Girls are driving me crazy #02 – Love

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Assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato Bismillah R Rahman Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam Allah says Allah Lino, Lino, Allah Allah He will be here today in while I'm under the sun in LA Medina or the Loma Nana home in Olam I mean obviously Saudi are silly Emory law but that's Emily's any of coli. So the Chanukah la Mulana in Lima lantana in neck anti hockey, my brothers and sisters in Islam dear viewers everywhere. I welcome you to the third episode and the second part of our course girls are driving me crazy. Today is part two, if you remember, we discussed so far only one part divided into two episodes and that was about desires and how can we

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control our desire so that we do not displease Allah subhanho wa Taala and how to deal with these challenges, and especially the sexual desire that we were focusing on but today we'll be talking about something else and that is love, you know, and this is something in trend now that we will be discussing in a while before getting into that in sha Allah, I wanted to remind you to please, as the links have been provided before and inshallah in the comments below we will also provide another links to our YouTube channel break the cycle where you can find the 31 episodes that we have launched during the blessed month of Ramadan about also how to change how to make positive changes

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in your life, particularly if you are addicted to undesirable sexual behaviors like pornography like

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you know, illegal sexual activities and so on. Kindly go and watch them one at a time would help you in great ways. inshallah Tada, you will also find the two episodes related to this course girls are driving me crazy on the same channel in Charlottetown. So to remind you, I'll be talking to you here in sha Allah, but I would be viewing your comments and I wish to see more engagement in sha Allah to Allah this time because we are collecting questions so that we can dedicate a whole episode just to answer your question. So whatever questions around revolving around this very important topic, kindly post them below in sha Allah tala.

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Right I'm just getting the

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I wanted to see your comments in sha Allah tala just getting it ready and then we are going to start walaikum Salam lyrata cattle sister I'm bringing all the way from Pakistan, our Connect Institute head Mashallah in Pakistan, may Allah bless you, and hopefully, inshallah we'll bring that course in its length one day to Pakistan insha Allah to Allah.

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Just let me welcome whoever is online at the moment and then we will be starting in few seconds in sha Allah

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walaikum salam after Labor capital I have

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an asylum welcome welcome Mashallah. from Oracle All right. So without inshallah, further delay, we will get right into the topic of today and that is love.

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You see, I meet a lot of youngsters, I receive a lot of emails, phone calls, messages,

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especially actually after this. After launching this course, many people emailed me privately, they say, Shea we understand about desires. And actually we don't have a problem in this area, which is great. hamdulillah they have another problem. And this is really trending.

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Which is the problem of love. You see, I receive an email for example of from a brother I would say, I know that girl who's very beautiful shape and very religious, you know, Mashallah full hijab and so on. It will describe the sister in a lot of details indicating that he never lowered his gaze. You know, he was described as so much details. And at the end he will say, I love her so much she I cannot live without her. You will also receive another email from a sister brother, I have this problem. There is a brother who is bothering me all the time, not the brother bothering her in any physical or any way. What she means is that she's busy with him. She's always thinking about him.

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She said that she can't sleep late at night, because she can get his picture off her head. I love him. I love her brother What to Do you see the question he indicates word that they know that it is a problematic, they know that it's Haram, they know that it is wrong. I just wanted to clarify something very important to have a feeling towards someone is not an issue and it's not Haram in Islam, to have a feeling towards someone. All right. What follows is the problem that what follows is that though if that feeling

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will drag you away or will take you away from the remembrance of Allah subhanaw taala from your daily or an from your alibi that if that feeling becomes so overwhelming to an extent that you started and neglecting other necessary you know acts of worship then this is absolutely horrible. So we have to be very, very clear about that. So the brothers or the sisters who have fallen in love and I wanted to you know, I remember on my machine, I think, well I forgot one of the machine he said don't ever fall in love because you may fall and then break your neck. You better grow in love growing in love happens only within the boundaries of marriage. That's that's the the the sacred

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constitution that Allah subhanaw taala permitted as a relationship between males and females. Let me just read some of the comments.

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It is stopping all the videos are stopping. Some people say the video is perfect. So we would like to get your comments around this if you if you have any issues regarding the video, the streaming if it is fast, if it is slow, if it is cutting off, we would like to get your comments so that we can fix the issue before you know continuing with the course in sha Allah Allah so I wanted to see your comments around this. Can you guys hear me well? Can you see me well is the video okay? Quality Control waalaikumsalam are off to library. Just let me read some of the comments. Had you city Rama moussaka fan for your greeting all I can surround the library cattle we have some comments about the

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during intone watching from Katara waalaikumsalam. Look at so handler. So everybody is confirming that the video is handled is running smoothly. So great. So So back to the course in sha Allah, Allah, the question the nature of the question, the question that the brothers are asking after telling me the story that they are in love, that they can sleep that they can live without this and and then at the end say what to do, what to do indicates that you have a problem and you know that you have a problem. And Allah the Prophet Muhammad wa sallam said, man's Allah, Allah whom in their in our ends, Allah Allah who they were, that Allah subhanaw taala did not create or did not send

