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7 Habits of Highly Effective Muslims

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Aarij Anwer

Channel: Aarij Anwer

Episode Notes

  1. Loving the poor and being close to them
  2. Being grateful by looking at those who have less
  3. Keeping family close
  4. Not to ask anything of anyone
  5. Speak the truth, even if it’s bitter
  6. Not to fear criticism
  7. Remember Allah a lot by saying La Hawla Wa La Quwwata Illa Billah


Episode Transcript

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I want to share with you a beautiful Hadith of the Prophet Allah is awesome today. And this hadith, you can call it The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Muslims, things that if we were to incorporate them in our lives and the seven of them, you become highly effective as a person, elevated in spirituality, closer to Allah subhanaw taala and generally a much better person. This is based out of the hadith of a Buddha Allah devotee robiola one who

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river he says

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Amani honey li B Sivan

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says my dear friend commanded me to do seven things and that's where we get those seven habits. Number one

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I'm out on the beautiful Bill Misaki new a new women whom he commanded me to love the poor and to be close to them. Number two

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for Amma Ronnie and Andorra Illa man who are Dooney Well, Umbra Isla man who are focusing

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he commanded me to look at those who are below me in privilege, those who have less money, not those who have more privilege and more money than me.

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Number three, were emalahleni and Aucilla Rahima for in advance, but he told me he commanded me to be close to family to keep family close, even if family does not want to remain close.

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Number four, well not only Allah, Allah hadn't shy

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he told me or commanded me to not ask anybody of anything. Ask Allah subhanaw taala

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do what you can do but don't rely on people's generosity and favors. Number five Amani Allah half of Allah he lo Mata Allah him

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sorry number five will Amana need an affordable health care we're in Ghana moron. Number five he told me or commanded me that I see the truth, even if the truth is bitter.

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Number six, but I'm not an Allah Hafiz Allah He alone was alive. He commanded me to not fear people, but to fear Allah subhanaw taala not be afraid of what the people say. Not let that become a deterrent for me to do what's right. He told me Don't do that. Only fear Allah subhanaw taala Allah help of Allah he lo Metalla him. Now this is in reference to an ayah in the Quran as well. Well, I saw fauna lo medalla. And they don't fear the criticism of the criticizers. They don't worry about that.

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And lastly, number seven will Imani and Oxfam in Colina how La Quwata. We love for in Hoonah. I'm in Cannes in the lounge, Buffy the wire for consuming canoes in Jana. Number seven he commanded me to say La how la Vela who what I love in love frequently, often because this is a treasure from the treasures of paradise the statement and this is a Hadith of one William well Hua, this hadith narrated by Muhammad and it is a authentic narration and this other similar narrations that are found a few points here, I don't want to each of these seven are amazing points. Each of these seven can be expanded upon

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extensively, but I'll touch upon a few of them in some detail and all of them generically. The first thing before we even begin to talk about the hadith is how a Buddha wrote the law and who describes the Prophet alayhi salam and the relationship. He describes it as a moronic Khalili, my close friend, you can call it my BFF he is the one who told me to do this. This is the messenger of Allah. Some remember the Messenger of Allah is Rasool Allah, the Messenger of Allah. He's the Imam of the community. He's the commander in chief of the army. He's the head of state, yet one of his congregants, one of the people that is part of the Jamara.

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He's the Messenger of Allah, like his friend, not just any friend, his close friend. And this is not exclusive to Abu Dhabi, we have other Sahaba for example, and other learners saying that I will sonically li be selasa, my dear friend told me to do three things always. And you find similar types of sentiment in there in many, many multiple narrations for multiple Sahaba who all hung around him, prayed with him, you know, hung out with him, heard him talk saw him on a day to day basis. This all him

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is a friend pasando.

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That's how they saw him. And this is an underappreciated part of the character of the Prophet is

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that he was truly a friend to the people. Think about that for someone who is the head of state, for them to be so friendly, so welcoming, so open. It takes so much character so much, you know, accommodation, so much welcoming to make people feel that they're included. This is how he was at his Auto Salon.

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And this is a glimpse from his life that we can only get when we combine many, many of the narrations are we deep, and we already take a deep look at his life. Ali Sato Salam, the point being, this is something that he was, this is how we should be as well, we should be friendly, we should be kind, we should be welcoming. People should feel comfortable around us. It shouldn't be that our presence makes others uncomfortable. It shouldn't be this way we are to be people who are gentle.

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There are many Hadith about this, where ALLAH messenger prays for the person who is Hainan lady in and who is gentle, who soft, easygoing doesn't take themselves too seriously. These are good characteristics. Kindness, and gentleness are the characteristics of the believer. And we should, as a reminder, try to be more kind and more gentle to those around us. Especially those of our family, our community and everybody else as well. This is just the point. And if you read the zero, the prophet salaam, you study the zero, I want you to try to see other examples where people who were Musa lien people who were praying behind them, people who are in his army, how they have their

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relationship with the Prophet and how they describe them. It's a very fascinating tangent to focus on, if you're studying this, you know, Inshallah, that's one. One basic point. Now the seven effective, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Muslims, it starts number one, by Rehabil, Misaki, in with the new women who love of the poor,

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love of the poor, not just help the poor, it's loving the poor, and to be close to them. This is a level above than just providing support to someone which is good. That's very good to financially support somebody. But this is one level above where you have empathy for their situation, where you can see that this person is in a bad situation. And it's like, they're not at fault for being in that bad situation, necessarily. Perhaps it's circumstances, perhaps they made mistakes. We all make mistakes, but their mistakes were more costly than my mistakes. That's empathy. And understanding that and having that attitude is so critical. You would,

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unfortunately, like our culture thrives on being cutthroat. That's how corporate culture is very cutthroat, which is fine in a business setting, which is sometimes necessary in the business setting to drive innovation to, you know, get a better results getting to make more profit, but is not good in relationships in understanding people, and particularly those who are underprivileged, particularly those who are underprivileged because of generational trauma or oppression. This is important we speak about, for example, the people who are largely considered to be marginalized, like, say, the indigenous community. And particularly, if you live in areas where there's lots of

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indigenous folks, the narrative turns very fast from being okay. These are people who are marginalized, too. These are people who are at fault because they drink too much. This happens, this happens in Calgary, for example. There's lots of indigenous people live in the area, Winnipeg I was there as well, recently, same narrative as exists there. But there's a lack of empathy and understanding what causes these people to do what they're doing. If you look at the history that they have, that they have lived through, it gives you a perspective of the suffering that they went through. They don't know how to cope with it, this is possibly their response to it, not to condone

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that behavior, but to have empathy to understand. So we can inshallah help the weak and take some lessons. This is what football Messiah scheme represents, is to understand the situation of the miskeen not to just say you are miskeen because you are a bad person. What do we mean whom to bring them closer? This this idea of bringing them closer is to say that, you know, they're not lower or I'm not better than them. I remember I was in Pakistan I used to we had we would always have a servant in the house. Right? This was a

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This is a common thing where you have a poor person who comes to your house, they, you know, clean up and stuff. Sometimes they live on the property as well. And they never eat on the same table as the rest of us. They always sit on the floor eat and while the family's eating on the table. Why is that? Why do we feel superior to that person? Because we have more money. That is that why this is exactly the opposite of what the messenger of Allah Islam is saying, what do we mean who bring them close? In fact, you have a Abdullah bin or Muraleedharan Omar, who is narrated, that he would,

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he would go and look for a person who was underprivileged, who was a miskeen and invite him into his house complete stranger, so that they could have a dinner. And he would do this as frequently as he possibly could mow the lawn. And he's seen this on the Messenger of Allah system even more where he would come to the US House. So for the people who would sit in the back of the masjid because they're homeless, they had no home. And he would take one of them. And he would go to a Sahabas House, who has money who has food, and he would invite all of these poor people with him. So that that the classism that exists, can be broken at its core, these poor people are coming with the

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Messenger of Allah, the most honorable person to a rich man's house, and they will all sit together and they will all eat together, because you're all the same. In the sight of Allah, it's only Dukkha that makes you better or worse. This is what the messenger while some did actively, and then his Sahaba did actively to make sure that this kind of this evil doesn't corrupt a person's brain or their soul. Unfortunately, we see this in our society. And this is something that we have to figure out how to address. Maybe the solution isn't to find the person who was, you know, homeless and bring them into the house. I'm not saying you do that. But there has to be some way that we develop

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empathy and teach empathy to our kids and break down this classism that exists quite often in the Muslim cultures. It's important that we think about this proactively for ourselves and our families. Please move ahead is up look at him.

