Girls are driving me crazy #03 – The Land of True Love

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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a lot be shortly so do a silly Emory law cadet Emily's any of our Allah Subhana Allah Allah Milena Illa Allah antenna in Naka Antonio Hakim, my brothers and sisters in Islam welcome I think to the third part of our course. Girls are driving me crazy this session in Charlotte Allah will be one of the shortest sessions in this course title the land of true love. And that is Jenna and Charlottetown Just let me greet you and see your comments before we get started in sha Allah.

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How to do that? I don't know yet but shallow trickle down. Yep.

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Watching from Kuwait already Mariam de la handful coming over, Melissa. Hi, Somali como la.

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All right, we will be just

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reminding everyone.

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Even while Ibrahim is in the comments, Pamela who's doing that

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insha Allah Allah will be reminding you that this course is to be found in the previous sessions. If you haven't watched part one, part two, part three. I think we have three videos in this course so far. If you haven't watched them, you can visit our YouTube channel or you can watch them on the same page while Ibrahim

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the YouTube channel is breaking the cycle or break the cycle, where you can also find the 31 episodes that we have posted during the month of Ramadan about breaking the cycle of pornography addiction and other undesirable sexual

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activities.

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Yes, I think something is going slowly but we'll figure it out. I'm brina Bezier, Somali calm and Salaam to all the brothers and sisters from Karachi Pakistan. Looking forward to see you soon in Charlottetown. Alright, let's get started. Today I want to start with four stories that are all related or all linked to Jenna paradise and that is the which I call it according to today's session the only place that you can see or you can taste or you can find really true love genuine love.

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The land of true love and that is gender. The first story is the lady who came to the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she was suffering from epilepsy. And she used to move in when she you know experienced that seizure. May Allah subhanaw taala save us all. She would move in a way that her her clothes will be uncovered and parts of her body will be exposed. So she came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam telling him

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pray for me pray to Allah subhanho wa Taala so that he can cure me cure me so the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam told her, you could either be patient, you can either be patient, with your sickness and in return Allah subhanho wa Taala will admit you to gentlemen, or if you wish, I could also pray for you. So the prophet SAW Selim Salah he gave her a choice. You want me to pray for you, Allah will cure you easy, but you want to be patient. You know for for these years that you will remain alive in this dunya allow it give you in return in exchange of this sickness. Jen Allahu Akbar, what was the choice of this lady? Jenna was the choice of course, who would replace general

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something else with something very low. So she said Jenna I would be patient. But then she asked the professor sell them at least they are a pseudo law, pray to Allah subhanaw taala that when I suffer from that seizure, my buddy will not be exposed. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam pray for that. Look at the lady. She was very concerned that you know she she wanted to protect one of the you know the precious thing in that lady owned and that is her body. So Pamela lovely. But look, the lady did not request for cure, because she knew that this dunya is just temporary. At the end she will experience gender the land of true peace and love. The other story is the story of the first martyrs

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in Islam Al Asad, the family of Yes And may Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah be pleased with them.

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When the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam in the beginning of his mission was spreading Islam and talking to the people in Mecca. Those were the first among the first people who embrace Islam the family of Yasser and so upon Allah allow them as a result of the execution and torture in Makkah back then for anyone or towards anyone who declared that God is one of Mohammed Salah Salim is the Messenger of Allah. They were killed, they were executed and the prophet SAW

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A lot of selama looked at their bodies and he was grieved and he was sad he told them what sub Bron la acid in them are either can either

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be patient or family of Yasser For indeed our appointment date or our time would be in general subbrand Be patient or

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family of Yes sir. Remember my brother and sister he was talking to dead people. He was telling them be patient so Paula lied all the time. How about us the living, how much more patients should we endure when we you know face some challenges and some difficulties. Their challenge was actually execution that yet the prophet SAW Selim was reminding them that don't worry, Jenna, is our final abort insha Allah tala, the third

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story related to gender is the the people of Medina when they first meet the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they were having a deal that we will protect you. But what will you give us in return because they knew that once they declared their protection or allegiance to the prophet SAW Selim, they are actually were indirectly waging war against the people who punish the people who are actually trying to hunt the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and his companions. They wanted to excuse him, they wanted to, to end the message of Islam. So they wanted to know what will they get in return? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam looked at them, and he said one word and that was what, Jen

