Seerah 133 – The Prophets Marriage To Zaynab

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In these podcasts, we uncover one chapter after another from the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam in an attempt to learn about him, love him and better ourselves through his example, immersion, mentorship, companionship and tibia. These are just a few of the things we offer, alongside knowledge of the prophetic Biography at Syrah intensive, two weeks dedicated to the study of the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and his noble characteristics. So this winter, join me in Dallas, Texas, alongside your classmates from all over the world, to learn the story of the life of the best of humanity, their mercy to mankind, the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa

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like you will have the level of salatu salam ala rasulillah, who Allah Allah, he was he Mr.

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gela. Continuing with our series on the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, a siracha number we had the prophetic biography.

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In the last few sessions, we've been talking and discussing about the Battle of the trench. And then over the last few sessions, we've talked about some of the immediate aftermath of the Battle of the Battle of Zab and some of the events that followed afterwards. Today, inshallah, we're going to be talking about the conclusion of the fifth year of higit, on the conclusion of the fifth year of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, residents in the city of Medina. Now, we're not just going to be kind of wrapping up and talking about the fifth year, there are two events, specifically that we'll be talking about. And what's interesting about these two events is that they are pertaining to

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the personal life of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. And it goes without saying, but nevertheless, I'll state the obvious, just for everyone's benefit. And as a reminder, things that are in the personal life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are obviously relevant to each and every single person in the Muslim community. So meaning that the personal life of the prophets Allah at some is authoritative, it is legislative, and the personal life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam very much as a part of our show. It is a part of our Deen is a part of the structure and the guidance of our Deen and our religion, on how to live our own personal lives. So

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we'll be talking about two particular things from the personal life of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. One of them it will be more of a discussion as to just to know about the personal life of the prophets a lot. He said, I'm exactly what transpired. And about some of the notable individuals in the life of the prophets, a lot of them. And then the second thing we'll talk about, even though the personal life of the prophets, a lot of them was the subject of the issue, from it came guidance and rules and regulations that are very, very important in terms of implementation within our own families, our own homes, and our communities as well. And this is all from the end of the fifth year

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of hijra. So the first thing that we'll be talking about is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his marriage to Zainab bint jahsh the Allahu taala.

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Now who is in Ubuntu, Joshua, the Allahu taala and her, she is related to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she is basically the first cousin of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, her mother, whose name was Mama was the daughter of Abdulmutallab, the grandfather of the processor. And so that means that her mother and the father of the prophets a lot he said them were brother and sister. So she's his paternal cousin. She's his first cousin from his father's side of the family. What's mentioned about Xena been to Joshua radi Allahu taala. And her was that she was a very, very early convert to Islam in the early days of Mecca. Alright, so she had accepted Islam in the very

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beginning of the message, and she was somebody who had accepted Islam very early on the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had arranged for her to marry

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Zaid bin how they thought of the Allahu taala and who now if you recall, they'd been Hadith is basically what we refer to as the adopted son of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and I'll be talking about that in just a minute. But they've been had he thought was someone who basically grew up in the home of the profits a lot. He said them the profits, a lot of them had raised him like a son of his own. He is mentioned to be the third person to accept Islam, after Khadija radi Allahu taala the mother of the believers, the wife of the prophets, a lot of them. The second one was Ali Baba Vitaly radi Allahu taala. And who, and the third individual mentioned by the scholars is that they've been

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hired

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Rita was the third person to accept Islam. And he was very, very close to the prophets a lot. He said, um, he was very devoted and loyal to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And he was in made many sacrifices for the sake of Islam.

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In fact, we talked about his biography earlier on in the podcast and in the series, if you go back you can find the session about the first few individuals who accept Islam, where we talked about some of his personal life and some of his own personal history. And we talked about it there. That's a been hottie Thoreau. The Allahu taala angle, very tragically when he was a child had been captured by some, you know, slave traders, and he had been sold into slavery. And he had somehow made it to Makkah and he was gifted to Khadija radi Allahu taala. And her who gifted him to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at the time of their marriage, their profits a lot ease and freedom and

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kept him like a son. Well, eventually, his aids family found out about him and found out exactly where he was, and they came to retrieve him. And when they came to retrieve him, he had accepted Islam become Muslim by this time. And he himself was a teenager now he had been raised by the prophets, a lot of them. And when they asked to take him back, he requested to stay. And he said that I would like to stay and the prophets a lot of them, hugged him and embraced him. And he said, he is my son. Right? So in that manner, he was like an adopted son of the prophets a lot he sent him. So he was very, very close to him and very beloved to the prophets a lot. So we know that he

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loves the profit zone very much, and that he was very dedicated to serving the profits a lot. He said him, he accompany the profits a lot, he said on the journey to thought if, right so whenever we talk about the story of thought if in the very great tragedy and difficulty, the profits a lot easier to deal with, with the people stoning him, as he was leading leaving thought if they'd been hydrator, was his companion was with him, and suffered along with him. But a lot of times, what we don't realize is they've been highly thought was extremely beloved to the prophets, a lot of them. In fact, the prophets, Allah doesn't matter and nickname for him, and that was hip. The prophets, a

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lot of them used to call him which means Beloved, from like hope, from love, so used to refer to him as the beloved one. And when Zane had a son by the name of Osama, Osama took Crusade, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam used to refer to Sumeragi Allahu taala anhu as hibou it be Rasulullah he salatu salam Hippo had been the be the Beloved of the Beloved of the prophets a lot he sent him. Right so his aid was very beloved. I shadowed the Allahu taala and he actually says in Sahih Muslim about or I believe it's in the Muslim Ummah Muhammad are inshallah the Allahu Allah, Allah says about they've been haritha that the prophets a lot of them had such confidence and such trust in zaven Hadith that

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the prophets, a lot of them if he ever sent out so we know that the prophets a lot of them himself, he traveled on certain campaigns, expeditions because a lot so when the prophets a lot, he said was on the journey. He himself was in charge, of course, he's the amine, he's in charge, he's the leader, but whenever the Prophet salani some sent out a group where he personally was not with them. I said he Yeah. And Zaid bin haritha was in the group, he shadow the Allahu Allah Allah says that the prophets a lot of them always put Zaid in charge, if Zaid was going in a group that the prophets a lot of the time was not a company. Then Zaid was in charge automatic everyone knew the processor

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was going to put David in charge. That's how much he loved them. He trusted him he had confidence in him. Right so zadara, the Allahu taala, who is a very remarkable individual. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam seems a bit harsh, somebody related to him a very early, you know, person to accept Islam. And seeing Zayed Of course, somebody who is like a son to him. And so beloved to him, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam had, you know, matched them together. And they had gotten married, the profitsystem had married them to one another.

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They had come from very, very different backgrounds, there are some narrations that do speak about this, that they had come from very different backgrounds, right, that's a that are the Allahu taala and who had basically grown up as a child had grown up in slavery. And and had worked as you know, kind of like, had worked practically as a servant for a lot of his life. Right and then he didn't know his fam own family for a very long time. And he was raised by the prophets a lot, he said them so they've had a particular experience about the Allahu taala and who growing up

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Zane up into Joshua the Allahu taala on her was the granddaughter of Abdulmutallab. She's from Quraysh from Bhanu Hashem and the granddaughter of the prophets a lot he sent him. What that means is she's basically nobility royalty of Makkah. She was like nobility and royalty of Mecca. So she had a very different experience growing up. And so their personalities and their background really didn't, you know, match very

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Well, and you know, one little side note, something that the scholars mentioned is part of the wisdom of Allah subhanaw taala in this plan, because if you really think about it, if the prophets Allah, Islam is the one matching them and pairing them together, and it doesn't end up working out, God forbid, well, either Billa could somebody criticized the profits a lot. So can you see this? Can you tell that they weren't gonna fit and etc, etc, right? No, no, no, that's not it at all. Because the profits, a lot of us have understood that the biggest part and the most significant part of their identity was their Islam. And they both had made such sacrifices for the sake of Islam, that

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that was the foremost part of their identity and personality, and their, their their values. So they aligned in terms of values. And that's ultimately what's important, something that's very overlooked today. But at the same time, this is part of the divine plan of Allah subhanaw taala, to demonstrate the fact that sometimes people don't exactly click, and you never really know, you know, everything about someone, or you never really know how well you'll mesh and gel with someone until you actually live with them, and share your life with them and go through a few experiences with them, you have a few highs and lows, and that really helps you figure out that the tone of things. And ultimately,

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sometimes things do not work out. And this is something very kind of taboo to talk about within our communities. And of course, we don't go around advocating and and glorifying you know, marital problems and divorce and things like that, of course, God forbid, may Allah subhanaw taala protect all our families, and May Allah subhanaw taala protect all our marriages. But at the same time, it is a reality of life that is present at the time of the prophets a lot in the community of the Sahaba amongst the family of the prophets a lot he sent them, to remind us of the fact that sometimes things don't work out.

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And when things don't work out, then contrary to how, you know, a lot of our the subcultures within our within the Muslim community work, where, you know, no matter what happens, no matter how, you know, difficult things are no matter how incompatible two people are, you know what, that's it till death do us part.

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And it usually ends up and I don't mean to make light of a very difficult situation, it usually ends up in being, you know, till death do us part. So we might as well expedite the death part of it. Right, and it ends up becoming more of a tragic situation and more people are embroiled, and not only to individuals, but sometimes an entire family and sometimes to extended families are completely obliterated, and in golf for decades within such a tragic situation. Right. So that's why we do have a mechanism to basically work our way out from a very difficult situation. And again, I want to emphasize that this is not something we glorify, this is not something we take lightly. But

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at the same time, this is something that we approach very maturely, and with a very sophisticated mature intelligence, attitude. Right. And so this happens at the time of the prophets. A lot of them were saved. radi Allahu taala anhu and Zainab radi Allahu taala unha are not compatible things are not working out. And Susanna, what are the Allahu taala on ha, you know, it talks to the prophets a lot of the time about some of the difficulties and struggles that they're having. And the prophets a lot, he said, um, you know, advises her councils her and consoles, her zadara, the Allahu taala, and who talks to the prophets a lot of the time about some of the difficulties he's facing in the

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marriage. And once again, the prophets allottee some councils him, consoles him, comfort him, and encourages him to try to work through the issues.

