Girls are driving me Crazy #01 session #02 – Love & Desires

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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam O Allah say that our Lena Helene while early he also has to be here tabea environmental Gambia senate elomi Dean what the long man Mr. Home Alarm I mean rubbish really sorry are silly Emily what lulac that Emily's any of Allah Subhana Allah is Milena Ilana lantana in NACA Antara Hakeem, my brothers and sisters in Islam everywhere Welcome to Part One still of our course girls are driving me crazy session two. So last week we have spoken

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for almost an hour or so, about the foundational of this course about how to battle desires the desires that may lead us to fall into error or may lead us to displease Allah subhanaw taala and we will never we will not go back again into the same points what I would request from all all those who are online or coming inshallah shortly is to refer to the previous video the previous live broadcast about the course girls are driving me crazy so as you can tell, I'll watch the first introductory session I also invite you inshallah, we will post the links

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to the previous

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the first episode in sha Allah tada as well as the the link to our YouTube channel, break the cycle which I asked you humbly to subscribe, like and share sort of the benefit can go wider in Charlottetown so let's give it a few seconds before we get started with the second session of part one.

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If you remember I said that there are four points that we will discuss in sha Allah Allah or this course is divided into four parts. The first part we will talk about how to battle desires. The second part we will talk about love and how can we deal with this concept of loving the opposite gender, and we will inshallah proceed with the rest of the content in sha Allah Allah every week on Thursday 7pm we said Philippines Perth, Hong Kong and Malaysia time these are the four countries that I know of that they have the same timezone. So in sha Allah to Allah, just to know that you are alive with me, if you can hear me if you can see me, if you can confirm the Confirm inshallah, in a

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comment, Marshall, I can see all of your comments Marshall a lot of work a lot.

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We have people watching from Mecca, please pray us for much can sha Allah.

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As you can see, brothers and sisters who are already live with us. We have posted the YouTube channel for you to subscribe, like and share as well as the first episode I guess, or the first episode you'll see it on that link anyway. So go and refer to it in sha Allah. So are you ready? My brothers and sisters in Islam? Can I see some yeses in the comments? Are you ready to get started with the second session of part one? Girls are driving me crazy. Are you ready? Let me see some comments before I get started.

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I can see some thumbs up.

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Who else is ready?

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Who is ready my brothers and sisters in Islam.

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Nigeria is here martial law Kashmir is here Allahu Akbar. Martial Law Baraka law. All right, my brothers and sisters in Islam. Let us get straight to the point we discussed last week that in order for you to be able to battle these desires, these undesirable feelings that pushes you to work towards displeasing Allah subhanaw taala The first thing that you have to do that will protect you or will cause a loss of habitat to protect you from falling into error is to maintain a close contact a close link with Allah subhanho wa Taala. And we mentioned how Yusuf Alayhi Salam was saved from that shameful act of Xena as a result of his strong connection with a las panatela through and

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through also firmness that Allah had given him as a result of his connection with Allah subhanaw taala. The second point that we will discuss in today's episode in sha Allah Allah is remembering that he words are waiting for those who are patient with their desires. You'll have to remember what will happen to you what will allow us a panel to ask

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Give you in this dunya and in the Hereafter, as a result as a result of being patient with these desires or utilizing these desires in halab lawful manner for things will happen, one thing will happen in this dunya and three things in sha Allah in the Hereafter, and we are Muslims and hamdulillah we believe we are believers we believe in what Allah says in the Quran will believe in what the prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam said, So, these four points are just guaranteed for us, guarantee for the youth, whether males or females who struggle who develop patience, the waiting beyond measure to wait a little bit more than usual, you know, to suppress these desires and utilize

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them Helen Manor, Allah promised for things to happen and here are the evidences in sha Allah. So I hope that you are making notes here so that you can also remember and as I promised last week, I said that inshallah my own personal loans will be also shared at the end of the course inshallah, so watch out and stay tuned and keep telling the people that every Thursday 7pm Perth, Australia time, Philippines Hong Kong Malaysia time 7pm We are meeting for four or five weeks in Charlotte, Thailand to discuss this important course, you will get the notes and also the benefits will go beyond you know, the people on Facebook it will go to as many people as possible in charlotta so the first

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thing we said maintain a link with Allah The second is to remember that rewards a lot promised in the Quran, and these prophet in the sooner what is the first thing the first thing all closed doors will be open for you. That's the first promise in this dunya What does that mean? It means that Allah will find a solution to your problem. Allah subhana wa tada will open all these closed doors in front of you. You remember my brothers and sisters in Islam the story of the three people who are traveling and while they're traveling is tormes strike and you know the wanted to hide so we found a cave so the hide in a cave and a rockfill of the mountain and it blocked the exit of that cave and

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they were stuck inside the cave. They didn't know what to do to the started suggesting, you know what can we do so one of them said perhaps maybe we could make dua to Allah subhanaw taala by good actions that we have done or performed in the past. Media law will help us out of our difficulties based on these beautiful actions. So the one of them started out you know, making nabati spirits how dutiful he was to his parents, then the rock started rolling away from the exit. But I remember one person who was in love listen to this, my brothers and sister Islam, he was in love with his cousin. And he wanted actually her so badly to an extent that she got married already. And still he wanted

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her what I had the black in a in an unlawful manner. And this lady later on, she was you know, she she was affected by poverty and famine. So she went to him because she knew that he had money. So she asked him for help. He said, I'm going to help you on the condition that you surrender to me physically meaning let's while either will outperform zenner and sapana law because she was in so much need of this financial aid, she surrendered to Him she said, Alright, I need the money. So she gave in and she you know, surrender to Him. And just before committing Zina, she whispered to him, she told him what it fucking lair fear Allah be conscious of a lot of lies over watching us. And

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immediately he remembered a law and he stood up and he left the lady give her all the money. And he refused to commit Zina. And then he said, Yeah, Allah if I did this for your sake, and if you are pleased with this action, let this rock roll away. And as a result, the rock was removed, and they were saved from their trouble, sort of Allah Allah. Allah subhanaw taala had spoken the truth in the end when he said, Man your tequila hyah Jalla, whom Raja whosoever feel a law, who's who ever feared the Presence of Allah subhanho wa Taala, whosoever is conscious of Allah, whosoever is aware that Allah existing Allah is overwatching he's action or her action. Yet john level Maharajah Allah will

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make an exit out of his difficulties while I reserve common high today. And he will provide for him from means that he could never even imagine or expected so this is the first promise Allah Subhana Allah tala had given to those who are patient with their desires. Those who control the desires or use them only solely for Hillel means halaal purposes. The first thing is in this dunya what would happen solutions to all your friends

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Problems number two, now this is in sha Allah to Allah, a guarantee from the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam to enter gentlemen, what did they say? a guarantee to enter gentlemen, who said that your beloved Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam? He said manyata Manuel de Medina he on binary July he of Manila hujan whosoever guarantee me what is between his Jos? That's your tongue. And what's between your legs? That's your private part. Meaning what what what does that mean? guarantee me your tongue and guarantee me your private parts means that these two things you should use them lawfully.

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As regards the tongue, you shouldn't lie, you shouldn't gossip, you shouldn't backbite and so on. As for the private part, you should use it only with your spouse only in a halal manner. If you can guarantee me these two things. The Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam said what? I will guarantee you gender.

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Allahu Akbar.

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You know my brothers and sisters in Islam. I just remember now this is something Spamalot wasn't gonna note, but when I said I guarantee you gentlemen, remember something. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he had a meeting with the people of Ensenada that people of Medina before they became Muslims and before they became supportive of the message of Islam, they had a meeting with the prophet SAW cell and to know what Islam is all about and what is required from them. And so upon Allah after the prophet SAW, Selim presented his case, one of the one of the unsolved mentioned told the prophet SAW Selim, all right, we will, we will support you, we will protect you, but what

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will you give us in return?

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What is that thing that you will give us in return the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said one word, what was that one word?

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And that one word was sufficient for the unsoldered to accept Islam, and to promise the Prophet sallallahu Sallam protection. What was that one word, Jen? paradise. That's it. That was it. for them. That was sufficient for them to change their entire attitude and entire mentality to accept the faith and to protect the prophet SAW Selim and some of them even offer their own lives. For the sake of this the gentleman, the same thing the Prophet sallallahu Sallam here is saying, that if you can guarantee me not to commit Zina, not to look upon, you know, unlawful images, not to go on, you know, fool around with girls or foreigners fool around with boys, Allah subhanaw taala we guarantee

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you, the prophets Allah wa sallam is saying that gender will be guaranteed. Two things so far, are promised. For those who are patient with their desires number one solution to all your problems. Number two, a guarantee for gender to enter gender and Sharla. Now, the prices are increasing. The third one is the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us that you will be sheltered under the shade of a law under the shade of a lost throne on the Day of Judgment, when the sun will come closer but above your our head by a mile or two. Allah subhanho wa Taala will shelter you under his shade. The Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam in inhalation, he said seven categories of people

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who will be sheltered under a loss shade on a day when there will be no shades except his shade alone. One of these categories is a person who was invited by a lady of beauty of position. And yet he said what No, I feel a loss of Hannah doll, the load of the world in half a lot of Bologna. Indeed, I fear Allah subhanaw taala The Lord of the worlds who would not accept that gift, my brothers and sisters, who would refuse the gift of being sheltered under the shade of Allah subhanaw taala on a day where the sun will come closer to our head by only one mind. I don't know how many miles the sun today is a way you know, above our head or above the earth, yet when it is a bit hot,

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in Perth or in the Philippines or in Malaysia, we sweat, we smell we stink and we see our Allah have mercy upon us, you know on the Day of Judgment. So here is an opportunity to stay away from that which is haram. Allah subhanaw taala will shelter you under his shade Allahu Akbar. Now, do you want to listen to the, you know, we say in Arabic Lj is Al kubra, the biggest prize and j is of Cobra for those who control the desires for those who who are extremely patient with their desires. Do you know what this is?

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Let me see your comments. Anyone can guess what is Lj is L Cobra, what is the biggest prize you can get? If you became patient and it did not fool around with your sexual desire. What is the biggest

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prize you can get Let me see some guesses I will refresh the page so that I can read your comments in sha Allah in case I missed any of them

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but I wanted to hear your comments before we elaborate over this beautiful beautiful gift is prepared for those who are patient with the desires Bismillah brother if you if you can read for me the comments as well if I missed anyone please are appreciate that

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seems that I don't see all the comments useful.

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We have yes mean martial law. We have a real fighter jack ma hi and for coming

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sorry

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at the bottom I cannot see his hole at the bottom.

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Let me open though.

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just seems like I do not see the whole comments. I will just try to

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enlarge the screen perhaps.

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What will be the prize as I mentioned earlier

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for those who control the desires, the biggest prize I cannot see the comments Paloma walaikum Salam ambreen Now I can see the the the screen the comments coming up. Shaheed Jazakallah Hiram for coming May Allah bless you missing you and hope to see you in the Philippines soon with the family.

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Mohammed Hamza the big anyone say that for those Mashallah, that's the biggest prize my brothers and sisters Alfredo cyl Allah, the highest level in gender with the Prophet Mohammed Salah Salem and the rest of all the prophets with the companions and all their family members Allahu Akbar Allah for those that are Can you imagine, you control your design this dunya for how long 50 6070 years, you get that for those who Allah wa with all those, you know, winners, the prophets the the companions are so detailed, the truthful people are sure that the martyrs Allah Rojas una Allah karateka What a wonderful company to be to be with in general Alphard those Allah las panatela in Surah me noon,

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chapter number 23 he said well levina home Lee Fuji him half his own those who are protecting their private parts. You remember Surah tomamu in chapter number 23 started with a statement that says are the F wilhelminian in the past tense Allah subhanaw taala saying in the past tense meaning that it is for sure this is this is gonna be the case. This is the case for the believers who does certain things are the known and then Allah subhanaw taala started saying about those who those who focus in the prayers and so on, when Medina homely for oj him half his own. And among those people who are successful, according to this beautiful chapter, are those people who control their private parts

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who protect and guard their chastity. Those are the successful people what Alice Partha said after that, hula, hula tune, those are the people who will inherit, inherit what, and for those,

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those will inherit l for those who fear holiday and they will be there in it forever for eternity. As for adults allowed for prizes my brothers and sisters in Islam for those who control their desires, solutions to all your problems in this dunya a guarantee of gender by the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the shade of Allah Subhana Allah on the day of judgment when the sun will come closer to our head by a mile or two. And fourthly, alpha Dowson. Allah who

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who is foolish in this dunya will sell out all these prizes for just a selfish desire.

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I want to hear your comments my brothers and sisters I want to see your insights because as I said I'm learning as well from you. So when I see your comments and insights perhaps you will enrich this course and we can inshallah, brother or brother who is opening his place for us every week and make more episodes and more

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in chat a lot more content to this beautiful course. So let me know your insights. If you have any questions, jot it down here. I went through the previous video there were not much questions so I hope that we can collect as much questions as

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possible to address them in sha Allah in one of the episodes in the future?

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martial law Tabata kelabra that I use

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from Saudi the family of messages.

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Messages even our best in Manila May Allah bless you we're missing you so much brothers me that is Amir passur

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amea masala

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Yoni I'm very happy that so many people are online at the moment May Allah bless them all

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gerakan law hired on for coming, but I want to hear and see your comments and insights and what do you feel? What do you think? Did we make any sense?

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Did these points motivate you in a way do you think that we can add to it so that we can motivate those people who are perhaps addicted to pornography addicted to sexual desires and so on? Let me hear from your job smilla

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So, brother when I enlarge the screen

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the comments coming from the top of room below Can you help me

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to hear the comments come on the top

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so I'm very ignorant when it comes to technology that's why brothers helped me out.

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This is better

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right?

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greeting from Hong Kong walaikum salam en la Thank you for coming. Hong Kong also we're missing the people in Hong Kong you're coming soon inshallah tada had builing I hope he could have

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we could have you here in Philippines inshallah, watch out September is coming and we will be coming with the company that always comes every year to the Philippines inshallah you know who I'm talking about.

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hamdulillah you learn a lot from this episode 100 Allah May Allah subhanaw taala keep us

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sincere in sha Allah. All right desert la Highland. Let's Let's move on. So, so far, we discussed two points that can help you fight or battle desires that could displease a loss of habitat. We said in order for you to do that in order for you to be able to battle these desires. Number one, maintain a good connection with Allah good link with a Lost Planet app. Number two, we said remember the rewards are waiting for you by Allah or promised by Allah Subhana Allah and His messenger and we said these promises are for or prizes that are so precious solution to your problem in this dunya the guarantee of gender by the prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam if you can protect your private

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parts. Number three, the shade of Allah Subhana Allah on the Day of Judgment, number four, the biggest prize, which is alpha dose, Ilana, but one of my machines told me that there are also consequences for those who don't protect their private parts.

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And he mentioned one thing and it was sufficient, or like it was enough, and I told him, share it, let's move on. Because this point, I myself, I've experienced firsthand. And I mentioned couple of these stories in previous videos, but it's worth repeating. What is that consequence that could actually leave a very bad legacy for you in this dunya and it will be punished when you get there in the hereafter. And that is a scandal.

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For the house. And in Arabic we say everybody we know what you have done.

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People goes, go to pornography because it's a secretive act. Nobody can see you except the law of course and his angels, but between you and yourself, you don't want your mom, your dad, your wife, your husband to see you doing these things. So you're doing it secretly. You're doing it secretly. And as we said in the previous episode that I advise those people who haven't watched the

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the episodes we post the break the cycle,

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episodes 31 episodes that are also available on break the cycle YouTube channel, I advise you to go back to them and refresh your memory. But we mentioned sapana law theme that addiction to pornography does not remain personal does not remain

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secretive, you will have to take the activities on you know off site off offline, you will have to go outside and hunt for girls or boys to imitate what you have been watching addiction will escalate. This is the pattern that addiction follows in all other types of addiction addictive substance or or behavioral addiction, addiction and so on and so forth. So the problem is that once you fall into this act of Xenon, either blind would be addicted to it as well.

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And also

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In the long run, everybody will know about it. Now, whether you like it or not like the experience that I spoke about earlier is the man who died in a hotel room, the boy young boy died in a hotel room committing Zina

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or at the villa, and who knows about it the entire Muslim community in town, and even the Imams, they didn't want to bury him. They didn't want to wash him. They didn't want to pray for him, because he died in a shameful position. Of course, this is not my opinion. I don't take that such an opinion. He's a Muslim. He confessed his faith in Islam. His right is to be buried and to be prayed for when he passed away. This is his right. The professor told us that Muslims that our rights upon each other we have rights upon each other one of them is to when he dies, we have to follow his janazah pray for him and bury him. But anyway, because of the shameful position that he died upon,

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many people refuse to pray for him. But the point is that he died that was his last action before he made a loss.

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And the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam said, Whosoever dies upon something will be resurrected meeting a lot on the same thing. Imagine he died and Xena you meet Allah committing Zina, can you imagine the loss? May Allah protect us May Allah smart Allah make our last action the best I mean Allah Allah Allah me so it's it's a scandal people will come to know and Subhanallah there are many people even today who were righteous or whom we consider to be righteous teaching the deen and the feeling to that error lies below because they did not protect their gaze. They did not protect their their their their

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did not protect their dignity, they did not prevent themselves from being in a situation where their sexual desire might might arise and lead them to sexual activity or edible and as a result everybody knew about it.

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It becomes a scandalized bla May Allah Subhana Allah protect us. There is a girl that was talking to me online like couple of weeks ago, she said that she saw her brother in the act watching pornography or liable as she called him, and she didn't even tell him she's talking to me what to do about it, I can talk about it. But the problem is she told me I'm afraid now because every time I'm praying every time I'm leaving, or and these images comes in front of my eyes.

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These images come through in front of my eyes it act on your brain like drugs. So be careful there are consequences.

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You know, the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam said that Hellfire has been surrounded by desires.

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Hellfire is surrounded by designers. So every step you take toward an unlawful act based on your sexual desire is a step closer to hellfire. This is what your beloved prophet possum said. I will repeat the Hadith again he said Allah Jana

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DB the Hellfire, it is surrounded, it was designed with the surrounding of well as blood desires, bad desires, haram desires, the desires by itself is not halal or haram. The desire is is according to how you use it or how you utilize it. But these desires once you use it in a haram way, especially the sexual desire, it is a step closer whereas will lead to Hellfire May Allah subhanaw taala protect us. Haji bioline

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did not protect our religion from Yes.

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I didn't get what you said. But I know what you mean is people may not protect the religion if they did not protect the private squat or the did not guard their modesty while I have the villa. May Allah Subhana Allah protect us all amin Cesar

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Bautista I mean, I mean, I mean, martial law, a lot of opinion, I would rather request if you can say I mean secretly, but common, something that we can benefit from that will be greater because if I go through the comments later on, and I see just a list of I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, I know that you're praying for me praying for the oma, but we can make the prayers and charlotta holla between ourselves and Allah and let the comments be for productive content in sha Allah, let's move on. What is the third thing

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that can help us protect or battle these desires, the shifting of our mindset from

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Let us wait for the environment to change that when the environments change, I will change so the third point that will help you in sha Allah to Allah is to never wait for anyone to change. In order for you to change. You change. You change before anything you see the profit or loss Patterson the Quran. Palermo me Nina, your host Doom in other sorry, totally Minetti. You have been calling him tell to the believing men to lower their gaze. He didn't say tell to the believing men.

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When women put on hijab to lower their gaze, no, no. He said, You know, this is your job. This is your job. You remember in the introductory session, we mentioned something very important that some people misunderstood the title of the course girls are driving me crazy to mean that we are blaming the girls for the sin of men. And I clarified that already in the first session. If you didn't watch the first session, go back to it in sha Allah Allah. So you see a lot of stealing us plainly, you start to make a change you yourself. Don't wait for the environment to change. Don't tell me there are many billboards, you know half naked pictures everywhere. Don't tell me these things you change,

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lower your gaze. Start being with the righteous company, start watching the height films that I documentary, while I was recording another session today an audio session for for an education for your current education, video. And spagnolo you are talking about something very important that is worth repeating here.

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Any habit, whether good or bad if you want it to develop any habit, this habit follows three. Pattern number one is cue. Routine number two, routine number three reward. So the cue is the trigger the trigger that leads or that pushes you to the activity. The routine is the habit, the thing that you keep on repeating again and again. And the reward is that craving feeling in your brain, you know, your brain is always craving a reward. And that happens normally after the action. And it goes in that cycle for again and again again and again. So suparna lifelogging once you're hooked on anything, this would be the pattern. So many people will say brother, voila, he I you

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know, I was holding myself so hard for one week for two weeks for one month. Okay, what were you doing during this? Well, I was so bored so I go on Facebook just browsing you know, aimlessly, aimlessly aimless you know browsing on the internet, unnecessarily YouTube videos on the internet and some people say well my brother It was not harmed so what were you What were you watching? America's Got Talent

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or the American idols or the British idols or music programs that are very popular? So what what are you watching on them? Our girls are singing girls are dancing boys are singing bowl boys are dancing. How do these boys and girls look like do they wear hijab masala at the sink Talal bed ralina Anthony

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brothers wake up these are the these are the tipping points these are the things that hits so that you can go and watch hardcore. These are the triggers these are the cues that reminds you off the heart core practices are light. So don't wait for America's Got Talent to change the products for you know an Islamic talent of reciting the Quran and memorizing and they will not change bro.

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Well, I can't be any muscle. Let me read some of the comments here. I teach in a school have observed many kids who indulge in unlawful relationships online. Does this also fall under Xena? Yes, my dear sister, or brother for him.

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We mentioned earlier one of the narrations of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam is aligned with destiny was in another the eyes commit Zina and the sin of the eyes is the stare that on the unlawful or the lustful stare you look at the opposite gender, wishing or having that desire to have something haram and then the hands the prophet SAW Some said commit Zina also and their hands is the touch even the your feet your legs commit Zina and the Xena is walking towards the places where sin is being committed. And of course these relationships people wouldn't be have relationships at that age. What do they say? I love you. I love you, too. I can't wait to see you. I hug you. I hold your

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hands you know I promise you the forever and ever and all these things are being the star from the sky. All this rubbish? Of course it is not the actual dinner. Again. Let us be very clear here it is not the actual in an actual dinner was defined by the prophet SAW Selim.

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four witnesses must be there. And you know a lot of you and I don't want to get into details but the actions and everybody is clear about it. But all these relationships which we call relationships that by the way, we will discuss that from the beginning of next episode we will talk about love. People think that she's my love I can't live without her. We will deal with that. Today we only deal with desires you saw a boy walking by wearing a body fit or his shirt is open up to his you know cord and he saw some six packs. The sisters get became attracted to that person that's the desire. The same thing boys looked at the girl wearing menial skirt or tight clothes the desire started you

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know working and bothering you. This is the desire from next next episode we will talk about love now. The thing

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block that inshallah for the next episode, but any relationship that the sister or the brother was talking about in school or relationships and all that these are all what in truth introductory to I work at school as well I teach and understood in counselor and we came across cases where Zina did happen as a result of what we call innocent relationship we just you know, we talk online, we go around you know once every while in to the cinema and so on and so forth. All these are introductory to the actual Zener so May Allah protect us all in Sharla

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but we often see that if someone wants to change this society starts reminding him or her how bad he or she was, so ultimately he or she give up their fight against bad habit. How to motivate such a person, Abdul Basit, if you could rephrase the question because I lost you here if you could rephrase the question that would be better in Sharla

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displaying the our displaying the hour of men and displaying an hour of woman This is something that we need to consider because always when we talk about our or the parts of the body that should be covered in public, we always talk about sisters you know wear hijab from head to toe said the face and the hands up to the wrist. We never talk about the hour for the men because it seems like you know we take it for granted that men can wear anything which is wrong. Men should also cover minimum from the navel to the knee loose clothes the same not to be transparents is the same you know when I talk to school to my students at school and tell them like you know the hijab and dress code and so

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on they say brother but the the Soccer Academy you know if you were playing soccer at school, they were short you know above their knees and they show their thighs and is this Hello harmless it's wrong. You know we have to be honest we are you know, we are teaching Islam we have to be honest and we have to suggest to the management that short should be long. If we wanted to follow the Islamic way of life inshallah. Alright, let's move on in Sharla because upon a lot of time is running. So so far we have discussed three points that will help you in a great way my brothers and sisters in Islam to control or to battle desires that could lead you to displeasing a las panatela. We said

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maintain a link between you and Allah. We talk about prophet Yusuf Alayhi Salam and from Morocco Han Allah when he saw an evidence from Allah subhanaw taala. How could the person see an evidence approved from Allah that will make him resist madly for starsan he became so firmly you know, upon his path upon the straight path,

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and making your law that if you do not protect me from their plan, I would, I would fall into that error. You know, a lot the prison is more beloved to me than what they are inviting me to. You see, call upon a lot day and night, and don't give up hope. Number two, we said to remember the rewards or the prizes prepared for you if you remain patient with these desires. We said these rewards wanting donia three and a half era. We said alone will will bring a loss pantalla will find solutions to your problems. Number two, Allah the prophet SAW Selim guarantee you gentlemen, if you guard your modesty and private parts, the last panatela will shelter you under his shade on the Day

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of Judgment. Number four Alfredo said Allah Allah is a cobra, the biggest prize ever anyone could get

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it's guaranteed for home for those who protect their private parts. No and we said the consequences Be careful you might be exposed and people know about your activities. Well Why? And we said meet people dying while you know flipping the remote control on Adult movies and adult you know website we saw people dying in that position many times. So be careful, be biani let let your CRR let your biography be like people like Malcolm X people like you know, great, great heroes, who, who who had this message and mission and the live than the died of planet be like the companions of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam whenever we mentioned the names of say may Allah be pleased with them

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because their goodness is so many but if you died in that position, yeah, we will make it off for you. But we will say you know, you know what, let's just make dua and don't mention his name because everybody knew that he did something terrible. So May Allah subhanaw taala protect us all. Number three, do not wait for other people to change. You change first. Holy moly, Nina, what do you mean obviously hintel to the believing men before anything else. And even this command is mentioned in the Quran before even the command of getting married. Because if you did not protect your gaze now, if you did not control your desire now, even after marriage, even after marriage, you will go to

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prostitution

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You will also go to pornography you will also fool around, be careful. If you want to start something start now don't wait, don't say, inshallah, when I get married, I will change, you will never change after marriage. In fact, marriage is not the solution. If you have problems with pornography with

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undesirable sexual behaviors, marriage is not the solution, you have to sort it out even before marriage.

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Number four, and the last part of today's segment in sha Allah, Allah before we end is knowing the hereafter.

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knowing what's gonna happen in the heat often, and imagining, you know, I, I don't know I'm a visual person, I always imagine gender. Imagine the hereafter imagine, you know, walking on the straight path. And on the Day of Judgment, I always imagined it. And I found it to be very helpful, because the more I visualize what's going to happen, it makes me scared, it makes me fearful of a las panatela even more well live, it was a story one of my mesh I mentioned about a companion who used to sleep between his bed and the wall, and it was very tight space. And he was sleep on his side. And he would imagine that this is actually his graveyard. Or this is his tomb, this is his grave, he

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died and he's buried. And in that, in that position, he will decide one of the ayat of the Quran.

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I don't remember exactly the verse, but the meaning of the verse was that all life you send me back to do some good deeds, lots of lots of dukkha that I would pay charity and I will pray and I will be among the righteous people just send me back to life. And of course, we know that if this you know if this was a reality, if that man was actually did a low would never send back did it to life to do a righteous deeds, we have only one life.

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One chance to do right.

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But this man wasn't dead, he was just imitating or imagining himself dying and reciting this a and after that he would stand up and he will talk to himself. Now Allah send you back to life. Do what you have promised to do. Allahu Akbar. So visualizing certain scenes could bring you to your senses. So what can you imagine about the hereafter? And this is inshallah This is an invitation for you now to find a book on the events of the hereafter. I remember Shay Homer Salima May Allah bless him and reward him. He started actually definitely higher events of the

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end of time he started this series recently go and find this series. It's available online, I believe, and start, you know, learning more about what is going to happen on that horrible, terrible day what's going to happen and then compare. compare yourself in that position of being addicted to sexual behavior, undesirable sexual behavior, pornography, masturbation, cheating on your wife cheating on your husband. Imagine all these and say Allah, where am I going to fit into this terrible day. So we have something called saddle Hush, the gathering our the gathering our with everyone will come standing waiting for a law to start the day of judgment. Imagine that scene with

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me. A shot of the Alon or ba was listening to the prophet SAW Selim describing that scene saying that everybody will come naked, walking, running naked, and shall be Allah Allah said, we will not be shy of one another standing like this. He said the professor Sam said, the situation on that day would be great, so no one would even bother about your nudity. No one would even look because everybody would be looking at what happened. The consequences of the Day of Judgment is great. The mountains would be flying like cotton candy. No wait, the stars will fall and lose its slide the sun will be folded. The sky will be split open. Can you imagine a last fantasy in the Quran that the

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earth will be replaced with another. So you'd be stranger you would be looking and you don't recognize anyone y'all may have federal model. He will be what he was. But he already imagined imagine your beloved mom that you miss so much sometimes, if she died in this dunya on the day of juggling you see how you will run away from her. Your beloved brother, your beloved sister, your beloved friend, your husband, your wife, it doesn't matter. On that day, Neff seen FC myself only

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the gathering our

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we said that my brothers and sisters in Islam that reward one of the rewards of controlling your desire and becoming patient with your desire is that you will be standing under the shade of Allah subhanaw taala if you didn't get that reward, guess what you will be standing on a day which is equivalent to 50,000 years under the sun. So either this or that which one would you prefer to stand or to sit relax, you know to decline

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Under the shade of Allah or to stand 50,000 years under the sun,

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you choose. So, this is something that you need to visualize, you need to imagine repeatedly, you need to learn about it repeatedly, that only higher or the events that will will happen on the Day of Judgment, a lot of Allah you will be presented to allow another thing to imagine, you will be presented to a law, you will be brought by the angels and you will be standing before a law for the judgement moment.

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Well I

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I cannot even fathom that, you know, there is one Hadith where it says that some people will be when when they are presented to Allah Subhana Allah Allah will come closer to them.

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Imagine this, my brother and sister and allowance start reminding them for with their sins. Do you remember this sin? Do you remember this day? Do you remember that night when you browse the internet and he wants something home and you send it to another girl who's not your wife? Do you remember these things alone start listing these sends to you to an extent that this man will say what? This is my doom. That's it, I'm done.

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But that Hadith shows shows Allah's mercy.

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In that Hadith, the prophet said that Allah then after listing all these sins, He will tell to that slave, I thought on this day, I have forgiven

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I let you I will let you go. But But any my my reading to this hadith or my reflection of this honey, this will not happen to any person will lie it will happen only to those people who struggle very hard to find their desires. It will not happen for those people who you know, the ask questions. Will Allah forgive us for the for the harm? Yes, of course, if you repented, call us, we will do the same today and then repent tomorrow, such people will die in this sense. And in my opinion, the only forgiveness for them would be very difficult they only allow

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so be careful.

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You will be presented. Yes. Can you imagine a lot of a lot of luck. But that's the biggest presentation where you will be standing, you know, you will not move an inch 11 as you know, man, except for those whom Allah Subhana Allah gave permission to speak or to move or to walk or to talk. Imagine this and then you say you're going to watch porn or you're going to have desire for this or that. Can you imagine what is also the only the straight path in a certain stock in this area? It was

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interpreted by scholars as all law show me the way or a lot Take me there or a lot keep me there. Now this the Hadith of the Prophet SAW Selim about a throttlestop team that is finer or thinner than the edge of the strand of a hair, and it's sharper than the sword. That's the surah that we're going to walk on. And beneath this Surat is what is Hellfire lions will now ask yourself, will you fly on that slot? Will you walk? Where do you will you crawl? Will? Will the hooks of this slot? snatch your flesh? Or will you fall in Hellfire? What's going to happen to you? Because it's according to your deeds? It's according to what you have done in this domain.

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Look at the scenes of Jenna look at these scenes of hell. And remember that one day there is no way

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there is no way that you're not going to experience this will lie This is the truth my brothers and sisters, we testify to it. We already said agenda to hoc or narrow hoc. Maybe you want to hop on hop, we said that the agenda is truth. Hellfire is truth. All the prophets are truth. Mohammed Salim is the truth. So we already we already testified to that so it's coming there is no way that you can escape. So will you prefer this you know, desire, which will last for a moment or like even less than a moment this design

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or an everlasting genuine charlotta? Let me read your comments in chat live there are any questions that are important to attain to attend on charlo to Allah will answer briefly. Otherwise we'll end this episode at this insha Allah we discussed now we completed Part One desires, how to battle the desires we mentioned four things in sha Allah refer to the first session that we have discussed last week it's available on breaking the cycle YouTube channel please go to that link. Subscribe, like and share with others where you can benefit and also benefit others in Charlottetown What are these four points number one maintain a strong connection strong link with a loss pattern through the

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through core and through charity. But big las panatela to have this special link with a loss pattern. Why? Because when when things became tough when you when desires overcome you allow

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Come and intervene at that time if you have that special thing. Number two, we said to remember the rewards or the prizes prepared for you if you control your desires and utilize them in a halal manner, we said allowing will bring you know will open doors for you solutions to problems. We said Allah subhanho wa Taala or the prophet SAW Selim promised or guaranteed Jenna for you, we said, the shade of Las panatela would be yours we said al for those that Allah would be us. Number three, we said don't ever wait for environments or people to change, you change first. You You change, don't ever blame anyone for your mistakes. He is there are many things you know, that can impact you. But

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this is your fault. Once you fall into the error, it's your fault. It's not that the entire world's fault but you And number four remember or know exactly what's going to happen in the hereafter because this is the reality that will bring you to your census Remember, the day of you know, the gathering our remember the presentation on upon Allah subhanaw taala remember the straight path that is that could in a split of a second he could fall in underneath where Hellfire is May Allah protect us and our children. I mean our plan does not belong to my brothers and sisters. I know that I recap a lot, but this is actually one of the things that we have learned recently in education and that's

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explicit learning where you can repeat and repeat and repeat now if I ask anyone to repeat after me they already memorized the content and this halala our machines are all in that used to do that and we used to say again and again he's repeating again and again, but this is something that can help you inshallah retain the knowledge and

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and share them as well. All right, I am looking at the comments

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Zamboanga Alan was Alan How are us and bonga missing you inshallah we're coming soon. Watch out for September conference in sha Allah to Allah be prepared always the day of death and judgment. You are absolutely right be always prepared. The prophet SAW seldom used to say this whenever he buried somebody he would remind the living mean actually that he came to me I do for this particular day. Prepare yourself

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gerakan lohana I think that will that will be it for now in sha Allah just like lucha por the comments with your questions because I will go through each and every comment please. And I will write them down in sha Allah Allah one day we will come and address all these questions in an episode to wrap up this course and May Allah subhanaw taala except for one and all jaql along hyaluron so panic alarm Agha hum digna shadow Allah Allah hi land. Nesta Farooq. I wanted to like one one last thing before you end up the recording brother. Please remember that this episode in sha Allah Allah will be uploaded on our channel, youtube channel, break the cycle, and inshallah will be

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