LifeStyle #27 – Controlling the tongue

Salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu Bismillahirrahmanirrahim Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah he sallallahu alayhi salam and irrespective brothers and sisters Islam, once again welcome to Lifestyle, a daily video series on bringing back in sha Allah Allah Isaiah of Islam, the might of Islam the beauty of Islam as revealed by Allah subhanaw taala in the Quran and throughout the teaching and the practices of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam and the early generations. One reminder insha Allah before we begin, as I announced yesterday Alhamdulillah the book which is based on this very serious lifestyle, reconnecting the OMA back to Islam has been launched yesterday

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lifestyle or part of our lifestyle as Muslims.

And the Hadith in discussion is where the prophets Allah Allah Sanlam mentioned in the lab, the letter Columbia Kalama. Indeed there are or there is a slave who might alter a word a slave may alter a word, Mediterranean via this word was altered thoughtlessly, meaning you did not really think of its gravity. May at a billion years old lluvia Elan now. And as as a result, that person will take this word that he had altered and fool with it into hellfire or Hezbollah at the heart of him vinyl maturity, while mothering and he will fall into hellfire deeper than the distance between the East and the West. One word thoughtlessly how many times we have authored many, many words,

without giving these words much thoughts before we actually slip them out of our mouths. Subhan Allah Allah, this is one of the greatest diseases of our tongue, right to speak thoughtlessly, without giving much attention to what we say. And as such, we heard so many people, divorces happen because of what we say.

bites and quarreling between husbands and wives, between parents and children, between neighbors and each other between friends and colleagues and so on happening because of what we sometimes alter thoughtlessly, without giving it much attention. In fact, my brothers is in fact my my brothers and sisters in stand the Prophet sallallahu Sallam made it very clear, that actually what we say what we alter is a sign of our faith, or the lack thereof. So depending on what you are saying, using your tongue, that what comes out of your mouth would determine whether you're a true believer or otherwise May Allah protect us all the prophets, Allah, Allah, Allah has seldom said, Men can or you

know Billa, he will yell will whosoever believes in Allah and the Last Day fondly upon a year on our leaders, let him say, what is good or otherwise remain silent. The Prophet sallahu wa sallam again, makes it very, very clear that what you say determines your faith, your Eman or the lack thereof of May Allah Subhana Allah protect us all. Imam Shafi May Allah subhanaw taala have mercy upon him. He said, whoever desires to speak, then it is up to him to think before he speaks. It's up to you. It's now because it becomes your choice, your decision to choose these words, and if there's any benefit in what the in what he's about to speak, or what he is about to say, then let him speak it. Let him

talk about it. No worries, don't fear, but whatever that you are about to say, was doubtful. So if you doubted what you're about to say what you're about to alter

And then he must not speak until he clears up his doubt Allahu Akbar, look at this. So you need to think before saying things that may hurt others why the Magellan or the Allah Anwar la came to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam one day and he told him Yasukawa.

Tell me something. Tell me one thing that if I did, I will get closer to Jana and I will stay away from hellfire. So the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, you have asked about great matter of great importance, but it is easy upon those whom Allah subhanaw taala made easy. If you want to get closer to Jana, and stay away from him fight fire do the following. Now I want you to focus with me for a bit why the devil asked for one thing, the prophets Allah Salam listed many, many things. And because the hadith is a bit is a bit lengthy, I will just inshallah give you the brief of it. So the Prophet SAW Selim sector margam agenda about the five pillars. So maintaining the five pillars of

Islam, establishing them very, very firmly. He also spoke about the six pillars of Eman to maintain faith, firm belief in the six pillars of Eman and we don't want to go into the details of the pillars of faith and the pillars of Islam. You know them or go and search them in sha Allah to Allah for refresher. Yeah, but then the process of them went deeper than that. He said.

He talked to him about fasting voluntarily, Monday and Thursday. He said that this is fasting is protection. A day for the sake of Allah in fasting distanced yourself away from hellfire by subgoal in a hurry for by 70 years, Allahu Akbar. He also spoke about the night prayer the optional night prayers, which in another narration, the prophets Allah Sam said the best form of prayers after the obligatory is clear I'm laid and I pray a thorough yet which we call it thoroughly during Ramadan. The prophets Allah Allah has also said in the same Hadith vo Watson M.

The Islam is the backbone is the pillar of our of our affair meaning the most important thing that you should be that you should be very very careful about is your Salah

is your Salah, and then he said the words enamel Islam and jihad. So jihad for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala is the highest peak of this Deen. He listed a lot of items, my brothers and sisters without going into details, but then at the end said, What shall I tell you about one thing you remember he asked about one thing in the beginning. Now the Prophet SAW Salem after listing all of these great actions, prayers, fasting the pillars of Islam, the pillars of Eman, Jihad and so on. He said, Shall I tell you now about one thing that if you did, if you master if you control you can control all the above everything else that we listed. So my other job certainly all messenger of

Allah tell me that one thing he said I'm sick Allah gather, the Prophet SAW Selim held his tongue with his own hand, and he told them control this law Akbar to a point that while the Mujtaba became an hibbett, Yanni worry, or he wandered a bit and he thought, and he asked the Prophet SAW Selim again, ya rasool Allah, O Messenger of Allah, will we be accountable for what we say? And will Allah subhanaw taala hold us accountable judges for our words, so the prophets of salaam became a bit angry, and he said, psychological Omu can live me your mother lose you oh my god, people will be thrown on the faces and hellfire on the account of what we say. controlling our tongue my brothers

and sisters in Islam is a lifestyle that we must master. There is no option Subhanallah and I'll leave there is no option even in Surah o'clock man. Allah subhanaw taala told us that Look man, the wise man he told the sun and be moderate in your in your pace and lower your voice Do not speak so loudly we mentioned this is Andy in this the most of all disagreeable hatred of all sounds is the voice of the donkeys referring to unnecessary loud voice to that extent. To that extent we are very disciplined people. Muslims should be very disciplined in their manners

and loud voice using your tongue in allowed nasty voice sometimes or as a biller shouting, abusing or accusing people and so on using your tongue Be careful. Allah subhanaw taala will not let that go. In fact, the Prophet saw some said there is a guarantee. Allah Allah's Messenger guarantee Janna for those people who control the tongue Subhanallah the prophets Allah Allah as Sam said, Whoever can guarantee me what is between his legs or

her legs and what's between his star he's Jos I guarantee him Jana Allahu Akbar, meaning that if you use your tongue in a in a in a appropriate manner, you speak that which is good orderliness. Husna always speak to people that which is good that which is beautiful. And also ever guarantee means just study or her chastity meaning never ever use your private part in an unlawful manner. The prophets Allah Allah is Allah said what? I guarantee such a person Jana, and that's a guarantee from a sadaqa I mean, this is a guarantee from the most truthful, the most honest and you know, trustworthy Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, what else do you want?

The prophets Allah Sam said Do not talk too much without remembering Allah, meaning when you engage in too much unnecessary conversation that does not include the remembrance of Allah Subhanallah Ali, what did the Prophet SAW said about that he said, Indeed, excessive talk without remembering Allah hardens the heart. And indeed, the furthest people from Allah subhanaw taala are those who are hard hearted.

Those who are harsh in their hearts and what what results into in this talking too much unnecessarily without remembering Allah subhanaw taala remember, remember these things. This is part of who we are as Muslims, this is our lifestyle, to control our tongue as as much as possible. The prophets Allah said, When the Son of Adam wakes up in the morning, all these body parts make a speech, Allahu Akbar, this these are authentic relations, my brothers and sisters, those who wish to get the exact references, you can always drop a comment and inshallah we'll read it as much as possible, email me or send me a private message, and I'll give you all the details and Inshallah, in

the book that will be published very soon, you will see all these references being added in sha Allah time. But the professor said, what, every morning when the son of Adam wakes up, all the body parts all his body organs, make a speech to him. Make a speech, sorry, addressing the tongue, Allahu Akbar. Look at the importance of this piece of flesh. They said that the tongue is so has no bones, but it is strong enough to break a heart. The tongue has no bones, but it is strong enough to break a heart. That's why the process of saying what the entire body limps, make a speech addressing the tongue saying what it taught the law fina fear Allah concerning us. Fear Allah concerning us. Why?

Because in stoccata, is the Aamna were either our just our judgment because when you are straight, we are straight, when you are crooked, we are two are crooked, we follow whatever the tongue does, the entire body, limbs and body organs follow. So if the tongue is straight and speaking that which is good, engaging the time of human beings engaging our time in the remembrance of Allah subhanaw taala using our tongue to remember Allah instead of saying foul language, lying, gossiping, backbiting all these ill diseases, well, as well as our beloved have destroyed our community.

Then the body parts will follow in obedience toward Allah subhanho wa taala, backbiting gossiping, slandering, tale mongering rumors, lying, character assassination, useless conversations Allahu Akbar, creating divisions rather than unity. All these things can happen with our tongue. That's why Allah subhanaw taala warned us is a male for human colon in the year RP Bonati, Marylebone few domain colon that every individual does not alter a word, account singular, whole Illa here are people it they said that there is an observer on his right and on his left and observer and a watcher to record whatever we say whatever we alter, so it's not a simple manner. Matter. It's not

that easy to just say whatever you wish or whatever you desire. May Allah subhana wa Taala protect the soul. So why Can people really control the tongue like what is the main problem number one, heedlessness, they are heedless to that fact to these facts that we just mentioned. Free time that is not utilized in the remembrance of Allah subhanaw taala pre times that are focused mostly on entertainment and just passing the time

by passing the time and that's why the prophets Allah Selim said,

especially about backbiting because this is one of the main issue that is prevalent in every society Muslim community or otherwise. The prophets Allah Salah when he was asked, what is backbiting?

Do you know what is backbiting you?

was talking to the Companions. So and then he defined it to them You said to say, in the absence of your brother or system, what if they heard about, they will be hurt. That's the definition of backbiting, to say something about your brother or or your sister in their absence that if they heard at the time of narrating whatever you're saying about them, it will really hurt them. So they said to the process of selling, but what if we said about them was true, we will not lying about them. He said, If what you said about them was true, it is backbiting and if it was not, then it is slandering, it is double crime, it is double crime. So backbiting can be committed in variety of

ways because some people are very smart, it can happen verbally, it can happen also on social media writing, texting, spreading rumors online, you know, it can even happen through winking, you know your wink just in the absence of somebody else or when they give you the back then you went to somebody else mocking mocking them, you know, using sign language Subhanallah all the all these can be in a category of backbiting your brothers or sisters gossiping is another disease gossiping, it means to relate to one group of individual what the other group has said about them and then spread it to a third party. So you hear something and then you take that and then you spread it to other

people Subhanallah to create fitna it is also related to backbiting but it's not exactly the same. And that's why Allah subhanaw taala warned us in the Quran. Yeah, y'all Adina Amano detainee boo Kathy Ramona Vaughn in Nevada Vaughn the eighth Walter just says who well I oughta bother come Baba, are you Hello? Hello coma Yeah, could Allah He made him forget it two more Bacala in the lotta web rahang Oh, you believe avoid must suspicion, you know or assumptions. Indeed, in some assumptions, lie some sins and do not spy or bad bite each other labor?

Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his own brother of his own dead brother? No, you would hate it and fear Allah. Indeed Allah subhanaw taala is the one who accepted repentance while only call you home as long as Allah subhanaw taala warned off a punishment for those who slandered and but bite Allahu Akbar. Look at this walleye, my brothers and sisters and slamming every and every Hadith I mentioned we should be sharing our skin inside out. Our entire body should react to those narrations. Why because we all fall short.

In what I'm just saying. We all fall short. We all back by we all gossips. We all talk about people because we love juicy news. We love Juicy, juicy stories. And sometimes we can't even stop people from backbiting because we ourselves enjoy these conversations. May Allah protect us all and forgive our sins? I mean our Blimey.

We mentioned in another donation I'm not sure if it was in this series or some other videos that people who will be tortured in the grave two categories of people the Prophet SAW Salem was passing by and he pointed at two graves and he said you have the Bernie on either end if he Kabira they are being punished and they are punished in something that is not considered as major sin. But because they didn't repent it became a major sin. What are these two things One was not able to clean himself up after urination so he leaves traces of urine on his garments or or on his flesh. And the other one he used to gossip. He used to gossip Can I am shaving Amina? He used to walk his lifestyle

was all about minima gossiping while I had the biller

excuse me, gossiping while I had the biller, the Prophet saw someone in another relationship what layer calling Janet and a man full stop a person who gossips does not enter Jannah that's why it is a lifestyle for the believers to control this piece of flesh.

That's why the process LM held it with his hand is a control this this is what I feel for you the most the process Sam said the tongue May Allah protect us all ya Malala mean May Allah subhanaw taala grant is the right understanding. Now let us quickly practically discuss about

how to control our tongues like how to practice controlling the tongue. How can we develop a habit of controlling Lesson number one always remind yourself of the consequences the deadly consequences of such sins, of gossiping, of backbiting of lying the processes and the most hateful of all Ill manners in the side of the process I was lying. Now one thing that he did not tolerate at all is lying. Remind yourself of those things. Educate yourself about the consequences of not being able to control your tongue contemplate

So, before speaking, remind people in your midst in your circles, that if you saw me backbiting persons people without realizing it, because it's a habit remind me to stop encourage each other family members and make it make it the policy within your you know circles that anyone would back by the other one must stop them before proceeding. Yes, develop the habit of occupying your free time with beneficial activities engage in the remembrance of Allah reading one of the things that we need to develop is reading because social media have taken that you know habit from us away from us away from reading books holding a physical book or an ebook at least and read read watch Islamic

reminders Islamic beneficial lectures, right if you like to write Yes, maintaining good company will always mean whenever we given advice we always tell you maintain righteous companies because the prophets awesome said a person will always be inclined to follow his or her friend.

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and finally, my brothers and sisters, Sam, always remember to give sort of how to spoke about earlier whenever you harm your friends or your neighbors or anyone with your tongue. Always remember to give something out on their behalf in case you were not able to make it right with them physically and meet them physically. Remember, the Prophet Muhammad Salah said sallam said that there was a lady who used to harm a cat and she used to lock her in her home. Subhan Allah Alim and she did not even send her outside to eat from the streets from the rubbish beings and so she just locked her in. And as a result of such behavior such a lady was in hellfire this one story just I

remember this story because of a really relevant story of another lady who used to harm her neighbors with her tongue. And the Prophet SAW Selim when he was reminded of such a lady who used to pray Allah to use the faster Allah to use to give charity. He said what law higher Have you had you have in our there is no goodness in such a lady. She is in hellfire with all her Salah with all her Zakah with all her fasting with all our Ibadah because she harms her neighbor with her tongue she was thrown and destined to hellfire. To that extent. That's why I said what controlling our tongues is one of the most important part of our lifestyle as believers. May Allah grant us the right

understanding. May Allah subhanaw taala enable us almost to say that which is pleasing to Him and prevent us always from saying that which is displeasing to Him. I mean, I mean, I mean just I can lock on my brothers and sisters instead I'm looking forward to seeing you tomorrow in sha Allah with another episode of lifestyle that Malachite before leaving, please share the video with others so that you may share the reward with all of us, meaning our blanning Desert Lachlan once again, Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi over again.