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Ultimately, at the end of the day, things and the Quran refers to this I'm sick, I like so jakka what tequila that you said, Allah says, In the Quran, you said Tuesday, that stay in your marriage for now try to work through the issues and fear God be God conscious. So be be a good person and try to work through the issues. But realizing that ultimately it might not work out. And so there are different narrations about how long they were married. Some of the more authentic narration seem to allude to the fact that they were married for about a year. And after about a year, they basically separated.

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So they separated, The divorce was formalized, and they were able to move on. And again, just to explain a very difficult situation, one that I know is very uncomfortable and difficult for us to talk about. What is the outcome of this situation? You have two individuals who are just not compatible things are not working, things are not working. So rather than to lock them in and say no, absolutely not. You can never exit this situation. Right? They get somebody responsible, mature, sophisticated intelligence involved. And that is the profits a lot of the some of the most sophisticated, intelligent human being of all time to kind of counsel them and help them maturely

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and calmly work through the issues and ultimately when it does not work out. How does it end up working out?

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And I'll go ahead and mention Zainab radi Allahu taala. And he does get remarried to none other than the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, which is what we'll talk about in a minute. And zaev are the Allahu taala. And who does get remarried, and he marries none other than Baraka, a woman by the name of Baraka, she was known by the name the nickname of a man, the title of them will, Amen. And Amen, was the nanny of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, she was the caretaker of the prophets a lot, even when he was a child. And he used to refer to her as mother, Yama, Oh, Mother, and you respected her very, very much. The prophets, a lot of them said about her. You know, at the time

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Jade got married, sure that whoever wants to marry a woman of Paradise will marry a man. She's a guaranteed woman of paradise.

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So they both did end up getting remarried. And they ended up marrying into situations that were very, very remarkable and fruitful and enjoyable, blissful and happy, and extended to eternal bliss and happiness of the author and the life of the hereafter. So there's a very sobering lesson here in regards to this, that we have to have. And this is not for just anyone to figure out just kind of on the go and on the fly, and make that assessment of who should stay married and who should get divorced. This is, of course, a decision that has to be made by those individuals, and has to involve the counsel of some intelligent, qualified, mature, sophisticated individuals, counselors

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and whatnot. Right. But ultimately, at the end of the day, we have to understand that a mature level that this is a part of, you know, the legislation of our religion and our Deen that this is also a mechanism built into our religion indeed, because sometimes it's deemed necessary. Well, Allahu taala, Allah will be so up. So now moving forward, as the prophets, so as a matter of the Allahu taala, and who is a member of the Allahu taala, and how are divorced and they separate and zenodo, the Allahu taala fulfills a waiting period after the divorce.

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at that particular time, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, there are a few very special commands that are revealed to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam within the Quran. And they are found in Surah number 33. So go to

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the first rule that is revealed to the prophets a lot. He said, I'm his family about em who are upset or in the law.

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And what that basically means is that if anyone has adopted a child, if anyone has adopted a child, taking care of a child that maybe had lost their family lost their parents, or whatever the circumstance may have been, or a very tragic situation like Xavier or the Allahu taala, on whose case then in that situation, Allah subhanaw taala is emphasizing and commending, that the child needs to be called by the name of the Father, which means you have to confirm and you have to maintain the lineage of the of the of the child the actual biological lineage of the child. And what that means is the adopted father does not become the Bible does not replace the biological father,

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and the adopted mother does not replace the biological mother. And so the outcome and the consequence of this is a few things. Number one, if the name of the child is already known, so in the case of zayde, you knew that his name was a been hot etha Zaid, the son of Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam had raised them and basically adopted him and taking care of him and taking guardianship of him. So many people used to refer to him as Zaid Ibn Muhammad Zayed bin Mohammed, they the son of Muhammad. And so this was being corrected that no, you know, his father's name, so you must refer to him as he even javita. And he was he kind of felt a little sad, that, you know,

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his name was no longer associated with the name of the profits a lot he said them. So then he was referred to as a mo la rasulillah, his salary, some Zaid, the associates of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam, because he was freed from slavery by the prophets, a lot of them. So he was known as a mo nanosatellites. A lot of them, they they associated the affiliates of the profits, a lot of them. And another obviously, the profits of some gave him the nickname Buddha Sunni, like it's allowed him they the Beloved of the prophets a lot, which is even more beautiful, right. So that's the first rule of the outcome. The second rule of the second outcome of this particular rule that

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adopted relations do not supersede or overtake or even replaced biological relations. The second consequence of this particular rule was the fact that

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the relationships or the rules that are an outcome of biological relationships are do not necessarily occur due to adopted relationships. So for example, for instance, if there is

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is a biological father and his son, his own biological son, if the son gets married to a woman,

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and then that the Son and the daughter in law, have this man, they divorce,

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they divorced and things didn't work out and they divorce, the son divorces his wife,

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the wife, the former daughter in law, can never ever ever be married to her ex or former father in law, they can never be joined in marriage, that is not permissible that is not allowed.

