Yaser Birjas – Are You Allowed To Express Grief
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The speaker discusses the history of the Prophet sallam's death, including his fall when unconscious and his desire to wipe over his face. The speaker questions whether the father's distress is allowed to be expressed and the response is that his death is aleth. The speaker also discusses the death sentence from the prophet sallua alaihi wa sallam, which describes his actions as indicative of his father's distress and being a moron. The speaker emphasizes the importance of not being emotional during a funeral and not being emotional during a funeral.AI: Transcript ©
Tonight, we have hadith number 28 from Riyadh
Salihin
on chapter on a sober patience and and
perseverance.
One of those, very heavy hadith really to,
to read and go through,
because it has to do with,
the final,
hours of the life of the prophet, salawatullah,
he wasalam, alayhi.
And Hadid Anas radiallahu alaihi wa sallam who
reported when the messenger of Allah, the last
illness of the messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam
made him unconscious.
Like he used
to fall unconscious sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. Was
described in different hadith.
One of the famous hadith is when the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam he heard the
people praying
and he got excited. He says, bring me
some water, let me refresh.
So he refreshed salallahu alaihi wa sallam with
some water and then as as he was
about to leave,
he fell unconscious.
So they brought him back again to his
bed
until he recovered.
And then he woke up, he goes,
did they pray?
They said, no. They're still waiting for you,
because bring me some more water. So they
run water, then he refreshed,
and as he was about to leave, he
fell unconscious again for 3 times,
unable to get out of the house, sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam, then he said,
let a worker lead the salah.
So in this time the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam,
frequently right now he fall is falling unconscious
and he wakes up. It was also reported
that from the event around that time as
well too,
he get fever
and he it gets hot.
So he does, salawatullah, salawatullah, salawatullah, salawatullah,
salawatullah, salawatullah, salawatullah,
salawatullah,
he would cover his face.
And then when he feels that he's he
needs to breathe, he uncovers his face
and he reaches the water next to him.
He puts his hand in that water and
he wished to wipe over his face,
and he would say,
Like
indeed, death has its agonies and pains.
So during that time when this happened,
as Fatima, his daughter,
she's observing and witnessing
the pain that his her father
was going through.
It wasn't easy for her obviously to watch
her beloved
and when she sees him falling unconscious,
she cries on his behalf,
And she would go,
Like, wow, she said to to the conscience
of the prophet as the distress
of my dear father.
Like, oh my God. Like some poor father.
And my the distress of, oh my God.
How distressful this is to him. Like she
is agonizing on his behalf, sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam.
Now some of the ulama, they say like,
wait a minute, is that considered, Isn't that
haram to wail?
Well, she wasn't wailing,
and she was only just agonizing
on his behalf. That's all.
Besides, the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wasalam, when he
woke up,
he replied to her
without banning her from doing that. So as
long as it's not something of wailing or
acting irrational and in a way that is
displeasing to Allah that
is okay.
Oh, the distress of my father.
So the prophet, he heard her once,
and he says
He said to her,
there'll be no distress for your father after
today, which means what did you ma'am?
That was it. It's the end of his
life,
like he's know he knows that this is
it, the last day.
So when he died,
He says, my father, oh my father.
He responded
to when his Allah has called, called you
back and you have responded to his call.
Oh father,
guardian of the is your abode.
She said, oh father, we announce to Jibril
your death.
Now
as you can see and you hear, those
are the words of fuzedema,
a bereaved daughter.
So the question that we ask ourselves when
it come to the subject of being patient,
does it mean you are not you're not
allowed to express your grief?
The answer is no.
But as long as as the prophet mentioned
the other hadith, as long as you say
what? Only that which is most pleasing to
Allah
Now she was describing the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasalam with certain descriptions.
She goes,
He responded to the call of his Lord
when his Lord called upon him.
His place will be in the highest place
in Jannah, Alfredo's.
We're announcing his death to his friend, Jibril.
Like we're saying here, as if she say,
Jibril,
take care of him for us.
Now what does that mean here?
These descriptions
were
they're they're befitting the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam,
which means if your naive, if your grieve
is not exaggerating
the qualities of the person that you believe,
in this case should be okay.
Like if you start saying about your your
spouse or your father or your your child,
You're
the one who used to read the Quran.
You're the one who used to always go
to the Masjid.
That's fine.
But saying that you are our savior,
you're the one we cannot live without, all
these kind of things. No. That's not right.
Because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
he holds all these now,
attributes. He's the one who gives, provides, protects,
and so on. Not your spouse, not your
child, nobody else. So as long as description
is actual and is reasonable, there is nothing
wrong of someone expressing those words.
And then, but why would the prophet had
to go through all these agonies?
They said, Aisha and she asked the prophet
when she saw him grieving and he was
going through all this pain.
Like when you fall ill, you fall ill
really really severely ill. Like your illness is
so severe.
She said
Is it because you get double the reward?
Like because you get double the reward, so
you have to go through double the pain.
Yes. Because I get double the reward from
what people get. So Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
makes them go through
the the pain. Also, some of the ulama
they say, perhaps Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
with those last moments of pain as the
prophet was going through, this was more
of like the the last purification
for him.
Like completely, whatever,
whatever from the matters of dunya that he
needs to reconcile,
Allah
had him go through this to purify him
completely from everything so that when he meets
his Lord
completely clean slate.
Then finally,
Falam Madufina, when the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam was buried,
she said to Anas radhiallahu alaihi wa sallam,
She goes, are you really satisfied now that
you put earth over the grave of your
messenger of Allah?
Like you're really satisfied to throw the dirt
on him?
Now, is that a fair statement, mister Jamal?
Maybe
not. Emotional. But it was emotional.
So no one objected,
no one responded. Even Anas who received that
from her, he just kept quiet because he
knew she's just being emotional.
But were they really satisfied putting that the
the dirt on the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam? So on the other hand, they say
yes because that's the sunnah.
The sunnah is to bury him. So when
we do that, we follow the the sunnah
of the prophet
as well too, in order of of course
to bring him closer
to his destination to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
But definitely, you're not gonna say that. And
Anas radiallahu anhu
reported the story, he said that when the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam came to Madinah,
it illuminated, it became so shiny.
That's why you called in Arabic, the
illuminated city, that's what it means.
When he died,
everything went dark.
Like he was truly the light of the
city and the spirit of the city
So here, what we learned from this hadith
is that, yeah, if someone goes through grief,
it doesn't mean that they can they need
to keep completely quiet. If they had to
say,
they need to make sure that they only
see say things that are pleasing to Allah
and
things are considered actual
and reasonable.
May Allah protect you and keep you all
safe. Any questions,
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