Channel: Yaser Birjas
what should you do with these feelings? And how can they hide? First of all, they cannot hide.
So young guys,
you can hide those things from your parents just know I'm clever and smart, you can find because a lot of times on visual evidence,
they can see that through your eyes is distracted, you're stressed, you're into some other field of science just like that.
And therefore, instead of just hiding from a brand, you're gonna open about it seriously.
I hope that parents would really be considered and just like I said, and talk you through this.
So for them, what should they do the property
And then they can see this in their heart
is considered because you know, they're not.
And you're not ready for that. And practically speaking,
they're not meant for the person in the first place.
So therefore, I would say what this means is to stop distracting themselves.
In this regard, when people get obsessed, obsessed with love, what happens is that they just like a computer, what do you do? You all once you open a program, you get a file from the men Hot Rod, and he put upon on the RAM, cache memory. So it occupies part of your of
The more files you open, the slower you get distracted. So what you need to do differently, what's faster back again to the place. And the follow on is always obsessed by that what you need to do you stop thinking practically about this issue, to shut that program down and put a gun to the harddrive.
How can you stretch
the structure and the structure of specific image specific men specific feeling specific grant specific color, bring these memories to you. You need to distract yourself from these things.
To change it
is that special place that special? A specific series a song just came
out of that faction was hoping that you would take that file away from your side. And then until you're ready for it.
Aha, yes. Maybe somebody has a question? Because I want to save
all the questions.
What is the question? What is it?
The relationship from your spouse? The math becomes boring, it
becomes boring. Guess Guess what? If the math becomes boring, it became
possible because I believe people did math become boring.
If you ask the lady
why she loves this guy.
relationship, she would tell you because you know, he was so nice. He was so good to me.
So what's the problem? He's not doing this anymore. We asked the guy why he's not loving your wife. Well, she opens the door.
So what they're saying they're not
As much as possible about action, so it became boring because it's supposed to do
that person relationship and there's no
for a list of things.
I asked each couple, to tell me what exactly they love about
the past and what is left in their past, in terms of love for that person, you will see that there are many candidates, and once made a big difference in
my joy, that becomes boring. And the word
is derived from the actions of law under the law.
and the woman,
but the Madison College, or whatever.
So he's ready to get married. She says,
Can I get married,
you cannot just get mad, and
then you're not ready.
And that's what marriage is all about.
It's not temporary.
Marriage is not about the temporary, it's about permanent relationship. And it's a temporary level
of government so much
more than what you expected in October, something like this, and they activate the
and the garden cabinet. And then her family wants to
say no, don't do that.
If you want her to go up, you know, on your schedule, they're gonna pick her up.
But she's my wife
will be so many things happen.
You can't just you know, get married.
And then I just live apart
until you're ready to move on. Yes.
You said a way to combat
But it's also weird
So basically, the question is, if we are
aging and we have many youth are not getting married.
Funny five to 720 days.
And so you want us to talk about but how can women do that? Basically this question is based on the perception that's the man to propose right? So I'm gonna do a plan this class should be based on the proposal
so basically what you're saying is that
on guys proposal
our say yes to traditional forms of religion, in our culture, things are shifting and changing.
he wants to this guy to come up with.
I mean, if a guy comes to talk to the girl, first time, second time, third time
what is the next thing on her mind?
She basically wanted to say the word right
but the God is not there
woman they want
to expect the guy
never expect other guys accountable. We can no pressure society. I recommend for parents
to be active and have an active role in helping them boys and girls getting married.
edition format waiting for the guy to come to us his uncle, you know, no matter what have you, because I've seen
x y z
There's a whole universe of stocks.
It's not going to happen. They might ask them, what's not what's normal the same way and make them the option we have in this society?
We have. So I would say the girls need to be active also, in pursuing math, how can you be active I mean, this ability is expected.
Although slightly unliquidated.
However, she can just, you know, find out, we act with
the community, it is available on his wallet, and
find more information about this guy, but they need to be hacked. I can't give more details about this issue.
That's the big problem.
The commute is very small. So
again, to be active, particularly with friends who are already mad, because your friends are already mad, most likely you're at
the Friends of their husbands wouldn't be
so good, find some friends who can help you.
Do your best. Just do your best if you can help other people.
The question of independent property, what is the purpose of this?
For one reason?
Or the other person? How much time do you need to spend with the guy or the girl to know enough about making a decision?
The biggest misconception, the biggest misconception is that people that think that you need to have few months, maybe a year, before we can make a decision to say yes or no.
To speaking, statistically speaking, the decision is usually made
from the first session, because it's a first perception considering
the first perception can see that eventually, once you see the guy coming into the house of the room, you will say
your decision, everything comes after is one of two things confirmation, or denial, rejection, that's it.
decision from the first session.
So you don't need more than a few sessions to make a decision. If the guy is good enough. What is left again, just
to confirm your decision, or
four months, or more, if you're going to be doing that for more.
The longer that is, the less likely I get. Why? Because one of the things about marriage is all about mystery. So
the more you know about the person, the less likely you're married. That's why kids will go to the same school on MSA conferences, for example, they don't matter.
On NSA campuses.
across country, they go overseas sometimes as part of an MSA charter
school is the same way.
So what's the difference? The difference is that the girls FC the guys probably have they're not mature enough.
To see someone from outside they have to see them in real life. This is how the law is a good self. As for the other side,
the more they see the girls on campus.
So they will choose what about them and find out and come together naturally effortlessly. And man was attracted to all these girls.
They ask potential spouse as much as
they will be attracted to the guy from that perspective, as an opposite gender but as potential spouse. They just scrutinize them and ended up with no money.
And that's why I was when I say how many of you guys are single. You'd have 50 guys do 50 guys. So what's the promises that nobody should have? But that's ironic is because they're too close to the patient. Because that's
58% divorce rate. What does that mean? They think
In this case, in this
how should I approach? Should I go straight to her says, I'm in love with you? Would you
ever say I'm in love with you? I can't live without you. While I go to jail because of that.
Should I say,
you know, most men
go to someone who's coming from a traditional background, if you go to a
I'm interested in proposal.
I asked the guy, I said, Give me statistically,
what? The second question or the first question comes from
you and ask you a
question about our past.
That's the first question the man who asked me this was your family?
I mean, my daughter
was a company.
That hidden question is, are you family on board?
if you found another board,
families, chances are they will say
something neutral. In this case, go ahead and do
that. Now it's getting more open and cultural. And there's a lot more open minded people who
I would consider
Should I go
over the father,
recommendation, parents have someone to speak on your behalf or split for person that has like an iMac, or something like that. Don't send your friend to talk
So let's look at proposals.
First of all, for parents and you know, whatever it is the proposal is
taken seriously. Why? Because we have many problems.
If you ask them why you're not married yet, because their parents they call them on benefits.
then our equality for 24 years old, the guy who's supposed to propose has to be on 25 minutes.
Bye, bye, I
lost my node again. So chances are not
sitting at home they go to
when they go to masters.
They're full of options now, in two ways. Number one in higher education, convinced that not everybody in the market is suitable for them.
So there is someone who just universe's degree
their perception of the the prospect in this case
which is unfortunately, unfortunately, the perception of God that they hate, you know,
So we'll come to the proposal.
Now second, what should you look for, there are two different sets of quality,
quality, you cannot compromise
Think about the salaah, five minute, don't tell me out fine, I get mad when I'm getting mad for that reason.
I say no,
this person is not committed the last
chance to deny activity.
So there are specific things in terms of their Salah.
The issue for example, modesty, and then number. The third thing?
Is the relationship with people. How do they have a reputation in the community, these are for men.
Then you have
different priorities based on culture based on families, you know, your preferences,
his preference, for example, education, profession, background, all these things.
All the best for the best match, the more matches you find, the better.
With both the core and the peripheral qualities, the more matches you can find, the better it is because the process of assessing
basic when you see them and you meet them and talk them and see compatibility, it's better that they might do
well Nah. So look for these qualities.
it is, like I said,
to train themselves as much as possible to understand
of car company,
yourself busy with things that will affect
as much as possible.
How can we avoid?
How can you
commit the harm with the peer pressure, whether or not
you protect the kids from further harm
with this culture,
if I own 15 years old and
there where there
is a huge peer pressure
I honestly do not have that magic wand
instead you're gonna have to identify those and find those emotional
to start with Excel and other things. And those people you will see when they move over
there we'll just look at it because
there's no one can reach.
in my culture, the parents discharge the spouse. Now say you're forced to fall in love
when they get back.
together and their divorce and my culture disgrace. How can the spouse Well first of all, if someone
can force you
you cannot be forced,
cannot say you managed to die. And that's it. They consider doing but islamically they have no power.
they can say this.
He can say not discuss why? Because they might say
oh and he says I recommend this for you and you say no he has a lot to say you
Have you met?
If you've been presented with someone,
and then you
talk to them, see if
you find them.
Even if you're forced into marriage
you have no one has the right to force you into a relationship
then go through those secrets
other side? If not, then maybe
you can help with that.
Why is it important to get married at 52% get divorced.
Why? First of all,
it's a matter of
It's one of the one of the greatest happiness that you can get
three things happen in this world, creating the greatest happiness in this world.
Which means it doesn't matter
So keep that in mind. And if you do that, I guarantee you love
to enjoy this kind of happiness.
So there is so much there's so much
love dies, you choose to die, you can kill it.
You can transform love from one phase to the other.
When you first get married, you have this those are getting emotional. And
then as you progress in your mind,
these emotions will change based on the state of life. So
what we call these three sets of demand,
the three cases
you have a sofa,
so people when they first get married,
they spent so much time together.
they squeeze the chair in, but then we move on
to the love.
And then when they have their first intuitive,
the relationship in the same way, you begin to you become three, four
and a half and a half hours, we'll go with that. But when they have their first child, suddenly, your heart is now divided.
The woman's heart is divided between her baby.
The guy is also divided between him and his wife right now.
And that's what powers for the beginning of the beginning that have taken place. Why? Because in that his wife was taken with the baby.
It was a time in a long time with her.
The father is now more with the kids than he is with a spouse or that
tension. If both of them were in a different, different way by moving into the nursing. Now that's
the love to the children of this age. It's not fashionable.
It's so beautiful. It's a beautiful feeling. No one. No one can happen unless you have your own child.
in my life, people, even people, even girls from religious families, they they do.
What should I tell them to protect them? First of all girls, they're talking about your dog,
my dog, well, that's the most
most parents in my neighbor's family until it hits home.
To be again, open with your children, your friends, be close to them, so that they need to talk about these issues, you are there for them. Like you said, you get scared because they're afraid of the backlash from the parents. That means I've never started disconnection the streamlined communication with the families or the children. So you have to be open for the girls.
And again, the girl wants she falls in love with a guy, she witnessed things of the next step. The biggest problem was, who are these guys?
Because they confuse
love with with protectiveness.
They're missing the missing
the file is not there all the time is missing. And just do too much, you know, the family is missing. So the girl she never connected with people to understand how they think how they behave. And so but that's natural women, they wouldn't want to be protected by men. She got fined for their product, you know, that sends
a girl on their product because you know,
you know that is
that's how they are they are they don't see that.
They're going to feed them.
And they confuse love with protectiveness.
Let's say our board wants to figure
out what's the federal decision.
So there's nobody
on my dead body.
Speaker, Speaker we have inherited this bias from some cultures, you know, for the parents for the parents who came from other cultures, society,
your children are actually color blind.
For them, they grew up in a culture that is open, they go to school, they hang out with each other, and they don't see the boundaries, you see.
They see African European don't see that. They only see good friends, beautiful personalities and characters, they can't see the color. They don't see the culture that you're talking about. They've developed their own culture. So the most successful relationship I've seen an Installation Manager happens.
Number one, at both families are very well integrated and integrated in a very mixed and diverse community. It is all because of all this will be very difficult.
For now, check the report
have a copy of this
over here. And those are you know just in between.
You don't see them
like one ethnicity.
So you see in some of the communities.
The second scenario is boys and the boys and girls and the boys and girls actually they live in different cities from let's say he's from the east coast. She is from the west.
So eventually when they get mad
As they don't have to worry about all these cultural divides among themselves.
Well, they don't know how to do that. So we have all these devices that's second to none.
they don't have
very simple but
that doesn't mean it's impossible.
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