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That is the outcome of biological relationships. However, adopted relationships do not have that same rule. Okay, we know other rules in regards to the issues of hijab, and having like, certain limitations physically, and in terms of privacy, right, with the opposite gender, there are rules and regulations in place. Well, biological siblings, biological siblings don't have those rules and restrictions and boundaries between them. Right? a brother and a sister Sister does have to wear hijab in front of the brother, right, they can actually make physical contact with each other. Right? There's nothing prohibiting them. However, if there is a family, and they have a daughter or

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biological daughter, and they adopt a boy, they adopt the son, that will just them adopting this, the boy will not automatically create that sibling dynamic between them. When they become adults, when they grow up, they will have to maintain certain boundaries and privacy with each other. Okay, they are not automatically like biological siblings. So these are a few rules, a few outcomes. And there's a whole discussion behind it. It's a whole discussion of fit in and of itself now in here is not really the time to get into it. But nevertheless, there are a few outcomes of this. So this is the first rule that Allah subhanho wa Taala instituted that adopted children are not the same as

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biological children in terms of the rules and the fic. That is involved, you know, inheritances, and other one of those things, right, then inheritance automatically occurs for one's biological children, it does not automatically occur for the adopted children, rather, you have to write them into your will. But they don't automatically inherit. So all these rules were instituted now because of this, right? Many people and that's why there's a little bit of a misunderstanding in the Muslim community due to miss translation. Right? This is why because of this particular rule, this word, the word for it in Arabic is a Tibetan. Tibet, it means to declare someone to be your biological

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child, when they are not your biological child.

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That is forbidden in Islam. You cannot take someone else's child and proclaim them to be now officially your child. You can't do that. Okay. However, people translated the word Tibetan as adoption. And that's why in some of the early, like, English translation of a lot of our

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the common perception or the common idea amongst Muslims was that adoption is not permissible in Islam.

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And that is false that is not correct. Because the actual understanding of adoption is kafala.

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To take care of a child to take guardianship of a child to look after a child, right, and that is something that is not only permissible, but encouraged in Islam. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, I know he says him the prophets a lot. He said Him He will calculi a team and somebody who takes care of an orphan adopts an orphan. Gauhati will be like these two fingers together in paradise. Right? So it's very, very encouraged, right, but the idea is yes, if adoption is understood to be taking care of, you know a child, then that is not only allowed, but also encouraged. But you cannot assume that child to be the biological child, and you cannot apply the rules of a biological child

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to an adopted child. Okay, so those were some of the rules or the legislation that was revealed in the Quran in surah. Number 33. The outcome of this was everyone came to realize that Jade is very beloved to the prophets, a lot of them he was cared for by the prophets, a lot of them, but he is not the actual biological son of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam now that that understanding occurred,

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now, what ends up happening is that they are the Allahu taala anwen and Zainab, who is a mohandro, who has left Makkah come to Medina and early convert to Islam has been you know, ostracized and outcast by many of her own family and community, like many of the Moroccan Muslims, and she's now divorced from a marriage that was recommended by the prophets Allah to him. And on top of that, there are some narrations, even cathedra hang Allahu taala has compiled them and gathered them together, in which Allah subhanaw taala commanded the Prophet sallallahu Sallam that after Xena

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Done with the waiting period, you should marry her. You will marry her. In fact, the wording in the narration Allah in the Quran says de la kaha we have already married you to her.

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We have already married you to her. And that's why I say nebrodi Allahu taala on her used to brag and used to kind of talk about the fact that everyone's marriages happen on the earth my marriage happened in the heavens.

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Everyone's nigga is performed by a human being, my nigga has performed mine ceremony was officiated by Allah Himself. So what Janaka ha, right. So in some narrations have been cathedra hum Allahu taala even goes as far as saying that like it shout out the Allahu taala Anna was shown in a dream to the prophets, a lot of them that this will be your wife, Z nebrodi Allahu taala and who was also shown to the prophets, a lot of them that she will be your wife. So following the command of Allah subhanaw taala and implementing what Allah subhanaw taala had already made official through the revelation of the Quran, the prophets Allah decent became was married to Zainab or the Allahu taala.

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And what happened at this particular time was and you have to understand part of divine legislation and part of the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was to challenge some of the incorrect practices challenge the incorrect practices that were there before Islam and that agitates the predominant culture at a time that will always agitate the culture. Right whenever people are, you know, correcting wrongs within society, and displaying a conduct and a behavior that goes against the grain of the community of the society, and they are trying to implement a more moral ethical lifestyle that will always agitate the popular in the predominant culture. And that was part that

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was basically the life mission of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam to challenge a lot of the incoherence and inappropriate and you know, incorrect practices before and so now that the prophets a lot of the some of the profits are lovely, some Mary's Xena been to Joshua the Allahu taala and the mushy raccoon of maca start to spread rumors, oh, look what happened. Look what he did. He married his son's ex wife.

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And some of them were not fearful and also started to spread these rumors and talk about inappropriately speak about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And so Allah subhanaw taala speaks about this entire situation in the Quran as well. In civitella HAZOP in is 37 and 38. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, What is the kulu Linda de Anima Allahu alayhi wa Taala he that remember the time when you said to the one that God blessed, referring to say that by making a Muslim? Well, and I'm totally and you had also done him a huge favor by freeing him from slavery and looking after him in raising him. I'm sick Alec. So jack, you had told him Please don't divorce your wife yet. Try to

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work through your issues. What's up in LA? And be conscious of Allah? And then unless there's something very interesting, what don't 15 of Sega Malaga movie and you were concealing within yourself what God had intended all along to bring out into the open.