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down any sickness or any illness or any problem unless that he also sent with it its cure. So there is a cure and there is a solution in sha Allah tala and I want you to need I want to remind you and myself of something very, very important that I totally understand that these feelings are very difficult, I totally understand that. Once you have, you know, those feeling we call love towards someone, the grab you from within the control you in a way that sometimes you cannot control your own thoughts, you cannot control your own actions. So, I know I understand the difficulty of the situation. But is there any solution? Yes, there is. And this is what we are going to start in sha

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Allah to discuss. And I want you to understand that in the beginning, in the beginning, at the start of this love, you are still in control and this is something very important. And I want you to write it down in Sharla. Although you will get the notes I want to remind you that at the end of the course inshallah you will get my hand written notes, inshallah, we will be posting it at the end of the course. But I want you to write this down also, so that you remember and understand at the beginning of this relationship, you are still in control. But once you have fallen so bad, then you're out of control completely. And things become really difficult for you. And I'm addressing

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boys and girls here, I'm not only addressing the boys, I want you to remember this, I'm addressing addressing both genders.

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The video and audio is good from the law watching from Philippines. Nanny walaikum salam of the La Habra. careto.

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Sofia, Santa Monica, from the union muscle, lots of water cola. Great. Love, Love you guys for the last second. Thank you so much for spending your time to come and attend the course. Let me now give you a scenario, a story that happened so many times, millions of times, and maybe you will relate to it. But I don't want you to expose yourself if you have experienced something similar, but this is the story of Ahmed and Mona and forget about the names. The names are just imaginary. All right, like just I picked those names. To tell you the story that's happening quite often. I want you to relate to it. You might find it funny, because it's real because it's happened. It's happening.

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And it will happen again and again unless you protect yourself so Ahmed and Mona they got to know each other only through Facebook. Okay, they got to talk a lot they got to share their posts the posts of each other particularly Mona Mona is the sister who whenever I met will post something a hadith an ayah from the Quran, a picture from Palestine a charity event whatever sister Mona will will feel you know, high respect for the brother she will hit like and share on her page one day though,

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you know, wrote on his profile or status feeling sad

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You know, this kind of imagery that comes sometimes you you hate to say feeling sad, and of course sister Mona any she likes the brother she liked. She liked his work. There is no love yet. But she liked the work the brother is doing. So she went on a private chat and she sent him a message telling him What's wrong?

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Are you okay?

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So the brother of course, you know, the romantic brother over there hiding behind the screens? He say I am okay, you know, handle. A little bit sad though, but I'm happy that you have asked about me. I'm happy that you're concerned. For me. Of course share of course brother of course. You know, brother I met I am concerned about you what is happening? Would you mind telling me what is the problem? He would know of course in the beginning you wouldn't tell her immediately but he will tell her you know, I'm I have this problem that you know, it's bothering me a bit. What is it? Don't you want to open with with your biggest fan? You know, the the sister who mostly shared all your posts

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that you want to open up with me? And it's secret? I'm not going to share it with anyone? Are you sure Mona because this is really something? Yes, go ahead.

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I love this sister. You know, he will tell I love this sister so bad. And I'm afraid that if I told her that I love her, she would you know reject me. And of course sister Mona would encourage the brother who would reject you shake you know, who would reject such a person like us religious who give lectures and reminders? Tell me brother who is this sister? I will talk to her? I'm going to talk to that sister and tell her that about your feeling and I'm 100% sure that she would never reject you. Are you sure Mona?

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Are you sure she would not reject me? Because that's what concerns me the most? Of course she would she would not and I would convince her that you're the best for her and then oppose. And here comes the story. I love you Mona. I love you It's you that girl is you I love you and then a moment of silence Mona did not respond model Mona Mona was shocked and then he started calling her Mona you know triple A or millions of a Mona you know and many question marks where are you? Why did you you know disappear? And then finally Mona will respond back I'm here finally said it. I've been waiting for it. I am shocked because I cannot believe myself that you are you know in love with me. Who am I

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you know compared to you shave brother whatever that start on social media.

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And at the end

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be exchanged more conversations of that nature. Send me more pictures because you know, I only have one picture for you. And that is the one on the profile. Send me more pictures. I want to see now some pictures without hijab because my intention now is to marry you you are in front of a lawyer my wife

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guys do you resonate with it? Have you ever experienced this if you if you did just bury don't don't even comment just let me know if what's happening around the social media is true or false because I will never bring a story here on the table.

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Unless it happened. It was revealed to me the couples came complaining about that. And by the way, it goes beyond this a go to meetings to virtual ellebra virtual sexual discussion online. It goes to meeting outside holding hands going behind parents eating together in restaurants, kissing each other hugging each other and doing zero sometimes with them in the name of what that insha Allah Allah is my witness. No brother you need to this is not only a lie you need to male witnesses to have this relationship in a halal manner. Don't ever be fooled by shaitan Don't let uncommon as I always say hello allies the Haram to you and this is one of the tricks of shaitaan makes the Hillel

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makes the haraam looks Hillel perfectly valid. And then he start using these terms that you know Allah is my witness that you are my wife. So take off your hijab. Allah is my witness that inshallah one day

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I will marry you and you will become my halat. You know, my brothers and sisters in Islam, most of these marriages end up in two ways. There is no third

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and that's my challenge to you. These marriages if it happens if you ever marry someone who you knew through the internet or if you knew through your work, you know your your colleagues or your classmate in uni or whoever, that you met through this haraam relationship and you ended up marrying that person, you know what would happen two things either divorce or regret for the rest of your life.

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Allah will never bless the haraam relationship. Allah will repeat again Allah will never bless the haraam relationship. So let me let me hear some of your comments in sha Allah tala is an associate Hillel Come on brother we are talking about halal haram love now. And she is in another discussion in sha Allah Allah watching from Tata

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Bye, bye he con Oba haitong bien de todos, just like Lacan for watching for coming. I need to ask a question out of the out of the topic, we will not entertain any questions today out of the topic in sha Allah, Allah Allah, but these questions will be collected later on, and try to make an episode just to answer your questions. But this is very important Have you realized that if you have now now this is the the people who wanted to create a change will do this now. If you have sisters on your friend list on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, whatever social media you're using, and let's assume that all these social media you're using it only for Hillel purposes okay like for our for

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spreading Islam, whatever Hillel purpose good cause you're using the social media for does not matter. What I'm trying to say here is that if you have sisters online, on your friend list, if you have brothers on your friend list that you don't know, at all, the all you know about is that you saw his picture and you liked how he looked and you liked his work, and, and so on and so forth. And you're chatting with him again and again, just out of curiosity, just to get to know what he's doing. Because you're attracted to him, delete him, block her. Now, that's the challenge. If you don't, that means there is a bad intention. And I'm looking at you in the eyes, my brothers and

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sisters will lie. If you don't believe those brothers and sisters that you have no business with nothing. Unless there is you know, our organization. We're brothers and sisters are having one group not on private talking to each other. No, no, it's a group discussion between the members of this organization or that company or that group, then there is no business

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between you and that sister between you and that brother, delete them now and free yourself from the footsteps of shaitan because Allah subhanaw taala did not warn us against shaitan he warned us from his tricks hold a lot of [???] on the footsteps of shaitan so who's up for that? Who's up for the challenge? My brothers and sisters who is brave enough to go on Facebook now and start deleting filtering or not now because I'm talking to you still, but at least as soon as we finish this episode inshallah this class, go and filter all your social media account from sisters from brothers that you have no connection with.

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Other than subpoena law, every time you you're free, you don't have anything to do you just go on view profile pictures and and start imagining things that will lead you to haraam activities at the end. You see what love at that stage. At that stage at the stage of inability of getting married. That's the stage I'm talking about. That's the stage that I'm talking about. That will lie My brother and sister the haraam love exactly is like a slide you know the slide that when we go to this

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parks in their slides, the kids are using the slides to have fun. haraam love exactly like a slide in the beginning while you are seated before dropping, you're stealing control. Once you slip, you're out of reach, you're out of control, you cannot do anything about it. And by the way, if you try to do anything about it, you will get hurt true or false. If you try to hold the slide, your skin maybe would be ripped off. True or false. If you try to hold or something you may fall off the slide and break your neck or break your arm. That's why my chef said don't ever fall in love. Because falling in love will hurt you. So this is this is the condition of haraam love. So what is

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the hello love my brother's assistance lamb. Let me just pause

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Hear see your comments in chat a long time.

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We need to talk to people I'm talking to you people now.

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Jackie Lohan and Z for confirming what I just said. We have people from Uganda Masha Allah, Allah Zed Zubaydah, Zac Lohan for coming.

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By the way do religious people also sometimes can engage in this haraam relationship? if so how can I? How can they recover? My brothers and sister in Islam, we are told in the Hadith of the Prophet SAW Selim about the priest called Bursa, who had fallen into the same thing, the Zener why, because he did not protect himself from the footsteps of shaitan. And then who was known as a worshipper, as a person who, you know, attached to the Dean of a law at the time and he was popular he was known to the community that he's a religious person, because he did not protect himself. He did not keep a boundary between himself and the opposite gender he had fallen into Zina not only that he killed the

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lady and her child, not only that, he prostrated to shaitan at the end, and he died a scaffold. So can religious people fall into the same error? Yes, they can. If they do not protect themselves, if they do not, you know, create these boundaries. If I don't have anything to do with that particular Sister, I should stay away and protect myself and protect my Deen. You see, my brothers and sisters in Islam, Ibrahim Alayhi Salam and I always bring that example for us to realize that even the prophets used to pray to Allah to protect themselves from falling into haram like the Prophet Ibrahim Ali Salaam. In the Quran, it has been recorded. collar up big ol huddle Bella the eminent

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What do you have in your belly and innopolis norm, all Allah subhanaw taala make this place this city Mecca a place of security and safety and protect me and my children from worshipping idols, who is making that supplication my brothers and sisters Ibrahim alayhi salam, the man who broke all the idols because he didn't believe that they can benefit nor harm yet he made a DA Allah protect me from worshipping idols. The same applies to religious people when it comes to gender relationship, we have to be very careful. We have to be very careful and we have many many examples of people who have fallen into this. How can we protect themselves as we said, or how can they recover from this?

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repentance, repentance, repentance and never repeat the mistake again?

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Marshall lots of America law.

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I like your interaction today my brothers and sisters and keep it going inshallah Keep it up.

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Okay, there are a couple of other comments.

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Is it possible to commit haram if you are in a Hillel marriage? When it comes to social media? Is it possible to commit harm if you are in alignment? Yes, it's it's very possible to commit haram activities while you are in a healthy relationship. There are sisters and brothers who are already married. They're already married they have their halaal share a Lost Planet Allah had given them yet they have the secretive relationship online or even on site Allah Allah Allah. So is it possible? Yes, it's absolutely possible. It's a big test and by the way, in my opinion on this is that if you happen to commit haram while already you have the Hillel, be careful two things might happen. Number

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one, Allah will take the hell away from you. By means of divorce by means of you know, the wife leaving you alone and she's fed up with your, you know, with with your activities and so on. or number two alone will take your Eman away. And the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam mentioned in one of the Hadith that a person at the moment of Xena is not a believer, liars Nizami heinous neurohormone a person at the moment of Xena and I always say be careful Xena is not the actual act of intimacy alone with the opposite gender the haraam opposite gender. This is the the the the the final, the final act of Xin is the confirmation, the actual act, but the Prophet Mohammed Salim told

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us even your eyes that stare at the wrong things is also a form of Xena and introductory to Xena the touch. Touching hands is also a form of Xena, the language, the harem language that you offer all over the phone or in a chat room. It's also an act of Xena showing off your private parts on cameras. My brothers and sister Be careful. This is a form of Zinner and be careful all these acts all these acts will never remain the same, which means it will escalate and it will create bigger problems in your life. So Canada

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Person while he already had the Hillel a law provide you already with that hello to enjoy the sexual life in Hillel manner a lot of giving you what else do you want you're more why because he'd been watching what is haram on the internet pornography you've been watching and comparing you know she doesn't look exactly like your wife you know the buddy is different. This is you know what they provide and promote in the porn industry or the twist your understanding of the actual intimacy and as a result you fall into harm. So, this is not love at all.

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martial arts of particular let me let me move on in sha Allah to Allah just to

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to relax you because my fellow I can see many questions coming off people do not know how to marry through the Islamic way but inshallah Thai gnosis that everybody knows how to get married through the halal way through the halal you know, marriage that a Lost Planet Allah had

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informed us and the prophet SAW Selim told us the problem and it's good that you asked these questions the best moment May Allah bless you. The problem is is some family members until today they make the halaal so difficult for the youngsters will lie the the the break their hearts will lie there is there was a question in Malaysia, myself Schakowsky, Hakeem Sheikh Mohammed Salaam moved to Spain making Malaysia couple of years ago, were assisted said that I am begging my mom to allow me to get married to that brother whose Dean is good. His manner is good is known in the community and everybody is witnessing to his behavior to his prayers and worship and so on. But my

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mom insisting that I must finish the university I must finish this and that. While I taught in my answer to this question, I said I hope the mother is in the video right now to hear the answer that sometimes will lie on the Day of Judgment even parents that's my own opinion. Even parents who made the Hillel very difficult in this dunya will be punished for the sin of their children. Well, I this is my opinion on this. That because you made the halaal so difficult. You made the Maha the dirty very expensive for the youngsters to afford, then where else will we go pornography and haraam? Simple, the Hillel becomes very difficult. So the alternative is the Haram. The prophet SAW said

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this is not the Sunnah of the Prophet Sawsan look at Alibaba, Taliban, Xena, and Fatima, the daughter of the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salah, the best of the best of the best look at their marriage learn how simple it was, for them to get married the best of the best. The simplest ever is the most blessing. So parents need to do they need to learn this and need to facilitate the halaal for their children Otherwise, the Zener they would have shared in it will lie they will have share in that Zener because they make it very difficult. Of course there is no justification. So youngsters who hear me now don't say Oh brother why I said hello. My parents would be punished on my behalf. Shall

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I gotta go? No, no, no, there is no justification for the sin, you will be punished as well.

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But what I'm saying is that parents also need to understand is that they have a role to play in the society to facilitate the Hillel in sha Allah.

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Allahu Akbar, how can how can it be prevented? And I assume the question is, how can we prevent the harm from happening by just leaving the simple blog those boys from the internet blog their their names? unfriend them without any ceremony without telling them? Sorry, I have to, you know, unfriend you because Brother Why the brain said you know haraam. Don't leave tails for how long to happen because he will come and convince you No, no, no, I don't mean anything. Have I said anything haram to you, sister? Why would you treat me this way? I know my shadow told me it's okay and so on and so forth. Go and cut the evil from its root once and for all done deal. Online. It's the easiest and

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quickest way to get rid of these activities in sha Allah, Allah May Allah bless bless you all, you're up and protect everyone and our

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what is a true love then this is the next segment in Sharla. The true love is marriage. That's true love. The true love means that I am responsible. The three R's, the only write down these things, three Rs three R's. If you want to know what is the true love, focus on three R's. If they found in you, if they found in your partner, then it handled that congratulations. Number one is responsibility. Is the man or the wife. Are they responsible, responsible of the dean responsible of their, you know, understanding of what marriage is all about? Or are they fooling around?

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Well, I my brothers and sister one of the questions that I always ask people who come to me they wanted to get married and particularly

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The sisters will come and ask for advice, Brother, you know, I want you to meet that brother and tell me your opinion. So I will meet that brother The first thing I will ask him, What is your plan?

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Tell me and I will just sit and watch. And based on his presentation of his plan for that Sister, I will advise the sister, he's not right for you. This brother is just you know, he wanted to enjoy the moment. So is he responsible? Number two, he's roles. Is he clay clear about his role? Or is he marrying you for another? You know, reason there are people I met at Hong Kong who wanted to marry sisters to get the ID you know, the Hong Kong ID, identification card that's that's the intention to get the man the manage to get into a holiday relationship. Some people because they left their wives back home, they come to a foreign land they want to marry again without telling the First Wives

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because they are afraid because they are not responsible. You see, responsibility, clarity of roles and clarity of rights. What is my right upon you? What is your right upon me, the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam make it very, very clear before he dies. Allah Allah, Allah Mohammed saw Salah, in his last speech, the last speech is the most important. You know, they said Malcolm X, may Allah have mercy on him.

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In his last speech, or before his last speech, he predicted his own death. You say maybe I'm already a dead man, Malcolm X. And he said, That's why I wanted to deliver that speech to warn the people from the dangerous of you know, segregation between the black community, the white community and the racist community and so on and so forth. So for them at that time in the 60s and 1960s, for them, that was the most important speech for Malcolm X. Now this is your beloved Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam the last speech he told us, you have a right upon your wife's but don't forget that they too have rights upon you learn these rights. If your husband doesn't know his rights and

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responsibilities and his roles, then he's joking. Then you just want to roam around and fool around so this is a true love a true love is only found within the marriage the feelings that we experience now before marriage, if they are translated into haram activities then this is not love my brother and sisters it's just hormonal changes you know? hormonal changes these things you know physically you're physically move not not really emotionally move. You got to know the difference my brothers and sisters in Islam This is a true love

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Please I will need your answer to be out of darkness

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I don't know what is that?

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Oh,

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inshallah to Allah Sofia hills in sha Allah to Allah I began inshallah I will go through the course if it is out of the topic. I don't want to divert my thoughts into something else that's why I wanted to focus on the topic at hand. But in Charlotte, Allah I will answer your question just give us sometimes inshallah we will respond to your question. True that Islamic marriage is so easy. So halal, so halal, so pure, I mean, the rules as husband and wife and culture getting first above the religion? Yes. So you're you you echoed what I just said about a parents and cultures need to change in order to, you know, facilitate the Hillel and make our youngsters enjoy this relationship in a

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halal manner. Can you make sincere repentance and become true believer again? Absolutely. Zanzibar? Absolutely. This is something that Muslims shouldn't ask this question. Any by default Can Can we reap it? Can we repent and go back to a law and asking for forgiveness? Absolutely. Allah Subhana tassen en Kalia daddy alladhina Ashraf wala and footsy him la Rahmatullah in the La Jolla flew by Jamia in the Hall of Fame, tell my servants or Mohammed who have transgressed against themselves who have done the wrong again and again, not only once again and again, tell them this pair not never ever give up hope in you know in a las panatela despair not from the mercy of Allah for Allah

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forgive all sins wherever you have done. Allah is capable to forgive you for that mistake. So yes, ask a lot of forgive you for what you did in the past and stop doing it. Don't just keep asking a lot to forgive you and keep doing the same thing again. That's not sincere repentance. Now, sincere repentance is to stop the wrong now. Now don't delay till you know an hour later. Now stop the wrong now cut the relationship with this person. You are you're committing a crime my brother and sisters, the girl that you're talking to now in five years time

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You're not going to marry her, she's going to marry somebody else.

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So Pamela, this is something that you need to understand this girl that you're talking to now, in five years, 10 years, she would be the mother of other children. Would you like other people to be talking to your wife now that you've never even met?

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In five times in five years time you would marry a girl who was talking to another boy, five years ago? Would you like that to even to fathom even to think about? Would you like your daughter in in 20 years from now, to come and tell you that I am in love with somebody? And you know, we've been we've been fooling around together? Would you like to hear that from your daughter? Would you like to see your daughter walking down the streets, holding hands with a strange boy, would you like this to happen? If you don't then stop what you're doing now, because that would be like death. If you are doing this to others, a loss of Hannah tala would make you to taste from the same bitter

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bitterness, or the same medicine, Jackie Lohan and Sister ambreen, for recapping the three R's of love, responsibility, clarity of roles and clarity of rights, roles, rights, and responsibilities. Just a handful recapping, these are very, very important for us to understand, if you don't have them in your mind, you know, of the lion or the Alon Waldo. May Allah be pleased with them both. He came to his father once and he told him all my father, I wanted to divorce my wife, Alma de la Anwar da asked him why, what is the reason that you wanted to divorce your wife, he said, because I don't love her anymore. That's the reason I don't feel the same thing that I feel for her before. So all

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caught up, became a bit angry. And he said, so panel law, we're all homes established upon love. Well, I my father and my mother, the married you know, and I'm not encouraging this, but the married You know, like the culture, culturally arranged marriage, that was my father and my mother's marriage. But while I haven't seen that, through Romans and love of, you know, exchanging these beautiful words of love between people who claim that they met actually based on what I've seen a lot of respect, a lot of love in that home growing up between my father and my mother, and they never actually go out together, held hands together, went to cafe together, and people can say, but

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how will I know the person, invite them, invite them to your house, I promise my own daughter, if you fall in love, if you feel that somebody you know, that you fall for and you wanted to marry, you invite him to our house, sit with him, talk to him in our presence, we will not be sitting let her talk now. No, no, we will be around. But the chances for you to go home now is minimal, if not even impossible for you to do something wrong in the presence of elders. This is how you know each other. You don't have to go outside in this, you know, in under the tree in a park to know each other. You don't have to go to the cinema to know each other. Right or wrong. So know each other Yes, it's

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important, the compatibility is very important. You know, the the level of, of education and so on understanding is very important. But the feelings it's going to come when you when you when you when you when you are clear about these three things that we mentioned responsibilities, roles and rights, and many people will lie. I remember a friend of mine he said that I married this sister because I want to establish a Muslim home that was his intention come and see them now. Come and see them now I don't want to mention the country because I know them very well but can't see them and they have established in an entire community in their place Marshall a lot of articles are based on

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just worshiping the last panel tab or the not having fun while I come and see them beautiful relationship because they The intention was very clear. It is undoing it to establish a Muslim home a lot not only give him a Muslim home, Allah give him an entire Muslim community led by him. Led by him responsible he's responsible he's a leader. And a leader is not a boss. My brothers don't understand the words wrong. A boss is someone who's just controlling you know you sit here you don't do nothing. I am the boss you know i whatever I say you do know a leader is a person who's interested in the success and the growth of others that's a leader.

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A leader is not selfish. A leader will be always interested in the growth of others.

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Marshall lots of work a lot of people watching from Kuwait

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and I mean inshallah you will find the three R's some way to charlotta Allah watching from Nairobi, Allahu Akbar, well, I we wish to come to Africa. Hopefully inshallah we will arrange some some trip to Africa.

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Can Charlotte Allah?

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Alright, let me let me just tell you something that could happen for you in general and charlotta. And by the way, the description of some portions of Jelena will be discussed in the next episode, but today

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let me let me tell you, if I told you my brother and sister Wait, wait, if you can wait for a year in Charlottetown and then come to my company, I will triple your salary. Will you not wait? Will you not wait? If I told you one year just work with me for one year, and in one year time, I will triple I will give you 10 times of what you're earning now. Will you not wait for one year? I want to see your comments first. Watching from Philippines and sha Allah we will be coming to Philippines in September with Mufti mink and other speakers. inshallah, I don't want to tell you more details and inshallah

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I want you to answer this question my brother and sister if you are working for me for a company that I own, and I told you don't leave now I know the salaries a bit a little bit. Little. But if you can be patient for one year only, I will give you 10 times the salary that you're earning now. Will you not wait?

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Hmm. Bismillah? Where's your answers?

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Will you wait or no? Watching from Saudi Arabia? Elon was and of course, if you give guarantees, yeah. I mean, we we're not trying to fool you here. Rather, what I'm saying is, if it is for sure, if you had all the guarantees in the world, will you not wait for one year with less salary? Be patient spend less, but you will get 10 times? I will wait Yes. Who will say who is the foolish? Who is foolish in here? Who would say no, no, I don't like you know, I will do it my own way. No, no, you would wait the same thing. If you can wait. Now, if you can wait now on your desires on your love for that person or the hormonal changes now, if you can wait now Allah subhanho wa Taala will

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provide you with a lot of love in the hereafter Listen to this. You in general, your wife will tell you I love you in a different way. Allah subhanaw taala sent an auto been a trauma, this is for the for the husbands now the things that are provided for the husband all been a trouble, you know, it translate this devout to their husbands those wives who would be provided for us in sha Allah, Allah in general, there are so devout and of equal age like you know, you will you will immediately have that match. And the scholar said the autobahn means also to Audubon mesh it means that she can very well express herself when she tells you I love you. The language is so different because the prophet

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SAW Selim said in general, things are cannot even be imagined we haven't experienced anything in dunya you know as compared to Allah so even the words I love you is different. So autobahn comes from that tall urban Machina which means that the wife that will be provided for you brothers if you are patient now she can express herself in a way that if she told you I love you in LA you were in a layer as you're you're done with that that's that's the that's why I asked you can you wait now for a year and then get 10 times the salary? Wait now for this relationship and you will get those or open a throbber How about for the sisters what has been prepared? Allah subhanaw taala mentioned the

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coriander those husband will provide a beautiful drink a beautiful drink from their hands straight to the mouth of their wives in gentlemen, use our name in raha in Mattoon, they will be given a drink right in their mouth. The most romantic thing today sisters are telling me my husband never giving giving me even a morsel in my mouth. You know, I will always feed him feed and feed him and he's just sitting me in a TV doing nothing. No, no agenda the husbands that will be provided for you sisters. So romantic to an extent that Oh, you just sit down. Open your mouth by system my wife and I will giving you a drink from gentlemen.

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Not from any restaurant or any coffee shop you know from gentlemen. So can you be patient now sister? Can you block these friends? Those men on your Facebook, Twitter and whatnot, and to be patient until you get that beautiful drink? Can you be patient until you hear the words I love you from the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam you see

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the live Noma sold me a lot of pleased with him. He saw that he said to one of the companions

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or we have no time I think is one of the top I mean, if I, I think a theme or a theme, I'm not sure the last name how it is to be pronounced with Arabic time. He told him lower arcan Nabhi hubback that if the Prophet Mohammed saw Selamat seen you he would have loved you. Ask yourself my brothers and sisters in Islam. If you meet the prophet SAW

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Tell them in general will he love you? If he sees you will he love you? Will he fall in love with you? Because the prophet SAW Selim, all our actions in this dunya as presented to him, is presented to him he knows us very, very well and he know what we are doing spawn a line all the time. So if he meets you in general, will he love you? As a result of your actions? Ask yourself this. Don't you want to listen to these words from the lips of the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salah, listen to this, don't you want a law to love you? Don't you want to hear those words from a lime self? Listen to this hadith my brother and sister the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam said, when a lot of somebody he

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called Gabe Gabriel jabril alehissalaam. He called Gabriel the angel of Revelation. See jabril Isilon did not come down from heaven to earth, except for one mission, one mission and that is to deliver the message the or and to the processor. Other than that, he came couple of times for different missions. One when her deja vu Lohan, or Tao was about to die. And he came down telling the Prophet Muhammad SAW Selim, in the La Jolla, Khadija Salah that Allah is sending greetings of peace to hadiya law, what an honor, and he never come down except for carrying the Quran to Mohammed Salah, but he came this time, especially for Khadija. And this time now Gabriel is given a different

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mission. And that's what a lot of love so and so, so love him, Allah will command the angel Gabriel to love you. And then the agent Gabriel will go and distribute this love to all the angels of the heavens. And as a result a law will bring love of this creation to you on Earth. So that's why I said can you be patient now

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so that you can attain that much love and beautiful relationship later on. And by the way, if you are patient now doesn't matter that doesn't mean that you will never get married in this dunya you will get a lot of these your share of love in this domain.

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Let me read some of your comments in sha Allah and then wrap up

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the last part of the course today or the session today is what's the solution then what can we do? And it's very simple you may laugh laugh at me, but that's the solution given by Allah and His Messenger I will wait even if I will. It will be two years Mashallah see

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everybody say Wait wait wait should wait May Allah give us more sobre me Maria masala you you Yanni you hit on the nail.

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Patience martial law, may Allah grant us patience I mean inshallah, inshallah all of you will wait Marshall lots of articles. So what's the solution? Simply two things. The solution for this is two things. Those who have fallen

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in love, they can't sleep they can get out of these images. Two things only online. My brothers and sisters two things. Number one is are you ready to listen, I know that this is the most hateful word nowadays people don't want to listen to any advice. The people who can't say, brother, I have this problem. Or I have a list of problems. 1234 Please give me an advice. But don't tell me to be

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patient. Don't tell me suffer. I don't want to hear this word. I've been patient for long. It's over. For me. Patience is of the options. So panel lobby. Once you once you reach to this point, once you say that I have been patient for all so long, then no for sure. For certain any I've never been patient. You have never tasted patients you don't know what patience is. That that's the solution. You have to be patient with your desires. You have to be patience, on hearing the words I love you that you want to enjoy. You have to be patient until you get married, you have to be patient. until until you meet your halaal share in this dunya you have to be patient. But people

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don't want to hear the word patience because the the thing that it's not practical solution, you know, the brother will like him to me. And this is something good for you to note. The brother say give me a practical solution. I say patience. You say brother, this is not a practical solution. This is just you know, motivational session. No, no, this is the most practical solution. Okay, here is the here's the thing.

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Guys, how many of you are fasting this Ramadan?

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All of us? Were fasting this Ramadan. Let me ask you this question. If at two o'clock in the afternoon, you became very hungry, very hungry, like you know, you can't control your hunger. you're starving and Subhanallah you're working in a restaurant or you are passing by somebody who was you know, holding an ice cream in his hand then or a very cold cup of water and you're starving. You want something in your mouth to quench your thirst and you know, feed you

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What do what is the most practical solution for you to continue with your fasting?

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Let me hear some I want to hear your your answers inshallah. Mila

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what is the most practical solution for you? If you're fasting, but at the hour of 2pm you're starving, hungry can never wait. You know, you want to have something. And your adult you're, like, fasting is obligatory on you. You're not a child to eat at 2pm in the day of Ramadan, no, no, no, you're you're a mature person, but you're hungry, and, and fasting. Sometimes make us hungry, make us tired, make us thirsty. But what's the practical solution for this? Anyone? Anyone? Nothing but patience. Thank you just echoing what you will have to wait. You can say all or give me a practical so I'm hungry. Give me a practical solution. Now. Wait, that's the practical solution patience to

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wait a little bit longer than usual. I that's the best definition I got from one of my teachers to eight a little bit longer than usual. For example, if you are praying pm will lay

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the night prayer. And you felt like after two o'clock on Sunday nights. Anyway, it's optional, you know that we sleep now. Give it another two Raka and Denise Lee. That's patience. Don't just immediately with the first pain in your heel, you want to quit the prayer? No, no patience is give it a little bit another go. And then he won't sleep rest. But discipline yourself whenever you feel like yourself telling you enough with goodness. Give it another another you know, push, another push. That's patience. So now you can't wait. You need a relationship. You need to hear the words I love you. Be patient until a lot provide the Hillel solution for you. So this is the first thing

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patience. Secondly, fill your heart with the love of Allah, the love of the Messenger of Allah, failure how to fill your heart with the laws. Once you love Allah

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and His Messenger more than anything else, while law he will lie he will lie My brother's sister, no love could overweigh the love of Allah and the love of his messenger. No love could grab you away from the love of Allah and His messenger. And guess what? With their love when you love them so much more than anything because this is part of our Eman by the way, is to love Allah and His messenger and to strive Jihad feasability Allah, Allah Subhana Allah said that these three things, if you love anything in this dunya more than these three things for Torah Basile Allah subhanaw taala said, then wait until Allah bring his destruction upon you. Allah will destroy you completely. You will never

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be satisfied with your wife, you will never be satisfied with your husband. You will never be satisfied with anything with your provision with your salary with your work, because you did not fill your heart with the love of Allah and His messenger.

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These are the true solute that the two solutions that I have for you for this episode. If you are in love with somebody, that and that love has started to lead you to do haram activities, then I invite you to fill your heart with the love of Allah and His Messenger Zac Lohan. It was wonderful. Spending time with you. I will go through the comments briefly. If we don't have any urgent question to attend on then we will end the session here and inshallah tada next Thursday we will discuss the land of true love the land of true love, and that would be basically gentlemen what what's going to happen in general my brother and sister before I leave in July, I have an announcement about an

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event or a couple of events happening in Perth city. So this is only for the people of Perth, Australia in Charlottetown the first event is a workshop on dour the essentials that that any Muslim means to execute our activities anywhere you are so that would be inshallah this coming Sunday from nine to 5pm organized by Islam Australia May Allah bless them they have like any done a lot of effort to bring this event together and it's going to be two weeks so two consecutive Sundays inshallah on the eighth of July that's Sunday, this coming Sunday and then 15th inshallah the next day and it will be discussing two different approaches of power.

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And it's a whole day in Sharla so we're gonna enjoy some Breanna I believe shallot Allah. The second announcement or the second event that I'm running in sha Allah, Allah is only four sisters who are residing in Perth city in Australia, and it is called help your sisters I've been receiving tons of emails

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from sisters phone calls now sisters who call me who are addicted actually to pornography.

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And it's very uncomfortable for a male to converse with a sister who has this issue so I thought to train some of the active sisters in the community on how to treat sisters who have been infected with this issue and I will provide this based on science based on neuroscience discoveries and also faith related solutions. And this is only opening open for 50 sisters only so I will not accept 51 I wanted to make it very very ideal small gathering so that we can get the maximum benefit in Sharla. So far we have about 25 or more sisters who have registered I'm still looking for the remaining sisters to register so inshallah tala if you scroll down in my page, you will see the posters you

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see the details, the email, the phone numbers, the registration form, everything is there on my Facebook page so please, sisters if you are in Perth, kindly register and come and help your sisters who are in desperate need to break free from their cycle of addiction. May Allah subhanaw taala cleanser soldiers are calm, low Hydra It was wonderful being with you today. And we'll see you next Thursday in sha Allah Allah with the third part of the course. Girls are driving me crazy. Pray for me, pray for the team. Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah