Raising Muslims

Yahya Ibrahim

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Bismillah

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body

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moto

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one

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da da

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da da da de

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la

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saucy oh

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one of fathers I

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don't know for me how I gonna

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show

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what

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they're showing

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one in Nalina Castro below

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Buddha

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what it

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is

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got

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a boy

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phone

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the

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follow up on

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long

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shaving

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well gone oh no

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oh no

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Luffy is

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fond

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of her this

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is

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so now

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Debbie

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was gonna come

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in

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just photo

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Allahu Akbar Allah,

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Amana of our children and raising up a generation of Muslims into the future in sha Allah

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Al hamdu Lillahi wa Salatu was Salam ala say you didn't want to Celine. So you do not want to be you

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want to be

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one of the greatest amount that Allah subhanaw taala bestowed upon us is that he invited us to prepare a future generation for carrying forward mankind and humanity in a way that is pleasing to Allah. And I just wish to share with you a few images that myself and a special guest presenter one of our dear colleagues, my Shopbop Dr. Amin, I'm not an expert, academic expert, who will share some thoughts as well.

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I have one job as a man

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I want our dear brothers, our dear husbands, our sons and our fathers, to kind of take heed and to listen to this.

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I may do many things for work.

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But I have one singular job. My one job is to provide everything I can for my wife, to provide everything she can for our children and home.

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And this is Islam.

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My wife also has one job. She may have many things that she does for work, but she has one job one sole purpose, as defined by the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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and her job is to provide Wi

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Fi babies. She has the responsibility, the full authority for everything that is necessary in the marital house that she and her husband provide. So although my wife mashallah, she's an attorney. She's a lawyer, she works for legal aid.

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She stands in court, she speaks to judges, but that's not her job. That's what she does for work. Her job is to be a mother to our children. A wife to me and a daughter to her family, a sister to our community. One whose mission in life is to fulfill that Amana it's a lot of memory but I lead I read with the last verse is absorbed

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that Allah gave us an Amanda and Amanda, its mountains could not withstand it. The Amana is that you and I are who know

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that what I have is not meant to be kept with me alone. But mine success is not how long I've lived, but I want my children after we live. So Ibrahim alayhis salam, he says to his son, it's hard, and it's my

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man.

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Will you worship me? I don't know.

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What.

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It's my

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job

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is hard. Ibrahim asks.

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Your job as a man

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is one. Your job as a woman is one.

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And your work may be many. When we speak about raising Muslims, one of the first most elemental steps is to love our children so completely.

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That when they see that that love has changed,

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when they see disappointment when they see that there is the love that was free, that was given without condition becomes conditional

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that they know even from our silence,

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that there is a point of disappointment. And there is a moment of correction.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Sahaba Oh would say, Can yo Rafi What do you

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when you looked at the Prophet spaceflights LM and he was upset with you, you could see it in his face. He didn't have to say a word. I shot with Yamaha. She says as I sat with a messenger it's like a woman came by with me she cursed me with your words, or your wife. I send them this evil person, an unbeliever team and this this honored me with words in front of them.

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I showed Yamaha she says for another to see watch TV for our Ethernet socket. So I looked into his face and I saw that if I was funding, he wouldn't be upset. So I held myself. I restrained myself I kept quiet.

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For

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the woman left and came back with a bad knee. She did it again even worse. And I looked into my husband's face. He didn't need to say a word he would be upset so I was quiet. And then the third time, never took the wedgie for

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I saw him his face that he three times and

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from Kosovo. So I defended myself faletau

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gave her words that she never did come back. It's important for us that our love is giving and sharing, and held forward with our children, but that we know when to restrict it. Number two,

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one of the great failings that I have

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as a father, and as a husband,

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and even as an educator and as an Imam, is that at times we try to correct the wrong thing in our children. And we miss diagnose the problem. So at times, the problem is an illness of the heart, but we're correcting the body.

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So I regularly will have a father will ring me, who will say share the idea. And of course, as Muslims, when it comes to Islam, we don't have in these kinds of things is a shell, my son has been looking at something around.

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And I said, and

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he said, So I punished him. I took this and I did this and I, I did everything physical.

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And he said, and I don't know. That's it.

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You and I as human beings, our body,

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mind, and soul. And if you try to correct something in my mind, that's actually a problem in my soul in my heart, you fail. If you try to correct me physically, when it's something that is unconvinced, you can do whatever you want to my body, that my mind is made up, you fail. And if you try to discipline my mind and my body and do not correct my soul, you failed.

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Below.

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They could tear every part of his body to make them disbelieve in Allah.

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But he would never leave.

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Allah is one why? Because it is. So

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it's not just his mind, and it's not his body. And when I would say to them, you own my body, but you do not own my soul.

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And when I fail and you fail wherever you and I will fail with our children is that we're speaking to the wrong component of what makes them human.

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If you address the heart, when you should be addressing the body, you fail. And if you address the body, when you are needing to address the mind, you will fail.

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I wish to call forward Dr. Amina. I know I surprised her today.

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And I do request that she shares a few words with you. Dr. Amina Matt did her PhD in education. She used to be a nurse. She did a PhD Specializing in educating young Muslim women in particular, especially those who are vulnerable at the University of Western Australia. She and I and we teach a couple of courses together online. One of them in particular is about young people in puberty, and a new course that we've

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video called sexual ethics in Islam. And it's a 40 part series for young Muslims about pornography and homosexuality and LGBT and all of those things that we struggled to communicate to our children. If I can invite forward Dr. Amin and chama if you can

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score and maybe put this

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up higher

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and maybe talking to this, and I'll switch when you like

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I haven't been in

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an island

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was a lad was

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dedicated parents of college AsSalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

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It is my greatest honor to be given this opportunity to speak to you.

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And I know she has a lot of treasures prepared to share with you. So I won't take up too much of your time.

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And

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the thing I want to talk to you about is actually about time.

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Now we as parents, we all want to give our children our best best of everything.

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I'm sure you have

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realized that certain things are not ours to give, for example, he died

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intelligence, these are not in our hands.

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And perhaps not even money in we haven't been

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given a lot of wealth.

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So what is something that we all have in equal shares that we can choose to give to our children, it is time.

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As you have children, the demands are you will increase. But you must schedule in your day, out of your 24 hours, you must schedule the time to spend with your children, because this is something that no one else on Earth can give on behalf of you to your children.

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This is where support between spouses is extremely important. Because in our modern day law, the demands on us are huge,

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especially financial demands. Living in this

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modern world, a lot of us do need to know out of work, both husband and wife need to go out to work. So we come home, we are tired, and there's so many responsibilities we need to fulfill. So as spouses, you really need to commit yourself to your children. If you can't give time to your children, take turns and make sure you spend your time when you're all together on a regular basis.

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So this is some homework I'm going to give you. So choose to listen up, I'm giving your parents some homework tonight,

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I want to request you to go home and sit with your spouse, and review the amount of time you can give to your children and prioritize your children spending some time with your children. Now, one other point I want to share is that sometimes

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it depends on how you spend your time with your children. So quality time is what's important. You need to make sure that you are not only physically present, you need to be emotionally present as well. So you need to do things with them, play with them, listen to them, and also advise them, leave them a diaper. So these are all the things that you can spend your time on your children. And this is one investment that you will never regret that you have invested. Now, you will see that because I see a lot of parents for so busy, they become disconnected with the children. And it's such a shame when when the children they are at different stages of their minds. They need your

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parents there for them. So be there for your children and also

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turn off to events and things that are important to your children. So this is

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just a few words. So my

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special interest is all developing, developing your well being as parents, because well being is so important in our lives.

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If we develop our children's well being that they are going to learn better, they're going to connect with people better, better able to solve problems and they are able to supply

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your children's well being something you tell them

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thank you for that Dr. Amina

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one of the dissertations and research

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which is

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well being by from an Islamic perspective. She has some hobbies at the back

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of the different groups.

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I just have two more slides to share with you

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Enjoy the company today one of the other combos that I identify myself not just as a parent but also as a husband and a teacher is that I say something

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I don't make any

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and at times what I wanted to say I knew

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there was this one moment I remember

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he's sitting in the back

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and I knew that

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Baba Baba

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Baba

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and

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changing

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and you know that means no

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when when mom says In sha Allah

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I said a lot of moving the wording

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they're not even three years old four years old.

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We

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don't say what we want

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when

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we want the way we want it.

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Communication is not always

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the rule that I try for myself as

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well

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you don't need to be awake

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you know when you say I want you to wake up earlier what I want you to wake up six o'clock I say what

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that is necessary

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you know you visit somebody's

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going to

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walk into the house

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you can ask your children today when you go on VSP for five like

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forget

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what one of my

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children

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two times, two times a year, you will not be

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three times a year you will not be able to play it you know.

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More is not always better. And it's actually a sign

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of not doing what doctor recommended when you don't spend the time to try to buy your way.

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So when there was a request, and unfortunately some of us we weren't even

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able to get everything we need and what

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so what makes it easier.

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The word know

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is a powerful word.

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The word leaving is a powerful idea.

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One of the things that

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as teachers that we struggle with

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is that some teachers will need to raise their voice

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in my home, in your home

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so it could be your son or your daughter.

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Morning

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books

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this young child has been

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programmed

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he's been programmed for one

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rate

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Thank

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you

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my son is having this problem my daughter

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now as a social problem

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because there wasn't a system that allows you to leave

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finally

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in the step two

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and one of the things that I'm saying

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you're not intending

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you're

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beginning to find

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the class

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and then even get

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the shoes that other students were whatever it is that's not going

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to

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get better or

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what

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is

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that

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focus on the result and not the process your children will be like

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somebody who

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will have not gone

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but

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they

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see

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so much more

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than the students have

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in their mind

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I want to buy

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you

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two dating skews in raising.

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Now I'm gonna do a little bit of shameless self promotion.

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My name is

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Dr.

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Dr.

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Gonzalez.

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We

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are operating.

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It's ongoing right now.

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And it's a call. It's a web three. It's a portal that allows you to be

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professional

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that can help us

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that sadly, within our community, there are many people

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one of the

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things that when we go to the

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church, my son that

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Allah said that the Prophet said that

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needs to go beyond some of our

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some of our cognitive problems, some of them

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so some of them they don't know how to some of the surrounding some of the

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cool

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things like so far do things where they have a

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negative boggling and this is not an indictment on this, but this is an epidemic across the western world.

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I want you to open your mind. I want you to develop in shock and awe

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for myself

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alone, but I want

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to be a part of the novel

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My

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sister Menachem, one of the

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she's the one that was reading the Islamic principles of the Bachmann

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which is one of the key concepts of dealing with trauma and cycles and so on. She has

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I prayed

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a lot