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Now some scholars have discussed here, what does that mean? Does that mean that a lot already told the Prophet cells and this is what needs to happen in the process and was holding back because that's not appropriate? That's impossible. If a luck command something that profits A lot has to comply. Okay, what it means is that a lot of what Donna had told him this is how things will eventually end.

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Because and that's why even Kathy says that he saw this in a dream because the dreams of the prophet SAW so many times would foretell of events to come. So Allah had told him that this is eventually how things will happen. The profits allowed him just not enough, Sikka means he had not disclosed and shared that with anyone yet. And then it says something very interesting what Darshan does, if you literally translate what duction as it would be translated as you were you you are afraid of the people will either be loved. And that's not an appropriate translation, the prompt system is not afraid of the people. But duction NASA, if you understand the context, and you understand the Arabic

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language, what it means is that you were apprehensive about how the people would react.

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You were apprehensive about how the people would react.

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Alright, and that definitely was there and what's true and the prophets have some proved to be correct in his expectations of the people. But then Allah says we're loving to Antarctica, you should that Allah subhanho wa Taala is more deserving of you to worry about what Allah subhanaw taala has said about this situation, pay more attention to what Allah has said. Don't worry about how the people will react now

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We don't talk about the process of some in a in a very forward indirect way. A lot can speak to is Habib salatu salam however he chooses, and actually allies not even reprimanding the process enemies more so providing us a reminder through the example of the prophets a lot he said them, well Lahore Haku and Daksha. Then it goes on to say Villa Mercado de domina watan that after Zaid had divorced his wife zoologia Naka, ha, we married her to you, like a lacuna Alamo, meaning a hydrogen fee as Raji him, either Cabo Mina Ouattara so that they would no longer be any type of difficulty or adversity, you know, for the believers in regards to these adopted relationships. Like it

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specifically mentions that if any adopted son had was married to a woman and then was divorced that now this man is now not allowed or this man and woman are no longer allowed to be married. This was removing that and overall removing all the difficulty in the adversity and the unnecessary restrictions that were coming because of adopted relationships, taking care of people. What kind of Emerald lucky merola and what God has commanded. what God has issued in decreed will come to pass, Makana Allah maybe even hydrogen FEMA for the LA hula. And there is no there is no criticism there is no harm there is no there should be no hesitation on the part of the prophets allottee selam to

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carry through what Allah has ordained upon him. Sunita lucky for Latina Holloman that this is how Allah subhanho wa Taala corrected the abortion practices of the nations of the past. This is how Allah subhanho wa Taala corrects trends, he sends prophets he sends messengers, he sends these remarkable and influential people who come and correct the culture of humanity at that time, what kind of umbrella he had on Macedon and everything Allah subhanaw taala does is calculated and precise, exact and precise. So this is exactly how a lot of what I had planned out this entire scenario and situation. so in this situation now, of course the prophets a lot he said, I'm married

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you know, Xena vintage Mahesh radi Allahu taala and her

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and what I'll mention

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is just some of the virtues of Xena but are the Allahu taala unhak has has been a mother of the believers. She became a mother of the believers so we should know a little something about her. Shout out the Allahu taala and ha

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used to compliment Zainab or the Allahu taala on her very, very, you know, she was always full of a lot of praise for Xena Brody Allahu taala and her sermon so that are inshallah the Allahu taala and her she said that.

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Yes, he shall have the Allahu taala and he says that.

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That Xena bro the Allahu taala on ha, Fatima holla who believe that our last Hutterites Allah had granted her a lot of you know God consciousness and piety. Isha says Dana was a very, very pious woman, that when in something that we're going to talk about in the next few sessions, we're coming up to it, but when the shadow the Allahu taala was slandered when the false accusation was made against her, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked Xena, what is your opinion of Ayesha? Zainab radi Allahu taala and he says that he rasulillah me some very well by Sunday. I try not to delve into other people's business I try to guard my ears in my eyes. I try not to get into other

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people's business, but she said my name to Ella Hayden. I cannot say a single bad thing about eyeshadow, the lack of talent. So she was a very pious and a very honest woman.

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Not only that, I shadowed the Allahu taala and her says about her. Zainab radi Allahu talana her name originally was Bara. Bara which kind of means like the outdoors, right? And so the prophets a lot of them said that is not a good name. So the prophets Allah decent changed her name to Zane up. That's how she was given the name Xena. And her nickname her title was how come the mother of wisdom

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and I shadowed the Allahu taala and has has about her in a heartbeat of Sahih Muslim Mara a to M Ratan Tata Hiram fifth demon Zainab. I never saw a woman with better Deen and religion than Xena. Never in my life. Well, I taught in law I never saw a woman more conscious of elegance as well as the Hadith and I never met a woman who was more truthful than Xena. Well, oh, Saladin Rahim. I never met a woman who maintained her family relations more than Xena. Well, Amanda 10 was at the cotton. And I never met a woman who was more trustworthy than Xena and they never met a woman. That was

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more generous and charitable than a nebrodi Allahu taala. So much so that it's also mentioned from our shadow of the Allahu taala and a hadith of Sahih Muslim as well, that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said to his wives before he passed away before he left this world when his wives were gathered around him, he said to his wife, Sarah acuna who can be at one Okanagan

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that the first amongst you to come and join me in the life of the hereafter in the afterlife will be the one with the longest hands will be the one with the longest arms or the longest hands for cunanan Natal tavolo a unit at Fallujah then, so are in Chateau de la Coachella, and so that we actually stood up and started measuring our arms against each other. But she says for canadain of Upolu yet

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she says, but in reality when we understood what it meant that they never had the longest arms, meaning the Canada MLB at the high water sadoc Chris used to listen to this. Zainab radi Allahu taala on her. She was a mother of the believers. She is a mother of the believers, a wife of the Prophet sallahu wa sallam, she used to work jobs.

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She used to make things and do jobs with her hand, for payment, to earn money with our own hands, and then give it to charity.

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Not even the allowance that was provided for her from the beta man. After the profits, a lot of the allowance that was provided for her as a family of the purpose of setup. That was fine. She took very minimal enough to just, you know, feed herself take pay our own bills. But when she wanted to give sadaqa she would not even give him that money. Because she said Why would I take from the public funding gifts? Where's the generosity in that?

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Where's the sacrifice in that? So she used to work jobs, make things with their own hands, sell them do work for people earn money, and then give it to them.

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And she insisted on doing so. And I shadowed the Allahu taala Anna says that's what the prophet Hassan was referring to as the one with the longest arms and aloka dimensions and many others mentioned him even kathina and others that the nebrodi Allahu taala and had passed away in the year 20 after Hitler. So she passed away 10 years after the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and honorable during the time of the healer for Omar bin Al Khattab he led her janaza prayer or the Allahu taala on her and she was buried in the guard in the graveyard above here.

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And where she was buried is basically eventually became the area that is preserved and maintained till today, where all the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam are buried, all the mothers of the believers were buried. So this is basically the story about the marriage of the prophets, Allah zenodo the Allahu taala. And now I will mention and clarify one little misconception here that was actually popularized and propagated by a lot of the orientalist writings that came out of Europe a couple of 100 years ago, and even some Muslim writers and Muslim authors made the tragic mistake of narrating this incident further on. And it is classified as being fabricated is madore.

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It's false. It has no center that it has no basis it has no foundation. We don't know where it came from. Somebody made it up. And it just became popularized. So we should be very careful about it. That there is a story there is a narration supposedly, and it's false, we've confirmed the fact that it's false. So there's a story that's told that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, before they got divorced from zenodo, the Allahu taala that the prophets a lot of them came to visit Zaid and Zainab radi Allahu taala and he was in the home and she wasn't properly covered or whatever. And the prophets, a lot of them came in and he saw a number of the Allahu taala on her. And he was, you

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know, struck and fascinated by how beautiful she was. And that then led to Xavier of the Allahu taala and who becoming divorced from Zainab radi Allahu taala unhide the prophets a lot he said, marrying Xena but of the Allahu taala. And it doesn't even stop there. These people who slander and say false things about the profits of luxury, they don't stop at any end. They go as far as saying then in the hustler Muto, which we'll be talking about later on. A one of the major campaigns during the life of the prophets of Salaam were the prophets a lot of them sent they there are the Allahu talanoa as a leader of the army, and he was martyred. He was Shahid over there, that they go as far

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as saying, and to get rid of Zaid because he had some lingering like, you know, bad feelings towards the Prophet sallallahu Sallam

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Zainab radi Allahu taala Anna that he sent him out on this army basically on a suicide mission so that he would die. Well I have the belief from Allah if Allah God forbid, right it's it's it's it's false and it's ugly and it's detestable. Right. But the prophets a lot of them cried when he heard about the news have saved a lot, a lot of being Shaheed. And the prophets, a lot of them hugged Osama bin Zayed over the Allahu talanoa and told him, don't worry, I'm here for you.

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I'll look after you, I'll take care of you.

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And the prophets, a lot of the Quran is saying, I'm sick Allah, so jack, he, he was telling say, No, no, don't divorce your wife, don't divorce your wife, don't divorce your wife. And that story, your incident that is told is completely baseless and fabricated. So that clarifies a major misconception that a lot of people have, and we should be very careful about that.

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The last thing that I mentioned and I'll conclude with this in sha Allah is really, at the time of the prophets, a lot of resumes marriage, he was a member of the Allahu taala and one major command that's in the Quran that is very important in the family and social setting and a communal setting came down at that time. And what the story is, it's narrated by nsmen, Malika the Allahu taala, and who,

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and it's mentioned in the books of Bukhari and Muslim and all the major books of Sita.

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That when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was married to a number of the Allahu taala anha and has been Malik, the young Sahabi, who was like the personal assistant of the Prophet sallahu, the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, his mother, who was a who was called Muslim, she prepared some some food, just a little bit of food, like just a tray of like, sweet Hey, it was it was referred to as hice where you would take dates and milk and butter and things like that and kind of cook it and mix it up. And almost like, think of like a porridge right? or, or, for the day see folks keyed, right, kind of like something sweet like that. So it was prepared like that. And she

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just prepared like one little tray It was not very big, it was very small. She prepared it and she gave it to her son unece and she said Please take this to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam because they just got married so that him and his wife have something nice to eat and also a few family members they can share some food with them as a celebration right for the marriage. So she said that take this to the profits a lot he said them and she said well I didn't want to hug me Nana who Colleen

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she said let him know that this is very little but this is all we can afford.

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And Anna says that when Nasser Yama even fee Jacqueline, this the financial and the economic situation, Medina was still very, very tough. Very, very tough. People were barely getting by. So Jesus made a small little play the small little tray and she said and she apologized said this all we can afford But please, this is something for you to enjoy, you know, to celebrate the wedding.

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So I he says I went to the profits a lot of the time and he said that almost lame. I sent this to you. And she said Salaam to you and she says let you know that. You know we're very sorry. It's very little but this is all we can afford. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam looked at it and he said Okay, put it down. And he said I put it down in the house. And then he said his hub for the only Fulani and waffled on and for somebody Jalan Catherine, the profitsystem said put it down and then he said okay, now go get so and so and so and so and so and so and so and so and so and so and he said he just rattled off like a huge guest list.

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And so I said the end and at the end of he said, woman docking terminal muslimeen and anybody else you come across in the streets, just tell them to come on over.

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I said, Okay, Samir, I know well, Donna. So I went and I called everyone and everybody that I came across. And he said when I got to the home of the prophets a lot, he said, um, he said the entire home of the province is almost full of people and there was a line of people outside.

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And so somebody asks him one of the students of unece who is telling the story to ask him come count how many people do you think there were? And he said, kanuha thalassemia. There were at least 300 people

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let's keep in mind there's one plate of food 300 people.

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So then the prophets a lot of them sat down he said, Gee, he he said bring it to me the food and he said I took it to him and the prophets a lot. He's put his hand on it and he may do ah.

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And he said, Mashallah, Mashallah.

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Mashallah, Mashallah. Right? The prophet SAW Some said that, and then he said, Leah hallak Ashura. tanasha Ratan Will you

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tell them to circle around, sit together kind of like form like little circles of 1010 people

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and start passing the dish around to 10 people at a time and tell them to say dismissive

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Before they eat

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well yakusoku in sunny Milan, he and everyone should only eat from in front of them.

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Right so eat with etiquette say Bismillah it from in front of them,

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and Masha Allah go.

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And so he said that people started to eat and then there after a while I would put it down and they would eat for a little while, and then they would eat and then the processing was a fire who, okay, now move on. And then I would pick it up and I would take it over to the next group, the next group, the next group, the next group, and in this way 300 people ate from that one dish.

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And at the end, and that the conclusion of it, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam everyone had eaten most of the people, they, you know, said, you know, the line, they thanked the prophets or something, they congratulate him. And they left. Some of the narrations mentioned that about a few people, a handful of people, some narrations even mentioned, it was a smallest three, right? That about three people or a few people, they basically kind of were sitting there. And they were just chit chatting, they were talking and they just kind of you know, you get comfortable after a while, just lean back. And then you start to chill, and you start to hang out and you start to talk about

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what's going on and what's going on and what's going on. And they just started, you know, having long conversations and the profits a lump sum kind of sat there quietly.

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And it mentions what analysis what kind of shut the naseeha and the lesson was the most dignified, modest, humble individual you've ever met in your entire life.

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So telling someone to leave your house, it just wasn't within the capacity of the Prophet ceylonese.

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So he sat there very quietly, but under says that, I could recognize the fact that he was getting a little you know, he was tired.

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He the the wedding I just happened, you know, he would like to go and sit with his wife and talk to her and this whole time. Because again, you know, when we talk about our homes, and maybe having some guests that stayed a little longer than we would have liked. We have like, you know, three, four different rooms, second floor, right, there's plenty of room in the house for everybody.

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This was a huddle. This was literally one room.

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And I don't mean this disrespectfully or to guilt or shame anyone I'm being very, I'm being very serious, just to give us a real life idea. The Puja and apartment of one of the wives of the prophets, a lot of them was probably the size of like one of our walk in closets

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very legitimately.

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And so it's just a room

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and it says that Xena Brody Allahu taala and her was sitting in a corner you know, completely kind of wrapped up sitting facing towards the wall to kind of have a little bit of privacy. So she's like stuck in a corner.

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And they're just sitting there talking they didn't really realize and that must have been part of the culture before Islam that you just kind of sit around and you talk and you hang out

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the profits a lot of the time after a little while he got a little you know, just agitated or impatient the prophets a lot he got up and he went to go check on some of the other you know, wives of the prophets a lot of the some of the other homes the other apartments the other families went to go check on them. He said, let me at least make use of this time. So he just went by their doors, you know, saying Salaam how's everything everything? Okay, everything okay. And multiple, you know, of the different family members of the process. I'm asked him that, how are you insane of enjoying each other's company? You know, how so far How are things going. And the process of some was quiet

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in response, because you hadn't had a chance to kind of sit and talk to her one on one yet.

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And then finally, some of the narrations mentioned that they the three individuals they left. So unecessarily Allahu taala, who came after the prophets, a lot of them found him and said to him on messenger of a lot, they've left they've gone.

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And he says that the prophets Allah is him at that time he came back home. And this is interesting. This is kind of funny, unnecessarily Allahu taala. And who says that I was like, on the heels of the process. Now it's kind of his job. Right? That was his job. So he says, I was right on his heels just kind of coming along with him. And he says that when the profits a lot of them got to his apartment, when he got to the house, the prophet SAW some put one foot in, and he said I was right behind him. And before he put his other foot in, he took the curtain and he closed the curtain equipment inside. Kind of like close the curtain on us. Right as was a young man. He's like 15 years

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old at the time. He's like a son to the US Army. He's like his personal assistant. So he's teaching him and he says that that particular time and

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In fact, he says that he closed the curtain and I could hear him reciting the IOD. Allah had just revealed revelation to him. And he was reciting the IOD from skeletal Azov. So there is number 53 and 54 Yeah, you had Latina amanu are you who believe,

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letter the Hulu TV, do not enter the homes of the prophets a lot a solemn Illa and then Allah come unless permission has been granted to you. Because the Sahaba sometimes used to feel such a close and personal relationship with the Prophet sallallahu Sallam that they felt like he was like a father figure to them and they felt so close to him that they just started acting as if like it was just their own home and they would just walk right in. So Allah said law, do not enter in unless permission has been granted to you. In

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no time in the VEDA now Lena inaho and even if you are called to maybe have some food, do not look into the container of the food see how much food he adds he does. So when you don't go into his home until you're invited when you are invited in the no be nosy and snooping around his house.

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right but have some decorum have some have some you know respect, when I can either do a demo. But if you're invited, that's fine. But Hulu Come on in for either tarentum once you've eaten food, fantasy,

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fantasy to then leave. When I was setting the scene on the Hadith. Don't sit around just talking for another extra hour

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in the valley come can be your discomforting the profits a lot if you were inconveniencing him for your second income. But he was too shy to say anything to you. He's too dignified. To say anything to us too shy.

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But Allah subhanaw taala suitable LaHood is to human and hug. But Allah does not shy away from stating the truth. Allah will tell you like it is right. And then he said why that's ultimate una Matan. Sometimes you might need something from one of the wives of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, you need to request something first aluna nuwara hijabi then asked from behind the curtain asked from outside the door don't barge into the house of the prophets of Salaam Yamini and I need no no stand outside the door. My no My name is so and so. Yeah, I mean, I am requesting such and such right respect their privacy, they serve you.

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They serve you they take care of you, they work for you. They cry for you. they they they care for you.

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But you have to still respect their privacy and their dignity

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that they come out Heroku beam wakatobi him that is better for you and better for them. Right that that keeps allows you to conduct yourself properly and not take them for granted. And that also makes sure that they don't end up harboring some ill feeling towards you.

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What am I gonna do Rasul Allah He will attend to as Roger human body.

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And always at all costs, no matter what it takes, avoid discomforting and inconveniencing the prophets a lot he set up, he serves you he does so much for you, but you should not take him for granted.

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And then it goes on to mention one of the rules that nobody is allowed after the prophets a lot of them to marry the wives of the prophets, a lot of them in Nevada come Cana in the La Jolla of Lima that is unacceptable in the eyes of God. These are very, very important rules. Allah says, introduce a an otaku. Whether you do something publicly or you do something privately for him aloha kind of equally Shana Lima, Allah subhanaw taala is always fully aware of each and every single thing.

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So this incidence and situation took place at the time of the Prophet selsun marriage, he was a member of the Allahu Tanana these verses were revealed at this particular time. And the reason why I really felt aside from it being very, very, you know, notable and important and something from the life of the process that I'm, I also felt this was important to mention and kind of give it to give it some specific and due attention. Because these rules in the Quran in sort of dissolve and destroy from life in the process of them, teaches us some very important rules about how we interact in the community, how we interact with friends and, and even family

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that we have to respect privacy. We have to respect boundaries. We have to be respectful of other people's homes, and they're their families and their boundaries and their belongings. And it is very, very common and it's actually a good thing. To share food and to invite people over and to call people over and to go over to other people's homes. When they invite you the prophets have some says the right the moment some on another Muslim is when a Muslim invites you that you accept their invitation.

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You accept your invitation and you go

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but it's important that when you do go then you conduct yourself properly. You'll be in a

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exemplary guests. The prophets, Allah taught us to be an exemplary host. But he also taught us to be an exemplary guest. And do not be an extra burden on your host. So that they look forward to inviting not only you again, but they look forward to inviting others into their homes as well. Right. So it's very important. And one of the key factors here that I want to highlight and I'll conclude with this, is it specifically happened about the prophets allottee center. And the reason for that was because of how loving and generous and friendly and kind and gracious he was with people and how close people felt to him, it specifically happened there to remind us of the fact

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that these types of lines and boundaries are oftentimes crossed, more so with the people that we feel very, very close to, which is why we think it's okay. But we have to remember it's not okay in that situation. And we never know when somebody shyness or somebody, you know, just modesty is preventing them from saying something about it. But you're really burning and destroying your relationship there. Because not everyone has the heart of the messengers allottee center where they won't take it personally. But this damages and breaks relationships over time. But it's much much better, to be very cognizant, to be very balanced to be very moderate, to be very dignified and

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intelligent and how we interact with people. May Allah subhanaw taala grants all the ability to practice everything was that was said and heard. Subhan Allah He will be handy here. Savannah Columbia Hambrick national law in

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the soccer community.