10 Habits to Anchor Islam In Your Home

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hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Lana Viva una buena Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salim Allahu Mehta, Sleeman Kathira ama that all praise due to Allah and His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family, his companions and his followers until the day of judgment. I bear witness that Allah is the only one worthy of worship and Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his last and final messenger there is no doubt one of the greatest blessings that way we can have as Muslims that we feel that Islam is anchored in our homes.

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And when you feel that you know what Hamdulillah I love this live and I will leave this live and I'm not worried to leave behind me a week generation or Latina

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those who are afraid that they will leave behind them weak generation the return they have and halfway that they will worry about the next generation that they are weak that they cannot hold into this slum and hold into email or call Lucia in Yahoo macabre Dean everything is easy.

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When you compare it to the religion, everything is any no matter how bad it can get. The worst thing is when a person's there on Dean they're in faith is shaken.

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And that's something that is a concern for all. All of us. Yes, we sometimes hear these great examples SALADNA Abdillah have little or no obesity center. What does he mean? We're here let's say the louder Shafia or son so memorize the Quran in the age of six or seven while and even we still have some examples like this. But in now I'm not even talking about these high examples even though we all should aim high. But talking about the thing that it is keep the minimum not talking about the time of the Hakob NUMA Zahm come and sit idle Tabby Can you send me more I limit some young boy Hakuna Matata him used to teach children Quran at one point but Hakuna Matata him Kenya more on a

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helical Quran be himari mean Kathrada can endure but Allah Tada.

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He had 4000 students that he has. He divided them into groups. He uses mule to ride on it to go between them so he can listen to each every 10 together and he will listen to the recitation

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You know, yes we do have people like is Soufiane Rahim Allah

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and how much he cared about his son had their odds of Yan in November really wisely. The nuclear Hawala, the WHO Alan L. For enormous Organon severely 30 said parents must enforce knowledge and the love for learning into their children. Like the way we care about them going to school, I'm not missing school, we should care about their Islam and their Deen as well. And then understanding the value of the Quran and the value of Salah and even more.

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If your son die with the highest ever degree that you can think of, or your daughter die with the largest fattest account you can think of.

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most healthiest persons lived but lived away from Allah subhanaw taala that will not benefit them in the Alpha

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Candiani Ismay in been sighted view, of course your own can be you aluminum Mahasi was a Sariah Lin Humala de Nakata, bowfin Mahasi. He said that my father used to teach me and to make me aware of all the things that you collected in regard to the history of the prophets of Allah. And he used to say to me, my son in Nashua for about a fella to the euro Decra This is the most honorable thing that I ever collected in this dunya so don't make it or don't get it to be wasted. webinar Kodama Rahim Allah and more facula mucha mood kala Allah added Kalin handle ngema So have he brought the Hadith that he collected, and he from all over the Muslim world at that time, and he said to his son, or

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his children, is it this is the Harry that I spend all my life traveling to collect? Make sure that you preserve it, we have put so much effort into

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and that's something you we think about how can we ensure the preservation of our dean and artists Nam for generations to come. So when you go to your grave, your has an art will continue because you have left behind you, children who will benefit people, and will also benefit themselves first by being a strong good Muslims. And I want to share with you 10 points quickly, that I think it will help you to anchor Islam in your home.

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Number one that we all should first it comes any, I always think this is an essential point even though it's very obvious, this dish out of Missoulian. And in any topic by the way, it talks about any topic and the world. It to start from you realizing that this is something you're responsible for. I get to hear some parents, they come in they talk to me about how important they're the children how their children are drifting away from Islam from this, and it can tell from the way the talk that they really feel burning from insight versus other people it doesn't really matter for them.

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He prayed it and pray. And by the way, being loud that's not means that you care. being aggressive. That doesn't mean being calm doesn't mean that you don't care. No but it's what's inside is really something important to you or not. Allah subhanaw taala put the responsibility on us first was apparently a call about cardio.

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In Alwan they use unwell ID Cobla and use Alajuela do unwanted

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you will be asked about your children before your children ask about their parents.

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Allah Azza Delia Alia you have Latina Amman who am Fusa como la acuminata it is your responsibility to protect yourself and your family from the Hellfire Kulu combined will kill Luca mizunara Yet if anytime Dylan Yamato Allah and for say hey, all of you are responsible and all of you will be held accountable for their flags

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for those who are smarter put you in charge of

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and fee riot NS for doing Miss ality Java. So prepare yourself to answer the questions and the day of judgment about your family.

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Number two, monogamous arm and my fear of fetal season Islam. What is the unfillable Sita and hamdulillah here Kathy Rafi Butina These are simple tips, simple points, but great effect. It has great effects, which is Allah Allah Baytech da amendment decorilla Make sure that Allah is mentioned so awesome.

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in your home make sure that your Allah subhanaw taala is mentioned in your not only in your bedroom not only in your living room but also in your children's rooms

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it's not right that if you're if your home is free from decree ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada you have to convey to hurry your call inhibition Salam solemn yeah and in masala Albanian commercial call below the line coffee Hilah John Allah Baitullah delayed coffee Lamesa lil Baitul hurry.

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Okay. Delica

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the cruelest Allah mentioned in our last fight, Allah has a great impact. Sometimes you don't even

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can see it or touch it. I give you an example. You're only gonna be so solemn when you enter your house and you see Bismillah tarsha per lead holy in the shape and will not enter this house. When you see Bismillah before entering the house, something you will never realize if the process didn't tell us that we wouldn't know.

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We wouldn't know about it. When you you know get out of your home or your into your house and you do that too out of entering the house or leaving the house. That's basically what Allah says, With all put barakah in your home and your house. What do you say Bismillah AR cultural Allah La Quwata illa biLlah when your children always hear you before you eat you say Bismillah and when you finish you say and hamdulillah it's a reminder of them to connect the live with Allah Smita when this New Salem Bismillah Alhamdulillah hammock Allah when they go to the bathroom or belimbing of hope to hubba wulfrun When they leave all these things when they go to sleep that the here the mentioning of ALLAH

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SubhanA wa to Anna it will protect them. Also if you add to this you teach your children when you drive them in the morning to school, read for them the morning and the night of the car. Remind them of it if it's simple.

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I heard once you're on a show and basil Rahim Allah was told about the man who used to be religious, and he left religion doesn't practice anymore. Then Chevron mo Allah said, look into this person's life. I can guarantee you you will find two things. And now the Roger lumea can Shakira Lila

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one hula Mia Kula Heda Kira.

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I can guarantee you if you look at this person's life, that this person was not mentioned in Allah much. Because he when you mentioned Allah Allah mentioned you and when Allah mentioned you, that's a blessing. That's a preservative. That's that's reservation that's in itself. You know a great deal of Baraka that Allah Spano Tala put in your unwholesome Baraka Baraka, it means that the goodness increase albaraka Illa zyada to higher y the x zero to shallow the Habel higher.

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The cruelest panel to Allah in Ibiza Salam said those who for example, when the Adonis column the house the ship and runs away when you read the last two verses sort of baccarat the ship and runs away from the house, and if you recite SOTL, baccarat and that's another point I will mention specifically about the Quran, but the vicar in general is, is is very powerful to to bring to anchor Islam into the home and to the house. And make sure that you care about that you care to teach your children simple outcome not too many. So it became difficult for them

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or hard

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number and before I go forward, it is as the word like these simple words. It basically create an identity Bismillah over Billa Alhamdulillah La Ilaha illa Allah Allahu Akbar Subhana Allah and hamdulillah and Isla Allahu Akbar these words are so important for our children to be raised upon and to hear it so often and do you need from them so often? Number three, or select in the visa salon collateral Alou to come to borrow some lluvia pray in your homes don't make it like graveyard so that means that the houses that has no prayer it's like graveyard abandon

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in the be SallAllahu Sallam called in the higher salata and more fee Beatty little Mokuba the best site to pray it is that your home except the obligatory prayers the five daily prayers the best and the most other than that is why do you think is that for the kids in the family to see you pray to get to use to the prayers so they understand the importance of it and if you guys at home call them to pray with you. Make sure that they get in the habit of praying Gemma

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and

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a solid bring people together it educate people and it bring the angels into the to the master and protect the house from the shell theme.

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Yucky to me

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Not only your children even at the embeddedness of Samia Kodesh Hatton Masataka. Zoo Jaffe laide was more rajulio consulted for Leila Solly and maybe some said the famous Hadith He wakes his wife in the middle of the night to pray or any before Fajr to pray, and she walks her husband to pray before Fajr

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that's an important element in protecting the house. Yeah, Ole Miss Ruth, have you ever been at a conference select if you want to protect your children, protect them with a solid thermometer I would Ohio for in Nicaragua and get them into the habit of doing these righteous deeds because it's a habit you can build up you're gonna make Rahim Allah Kwinana issue feeback that we're kind of led to fee i Mother orphan. He said we're going to arrange tomorrow me for Corona to Kizuna cobbler federal workers at Lille map. We can only enter their cashews in in my ward my mom used to wake me up before Fajr and ready she here in the walk the water because it's cold in the night. And the

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water is warm ready for me to make weevil. I was 10 years old at that time I remember and we will pray together had to add venal fudge until federal comes and him and his mother for the subliminal message to do it upon. You have when you're in the midst of eight she said I will walk into the message because the message is far and she will wait until the salah finish and he finishes I've caught them take him back home.

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She understood the importance of a Salah she prayed with him in the house and take him to the masjid as well. Number four re citation of the Quran.

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In the Quran Hooda new basura she found HIFF baraka of Quran is the light guidance blessings, healer

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protections, you name it.

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Whatever you think of good meanings Oh Quran carried and bring it to the house. Make sure that your children hear you reciting the Quran. Make sure children hear the mother reading the Quran. The brothers and sisters reading the Quran in Shavon la fille ruminal Baitullah do coffee settle salata baccarat she thought runs away from the house was sort of Baccarat is recited. When you read sootel Baqarah in the night, the shape on Lake Chapala nine item could see you need to either go she's done Don't come closer to that person. You're going to see the Rahim Allah to Lima semiannual Quran us to Minnesotan Islam in shown Alpha para West Buccola Blue Beam Anwar al hikma Kabbalah anatomical haha

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I mean How will God bless our they have a fairly massive burden before the heart of the children corrupted. Make sure that you filled it with the Quran

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That's why even whole dune when he talks about shadow Islam Palawan insha Allah Milla one of the clear signs of Muslims to Lima Allah to him will Quran that the teach the children of Quran that's something that you care about.

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Kinda Raja let Hassan is bursary her field to Quran cannibal Quran Huimin heavy luck

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he said I have to Quran he I memorize it have that means I memorize and memorization is a form of what of protections in protect something from being lost so that's what we call a heavy load but originally it means protection he said son of Quran is the one who protecting you

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number five

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a techie that a to hear for the level a bada well then it could be a lot of similarity man but Allah Tala Milla l Hoffman Allah maraca Tila at the slim Lilla Willie Emery a third could Allah shockula Maddie fatty and furred La La Mata Roger and Kulu Mrelief Subhana wa Tada that it is important to imbedded in the hearts and the minds of your children and your wife and your family and your husband in the house. There is always remembering that we always remember that we are a servants of Allah subhanaw taala we're worshippers were followers of Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, we love Allah more than anything else. We honor Allah we fear Allah we respect Allah. We submit ourselves to the will

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of Allah and His Deen we're grateful and thankful for him. So anything good to happen, make sure that they hear you saying I think to thank Allah subhanaw taala reminding them of the day that they will stand before Allah subhanaw taala kind of Ibiza salami Allah will will mm and Benny Abdulmutallab either Afsaneh Cole when one of the children of the Muttalib start talking, we're calling hamdulillah Illa de la mia tacky the WELEDA when Amir Kula who Cherie confirmable

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He will teach him in sort of Surat this verse that say Alhamdulillah the one who have never never taken a child and has no partner, my dear brothers and sisters, let me make this simple clear a lot of people are my age and older and a little bit younger. We are taking our Islam for granted our Tahiti's for granted any and I never had a problem in my mind. Anything to do with is Allah exist or not. Allah has son or no has no son that's probably any This is issue I don't need any proof. When I hear people trying to debate to prove it. I said what a silly mind I don't need the I need this come up political Mara how the Rajan within the Alpha Deleon Allah will do de la carretera de la Shaq

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Ozma. She said all this man has a 1000 proof of Allah's exist. She said yes, because it has 1000 doubts. But that's in certain environments a certain time. Our time is different. Our children's not like that. Our children unfortunately reason in the different ways. With a different perspective. You need to emphasise the issue of to hate into them without refuting but making sure that they understand Allah has no partners, no child, especially in these days and Christmas. You know, my kids go to public school and I see what they come back with. They don't mean it, but it became embedded in their mind without paying attention. So you need to make sure that Allah subhanho wa

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Taala known to them who he is What is nature? Subhana wa Aton Can any of you have seen your Alima Allah pull, amen to be Lavaca for to be a hoot. I believe in Allah and disbelieve in anything that people worship, but other than Allah Subhana Allah, what can you eliminate file Allah Allah Ilaha illa Allah, they teach them what Lila Allah means and what it entails. I ask Allah Subhana Allah to protect us and to protect our children, our family, our community, Ebola Masato Mustapha Allah Allah

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hamdulillah da Sala salatu salam ala Milena viva.

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Number six quickly, good role model. Children might not listen to you much but they watch you so much. If they find your life is contradicting life is a life full of hypocrisy. You talk about Islam and Islam but Islam is really the least of your priority is not going to be their priority. So make sure that you yourself are present for them. These good role models these good principles that you teaching them that you represented in front of them, because children will be impacted a lot by their children.

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Number seven

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one of the things that I found it's so important to anchor Islam in the houses have a good relationship with your spouse.

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Those who have a lot of family abuse inside the house and problems it affect the children tremendously. I will never forget here in this semester. I was counseling couples and the girl she's not Muslim. And the father said Islam and Islam and he was talking

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I will never forget and mashallah she's very highly educated woman.

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She said Islam

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she said what is slowly dying about? You remember when you used to put my mom against the wall and beat her up?

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What Islami talking about? You remember what you did this and she started mentioning things that I was like whoa.

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Has nothing to do with logics

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has to do with how you behave.

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You forgot when used to beat me up with the belt.

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You forgot what you used to do with me when I was kids.

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What you did to my mom that abused that you did to my mama mother or my father. That would shake people's demand the most.

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If you want to anchor Islam be a good role model.

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Make sure that you have a good relationship at famous stability. That's why you might not hear that much and hope or Juma but I'll say it out loud and clear. I prefer you to get divorce from your spouse than to live with a spouse that everyday you fight and everyday you involved in you know domestic violence and abuse you know much better for your kids to live peacefully with a father or a mother single father single mother then you get stay for the kids but you know what what you're doing is ruining the kid's life

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doesn't work

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great make sure you make draft for the children cannon filament how the ALA managed to hit two feet deep in Alien for I just ran for a double intelli faster jab Allah hula what kinda le uniform

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eliminate young men AF dolly and is a man Rahim Allah come upon at the hubby Rahim Allah

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can follow me. He said y'all I did my best to raise my children my child any good. I can just not working. I'll keep doing what I can but y'all RP is in your hand guide him

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and he did. So one of the things that make sure a lot of draft children

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don't make dragons, your children.

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I heard if I didn't hear this story from the brother himself, I wouldn't believe it's happened.

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Maybe I'll keep the story for the end. But number nine quickly, make sure that you spread Salam, salam ala come teach your kids. There's a lot of Baraka because Assam Warahmatullah wabarakatuh is a form of drought. Number 10. Make sure that you involve people who have good influence in your children. Seek help from the Imams heap seek help from counselors, teachers, neighbors, good cousin's good family members, invite them, you know, hey, I wanted to come. And I'm telling you, I've been in some of the community here members, they invited me invited some of the Imams, hey, I want you to do a circle for my children. Can you come and do you know that is a big family of 10

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people who would like to have one day talk about this. And we accepted that invitation before and many others. There's a lot of tools that you can you care for, you know, send your children somebody called me in Saudi Arabia. He works his Arabian he comes back in the summer. He said Jeff, I want my kid my son is in high school. I want to send him for one month to shadow you.

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As much as i i difficult for me and I appreciate how the father is thinking. He said I want him to role model someone

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that's remind me of the old the old scholars are in Abdun Milliken Abdul Fattah Allah min some tea public enemy for Nila anima, Haddonfield, Kufa, yet Deccan Kurama female and he kept the medic, how he was saying that.

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He said, Go learn from a delicate object, how he avoid talking about people talking about things doesn't concern him, because he's good and controlling his tongue. Son. I want you to learn that from him. Shafi when his mother sent them to Malik, she said tandem in other behavior me learn from Malik's other.

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That's what I want you to learn from him. So these kinds of tools are important schools, Love great people, great role models, use them, make them involve because therapy did well at least at best sign up, boom. Children are not only going to be raised by two parents, by a lot of other people working together.

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So these are 10 points that I have in the story that I have for you to end my talk with. This brother saying about his own brother was telling me telling us the story. He said one of my brother was so bad, bad manners, very disrespectful. He was in the end of his teenager time like stole crazy. And he said my father one day he was going out in the masjid. And he couldn't find you know, he lives in Saudi Arabia. So they put that things on the top of their head. Okay. He said, he took the small my brothers, he put in his head, and he went to the masjid and in that culture for older especially, it's not right to go without covering your head. So he said my father went to my brother

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was so angry because you go into a an occasion where he want to dress formally. He know that his father took his mom.

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He said, You wouldn't believe what my brother did. He said he walked into the masjid while my father waiting for the salah. And he pulled the scarf from a tub of his father's. And he took it and he went to his appointment.

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Like he took it kiddo in front of everybody in the master.

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He grabbed it and he walked away.

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Everybody looked at the Father.

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And the father looked at the Son he said,

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yo Did you lie slack?

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He sets in my Allah subhanaw taala guide you and forgive you.

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He said my brother when he heard that in his way out,

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he just fall into his knees, his top breaking tears

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that still fit them in Allah. At this point anyone maybe he will curse him like, beat him up and he make dua for him. So his brother turned me he said my brother give me the permission to give the story until the story. His brothers mashallah now half of the Quran and a very right pen has children and grow up. And he said all our family believe that one sub Salah had Dawa.

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That that drive that day changes life.

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Don't ever hold back for yourself.

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Shoulder not against your children.

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Now let's Canada Allah, bless all our children and make them successful in the dunya and akhira. Long mountain him in dunya and akhira well slim over Luna widow Mahaffey, no iPhone No. Yahama Rahimi ROFR doc Sirona we helped him yada yada yada ikura La Mina silicon Hudler took our iPhone Hina at innovation at UCLA. How was it? Romans aka Antonio Hamada. Also Lahoma sallim wa barik ala Nabina Muhammad Muhammad Salah