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I’m Not Loved In Return For The Love I Give

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Yahya Ibrahim

Channel: Yahya Ibrahim

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Santa Monica momento, la horticultural hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah. We continue with our love notes, q&a.

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The question is, I love a particular person, and it is a pure hope it is a pure and innocent love in that sense. But their love for me is not reciprocated with the same purity. I feel that it is more about desire, and that could lead into sinfulness. What can I do to prevent this? At hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about this is that you know,

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it's not a new problem. And it's not something that's unique to you. So that's important. So the first thing is a loss of Hana to Eilat gives us certain principles in the hold on and these principles in our life are really, really important. It doesn't matter how much you know, it doesn't matter how observant your family is, it doesn't matter what background you are, it doesn't matter what age you are, it doesn't matter even if you're male or female, all of us, we kind of deal with our desires in very different ways. But they should be streamlined in a way that is in conformity to the principles of life that Islam submission to Allah sets. So I repeat, these are really, really

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important principles. The first of them is a loss of Hannah what to Allah tells us to look after ourselves. And to put yourself first and you might say some kind of loss if you hate it, what do you what do you mean? Now put yourself first? Shouldn't we be caring for other people? Yeah, you care for other people, but it cannot come at your detriment at your spiritual detriment. And sometimes we find ourself in a place we don't want to be because we were trying to help someone. And you, you know, I was caring for someone, they were in trouble, she was in trouble. He was in trouble. And I was empathetic to them and I tried to assist them and I would listen to them on the phone and I

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would email them.

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But it led us to a place we don't want to be. So the first thing I say to you is make sure that you ensure your personal safety and your spiritual safety. And the law says yeah, you are loving me know who I am for sakumo alikum Oh, you who believe save yourself, then your family from hellfire. So you got to look after yourself. The second thing that Allah subhanaw taala emphasizes is that he asks of us to be pure. And to be just Kunal POA, Amina de la, hey, Shahada, I will be upright, be bearers of justice, be a person who does not put someone forward just because our heart inclines to them, even though they're doing something wrong, even though they're calling us to something wrong. And

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therefore, if you're texting someone and you don't want someone else to read that message, if you're speaking to someone or meeting them, or calling them and your parents would be upset if they knew if you would have to hide or alter or you know, do kind of CIA, FBI kind of investigative things there to escape being caught speaking with them or being with them, that's a big problem that immediately tells you this is a no go zone.

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The third thing that I say to you, so be just with yourself be just with each other and if someone calls you to something in error, upstate, third thing is Allah. The prophet SAW Selim says Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah mobian, Hillel is easy known. Haram is easily recognizable, you know yourself. I know. And you know, when we've gone in the wrong place, when we've said the wrong thing, when we've done the wrong thing, when we seen the wrong thing, being with the wrong person in the wrong place at the wrong time. So therefore, don't try to alter what you know is the truth what you know, is right and what you know, is wrong, and to subvert it. So don't try to make the illegitimate

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legitimate. Don't try to make the hot arm mcru Don't try to make the Hillel.

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You know, sinful. What is right is right. What is wrong is wrong and your heart will tell you the prophets I send them says that if sinfulness Maha coffee is authentic, it's something you feel in your heart. Oh, that didn't feel good. I don't like this. I don't want people to know this. Well, if you follow lameness, and you're afraid that people will see it, you don't want anyone to know this about you to know what you said or did. So, calf have been FC Katie O'Malley, Cassie, but you are enough of a judge over yourself. So be careful with that. And the reason I'm saying all this is because in that question, it's kind of saying you know, I have a pure love but this other person,

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whether male or female, they're the ones who are changing. No, I'm telling you, you need to take ownership of this. You need to be responsible of yourself. And if someone is headed leading you in the wrong direction, you need to stop, move back or disassociate.

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And you've got to preserve yourself. The last thing that I want to say in this kind of general advice is if your love is pure and if your love is

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True, then it would attract a pure and a true love. And if you are committed to a person in the right way for the right reason with the right framework that leads to the car and the marriage and that is sanctified by Allah and the teachings of our WC bla bla Hollywood, Selim, you will have Baraka in your life. But if you go about it in the wrong way, and you subvert it, and you try to alter it, and you you're not careful with it, then no that allows Baraka, Allah's blessing of it will be removed. And what you will find is that you will feel used and abused and neglected in the end. And this is something that all of us, in some point or another have felt that we haven't done

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the right thing by others, or that others haven't done the right thing by us, all of us is one of those two categories. And both of them are wrong. And therefore the Prophet teaches us

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not to oppress others and not to be allow others to oppress us. And not to be bitten from the same hole twice. You know, if you sit one place, and you there's bugs there, you don't go back the next day and camp there again, you have to have that common sense and that awakening of soul and your heart to lead you to the right place. So the last word of advice that I say is, if a person's care for you is not genuine, and it's not hope, and it's just about lost, and it's just about, then you know what you need to do, you don't need me to tell you, you know, you need to value yourself, value your faith and submit to Allah in the right way. And if it means that you miss out on someone who

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was going to misuse you and abuse you moving forward, then you've only saved yourself that heartache and trouble and whatever was written for you and whoever was written for you. You can't escape them. And if they're the right person, they're the right person. If they're not, they're not and Allah will send you what is right and what is blessed and what is good. And the prophet SAW Selim says and I leave you with this Howdy, mentor, cache and Linda The one who leaves something or someone for Allah. Because of a lot because of what they know is right and what they know what was wrong. So they chose a law rather than they chose them themselves or they desire whatever it is, our the hula

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hydromagnetic Allah will give them in this place better than what they had to give up. And the one who gives a law up to take something then Allah will make that thing, be a punishment for them be something that they don't enjoy something that isn't what they expected and the heartache, follow suit for it. So give something up for a law and know that Allah will give you better than what you have given up. May Allah subhanaw taala attract to us those who are genuine those who are loving for us for the sake of Allah and those who are genuine in their practice and in their and in their faith. Allahumma amin will suddenly Allahumma salli wa barik Allah say you do not want to be Vina or

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habibollah whenever you know Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa Salaam Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh