The Prayer of Guidance from Allah in making a Decision

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Yahya Ibrahim

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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In al hamdu Lillah Allahu Allah steinhorn istockphoto hoonah Villa Himanshu Rue de m fusina. Woman sejahtera Melina

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mahila la hufa dama de la mejor de la

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ilaha illallah wa hola Sheree Kayla. Why should one know Mohammed Abdullah he Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa Sallim wa

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Yeah, yo holla Deena am an otaku la Hakata Kati Morton illa Anta Muslim moon. Yeah Johan NASA Taco Bell como la de la comin FC wahida Hola, caminhada Baba semi humare jalin Kathy Romani.

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otaku la la de la una be halal or haram in a la Cana la Komarov teba. Yeah, you're Latina am an otaku la Coolio, Colin sadita use use the AMA como silicon de novo. Woman Yukari la hora Sula, who forgot faza Halima Medan always in forever. We begin with a praise of Allah we send our prayers a piece upon that whenever you Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we testify with firmness and conviction that none of none is worthy of worship but Allah that Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is is worshipping slave and final messenger Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa Sallim wa barik ala Sayidina Muhammad infill afreen or salli wa

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sallim wa barik ala Sayyidina Muhammad in film Allah Allah Allah or Kamara when we ask Allah subhana wa Taala to continue to send these choices blessings upon our whenever you Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and to make us from those who are blessed with his shefa on the day of sorrow, and to make us from those who are his companions in genital Fidelis if we were unable to be as companions in the dunya Salalah huali, who either early he was lucky he was Selim.

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I wish once again to thank my dear brothers and sisters, the administrators and the trustees of Greenland messaged the community of green lane, here in the city of Birmingham for giving me

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this platform and this ability to share just some of the rationale of a loss of Hannah who went to Ireland. And I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala makes the time that we spend between and measurable Asia here today, a time of remembrance of him sincerely to him Savannah, who went to Allah, and that it is found in our scales on the day of judgment as being approved for us and not against us Allahumma Amin. Now the topic that was asked for me to discuss is a topic that I believe the vast majority of Muslims

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who seek to practice it, have not been formally taught it

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And the topic relates to Salatu is taharah. And it's important in sha Allah to kind of outline three different aspects that we're going to discuss today. The first is we're going to discuss the fifth of the Sunnah, which is the jurisprudence, things that are related to it, that enact the spirit of the law in its jurists in its fifth and its jurisprudence. Second, we're going to speak about its reality in its day to day application, how you and I use it, and how it was used by the best of people in the best of times that preceded us, and what its ramifications were in their life, how did they practice it? And third, is to understand misconceptions that relate to this particular sada,

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one of them said, Pamela I, one of my brothers, one of our dogs, he pointed it out to me even in in the poster that was advertising this and it wasn't something you know that I was reading it critically. In the poster, it says before you make any decision.

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And so panda lost a lot of lists. taharah is not really about helping you make decisions. That's not the basis of salata list harder. That's one of the main misconceptions. Most people when they think of salata lists, the harder they say, Hey, I have this decision to make. So let me ask a lot to help me make the decision.

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And then it's not clear. Should I do this? Or should I do this? I asked a lot to help me. Should I marry the girl? Should I marry the boy or not? Should I take the job or not? Should I buy the car or not? And that's not how Salatu lista hora was meant or was practiced by the Sahaba as was taught to them by the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So we want to clarify this misconception. Many, many questions that you will see, somebody will say you'll regularly get a brother or sister they'll say, Chef, my mom did a lot to list harder for me.

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And there is no evidence in any of our books of FIFA that this was ever done by anyone on behalf of anyone. If anyone Yani, could you imagine if you're living within a V Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who's better than to ask to make it harder for you. You ever hear that? Abubakar? Delano said Dr. rasulillah. I have a big decision to make. Yeah Rasulullah last Li Selim Can you do is to harder for me.

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Did anyone come to me and say Jamar into ameerul momineen. For the Allahu anhu Ah, Yanni there's no abubaker there's no Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with us for the Allahu anhu I

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think it's too hard for me. Can you believe that a man came to the Allahu anhu and said oh de la Halle make up for me. ameerul momineen Karla la? Never I will make God for you. Not because I don't like you.

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Why are you asking me what makes you think I'm so special?

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But you're No, no, no, no, what makes you think that your your art is less than mine, your art, you're the one with the harder, fell harder to lead. It's your issue. It's your concern. It's your need.

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So make do out for yourself. And that's one of the filter that you learn from that Hadith of the Prophet SAW Selim, where he says, as is narrated by the man Muslim, that the one who makes your art for his brother without his brother, knowing below him without his brother knowing.

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Then Allah sends an angel and says, I mean, your drive is accepted for your brother. It wasn't interchanged in that way, where you said oh, this person is is holier than me better than me, they're more likely that their drive is answered than me.

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But when someone remembers you in their heart and they think kindly of you and they make your app for you, without you knowing that their data is entered on your behalf, look at the look at our model of the Allahu anhu Look how much he attached people to Allah and not to personalities. Look how we centered the focus on the towhees of Allah subhanaw taala well, either Salah kariba de Unni, the Indian Karim here Allah doesn't say

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in hundreds and hundreds of places in the Quran. The Quran is full of cold, tell them I am near No, not here. Don't tell them and Mohamed

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I am near. You don't need to be an intermediary between me and then your Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. So there's many misconceptions in sha Allah that we wish to clarify. Now for many of you, I hope I see a lot of you and hamdulillah you've been given this one sheet of paper, and this is the rewire of the Hadith that we're going to study and I thought we would study this concept of is taharah in a formal way.

