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Seerah Episode 10 – The Prophet (saw) In His Youth

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Al Hamdulillah washoku Lillah wa salatu salam ala Sayidina rasulillah Baba.

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inshallah to Allah Welcome back to our gurus of the seerah Allah cybersecurity as casada to what the slim. Last time when we stopped, we stopped at the stage where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has ended his teens and is, you know, at the doorstep of 20 Oh, he has just come into his 20s age wise. There's a few things to note, it is important

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that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam has certain characteristics

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that are the favor of a lot of bullet is exclusively upon him.

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Because in a time where the world is covered with schilke and covered with paganism and covered with idol worship, there were certain realities that existed everywhere but a lot of but there is a save the profit from it.

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One of those is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Although society adored the idols, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam could not stand them.

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So he shunned idols.

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Throughout his life, there is no evidence record, ascertain that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ever went to worship law to Rosa or manette, or any one of the idols or humbled himself to them.

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So this is the favor of a lot of books is upon him, that he kept them exclusively to himself.

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And I know certain intricate details about his life.

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You will notice that at the time, there were people who are named Abdullah Abdullah, Abdullah shams, an abdomen F, and many types of names being attributed to servitude of other than a lot of bellezza not only the prophets a lot, a lot of blood Not only that, a lot of boys are not allowed this vertical Luffy can be not only that, a lot of boys are not allowed for his profit, even the prophets father's name a lot of blazer chose exclusively for himself. So he was Abdullah. So that not be said in history that you know, the father of your Prophet was Abbot of so and so he was the exclusive servant of a lot of brand name wise, name wise.

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This was one of the favors of Allah bondora soul, that he never humbled himself to idols. Second, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam never drank alcohol, although it was prevalent in society, but a lot of bulldozer kept him as well as they say in the western languages, it taught law, like he would never, he never drank alcohol. Although it was common in society.

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This was the favor of a lot of blessings upon the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, third the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam never lied.

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You know, it is very hard to live, although admirable and ideal to live, our life having not lied, but it's difficult because you will say a lie here and there. And a lot of bluster forgive the shortcomings of one and old, but don't assume never lied.

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That's why they used to call him of Florida.

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You know, you can be an honest person.

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But your honesty will be to the level that you know you're honest. And maybe a couple of people know that you're honest. If you reach the level where your community calls you the honest person that's an achievement. You know, your honesty is so outstanding that everyone has noticed this one doesn't lie.

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So he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam never recorded to have lied, nor did he ever break a promise.

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What do I allow them of the oma kudan body just these two characteristics, it would suffice.

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It would suffer suffice he never broke a promise, even to his enemies when he said I will be there for that battle. He arrived the enemy wasn't there. He still waited you know, three days and in some cases 10 days that I am here waiting and you haven't come.

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And his early days there was a case where someone wanted help building in a building project called the Prophet that come meet me here. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went there one day, two days, three days waiting the Mandarin come then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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I'm considered that the deal is done. And on the third day the man arrived realizing all the you know, I've told Mohammed Salah Allah, Allah Mohammed, and he will be waiting and de la Sol sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was there waiting. So this is part of the natural character of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam.

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And these are honorable characteristics to have

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honesty, being reliable.

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Next thing the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in one narration narrated by a live Navy pilot about him, the son or daughter, which, you know, I haven't been able to trace, I asked that I hadn't followed it today. And we didn't have enough time to be able to decipher through it, but the narration is there, and it is available. And then VEDA in the hire.

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And others narrated from Olive nebuta live. He says the Prophet told me twice, twice, I desired what the youth would desire.

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You know, and they use in those days, and in these days, they want to attend gatherings where there's fun and entertainment and maybe singing and so on. So he heard the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in his Shepherd days, that there is a wedding day. And you know, in the weddings, there will be entertainment and excitement. So he says, I went to the gathering. And as I entered, and Seth, I fell asleep.

