ever seen an egg before.
They're looking at this egg opening up, they will be amused, very amused at the fact that there's something coming out of this egg, they've never seen it. Similarly, if anything, has something coming out of it, we're always afraid of what's within it unless we know what it is.
Unless we know what it is. a simpler example is you walk into your house and you can hear a lot of rattle. And you don't know if it's a rattlesnake or it's a mouse running around.
Or if there's a gunman you don't know. So you're going to approach the door very, very softly. And then and also swiftly because you don't want him to come out. And then either you lock it and call the cops and they find a rat inside of there. Or you'll try to open it and peek through, you know, the bottom or something to see if there's something there. Right? The idea is you're afraid of things that you haven't seen at people are always afraid of things that we haven't seen. And you as a person, you as a Muslim as you're walking outside, and people look at you, if you're apparently Muslim that is, and people see you they will sometimes judge you just because of the way you look
because why they don't know that nice person that you are deep down inside. They don't know that they've only heard things in the media and then they'll judge a book by its cover. This is a natural phenomenon. So similarly, the only one that can really know what's deep down inside of things so that the fear can go away and who
Allah subhana wa and this is why you say to Allah subhana wa tada in the catapulted For verily you are capable a lot and I'm not sure what the number one item and you know, and I don't know.
I don't know. So you don't know. And what that means is that you don't actually know what's inside of the matter. You may apparently look at it and it seems very glamorous. You may even move countries for that sake. You may even change universities for that sake since the joke I made. You know you may do that. But the point of the matter is University of Alberta is excellent
After dinner, why not after dinner? Or tell me that?
You Allahumma input data and leafy Dini on the ocean. A lot if you know this matter, to be good for my Dean and my hereafter as well
for my Dean, and my worldly life as well.
So it's a matter of Deen and dunya over here you have to look at you're making dua to Allah subhana wa tada for both the deen and you're making your art to Allah subhanho wa Taala for your worldly life as well. And this is why we said the prayer is consisting of two things in which you're going to be asking Allah subhana wa tada what you should be doing right. And at the same time you're praying to a lot making him recognize that you want the hereafter as well. And within the door, you're also mentioning that and if you know this matter a lot to be good for me in my religion, and in my life as well. While after that, you Emily and my ending as well.
Then go ahead and go ahead and make it possible for me. Okay, and some books, you'll see. Oh, Ana RGV Aminu rgdp. You can see that but you don't have to. Because the author is basically trying to tell you that in certain other narrations, we have that other wording as well, which basically means the same thing that we've already said your current life and your hereafter. That's all that means. But within another word, * the dude who Lee then make it possible for me. If you think this is good for me, then make it possible for me, because it's only a loss of data that will make it possible.
Because we say all the time Now hold on what up with that in lavinda. What does that mean? There is no capability. And there is no power except because of a loss of power without except through Allah subhana wa Tada. And some said that this da da, da went up with the 11 law, it's a little bit different. And that is that now hold on a fourth, that means there is no capability for an individual to turn themselves from evil. If you're ever struggling in turning yourself away from evil, you have friends that you know you shouldn't be having you go sometimes to places that you shouldn't be going to and we all do sometimes, right? So the way to do that is constantly say this
now, how would I went up with that in London? There is no How would I not see it in Latin America, there is no capability to turn oneself from evil, why not? Who would have went out the bar and there is no capability for a person to do obedience of Allah subhanaw taala except with a loss of penalty. So at the end of the day, whenever you're in that tough time where you think you need to turn back to Allah subhana wa Tada. But you are unable to do that. The way to do that is to remind yourself of this particular concept, that it is from a law that you will get the capability. And then if you want to add to that, start making this to that I will know what up with that 11 that there is no
capability of turning away from sin and there is no capability of doing goodness except with the capacity that is granted by Allah subhanho wa Taala thought to do hoody, when you're silly, and then make it easy for me as well. Sometimes we make things we do things in our lives. We always hear these stories, right? Sometimes a brother met a sister or something like that week later they were married. And then they're asked for the rest of their lives. What were you thinking? One week, Really? Why? Because Allah made it easy for them. That's what happened. They made their it's too hot off and a lot paved the way through for them. Everything was made very, very easy to do to hoody
while still hoody, some are directly fee and then Oh Allah put the Buttercup within this action form.
Put the Baraka within this action form in Baraka basically means two things. Number one, it means number one, and number two, it means that number one, it means no more, which means an increase, okay, a positive increase. So when you ask Allah Subhana Allah to put Baraka in your auction, you're asking a lot to make your auction more wide spreading, if it's a dour project and you make us too hot off right notice Allah subhana wa tada will make it widespread. If it's you know, marriage, inshallah you have a lot of children. You have Baraka in your marriage. Nonetheless, the idea is that sometimes you you also see this as well, sometimes people get married prior to that the brother
and the sister like they're not able to find a job, but they get married. And people are like, Are you crazy? Why are you getting married? They made a lot of put Baraka within their lives alone make things easy for them. They the brother got a job and the sister of she wanted to work she got a job as well. And now they're doing very good. Why? Because Allah had put the Baraka within their lives so methodically for you and of course, for marriage, I recommend that. Go ahead and get married. Hi, Chateau de lo data on how you used to say that there's a word in this app for insomnia teenagers, man. All right now brothers will beg to differ but I'll tell you
so go ahead and get married.
That, because women will bring money with them.
I think the smile is enough on this one, right?
They'll bring money, they're not going to eat your money, even if it seems that way. In reality, you got it because of the Baraka that comes from marriage. And this is why I say go ahead and get married, because the women will bring wealth along with them.
And this is a reality this is tried and tested lots of people, they get married and they're not doing too well when they do start living their lives. Allah subhana wa tada puts Baraka within their marriage, and then they get a child to love what's more Baraka in their marriage, and then they get another child and so on and so forth. Allah keeps giving them more and more Baraka, but that Baraka will be multiplied, and it will be definite if you do it. Okay, so methodically fee, then go ahead and put Baraka within this particular auction, for me, or in quantity. And if you know a lot, I know that I'm going to shuttle LiFi Dini, when my shoe asked about the imagery, and if you were to know a
lot, that this particular action is bad for me, in my religion,
and in my livelihood, as well. And you know that this particular action is bad for me in my current affairs, and in my future affairs as well, then a lot 434 knee then get rid of this particular auction from we said, Baraka means one thing, I forgot to tell you the other thing as well. So it has this concept of numo, it has this concept of increased number two, it has this concept of setback, as well as this idea of firmness as well. So sometimes you do something and it seems very shaky, but other times you do that very auction and you took all the same very nice, things occurred very smoothly, and things went just as planned. And they were firm and nice. Right. So when you make
the art to Allah subhana wa tada to put Baraka in your actions, Allah will give you that firmness in your actions, Allah will give you a lasting, and a blessed marriage.
And if Allah seems sees that this particular action or this marriage, for example, is not necessarily good for the individual, then the doctor to make us feel sorry for me, then get rid of this action from get taken very far away from and sawed off on it, you know, when you're saying to our last panel with data, so before I need to do away with this particular concept for me, you're making a do I more than just not indulging yourself in the auction. So again, I say for example, if it is a marriage, and this is how people perceive it to be, but it can be anything in your life. If it is a marriage, you're thinking about marriage, and you make this up, and you realize that it's
not good for you, you move on make this a law will give you contentment, and even if you love that girl so much and even if you love that guy so much, no longer will you have that thought, because the thought will be coming to haunt you throughout your life or for a long period of time. The way to get rid of that thought is to make this
so it will notice that Allah subhana wa tada is a prophet to cinemas teaching you to make this there are so that it goes away from you was swiftly on and take me to Allah subhanho wa Taala away from this as well. So the matter is being taken away from you and you are being taken away from it as well. So you will get contentment and even if at times a thought comes back when you realize that you consulted your Lord right away the thought will no longer have any effect on you because you'll know that you've made the right decision household by consulting Allah subhana wa Tada. Welcome to leave here as you can, and also a lot decree for me, the goodness wherever that may be some model
they need be and then Oh Allah give me contentment, contentment with that. So this is the door that you're supposed to make. Now, we said that this particular action is a door right? So since it is a drop, there is a number of
there are a number of things that do that help your dog get accepted.
A number of things that help your dog get accepted. I said in the beginning that any adult that you ever learn in your life, any manner that you've ever learned in your life, anything you've ever learned in your life, about the art in general, this is your time to remember it. Because this is a draw you're making a draw to Allah subhanho wa Taala so amongst the things is the fact that you make the art between the design and the karma, okay? If you make the draw between the designer and the farmer what's going to happen? Allah subhanaw taala will accept you there's more chances of your da being accepted in this why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said as found in a hadith
authentic do I rely or do they in Daniel karma? There are is not to be rejected by Allah subhanho wa Taala between the event and between the comma so this time have a.in common it's your time to go to the restroom. Okay, we at times we don't take this seriously and we go to the masjid, for example, right? It's a lot of time and maybe even after a lot of time.
If you're trying to get closer to a loss specifically with this act of worship, I would say then go to the masjid prior to done so you have a good period of time to make as to how long you want to do it repetitively more than one school for it. Sometimes you tell somebody to make a staccato, they'll do it once. They'll stop no do it repetitively, doing for 10 nights if you have to seminarians even say do it seven times. And even if you have to go over seven times, go ahead and do it. There is no end to this, you're calling out to Allah Subhana Allah, the more you do it, the more chances are, you're to outwardly get accepted, which there are that there are of seeking help from Allah subhana
wa COVID to help. And if it gets accepted, then there it is, you will be definite in shallow doubt of the fact that what you've done is the right thing. Also, another time that the dog gets accepted is when you see rain coming down, that is a time where the dog is accepted. Another time that the door is accepted is the last third of the night, the last third of the night.
So you start from motive time and you divide the night into different portions the last third of the night, whether it be sometimes for us it's very short and sometimes it's very long as well right? So the point of the matter is, whatever season you're in, you divide your night into three, the last third of the night that is a time where astounding ahaadeeth Nz luneta Allah, Allah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah subhana wa tada descends every single night to the last heaven. And he never thought through through late when only a third of the night is left.
And then he says, that made Rooney who is going to call out to me, and I'll answer his call, who is going to ask me and I'll give him whatever he wants to ask. So if you want to make it another good time to make a staccato one Now,
last third of the night, and other third time to make a staccato is July, and we are in that day, but I'm not sure if modem time has come in now. Okay, so right before magnet time.
The Prophet sallallahu I didn't send them he said, in FL Giamatti de la he was a Muslim. So Lee
is a lot higher on La Jolla, that during two more others one hour
or a portion of time rather, let's put it this way. There's a portion of time, not no slave of Allah Subhana Allah is found doing the art at that time except Allah subhanaw taala gives him goodness, except Allah subhanho wa Taala gives him what he wanted. So during Juma right before my time, okay, this is the time that the Socrates to Java, this is the time where or genre This is the time where a person's call is responded. And by the way, this particular opinion that I'm giving you the fact that this is the last hour during the day, and not any other hour, because the prophets I send them in this particular case you notice he didn't say which hour it is right? He said simply there's an
hour within drop within which if a person is caught praying that Allah Subhana Allah will accept this law, right.
So in another tradition, we have infamy sua rasa, I think that they also look for this particular time, last hour after us. So right before monitor, that is the time to make the app that is a time to turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala. Now one may say is the horror comes with prayer. Am I allowed to pray during this time?
No, there's a couple of times where you're not allowed to pray. Right. So what do we do in this scenario?
Come on. Yeah.
Well, three hours later, go ahead and make your dog
might as well make start making your dog I'm sure you've prayed some time in your life, right? The point of the matter is that I'm just kidding around does not care for your trial.
The point of the matter is that
you can do it without the I applaud his bravery for answering other people didn't even answer I don't know why people are laughing.
Because I'm gonna start picking hands and legs now. So the point of the matter is that you can go ahead and make the dog bites. You can go ahead and make the dog by itself. You don't have to pray this a lot every single time. And this is why at times we have a tradition though. This week, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said you should say Allah Headley was deadly, or Allah make it Oh Allah put the goodness in the auction that I'm just about to do and make the decision for me as well. So the prophets of Allah, what do you send them at times you would make that there are separately just is the heart are small.
concise the art of Allah subhanaw taala. Not this specific is the hora, which you would teach like a surah you will do that. So based on that some scholars, they said okay, well, if you cannot pray during that time, then go ahead and simply make a da. So even at this time, we can go ahead and make the DA and of course, you can do it before I saw it as well, but then you have to do your job at that time as well. Okay, so, these are some of the times these are some of the, you know, scenarios in which the art is accepted. And if a person sticks to this idea of doing it along with all of the add up of turn into Allah subhana wa Tada, well, turning to Allah subhanho wa Taala, and really
invoking Allah subhana wa tada very carefully considering the meanings of this, as well, you only way you're going to be able to invoke Allah subhana wa Tada. Well, with this two eyes, if you think about the meanings within the drop, think about every single word you're saying, look at look at how he dissected this meaning. And by the way, this lecture will be available. If you want to review go ahead and listen to it again, no problem. Think about every single meaning that you are ordering every single word that you're ordering, and every other that we've mentioned, and more adapt that you know of, and inshallah Allah, Allah will accept your now I'm just going to give you a little bit
of a scenario, for example, in how you would go about making a decision occurs, or a concept is before you matters before you and let it be marriage, because we've been discussing marriage. And also our lesson is kind of related to that. So for example, a person is considering a spouse, a brother, considering a sister or a sister, considering a brother. Now the first thing you'll do is you look at that individual and their deed, the first thing you look at is what they're doing. Now, if it's a person that is someone that is drinking person, that someone may Allah subhanaw taala, protect us person that is indulging in something that's hot on girl or guy, then right away, they're
ruled out, you want to rule them out of your life, because you don't want to get something that you that is particular to your life, and then you don't end up making yourself a hereafter. Remember, throughout this, what are we doing? We're asking Allah subhanaw taala for the life and the afterlife. So if you want goodness within this life, and you want it within the afterlife, as well than someone that is not pleasing to the Lord, then rule them out of your life. First and foremost.
Number two, after you're you narrow down the candidates, now it's time to look at the person and think about it intellectually, yourself. And also look at those people around you and consult them and around them as well.
Okay. So for example,
likes a sister or a sister likes a brother, all right. And they're like, well, this person seems apparently nice. I've seen him at the message. They're always there. I've seen her at MSG, she's always there, things are perfect. But then I don't actually know how they are in their personal life with their family, and so on and so forth. So now it's time for you to start consulting, look at the people around them. Who is someone that is a close friend, and you know, they will be honest as well. Honesty is very important. Here, you cannot lie to someone even, there's no concept of Libra. Now, by the way, okay. There's no concept of Libra. Now someone comes to you. And they asked you
that, what do you think about this person? Then you give them the true answer. What do you think about them in reality, even if that's your closest friend, you don't make them up more? You know what, because you'll be held responsible on the Day of Judgment for this, this is a witness, imagine yourself in a court of law lying similar to your before somebody and you have to tell them the truth. Why? Because they're going to be making a lifelong decision based on what you have said. So you make that and somebody came to the profits and send them he said, I've got married to such and such profits on the lower end, we'll send them said look carefully, because the women of that tribe,
they have something wrong with their eyes.
So the profits have a long way to sell them, give them advice, and he didn't care about the bat in that particular scenario. So he went and reconsidered the matter. Anyways, the point of the matter is that in that scenario, you don't have a problem of saying that no, this brother gets he apparently looks nice, but he has some very bad habits. We all have bad habits. Yes. But this one, this is what I think, you know, this is true. Martial Law, she looks apparently nice. And there may be the opposite as well. They may not apparently look so nice, but deep down inside, and that is what really matter. Deep down inside and their actions are beautiful. They have good character,
those things are there for them. So then go ahead and tell them all you know, in a very, very positive and in a very truthful manner. And after that's done, now you've narrowed down your candidates even further, right.
You don't necessarily have to make a decision on a specific person. This is what some people said, but I don't say this
Then a lot of scholars don't say this as well, okay? You don't have to make a specific decision. So you have two decisions before you you can weigh the you've weighed the pros and the cons and you can't figure it out and you want to loss opinion without it to help you do that, then this is your opportunity, go ahead and make it harder. And loss of panel with the IRA will help you How will that help come? I'll tell you in a moment, okay.
So now it's the time you've narrowed down the candidates, there's two people left, there's two, you know, brothers or two sisters left, you go and make your startup. And then you make a decision, you finalize your decision, and you go for it, you don't turn back, you don't look back. Why? Because anything you do from this point onwards, it's divinely aided, Allah subhanaw taala is helping you. Even if you think that the other may have been good for you a few years later, Believe you me, it may have been really, really bad for you. And I remember an example of this from someone we, you know, close, that had gotten married, and they had a problem and blah, blah, blah. Anyways, the
point of the matter is that they had left, there was a couple of candidates that the person had in their lives, and one of the candidates was good, and the other one was good as well, they made a staccato, one for one. And then two panela, like a few days later, even though that person thought that maybe I'd made the wrong decision A few days later, that individual got a call from the mother of that person. And the mother was just cutting off the family saying, you guys have made the wrong decision, and you'll never have any, you know, ease in your life again, and this and that, and your son is gonna be this and that, anyways, the mother was basically cursing the son. And this was
possibly going to be his mother in law. Right. And he thought it was a better decision. But when he made this the hot off, what happened? Allah gave him the right decision, Allah helped him make that decision. You know, this could have been a family member of his who doesn't have the courtesy of recognizing that people make their own decision in marriage. And he here forced me into getting married to your daughter, you know, jealousy. The point is that you can't force somebody into getting married to your daughter or your family member, right? So people have their own decisions in their lives. And this woman did not recognize that for this young man.
And the person actually thought maybe this family would have been better for me. But what happened? The Hata aided him Allah subhana wa tada helped him even though he thought the decision was not as good afterwards even though he started regretting it a bit. Allah subhanho wa Taala given ease Why? Because the decision came aided from Allah subhanho wa Taala. I ask Allah Subhana Allah to give us a Delphia to practice to convey this is what I have to share. There's a lot more to talk about. In this the hora, I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala, again to give us the field of practice to convey I'll say one last thing. And that is that how do you know your esta hora is right. Okay. This is
something that a lot of people get asked questions, right? How do I know that? My is the hora is right? I've done this to heart. I've done it multiple times. I've done it seven times. How do I know what I'm getting myself into is right. We said that sometimes something may appear before you and you notice that? Well, you know, this decision I'd made it's the right decision. Clearly this person that got married, he recognized afterwards, he's made the right decision.
But before getting into your decision, how do you know it's right? Number one, at times, these are not something that will occur with every single person every single time. Number one, at times, you may get a comfort zone with the decision that you're making. You've got two things, you've weighed the pros and the cons. But you feel comfortable with one thing at times, you know, you think about something in life and you're like, I've done everything, but it's just not feeling comfortable. I'm not feeling comfortable with this decision. Right? You're just the person is just not feeling comfortable. You will get this comfort zone at times this is not necessary. But you may get this,
this happens to a lot of people, they start making it harder again and again. Especially if you do it repetitively, a loss of handle with Allah gives you this comfort zone. And most of the scholars they said that this is a sign that comes almost every time you will feel a comfort zone with the decision that you're just about to make. If you have two decisions to make one of them will feel more comfortable to you. Even though one the other one may see more see more practical and realistic. But the one that's feeling more comfortable, maybe better. Number two, you may and this is not necessary. I know some people have this thought that this is necessary, you may get our
dream. This has happened to people, it happens to people sometimes they get a drink, but sometimes the people do get a dream. what they'll do is they'll go and pray a lot. Make this too hot and go right to bed.
hoping they'll get a dream. It's not gonna work like that. It doesn't have to be a dream. You may get a dream, it's possible and you may go to a person that's a studied and a person that we
respectful, respectable dream interpreter and he may give you some interpretations as positive as possible. But it doesn't necessarily mean you will get a dream every single time. Okay? And a lot of times you may not as well. Number three.
This is if you don't have a comfort zone with anyone and you don't have any feelings towards anyone and they both seem indifferent to you. You don't know which one to pick, you make a decision based on whatever is more logical to you and based on your consultation with people and that right there will be the right decision. Because what will happen a lot will be the one that will be aiding your decision and putting Kade within it a lot. We'll be doing two things because you're doing is the hot off to a lot you'll be putting height and you'll be the one that will be helping you through your decision. So you did your consultation, you did your best. Everyone's got to make decision whether
you make is too hot or not. You have to do your best to come to a decision right. So whatever decision you make after having done your best from esta hora repetitively from consultation with people that are of that field in nature, and then making your final decision, go for it Allah subhanaw taala will put goodness in your decision. ask Allah subhana wa tada to put goodness in the decisions of every single one of us. And I ask Allah subhana wa tada to put goodness, within the lives of every single one of us. ask Allah subhanaw taala to give us a trophy to practice to convey does not come alone for listening. Also, Allahu Allah said you know, I didn't watch it. He was like,