Wasim Kempson – Social Media – The Harms and Benefits

Wasim Kempson
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The speakers emphasize the importance of social media and its potential harm, including cutting garments and causing harm to individuals. They stress the need for individuals to read and use information to avoid false accusations and find a partner to make a positive impact. The danger of false advertising and false information on social media is discussed, and parents should be cautious with their use of WhatsApp and not share personal information until it is too late. The speakers also advise parents to be careful with their use of WhatsApp and not to share information until it is too late.
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Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Al Hamdulillah Hamden cathedral even Malala confy are salat wa salam ala FH Mursaleen. While early he was already here Jemaine salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. My dear brothers and sisters,

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I ask Allah subhanaw taala that He has mercy upon us all, and that He guides us all to the straight path Allahumma Amin

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is, for me personally always an honor. And I'm always happy to come to greenline Masjid.

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It is a masjid which I have known for many years. And then hamdulillah the brothers or whoever has

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some form of participation in the masjid. Always make sure mashallah Tabata colada things are done beautifully, and to a very high standard. So I ask Allah subhanaw taala to bless all those brothers or if there's any sisters as well, for any work that they may do to ensure that this Masha Allah bless it, Masjid

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achieves all of its aims. And they also ask Allah Subhana Allah to order, every single one of you for attending this evening, I hope that as power to Allah allows us to, to benefit from whatever is said anything that is said, which is correct is from the Tofik of Allah subhanaw taala. And any shortcomings or mistakes that I may make is for my own weaknesses and shortcomings.

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Now, as I'm aware of I've been loosely following over the past few weeks, that

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the lectures that have been happening on a Saturday night have been tackling very important topics, especially because it is dealing with topics, which are extremely important to the society that we are living in. Now, society itself will shape an individual that will shape you,

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for example, and you can probably attest to this, that if you're from a particular background, what I mean is that your soul, your original background, is, let's say from Pakistan, or it is from Somalia, and you've been living here for quite a few years.

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It is quite likely that the Pakistani in the UK, differs from the Pakistani from Pakistan,

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in the way that they understand the world,

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and the way that they present themselves, the level of education, possibly, likewise, those who have families back in Somalia, for example, not just us to consider any Muslim country or any place for that matter, you will find that those two people who have very similar backgrounds from where their origin is yet however, the environment where that they've been brought up in is extremely different.

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And it is a fact, it is a fact that the environment that you do live in, will have an impact on you.

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Now how much that will have an impact on you.

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This, there was a lot of factors. Now I'm a sociologist, it's not my speciality in dealing with these things, I'm sure that many studies have been done on such things. But there are certain things which you know, you can think you know, use your common sense. Like the person's own personalities or strong personality, is it not such a strong personality quite afford person? Are they an introvert, okay, an extrovert, different types of people that the society will differ that, you know, affect them in different ways.

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Now, especially now, in the time that we are living 2014 Things are moving extremely quickly.

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What I mean by that, specifically, is that what we are exposed to, that we can see that what we can hear it is very different from let's say, for example, 15 years ago,

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and I can and I'm sure that many of us who are able to remember that far back and even further

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the things are changing very rapidly very fast.

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Now, based upon these very fast changes, and

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we can say that a person may be affected that much quicker.

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Whereas information may be at one time it was it took a while to reach people how to influence people, once upon a time was just radio.

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How would you influence the minds of people to convey information was by radio once upon a time, then that extended to television, then extended to if you'd like, you know 2030 years ago to the modern day computer 20 years ago than the internet, you could reach much more, you know millions of people at the touch of a button.

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So things are changing very very quickly and as a Muslim, as I believe in Allah subhanaw taala I

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And I'll be loving to be sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we have to be very careful with the very careful that we are not affected in a negative way.

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Because as things are changing very quickly, I myself may change very quickly, and I may not know about it, I may not take hold of myself, until the single most important thing that I have,

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which is my dean, I may lose. So, it is very important to be aware of your surroundings, to be aware of that what you may face from one day to the next.

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Now, specifically, we're going to

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talk about social media, which is relatively a new phenomenon. It's something new. And for many of us, we're still adjusting to it. We are still adjusting. It is a new thing for us. Yes. Okay. Facebook, you know, it's been for 10 years, Twitter a little bit less than that.

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But we are still adjusting to that. And I what I mean by that the something that's been going on for 10 years, something has been going on for a few years, it is sometimes difficult for us to make a conclusion the effects of that particular product or whatever it is on society, not unless you have an extended amount of time to see how this affects people.

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Sometimes them something is new, we don't know the real impact of it, only if you see something two studies done on it and we can look at it closely we can say yeah, this is beneficial or this is harmful.

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Now, social media in itself

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is a tool. It is a whistle, it is a means it is a means of exchanging information.

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Now, the deen of Allah subhanaw taala.

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In the if you look at the main or major principles that that we can extract from the Quran and the Sunnah, it always is about bringing benefit, bringing benefit and repelling harm.

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Okay, alcohol for example, it is about bringing benefit to us and repelling any harm, alcohol is harmful to us. So, therefore, we stay away from it. So, any command that you find that our jello Allah has commanded us with that there was a greater benefit in that maybe there was some difficulty. However, there is a greater benefit in this dunya and an era and anything which is harmful to us, it means that even though the person may extract or extract some benefit from that, there is overall or a majority

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harm in that matter.

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So, social media will see lead as a means, as a means of exchanging information simply as that simple as that is exchanging information.

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A knife is a tool which is used to cut food,

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it is to cut garments from materials, a knife can be very beneficial and can help us in so many ways. And on the other hand, a knife can be something which is very dangerous, it can be used as a weapon it can be used to take the life of a person,

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but it is a means so you have to go back to the one who is holding that knife.

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A child for example has to be warned not to touch knives because they can cut themselves, they may harm another person. Guns for example, they are a means there may be a beneficial means in defending oneself or hunting that serves a good purpose for that has beneficial purpose. But it also has great danger that it can take the life of a person this all means.

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So we have to look at the individual. Are they capable? Do they have the mental capacity to understand and use that means correctly?

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Now when you look at social media, of course there are no

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you don't need to state permission.

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To use Facebook, like you need a gun. You need to get permission for that you need a license you don't need a license to enter into social media. However, the dangers of social media may be far greater than that of a gun or a knife. Because it could lead to what

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over a short or an extent extended amount of time it could lead to that person having doubts about their Deen because of the information that they have been exposed to.

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They could be involved in matters which would involve them speaking on behalf of Allah Jalla Allah and His Nabhi Elisa, Saddam and making up false information.

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So it is very important for the Muslim, both male and female to read

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realize

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what they are dealing with.

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And W sal Allahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam.

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He told us at Dell or Anil Heidi cafe, that the one who shows good, you show somebody good and then that person does good that you will have the reward of that person when they do that good because you taught them.

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So the greater the greater the reward that would involve in having children, for example, you teaching them to pray, teaching them to say subhanallah 100. Every time that they say that, you as a parent, you would receive reward as well for that.

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Likewise, if a person is to teach something, which is wrong, or form of disobedience to Allah, subhanaw taala, then that person who commits that wrong because of you will carry that responsibility you carry that swim that sin, and as long as they carry it and do that, you will have responsibility for that as well.

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Now imagine once upon a time, let's say, for example, that you're sitting with somebody and you say the information, whatever it was, do this action, and it's wrong.

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And that that person goes ahead and they continue to do that. It's just one person.

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Now imagine that on a mass scale.

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For example, Facebook,

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that you say something, you advise somebody, not only within Twitter, you advise somebody to do something about with something regarding the deen of Allah azza wa jal and involves disobedience involves for false information, not to be verified, not only maybe one person or two or three, but that gets spread amongst whatever friends that you have, then that gets shared to another person, it gets a number of likes, and it gets shared and it gets so on and multiplied and multiplied and multiplied.

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When you look at it this way, when you look at it this way,

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that

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here you have a means of propagating information to possibly hundreds, if not 1000s, of Allahu Alem, whoever they are, could be millions of people. At the click of a button, they could be making on the one hand, of course, they may be receiving from Allah subhanaw taala. Many Hasina too many rewards. And on the other hand, they may receive how many sins for that

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service before that person presses enter, they should verify Be careful of that, what they are sharing what that they are, from their own work, putting on their pages.

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Because it's not, you know, sufficient to say that, I'll just press Share. Minaya wasn't the one who instigated that particular message I just shared and passed it on. You're one of those people in the links, you're supposed to verify information. How many a hadith if we can call them a hadith? How many statements you found or that you do find that this is what the Prophet Muhammad Ali, he said to Salaam? He said,

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There's no source? Is that the correct translation? It's like, where did this come from? But how many people that then they pass that on.

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So to

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just because the point I want to make here is that social media is a means. And this means this will sealer has the ability to cause great benefit to a person and great harm.

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For Muslim that is. Now I certainly believe myself, that further studies,

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further research really needs to be invested or to look into, you know, this phenomena of social media, what is the real effects on on the Shabaab on the youth, because it may be the fact that it is the youth who are utilizing this type of

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spreading information as opposed to maybe those who are older in age.

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So it is another yet another test, another trial, another tribulation, that are youngsters that they have to handle.

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Something that many of us certainly myself, I didn't have that this didn't exist when I was younger.

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There were other trials, but you can see the severity of these trials that they are increasing

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the likelihood or the dangers of a person being affected in their Deen are far greater now, as time goes through, away from Adam Naboo from the time of the Prophet Elissa and the further you go away from that, you can see the increase of trials. You can see the increase of dangerous regarding one's Dean.

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For many of us, it may not be very

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be important.

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It is okay for my son or my daughter, to have a page.

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But bear in mind, how many people and is the reality? My dear brothers and sisters, it is a reality that people who use these are this social media,

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which is I think Subhanallah

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a manifestation is it is a clear proof when Allah subhanaw taala tells us that this life is a deception, this dunya is a fraud is a form of deception. The person has a 1000s of friends, but really, you don't know who they are.

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This Facebook or the social media, I don't want to keep saying this particular Facebook because it does have benefits, it can benefit.

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But I when we look at the benefit and the harm, you really have to think as a father, as a person as a guardian a person responsible for any youth is this something which is of benefit to us as an ummah.

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Maybe for some, it is better that they stay away from it, because they cannot control themselves. They make up fake names, false names, they instilled themselves as public figures, they give themselves titles.

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And then they have 1000s upon 1000s of, of likes, like friends.

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And they become within their own selves.

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They have this Hulu, they have this deception within themselves that they have become something

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and that the shape one can quite easily, you know, with the ego, become very boastful and become very arrogant.

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That dangers of such a means cannot be underestimated. My dear brothers and sisters, how many incidents that I have heard and come across?

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Even yourselves?

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Let's take something which is common to us all. When we're growing up, we're finishing university looking for a job. And then we look to get married.

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Now the like old fashioned way, maybe it's dying out that you're unable to ask maybe your family members, because it's a long process. And I need to get to know them. That person, you know, prospective husband or wife, I need to get know who them to get to know who they are. And if I go through the traditional way, then really I don't know who I'm marrying. So let me take the social media way.

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Okay.

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I'll do you know,

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the halal way

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they because they've been deceived, to think just Halal to

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trick and deceive other people and have conversations

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with the other gender.

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And then how many internet marriages that you hear about? I've heard of so many internet marriages, you ask how did you meet? Well, we met through the internet. How did you meet through the internet because

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usually a way down the line they've got problems.

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If something doesn't begin correctly,

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if something doesn't start, according to the way that Allah Allahu Allah and His messenger Allah is advised us to more often than not, it takes a wrong path. It usually has a bad outcome.

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So there's a great danger in that you believe that you can hide behind the screen.

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You can hide behind your keyboard and type and pass on and even slander.

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So the shaper on will come within that person and ask you to tell him or tell her to try and find a wife or find a husband in a way that Allah azza wa jal is not pleased with.

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But you have nothing to lose. Because you have a fake name. You have fake information about yourself.

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Maybe a year from biller that the male opens up an account and says that their name is Fatima Fatima they pretend to be a woman.

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How many times have you heard this?

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Maybe you haven't heard of it, but the reality is let SF unfortunately, a person will pose as a woman or a woman will pose as a man because I really want to get to know that brother. I really want to get to know that sister. Now I don't want them to know or get to know them from through like a brother sister kind of relationship because they will behave in a particular way allow me to deceive them. If I can speak to them as though my girl maybe she I will get to know the real her. Or if I can you know the sister says I'll pretend to be a man over through the through social media may be able to get to know really what his like through deception

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This is the danger that the person exposes themself

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as exposing themselves to when using such means.

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Now,

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every single one of you has to question and ask themselves is this means what is in front of me? Is this of a greater or a greater benefit to me? Or a greater harm?

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And how much time?

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Am I using this? Because you ask yourself, well, how do I know if it's beneficial for me? How do I know if it's harmful? Maybe there's something on the social media, which I didn't ask to see. It's not good. I wish I didn't see it. I didn't ask for it. But the vast majority of what I have, what appears on my page is of benefit. How am I supposed to judge? What is good for me? And what's bad for me? What's harmful to me?

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I believe you should look through a number of things to make this judgment on yourself whether you should be using this or not.

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First and foremost, look at the amount of time that you spend, when using this, or whatever form of social media that you are using, how much per day?

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And in any one day, how many times do you go to that particular page? How many times do you do it? If for example, you find that within the day that you have gone to that particular social media means that you're using and you go to more than 20 times, Count yourself if it's possible, more than 20 times, each time that you have looked at it? How many times did you actually benefit from it? Because maybe you benefited once. And you discarded all other 19 times which were a complete waste of time

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that you opened up the page, and somebody has typed I just woke up from sleep and had breakfast.

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Or I'm on my way to university, and I missed the bus

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is informed information, which is completely useless to me. No benefit, I wasted my time to open my phone and the phones panela makes it so easy for you to use these things.

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When you're in the masjid, you're waiting for Salah, just flick it open, see what's going on, see where people are, see what they're doing.

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Or at the dinner table and eating and you get it out and you've look at it's like an addiction, it becomes an addiction.

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If you get cut off from the internet just for two or three days,

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that was the last time that happened to you. How do you feel?

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How have you felt if you didn't have a connection with the Internet? You feel as though you had been starved.

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You feel as though you've been starved of information. Now that information was beneficial to you or not?

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Really, you know, most of us don't really think about the quality of information that comes our way.

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But what I really want to now focus on

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is the preservation of our youth.

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The preservation of Anna handler can see many young Shabaab that are sitting in this gathering.

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They don't know life before Facebook, they don't know life before Twitter, they don't know life without internet.

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They just know a life that well. This is just normal. This just exists, like cars exist on like aeroplanes. That's all they know.

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Now

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what are the potential dangers that may affect young Shabaab?

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I'm sure that the previous few weeks that you have gone through a number of important topics, all of these things that they can be all go back to this one source and all be found on this one source. And that is social media and their different forms.

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Whether it is seeing things that you shouldn't see * and things like that, that can all be accessed and seen through the social media.

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Now how do we protect our youth,

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you as a parent as a guardian as an advisor, and our dean is a dean of a Naziha of sincere advice. If you believe that a person may feel or may be affected by such thing you should be honest and clear with them that you using that is of great danger for you.

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Explain to your sons explain to your daughters that these things social media

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can potentially be of great harm. Because even though they will say

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but

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I make sure that my things are clean, and I don't look at bad things. The point is that these social media, it is not about that what you put on it, it is about what you expose yourself to in that what people will give to you without you even asking for it.

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Now, the Sharia

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is best, as I mentioned earlier, about repelling harm.

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And even though you may be within, you can control certain things.

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For example.

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There is an opinion that says that women, they shouldn't visit the graveyard. Okay, for example, there's other opinions to say that they shouldn't frequently go to the graveyard, we're not going to get into issues whether what is the strongest opinion, this is not the platform for that. But the point is, let's take the position that

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or explain the position that it is not allowed for a woman to visit the graveyard.

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Now, the woman would say, but I can control myself, because some of the evidence, the logical answers that the element that they give for that is that when a woman because of the nature, while he says Acura can infer and that the male is not like the female,

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that when the female, they go to the graveyard, emotionally, they are generally more affected than a man.

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And their response and their actions may then have an effect on other people, which then

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goes against certain principles about protecting and covering the woman. So her going to the graveyard. And maybe her you know, becoming upset and crying and things like that. But it's, it's fairly controlled. But the point is that the man seeing another woman in that state, okay, maybe cause a fitna for him as a test to see he doesn't want to see this. It's sad for him if it may affect him.

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So even though she says to herself,

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I can control myself, I am in charge, what is going on, she doesn't have control how the other people will be affected.

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Okay, that's just an example. The point is what that sometimes you within yourself, yes, you may be in control of things, but what you do not control is how other people are affected by what is happening with yourself.

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The same principle is affected is can be implemented here with the social medias, that you yourself, yes, you may be able to control good reminders,

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you know, cutting and pasting a translation of the meanings of certain ideas from the Quran completely authentic, good benefit, and you give it to the people, then you may have the response from other people, response from other people, which could involve very dangerous things, harmful things. So you personally have to look at is this something which I want to get involved in and allow my youth to be involved in,

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because it's not necessarily something they have full control over.

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And this is one of the dangers of social media, in that you do not have full control of what is happening in that what you are involved in. This is key. Because you may get involved in in something you have full control from the beginning to the end, what you're going to expose yourself to what you're going to do what you're not going to do. However, social media, and the nature of it is that vast, the vast majority of the information that you see in Come, come go through, you have no control over it at all.

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So how is it that we are going to then now, nurture our children, protect our children in a way that when they become adults,

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and that they begin making decisions for themselves doing things for themselves making decisions for themselves, that they are then capable.

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They are then capable of becoming people who will return to Allah subhanaw taala and see Islam as the single most important thing that they need to adhere to in their lives,

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called Local Murrah or cool local, mosque, all an array that all of you are responsible.

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All of you are like shepherds and all of you are responsible and will be questioned about the responsibilities that were given to you. So every father and every mother should be fully aware of what their sons and daughters are getting involved in, specifically regarding social media.

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Now

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it takes different forms. It is not just Facebook, it is not just Twitter. It comes in

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forms, for example, WhatsApp, this is another means of sharing information making groups on a different platform different format, but still the same dangers can happen.

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Even

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what is it called?

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Penguin Club

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Penguin club or

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penguin club,

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Club Penguin, Club Penguin.

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Very innocent looking game, however,

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that the young child and is aimed at us research misses aimed between children between six and 14

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that the child will

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show so much research done informally, anyhow, that the child will choose a particular penguin designer, and that they will go to different lands and different places, and that they can meet different people.

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They can engage with different people behind the face of a penguin. Now, who is this penguin? Can you guarantee that that that penguin is not hand Penguin, of course, but that person is between six and 14 years old? No, you cannot. You cannot because you can have conversations I'm sure they there are privacy or security levels. I'm not saying it's you know something from shape on and you just stay away from him. I mean, it may be fun,

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however, that there are certain protocols that you can put in place to ensure that your child is protected. Even yourself, I'm sure you don't play bringing those who are over 14. But there are certain security things that you can

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put in place to ensure that it doesn't cause any harm to you. Or your or your son I should say and or your daughter.

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When you get past that age.

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And then you become a teenager, you can legally or officially open the Facebook page. Because 13 is officially the limit that you can start opening a page. You've moved from Club Penguin and you're going to Facebook,

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the privacy settings How does it work? People share things with you and why people sharing this with me.

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The things that they give to you didn't ask for this. things appear in the deen which are not from the deen at all.

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Now, I've been a Muslim for about 20 years.

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For the first, let's say 15 years of my life, even more than actually, I never ever heard the word Joomla Mubarak. I never it's just an A personal example. I never heard this in my life. Joomla Mubaraka I never heard it in my life.

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It is now you find it people are send you Joomla Mubaraka Joomla Amapola code. Where did this go? Now there's a big discussion. Is it allowed for you to say Joomla and Mubaraka?

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Is it better? Is it not better? Is it like just like you saying Eid Mubarak or not?

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Another discussion?

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Another controversy. Another matter which busies the Muslims?

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And in the end,

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what is the Femara? What is the what is the fruit?

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Or the you're going to continue doing it St Germain Mubarak even though you don't want it, people still keep sending it to you.

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And then you'll keep advising people. Please don't send it to me.

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It's an innovation into the deen and we get busy with all of these debates.

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I certainly believe that. And Eliza Eliza knows best and this is a personal opinion

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that

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quite possibly, Allahu Allah,

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that social media

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or maybe I need to

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reevaluate my own Facebook page,

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that maybe that there is maybe more, not necessarily harm.

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But maybe there's potentially more of non benefit in this than there is benefit.

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I don't necessarily want to say it's harm.

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But something which is a completely no benefit to you. You don't get anything from it's just a waste of time. The vast majority of that what you read, or that will you come across

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I believe is a personal maybe there's just the circle of what I'm exposed to. I'm not saying this is necessarily the case with everybody. I do think that the vast majority of that what is available

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When I come across is a waste of time

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it's a complete waste of time and serves very little, or have no benefit, no benefit. There is of course, the other side of that, that you can cause and have a great positive a big positive on millions of people 1000s of people

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by just remain reminding them of Allah subhanaw taala I don't want to condemn the whole thing.

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But the maybe if a person is able to if they see it maybe once a day or twice a day, they're not reading through or sifting through, you know, 10s or hundreds of messages, it's a waste of time.

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So look at yourself, how you interact with such means of

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such you know, spreading information.

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You are asking Allah subhanaw taala to protect you from harm.

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And you're asking Allah subhanaw taala to give you beneficial knowledge, and who Salam used to ask Allah azza wa jal along in earnest, Erica Elman. In fact, who Allah we ask you or beneficial knowledge, we seek refuge from element layin from, from knowledge that does not benefit.

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So if it is possible over the next day, or two or week or whatever, whenever you have time, if you're involved in such social media,

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if they're in you're involved in such social media, then evaluate the usage, your own usage, and what you come across.

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It may be that you need to refine

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you need to refine your usage of it, refine maybe the people that you have links with

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because maybe they're posting things and you're facilitating them posting nonsense. You know, knock them off, unfriend them,

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or whatever it is.

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But really evaluate your interaction with social media.

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Because it may be the case that Satan has deceived you and maybe many of us into believing that this is of great benefit.

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I ask Allah subhanaw taala because I would like to have whatever time is remaining, maybe to ask some questions and some discussion and we'll combine it for from each other. Inshallah Tada. So I'll stop here inshallah Tada and I would, I would like very much, maybe to see what thoughts or maybe even comments, try to leave it as a comment.

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If you have any intentions of giving notice maybe you could make a request to the masjid.

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Zachman offered was Allah Allah wa Salaam Baalak and Unamuno Hamid Ali also be admitted

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Isabella

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Don't feel shy. Maybe the first person will

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I'm sure will trigger off

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yes.

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Thanks, Angela.

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What will be spread?

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Like normalize?

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Yeah, I mean, brothers asking Is Allah here? Is it one of the signs or the minus signs of PM, that the spreading of liars will

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spread quickly? I must have Allahu Allah. I don't know if it's one of the signs that lies spreading quickly. But you know, no doubt the increase of lying and deception and piano. This of course, in general will be you know, one of the signs in general Yes. Of the signs of key minus signs. And alas, Panto, dismissals and no doubt using these social medias is a way of spreading lies very quickly

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no

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the brother is asking what is the best way to respond to

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you know, false information innovations in whatever form they may come in. The person personally believes that they you know, do mom or dad is a Buddha is not something that the Prophet Elise was her mother companions used to do, and how would you advise such people?

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Now, whenever you advise anyone, and you should advise them in a wise way wise with wisdom but Hikmah

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Allah subhanaw taala he says, will sap Rebecca will Hekmati? Well, Mo Everton Hasina wotja Dylan whom bility here son that every single one of us we will call to the path of Allah subhanaw taala when we call to the path of Allah

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We will do it in one of three ways. Allah subhanaw taala begins by saying call to the path of Allah subhanaw taala. Bill hikma

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hikma here, in other verses can be interpreted as using the Quran and the Sunnah.

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And also in a more literal meaning with wisdom in a wise way

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we're more evident Hasina and also with the fine admonition if they are rejecting what you're saying, I from the Quran and Sunnah i or statements of Sahaba or the line, or we don't accept this, then you might need to be a little bit firmer. But do it in a nice way. Mo Ableton has an A fine admonition. If they continue, what John Dylan the debate with them in a good way. Now it depends maybe you don't know who you are debating with. And sometimes debating on an open platform can cause more fitna then you just leaving that person to do what they're doing.

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It is not turning your face away from deviation No. But you sometimes on an open platform, let's talk about whether we should be doing this or not. And everybody is listening. And somehow Subhanallah that a person is very eloquent, or that person brings things which may convince people

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that in the first place weren't convinced. So it's possible to pull that person to one side, take them away from all the people to control that fitna that deviation and advise them in that way then that would be a more proper way

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and ask Allah subhanaw taala that you know,

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he protects you and protects others I think always that when dealing with such troublemakers or aspects of deviation, it is always very important that for the sake of preserving the dean that you always keep the moral high ground that you do not fall into the way that they may disrespect and devalue because they have no value for the deen

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or very little value for implementing the deen. So always, always, always remain in a way which is as close as possible to the Quran and Sunnah when advising people will have to Allah Allah

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good is asking very good question, mashallah, why is it bad to pass on personal information?

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You're right, in that.

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I don't want to go into conspiracy theories.

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However,

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whatever information you put out there, it sometimes sticks and you can't get rid of it. And sometimes it's sensitive information. Okay. So, I would advise and Alana is best that, you know, information that, you know, people don't need to know anything. You don't need to tell people about it. Okay, if you're going to use whatever social media that is there, then use it because to the extent that

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you don't start disclosing things, which then may later in the future, it may cause you any harm or others harm.

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Good question. Mashallah.

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I consider

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Yes, a yes.

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What do I think of Molad?

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Yeah, we're on social media.

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In general, by

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I've

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exposed myself as one does to social media. I didn't put any privacy settings on

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making it clear to the type of question that should be asked really.

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If we can get the questions as I say, limit vertical effect to our topic,

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then it will be

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easier for us to remember the information that has been discussed here. However, since it has been awesome avoiding the question. I'm avoiding an answer. No, don't apologize. You're Dogpatch about this, okay.

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And moly, then maybe.

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Before answering that directly, we have to look at what number of things it can be answered in, I guess a number of ways.

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Is it something that the Prophet Elise did? No, it is not. It is something that the Sahaba or the Allah and who did know? What about the generation that

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After that, no. Okay generation after that.

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No. Okay. What about the generation after that? No. Oh, so where did it come from? Fifth Century, roughly a fifth century of the Hijra. It is stated and alone is best that the fault immune under the Shia in Egypt, I one of the first people to bring about Modi than maybe. Now the fact that that somebody would not celebrate the birthday of Rasul Allah Elisa to Salem does not mean at all that it is a form of disrespect. Would we say that Abu Bakr Radi Allahu disrespected and the VLA, Switzerland because he didn't celebrate the birthday. Color, no way.

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So how we show our love, how we show our adoration for the most beloved person, a person whom Ellie Elisa Salam will have more than our mother, more than our father more than our children. Okay, this is part of our Eman we do not deny the fact that I did wouldn't celebrate the mole it doesn't mean that I am disrespecting and to be la Setosa not at all. So I follow his sunnah and the best way that I can him and I love him by knowing him by studying his Sierra the greatest messenger that was ever sent to mankind

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any other questions? Witness? Yes.

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If you get one

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Hadid

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Hadith Yes.

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Good question.

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The brothers young brothers things a lot here that if I receive Hadith via WhatsApp, for example, how do I verify if that hadith is authentic?

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Yeah. Okay. If Well, first of all, I would look at whom I'm receiving the Hadith from.

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Okay, this is what the

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early generations that what they would do, they would look at the person who that they are receiving information from. It's very important. Otherwise, we caught we cast doubt on every single person, we don't do that. There's no need for us to cast doubt on every single person that we come across. This is not correct. Because the author is what if a Muslim I meet a Muslim, he's my brother and I believe him to be truthful. Because his origin is that he believes in Allah and His messenger Allah, so Salam, so this is a good start for me.

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So the person whom that I received that information from if I know him to be a trustworthy person, that they're not the kind of person who just passes on false information. Okay. Maybe the referee would reference the Hadith, then maybe you want to pass that on. If there was a doubt and you're not sure yourself, as Allah subhanaw taala says, First Allah, Allah decree in contaminated.

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Ask the people of knowledge, if you don't know that the people of knowledge are those whom are well known to be trusted. And there are means if you can't reach a person, maybe you could ask your father or you could ask somebody trustworthy to find out the authenticity of that narration. Okay, but it's important if you have a doubt, not just this, but something.

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May Allah bless you, and bless us all.

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Yes, brother.

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Very good question. How would you advise the youth to minimize the usage of social media?

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Now,

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the Shabaab technically you're sharp until 39.

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When you become 40, you no longer shop.

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So

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maybe we're talking about you know, those youngsters, teenagers specifically. So

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I think the role of parents is extremely important in teaching them and educating them how to use and how to interact with things that they come across a daily.

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If you purchase, for example, a parent, they purchase a phone, which enables their child to use social media, whenever they like, in secrecy, then that's dangerous. There's a risk to that

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as a potential risk there.

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Now, you may limit that by doing what parent has to be kind of smart here. The parent may get them a social media or phone which you know has capabilities of using social media. Okay? However, they'll get them a chip, or some form of contract which only allows them to do calls doesn't have internet.

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They can only use the internet when

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to come home.

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So there is little things you can do to try and monitor,

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monitor and help your children in the use of of internet. Okay.

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So, you know, I think it's something as I mentioned to you earlier, that you know, needs, you know, further investigation and research from all of us to ensure that, you know, we protect ourselves from, you know, potentially harmful things. Because at the end of the greatest danger to any one person is that the person is affected in their deem that they lose their Deen. That's the single most important

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thing that we have is our deen. You know, Allah Subhana Allah revealed revelation to us.

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And the single most important thing that everything is geared towards is preserving the deen

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as supersedes everything. It supersedes the preservation of wealth supersedes that preserving one's deen is extremely important. So you know your child West, your son or daughter, speak to them, educate them. Don't just be black and white note you can't do it. Why no use Khan. And as a new claim, he says coulomb no one more joven fie. Everything that has been made, you know you should stay away from it. Then there's a does a desire for that.

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An example of Adam Alayhis Salam is in the Jana everything was made halal for him. And he said him and his wife her work.

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But Allah subhanaw taala said learn Colaba, the shadow stay away from this one tree.

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However, Allah's pantalla

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our brother should say IBLEES Allahu Allah, not Allah deceived. Deceived Adam Alayhis Salam, and then of course, you know the rest of the story that you know. So you know, be clever. Be aware of what your children may be exposed to? Or

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maybe five minutes left

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is okay to WhatsApp?

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Why is it bad?

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You want it? Can you have whatsapp on your phone?

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No, it's not necessarily bad. It's not necessarily bad. WhatsApp can be good.

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Because maybe

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when you will, maybe things change in 10 years time. But let's just say you know, people are still using WhatsApp. Okay, maybe you're late coming home. And your father can use whatsapp to tell you come home. So it can have benefit.

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Isn't it right?

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So it has benefits? Now there's no bad

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Yes.

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Threats?

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How do you react to threats on social media? And this is a reality is an extremely important question. Mashallah. They call it cyber bullying, cyber bullying.

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This is when the person who never doesn't need explaining to and I'm sure you understand what it is, how do you react towards it? Well, it depends really on the threat.

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How that person or the individual is being affected, and how they're being spoken to. Or I would advise, of course, immediately, if you have any one person feels threatened, no period, no person should feel threatened, you should feel secure, you should feel protected, that if you feel that you're being threatened by anybody, by anything, then you should tell your parents immediately

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and do not allow

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this kind of behavior is not acceptable.

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And don't ever think that whatever they say to you that if you tell anybody I'm going to do this, I'm going to do that. Remember that Allah subhanaw taala is with you, that Allah subhanaw taala will protect you and will never allow anything to happen to you, except by Alice pantallas permission. And remember that this advice is well known Hadith, the hadith of Ibn Abbas Rhodiola and Hamas have you thrown this in under 10 with you the Prophet alayhi salam spoke to even Abbas Abbas Rajaratnam was a young child, young chap 1011 years old. And in that hadith, he said to him, Abbas the Prophet Alexandria is that remember a lot and he will remember you and towards the end of the Hadith of the

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Prophet Ellison's remember that if the whole of mankind jinn or in zoom, Jin zoom in zoom in Janome all mankind and all Jinda came together to harm you. Never would they be able to harm you except by that what Allah azza wa jal had, decreed. And likewise, they all came together to benefit you with something never would they be able to do.

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You can go brothers okay if you need to go you can go no problem

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mashallah if they need to Bennett is on level they will be able to benefit you except by that what Allah Subhana Allah has decreed for you

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okay, may Allah reward your brothers sisters if there's any sisters here for your time I ask Allah subhanaw taala to protect us all from anything that may cause harm to us in this life and the hereafter. I asked Allah subhanaw taala that we are joined in a gathering in a far greater place with greater blessings and Jana to name Giselle C'mon O'Hara was at Aloha Saddam robotic and in Abuja Mohamed Anwar early he was a huge miner so I'm like what I'm talking about

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long, long,

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long voyage

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had one

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in law

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