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Because a lot of galerija considered it inappropriate for the majesty of the Rasool to be in such a gathering and influenced by that. So next day, there was another way then he tried again, and he fell in he fell asleep again, straightaway like unconscious, and he woke up when the sun came out, so it wouldn't happen at night. So he just fell asleep and woke up the next day. So he realized that this is not intended for me. Like I am not supposed to

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be involved in this inclined to these things.

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Next one, like certain characteristics,

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that nudity was something known amidst the Arabs.

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So for example, there were times where the pilgrims, man and woman used to do the tawaf naked.

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And the scholars of Syrah say and the scholars of history say that one of the reasons was that the Quraysh wanted a monopoly on the clothing of Hajj.

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So if you bought the garb of Hajj, or the garb of Amara from Makkah, you allowed to wear it for Taiwan, otherwise, you volunteer to power half naked, and it was okay. It was accepted. It was you know, people had become used to it.

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And also when they used to work, they used to take the loo in cloth, like, you know, the izhar the what you wrapped around your lower parts that used to take that off and put it on their shoulders and work with that. So it was common.

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And when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, even in his young days, were, you know, he was he was still in childhood. He was helping his ankles and they say, with the renovation of the Kaaba or repair of the Kaaba, so one of his uncle said, Take your linen cloth off and put it on your shoulder and carry the the bricks or whatever you're carrying on that so it doesn't rest on your shoulders. So, as he tried to uncover it, he finds it.

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So, when he woke up, he was holding on to it and he was saying, my cloth, my cloth, and he realized that, you know,

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this is a no go zone for for His Majesty. So these were certain

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characteristics, if you like, or qualities,

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or things about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that stood out even in his, in his childhood and in his teens in his in his 20s.

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So we discussed last time that he was involved in that noble pack,

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you know, where the Yemeni

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merchant came and his wealth was taken, and he had no one to stand up for him. So some of the Porush swore an oath together that from now on if a person is wronged, whether he is from our tribe or not, we will all stand up against the oppressor. So the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam join in this oath in this pledge

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and it is an honorable pledge and we said last time, that which shows that in our times, if as a government level, organization level institution level, there might be other organizations not islamically inclined, but have a normal

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agenda at this for us to join that because noble is noble regardless.

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And coincidentally, this oath took place in the house of Abdullah Abuja.

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And this man is from the tribe of Abu Bakr deep. And he is a person of renowned generosity.

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Like he had a name and generosity emits the Arabs, you know, renowned, so much so they used to say that, you know, in the days where cooking was difficult because it wasn't gas ovens and you know, the meat that income butchered, prepared and the salad wasn't cut, you know, you had to do everything ground up. And he used to invite people to his house and say, ask for what you want.

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And he would go out of his way and he servants to try to prepare that for for his guests. And at the end, he used to say, Take what you want. Do you understand me, this was like, extraordinary generosity. And so hon Allah, He died in disbelief.

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So because he is from the relatives of Abu Bakr Siddiq, he is, you know, from the paternal side of our issue of the law of

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inertia is a mother, the wife of the law school, the daughter of Abu Bakr Siddiq. So she asked the Prophet later on, you know, he was such a noble man, and he did so much

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what will be his state in the Ashura? So up to the Prophet said, he didn't say once that Oh, Lord, forgive me my sins on the Day of Judgment.

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Not even once that he acted like it, you know, if he had said that, once, they could have been some hope, as in he had turned to one of law, and he had believed in one alarm, and then asked the Lord to forgive him, there could have been hope. So that was, that was the situation of that man. So now Dora Sol Salalah alayhi wa sallam was in his 20s, or he started 20. And

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he's coming out of the shepherd life, and has is about to enter the business world. So what would happen the kurush, as you know, used to have two business trips, one towards Syria and one towards Yemen. When weather permitted to go to the north, they used to go that way and at one permitted to go south, they used to go to the south. And as we discussed in the past, maca is a place where pilgrims come so part of the pilgrimages.

