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Yusuf Estes

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Episode Notes

Very useful advices by brother Yusuf Estes.

Episode Transcript

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In our home the de la rockville alameen hula de Jelena muslimeen was salatu salam ala rasulillah. Kareem said I'm gonna go,

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Masha, Allah.

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Looks like everybody got here.

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Wait a minute, if you're not here yet Raise your hand.

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Oh, I knew somebody would do it

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Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah bill al amin, of all the people here, they've all the speakers who we've got. They chose me to talk about children.

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Well, actually, I like kids, I like kids a lot. I work in a lot of programs with the youth and the children all throughout the world, especially in my country in the United States.

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And I'm going to tell you a little secret if you promise not to tell anybody I

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promise.

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Okay. The reason I like to work with the children, the reason I get along with the little kids so much,

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is because I used to be one.

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Well, the instruction that alogue gives in the Quran for our youth.

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And I cannot think of anything more appropriate or more beneficial for us to use

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than the speech of Allah subhanaw taala

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I realized that most of my audience around the world, actually, they don't know the Arabic language.

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That's sad, because if you did, you could appreciate this even more in the logo, tarbiyah. However, what we endeavour to do is to try to bring about the best translation for you that we could.

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And also the easiest place to find it for you. At the same time.

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When you get children at home, and you're trying to work with them,

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the last thing you think about is to go to the Quran, because you're trying to figure out how to stop them from doing this. And don't do that and don't do this and something else. And oh, my God, look what they're doing now.

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So I wanted to make it easy for you to go to the port on to find some answers. Now there's a number,

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this number for non Muslims that are superstitious. They're afraid of this number. In fact, when they build a big building,

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a tall building, they used to stop on the 12th floor and not build it any bigger than that. And then later when they built buildings bigger than that taller than that, they would mark it. So you're in the elevator, you're on the 12th floor, and then you're on the 14th floor.

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But no what what's the number they didn't put?

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Right? They're afraid of this number 13. And they talk about Friday the 13th.

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We're Muslims, we don't worry about numbers. And we don't worry about superstitions. One thing we worry about is a lot of happy with me. So forget about the superstition, but remember the number and turn it backwards and say 31 and then say 1331 13 because 31 if you go by the numbers is served to look man.

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I know you can't see it from there, but that's what it is. Okay.

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Chapter 31 is Surah lukeman. In verse number 13 is the one to go to because there's some really good advice. The advice actually starts in verse 12, talking about Luqman and it goes all the way to verse 19. Bear with me now what I tried to give you a decent translation of the meaning and think how you can use this for your own children.

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It says in translation, and for sure Allah bestowed on Luqman, the Hickman. Now Hickman means wisdom or religious knowledge, saying, Give thanks to a law and whoever gives thanks, he gives thanks for his own good and whoever is not thankful for sure Allah is

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a Gunny. He is free from any need Worthy of all praise. And remember when Luqman said to his son, when he was giving him advice that this is a lot of teaching you and me how to give advice to the kids.

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Look man is saying to his son,

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yeah. Oh my son. Don't make

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partners in worship with a law

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for sure making partners with the law it's called shirk in Arabic, for sure making shirt with the law is great balloon.

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Big wrong, the worst thing indeed. And a lot of his enjoined on human beings to be good to their parents.

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His mother bears him in weakness upon hardship and weakness upon hardship.

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And his weaning is for two years. Give thanks to a law and give thanks to your parents.

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And under law is your final destination. But if your parents try to make you worship something, something other than the law, something of which you have no knowledge, don't obey them in that don't obey them in that. But behave with them kindly and follow the path of the one who returns to Allah turning to Allah making Toba in repentance and obedience, then to Allah will be your return. And he will tell you have what you did.

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Again, here comes another one, oh, my son,

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if there is anything equal to the weight of a grain of a mustard seed, and though it's been a rock, or the heavens or in the earth, a lock and bring it forth barely Allah is subtle. in bringing out the grain well aware of its place it This means alone knows where everything is, and he's capable of bringing it out from there at anytime. Oh, my son, eco masala, established the salon. That's the worship that's enjoined on us as Muslims, we do it five times a day. Some people call it prayer. They say you pray.

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Unless they're Arab. They say you pray.

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For sure.

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For sure, this is something much bigger than prayer. In the English language, we have prayer prayers, you see, Christians will go like this.

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But that's not prayer we have that. It's called God.

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Only when we do.

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We don't close our hands. We open them so we can get something if Allah wants us to have it.

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Also, it tells them in their book in their Bible, to pray unceasingly.

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That means don't start praying.

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And I remember when I was a Christian, they used to ask us about that. How are you going to do that? How can you continue praying all the time, you can't.

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But we do have a word for that. It's called Vicar. And we do it all the time. It means to constantly keep a law in your mind and remembering along.

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And they actually had reference to the salaah in their Old Testament. But again, they didn't have a word for it in English, so they just called it prayer, but he describes it as bowing down and prostrating and falling upon their faces.

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So this is the deficiency actually in the English language.

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It's always been there that there are three clear distinct things that they translate as prayer in English.

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This, which is Dora

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this which is thicker, here and here. And, of course, the Salah, which we do and we do that five times a day.

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And then it tells in here that Luqman was telling his son after after you've established the proper Akita, you understand that there's nothing to worship but along the right belief, and then you've established your Salah, then you call to our roof, and you forbid our moon car.

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Usually whenever you read the Quran, you refer to other places in the Quran to get a deeper understanding. It's very beautiful. If you go to 3110 Okay, I'm using the same numbers Remember I said 3113 now use three stop 110 that's chapter three sir Alan Moran. And then the verses 110 contin hiera oma to reject the Nazi top morona Bill maruf. What and how not uncommon Gar would mean una bella. This is an amazing thing for us to realize that it's the only place we found in the Quran

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where Allah subjugates the position

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Have the belief in the law to to actions. Everywhere else it talks about Aminu, which means to believe what I'm in Lusaka, which is to do the righteous deeds. Everywhere else You see, I'm a new I'm a new Sunny, hot all the way from Baccarat to serve Well, back of the Quran.

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But here it says more or less the meaning of it is

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you the best of nations raised up because you call to our roof and you forbid our moon car, and you believe in the law?

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Did you hear that? There are two things

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you're calling to maroof for bidding longer than you believe in an alarm. So we asked one of the scholars to help us with that.

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He said, okay, Marvin munkar in this verse is not just normal, good and bad. Obviously. maroof is something good munkar something bad? He said, but this is the extreme of both.

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The moon car mentioned here. And the maroof mentioned here are the epitome there the biggest thing, what is it you should go to it's the worship of one true God

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called to the worship of a law

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and all that goes along with it.

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And for bid for beard whatever it takes people away from the worship of a law and everything that goes with that

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call to the ultimate righteousness and morality

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and forbid what takes people away from righteousness morality. And then the Shaykh said to us, the scholar said to us, how could you claim?

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How could you claim to believe in a law but you're not willing to do these two things? It's pretty good point isn't it? Then comes some real good advice. It says to bear with patients whatever befalls you. Verily, these are some of the important commandments. I'm going to take a break here and look to another place in the Quran to get explanation here. Because when the law uses the word in the Koran, you really don't have the right to make up your own meaning for it, especially in translation. And it uses the word patient but I mean look at the Arabic here it says

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what's beer? Was beer from the word sobor the word sobor

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I'm going to read you one that's very famous I'm sure you've probably memorize this one yourself. And if you haven't you need to be teaching this when do your children Bismillahirrahmanirrahim while us in no in Santa's lap he hosts in the Latina amanu army loose Allah hottie what was so build up the word the word so bizible Hello here is swearing by the passage of time and we don't even know what time is. In fact, I don't remember watch on.

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Time for us could be you know, it seems like a long time a short time yet. What is it in the scheme of things and scientists those who've been on the earth for many millions of years and they tell us the galaxy been here billions of years. So we don't even know what time really is. Allah is swearing by time and he is the one who has created all of this. And he's swearing this mighty swearing about the insane and who are the insane human beings. He says I swear by the passage of time all the human beings

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are lucky horse means in a state of laws.

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Broke can't pay up on the day of Yamaha sub. They can't pay on the Day of Judgment. They can't pay off the debts that they incurred while they were here in this life. They're losers, losers.

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Except for a small group of people in little Athena Aminu while I'm here Sally hot. Ah, there you are. Remember I just mentioned about that just a few minutes ago. They come to the right belief and they do the righteous deeds. Army new war ami Lu salat

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wa tawassul bill Ha.

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What the worst soul is

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and they exhort,

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push,

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shove,

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encourage each other to everything that is right and righteous. And they

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maintain in steadfastness persevering, and impatience, because the word sober is too big for

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An English word patient,

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way too big for that.

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subber is that constancy? It's something that goes on and goes on and goes on server server.

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I'm doing this because that's what I learned from the Arabs, when they taught me the word. They always do this. I don't know what that is. But they always do that.

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It's amazing, isn't it, there are two more verses now. 18 and 19. I want to read these to you. Let's think about it. He's still giving advice to his son. And don't turn your face away from men with pride.

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And don't walk with insolence through the earth.

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For sure, a lot does not love.

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Those who are arrogant boasters.

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Let's think about that one.

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This is a bad habit, really, that we see from television and movies, the experiences that are being depicted today. As funny, humorous, you know,

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when a little kid looks up to a parent, or an elder or a teacher, and says something really smart alec

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says something bad at them, make fun of them, cut them down,

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right? And make it look funny.

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You know what I'm talking about. You got a TV set.

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Most likely, the children observed this. And they'll follow that unless you put them in check. One of the things don't let them see it. But eventually they're going to see something somewhere. So it's important for you to set this out while they're still young, and let them understand what that is. That kind of talk and that kind of walk won't work. Let me give you a demonstration.

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See if you can pick up on this

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when they walk like this.

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And now what do

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you see him do like that? see kids do that.

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And when you see your own kids doing that they want to wear their pants down real long, you know, down low, real low.

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It's bad.

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And they say everybody's doing it. What would you say? Everybody's doing it? Almost everybody's doing it.

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Remember, Sir alacer

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while assar in in Santa la cosa Illa Illa Allah Deena Amanullah I'm live so

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everybody's gonna wind up in hell. Except for those that come to the right belief and do the right deeds. So why do you want to be with the majority? It's clear look at the world today, what is the majority of the people doing? And you can figure from that alone what you don't need to do.

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The next verse, it says be moderate. And don't show insolence. In your walking and lower your voice. There's a good idea. Children love to shout when they come in the room mom. She's sitting right in front of them.

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What is that?

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When they want anything, hey, I'm offering

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here is telling them to lower your voice. Lower your voice, because guess what law says next? If you were wondering, where's this in the Quran, some of you've heard this before, but you didn't know where it was. It's in association of telling your children how to behave. And we see this in a lot of massage. today. You wish somebody would go read this verse to the parents of these children, when they come around acting like this. And it said barely. For sure. Allah is telling you the harshest of all the voices is the brain of an ass.

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A donkey?

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the harshest, and that's what Allah is telling you about this type of behavior. Very good advice. I was very impressed with this. And I said, You know, I raised some of my children, as Christians. Then I came to Islam after they were grown. The other children I raised as Muslims, and the difference is two different families. You can't recognize them at all. On the one hand, you have those that are drinking alcohol, in drug abuse, many things and you don't want to be with them. You don't want to hear their voices. You don't want to hear him talking that loud talk the way they carry on.

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Then on the other hand, you look at the ones that got raised in Islam, and you said Mashallah, I want to continue with what I've lost said not work with us.

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As this says, I'm going to tell you what the law said if you look through the Quran and you read so many places where Ibrahim alayhis salaam made

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he didn't make just for himself he didn't say Allah gimme gimme gimme you know like we do said everywhere he makes the anchor on you can make do our for his children too. So this is a good tip for us. Let us always make the offer our children because really the guidance isn't from us anyway is it? Is Ramallah only Allah guides. I'm going to move to Surah Ibrahim because I'm talking about him. That's chapter one for now I got a new number in here one for chapter 14

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verse number 35.

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And Allah is asking you to remember when Abraham said, Oh my Lord, make this city of Mecca, a city of peace and security and give me and my son's get me and my sons away from worshipping idols, because his father, the father of Abraham was the idol worshiper. In fact, his father used to make the idols people worship. And he continues and he makes another dua, and he says the Rabbana which means Oh, my Lord, they have indeed, led astray many among mankind. But whoever follows me, he is me and whoever disobeys me Still, you are indeed all forgiving and most merciful. Then he makes another door Rabbana. He says, Oh my Lord, I have made some of my children to live in a valley that will not

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be cultivated

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by your sacred house. He's talking about the Kaaba, in Mecca stone about the Kaaba in Mecca. So that, Oh our Lord, they may perform a Salah. So fill some hearts among men with love towards them. And Allah provide them with fruits, so they may give things look at that, how he's making your offer his offspring, and look how Allah made him sacrifice, sacrifice by leaving his part of his family in a place that's uncomfortable. They can't get fruit or vegetables, they can't get anything to grow. They're there in the desert of rocks and dirt.