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So therefore, we're going to look at the metadata of the Hadith. And this hadith is narrated by Lima al Bukhari. Let's begin with who is an Imam Al Bukhari. Imam Mohammed igneous Mariela Buhari, Rama to La Jolla. La

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is the Imam of hadith of his time, and after his time, is the mom of Heidi. From the moment he was in the study of Hadith and collecting the books of Hadith, especially his Sahil Jamuna, which is where this hadith is collected until the day Allah inherits the earth. Savannah has to honor no one will surpass Alabama Buhari his father in what he has done in salvaging, protecting, giving victory to the student and the tradition of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu. It was sending an email Buhari when you ask the scholars of Hadith our teachers, they will tell you that when you want to identify a hadith in its terms of authenticity, one of the categories in which book is it placed and

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therefore the highest Hadith is the Hadith that is more takuna la hora de that is agreed upon that both Lima Mojave and the Lima Muslim, including their books of Hadith. The Hadith immediately after it is the Hadith that is found only in Le mamil Buhari even though Lima Muslim has not narrated it, and Lima Malik. His was with the first book of Hadith that the oma said was a valuable book of Hadith.

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And it was said that there's no book that is more authentic than the matava Lima Malik meaning at this time, but in fact, the oma edge Matt has accepted in its collection, that there is no effort of gathering just authentic Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that was done in a more meaningful and complete way than Elijah of an Imam Al Bukhari Rahmatullah Holly

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even though a mammal Buhari has this mechana he had people who were his enemies, can you imagine that?

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Can you imagine you are living in a time where Allah Mammon Bahati is Allah is around and that there are other older man who criticize him and critique him notable earlier Obama and this I want to establish as an important lesson for you I know our topic is is too hot, but we have to study it properly. Right.

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Do not ever believe that there was any alum, any peak scholar even behati Rahmatullah Haley, who did not have someone contend with him, who did not have someone critique Him, who did not have someone point out faulting him who did not have someone oppress Him, who did not have someone wronged him

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and misspeak about him and misjudge him and trial him and test him in his knowledge in his practice, and in his al Qaeda and faith. All of it would happen to Allah Mammon, Bihari Rahim Allah Allah. But when Allah accepts your good,

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even if the whole world gathers against it,

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Allah keeps it

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and therefore other books that are written and it's meaningless for me to mention the names of the people who contested Ali Muhammad Buhari. Why? Because history has ignored them. For the most part. Who do you remember? Bahati are the Allahu anhu Allah Rama, Rama de la la, but those who contended him are forgotten.

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In the time, their voices were loud. But afterwards, what remained was what Allah favored what was beneficial to the oma. And this reminds us of an ayah in the Quran, for MSW, fire, Buddha, Allah says when it rains, and there's a lot of rain, and it begins to pull and run over the land. It carries with it a lot of things. But at the end, all the things that are carried by the water, they're settled, and they're not as significant as the water that seeps in the earth and gives it its life that brings out fruits and vegetation and strengthens trees. That's what it is that is long lasting. It's not the stuff carried on the surface of the water that people pay attention to. It's

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actually the water and the bottle cap that it contains in and of itself, and Imam Al Bukhari was the reign of Baraka of the Hadith of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu. It was

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the Hadees is the Hadith

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jabber, Abdullah

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radi Allahu anhu Jabari Abdullah

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Abraham, Abraham, Alhaji al Ansari.

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He was born 15 years before the hegira of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam meaning he was born two years before that his Salah was delivered to the Navy Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the ashram.

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And he was from a family of people who were not well to do. They were people of modest means a poor family. And he was the only son of his father and mother. And he had seven sisters, or as some earlier Matt say, nine sisters.

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And his father lived to an advanced age, and was one of those who were honored with the Shahada on the day of

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the Allahu anhu Otto

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is one of the companions of our Nabina Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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Jabir ibn Abdullah

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was involved in 18 battles, and you might say 19 battles in assisting the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam if you count that he was in bed, there's difference of opinion amongst their older man. We know in the Battle of hood his father forbade him from fighting. And I want this to become an important lesson for my young brothers and sisters today.

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Could you imagine, Medina is under siege.

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The mushrikeen have come all the way from Mecca,

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targeting your city, your home, the masjid of the prophets, I send them as harbor rasulillah.

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And the only place that the Sahaba can meet them is at the footstep of a hood to face the enemy a little bit outside Medina because if the enemy comes in, you've lost

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and as you stand in

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the moon feel clean.

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say we are not going to go out to fight with you at all messenger of Allah Yeah, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, because you're outside the precincts of Medina, we're gonna stay behind the high level and rasulillah all of a sudden the army shrinks in half.

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The profits I sell them is in our hood. And there are 200 horsemen with Kyle individually then there are

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and you're 1617 years old. Mashallah full of vigor full of strength.

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You're one who's ready to defend the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And as you get ready, your father comes to you and says son put down that she'll put down that sword. I forbid you from fighting.

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Why?

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We need every able bodied man.

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You're not allowed. You have sisters to worry about.

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You have seven sisters, nine sisters, according to the different rewire. I'm fighting I'm your father. I have the honor of being with Mohammed Salah nowadays and you young men. The only job you can do is to bring water to the injured to Panama.

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Could you imagine Jabba Abdullah Rama to LA LA. Even when the battle turns against the prophets of Allah. He was sentimental. Sahaba he maintains his father's promise upon him.

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That's how important your father's command of you is.

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There's young people today. The father says don't go out. Tonight he goes

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I go wherever I want my men who used to tell me go and don't go.

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Where are you?

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difference. Jabir ibn Abdullah LA to La la la the Allahu anhu Allah.

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He was the one who the prophets I sell the major art for. He is one of the largest, most reported Hadeeth reporters from the Prophet Mohammed Salah lahardee was

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the person who reported many Hadith from the lawsuit so I sent him he's one of the top 10 Hadith reporters maybe even top five reporters of the prophets of Allah Hadi.

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He lived to accompany Eliade, Allahu anhu, or da he was in the hills of Abu Bakr and Omar on Earth, man and Ali are the Allahu anhu. And he was always

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On the side of it he was next to Abdullah have now that he was one of the staunchest in faith in fulfilling his covenant to Allah azza wa jal

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and he lived to an old age past the age of 90,

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some say 94 years old, and in his final days he became blind. And he was buried in Iraq,

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buried in Iraq

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by the Allahu anhu.

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The cause of his death was that he was poisoned by Elijah Gibney youth if use of a soccer soccer fee

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was one of the Amir's that was given power over the believers.

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And he was a person who we believe remains a Muslim we don't have land upon him but he was volatile. And may Allah give him from his mercy or what he is fishing for a llama me?

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Yeah, but if not, Abdullah is the one who reports this hadith from the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. It's reported that Java reported nearly 1500 if not more Hadith from that also Salalah hottie who either earlier or Savio Selim, he's currently buried in the city of Medina in Iraq.

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Yeah, but him Abdullah he says that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Can you alumina he used to teach us. salata is taharah the way he would teach us, the Quran sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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Now in this some of our lemma have said, therefore salata is the hora should not be recited in a language other than Arabi.

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And therefore, although it is permissible for a person to make do

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in any language, that the pneus of this hadith was taught to the Sahaba with precision

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if they were to change one word in its order, the Prophet would correct them. Why do you get this because jab and ibn Abdullah is telling you that the prophets I seldom taught them this you're on the way with the same precision he would teach them the Quran. You know how you teach your young brother, your young sister, your young children, the follow Allah when they're growing up, and then they make a mistake. What do you do you stop them you say law, go back, fix it. This is how you say it. This is what Javert wants you to get in your mind before he shares with you this Hadith of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So the Prophet would teach them this hadith with its

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precision, wanting them to learn it, to say it to pronounce it and I've recreated the Hadith for you, in Arabi in transliteration, and in the English meaning of it, and we're going to study every word of the Hadith as we continue in sha Allah.

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He then said

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he would teach us to make a lot of the hora in the same way with the same dedication that he would teach us the Surah Al Quran

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and he said to us, meaning to me Javid, if not de la Rahmatullah la hora de Allahu anhu, Allah, that if anyone is going to begin an action, if anyone is going to do something,

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and that they want to start a job or start something, there's a new issue in their life that they're about to begin.

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Value suddenly arakata Meanwhile, you're in Florida. Let them pray to America that are not from the follow the prayers. Now this shows you the precision of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that you can't pray Salatin measure live and after Salatin method which we just prayed, you put your hands up and say Allah Romania, Sofitel Kabir amigos de la

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it has to be to America that is independent from the regular follow the prayer

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so that when they give a critique to this, they say you can be any sooner

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so we prayed a lot to suit not after assaulted method of Iraq Isola tuna, you can join your intention for the both for this particular prayer. It can be sold out to sooner with the intention of it also being for Salatu is taharah. It can be the two Raka before Salatin failure, it can be the two Raka. After those, it can be nothing, just entirely a different solar. You made a will do and you just go into pray to Allah from the lobby that might have given the said that this solar should not be performed at a time of Carranza, at a time where it's disliked to pray to Allah. There are two main times and there's a third time that some of the odema have discussed. The two times that

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everyone agrees on is when the sun is rising up until a shadow so from Africa

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And the sun begins to rise in the sky rising off the horizon tolerations no one should pray

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until the sun is completely risen, then you can start your solar again. The second time that the ruler might agree is when the sun is declining after Salatu last until it sets for Salatin method. So when the sun is setting,

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you shouldn't pray until a massive event arrives. And that's why you will see some people in the masjid they'll remain standing waiting for those Lada they want to take the other of the two sooner not praying while the sun is setting and not sitting when they've come to the masjid without greeting it.

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The third one which there's dispute amongst the Roma is when the sun is getting to its zenith right before then solar to look at the height of the sun, right before it's allowed to look the very last 10 minutes before the advantage though, for some of the older men it's seen as a time where it's makrooh to pray. And therefore salata this de hora takes the hope of any other nephew any other sooner, that it should not be prayed in those three times, or at least in those two major times that don't have dispute upon them to Raka that are not thought of not Salatin, farraj not from negative none of these prayers. inshallah. Other than the compulsory prayers and the prophets, I seldom makes

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that distinction very clear.

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And then he says, The Prophet then begins to teach that you are here we're going to pause. Before we talk about the drama. Let's talk about why you're making the drama.

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One of the bigger misconceptions and one of the bigger problems people have is that they assume salata lista hora is to help you make a decision. And this is a false understanding

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of what Salatu is the hora is salata list hora is not to help you to decide between two things,

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or lotrel is the hora is to help you deal with the ramifications of a decision you may find that you've asked the Lord to bless. What does the word is too hard? I mean, it comes from the word how you goodness and therefore enter test the federal hire, you are seeking the best goodness. So let's take the example of you want to buy a car. When does salata lista kata come into play? salata, lista hora is the third part of your decision making process. And for those of you who want to take notes you may do so inshallah. There are three steps to making a decision. First is your

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you sit with yourself, okay? Alhamdulillah Allah has blessed me with a little bit of money, I have 3000 pounds. That's the amount of money that I'm going to be able to spend on my car. So now I sit to make a decision. Which car should I buy? I want to make it I want to make a good purchase. I want to purchase in child love. It's going to be a safe purchase good for my dunya good for my asset Oh, I can only spend 3000 pounds. So I begin to use my mind. I get on the internet. I search. I go visit car dealerships I look in the newspaper I see in the measured billboard is anyone selling a car, I put my effort, my intelligence, my abilities into making a decision. Usually you narrow it down to

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two or three choices.

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That's the first step. Now I found the first step of my decision. There's two or three options for me. Two or three in my mind look like good options. The second level of making a decision is not called this taharah. It's called St Shara meaning taking counsel from experts. So then you come and you see a brother Mashallah in the masjid, who you know, is a mechanic. I say, okay, should I buy the Ford or the Toyota?

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By the mechanic is going to tell you go for the Toyota. I can tell you that I don't need to be a mechanic to tell you that. Right.

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You take this to shop. He'll ask you questions. What year is the model? How many kilometers? How many miles on it? How many drivers owned it is it a damaged vehicle before or not? He'll ask you questions maybe you didn't think of he'll give you his to Shara he'll add wisdom that you in your app did not have and all of a sudden the three choices he discounts it. Now you have one option he says No Actually this is the one you should take out of the three that you spoke about. This is the right one.

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This is when is the hora is done the choices made

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I haven't made the purchase,

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but I've settled on a decision.

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Salatu lista hora is not in the beginning, where I have three choices. Oh Allah, which of the three is good? Oh Allah show me a dream.

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Now, Murphy's dream Murphy? Oh, I saw a red version of it in my dream driving law has nothing to do with istikhara that is that has this false understanding of is taharah needs to be fixed. Is the hora is done after you've made a decision that's been narrowing it down. You've taken advice and now you've settled on the right thing. Should I take this job or not?

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The pay is right The location is right. It's a good work environment. Other people what about this job? Yeah, it's nice as well but this one's better. I like this one. you've settled

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I lost this is the one I'm going to take. Now you want to make sure that the knowledge you have doesn't let you down. Because the knowledge you have is limited to what who you asked what you researched how much finance you have. That's all your knowledge is your knowledge does not extend into the Hyeme it does not extend into what is the future your knowledge does not know whether that car is going to be reason for you to drive too quickly because its engine is too shaitan for you and make you get in an accident

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you're impressed Mashallah. It's got a V six. Masha light.

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It's got a turbo

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it's a good deal. Only 3000 normally this in the market 4500 I'm getting a good it's a good bit. Buy it don't think twice. You know people they tell you that. Don't think twice.

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Yeah.

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You don't think twice but you make us taharah once for Allah subhana wa Tada.

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This is when you make it harder. You made a decision. I have the money. This is the I'm going to do it.

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Okay.

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Let me make the euro. Now when you look at the DA with this explanation gave you the dirt will make sense to you. Previously Subhan Allah, the kind of questions you get. It shows that the person does not understand what they're asking for.

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Now, you will see why you don't need to ask your mom to make it harder for you. Now you will see why you don't need to be indecisive in the decision because the decision is yours. A law does not make decisions for you. And the loss of Hannah Montana is not going to send you a you know I had one sister she said Jeff, I made Salatu lista hora whether I should marry the brother or not.

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And Jani I haven't seen a sign. I said what sign Are you looking for sister? She said my mom said yeah, and maybe I'll see him sitting on the moon.

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Moon so Panama for you to marry the brother. He's gonna sit on the moon. Wow. Agha, how are you gonna get married? It doesn't make sense.

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Oh, she has I heard that I'm supposed to not have any decision in my heart before it's the hora. How is that possible?

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chance I have two jobs. And I'm scared because I like one of them. I'm scared my staccato one work.

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As if it's too hot as an eight ball. You know what the eight ball is? You shake it and you say Should I go to work today or not? Yes. Okay. Hmm. I have to go to work now. So how does not this it's not a toy. It's not something you do. divinity sticks well as the villa is the hora is now you asking a lot to stamp his approval on what you've decided. Or our life what I decided is wrong. Save me from it. That's istikhara let's look at the Hadith. Now. turn your attention to the Hadith. You begin by saying Allahu Allah Subhana Allah, that's a beautiful, beautiful statement.

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Allahumma

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what is Allah whom I mean?

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It is an acknowledgment that you have an ILA and he's the only one you ask.

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Allah Houma.

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O Allah singling out Allah. It's not Yara.

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No, you're asking Allah by his name. Allah, Allah Houma. And when you say Allahumma it's O Allah, your mind Allah.

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Allah Houma. You're for me, Allah, your attention is for me. Your knowledge is for me. Your assistance is for me. Your health is for me.

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lahoma

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and this is Anita and mohab. It's one of the most beautiful ways to call to Allah subhana wa tada

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Allahumma inni. I asked you, therefore can you make it harder for someone else?

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Huh? What's the saying from the beginning? Allahumma inni

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it's for me Allah that is mine. It's my need. It's my decision. I'm the one in control of it. Allahumma inni esta hero kabiri Mika

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was a stockbroker before quadratic. Oh Allah.

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I asked you by the knowledge

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to guide me by the knowledge that only you possess. Bear in me.

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It's in there only you have.

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Nobody else has it was stuck to the rule cabbie. odorata.

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And by the power you possess that nobody else possesses. Nobody else that has this folder. Oh Allah, nobody else has this power.

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When you come in public, and I ask you for your great blessings. Subhana Allah three things you're asking for.

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knowledge from Allah.

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power that Allah possesses and blessing from Allah azza wa jal,

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a stuffy Rocha, I asked you to guide me to the good

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stuff Iraq, is where we get the word is taharah A stuff here? It means I'm asking for guidance that leads me to the best of guidance, the best of outcome, the best of means, the most goodness that I can accomplish, whereas the cul de roca quadratic, and I asked you to share your power with me, to bless me with your power, and to bestow your favor and blessing upon me. For a NACA tuscadero, to cut through,

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duck dhiru Well, I have to do what Allah Allah Allah, Allah, Oh Allah, you are the one who is able You are the one who is powerful. You are the one who can do what I can do. And you are the one who knows what I don't know what nobody else knows. You know what my mother doesn't know. My mother says to me, if you take this job, it's going to give her

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a lie. You know, I bought this car that mechanic he told me visited it but you're the one who knows what it is for me.

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Other people know things that I've asked about I've already gotten advice, but the advice you will give me now what you will decide in my decision, what you will bless me towards nobody can help me in that way. For a nikka taketsuru Allah, Allah Allah, Allah and Allah Allahu Allah Houma. Once again you say, Oh Allah, oh my Allah

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incontact alum.

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Oh Allah, if what you know Subhan Allah.

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If what you know about this

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panel or the one making this dry, it's as if they're speaking with a friend.

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And the concept of being mean Allah Allah, or a filial to Allah. Look at Ibrahim Allahu Ibrahima Haleakala. He's a friend to Allah. When you listen to the drama of the prophets of Allah, it's like they were having a conversation that was Frank with a BA in NEMA a school bus he was de la ba. Oh well I only complain about my sorrow and my grief to you Yara.

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There is every wire that Jaco when he would be interviewed. He will say you're a manly hire over law who do I have other than you that I can complain? Use of his last manly hierarchy who is there for me other than you?

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He would speak to Allah Moosa speaks to a lot so again, rubbish really sorry, is silly. I'm gonna fix my tongue. You have cocconi it's not just fixed my is not just asking but he's he's explaining fix my tongue. So when I speak to around he will understand what I'm saying Musa used to stutter

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which alley was eat ramen alley give me someone from my family to carry this burden how to nafi it has to be my brother who's from my family. who wish to be here as an E Oh Allah if you give him to me to help me He will make me strong. Why should he Kofi Emery join him in this mission with mi ke new sub dagga kathira If you give me her own, we will be able to remember you often he'll remind you me to make you to be Have you whenever karaca Cafiero in a cocoon, Davina boss.

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Because now I know that you are always watching us and seeing us and helping us Yano.

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Allahumma incontact alum. Oh Allah if you know this thing what you know about this thing, and then you mentioned it. Oh Allah if you know this car

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is good for me.

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Hire only hire only fee Dini when merace Liberty Emory did this thing, this car, this marriage this job, this career. This trip

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this suit this joopa the Sahaba they used to make a lot of the Sahara even for purchases like shoes, because it was a big purchase back then. shoes were tailored for you. You know, it had to be done nicely for you. It was a big purchase it would cost money to get proper shoes.

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They would make your eye for things that you and I as as Javid rob the law says for all matters in our life. The Prophet would teach us this subtle aloha he was in our life you know that this job?

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Clearly is better for me. Good for me. fee Dini

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for my faithfulness in you

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one merace my life in its generality how I live in my clinic in my health in it.

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Wow, favor to Emory and in my eventual return to you meaning in my ass Hello to you.

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If this if this thing is better in my Deen for my work or my worship of you, my relationship with you, my livelihood and my end have returned to you. Oh, Allah.

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Baku huli

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huli then make it harder for me. Make it attainable for me and make it easy for me to achieve because I've already decided I wanted to do really well Sara Lee. So maberry CLI fi make it my father. Make it easy to have and then put Baraka in it. Allahu Akbar. Add your blessing to it Oh Allah

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when quintet alum but Oh Allah if you know that this thing and you know what? I don't know. You already said to Allah. If this thing in

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short only is evil for me, bad for me fidi me in my religiousness.

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What am I Ashi

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in my life well after to Emory, and in my return to you Oh Allah

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fullstory fu and me turn it away from me, sort of means to turn something away.

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To look to another place to do that. It turns away from me

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while sleeping me and turn me away from it. So Pamela, you know how sometimes someone turns away from you, but you're still looking at them?

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Danny, you came and proposed? And they said no, but you're still saying yes, it's a big problem.

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Now, look at the DA Allah turn them away from me and turn me away from them. Turn it away from me and turn me away from it was sort of near and home

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walk the Lehigh a

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little higher and only give my father over law in that which is blessed and good.

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Are you through can wherever it is. Meaning it might not be in the thing that I want wherever my hire is. Give me that hire makeup my father or a law firm Maldini Bay then make me content with it. Because sometimes your color is something that you're not happy with. And the reason you're not happy with it is because you have not been doing salata, lis taharah now let's talk once again, let's resume we've given a shot of some of the important words in the in the draft. Let's talk about its practice. So we said that's a lot to list. The hora is the third part of your decision making.

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The first is your mind is your ability is your thoughts. helaas This is what I think two three choices. Then you take is to shadow you ask people for advice. After you've asked for advice, it's been narrowed down. You've made a decision. This is what I'm going to do. Now. Oh Allah, I've made this decision. I'm going to buy this car tomorrow. era in sha Allah tomorrow when I wake up

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I'm going to go online I'm going to go to this ad I'm going to go to the car yard, and I'm going to ask about the car I'm going to purchase it. But Oh Allah, if in your knowledge if in your power

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if in your blessing upon me, you see that this car is good for me, let me have it because I think it is let it happen

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and put Baraka in it for me. But Oh Allah, in your knowledge and in your power and in what you know that I don't know. If this car is not good for me, Oh Allah keep turning it for me and turn me from it. So Subhan Allah, you make that draw?

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You don't see any dreams. This thing about seeing dreams This has nothing to do with is to have nothing. And this is I don't know where it's come from. Right. None of our books, none of our moms none of the Imams of Allah Suna have attached any meaningfulness to dreams in the sense and we'll talk about dreams shortly.

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So then you go to the car yard in the morning, and you speak to the salesman, you say I saw this ad and I wanted to take a look at the car. And he says oh, you just missed it.

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Someone just picked it up late in the afternoon yesterday.

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In your heart You didn't say Subhan Allah La Hola. Hola. Hola. I missed out on a good deal. That car is normally 40 $500 I could have got it for 3000 pan ally missed out LA.

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A lot turned it away from you. You wanted to buy those nice, Jordans. Nice shoes.

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You made your staccato

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Sahaba would make his taharah. You go to the footlocker in the morning, say can I have a size 10? They say Oh, we got a 10 and a half or an 11? Or a nine and a half. There's no 10

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You don't say Oh, let me check another store.

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A little Lahore measure a file this is higher. This is an answer from a loss of Hannah Montana. The answer to your istikhara is that you receive it which means Allah blessed it for you.

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Or you don't get it, which means Allah protected you from it. In both cases, you're happy.

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Why is this important?

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You made salata list horror as I just taught you.

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And you get married. And five years later, you get a divorce.

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You don't say Subhan Allah, wish I never got married. Now, Allah knows that that marriage was the right thing for you, even if it ended in that divorce.

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Even if you experienced that divorce, this is the highest. And this is in the knowledge of a lot better than had you not been married to this person or made another choice. Why? Because you made this The harder you know that this was what was higher for you. A lot determined for you because you ended up getting married a lot didn't turn her from you turn you from him. So you have no regrets in your life because you have always wanted the good with a law. You've always asked a laws guidance to stamp his approval on the ramifications of every decision that is important in your life to be made.

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You live unburdened.

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You live a life that is unburdened

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and that's the greatest freedom that a believer has that other people don't have. And that's why when you say kg de la Hua Masha, you're talking about a list of harder what was the word we said called the rhotic the faithfulness the power you have over my fate Oh Allah, let your fate decide for me if I have it or not, I believe it's good. If it's not good, turn it away from me turned me away from it.

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But if you've attained it, it means that this was good even if you experience pain in it.

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Even if it is difficult for you that pain is the goodness that Allah wanted you to have. Because if you did something different your pain would have been greater. And therefore you say that Allahu wa Masha This is in the corner of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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three important points that I want you to make note of inshallah,

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one is to know that the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to specify particular neurons for particular needs.

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There are particular medicines for particular illnesses and there are particular dura for particular needs.

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And one of the regular medicines, one of the regular antibiotics, anti dunia medicine.

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You should be taking his salata list taharah it unburdens you from regret it unburdens you from sorrow it unburdens you from second guessing it unburdens you from wondering, did I make the right choice or not? It unburdens you from all of these things, because you've done that three step process you've asked. You thought about it as the advice and then you've concurred it with a loss of Hannah to Allah, and you step forward, and unless given you or turned you away from it.

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If any time you make these decisions, based on your istikhara, you will find that there is this medicine that will always give you a cure to that West sweat in your heart.

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The greatest cure to the west west of doubt, which is from the shaitan is sold out to the Sahara. The prophet SAW iclm says in the Hadith narrated by the Imam and Bahati

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of the worst statements that a person can make. And it is from the words that the shaitan puts in your heart level. If only

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what if I did, had I only done

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if, lo, if I didn't marry him,

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if I didn't move, if I didn't take that job, if I hadn't listened to them, if if if lo Minghella misshapen prophesize lm says the word level second guessing, worrying about decisions you've made in the past that no longer you can go back and unchanged. It is a word from the straight on, and the way to eliminate that Westwater. And that statement from your heart is Salatin is too hard.

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That's the first principle it is a medicine and a cure for those grievances and those ailments that will come later on in life after a decision that you're not happy with. Number two,

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know that Allah subhanho wa Taala is attentive to his servants.

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And therefore before you make dua, in all da, make sure that you take the means for it to be answered. Salatu lista hora, is that you mean? Why does the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked you to pray before it? Because the likelihood of your drug being answered after an act of righteousness is greater than when you're just sitting in your car and you make a list of hada without solder. All right. Now let's talk a little bit about the In this sense, there is added to your arm. There are manners you have with a loss of balandra in this Hadith, the Prophet ordains them upon you and you have no choice in it. What are the edits that you make will do?

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Because you have to pray to America. Right? Look at how the prophets I seldom put you in a place where he's trying to make your job more enjoyable because it's critical to your happiness in life.

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Make you

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do a righteous deed. Do something voluntary that is unwritten upon you something that you bring yourself to a laws of tension that is in something written you're doing something voluntary something extra. So the Prophet says don't make it a solid that Allah has ordered you because you have to do that. Do us Allah that's extra

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and make the dua after the solder.

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Now here they are on a map. They have two opinions the majority is that it is after the Salaam salaam aleikum wa Salam aleykum then you make the list ahora while seated in the position of Tisha hood, while seated immediately after Sala in the same place you just finished your prayer. And this some of our Imams, even al Imam of VG Breen shehab Nigerian Renata La La the teacher of our teachers, he writes in his book about the importance of making your after Salah.

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That this is evidence that your honor is honored after sada Salatu. This taharah is something you may draw immediately after your Salah you stay seated in your Tisha hood facing the Qibla. All of this makes you more likely to be answered. Although the prophets I sell them does not recommend and does not say it here that you should put your hands up to a law, all of the Imams of effect, they say that you should raise your hands and making this your eye because you're begging of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah is guidance. You're asking Allah subhanaw taala for his guidance. So you put your hands and clap your hands to Allah. There are five different ways that Prophet used to raise

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his hands and

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the first is that he would miss a Baba point

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With his Tushar hood finger, and this was done when he was given admonitions and Holton bugs and sermons when he was standing on his pulpit, he would make his draw with this Ababa and this is called the authority and in giraffe raising your hand and you're on. The second way of making your either the Prophet would raise his hand was by pointing his palms to the sky. And this is the list is for the prophets I seldom would ask for rain and bring the rain down with his hands like this. This is from the Sunnah of the prophet SAW Selim, this was a form of making your art for instance, call the third was putting his hands again and asking a lot to separate the clouds. And this was a

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fairly a day, he would put his palms to the heaven or a lot stop the rain. Allah home the whole an hour, Alena or LA turn it around us and not put it on us when it was torrential rain upon in Medina. The fourth way of making euro with the hands of the prophets, I seldom was what was called the keynote.

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And Allah Muhammad,

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the keynote, da is that your hands are cupped and they are at the level that does not go past your shoulder and your hands are in front of you. And your palms, your fingers are spaced together, they are not open, and they're not closed tightly, but they're in a relative position. And it is the position of a beggar who is before a master asking, Oh Allah give me and this form of drama is also an it's a way of asking a lot in the hadith of Allah Buddha Buddha, which channel Alberni has deemed so here, Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, no one puts their hands up to Allah meaning in this way their hands their palms to Allah, and asks a law and except that Allah is shy of them not

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to give them something, you will be given something in your hand, that it comes down to you Allah will give you something as a reward of this.

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It was seen as a Sunnah of the prophet SAW Selim, in certain Dora to wipe upon himself after it, not all, but in some, some of them are when he would recite the whole before sleeping. Hola, Hola. Hola. Hola. Hola. Hola. verbenas reciting ayatul kursi and in one rewire that's inside Muslim reciting the seven Fatiha seven times and Fatiha fam fourth, breathe in his hand, and he would pass his hands over all parts of his body that were not covered. So he wouldn't touch his clothing. But any part of skin or hair he would touch himself with it Salalah while he was in session says to Navarro nebby Mohammed Salah Salem before you sleep, it is assumed that you do it in Rokia upon your children can

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I am Sacco Allen has anyone Hussein young photo via D he would read his your art of protection

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or either Kuma Bella, I asked a lot to protect you from every I and from every shape on and from every evil that seeks you and he would breathe on it. He would recite the folds and then he would touch them the parts of their bodies that were exposed. This was a Sunnah of the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the hadith of Allah mammal Buhari when the Sahaba were passing by, and they met a man who was ill in a village and the people in the village they said helming Komarov in any of you know how to make Rokia the Prophet hadn't taught them. So I tell them how or what to say. They said, Yes, we have the Quran. These are people who don't believe the people they're asking

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them are not believers. They said yes, we have the cochlea. We know how to make Rokia we know how to make a spiritual cure. They said Okay, do it for us. So the Sahaba read seven times Sultan Fatiha whenever to what lemma Zoo and they put their lamps upon the men touch the men blue upon the men

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so that he became better. So they gave him a gift sheep.

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And the Siva said, No, we can't consume it. We can't take it until we ask the prophets I seldom ever Talon

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because we did something we got paid. We don't know if what we did was correct. We just use this Quran. And when they came, they said Yasuda love this happens a lot. ly Salim and he said, you have to give me some of the sheep because I'm your teacher sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, right? This is the form of making this drop to put your hands together at the level of your shoulders in a way that is a beggar before the master. The fifth and final way that is mentioned of the prophets I seldom raising his hands in his euro was at the time of manner and difficulty and that's when he would put his hands up to the sky until they would see the whiteness of his armpit subtle alojado said we'll

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have that in the Nazca This was in the time of bed during the time.

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It was very funny. In that time we Yara Nasheed Rob Bell, asking Allah Subhana Allah and it's fully extended to Allah, Allah azza wa jal, that is not common. It's not something you do every day. That is at a time of need. We have no one but Allah, the prophet size, Allah mentions it in the hadith of Sahih Muslim, where he says that there was a man who was travelling in the desert, and his mount his horse, his camel ran away with his food, his water, his sword, he's gonna die in the desert, fought off Idaho, lsms the Prophet says he put his hand to the heavens at the moment. Now when he says, I can know who you read the summer. He's putting it as if he's trying to touch the sky. Your immediate

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we'll call era era oh my lord, oh, my lord helped me Help me. Right. So this is established in the Sunnah of the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and therefore we've said so part of you making the drop of saltiness. taharah is to do the things that will lead your Sahaba to be accepted some of the Imams of Philco, they have said, just like you're doing Salah before it, you should also do the things that you normally do for your job to be accepted, adding solder upon the profits I tell them before it or after it is seen as Mr. hab it's not conditional to it. Making your Salah upon the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. We know from the tradition and the student of the

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prophets I seldom that any you are without the Salah upon the prophets. I said lamb is deficient. This is the word of your lawsuit sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for x zero minutes Allah to Allah, so increase your prayers for me sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allahumma salli ala nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam to Sleeman kathira

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so give sadaqa before it's a lot harder after salata, lista hora is seen as Mr. hab

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being a person who's in the assistance of others when you're asking a lot to be in your assistance makes your esta hora more readily answerable I shadow the Allahu Allah.

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One of her famous students, he said is the hotter two fellas and he was making a decision about his wife.

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And this is a he's making a decision about you know, sensitive issues in his family. He said I made this the harder three times and for this reason some of the Imams have said that salata is the hora and do our list, the hora can be made multiple times. And some of the Imams have said, the more you make it, the more urgent it is between you and Allah, the easier it is for you to find resolution for this problem. So you know, you're going to be going to buy that car in the morning, do it at night and do it again before you go out and do it after you're fed. And make sure that you ask Allah Subhana Allah for his help his assistance for his knowledge for his power, and for what will lead

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you in the right way be Neela Hey, Tyler. So those are some of the issues that are attached. Now let's end by clearing some of the misconceptions in sha Allah. Delano de la alikum. What time is allotted Aisha What time is the other

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10 o'clock is the event.

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Now when do I need to stop by is a nice way of asking 945 so we have a 1010 minutes in sha Allah. So let's clear some of the misconceptions that relate around salata Sahar can more than one person do is to hot offer the same thing

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and more than one just say there's two brothers Mashallah they're going to come together to start a new company.

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They're going to do business together. You and I you say okay, yeah, we're gonna start a business. Now you need to do is to Cora, because you're part of the business and I need to do is to harder, you don't say okay can you do is to harder for us. Now. Everyone who has a share in the istikhara should make it.

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And therefore if your mother for example, it's common in your culture, that when you get married, you're going to bring the woman your new spouse to live with your mother. She makes us the hotter for who?

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For who? for herself for surf hanmi keep this one away. Right? You're making this the hotter Oh, I love she's good for me. I've made my decision. Your mom's like kept me out if you want to. But she has power. So your mom doesn't know she has that power. I'm teaching her now. Right? She's making it harder for the same thing and it might be her as taharah turns away what you're making it harder for your asking for it because you want this you made your decision. She's making it harder for something she doesn't want that you want. But she has a reason

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For that decision, right? Not because you're making it harder for yourself, someone can't miss it because the harder for the same condition from a different perspective. Okay? So when your mom makes it harder for your marriage, it's not for you, it's for her.

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Oh Allah, if this if this girl if this son is going to be a good son in law to me, bring him Let him be for my daughter. If he's not a lot, turn him from from us and turn her from him. Right? She has that right to make is too hot. It's not for the daughter. It's not for the sun, but it's for her self. And therefore I want you to change that misconception I will do is to hada for you. No, it doesn't work that way. You're doing this to hot off for yourself as the Father for yourself as the mother and therefore I always say to those who are looking to get married your father as the Willie, you should make it harder for your daughter.

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As her Willie make it harder for her not in her choice. But in what is right for you in your assistance in that choice. ask Allah subhana wa Tada. Right. So that's the first misconception can more than one person Yes, more than one person can make it from their own particular vested interest. Everyone has an interest. So you make your horror from that perspective. In sha Allah. Number two, do I have to see a sign? Whether it's a dream, or someone comes and talks to me about it? Jani? Is there something assigned? And the answer is no. None of our books of fifth or

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the discuss Alyssa hora talk about any particular signs. Why? Because our Dean is the Dean of Busey Ra.

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It's a dean of open sightedness of logic of rationale of thinking of making decisions. We don't just say Oh Allah, you make the decision for me. No, Allah has caught the cutter over us anyway. But he's given you the decision in what is given you cutter. And I want you to learn this from an incident of El Mirage Allahu Allahu Akbar.

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Remember, the Allahu anhu is ameerul momineen.

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And he's traveled to Damascus. And he's on the boundary of entering a sham. And Abu Dhabi definitely Georgia. radi Allahu anhu. Ma is in the city of Damascus. He's the Amir. They're appointed by Mr. Adnan katabami remote meaning and as RMR approaches the city he hears news that inside a sham, there is an epidemic. There is an infectious illness, a plague that people are dying from it.

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So not only Allahu anhu, His fitrah His feroza His awareness, his intuition, his spiritual insight stops him and he stops and he was traveling with the rukmani alpha and some of the other seniors will have the prophets and they camped outside.

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And Abbe de Mille Jarrah is waiting for them for the Allahu anhu

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Mr. de la nuit turns and Sullivan says help me I'm in kimchi, and I'm Rasulullah and if you hear anything from the prophets, I send them about what we should do in a situation like this. This is the mindset of the believer always ask what would the Prophet do? What did the Prophet say? What did the Prophet habit? Anyone know? I'm not doesn't know about your love and Abdul Rahman even alphazero porcher of this hadith he says yes, and Hadith is in the moment, Buhari. He has Sameera to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a fool I heard the prophets I seldom say that if any of you come to a city where he has Alibaba and it has in it an infectious illness or own fella said hello

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ha don't enter it if you're not in it. Why then don't we have a lot of volume in here and if you're inside don't leave it.

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The first principles of quarantine Salalah hottie so Omar sends a message to our VEDA we are not coming radi Allahu anhu

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our VEDA writes a scathing letter to ameerul momineen

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and writes in it at a few min cadila Yama, Omar, are you trying to escape what Allah has written upon you? Meaning that if Allah has written you come in the city you get sick and die. That's our last caller. Who are you to try to change your father. So remember the Allahu anhu wrote him a response. And I want you to learn this for this Hadeeth for your euro for your life. He said a few rooming cada de la ilaha illa.

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He said I escaped the color of Allah to the color of Allah. Allahu Akbar.

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Every day in your life, you'll have 100 other

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you have 100 choices. It's one quarter the quarter is you're alive. The other is you're in Birmingham. The Quarter is it's in this year in this day, but in that

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Allah has given you the choices to change your color.

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You change it by the choices you make. Allah knows where you would be now if you're not with me

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how to be cliche in Anima Allahu Yana mama can mama Hua and Mama say, Mama Sophia, coo Khun wehmeyer kuno hula, hula Moroccan, Allah knows what was, what is what would be and what could be, even though it will never happen subhanho wa Taala. And therefore you make your list harder, because you can choose your mother, your father, you don't say it's my father to marry this person? Yes, it was your father to choose to marry that person. But Allah had given you other options to choose. Right? It's not all a lump put put me in this situation, that that is a false al Qaeda in believing in Qatar. It's called the lafrieda al al al al Qaeda, and he believes

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that they have a statement for him. It is the mentality of a police. What did the police say?

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He said, You're the one you're a law of whitening. You're the one who let me

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not worship. Not makes you to Adam.

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Yeah, Allah, you're the one who allowed me to do this. Why didn't you stop me? Now? It's the color of the bleed to make that choice. He was mohiniyattam. Yes, sir. given the choice, and therefore in his taharah in making a choice, it is entirely in your choosing. But you're asking a lot to bless what the ramifications for it would be. So therefore when you experience pain of it, sadness from it, hardship from it, you don't say I wish I never did it. Had I not done it? No, you know that Allah has led you down this path, third misconception so that we can end and get ready for Salatu Lucia along with Taco Bell Hamming now,

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finally, as a misconception is can you

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pay someone

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to do salatu salam,

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and Subhana Allah you hear some very strange things. Sometimes you'll get a young man, a young man, he goes, Chef, we asked the pier, or we asked them Alana. We asked the chef to make it for us. And he said it was unclear

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Shama unclear, he was looking in the mirror and it was fuzzy.

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This kind of dead gentlemen, is the judge. It's a form of digital.

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Don't ever believe that anyone? Has that?

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some spiritual connection that there is the harder is better than somebody else's, it's too hard. We said that the drop begins what Allahumma inni. I am asking for this for myself. Right? So don't ever pay anyone for it. immediately know that this is not something that is blessed by Allah immediately know that this is something that is not going to give you any reward and that there is no answer that they can give you that Allah subhanho wa Taala will not guide you on your own towards Salatu this the hora is a decision you make and asking Allah to bless and give you its ramification. akuto holy had a Sofitel La La the Medi welcome festival in Hong Kong for Rahim Allah sallallahu wasallam

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alesi. Dino Habib Mohamed Salah Allahu Allahu Allah, Allah wasafi or Salim Subhana Allah Mohammed dika, Shadow Illa Illa and self are required to Bulik for Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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