Excellence and Flaws Series 14

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La La salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He was so happy woman What about

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the beginning just apologize for being late.

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Today's Hadith headed by her or the Allahu

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Allah Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam call uttered Runa mareeba call Allahu wa rasuluh Arnhem. Cala de cuca. Huckabee MACRA Clara for our Ada in canopy FEMA Abood, calling canopy Hema de PUE tiptoe, or illumio confy kapa.

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haka who Muslim Abu huraira the line generated the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam asked,

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Do you know what is Heba? backbiting is that applied Allah and His Messenger sallallahu Sallam known best?

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He said, it is saying something about your brother, which is he dislikes

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can also translate it to say something bad about your brother.

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Someone asked, supposing that what I said about my brother was true.

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And the Messenger of Allah Subhana Allah said,

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If what you say about him or her is true, you have back bitten him. And if it is not true, you have slandered him. reported by the Muslim Rahim Allah. This head is also uncertain I'd be there would and they tell me the and I met with Muslims a very famous, well known Hadith

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in the base of Salaam, here when he said at the dawn, do you know

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this question, we call it an Arabic is stiff ham, like sorbet tolerable? It's not intended that for any one he asked not because he was looking for an answer. To be educated or to know it's not like it's asking for information. No, that's a way of talking to get people's attention. It's a monopoly tissue.

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So in the case of Solomon, he asked him, he's not he's, uh, he knows what's the answer is, but he asked them to get their attention. So they saw thinking, they said, Allahu, Allahu Allah, Allah and His Messenger knows best. Or then they know, they know best.

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is not because they don't know what is the LIBOR, the new words LIBOR, but that's one of the etiquettes of the Sahaba and Adam and the respect that they have for the Prophet sallallahu Sallam when he asked him something, the weight so they can get the knowledge from the processor. And here's something pay attention to it. Let's say if the prophets Allah solemn,

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asked him something, then they answer. Yeah, Reba is to say this.

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That's fine. That's right.

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That's one scenario. That's right. The other scenario, they said, Allah and His Messenger knows best tell us yaroslava one of the habits of the prophets of Salaam, that when he says something about any subject, he will say it in a very eloquent way, number one, number two, he might add some useful information

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or see it in a way that it is very rich in its meaning, versus them just sustaining it and he said, That's okay.

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Actually, you wait until we hear from the process of them you will have more and more knowledge coming from him. Salatu was Salam

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al Riba which is backbiting it's interesting even in English backbiting and EU by this person behind his talk about about him behind his back, it's back biting. And then Riba has similar concept. Even in English, we don't have words driven from meaning usually, or that's not how it works. But in Arabic, that's how it works. When you make a word, you go to the roots of it, and you'll find that root is connected to what this word means. So here we say like in sand, why he was called in sand color boys, there is a meaning there's a connection between the world and the heart, and the actions of the heart and so forth. So Allah Reba it means a shame to leave something hidden, or something

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not present. So I leave is to talk about someone who's not present who's not in front of you was absent.

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Here the key point, the because the translation depends on

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This coming word, and that's why you find me translated into different ways who pay attention to it. The crook aha can be my chakra Bhima chakra.

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That meme Alif man.

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Yeah. Yeah, karate slide.

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Okay. niagra

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This is has to wait to understand it in Arabic language.

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And both ways, carried two different meanings. And the rulings will be interesting. here to see the difference. So the first one that you say, and Matt masuleh

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Yeah, and it's all

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the cooker, a haka. Bhima, who am a crew

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of in a crew, you say you mentioned your brother, or you mentioned something bad about your brother.

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Something dislike about your brother.

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Okay. Or something is hated about your brother.

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But if you say Matt is in Mosul, is the word and will be the crook, Huckabee Levy, Accra. Ghana, you mentioned your brother

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by saying the thing that he or she dislike. What's the difference between the first and second?

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The first one, I'll just make it easier. You mentioned things okay.

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That the hated things about him.

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The other one? You mentioned the thing that he hates

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about himself.

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So the first one it means you mentioned anything bad is very general. The second one the thing that he feels it's about the thing the tea feel it is not appropriate.

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You following because certain things it might be okay for some people,

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even if it's bad, but I don't mind.

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So based on the second understanding that will not be as evil

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Okay, I give you an example. For example. It's a bad thing. It's a bad thing

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to drink.

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Drinking alcohol is a bad thing, isn't it?

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But there is some facet person who's a drunk 24 hours, he smokes drugs, and he is drugs and he doesn't care. He doesn't feel as bad. So if I say this person drinking

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and for him, it's okay. It's not something I'm ashamed of. That will not be a lever.

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Because it's not something that he feels as a shame.

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Another person, it is so common in he is okay to be called the short guy.

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For him, that's not about it.

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But there is another person saying the short person it's very offensive.

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A guy you told me the fat boy

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but you say the fat girl you're in trouble

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Okay, she will not accept that. So, for her would be or vice versa he or she. So, when it depends, so, some LMS would be my extra it could relate to the person himself. What he disliked what he should dislike, you cannot use or deny you Keira. Yanni. Generally speaking, what is known to be something bad, it should not be mentioned you got the difference.

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Then be sort of like also this heading this way of putting it below Viagra. So I'm kind of silly how some sort. It gives a sense of generality. So that means you're not allowed to mention anything that that person's feels it's offensive to him or he will be offended by it or feel it's an insult to him or to her. And that thing doesn't matter if it has to do with their look with the way they look carry themselves the way they talk. If it is has to do about him or family member or his work or what. Anything that will offend them feel make him feel bad in insulting to him. That will be held on. It doesn't matter if it's verbal, or if it is by sign. That's why when

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Sophia was mentioned

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pearl has spoken in Hana

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One of the problem I've said, Oh, yeah, your wife, she is this. And she just made a hand gesture. Yeah. And he she's a short girl

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in Navy so someone said you have said something so evil so bad that if you mix it with the seas, it will make the seas rotten.

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smells bad. So this is the sea, you put sewage in the sea, it will not make the same app. It will but it's not we're gonna turn it to be like, ruin it completely.

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As right can you imagine it's worse than all of us.

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And it's so evil what you said even though she didn't say anything, she just made a hand gesture.

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You got it. So here

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you see that it is words hand gestures, more hand. Sometimes people make Riba in many different ways and General Assembly Allah mentioned some people they will make Riba to someone. So when a person is mentioned, there was a lot how lower poverty level a lot of Stan Stouffer la

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STOVL en la la sua Tara protect us as obviously you making any the person as if it is bad, and you make it sounds like Oh, you're sort of legit, but it is really, l. Let's just talk about good people. I didn't say anything about him, I just said let's talk about good people what that entails.

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Let's focus on the positive.

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And I'll just don't talk about this. So this is even in direct way. So the Hadith shows you that in any way it is. So it has to do with mentioning things related to his Deen or dunya. It is

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time for Hector who pardon me so solemn if it isn't in him this quality, this lever if it's not in the person, it is Bhutan,

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and Bhutan, and Bhutan. It's the very surprising lot line

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batter kadesha

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minute dash, what the hell you originally it means that it means confused. So why the Arab use the word confused to refer to line? Because when you lie something you make up completely something about me? It makes me confused. Is Tucker Is this me? You see it is just what

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is even never happened? When did when this happened? How did it make you kind of confused and so that's why the word bat comes from because if you go to the root of it, it means somebody who's confused but the Arab use the same word to talk about the someone who attribute lie to someone because he make it up and he makes you confused how, how this can be by what we learn from this heading. First, this hadith is an interpretation to the verse insulted her dropped when Allah tala said what I thought about bukem Baba, do not back bite one another. So how we define backbiting? It is by what the processor loves to mention something bad or something that your brother hates, and

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that upsets to

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is Is it true that a LIBOR

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only for someone who's absent?

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If I simply say something bad about you in your present,

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would that be Cohiba

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or the person has to be in this to be absent.

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Listen to the heartbeat again, the headset to mention something that your brother hates, that's leaving, the headache did not say in his presence or his absence did not make any specification. So because of this, some of the earlier model human Willa said I leave is to mention something bad about your brother, something that he or she hates. It doesn't matter of the present or absent.

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So a lever is not only restricted to someone who's apps,

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other LMS because of this. Other LMS said no.

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And LIBOR is to say something bad about someone who is not present.

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Someone who's absent or someone who cannot hear you and his back. Why? They said because that was the word of the band means if you say something bad about someone in front of them, that's called seven shetan. That's cursing. That's saying that's insulting.

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As not leaving, the word wouldn't make any sense. Why would you use the word Riba for something that

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has nothing to do with the person's apps? And that's why the majority of the time Allah said no, Allah Viva, one of the condition for it is to mention something about somebody who is not present to something that and that's why it is a greater sin than just insulting. Why because if I'm in front of you, I can defend myself. At least I know what is said about me. But in my absence, I don't know what has been said about me. My reputation was ruined, you see. So that's why it's became major sin or more severe as a sin than just insulting someone.

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And also there is an aeration. dunia mentioned it.

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attributed to the prophets of Salaam said ilieva makary tend to charge a heavy heart for horiba the Rebbe is the thing that you will not sit in front of your brother

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in the beach or someone will help set the crew kakaka to mention your brother or your sister.

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What that means you obviously is not your blood Brother Blood sister and anyone who's considered Why did he mention a brother

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is to make you feel so bad about it. Because all Muslims and all believers our brothers and sisters in them and we knew that if one lapboard Allah said all believers our brothers and sisters so it makes you feel is not is not a stranger. He's my brother.

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Even if I don't know him, he is a brother to you. Which it makes you feel

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that this is something bad that I'm backbiting My brother is that exclude non Muslims and facets who commit major sins openly? I'll talk about this in a little bit. But the word a hook your brother doesn't necessarily mean necessarily excluding them. Because also there is a brother and sisters in humanity there is but the point is is he's like a brother to you. And Rania, Leia to bamboo come Baba, do not bite

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one on another, but the word in Arabic bow local bamboo yeah and you are some of like, Don't bite as if as this oma is like one body so don't basically attack your own body. Don't back bite your own cell be by attacking your brothers because you are all in the end of the day. Like one body one nation.

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I believe it is head on no doubt I lost Panthers and salted Hydra while I have to come down. That's for bedding people to back by. And he did not only said that, he said you hit a Yakuza. He made him a demo. Would you like to eat?

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You eat the flesh of your brother?

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Did court go and dig it from the graveyard and eat it?

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It's absolutely absolutely heroin. absolutely nobody will desire such thing. That's exactly what happened to you when you when you what when you backbite your brother.

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And in one incident in Ibiza Solon heard somebody is backbiting and said, I can see the flesh, the flesh, the flesh of that person's in between your teeth in the as if you were eating his body.

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But in a bizarre solemn said cool Moscow local Muslim, Muslim Ihara demo mat whereby individuals that harm for you to transgress against your Muslim brothers in regard to their blood

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by hitting killing, or their wealth, stealing from him cheating him or

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which is his honor, accusing lying backbiting and so forth in nebby solum since a Muslim latter has to do do not envy on it. Why not? Then he said while Iota Baba Baba and do not back back by each other, in Ibiza Salaam said in them in our bed rebel.

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It was reported that the navy seals and said one of the worst form of Riba and we all know Riba is when a major sin in Islam, one of the worst form of freedom is an instability of the Muslim by rehab is to increase your assault and gossip and backbiting.

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Your brother's honor Are you by

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Your brother's honor.

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Like is it a major synonym minor sin?

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The vast majority of the map consider backbiting as a major sin. I will hope to be rahimullah said I don't know any disagreement between the scholars that it is a major sin and even handled hate me who wrote a very famous book in collecting the major sin in Islam it called azzawajal, Anak Dr. Raphael Kava. He said, There is plenty of evidence to show that Elk River is one of the major sin in Islam.

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Because Islam is also in your blood on your on your wealth as Hassan and his honor, your honor as well. So killing a Muslim as hell aren't stealing the Muslims money is hot, and backbiting the Muslims held on as well.

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there is no no consensus.

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The matter of fact souls have said no. It is not a major sin. It's a minor sin. And among the people who said that

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lasagna Rahim Allah

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Mohammed azali. And also among them

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shadman, a chef, a scenario human lizard.

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And among them as well, the author of the book and omega. And I think

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he meant by that,

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that the salic world that in Nasik Eman. She had Dean bass,

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or Harry Shafi. They were known as naki. Bill Murray, is a very famous chef is called

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zurka. Sheila himolla said, I'm amazed by someone who consider eating the dead bodies haram and major sin. Yet he still says he can say backbiting is a minor sin and never makes sense to me. He said

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by some of the chef, he has very interesting, the fsid like him that are far in his hash here. He said column the jury will move their bill and the footwork now is

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and can be very happy Lula

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was cited a few back by a scholar, a righteous person, a well known righteous person or person of taqwa it is a major sin. But if you backbite someone else, especially those who make sense and centers and make major sin, those, the backbiting in regard to them is a minor since

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there is no proof for that.

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What I think it is more lot correctly is that it is a major sin. But when you backed by

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righteous and Olia and this major citizen and a major send them up one level major sins on many different levels. It rise to one of the highest level of major The only the highest form or the worst form of revenge to me Grima to the righteous people on to the scholars. But that doesn't mean that the rest are minor sin.

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What about the non Muslims

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is backbiting the non Muslims hold on?

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Because the press on key answers a hook your brother and obviously your brother here and Islam.

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Let me start with this. Number one, we have to all of us agree that movement as

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a similar fashion already. And movement is not a person who is you know, have a bad manners, whole person who speaks ill of people

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you know, and no doubt backbiting is one of these qualities. So the movement is been a an every Muslim was ordered to protect his tongue and not to say bad things about people regardless who those people are. So that's number one. Number two.

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If you some of us said when it comes to the to the non Muslims, if the back bite has to do with his physical, how tall he is his nose, his eyes his his skin color. That's absolutely forbidden. Absolutely hold on because not making fun of him as a person in making fun of the one who created him which is a loss. I know what are but if you backbite or you mentioned his bad manners and the Kufa t does, like adultery or drinking or things

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of that nature. They said, It is not a back bite.

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But that doesn't solve the problem. What about somebody backed by someone who's not Muslims about being stingy?

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Or being funny or making fun of someone like mentioned bad things about them?

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You know, didn't like solve the problem what those people what, at least this individual said

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something random, I said, No.

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It is not allowed to back by it a non Muslim, if he is the mean, what's the mean? The mean is the one who lives under the protection of Muslims.

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under the protection of Muslims, like who live among Muslims. As for the one who is

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Muhammad is someone who fighting the Muslims. It is not allowed. Sorry, it is allowed. Someone who is fighting the Muslims are allowed.

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And they said and the proof for that is in the visa Salaam in the day for Allah. He said,

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Would you breathe, man, he said to his son, he said, Oh, Jerome, Elijah in Arabic language is to make poetry, mentioning the bad things about others. Like when I make a poetry making fun of something, not fun, mentioning the bad quality of someone that's called hijab. It's a poetry all about criticism, by criticizing you and mentioning the bad thing. And you. So if anybody's upset, I'm telling Hassan to do this about the missionary team. That's a backlight. Because his son with the processor limb, and those we should get in the other side. They're not in front of him.

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There's nothing not backline. So they said, but those one gauge of how the war so that's why in a big basin was heavy, and there's incident and other habit as well. They said, the, in the case of you're on a war or or those people who are showing animosity, like you know, these islamophobes who show animosity to Islam, you know,

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there is no backbiting or nothing about them. Like, for me, we're lower and

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I believe that Allah Riba as a ruling, like to eating the flesh of someone that as a major sin,

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it is actually related to the Muslims only. But it can be a minor, or it can be something a bad manners, and it can be held on to highly dislike when it comes to the animals. So in the end of the day, we agree that we should not back by Muslim or non Muslim, but the Muslim is more severe.

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As far as

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the one who is committing major sins and never repented from it. And Mr. Heyman will not debate over this until the bottom line, and fast it's still a Muslim, and it's still your brother. So you know, a lot to back up by him. That's the bottom line. But what you're allowed to do, even though it's technically considered a lever, but is allowed is to mention his fist.

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Like, for example, some dictators who put people in jail, steal people's money, and you mentioned that someone who, you know, do corrupt things, or somebody who drink openly gay,

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homosexuality or he is openly doing that, and you mentioned that, even if he disliked that doesn't matter, because he's open about and we go back to the meaning of the Hadith, the Kuru kaha, Kabila, the Korean Alinea, Crapo, and Calico for how to be bigger. So it is something that they openly say it's not something that it is backbite in this case, but even if they dislike it, and they openly do it, it is how it is not harm. But what does harm is to give for yourself an open invitation or green light to start making fun of his family of his look, has any all these kind of things which is has nothing to do with his monk or with the builder that he does or the Haram that he practice.

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And one of the reasons one of the evidence for

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making labor to someone who's faster to warn people from their fist, what is also limb and say mojado Muslim, a man came and nevison told Ayesha Sacco ashia what are the worst man in the tribe?

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He told me this while the man didn't enter the tented or into the house. So he said

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This about him in his apps, no doubt, you will hate that. But that was not a back bite from the process on them. He said this to warn them from the person and be careful what you say in front of this guy.

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So from this little amount of hair loss if you mentioned someone with something bad in their apps and to warn people from it, it is allowed and that's what remember no Rahim Allah mentioned in regard to this.

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Harry, also similar to this mentioning someone, something bad about someone. But this is the thing that identify the person.

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Like for example, you say, the outage, an outage what means the lending man, even though it's a very famous scholar, they call them the limping person.

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That limping is not a good thing. This is just just defect them the person you know, but he said, you know, the handicapped person. Or sometimes this in the Hadith, the man with the big hands, or small hands. Okay, so the big hand vilya Dean, or an Amish blurry eyes? The blind, the deaf?

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You know, sometimes these are?

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Yeah, and it's not really because that's how you identify the person. I didn't mention it, you know, as a form of making fun of the person but to identify the person. Oh, you mean the big the big guy, the big tummy guy? Yeah. Okay, that's a whole you know, he didn't mean to back by me just to identify

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a big tournament.

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But the next point, what about backbiting unknown person?

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What I mean by Unknown, Unknown to you? What if I say, that is this guy, this this this about the person without mentioning him, him or her? And none of you know that person?

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law v button, the majority rule, there is no Reba for unknown person. That's why in the visa sometimes sometimes you would say my battle acquirement Aqua, some people did this and they're done.

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There's no lever here. Okay. Also, what if someone said, you know, what, somebody that they said all, I made a joke about, let's say, people from certain

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culture or country or city, you know, let's say made fun of a Scottish for example, or Irish or Rino Hey,

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you know, those, whatever, you know, some country or some quality and people like like to say somebody made of a joke or said something about people with red hair, or blonde hair or whatever, you know, or Sayyidi, like in Egypt or something like that. Somebody said, Oh, you made Riba to each and every one from that culture. See how many sin that you answered? even get so excited? Those will be all on the Day of Judgment, like v but to them can be the major sin against every one of them.

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That's not true. That's not Riba. You know, it's not a good manners, especially if you're making fun on human belittling people, you know, or, and it's something insulting or if someone was from there will feel insulted. But you not specifically mentioned someone by name, just a general concept that's not considered

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And one of the evidence that

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you saw heaven behold Africa and Hanafi Rahim Allah said, in the original tab and Akari lm tekun rebaptism ecoman berani. If somebody made LIBOR to a people of city or a city, the city this people this city, he didn't make Riba and unless he mentioned one person by name that known to people by

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It is not something I'm not encouraging you to do or to say but it's not the best specifically leave as a major sin. But

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there is a famous incident had it on me Zara,

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Zara 10 woman or aluminum gathered and they start talking about their husbands. And some of the mentioned things about their husbands just very bad.

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Wasn't this a back bite? And I said

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In the case of Salam Ababa

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we're actually backbiting that husband. No, because these husbands and this woman and their spouses are unknown to Ayesha or to innocent. It's a story about people before.

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You see. So it's a story. We didn't know them personally. That's why it wasn't a backbiting It was not a backbite

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what is the cafardo expression for backbiting? If you do any backbiting, you remember this is a major sin you need to make yourself Far from it. And to ask Allah Subhana Allah to forgive you and to ask a Lost Planet Allah

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to never let you fall into this again. Number two, if you can ask the person to forgive you, they'll be great. You asked for forgiveness from that person, because in obese also Lam said men can Allahumma Malema to only men elderly.

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If you have violated someone's honor, you did something that wrong to them in relation to their honor, or any psychologically or like emotionally or verbally or anything like you're hurt to them, you know, even if it's not physical hurt.

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You should ask forgiveness from them before they will come when there is no money between both of you. It will be taken from your good deeds according to the size of your Malema according to the size of your sin against him. And if you don't have any good deeds to give it will be taken from his bad deeds and put on you report this report by Buhari Rahim Allah.

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So that's why you should ask the person for forgiveness. By

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the whatever the person didn't know that I back my time.

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Like I backed by person and he didn't know that. Should I tell him Hey, by the way, yesterday, backed by two in front of people. And even Rahim Allah said, if he never knew about it, don't tell him

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they don't have him on lockdown. What you should do, you should say good things about him in his absence in front of the same group that you backbite him in front of. Let's say you have a group of people gathered in front of you brothers, you mentioned something about your cousin. You know what gather your brother and said, hey, my cousin is the what we said is wrong. And wasn't supposed to say something like that. And by the way, he's good and whatever Good thing you know about him.

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And it has an imbecile Rahim Allah said cafardo to revamp the stellar filament attempter has also received the equation of Riba is to ask for forgiveness for the person that you backbite so if I back by Achmed, I said a lot more for lamet alumni who in his apps, some LMS said no, actually you have to go on to ask the person

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if a Buddha condition and know your human law said if you know that by telling him He will forgive you That's good. But if you know if you tell him that will make the problem bigger all so you're back biting me yesterday, haha, that's what I thought and it will became bigger problem with who shall lie or doing that. And it will be created more often between you and him and other people. In this case, you should not tell him

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you should not tell.

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Does he need to tell him what exactly he said about him to opinions among the shafia?

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Some said yes. And some said no, you don't have to. You just say forgive me I backbite you and that's more likely to be correct. And if you know that this is will cause more damage as a muffler and Jeremiah shadow Sammy Tamia and in no way and many scholars said you don't need to say anything to the person.

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Hey fellow there, Lance. cafaro. Two Minute crypto and dystopia, Rolla. They also said the kafala for someone that you backbite is to make for ask Allah forgiveness for him. I'm delighted that Mubarak said to severe him in October Mina Lima and distant Pharaoh lemonnier capita.

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He said to ask forgiveness

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for the person who you backbite Sophia said no is to ask forgiveness from what you said about him. Then a robotic said let the homeowner attain. Don't hurt that person twice by mentioning bad things about him in his absence. And now he said in front of his face. You know, it will

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Tonight, that's like a double problem is it don't do that. Basically.

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One thing I want to mention as well, one of the relating point, if your brother came to me and came to you and asked her sister said, Hey, I backbite you Please forgive me. Don't ask about the details just said you are forgiven. You are forgiven. You've been serene passed by people. And after he passed them by a little bit, a man came run and followed him and he said, we have necessary in our back said yes. He said, Please forgive us. We said something bad about you earlier when you pass by us Halina.

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You know, please forgive us, he said, and allow him to do mahama law.

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I cannot say it's how you halali you forgiven because that's belong to Allah.

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But what is belong to me because it's a sin alley, but it's a sin has to sign the human beings and you violated one of the code of Allah. So it's between you and Allah as a sin and between you and humans. He said what is for me, I forgive it.

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Don't worry about me. But what is between you and Allah, that's something you have to deal with it. you sincerely repent almost pinata.

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I believe that is one of the reason for spreading animosity in society. And by the way, a lever opened the door for other things, because most likely was the person. So used to LIBOR will end up making Bhutan which is attributing things not even true. I leave it is.

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It is haram in Islam because of the damage it does to the society.

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There is certain punishments were mentioned in regard to a lever and we see how a lot of times it's like eating the flesh of your brother in Nebraska, Solon passed by two graves and he said they are punished for something that is major. One of them can have him she'd been the Mima gossip speak bad about people that's also formerly been

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in Ibiza Salaam said in the day for Salah I passed by people have a very long meals, they will do like this to their face. And you know they will scratch their faces until we see the bones and the flesh goes now. I said dear jabril Who are they? Then he said those the people who backbite people were part one of

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the backbite people and they say

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bad things about them and the violate people's honor. in Ibiza solemn was mentioned to him a woman who died. He said she is in hellfire. This is Yasser Allah or a woman I don't know.

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Just a woman. And in Nevis asylum said she's in Hellfire they said jasola so why NACA she prays she fast she's a good Dear Abby, the or that character, the German Habilis and she used to hurt her neighbor with her tongue. And he say bad things about them.

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Or whatever the alonza Dino and muffle is the one who run bankrupt. And maybe you all know the Hadith individual Salam said is the one who will they come in the day of judgment with Salon cm and Zakah. But he he insulted this person he backed by this person until his hessonite would be taken from him and giving to those who have been harmed and their sins will be given to Him then He will be gone to Hellfire Academy in Rome and hammer.

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Home as a way to liquidate the home as that illumise away is a great punishment and hellfire. For who whom is at Illumina and Homer de la de Kooning, humanness Allahumma de mujer had said the one who backed by people, while Luma is the one person who accused people with false

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It is important one of the point I will before only have two more points left.

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One of the points for in relation to this holiday if you hear someone backbite in front of you.

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Don't just remain silent. Don't be complacent, don't be partner

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said that's haram don't do that. You know why backline is so common because people don't speak up. And they gather if someone said something like that, just say hey is not allowed.

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That's how

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you can do that.

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Allah, Allah will either send your level of audible and when they hear a level, a level is any talk which is false talk, which is how long they stay away from it and sort of causes

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loss of innocence, our basalt our four other kulula, Akan, Houma Sula. You will be asked about anything that you hear, you see.

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So your ear, your eye, your heart, your mind, you will be asked about it. So a lot asked about what you heard

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from those people that are buying by backbiting your brothers sisters

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in the Visalia fuselier said men dead man hell they are he he will he can have an ally and you take a woman and now further below now if you protect your brother and sister honor in their absence, allowed protect you from the Hellfire in the Day of Judgment

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of time Mahajan in the mouth of coffee. Moreover, coffee aboard I had somebody backed by someone in front of him. So my wife told him both Kuru Katana either will they

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remember the day when they put cotton in your ears and and your eyes when you die? That's what they do. They put cotton in the eyes, cotton on the ear. He says remember that day?

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He said, data inside of Nebula castle Hollywood read cannamd simulcast quarterly. They had argument and it became very aggressive between them. A man came to sat and start saying bad things about how to delete

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inside me backbiting harlot inside immediately just terrified for them. When somebody stopped backbiting category, he said, Man, stop

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in the bambina Let me blow Dean in any moment and I'm sure

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you should watch between me and Khalid the disagreement and the fight that we have. It will not reach our Deen and it will not corrupt our they are not allowed me to not allow me to corrupt my being haram to backbite

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an ambassador of the Allah handset and this is one thing that I will end with

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karaca either Habang can be made to him and yet karaca be whether or not to him

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when your brother is not is not present mentioned the things about him that you would like him to mention about you and your apps.

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And don't say the thing that you would not like him to mention about you and your apps. Same thing with your brother

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Astro they allow and once was passing with his students and people around him by a mule which is old and Ratan and he said, while lying to fill your stomach from this dead animal.

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It's easier then to eat your brothers flushed by backbiting him.

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Even serene said in the actor a nasty coppia actor whom the current makeup is the most simple person is the person who always talks about people's mistakes and sins.

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Cheviot a human Allah said Allah Bassett para Abbas one told his son

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Abdullah my son amirul momineen unique I see the halifa bring you closer to him and he trusted me five minutes errata so know this lotta Tubman Lu

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Sir, what is Manoj? minca katiba y la banda in the hood

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and he he said do not ever backbite anyone in front of him or thing that he said

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also yeah

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he said I was with Sophia the theory of a hematoma and then came to him and he said Abu Abdullah has selected

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Sophia Yeah, Abdullah and Heidi Villa de Rue de la jolla Babu. Allah Baitullah mean he said what do you think of this hadith what Allah hates the people who they're

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the people who eat consume a lot of meat

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is it has to do with the media and in the beef and the meat. He said no, the one who eats the people's meat human flesh, highlighted in a cooler ominous and more awesome since since I know we know him as haram I never backed by anyone.

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We're appealing Hasson so and so backbiting that then he said I sent him a plate with dates and fruit. I said Why did you do that? He said thank you for giving me your Hassan's last night.

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You backed by to me and I want to thank you for giving me Hassan

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and even Nimmo Barak said if I would have backed by to anyone it will be my parents so they can take my husband and so they can take my reward that the judgment yeah but I'm not gonna do this to them or to anyone else

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it hasn't adversity Rahim Allah somebody told him I heard that you back by to me has a buzzer he said Son

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Bella of God broken Indian or hakima covey has an ad, you for me, no one

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to make you any, have a control over my house and attend the day of judgment to take it. I never backed by to you. I don't want someone like you to be in control of my good deeds in the Day of Judgment, or take it away from me. I do all this hard work. And you just come and collected from me in the digital. No sun. I didn't do that.

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So here something like maybe we can end with it's important for us to watch our tongue

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is to learn how to stop leaving. Even why an animal Mr. Kabir? He said, I used to mention people backwards. So I said every day every time I back right on fast. Callahan, how can you see?

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Sam became so fast too many days. I said, you know what I'm going to give him every time I said something about somebody.

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He said for somebody that I am dad and

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my love for money taught me not to backbite anyone because I and I keep giving.

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And in other words, the person has to be honest with himself. If you have a problem or talking about people, you have to be honest with yourself, and you have to work on it. One of the thing is, if you do it, ask yourself why I do it? Do I do it? When I stay late? around certain people, I start to avoid this gathering, you have to learn and to see what are the reasons for this backbite. And to avoid it to make us too far and to ask Allah Subhana Allah to forgive you. And also make sure that we don't allow people to make leave. And if you do that, ask someone Hey, if you ever heard me saying something about somebody, please tell me Stop. Stop.

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Don't take it lightly. And please, please, let's make sure that we teach our children not to backbite from the early age.

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Don't allow them to talk bad about people in school. Don't allow them to talk bad people about you know, their brothers sisters in their absence, teach them how to Reba is and how important for you not to backbite or to gossip. It's something that it's a habit if you don't have

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and maybe you just

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very quickly there is no Riba in consulting. Like I want to consult you about someone can I hire this person? He's works for you. What is his work ethics? So when you consult allows you to give you the right feedback when it comes to marriage. Also, is he a good person for my wife for my for my for my daughter for my sister? You know, I'm gonna marry this woman is she's good. He's good. That's why when father Mr. Allison law

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case to get us a law and a jam into any proposed to me, some are proposed to me Sofia,

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Maria to propose to me. He said, Well, our solo chlamydophila

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poor has no like, any kind of loser time, it doesn't have any money

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and will jam a person who always have the stick on his, you know, any he beats he hits, woman is very aggressive. So that's something nobody would like to be described this way. But he said that a lot is as a form of being sincere advice to the woman. So in the case, the third one in front of the judge. In front of the judge, there's no backbite I can tell the judge exactly what happened to me. The wives, the husbands, the partners, you know, a case witness. So there's no backup I

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enable Hadeeth and the scholars who would Hadeeth when they talk about the narrator's

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is this, like, for example is his kid that he's a liar. He's a weak narrator. There's no backbiting in case like this. Also, there's no backbite and tidy which is I mentioned earlier, if I identify the person by being the limping man or the hen or the middle of the men or the big hands, these are not backed by it's just I

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Mental identify the person with what is also, when you mentioned the bidder of someone.

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Let's say I'm going to mention somebody who's making bids. And, you know,

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to warn people from it. There's no there's no harm in this. The last one when I mentioned somebody's

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wrong deeds,

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sins and wrongdoing to warn people from it, there is no v back. And by doing that, these are the areas where a lever is not considerably where these are exceptions from the rules. And it's obvious because of that benefits. When this will come to the conclusion of our class today. Nelson Mandela protect all of us salon and have been among