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But a lot provided for them because only allows the provider

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what a test that was and we do are tested with our children. And often we have to sacrifice and put them in an environment. That's better, not better climates, such as in more money, more wealth, more food, but a climate that's better for their EMA and where they can worship a law without any partners. Bismillah Alhamdulillah.

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I want to talk about what happens when people take their children from Dolly Amman to Durrell Cliff for the sake of the dunya. Now I use some Arabic words. So I need to translate that.

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Dar means the place Eman means fate.

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Go for means disbelieve,

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and do new means the material world. What happens when somebody takes their children away from a place of strong faith and puts them in a place where faith is very weak or none at all?

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And they do it for the sake of something in this world? Well, when you put it like that, it's kind of clear. I mean, who in the world would want to do that? But consider the condition of Abraham Abraham in Surah. Number 14, you can read that for yourself when he himself has left his own children. Out there in the verses are from verse 35. The verse 45, you can read that it'll help you to understand what I'm talking about. But ever ham was challenged by a law to do something to sacrifice a part of his family,

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one of his wives

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and son and leave them and he did. He left them in a valley where there was no food to eat. There was nothing that could grow there.

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Can't cultivate anything there. He left them.

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Now how would you feel? But he did it for a reason because it was the holy place. The place where the Kaaba is. Some have even said that that's the place where Adam frustrated and put his head on the ground when he asked a lot of forgive him for eating the fruit in the first place. But he left them there. And what happened was there he man was very high. Their faith was very high and the children of the children of the children of these people

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knew this story and passed it on for generations, and some of them, some continued to worship the law alone without any partners. Today, we know that Mohammed peace and blessings be upon him as a direct descendant of Abraham.

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From those two people,

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Abraham and his wife hiser, or we call her Hagar in English, and that child is my eel. Today, we know that there's no doubt in our mind, that that's where he came from. And look at what he brought forth, how Allah guided him from the progeny, the offspring of Abraham, came Mohammed, peace be upon him. And we see how Mohammed called this message of worship one God

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established the salah, and then call the people to the righteousness and forbid what's wrong. And by the way, did you get the order of that? Before you go out calling other people to Islam, before you start to prevent anybody else from doing wrong?

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You need to get yourself fixed up first. First, get your belief in order, study Akita learn what it is to believe in a law as your only source of what you need

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to trust Him and to put his commandments, his orders above what you want, makes us

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do that first, and then establish your worship the way he wants you to worship Him. And then and only then go out and call the people call the people to the right way and forbid the evil. Recently, some of the youth of the Muslims

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have fallen prey

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to some very bad misguidance.

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Thinking that although they never prayed, they never did establish the Salah. They never did study, Aki did they don't know anything about Islam, they have a Muslim name only. And they want to go out in the world. And right, all of the injustices by themselves thinking that they can go out here and just do whatever they want to do, killing innocent people because they think they're doing it in the name of righteousness. But they've never even prayed once in their life. And by the way, the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him told us and I was reminded about this from one of our brothers yesterday. He was saying, you know, what made me really start praying. He said, I came to Islam, and I used to

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pray once a day, twice a day, three times a day, and I figured I was doing pretty good. Until I read the heavy, the teaching the saying of Mohammed that said the difference between us. And a non Muslim is the five daily prayers, the five daily prayers, the Salah, Salawat, the homes.

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He said that woke me up. And I started praying five times a day.

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If your children aren't praying five times a day, you got a big problem. A very big problem. That's first, before any other action. First is the faith, then immediately the manifestation of faith is worship. Next, I want to now come to a little story for you before I finish up

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and tell you what really did happen when one of our brothers

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brought his child from a place of Eman

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to a place of cough. And what happened

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one day when I was at lackland, Air Force Base in San Antonio, Texas. I used to be the Amir for the machine over there many years ago on Air Force Base.

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And a brother came to me he was in a military Saudi Arabia, and he was all excited. And he told me, today's the best day of my life. I'm so happy. I said really what happened? You know, maybe he got married, you know, maybe I don't know. Did you get a visa for doing hides? What Why are you so happy? He said today I put my son in American public school.

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I said what? He said I put my son in American public school. I said, Why don't you put him in the toilet?

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He looked at me like

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he said, No, no, Brother, you don't understand. Maybe it's my English. I'm saying I put my son in American public school.

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I said Your English is fine. How's your Arabic? Why don't you put him in the hamam?

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Because at least when you take him out, you can wash it off.

