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Self Esteem – PT 2/6

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Yassir Fazaga

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See what happens sometimes is that we so sad about what happened yesterday, so worried about what might go wrong tomorrow we forget to live today.

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So Islam says, today is what you have. So make sure that you make you you that you utilize today to its utmost and beautifully said that one of the most beautiful, optimistic statements that were sent by our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is as whatever Latin for the real Messiah will either say developed on tabula rasa, he said in the morning, do not wait till the evening. And in the evening, do not wait till the morning. So in the morning, enjoy to its very best. And in the evening, enjoy that evening to its very best, and do not delay. Well. When that happens, then this will happen when that happens this, at that point, every day, becomes a day where

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we feel sorry for yesterday, and we feel very anxious and worried about tomorrow. And part of it is forgiveness, not crying over yesterday, a lot of it has to do with forgiveness, people who have wronged us or people that we have wronged. See, people nowadays would say amongst what is being said, nobody's crying over what they lost our the possession, the material position that they lost. I wish I said sorry, to my mother before she died.

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Or I wish the cousin that I had and I never spoke to for such a long time that I connected with them. But now they are gone, and they are gone for good, and they're not coming back again. So what happens is seize the moment as we have it today, sometimes Subhanallah we find it so difficult in our hearts to let go of what took place yesterday. And that's why Islam says liberate yourself by forgiveness. People who do not forgive, they are victims of their own and forgiveness. Because forgiveness is what is that when you decide that I will not be re victimized over and over again. So every time you remember what people have done to you, you feel very bad. So tomorrow, you remember

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again, what they have done to you and you feel very bad, and that they after you feel bad about what they have done to you. So they only did it to you once. But every time you remember it, you are now becoming you're victimizing yourself. Isn't that really the case? Isn't that the case? What happens? So Islam says you've got to liberate yourself. Because if you do not forgive what you are doing is that every single day, you are re victimizing yourself. Not only that, but what's interesting is this is that these people might have might have wronged you once and they forgot about it.

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And many people are like that. They, they they, they, they they wronged you, and then they're no longer paying attention to what they have done to you. And they forgot about it. But now you are wrong in yourself every single day. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would say, malaria, Sera, la yo for Allah, He who does not forgive, won't be forgiven by Allah subhanho wa Taala. And that's why the character of the believers as we are told in Surah, Allah Emraan said that the character is was up akuna fissara it was Dora that these are the people that spent in the past of Allah in terms of prosperity and in the times of adversity, in Japan of his arrival, Wolkoff

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remain alive. They are those who are in control of their anger, they have the ability to control anger, not suppress anger, because suppressing is is is not necessarily healthy, but the idea is to be in control. One time, the process alum asked people and he said, Man, do

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you come home Do you consider to be a strong man? They said prophet of Allah, a strong man is he who is able to wrestle other men down.

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So the process lm said, Listen, are you with Sora he said that a man is not strong due to his ability to wrestle other men down. He said, a man is a strong because of his ability to control his anger. It takes a lot of courage to do that. Now any fool can feel angry and express their anger that does not make you a man of courage, it just makes you a fool. And that is why once a man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and he said, Yeah, Rasul Allah

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outsunny says, Prophet of Allah, give me an advice. So the Prophet peace be upon him said have have good manners

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and looked away. The man came back and he said, Yeah, Rasul Allah house and he said, bravo Allah give me advice and the prophet of good manners. Then he turned, he said, proud of Allah give me an advice and the past hasulam said, have good manners. And then he came for the fourth time and he said, proud of Allah give me an advice. The Prophet looked at him and he said, Allah

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Don't you understand law top, do not get angry,

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do not get angry or when you get angry, make sure that you are angry for the right reasons.

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at the right level, and at the right time as well. So at that point you become in control over your over your anger, because anger is not a negative thing all the time. It's not necessarily a negative attribute. It's not a negative attribute because Allah Subhana Allah we are told, his gets angry loudly but Allahu Allah him, Allah is angry with them. Lady, boo boo Allah him, those who have earned the anger of Allah subhanho wa Taala. But what happens is that Allah denounces anger that is not justified, Allah looks down upon anger, that is trivial, and shallow. And that is why sometimes anger is a healthy sign, especially a sign that you are consciously alive. For example, you see

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exploitation, hopefully you hate exploitation. And and you're angry exploitation angers you oppression of the poor angers you the suffering of the poor angers you so at that point, the anger part becomes a very healthy becomes a very helpful anyways, they said we'll call Amina Laila. And then law says, Well AFI in and in and they are those who are constantly forgiving people. See, sometimes we say I forgive 70 times. And what we do is that we reduce forgiveness to a mathematical formula that 70 times I forgive you, but 71 I cannot forgive. And again that that that does not say much. Because the beauty is of forgiveness is is not that they did once and you are able to forgive

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again, that does not really say much about the character of that individual. What happens is, no matter how many times it happens to you, your heart is always open in forgiving other people. And that is part over for not not crying over what happened yesterday. So liberate yourself by forgiving those who have wronged you, even if they do not ask for that forgiveness. Sometimes we want to forgive, but we also want to keep our ego. So if they come to me and beg for forgiveness, I will forgive them that does not make you a good person. Because they came in and they begged and in part you have really you have really benefited from that because they begged you and somehow it restored

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that restored your your ego, but the idea is you taking the initiative by forgiving. And then number five is because life could be so short. We want to make it meaningful. So what we want to do is leave a legacy. You've got to leave a legacy behind my brothers and sisters. That's why Allah Subhana Allah says in Surah t as seen in Nana, Nana Hill Mota, It is we who is going to resurrect, give life back to those who have died to the dead. In Nononono Hill Mota, why not to buma demo. And we record we document what it is that they have done, not to map a demo.

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And what type of legacy did they leave behind.

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So now Islam says that make your life more meaningful. In the process, you make it more meaningful by leaving a legacy behind. Now legacy does not have to be something that is grandiose, that is shelved all over the world, but within your circumstances, within your vicinity, your ability, the talent and the skill that Allah has given you, you leave a legacy that is equal in proportion to the blessings that Allah Subhana Allah has given you and this is something that is open for every man every woman rich and poor, black and white, young and old, educated or not, we all have the ability to leave behind us some sort of a legacy. And that brings us into our topic for the day and that is

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the concept of self esteem. self esteem is how do you value yourself if you value yourself, when do you value yourself? And number two, how do you value yourself for what do you value yourself? For addresses this topic in one of the most beautiful fashions and manners in the story of brown

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you know that the term frown or this person frown or this

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symbol that is out there frown is mentioned in the Quran 73 times in 29 different suitors.

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Allah speaks of round

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Iran has done this for and has exploited people for our island has killed people he has tortured people he has done that is to Allah constantly speaks of Iran as an illustration of tyranny and oppression