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Hmm.

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What's the last thing one of the last things you do in pilgrimage when when it when it's finished?

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I'll give you a hint, it's got something to do with animals.

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That's right, you slaughter an animal. So it means that every pilgrim that came would bring sacrificial animals and that would slaughter written in Makkah. So the mccanns always had access to the skins of the animals, which was natural that they develop an industry around leather.

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So they became very good with leather works. So all year, they used to prepare the leather works. And then they used to take it to the rich countries have of the Levant sell it, they buy other stuff and bring it back that they could sell in Makkah to the pilgrims again, and so on. And then they used to do the spices at Yemen and dude, and you know, that would come from India and so on.

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So, these caravans used to go in summer and in winter.

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And they always wanted people to join in the caravan. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam joined one of the caravans as as a worker and went, and again, his honesty stood out.

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And his reliability stood out. And his work ethic stood out.

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And pretty soon, it was very desirable to have young Mohammed as part of your caravans.

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You know, he was intelligent, he was reliable, he was honest.

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And all of us that have any aspect of honesty, we learned that from him.

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You know, today, if you go to the Gulf, there's a video out.

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They see an elderly Muslim Shepherd, you know, shepherding for a rich man and someone stops and he goes, give me, you know, a lamb or some milk from it. And the man says, No, I can't because I'll give you so much money. He goes, it's not mine. It's the owners. Because the owners not here it's just you He goes, but Allah is here. And it went viral, who taught us that those who taught us that?

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If you go to the past,

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one of the fathers of one of the scholars, they say this is Abu hanifa Rahim Allah Allah it could be someone else.

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He will

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The man used to work in an orchard

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you know, apple farm orchard. And one day his boss told him Go get me a real sweet one.

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And he went and came back he was I don't know which one's sweet.

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Because what do you mean you've been working here for is four years for you. And you know which one's sweet.

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And he said, I've never tasted it.

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It's not mine. It's yours I've never tasted

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who told us that the Russell told us so now the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to travel

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and these things stood out. And I tell you know, my young brothers and sisters who will join the workforce or are part of the workforce these qualities are still sought after today.

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When a lot of Blizzard blesses you and you are employed, don't be one of those people that comes 10 minutes late and leaves 10 minutes early.

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You don't gain anything from it 10 minutes is a very small but you look very bad.

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And you look unreliable and you look unprofessional. And you look with poor work ethics and it reflects on everything else, instead do the exact opposite. Come 10 minutes ahead of time and leave 10 minutes after time you look dedicated you look professional, you look committed you look reliable opportunities open Do you understand this is the cat This is what we need to learn from the prophets of Allah Allah He was in second be very honest.

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So with everything the work environment provides say the word gives you a mobile phone

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number one, religiously ethically use it exclusively for work.

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second problem is that an hour or less please understand this the Muslims and our times if your work environment gives you a phone or a laptop, they have full authority over that.

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So they will be able to track and have the legal right to go through and see where you have been what you have done and you don't want to put yourself in a vulnerable position to have to explain I went to this site they understand me that just looks poor.

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So irrespective whether you do with lillah or at least for the you know the one watching you as your boss

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hold yourself at a noble level of ethics

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You with me?

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So people used to talk now more Mohammed Mohammed Assad Ameen Assad the mean reliable trustworthy honest

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and then that happened that one day one of the merchants fell ill so they he called the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam that listen I wasn't able to make it tight the caravan yourself

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and go do the deal wheeling and dealing and bring back and see how you go and when he came back the profits will not the profit the profits as the money was above ordinary. So maka small community business community as the talk if you like in the cafes, and in the you know, the understand me this names coming up.

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So he started being headhunted and again, I stopped here, become good at whatever you do, and then people will chase you, you don't have to apply for jobs. I know a person

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in the education field.