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He said number two, are they subtle, salam, if you can make space and moving inshallah they'll be great. Number two, he said,

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Well, I'm not only an Andorra, Elam and Hua Minh, who are Dooney, Wallah, 11 who have Okay, the idea being being grateful, looking at those who are underprivileged, not those who are more privileged than myself. The idea here is, we look at those who are underprivileged, in hopes that we are grateful for the blessings and the privileges that Allah has given us. Not that we don't want to be ambitious, it's actually to the contrary, we don't want to be ungrateful. This is a very important habit of a successful, effective Muslim, that they are grateful for what Allah has given them. Elena has in us like the messenger said, True richness being actually wealthy is you're happy, you're

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happy with what you have a handler, because in all honesty, you can never have enough, there's always someone who's going to have more.

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And if that is the pursuit, it's always going to be a futile pursuit.

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To the effective Muslims habit is Alhamdulillah I'm happy with Allah has given Me I will try to get more I will try to work hard, but Alhamdulillah for Allah has given me an unhandled love of what he has kept away from me. This is the attitude. Number three is to take care of family to keep family close, even if family doesn't want to be close. I've given a football on this before. This is a hard, hard thing to do. We can do justice to it in a few minutes. But the idea is fundamental in Islam, family is blood. Those are ties that Allah subhanaw taala created, we didn't choose to create those ties. We didn't choose our brothers or sisters. We didn't choose our parents. We didn't choose

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our cousins, Allah chose them. For them to be our family. We can choose our family. So I will choose our friends excuse me, we can choose our our spouses, hopefully, but everybody else in our family, Allah chose them for us. So if anything, the righteousness and the goodness that we extend to them, even if they are not reciprocating that is because Allah chose them. That's the fundamental reason. And that's why you find this in the Quran. Again, and again. We're living the Yasi Luna AMA, ama Allah who will be a useful those who join that which Allah has commanded to be joined. And here the image of joining here is you keep ties with family because you're tied by blood, but you keep that

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tight. You don't cut that off. That's number three a highly effective habit of the believer. Successful leave a number

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For Allah, Allah has that I don't ask anybody for anything. This is actually according to him in cathedra, the meaning of Iraq and I will do a year kind of saying, you will only worship and you will only ask for help. And even if he says that you will only ask for help means we rely solely on Allah. We don't rely on people's generosity and favors. Of course, people will help us, Allah will send people to help us. That's not what this is saying. That's not what the messenger is saying, Let's build slum. But what he's seeing is that don't be dependent. Don't be dependent on people, people will disappoint you. Be independent of people and depend on Allah punctata Allah will never

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disappoint you. This is a liberating way of living life. It's a very powerful way to live your life wherein you know that whatever I am able to achieve I will do it with my own hands with my own hard work through Allah Sophia and Allah's blessings through Allah has divine guidance, I will achieve that. But I will not wait for people to open doors for me. This is that attitude that the messenger wants us to have. It's a very beautiful attitude. It's a it's an attitude that creates positivity. It takes away negativity from a person's heart. Oftentimes he would feel this person hasn't done enough for me. He should have done more let's negativity so I'm going to help you that won't get

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anything done.

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Not to worry, I asked Allah subhanaw taala you can I will do a you are gonna start in and whatever Allah gives me I'll be content with what am I this volatile stuff put a Lalibela goes up through who knows?

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lol hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. You are early, he was having a bad number five. Mr. Ronnie and Aquila will help the way in Ghana moron. The fifth habit of a highly effective Muslim is to see the truth. Even if it is bitter. This is a hard thing to do. It's really hard. Because it's so easy to lie. It's so easy that I when we're talking with colleagues, someone makes a joke, someone says something. And you're almost compelled to make up a story to fit in. This happens a lot. Particularly if you know you and your colleagues don't have a lot of overlap. It happens. It happens in situations where people are stressed, they will go cross the border. It's a stressful

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situation. We have trauma from people stopping us from people interrogating us, it's easy to say something that's not fully true. How much money do you or do you have in your bag, or persons has a small life. These are things that we think are small, but they're not small. Because what we have done in our minds is we've made it okay to live. That's the problem. It's not that the lie hurt somebody you're not that's not the point. The point is, it's okay in our minds to lie when we see when we see it's convenient. That's the bigger problem. And that's why it is not allowed in Islam to lie in any circumstances, except very, very exceptional situations. To save a life to save a

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relationship, really, in those two extenuating circumstances, you could just see a word that's ambiguous to prevent a disaster. But other than that 99.999% of times, there is no line, not even as a joke, not even as a small little thing we made up to fit in nothing.

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This is hard. It's very hard, because our culture is built up on making up stuff to entertain people. But our deen is built on principles. And the principle of truth is non negotiable for us. We're an Akula, we'll have to encounter moron. Even if it is bitter. That's where it's hard.

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Oftentimes, a child will lie,

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the hide a bitter situation.

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But that's really the test. Can you tell the truth, when it will get you in trouble.

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And this is something I encourage all of us, those of us who have kids that teach our children if they tell the truth, and it's something that you know, is not damaging, right, they did something that's not damaging. They didn't do the homework, for example, but they told the truth. The Congress should be cognizant that we don't want to punish and then create a situation where they don't tell the truth next time. We have to be cognizant of that. How do you handle that we're encouraged that they tell the truth. We reward that they told the truth, but also help them in what they didn't do, right. This is a problem that we have to grapple with. And all of us should actively think about

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this because the habit of truthfulness is built in

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In these small transactions, the small moments and then amalgamates into it, and then the messenger says, One radula

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a person will tell the truth Hatter YouTuber in the law, he's a deacon, they tell the truth and they tell the truth until Allah writes that this is a real, truthful person, and that they go into Jannah as a truthful person. And the opposite end of the spectrum, a person tells the lie and the telling of the lie hatha yoga and the lying kids daban until they're written in the eyes of Allah as the perpetual liar.

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And that takes him to the fire of hell. So we build these habits in ourselves and in our families. Number six. I'm out on the Aloha Fila Hill Omotola in the haters gonna hate. That's one way of putting it. loam is blame someone low Matala him the blame of the one who wants to blame you or who is blaming you for making the right decision that people blame you, you live with the consequences. That's what the message is saying. You did the right thing. If people blame me for that, don't worry about it. This is a very powerful idea. A lot can be said about this. A lot of implementations of this can be discussed. But the idea is at its core, we fear Allah subhanaw taala

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that's what who matters to us. First and foremost, we take precautions we make sure we do things right. But if it comes down to a choice between this is what Allah Papa says. And once and this is what people will say, and it's what people want. And there's no way to rectify or reconcile between the two. Then we choose Allah subhanaw taala if there's a way to reconcile hamdulillah do so. But if there isn't, what are Hoffa Elia Hakuna Villa de la medulla in the believers, they prioritize Allah subhanaw taala. And finally, the seventh habit is an Oxfam and only the high level of water I love Allah saying the whole hour who was in the villa frequently it's a reminder what is the mean all

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power, all might is in the hands of Allah. We are feeble beings, we're small beings. We are, you know, little, we live for a few years and we die. We get, you know, infected fast, we get sick very fast. We're holding on and settled by Eva, we're weak.

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Allah is the one who's strong, we remind ourselves constantly the whole level of water level, Allah is the one who's in charge. Allah subhanaw taala has all the ultimate power. It's liberating because you don't blame yourself for your mistakes and your shortcomings so much then it's okay we will make mistakes. Allah is the One who is powerful. He is the forgiving one. These are seven effective habits, highly effective habits of believers. Number one being I'll recap quickly, the one who loves the poor and keeps them focused, number two, to look at those who are underprivileged, so we're grateful number three, to keep them the close even if family doesn't want to be close. Number four,

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to not ask for anything of anyone to be completely independent and only rely on Allah. Number five, to tell the truth even if truth is hard and bitter. Number six, to not fear the criticism of people only worry about Allah Subhana Allah is pleasure. And number seven and finally to c'est la hawla wala Quwata illa Allah is a beautiful habits all of us need a reminder like this all of us have to think about how can we inculcate this in ourselves and our families we ask Allah for tofi in Allahumma liteblue Soluna we are here to download he was looking through my last video I'm a little Alina within us we are slowly Allah Muhammad Islam Allah Allah Allah Allah and with within Allah

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Mahina listen to Ahmed now let me let you watch it on a resume that he was gonna mean hold the hero but I mean, have a nasty nasty dunya Hassan

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