Think Positively About Others

Yasir Qadhi


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AI: Summary © The speaker discusses the Prophet system's use of apologizing for wrongdoings during conversations about Islam, emphasizing the importance of not apologizing for a wrong excuse and being careful in giving advice to others. They stress the importance of being surgical and being careful in giving advice to anyone claims to be in the business. The conversation also touches on the importance of avoiding false accusations and being smart and justice in the face of a scandal or other issues.
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Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah All praise is due to Allah subhanho wa Taala who raised the heavens and created the creation He spread for the earth and beautified it with vegetation and he gave us the cycle of the night and day in perfect alternation. It is his religion that unites all of mankind the black and the white without discrimination. Allah azza wa jal has sent down the Quran, his speech and Revelation, and he sent to us a prophet and whose belief is our salvation. So it is Allah and Allah alone we worship and bow our heads to in frustration as to what follows realize that ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala has reminded us to be conscious of him when he says in the Quran, you Hello Xena

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I'm an otaku Allah ha ha Katya. Katya wala temotu illa or anti Muslim on dear Muslims, most of us are aware in the beautiful incident of two book, three companions remained behind. And one of them the story of Khabib in magic is well known to all of us Allah revealed Quran about him, that Allah eventually forgave him. It is mentioned that when the caravan had exited Medina, the prophets Assam looked around and he said, Where is Khabib in magic? I don't see him. One of the unsought said sarcastically, ya rasool Allah, He is engrossed in his women and his gardens, meaning that this dunya seduced him. And he didn't go for the expedition because of his love of this world. So he made

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a passing comment. Immediately more either bingeable said bit some are quotes, what a bad thing that you have said, for Wallah he, I have no nothing from God except good until now. He defended gab even though ironically at that time the accusation had an element of truth later on, we find out but more odd being the scholar that he is, our Prophet system said more odd is the leader of the scholars of this ummah. And Mohammed is the most knowledgeable of halal and haram Malhotra, the Allah one being who he is, and that's why he is who he is. He understood that one of the principles of our religion is that we think the best thoughts of everybody. We don't read in the worst, we think the best and

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I've just called Houston oven, or thinking the best having positive thoughts of our brothers and sisters in Islam, and it is a fundamental core of our identity of Islamic o'clock. Sadly, with the rise of the Internet and social media and Facebook, with WhatsApp groups and telephone calls, sadly, the cultural norm in our times is that we always read in the worst, and we spread gossip about each and every person in our society, in our circle of friends, frankly, there is hardly a gathering that any of us attends, except that somebody is mentioned vague issues are brought up and then he is mocked or she is made fun of because of something that we don't even know the reality of.

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Unfortunately, assuming the worst, slandering has become the norm, and that should not be the case. Have we not learned from the story of our mother, Aisha Radi Allahu anha, and the slander that occurred in the lifetime of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam. When people assumed when she was seen with another man, people assumed something they should not have assumed. And Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed very harsh language in the Quran. Very strict language in the Quran. Allah says in the Quran, why didn't the believers think the best thoughts in themselves? Why didn't they do that wonderful movement of FCM Hira, they should have taught the best things. Why did they say the worst

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things and they spread it like gossip? So Allah Subhana Allah Allah commanded us that our hearts should be thinking pure thoughts of other people. Even if we see two people that should might not be together, we see somebody exiting a store he should not have been in, we see things that might outwardly look suspicious. Our religion says we read in the best we think the best and we do not spread the faults of other people. Even if they are confirmed false, we don't spread them around for no reason. Have we not learned from the Quran and the Sunnah, we all know of the incident in the Sierra, when Osama the famous young man whom the Prophet sallallahu Sallam loved when who sama was

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pursuing one of the people on the battle who was a pagan who was fighting against Islam. And right at the last minute, the pagan turned around, and he shouted out a shadow Hola, ilaha illallah Wanda Muhammad Rasool Allah on the battlefield. With no escape, he turns around and takes the shahada, and who sama executed him. News came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and to sama was the most beloved of the young men of all of Medina who sama had been born literally in the house of Khadija raised up in the household of the prophets of Saddam, he was considered like a son or a grandson. His father was the adopted son that Allah then abrogated adoption because of Osama bin

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Zayed that Osama Osama was the most beloved he was called a Barnaby, the Beloved of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when the Prophet saw some heard, he called him in public, his face was bright red with anger. And he said, Is this true? What I have heard? Notice he verified notice he verified, you always verify? Is this true? What I heard? Did you execute a man after he said the Kalama and Osama being on the harsh end if you like he made the excuse ya rasool Allah or messenger of Allah, he simply said it to save his life. He was on the battlefield, he's about to be killed. He didn't really mean it.

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And at that stage, what did the Prophet system say? Did you open up his chest and examine his knee? Yeah. Did you know the reality? You have? No one. Even one person is about to be executed on the battlefield, you still think the best thoughts SubhanAllah. If there's any a moment where you should not have has not been, you would think it is right here on the battlefield. If there's any opportunity where we should say we're not going to listen to this person, he's gonna lose his life. But even then, our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was angry at Osama, and Osama famously remarked that I was so embarrassed. I wished that I had embraced Islam on that morning so that at

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least my excuse would be out of school. I didn't know any better, but because I am who I am. I didn't have that excuse. The point being, the Sierra shows us from beginning to end, that the default no matter what the circumstances, no matter what the situation, we think the best of our brother and sister we do not read in we always assume and much less not just the assumption. We never spread rumor mongering. We never say something about them. Even if it might be true. We do not speak about it unless there is an actual dire need, which is not the case and 99% of our daily affairs, dear brothers and sisters.

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The reality of our social

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Media and of our exposition, culture, and of our gossip mills that run is that we have forgotten the norm of decency when it comes to interaction with other people, the norm of covering up the false assuming the best and then covering up the worst This is our religion, we assume the best and even if something has confirmed so and so did something with so and so so and so drank this so and so took that What business is it of yours to go tell other people to go gossip? Do you not know what our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Whoever covers the faults of his brother or sister, Allah will cover his false on the day of judgment. And whoever exposes the faults of his brothers

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and sisters, Allah will expose and embarrass him, even if he is taking refuge in the sanctity of his house. Do not follow the faults of other believers or Muslims do not make it your lifeline to find out what is the laser latest gossip who said what who was seen with what who did what, it's not your business, if news comes to you interpreted in the most positive manner, and if you must even then comment on that which is just untrue and do not allow your animosity, your hatred to drag you beyond what is truthful. Have we not learned in this era as well? There was a famous incident and the life of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that a man was known to be a drunkard there were

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drunkards even in Medina at that time these sins are rampant in all of human society. He was also hobby constantly getting drunk and constantly getting punished in public. One time one of the companions got angry at this man and he said Have you no shame every time you are brought here where you have to punish you may Allah's Lana be upon you.

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The profits are some was quiet in the corner, he's being punished, he deserves to be punished. At this the profits of some God angry not at the drunkard but at this senior companion who invoked Allah's Lana upon this sinner. And he said to the senior companion, do not help shape on against your brother meaning is already in a difficult situation. Why would you make it worse? Do not help che THON against your brother, okay, he's a sinner, okay, he is being punished. It is his just punishment. But do you have to go beyond this? Do you have to invoke Allah's curse? embarrass him humiliate him, do not help shape on against your brother. And then notice and this is one of the

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most powerful examples of having good pots of other people. Our Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet of Allah in a society were hardly anybody drank in a society where yes, it occurred but who amongst the scene, none of them drank. None of them drank. It is almost an unknown crime. What did our profits are some say, in defense of this regular drunkard? He said, For Wallahi. I know that this man has a love of Allah and His messenger as well. He has a good side as well. I know he's a drunkard. I'm not defending the drinking. But did you have to invoke Allah's curse? Did you have to humiliate him in public like this? Did you have to make the situation worse? Did you side with shape

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on against your brother you should have been merciful, kind, compassionate embrace to make dua for him. Instead, you invoke Allah's Lana on him. So the prophets have some God angry not at the drunkard, but at the senior companion. And he said to him, why did you side with shaytaan against your brother? And then he said, For I swear by Allah, I know that this man also loves Allah and His Messenger along with his drinking. You know, when a person commits a sin, we are all sinners, don't they also have a good side? Don't they also have some good that they're doing? But hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah. Everybody who regularly prays and fast has some good deeds as well along with those

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sins. So why don't we look at that as well, even when we must make a declaration, even when this punishment is taking place. Don't make the situation worse, by embarrassing by exposing by rubbing a tin. That's not the etiquettes of our religion, dear Muslims, had been sitting in the famous student, Abu Huraira remarked and with this, I conclude my first thought but beautiful phrase, he said, anytime something reaches you about any of your brothers, that you don't understand, find a way out and have some explanation of why he did it. And in case you cannot have anything in your mind, then assume maybe my brother has an explanation that hasn't occurred to my mind. Maybe I

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haven't thought of the reason why he will be doing this. Always think the best thoughts of your brother or sister and if you do so, dear Muslim, not only will your tongue be free on the day of judgment from any sin, but also even in this world, you will live a more comfortable life you will be at peace, my dear brothers and sisters having your heart full of animosity. You're hunting for the faults of others. It's not good for your own psyche. have a pure heart. Have a good heart think the best of other people

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People and you yourself will live a beautiful life may Allah subhana wa Tada bless me and you with the truth of the Quran and may make us of those whose verses they understand and applies halal and haram throughout our lifespan. I ask Allah is forgiveness you as well ask him for you is the food and the ramen

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hamdulillah had wha heard that I had a summit Alladhina Miriad William you will add oil on your cool local fauna Eduardo. Allah says in the Quran Oh you who believe ah then a boo Cathy ramen oven. Avoid most evil thoughts most suspicion because some of it is in fact sinful. Notice Allah says most and not all. And therefore in the second part of the hutzpah, I will quickly point out there are caveats. Yes, we think the best thoughts of people, that is the default that is the norm, but we are not fools. And the Prophet system told us to act wisely. And Allah says, Who do Hedra come take precautions. And the prophets have said the believer is not stung from the same hole twice. The

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default we think good everybody else. But we don't need to think good of convicted criminals that are swindling us. We don't need to think good of those who have track records that are constantly constantly doing evil things, and they're evil as well known. So who's Nirvana applies to the default amongst our brothers and sisters. But when the context clearly indicates that we have run out of any excuse, when the context is obvious that a person is swindling people one after the other, or there's a predator that is abusing the trust of the community, or there's somebody who is doing something that should not be done over and over and over again, then in this case, we do not

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have any patience, and there is no personal one. And in particular, dear brothers and sisters, even though this is a whole topic altogether, but it needs to be said here as well, that of those whom we have run out of personal van for are those small group of scholars small group who have a reputation of supporting tyrannical regimes constantly over and over again. They give fatwas that are conducive to the power of the people that they are supporting and on whose paychecks they are. There is simply no excuse no host, not one for a scholar that legitimizes legitimizes killing people in misogyny. There is no excuse for scholars that are giving fatwas that support royal families and the interests

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of royal families against the interests of the Ummah itself, there is no excuse for so called Urla Ma, who are attempting to normalize relations with the apartheid Zionist regime of the Middle East. Well, Allah He These are not people that we have not been for, there is no excuse for supporting the interests of a royal family against the interests of the Ummah and track record speak volumes. And when a score quote unquote scholar has consistently danced to the tune of his masters than with all respect to other Allama we have to speak out, the scholars have to speak out against those other scholars, and we say point blank, that any scholar who has sold his dignity and sold his will to the

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highest bidder has betrayed the scholarly integrity and the ruling class that our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam praised, and these rules are the minority. So don't extrapolate all over. But the point is that first no one does not apply when the track records are clear. And when there is no excuse anymore. At that point, Allah says in the Quran is tenable, cathedral men have been not all at that point. This is of that we can say it is clear that this person has forgotten the interest of the ummah. And that's something that goes on a case by case basis, we seek refuge in Allah from that type of corrupt knowledge and that type of leadership, brothers and sisters, the whole but today was

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very simple in your day to day life. If you hear something or you hear of a scandal or your family or friends, something happens, think the best thoughts make an excuse. And our scholars give a very quick point line first and foremost, if it's not your business, don't get involved, your thoughts on your tongue avoided. Secondly, if it is your business, then ask directly go to the source like our profits, as Sam said to Osama is this true? Is that what you did you go to the source so you hear the perspective. Thirdly, when you find out then you don't have to spread to other people, you cover it up. And fourthly, even if something needs to be said or done, you do so with wisdom and justice,

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as demonstrated in the Hadith of the drunkard that you go as much as you need to. And don't go beyond that. If we follow all of these protocols, these four points, protocols, brothers and sisters, then in sha Allah Who to Allah will be living a better and pure life and we will be living a cleaner life and our hearts will be pure, our minds will be pure and our societies will be pure. We ask Allah azza wa jal for that purity, Allah how many there are in fact aminu? Allah Allah tells you how to deal with them but Allah Wallah him

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