Channel: Yusuf Estes
Sheikh Yusuf Estes, American Muslim Preacher & Teacher giving public lecture on the topic ‘Repeat for Better Understanding’
Bismillah Alhamdulillah you're watching way over Muslim defining the Muslim character. I'm your host, Yusuf Estes. And for the next few minutes, we'd like to talk about the subject of the teachings and sayings of Mohammed, peace and blessings be upon him to help define the Muslim character, what is the behavior of a Muslim, and this is what we're going to be exploring. Now, in this segment of our program.
I want to begin by mentioning that Anna's may Allah be pleased with him, reports that whenever the Prophet peace be upon him said anything, he liked to repeat his words, three times, so that the meanings would be understood fully. And whenever he came upon a group of people, he would greet them. And he would repeat this salutation three times.
Now this is recorded in both Sahih Bukhari and Muslim. So therefore, we have no doubt whatsoever, this is something very important that we should pay attention to. Very often people misunderstand each other. And a lot of it has to do with our communication. Sometimes I say something, in my case, I say something kind of fast. And then what happens is, you misunderstand or you didn't hear all of it. So if I repeat it, then it makes it easier for you. For instance, if I want to give you instructions about something, then it's rather important. It doesn't hurt to repeat it, will you please go over there and shut off the microwave oven, please go over there and turn it off. The
microwave oven needs to be shut off, please do that. And so this would be in the sooner or the way of Muhammad to repeat what we're trying to get across to somebody. But especially when we're teaching something in Islam, we like to repeat it. Sometimes when we're dealing with the Arabic language, then when we say something, especially if you're not familiar with it, it could be difficult for you. So this gives us a chance to hear it again. And then hear it again. And in greeting somebody if you said Salaam Alaikum, salaam Aleykum Selam Aleykum. And then people feel good look at this guy. He's really a happy person. He's given me salaams three times. And why are
they called Sadam Rahmatullah? So this is a very good characteristic of the Prophet peace be upon him something for us to learn, take benefit from it. The next thing that he talked about and actually practiced himself, is the way that he delivered his speeches. Now, I meet a lot of the youngsters who say, when I grew up, I would like to be a fatigued a person who gives the Juma hookah or the Friday sermon. And if I'm going to do that, what are some of the things I need to know about it? Well, the Prophet salallahu Salam peace be upon him talks about that, he says, and this is by Henri Yasser, by the way, a very famous companion or Muhammad peace be upon him. He says that he
heard the prophet of a loss of Atlanta with solemn, saying that to prolong the Salah, and shorten the hook, but indicates religious knowledge of a person. So make your Salah long, and your sermon or flipper short.
Now, what we mean by this is that when the one who is speaking, gives a talk about Islam, he comes to the point very, very quickly. And this is something that is indicative of a person who knows his subject, he doesn't need a lot of verbiage he doesn't keep talking, and talking and talking, try and get his point across. Because if he really knows his subject, he comes to the point captures your attention, deliver the message, and then what go to the prayer and stand in the prayer and recite long stories or verses from the Quran. And then this is a the best kind of sermon that there is, by the way, we don't see a lot of that these days, I find even in my own foot, but sometimes that I'm
talking a lot longer and praying a lot shorter than I really shouldn't be. But sometimes we feel like we have to say more. We want this opportunity. We've got everybody together here in the Juma clip, but let's keep going and going and going. But in reality, the shorter speeches have more effect they really do. There's one of the teachings of Muhammad SAW Islam is just like that, listen to this. Somebody went to Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him and he said, Tell me something about Islam lit only you could kill me. And actually the word he said was dean, the way of Islam Tell me something about the way of Islam that only you could tell me.
Now, if somebody came to me and said that why would I be thinking a man could I give this guy a speech, I could tell him this and I could say that and so and so and so. And others would say, Man, I can speak volumes. Here's the guy's a walk in library could talk for the next three weeks, about the private moment.
allied with Salam answered this statement, this request from this man with a very simple small expression. The man says, if I say something to me about this thing that only you could tell me, look what he said, cool amantha Bella thermostat thing. And it means say,
I put everything in the trust of a law. And then be steadfast on what you said.
I want to repeat that, say, I put everything into the trust of the law, and be steadfast on what you said. And according to the data we just heard, I'll repeat it again. Say, I put everything into the trust of the law, and then be steadfast on what you said. What do we mean by this? Well, when a person says, a shadow, la, la la la, I bear witness that there's none to worship, except the law. That's a form of putting your trust into a law and you begin to worship Him alone, and nothing else, worshiping the Creator, and not his creation. And so by putting my trust into a law like this, and then being steadfast on that I have complied with this teaching Mohammed peace and blessings be upon
I want to move to another subject. And this was something mentioned by his wife, the wife of the Prophet Mohammed Salah later Salaam named Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her reports that she says here, I have never seen the prophet of a law laughing, so much so that you can see deep down into his mouth to this over. And he she said he used to only smile. And this is also nice to know that the idea of this heavy laughter Ah ha ha ha ha that we see people doing is really not in the way of the Muslim character. This we don't really find with Muhammad. And in fact, I recall another Hadith, when he peace be upon him was passing by some people who were laughing like that they were laughing
so hard. Oh, you know. And he looked at him real serious. And he said, you know, if you knew what I knew, you would laugh less and cry more. So it's appropriate for Muslim to smile, as mentioned here, but it's also appropriate for Muslims to control themselves, that we don't want to be out here.
Like this, because this is really more like the way of a donkey brain than it is for the behavior of a good human being. It's good to give a nice polite laughter to somebody say something funny, and you can and something cute or comical, but to reserve ourselves. And this goes back to some of the other teachings that we've been talking about as well. And this idea of being shy as a Muslim, and being reserved, all of this is developing the good character of a Muslim.
The next one we want to talk about here is on the authority of Abu huraira. And he says that he heard the Prophet celebs and I'm saying that you should love someone
to a certain degree in moderation. Because perhaps one day, you're going to have dislike for this person. But you should also dislike a person with a certain moderation because someday, you might find that this is somebody you love. Now, this is a very important statement here because we are learning not to go overboard. It doesn't mean by the way that you shouldn't really love somebody deeply. But to have moderation It is important. Because the real love that any Muslim should have should first be for a law. Naturally, we love our mother. We love our sisters and brothers. And we love our spouses, husbands and wives. Naturally, we love our children too. But still, when we're
talking about a relationship with a friend or somebody we know and our everyday dealing with them. We want to be careful not to make this a relationship where we're dependent or codependent on somebody else. Now modern psychiatrists are telling us that's exactly true today, something that was taught to us 1400 years ago. And here amazingly enough, this is what the psychiatrists are saying the same thing. You don't want to become someone that's called codependent means that you don't have anything if something happens to the other person. Many times we hear about somebody who's so much in love with somebody that if they die or leave them or divorce them, that this person commit
suicide. Well, this is way out of Islam. It's not acceptable whatsoever for a Muslim to do something like that. Or they might even begin taking drugs or doing alcohol, any of these types of things, but they said oh
I lost the person I love so much, I can't stand it anymore, blah, blah, blah. And that's because they did not adhere to what Muhammad says. And I'm Doris.
Now, here's another teaching that I think all of us could take benefit from, especially these days when there's so much rushing around hurrying to go here and hurrying to go there. Everybody seems to be in this huge rush. Listen to this one.
And this is on the authority above the live in the bass. May Allah be pleased when
he says that when they were returning from arafat, during the hedge, that some of the people behind the Prophet peace be upon him, were beating their animals and their cameras, trying to run faster and faster and hurrying.
So he pointed toward them with his whip, and he said, Oh, people proceed calmly. There is no virtue in rushing. So what we learn from this immediately is that to be in a big hurry, is not what it's all about. Of course, if you live in the West, you see this all the time, we have what we call rush hour traffic, heard someone say, what do you call it rush hour, when you get into the traffic, nobody can go anywhere it stopped.
You see what happens when you hurry up too fast, you can't go anywhere. It's a very good point that we're learning from our blessed Prophet 1400 years ago, Don't be in a hurry. Take your time, be patient, and also have mercy for each other. We're going to wrap up this part of our program right here and then come back right after these messages and learn more about the way of the Muslim in defining the Muslim Bismillah Alhamdulillah. We're back and you're watching way of the Muslim defining the Muslim character. We were talking on the issue of the importance of Muslim character as regards the way that Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him taught us. We talked about being in a
hurry rushing into things and taking our time or being polite and just, you know, following along with things as they go, being a lot better than trying to rush, rush, hurry, hurry all the time. Now we want them to go to the next topic. And that is that the Prophet peace and blessing be upon him is reported to have said, and this is on the authority Babu Herrera, he said that whoever believes in the law, and the last day, let him show hospitality to his guests.
And he who believes in law on the last day, let him maintain good relationship with his relatives. And whoever believes in the law in the last day to either say good things, or else remain silent. Now,
in another Hadith, teaching of Muhammad Salaam, it's reported that he says, Whoever believes in the law on the last day should accommodate his guest, according to the guest rights.
And then he was asked, What is the guest rights or profitable law. And he said, it is to accommodate the guest for a day and a night. And hospitality extends for three days. And whatever is beyond that is charity.
Now, this is a very good teaching for us, when we start talking about rights. Because you see, Islam comes with rights and limits. Now all of us are interested in rights. We talk about it all the time. Human Rights,
grandparents rights, children's rights, we have people now talking about animals rights,
even plants rights. But did you know that these rights have been covered in Islam 1400 years ago, we're only referring referring to a small part of that when we talk about this today, but in Islam, it goes very deep about these rights, and what the limits are, what we're interested as a human beings, what's my rights, but we don't care about the limits as long as I get what I want. But the limits means that this is where it stops. You can have this to a point and then it stops. Let's take an example. Something that came with all the profits, and nothing new when it comes in Islam, is that the monotheistic religion of Islam is teaching, you don't eat pork, you don't eat the meat of
the pig. We learned from this immediately that we have rights had the right to eat a lot of things. But then there's this limit. Certain things that we don't eat same withdrawal
You can drink anything except don't drink alcohol. And these are the limits. And then what about when we talk about the behavior and this is what our program is about developing good Muslim character. We learn very clear here some rights and limits. Your guest has rights on you. But what are the limits? Well, it's pretty clear from this, if you'd like to have your guests stay with you, overnight, a day and a night, this is in Islam. Three days, this is also in Islam. But whatever you do beyond that is going to be an act of charity, you don't have to do it, you can tell them, okay, you're three days are up, I have a nice time. Or you can allow the guest to stay a little longer,
according to how you would like to be charitable for your guests. The next thing that I mentioned was about kinship about your relatives, how do you treat your relatives, because it says, Let the one who believes in Allah and the Last Day This is talking about the people who are going to paradise, if you want to go to Paradise, if you want to go to heaven, then one of the things is important is how you treat your relatives. And it starts with your mom. As we know from the Hadith of the Prophet sallallaahu salam, and somebody asked him, who after Alon is messenger has the most writes on me, said your mother. He said that who said your mother said that who said your mother,
and then your father. So look how much rights Your mother has, this is the closest relative to you, who carried you inside of her for nine months. And then who was giving birth to you in great pain and agony. And who is the one that raised you up and took care of you taught you how to walk taught you how to talk your mother. So certainly, you can see why she'd have the rights over you. From the time you're born until you die. Your mother has rights on you. Then what about your dad, he's the next one in line, Evan writes on you, your parents have rights. Now, you might say, Well, yeah, but my parents are different. They're not nice, blah, blah, blah, doesn't matter what they're doing.
You're doing this for a law.
And as a good Muslim, developing good Muslim character, one of the things that you have to keep in mind is that you're not doing this for the people. You're doing it for yourself in front of a law, you want a law to know that you're doing this really, because the law has shown you the way to do it through his last and final prophet. I want to amplify a little bit more on that subject, because He also spoke about the way that we deal with not just the guest, and not just the one who is the the relatives, but also in the way that we deal with our own tongue our speech, because he says, Let the one who believes in the law and the last day either say good things or be silent.
Or what does this mean? Well, naturally, you don't want to say something that's bad, like hurting people's feelings. You don't want to say a lie. Certainly that wouldn't be in Islam to lies. You don't want to say things that are going to provoke trouble. You don't want to say things that you're carrying gossip and all the rest of it. All the things that we're talking about here is either say something good or keep silent.
And another hidden ether tissue. Mohammed, I recall that he said that it's sufficient for a person to just repeat what he hears in a day to be considered a liar. Now, that's an amazing thing. Because what you hear and that's true, if you think about if you repeated everything you heard from this person, and that person and television and all the rest of it in a day's time.
Chances are, for sure you'd be telling some lies in there, whether you meant to or not. It's not essential. It's not important for us to just keep talking talk, talk, talk talking all the time. I really don't know where we got this idea from, but it's very prevalent in today's society. It seems as though we just keep going on and on and talking and talking. And if we're sitting in the car, we feel like we have to chatterbox chatterbox, or else we want the radio going, having noise going all the time. But there's something really beautiful and being silent. And the prophet SAW Islam saying that right here. Yes, moot. He said in Arabic, be silent. And the silence is golden. It's very
beautiful. Think about the Quran, and think about how you can do some good deeds today. Use your time wisely. Even when you're sitting still. Even when you're traveling somewhere, you can use this time instead of trying to talk talk, talk, talk, just keep the tongue busy. And talking about this term. The Prophet peace be upon him taught us that if a person would like to go to gender, he said I can guarantee the gender the paradise for a person who can guard two things, the tongue and their private parts. So sir
This one the tongue is the most dangerous of all. So we guard this tongue will be in good shape.
And here's another important aspect of developing the Muslim character. And that is gentleness.
This is narrated on the authority of Abu huraira radio wha hoo on he said that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, indeed a law is gentle, and he loves gentleness. And Allah gives due to gentleness that which he does not give to harshness. And, you know, today, we see a lot of harshness in the way that people deal with each other. The harshness the way that we treat each other in the streets, and the markets in the shops and in the schools. Even in the MOS. It's not good that we see this harsh treatment, when somebody said, just dude, yeah, this way, you know, to be gentle with the people is to follow the teaching of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam peace be upon
him. And it's certainly a good way for us to gain pleasure or reward with a lot. Because this gentleman says something that Allah loves very much. And sometimes you feel like, well, these people are being harsh with me, why shouldn't I retaliate? The same way that they're treating me, I'll treat them back. But it's the one who has this gentleness, the one who will really take their time, relax, and be in Islam, who will gain the reward from Allah. What I mean by that is, if you remember, Islam means peaceful submission to Allah. So when I'm in peace, even when things are happening, that I don't particularly like, I'm still going to be gentle in the way I do. Now, this
is talking about how I deal with strangers and people that I barely know, what about the gentleness that I should have for those people that I know pretty well, my good friends, my family, my mom, my dad, how should I treat them, and it should be gentle, soft kind, because the kind treatment will actually get other people to do the same thing to it makes everybody have more peace and stickiness, sweetness, tranquility in them. So this is a very important aspect of Islam is this gentleman's called riff, or Rafiq, in Islam, I want to now mention something about the truth of a person who is dealing in sin. Now, a lot of times we think that it would be the best kind of Muslim would have no
sin whatsoever. But that's really not possible because we're human beings.
A person is not an angel, and we're going to be making mistakes, we're going to do sins. And this next study deals with that subject, this is narrated on the authority of cannabis. May Allah be pleased with him, who said that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam, the stroma, Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, that there is no believer, except that he has a sin, which he commits from time to time,
or a sin which he continually persist in, doesn't leave it until he dies or leaves this world. Indeed, the believer was created as one who is frequently tried and tested, and he often repents. But then he forgets, when he is admonished he accepts the admonition.
This is the good Hadeeth or teaching of Mohammed Salah Salaam, that gives us a number of points. First of all, we need to remember that we are human beings, and we're being tested by law. This testing that we're talking about is our life. From the time we're born to the time we die, we're in a test from the law. And this certainly focuses on that subject, because it says that we're gonna sin.
But we're gonna stop sinning at some point or repent for that. But then there may be a sin that will commit and not repent for before we die, or something that people persist in. And that
sometimes we forget. And you know, this is really something that human being is all about. And this is a truth in this, that the human being is made to forget the word in Arabic for human is ins, or insam. And when we say I forgot, it comes from the same root on an associate, I forgot. So the human being has been created. Forget, Allah knows we forget, but this is something
as Muslims, we need to try to overcome, we need to remember I think one of the best things, by the way is to remember a lot to think of a law.
So, if you make a sin, do your best to repent from that. And if you make it again, if you forgot and did it again, don't think oh, Allah is not going to forgive me, because that's the wrong attitude. Repent again. Repent every time you make a mistake, and try your best to, to stop Of course, but at the same time, don't give up on yourself. Don't say oh, well, I give up because you know what, I'm a sinner. I can't stop sinning and that's just my nature. Don't do that. Try your best to do your good deeds, but he makes a mistake, then just say, Okay, stop for Allah, Allah forgive me, and then inshallah Allah, Allah will forgive you.
Our whole series that we're dealing with here and the way of the Muslim is intended to develop the character of a Muslim using the teachings of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam. I hope inshallah, that these teachings will benefit me too, because the mouth is the closest to the ear. And I hope that I gained from this and become a better Muslim through these efforts. And this is a prayer for all of us. Allah guide us to do our best I mean, until next time, Salaam Alaikum. Welcome to Landry.