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He turned and walked away from me. Over the years we became good friends. I got to know him and his family.

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But the next time I saw him was the very next week. I saw him in the masjid again. And he had his face hanging down. Like

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What's matter?

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Oh,

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you know, this new school where I put my son they got a problem. I said, Yeah, only one said they won't let my son use his name. They want to name him. Fred.

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said, Why? What's his name? His name is Turkey. That's our name, you know, for him is Turkey. We call him turkey said oil is a good name. There's nothing wrong with that. This comes from people came from Turkey. Turkey used to rule all of Arabia during the Ottoman Empire. So what's the problem? He said, No, they won't let him use it. They said he has to be Fred. I said, Well, what's his other name, grandfather's name or any other name that you might have in his name? He said, Well, Omar, I said, Don't call him Omar. And they did.

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Well, I'm going to skip forward 10 years. 10 years later, I moved to Washington, DC, where I have my position. Now there is nationally mum for the Muslims. And I happen to see this same brother in a gas station. I said, Brother, abou Turkey. Salam Alikum walaikum. Salam, you live every city. I live in Maryland. I'm working up here at the embassy as a martial law. It's good to see you. He said, Let me get your number. I got to talk to you, sir. Okay. He called me on the phone. He said, we got to set up an appointment, you have to come to my house. I said, Okay. Sure, why not? So I went to the brother's house, I took somebody with me and on the way over, I told him the story I just told you

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about putting your child in the toilet because it would be better.

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When we got to his house, he did the traditional thing that the Arabs love to do sit on the floor, serve you some kakwa you know, Arabic coffee, and some dates. And we're sitting there enjoying our company. And then he said, Do you remember the first thing you said to me the day you met me? I said I sure do. He said no. I mean, really? You really remember what you said? I said Yes, I do. I just told him in the car on the way over, asked him. He said you told me when I told you that I put my son in an American public school. You told me it would be better

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to put him in the hamam in the toilet.

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said That's right.

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He said you're wrong.

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I said, Okay, got me and wrong before.

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He said you're wrong.

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He said, You should have told me it's 10 times worse, to put them in American school than it is. I

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said, Brother, what's the matter? He said, I don't even know where he is. And he started crying.

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He said, I don't have any idea. We don't see him anymore. He's just gone all the time. I said does he have a car? Yeah. I said How old is he said 17. As is 17 years old. And he's got a driver's license said Yeah, we got his driver's license, you know.

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And you bought him a car? Yeah.

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Well, I can see one problem already.

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You got a cell phone? Well, every kid's got a cell phone. I said, Okay, call him. So we called him

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and I talked to him on the phone. I said, Hey, man, I'm over at your house. Come on over. He said, Okay, cool. And he came over right away. They don't talk to his father. But he sat down with us. And I got to it quickly. I said you know what, you want to go with me? Two nights from now. I'm going to go somewhere to give dowa you want to go he said sure. I

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said well we're gonna go to jail to give Dawa

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he said what? So we're gonna go to the prison, the surgeon to give Dawa he said yeah, I really want to go sit. Okay.

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So we picked him up and we took him

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downtown Washington DC to the jail there.

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And when we went in, he saw something amazing because the jail in Washington DC has a chapel that they put in for the Christians. They use taxpayers money to put in a whole chapel complete with the Oregon with the singing with the old bit. So the Muslim said it puts equal rights do we get to have a mustard? They said okay, and they did we have a place for war boo. We have masala and we even have a little niche, you know, for the Imam to stand in. Well, he is leaving the salon.

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And then after the salon gave some darts or talk for a few minutes

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and I asked would anybody here like to become Muslim because some are more

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Visitors guests,

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we had some raise their hand and they entered into Islam. And I asked them Are you sure you want to stop worshipping Jesus, you sure you want to stop worshiping yourself or whatever and worship only allow meaning you got to do what he wants you to do. And follow the example of Mohammed satellite. So they all said yes, and made Shahada. Now, I always cry when I give shot. I can't help it because I always remember my own shot. But when I looked over at this boy,

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I saw he was crying to tears coming down his face. Because he said, on the way back, I never imagined what it was like to see somebody enter Islam. Islam is amazing. is the only right way this is coming from him now. Even though he's raised in a Muslim house, he didn't really see the example I guess. course is that is busy all the time working all the time didn't have any time.

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By the way, I asked permission from our brother, to tell the story. He said, I want you to tell the story to the world because I want people to know the dangers of just dropping your child off in a non Muslim school, and not being responsible for so make up for this brother make up for his son. Because guess what, after they were separated for so long, and they didn't know where he was, they all came back together. And everything's okay. But it was on both sides of the family had to make adjustments. I encourage the boy to realize you have to obey your parents, as the Lord tells us in the Koran. But I also encourage the parents to realize, you know, your son is living in America now.

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You're not living in Saudi Arabia.

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You cannot expect your children to see you at home dressed one way. And then they see everybody else dressed some other way. It doesn't work. What's going to happen to the children? What happens in I think some of you already know what I'm talking about. You put the heat job on the little girl martial law, you take her to school of martial law, she got nice, you know, long dress and he job. But then she goes inside and she goes to her locker, take off the job, change clothes, put some makeup on it. And now what's happening? Are you rapping, okay?

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Was that because you're teaching them to live a dual life, they become a split personality, when you're with the parents,

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with your friends.

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And it's happening.

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If you don't pay attention to this one day, you're going to be sending me an email like the one I received today.

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Somebody's telling me,

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help me, help me. Help me. I need your help. I don't know what to do. It's my wife. It's my kids. And then they detail a long story. And I received these too many times every week from Muslims around the world. Because they haven't taken the time to see what Islam. What does this lamb teach you about your children? But no, you want to read Dr. Spock, you want to read Freud understand the psychology of a human being. But you don't want to read the Quran and see what the one who created Freud, the one who created Spock,

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the one who created everything as sent you a manual? This is the book here here law right the theme.

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You want to know how to raise your children. This is the owner's manual for human beings. What do you need to know I received one email today from an Arab Christian named Gregory in Australia. The last time I was down there, they tried to ruin one of our programs just like this. They did. They stood up and started saying stuff while I was talking. But a lot let us turn it around. So much. So I was patient. I'm not famous for that. But I was patient that night. And guess what happened? After they tried to ruin the program. Some of their own people stood up and made Shahada.

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And today when he sent me this nasty email, I responded back in a nice way and put it up on our website for him to see it. I said thank you for giving me a good topic to talk about today.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam told us

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Kalamata yerba

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Lai, ilaha illa. Allah, what's the best thing you can say? La ilaha illa Allah. There is no god to worship except the one true God. And if you start with that in each thing that you do, whether it's raising your children, choosing a job deciding on your education, start with that though, think about it, because a law is the only guide and He will guide you and He will guide your children if he wants

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Don't be silent. Speak up. Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him told us very good advice. If you see a moon car, he used different degrees of the word actually, you have to stop it by your hand.

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If you can't do that, stop it with your tongue, speak out against it. And if you can't do that, you have to hate it with all your heart. But this is the weakest level of Eman.

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This is the weakest level of faith. Now,

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I want to show you something and I'm gonna come back to what I was saying a little earlier. And think about this. The level here again, is like what we read in Surah imraan when it said Coulton Cairo Mateen, okra, jetman, necesito, una bill my roof, what 10 how not on your moon car with me knowing the law. And I already mentioned to you that the juxtaposition here of the word, the structure, the belief in the law is coming after calling to Alma roof and forbidding our moon car in the Hadeeth that I read to you. You can think of it in the same way. Because ordinarily, you would not do what he summarized Salaam said, ordinarily, you would not start with your hand, and then go

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to your tongue, and then go to the hating with a heart, it would be the opposite direction. So if you saw somebody smoking, would you walk up and knock it out of their mouth? No, that's not right. you'd start out saying, Oh, that's bad. Then you'd walk over to me and you say, Please don't smoke, that's not a good thing to do. You know, we're trying to breathe here. And then if nothing else, you'd say I'm gonna take that and put it out because you know, you're ruining there in this room for everybody. But in the heyday, there was also Lolita Salaam, it was the opposite. Because again, you have to understand that when something takes people away from Islam, and away from what Islam stands

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for Islam, it's not just about dressing, like somebody in Pakistan or Saudi Arabia. It's about being respectful to your parents, being good to them, even when they get old. And they're not able to take care of themselves anymore, and you carry the burden and carry them around. You don't put them in the old folks home. Now Muslims don't do that. You care for them and you don't complain about it. You don't even say a lot told you don't even say Oh, don't even groan or grunt while you're taking care of them because they took care of you when you couldn't take care of yourself. This is what Islam has taught me.

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The respect

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the dignity and the honor that goes to the parents. I love you for a law May Allah make it easy for you to raise these children in today's world, amin said I want to come