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He took one of the lower schools lower socio economic area highest, you know, separation divorce, broken family, right.

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You know, a lot of criminal backgrounds and and so on and so forth. And in 13 years, the school became the highest ranking school in the country.

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So the elite schools noticed, so they hit had hunted him as in they started to seek him out. They offered him a job. He said what about my wife, they gave his wife a job. He said what about my kids they gave they gave his kids scholarship. And he's he's renowned and you know, my teachers, he I know him I talk a lot about him.

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Why? Because he became good at what he does. He dedicated himself to it didn't do a half hearted job. So the same way the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam stood out and people were looking to hire him. And of all the people there's one special person for us and her name is her the job of the Allaha who was a wealthy

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merchant, you know, and she had a lot of money and some scholars say her wealth, equalled or exceeded the wealth of the rest of the kurush. But this is, you know,

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opinions of people, but she was wealthy. And because she was a lady, she didn't want to go and travel and be away from family and, you know, experience the harshness of travel because understand there was no hotter airlines in those days it was the camel and the donkey and the horse and the tough weather and all the rest of it.

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So, she had hunted the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam again, I want to clarify, this headhunting is a term used in business as in, you seek the person out, that doesn't mean you know, the, because this video goes out, you know, and then they go, the prophet was headhunted. It's not that one, it's this is, you know, different.

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So she employed the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they say she offered him double what she had paid ever before.

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So the last person she had paid, say, she paid the person 5000, she told him, I'll pay you 10,000 Plus, now take the goods there and come back.

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And because of her intelligence, because you don't, you know, put all your eggs in one basket and don't have a safety mechanism in place. She sent a young lad who who was her confidant, her servant, a slave.

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And this one will be your, your help on the way.

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So the young lad went with the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And my dear brothers and sisters, I have set with sir, some people, I am the type. And it was not probably not good if I tell you what I find one.

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But I, I'm not easily impressed with people. It's one of

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whether you like it shortcomings, or the alternatively, I'm not easily impressed with people. But I have met people who have won me over pretty quickly. You know, in my travels, I have met al handschuh. And leaders and Scott, who are amazing people, dazzling personalities, and very quickly I have become, you know, a fan. And but that's just a normal human. Now imagine going with the prophets a lot. Like the magnetism of the personality to it will take you very quickly, you know, so this young lad

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became a fan of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in this journey, and he is watching he's not, you know, he's not there to deceive his boss, but

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he sees amazing things like the man is upright, ethical, responsible, reliable, honest, you guys call it, you know, honest and trustworthy, you know, I use words that are more at work level. So he had all these things. And he, you know, empathy and emotional intelligence looked after those that were with him and elevated everyone and empowered everyone, and everyone felt golden. And this was just the physical world. And then the young lad notices in the going towards Syria, again,

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that, you know, the sun is not as hot when I am with Mohammed.

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The sun is, and you don't notice when you're traveling, but he looked up and whenever he looked at there's a cloud,

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you know, there's a cloud.

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But he noticed and then on the way he went, and most likely, most likely, towards the same monastery where he had gone through as a child. At that time, there was a monk dead is according to higher order monk, now it's another monk has come and taken the position of that one, and his name is Nestor on estore. And

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so don't assume let's see, that's all our Toby was Allahu Allah, He leaning on a tree. And again, I talked about the tree last time.

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So this man comes in, he goes, Who was that man? Because it's caught his eye, you know? And he, he said, so the young lad says hideous servants is that's a man of the parish and then to explain, they are the custodians of the house of God.

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You know, so he says, He goes, none other than a prophet sits under that tree.

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Like is nothing less than a prophet. Whoever sitting under the tree, the signs are there.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam went and because of his reliability and hard work, and

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As the the profits, the income became much more than normally anticipated, and then to make the profits even more he bought some more goods and brought it and sold that back and maca You know, when he came back on his way

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and

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with all that profit with all the income money, because you know use profit and profit and sometimes which which one does he mean? So, this is the income one.

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He is on his way to go and see how the job the Allaha

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but the lad has gone first and has given an account here Khadija is is amazing, if you take any imagine the conversation

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will not take a sentence. So intelligent and so reliable and hard work are and as daughters his own wealth like I am, you know, I am paraphrasing but you understand. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam comes to

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give an account sitting in front of the danger of the Allaha and can you imagine this now is the 25 year old Mohammed Salah Toby was Salam O Allah. And

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you know when Yusuf Ali Salam walked in the room, women cut their hands now it is the majesty of our assumed face to face with mother Khadija or the Allaha

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it's it's very hard not to like the birth

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the scholars of sera describe him you know, eyes excessively black, like the pupil dark, the whiteness very white there was there was an evident contrast as soon as you looked at him

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there was a contrast in his eyes and illustrious big eyes arct eyebrows

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and not joint

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build wise he was solid built towards lean, like broad shoulders. And, you know, a broad forehead but head wasn't disproportionate. And his joints wah wah, big and strong. And his palm meaty, like not you understand me like if you shake certain hands that it's got it's got meat on it like meat, the palms,

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complexion,

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light towards tan like light tan, if you like hair dark.

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Very dark hair. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is here. And it's it's not curly and it's not straight, it's got waves and he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would wear a turban

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you know as insulation from the sun. So he used to wear a turban and the flocks used to come from out under the turban and then he's got a beard Mashallah Guevara Kala majestic beard of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam thick and black and his mustache unlike the rest of the people is trimmed around his lips. So it never protrudes over

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confident, yet modest,

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broad smile with a little gap in his teeth, like in the middle one here, you know.

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And there's a light on his forehead or around the upper part of his nose like it actually

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radiates like, you understand me it's shines you can you can see it.

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So now he is sitting in front of Khadija the Allaha.

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So when she listens to the account, you know and as the accounts finish and he goes

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to his house and he has a simple house

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one of her confidence one of the ladies that visit her or have friends

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notices, you know,

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you know when a person is busy with thoughts somewhere else.

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So

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she talks to her the job of the Allahu anhu.

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And Heidi just shows the lack of an inclination towards

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam but doesn't know if he will accept marriage.

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And they say she was a mother of the a la Honda was a very good looking lady and project

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polls to buy a lot of the men of polish. But she, she was

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should I use the word tired of marriage like in the sense that? Well, time is not a good word. She didn't have good experience in marriage. So she had two husbands. And

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they had either died or you know, it was it was that type of an experience. And now, I am anticipating part of a hesitation is they marry me for my wife.

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So she was hesitant to get involved. But now Mohammed Abdullah

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is here. So she's got she's thinking, and the lady Her name is no phaser

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was her confidante. So she said, leave this with me

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that her friend said, leave this with me. So she left and went to the house of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And when she went to the house looked around simple house. And because the Prophet hadn't inherited wealth from his from his parents, they had died young.

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So she looked around and sees young men and is prime. So she said, Oh, Mohammed, why aren't you getting married? Like, why don't you have a family? So he said, I don't have the means. I don't have the financial means. So she said,

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What if there was means and beauty? And linage?

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Like, what if there is a place where there's where there's money? And there's beauty? And there's lineages? And you know, family is renowned because it was big for the Arabs? So he said, How could that be mine?

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So, the lady said, What do you think of Khadija?

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So, he said, howdy, Joe will marry me. Like, you know, he's, she's my boss, I've just gone on an errand for her.

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So but he realized also that there might be something there, she has come here, you know, you're the prophets, the prophets, intelligent. So he said,

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I am

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from my side of the spine. So she said, I will go speak to Khadija.

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And

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I want to stop here if I may, for a second.

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Or should I go a little bit, a little bit further. So Howdy, JoJo de la Honda.

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accepted.

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Obviously, you know, she was the one that initiated the idea. So she called the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And the Rasool came to her and she

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proposed, if you like,

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and said, wordings differ, but essentially that my cousin because they are related at the distance.

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You know, I like you for your honesty and reliability and the fact that you take the middle path amidst the tribes like whenever there's a war or argument you don't get involved. You try to be a peacemaker. It's it's a good position to take, and for your honesty and uprightness. And she, you know, showed the inclination that she wants to get married, they decided that they will go speak to the family. The Prophet went to his family and Hamza and Abu Talib came with the proposal. The scholars again differ with the hands of the lahab and who proposed or brutality but the one that we will go with is that the older uncle Abu Talib proposed, and it was accepted and Hammerhead was 20

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camels, 20 sheep, camels, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married our mother, her digital, the Allahu Baraka to Allah and

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now the most famous,

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I will stop here, I'll come back to it later. And just remember that I, the most famous, this is where you remind me.

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So

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I just want to touch on this issue of marriage. Because Notice that

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in this instance,

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the way the marriage took place, is through

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someone who worked as a facilitator.

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Someone saw the Gil didn't propose and the boy didn't propose someone can descend. There is a good match

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and

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facilitated that process and a huge hire came out of it in the sense that she is the mother of the believers, the wife of the Prophet of Allah,

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the mother of his children, and without doubt without doubt the most beloved woman to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam years later, years later, young Asia young guy Russia,

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who the Prophet loved, you know, he used to he used she used to ask him

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how is your love for me? Because, you know, they want reassurance and, and she used to test the rasulillah you know, often about about her love for for her eyeshadow the line. So the rule said, like I'm not tight.

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So then every now and again, she's the hell is the knot? So the Prophet is say, Allah, hi, Leah, as it was tight. And once she says, I showed the Lahontan

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that the Abyssinian sword fighters, you know, the the

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demo team, if you like, and our language today

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was showing off the skills in the courtyard of the masjid. And Ayesha wants to see it all the time. So the Prophet looked at and he says, Do you want to watch? So she said, Yes. So he stood at the doorway, open the curtain or the door, stood at the doorway so that his body covers her.

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And she would look over his shoulder and watch

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the sword play.

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And

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she watched and watched and the Russell's obviously getting fired. Like there's only so much swordplay you can watch.

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So he said, Is it enough Asia?

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So she said no. And she says, I wanted to see how much he loves me. But you know, how much will you go out of your way for me? So she says, I noticed him swapping legs, you know, when you lean on this one, and then you lean on this one.

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But he stood there entertaining,

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his wife, Aisha mahana and you know the other stories.

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They had a very special relationship. The Prophet and the Prophet loved our issue of the law and they asked us explicitly they asked us them.

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Man, I have Vanessa la Otto Sula, who was the most beloved of people two of the living so he said Ayesha,

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so they said minerais gel from the menses abou her father.

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So no doubt love that Isha. But I shall have the Allahu anhu asks the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, do you love me more? Or howdy Jen has he has died. So he said no will lie Khadija.

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So he was Dear Dear to the heart of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And, and it came out from you know, a good person trying to

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do some higher between them. So marriages in Islam, it's important to understand this because this cultural illnesses that has gripped us these days,

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that there's there's a few ways marriages can happen and they're all fine. So the first one is this example, where some third party comes in, facilitates asks this one, ask this one, make some hired and Alhamdulillah. The

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next one is the one that is generally accepted. It is the one that everyone knows and we in the West are that way inclined in the east, we're that way inclined, and that is where the boy's family or the boys side proposed to the gills side.

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And there are endless examples of that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam have done it, the US have have done it. And you know, it happens in our day to day lives.

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The third option is

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less known and

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you know,

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less done and they have unfortunately associated a stigma with it.

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And that is for the guild side to propose to the boy side.

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And it is a simple matter of fact that it established in Dean