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and they accepted the offer one word, gender, because gender for them was reality was something tangible, they can see it, they can sense it, they can feel it, they can smell it. Do you remember that companion, who actually in the battlefield, my brothers and says, I want you to visualize this in the battlefield. He said, what one law he I could smell Jen behind that mountain. And suppiler law Elohim once the battle was over the found him dead behind that mountain, which he pointed at another companion, came to the prophet SAW Selim and he was new Muslim, he didn't pray much he didn't do the guy didn't go to Hajj, he was a new Muslim. He the prophet SAW Selim was distributing

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the, the the spoil of wars and he gave him you know, part of that, you know, when I am or dispose of war, and he came to the prophet SAW, a bit disturbed a bit a bit angry, he said, Well, ah, he, I did not embrace Islam for these things that you gave me. I embraced Islam so that I could fight for the sake of Allah. And I get an arrow right here and he pointed as his throat and I die for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. He said, If you are truthful, if you are really truthful and sincere about your request, allow me to give you what you asked for. And guess what after the battle was over, the companions carried him to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam with an with an arrow in his throat. And the

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processor was so shocked and surprised. He said, Who is that the same man who was talking to me a while ago? He said, Yes, he's the same man. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Saba kala, who for South Africa, he was very sincere and truthful to Allah. And as a result, Allah gave him what you want, if you wanted to recover from any addiction will lie the strongest of all addictions, if you are sincere, and truthful, Allah subhanho wa Taala will take you out of your difficulty, just take a step forward towards that change. But look at the beauty of the companions, and their sincere faith in that thing that they have never seen ever, gentlemen, for them, they could sell out anything

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including their own lives like the family of Yasser, in exchange of what Jenna lahug but the fourth story I have here is the companion who came to the prophet SAW Selim, and again, I'm so passionate about this because you know, it's upon Allah, if I had the chance to sit with the prophet SAW Selim to request something from him, I will have a long list to enhance the profits or sell them off. But look at this panel law, this companion came to the prophet

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and he told him the process and and told him sell me ask Allahu Akbar, this is the end the Prophet was sitting with the companion and all of a sudden the process seller looked at the man and he told himself when he asked me, asked me anything, the man asked him I asked you to be your companion in gym to be just right next to you in general. So panel, I love him the prophet SAW Selim seems like he loves that man so much he told him, is there anything else? Anything else you need? is a no no, that's it. That's it. What else would you want other than Jen now other than the companionship of the Prophet Mohammed Salah liason as you can see, the lady preferred, you know, her sickness over,

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you know,

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she she preferred to be sick in this dunya in exchange of gender. And other people died, all of them the family members died in exchange of gender.

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This man's

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Upon a lot of time here the process of unfolding asked me anything is it only gentlemen the people of Medina you know the sacrifice their lives for the sake of Mohammed Solomon his message in exchange of gentlemen? How about you my brothers and sisters in Islam? Will you not sacrifice your desire for the sake of gender? Will you not sacrifice this haraam activities? For the sake industry? For the sake of gentlemen, will you not leave these secretive sins and secretive activities and boyfriends and girlfriends and chatting with the opposite gender unnecessarily? For the sake of gentlemen,

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if you really sincerely believe that this is something, you know,

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true, and that Allah subhanaw taala when he mentioned gender in the Quran was speaking the truth.

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And that when Mohammed Salim promised us gentlemen, he was promising us the truth. They didn't have to do something in Sharla I want to see your comments because I can see Mashallah, it's pouring with comments. And then we'll continue in sha Allah Allah let me smilla

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where are the people?

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Marshall, a lot of watercolor. We have Janice from Manila. We have chef for him. I don't know from where, but how are you brother Welcome to the broadcast, we have Hamid no matter what life throws at you remain kind and compassionate, I mean to that inshallah will juice be thankful May Allah subhanaw taala make us thankful because the promise of shaitan is that he will deviate as he will cause us to deviate. And he told me he promised Allah subhanaw taala according to the next generation in the Quran, that while it didn't act on shaqiri, that you will not find the majority of your slaves are thankful. So our duty as much as Muslims is to show gratefulness by means of what by

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means of obeying Allah Subhana Allah and His Messenger

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Marshal a lot of article on

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Mir or Meyer love for the law is important. Absolutely love for the sake of Allah is very, very important. And actually, this is what we wanted to discuss briefly, the love that we should have in this dunya even for your wife, even for your husband should be Allah for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala I know of couples who actually got married with one intention, and they didn't have emotions for each other. They were introduced by parents and the people in the community and spatola when they meet for the first time, they said, what, let's get married for one reason so that we can actually establish a righteous Muslim families to aid one another to be engender. That was the

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intention. So how about the love, I love you, I love you too. I love you three, and the romance and the songs and the, you know, the pinky stuff. All these things came later on, all these things came along. And I'm not suggesting that all marriages work this way. If you have seen someone that you know, your heart pumping you, you know, you felt emotions and stuff like that, no problem, you can approach you know the person in the right way with supervision of others until he or she are your Hillel, then you could enjoy whatever you want to enjoy. But so long as you're not married, my brothers and sisters, keep the boundaries, keep the boundary this is you know, safe for everyone.

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And hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen Let's be patient a lot harder. That's the word that I want to hear from the Muslim community. Every time a lie, no exaggeration, even today, in my classes. The word patient is as soon as you You see, you say patient, you

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know, this is you know,

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a lie My brothers and sister. You know, I've been talking about patience for so long and and I wanted to speak on my hope but tomorrow what patients what I'm afraid because I'm worried that the people say enough patients, man, we've been patients for so long. Once you say that, once you say this statement, I've been patient for so many years. No, well, no, for sure for certain that you've never been patient.

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Because patients by definition is that when things become so tough, when you reach up to that, you know, level of you can't bear any more. That's where he should wait a little bit more than usual. Allahu Akbar. That's patience. That's patient. And this is the key for Jen one of the keys to gender is subber patience. So it's, you know, today is all about the land of love, gentlemen. And in order to achieve that, love each other for the sake of Allah, love your wife, love your future wife, even if you don't know her yet, love her for the sake of Allah. So Allah subhanaw taala can enrich your life with love, because the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam told us and we mentioned this hadith

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in another session, that once Allah loves you, he called the entire angels in our creation to love you. And once that happen, you're a winner, Allahu Akbar Imagine if the entire creation love unit. So when you exchange that for

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Something low at a step deluna lady who added the lady who hydrolysed Dyson locker and really replace that which is very low by that which is very, very good and better. Really Will you replace Jen now something low something will will be vanished will will die out. Be clever. do business like those people? They have done the best deal with the Prophet sallallahu sallam, that's the deal that will never go to waste, gentlemen. Oh yeah, I'm sick. I will remain sick the rest of my life but at the end I need gentlemen. That's what I want. Yeah, the professor selaku me Allah killed the lady finished. And once she sees herself, you know, fit and beautiful and so you don't know what could

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happen spamela shaitan could come and destroy the entire path of that ladies panel Lyla leap. So she was very smart. Say you know what? I will remain patient and exchange of gender. Will you sacrifice that desire tonight my brothers and sisters? Will you put filters on your computer to protect yourself and your family members from any inappropriate website that could invade you and invade your brain and invade your Eman? Will you do that tonight? That's the challenge sacrifice anything tonight my brothers and sisters for the sake of gentlemen, let me read more comments in sha Allah to Allah

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excuse me

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Do I for all pwd children with Deborah

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Janice I didn't get that to be honest. I don't know what what do you mean by pwd May Allah subhanaw taala Annie protect all our children, the whole all children in the world I mean,

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Bravo, yen and Cho Bravo to you that you are here to humble Allah wish you luck. I mean wish all the Muslims blessings not luck and we don't we don't want luck. We want the blessings of Allah Subhana Allah. I can't imagine what kind of patient they had. Yeah, Allah help us to have beautiful patient I mean, sovereign Jamia Allahu Akbar inspiring vegan hungry. lamea last month Allah accept from all of us.

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I mean, at least it is this from a law love is one of the test. Absolutely. I agree. Marshall a lot of work a great participation. My brothers and sisters. Thank you, brother. I'm listening. Currently at hospital I love my mother. She is in ICU. He relies on a mercial Allah May Allah subhanaw taala increase. Jani your your level of obedience to your parents I mean almost pantalla cure your mom. And may Allah subhanaw taala. Yani inshallah next next week, we may hear that she's out of the hospital and doing well I mean,

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persons with disabilities, or persons with disabilities upon Allah.

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May Allah subhanaw taala save all our children, and I would never call anyone disabled, I call them Abel differently. And this is the term that I love the most. And I learned it from someone with ability in a different way. And I heard it from someone who's in a wheelchair paralyzed and I'm not disabled, I'm able in a different way in a unique way. So they are not disabled Allah subhanaw taala created them in this fashion for a reason for test for them for us. May Allah grant everyone insha Allah to Allah. cure a maleness panatela replace this with Jenna at the end I mean

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watching from Philippines Philippines Watch out we're coming soon in sha Allah to Allah. A lot of people from Philipines, Masha, Allah, Allah Abdul Abdullah wa see or up the wall see.

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Praying for all of you in sha Allah May Allah Subhana Allah protect all of us Emiliano

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excuse me

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Will being a las panatela and believe that all martial arts America law so as you can see my brothers in martial law the comments are Pakistan Philippines

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muscle a lot of work alone I feel that I don't have patient

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jazak Allah May Allah bless you beautiful beautiful ally insights and comments and if you have some questions now you start posting your questions inshallah. But this is what I wanted to talk about today in the description of gender in I'm not going to describe gender to you briefly just briefly, what has been prepared for those who will inshallah to Allah protect themselves from falling into these haram activities. A Lost Planet Allah spoke of agenda enough the professor cylinder, his description alone will lie. One of the things that Yanni shook me to the core is the description of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam Fie her merline on raw water, Walla

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Walla, Walla, Walla, when I write these down, I wrote this hadith down a couple of times. In general, there are that which no eyes have ever seen.

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Seen and no ears have ever heard look at the description and never cross human imagination. Okay? The senses you know that the eyes We can see a lot of beautiful things and we you know we feel amazed at looking at beautiful greenery stuff in the sky, the beauty, the beauty of the beaches in the oceans and I like I love snorkeling I look down and once I get into the deep water and they look at the fish in the creation of Allah subhanaw taala I get like you know blocage from the entire world I just focus on what I'm seeing underneath the ocean beautiful

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all this you know, when we hear that there'll be oceans in general river the rivers of milk and rivers of honey and rivers of this and that. How will they look like? You don't know because the prophet SAW Selim said nothing is comparable to what's in Jen nothing even that the sound that you're hearing now. Even your own voice, even the language things will be entirely different things that never cross human imagination.

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Allow or lie when I hear this Yanni and there's another narration where the prophet SAW Samson a loss it added to the eye body

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loss that I have prepared for my slaves Danny Jenna is prepared by a loss of Panasonic designed and made but lost peloton, feet merline rod what no eyes have ever seen no ears have ever heard and never cross human imagination. Will you replace that with filth? Will you replace that with haram with secretive acts will with this obedience of to Allah subhanaw taala Yes, I know that we will fall we will commit mistakes we will do wrong. That's that's understandable. The prophet SAW Selim said khulumani Adam hapa all the children of Adam are sinners by nature we will fall Well hi we'll hop into the second half you know the second part of this hadith is the most important and the best

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of all sinners are those who often repent immediately go back go back cold call out to scholars imams you know parents your brothers your sisters in the community to help you out if you have this sort of addiction

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you know when I look at Saratoga last year, one of the one of the chapters that I decided to read during slothful I had lost you know lost it and I made mistake in it and I was so bad and I was so sad because I love imagining gender through the soul. So when I made a mistake and oh my god this surah like I repeated a lot and I made a mistake I was so sad but the part that I love the most in general Allah subhanaw taala is describing fee have I known geria in general there is that flowing spring and when I when I when I reflect over this ayah alone I imagine like you know a beautiful beach because I love beaches and every time we plan me and my wife me and my family planning to go

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for an outing or a vacation beaches are always on the list where that's the thing but when we go there we enjoy looking at the ocean we enjoy looking at the birds coming at the at the seashore to you know to hunt for small fishes you know it's beautiful to observe after a feather you just sit relax look at the beach of course drink coffee which brother didn't offer me today

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joking bro

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so but the ocean is beautiful in the look at the poor and telling you the fee I knew Jerry there are beaches there there are water flowing but how they look like do they look like today's beaches absolutely not beautiful and then fi has sorauren marpha

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in general there are that these thrones that are you know leveled up high res up high. It reminds me of the romantic you know see sitting arrangement you know when you sit in a romantic manner I was in Maldives me and my family one day and they invited us for dinner and when we entered the you know they told us the dinner is on the beach so we thought there will be a table on the beach and so on. But we went there actually it was designed in the sand the dining table was actually the same the see things were the sense the dig it in a way to make like you know seating arrangement and the table itself was the sand. It was so beautiful. What will happen if we want something similar to

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this in general Allahu Akbar, Allah will design it for you in a way that you could never imagine. Just Just sacrifice your designs you Get Genuine iqueryable, Moldovan and drinking cups you know placed for you, they will fly up to your mouth to drink something from a las panatela as preparation for you, law bar. And many people there. You know today, some of the students they say Brother, you know, whenever we watch a movie and this is the problem with watching

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Move your life whenever we watch a movie we see a guy coming with this is a handle of water yeah and he because I don't want people to say oh stuff a lot brother is acting as if he's drinking alcohol. But the the see people coming with with glass of wine and beer and whiskey and all these haram drinks. And then they say that

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when we see them drinking the movies, after the movie, we feel like you we wanted to have an experience of this, you know, because it's cool. They say the the hold it in a certain way. You know, the chair and the you know, all these things. It's Haram in Islam. So, but it excited us in a way that we wanted to experience the same thing is that how long

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is that? How long?

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You know, there is a scholar who said that,

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that your happiness with the Haram is even severe than the Haram itself, then the act itself.

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For a hooker with them be a shed the mean of them. Like when you do the sin, even when you do the sin, if you're happy doing the sin, your happiness is even severe than the sin itself. There are people who commit the sin and they feel guilty. There are other people who commit the sin and they boast about it. They are happy about it.

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They are happy while I there was a girl, nanny. Just a while ago we were talking and while we were talking we were talking about the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and I was mentioning something amazing about the Prophet. You know what she What did she say? She say, Oh, this guy was amazing. So I looked at her I said and she's a Muslim. I say I Are you referring to the prophet SAW said yes. Is he? Isn't he a guy? And she started to argue with me about you know, that he's a guy he's a man he's Isn't he a guy? What? What's wrong with that? So panela even the wife of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam will call him What? Or messenger of Allah, his wife, she will not call him honey. You know,

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I'm not saying that you you don't call your husband this, but look at the level of respect to the man who was chosen by a law not by, you know, voting by themself to to lead this own man, someone who's just born yesterday, we'll call him a guy. What a shame What a shame. So spatola we have to be very careful of these things. So

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in lilla, he were in La La Jolla and i was when i when i remember this i was i was really distressed. So Jenna, my brothers and sisters in Islam, the whole thing today is about inshallah, making a decision at a step deluna lady who are Adena? biLlahi, who Allah is asking in the Quran, certain groups of people who have who Allah subhanaw taala gave them blessings. And yet they asked for something else. Allah gave them something they didn't like it their desires did not like it. their wants and whims didn't like it. So they asked for more. So Allah asked them at a step deluna lady who Adena the lady who a hive, do, you want to replace that which is really very low with that

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which I am giving you and it is better for you? Don't you know that this is better for you. So the brothers who are asking about the wine and we feel like you know, brother will lie, he will lie. Patience is the key.

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Patience is the key for this.

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And this, I think, I think this is the first time I'm saying that. Cyber is the only solution for this. If we don't develop patience, if we don't know what is patience, then we will never get out of our problems. We will never get rid of our addiction to all sorts of things. I was reading a book a day ago. It's called

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law teens and their screens or something like that. And even the title and it caught my attention I started reading the book The author is arguing that's upon the law if the teens don't develop patience waiting for for you know, waiting for the demand to hold their screens and to to to view these things they will never be able to control the desires in the future on anything else. Anything else you will be wanting wanting wanting wanting wanting because you can't even leave your phone for five minutes. You feel like you know you're you're you're you have some some diarrhea or something you can't you can't wait you can't hold yourself from leaving the phone. So So Pamela, even the

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Westerners, even non Muslims, they're asking you to be patient. But Allah told us that long long time in law her the most but one of the most popular verses in the Quran in Allaha, ma sabreen. a las panatela will be with those who are patient.

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And whosoever Allah decides to be with no one will you go against no one Nothing will go against you. If If Allah is with you, who can go against you, Pamela, what could destroy you If Allah is with you, so patience is

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The key

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spawn ally labin

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willingness to be told, what we do not know is the true pledge of growth both in knowledge and wisdom.

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Zaid Zubaydah have just joined welcome but we are about to wrap up in Sharla if you don't have questions we will wrap up soon

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but inshallah you can always go back to the recording Charla Let me drink what was going to say wines

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shall allow me a lot quench our thirst in general with all the drinks that he had prepared for us and me now Blimey.

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But I want you my brothers and sisters to have Danny I don't know how to come up with a

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hashtag for this session. But but the motto of this session at noon and levy who are attainability who are hired this verse in Surah Baqarah would you replace that which is very, very low with that which is better than I prepared for you. So if if anyone genius can come up with a hashtag short hashtag, they can actually give us that meaning.

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Then we can share this message and share these videos. So this is one of the things that I wanted to mention inshallah. Kindly whoever is listening to us whoever thinks that this session was beneficial. You think that other people will benefit in sha Allah to Allah, let's say Bismillah in your intention, and share it on your profile, and inshallah, in perhaps that, that sharing that chair action in itself will be a stair for you towards gender in sha Allah to Allah. Life has become a prison due to all sorts of restrictions.

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What about those who are patient? Don't sin but the life has become a prison

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your question is a bit vague sister What do you mean that life become like prison? What does that mean? If you if you have something like you know, personal, you can show a law? send me a private message with clarification of the question, then I will give you the answer. But I don't know what do you mean but by people whose life become like prison, I don't really know what you mean. May Allah Subhana Allah make it easy restrictions from husbands restrictions from family. Don't do that. Don't do this. Again, you let us be more clear in Sharla if it's a personal matter, you can always contact me and the promises I always get back to people who contact me and handle

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jack law hide on my brothers and sisters, any I will give it a minute or two. If you don't have any questions. We will end the session here next week in Sharla. On Thursday, same time we would have the last session of this course and these were the I think six advice. Let me just yes six advice given by one of my one of my teachers

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regarding this matter of desires love and

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restrictions on desires a lot of restrictions on desires. Actually there is no restrictions on desires there are there there are guidelines on how to use these desires in a lawful manner. It's like as a as we said earlier in Ramadan you are you are commanded to control your desire of hunger. You're commanded the heart of the hell the halal water becomes Haram in the day of Ramadan and apple and innocent orange becomes Haram in the day of Ramadan You can't eat it, you are required your requirements is to hold your desires for a period of time that's it. So Ramadan was given to us as a training camp so that we can control bigger desires later on. Even in Ramadan, your halaal wife

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becomes haraam on you upon you. And your Hillel husband becomes her home for you during the day of Ramadan. That's that's just a training for later on so that the entire leader can be balanced. You could control now, if you control yourself from the Hillel

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if you control yourself from the very Hillel your own higher you you're you're restricted yourself, then how much easy easier the process of controlling yourself from the heart on people lowering your gaze from those who are not lawful to you to look at lowering you you know abstaining from that will you know the consumption of haraam drinks haraam smoke and so on. So, all the desires are Lost Planet Allah has given us with a direction your sexual desire is only for your spouse. That's that's the direction. There is no restriction here. I don't see that as a restriction. In fact, we comply with all worldly restriction restrictions without the question without a question that you go to the

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doctor you have some pain here has some issues here. The doctor writes for

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Your prescription telling you to eat this. Take these tablets three times a day, each time two tablets every four hours every six hours. Then you go home What do you do? You actually you make an alarm

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to remind you of the next tablet. You follow the doctor's you know instructions without a doubt without a question Why? Because you trust him? How about Allah subhanaw taala Don't you trust Allah? Don't you believe that he is the the creator of all and he knows better. So upon Allah, we go on an airplane that they tell you fasten your seat belt to you know, open the shade, open that window, and we don't know why. Why they always tell us put the window up, put the window down. Now I know why. But I mean, earlier we just follow without even a question because we believe we have developed that trust that these are the leaders if we don't follow them, we might end up in trouble. True or false?

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My brothers and sisters in Islam, we follow all these restrictions without a question without a any argument. Yet when it comes to Allah, we question him spatola

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How about the singles? Is it okay to talk online? You see, the singles the process of selling told us or Yama[???]a, or young people, single people, Whosoever amongst you is able to get married, get married quickly. Push your parents Yes, go to your parents and talk to them. Don't do heroin behind the back end didn't say Oh, they don't they will not allow us we don't know if they will allow us go and tell them. Honestly. Now it's the time to speak honestly to our parents. Tell them you don't want if if you don't facilitate the halaal for me, Haram is going to be easy. And this is not a justification for you to go to do the Haram Jani. Don't be smart. I talked to them brother. Now I'm

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going online. And he be smart, be smart and be wise and be sincere. Do it with sincerity Allah will test you anyway. And things will be difficult anyway, whether you're married or single things will be difficult.

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So talk to them open up, talk to the you know the people around the community work hard, work hard. involve yourself in too many things to be busy so that you don't think in the home until you are stable on your feet in sha Allah and you can provide for your wife or you can you know you learn about the responsibilities the roles the rights that we talked about, I think in the first session, when you when you're ready to relax, do the holiday and be careful my brother if you're a brother, after the marriage, the challenges are there. You will be looking at you know the girls outside I will say Brother, what do we do there are many girls outside the billboards, the movies that I

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watch, see the challenges will not be over once you get married. Be careful the challenges that the the desires will be there. Once you are with your wife after three months, four months, six months, you got used to each other you will feel a house you're bored now you want something else while I add the villa. So the challenges your wife You married her in a particular shape. After a while she gained weight she you know she became pregnant, she her look changed, you will also change if you are getting married just for this then in alila he will in the Ilayaraja own then everything will be you know in the wrong direction. So be careful.

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So the bottom line Sister Maria, if you going online is absolutely Hillel if you don't talk to the opposite gender Yeah.

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When I'm watching bad things and that time Islamic commands are also in my mind. But I take them aside and do the sin. Yanni May Allah forgive us all. And I don't want you to to refer to yourself as a sinful person or that you did this Yanni let's let's talk in general terms. But yes, there are people who reached that point you know and they think of a last command sometimes people will email me they say we will be hearing even further than and we are on the internet watching pornography on either Billa and they will ignore the other one and we will continue watching because those those who have reached that level they are badly addicted and badly infected their hearts is is now rusted

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you know they need to polish that heart and I have a whole course hopefully inshallah we can bring it to light one day it's called restart your heart where we are dealing with this how can we you know restart our hearts so that we can inshallah maintain our level of steadfastness fastness on the straight path.

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Salaam, brother, whoever persist in being patient, God will make impatient Allahu Akbar manyata sabar use of Allah

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His brother reminded me of a hadith the prophet SAW Selim said, Who ever pretend to be patient Oh, you give him patience. So upon Allah, what does it mean? pretend not to act out but to do your best to be patient, even if you can't stand the situation, persist. Do your best to be patient. You know, complain to somebody whom you trust, talk to someone, don't don't keep these things, you know for yourself, otherwise, you will explode on your own. That's why the concept of Jamal being together is amazing. You know, even gentlemen that we talked about today, one I said Zamora. In our last panel Subhana Allah grant us to intergender in groups even entering general will be in groups provided

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that you have spent time with your brothers and sisters together on upon the obedience of Allah subhanaw taala together, you will intergender together inshallah. So the concept of Jamal is very important it protects us from falling into the hauntings.

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How about the reverts where we can ask help to get married, ask us, my sister Sharla asked me We will direct you to beautiful sisters. I don't know if you are in Philippines or in Hong Kong or in Malaysia or we will direct you to the right channels, right sisters don't go to a brother to tell him that we need to get married. This is the danger that we that when when the opposite gender, genders talk to each other loosely, things end up not so good. We talked about Ahmed and Mona example. Last I think last episode and we we said we said that some religious people fall into this error because of that lose relationship or lose context without you know boundaries. So be careful.

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You want to you want to get married, you want to revert you don't know where to go ask, you know the Messiah around us, the Imams around ask your circle, and they will direct you to the right person to assist them to handle your case. Not like the brother, who saw a girl taking Shahada, he cried, and he told her I will teach you salah and he started teaching her salon they ended up doing Xena. They ended up doing committing adultery reliably. So be careful. shaitan doesn't know whether you're religious or not. He can fool anybody. He can fool any person, religious or not. So be careful.

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Movies will Yeah, I was talking about the movies just for reminding me I was talking about the effects of movies you see the brother so somebody drinking wine in the movie, he wanted to drink wine. Immediately it act on your brain like drugs, whatever you see shakaama data. May Allah have mercy on him. He said, he said that whatever you read, if you're reading junky stuff, your mind will become junky. And if you see junky stuff, your brain also becomes junky. You will you will tend to act out what you see. That's why most of the problems now from couples. I counseled a lot, a lot of collectors just talking to the brothers earlier, people calling me almost daily about problems

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between husbands and wives. And one of the common problems now is that the wives are observing a dramatic changes in intimacy from their husbands, the beating the slapping the pulling of the hair. And they say we don't know he wasn't like that before. I'm immediately I asked, asked him, is he watching pornography? This is what they learn from the what they see what they see it registered, and then they start acting what they have seen. And they think because the actors and actresses in these movies, they are just acting, they are in pain in terrible pain. I read a book by an ex porn star. Her name is Shelley Logan, who wrote a book called the fantasy of porn. And she's saying that

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actually we don't enjoy what what we're doing. It's just for money is just acting. In fact, we take tablets we take not tablet, drugs, painkillers, because they are in pain all the time. They don't enjoy it. They just act the morning and the sounds and all these people think that they're enjoying and as a result demand thinks that this is the way this is how to please your wife and then they go home, they start beating their wives. You know it's it's we need to talk about it openly Enough is enough. Well, light enough is enough. 1000s of people are suffering in silence because leaders in the community are reluctant to talk about the issue. So I'm passionate about it may Allah subhanaw

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taala give us all strength, but

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movies, movies, even the regular movies the TV series can easily be selective I am guilty as well. I sometimes you know because of my children, I will sit with them and watch cartoon and in the cartoon movie, you will see a kiss. You will see a hug. You will see that message that always promote nudity, always promote haram love, always promote sexual activities, even in that movie in this cartoon movie. So we have to be very vigilant. Very, very you will die and you will leave a legacy behind. That legacy could be a legacy that will take your children and yourself to generally

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Or it can be an A party piling up bad deeds while you're in gray in your grave because you didn't teach your family members the proper way to live.

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Indeed, it is very scary Satan can fool any body may Allah subhanaw taala protect us all. As I mentioned this one of the shortest session

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that will be delivered in this course.

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Remember my brothers and sisters in Islam as you have been to Moosa him, the wife of round, she also asked a las panatela for a house in gentlemen, in exchange of the tourney of four rounds and his oppression. So gender is the key, gender is the goal, we want Jen, whatever happens here is temporary, you will die and everyone else will die. And what remains is your good deeds that you have performed all your bad deeds that you have performed, don't ruin your dunya and your gender, in this life, any a person could ruin this dunya and the next because of these 6070 years that he will live on Earth.

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But you could actually sacrifice whatever is in in the dunya in exchange of forever in exchange of eternity in peace and bless me, Zach Lowe. Hi, Ron. I will stop here my brothers and sisters, please again, send me your questions related to these issues, even private messages in Sharla. I will filter them and perhaps Jani one day will come only to answer your questions inshallah. But for now next week, inshallah. I have six advice from one of my one of my teachers in regards to this inshallah. And that will be the last session of the course girls are driving me crazy. Please pray for me. Pray for my family members and pray for the brother behind the camera and his wife was

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pregnant May Allah Subhana Allah bless her and grant her you know safe delivery I mean, how to be more sporting we will inshallah answer the questions on a later date Zack long Highlands panic Alomar behind Vic. Shadow en la la la Mr. thermicon to be like videos like the page like the break the cycle and share it the YouTube channel. May Allah Spanish Allah reward you all for your good deeds Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi over