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To sleep

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they will be challenges and you will face a lot of obstacles, some of them

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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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not sleeping yet.

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Okay, let's try one more time a salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah here.

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Sorry about the disappointment. We are not talking about sexual immorality today.

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This Villa Rahman Rahim Al hamdu, lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam O Allah, Allah Allah, Allah Karim. Allah Allah He was to be here tabea in Parliament of iambic San in LA oma Deen, whatever la hamana ma home oedema in Allahumma mean?

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a dear friend of mine just shared with me a story couple of days back.

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I was in a certain country, and the brother was sharing with me some personal matters. And he told me that my father had a big business. And the business grew day after de.

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And martial law, they made a lot of money, and they lived a very comfortable life according to our standards.

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The younger brother, however, was a materialistic person.

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He wanted to get hold of the finances, he wanted to be in charge of the finances of that company or that factory. He kept on convincing the father

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to give him access of the finances so that he can give salaries to the people and so on and so forth. And after so many attempts, the father thought, okay,

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you're my son. And I made all this money for you anyway. So get

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what you want, and do a better job than your elder brother.

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And so Pamela, it seems that the younger brother was planning something evil Alejandra Bella Mia las panatela savers.

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After a couple of months,

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the brothers started kicking out people from the factory.

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He started preventing his brother from having from his elder brother from having his right and salaries.

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At the end, he took all the money in the banks. He took hold of all the goods of that factory.

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And he told his own father and his brother. Get out of here. It's mine.

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What struck me the most my brothers and sisters is that this man now he had changed his last name.

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And whenever some people asked him about his family, his parents he would say, I'm an orphan.

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I don't have parents.

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And that is too painful. My brothers and sisters I was reflecting on the way back from the country. Other exists people like that still in our time, are still people who are treating their parents in this way. A loss of Hannah Thomas Alison Doran, tola, Houma, Ofu,

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Houma and do not even tell them.

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Don't tell your parents a word of dissatisfaction, a word of frustration. In fact, I don't even know if the word of is a word in the first place. It's an air that comes from your mouth as a as a result of your anger and frustration. Allah subhanaw taala said even that air that comes from your mouth, don't even offer it to your parents, let alone kicking them out from their own buildings, let alone shouting at them and telling them this and telling them that in a disrespect,

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this honoring parents, one of the major obstacles one of the major sins that could prevent you from entering gender, with all your soul

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with all your charity with all your xhaka we

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All your good deeds my brothers and sisters, if you show disrespect to your parents, to the people who brought you up

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in a way that they thought it's the best for you.

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If you show them disrespect, there are chances that you may never intergender Allah May Allah save us all me.

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Abdullah have never sold or the alojado he came one day to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he told him

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are you alarmingly humble Allah? Which deed is most beloved to Allah subhanaw taala the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam responded by saying us Allah, Allah, Allah, to perform prayers on its specific time.

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That's one of the top deeds that Allah subhanaw taala love the most is to pray on time, not to pray fudger at 10am

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to pray on time, and what is the second what is the second most beloved de to Allah subhanahu wa taala of the law hiddenness older the Allahu Allah asked further. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said by rule worried in

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honoring your parents after follow the backbone of Islam.

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I imagine being the pillar of that Deen is Salah. Right after that, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, honoring your parents comes next.

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And when we look at the words chosen by the prophet sallallahu wasallam It's amazing. Jani the Prophet sallallahu Sallam didn't say talk to Allah and he didn't say obeying your parents. He didn't mention that word in Arabic, he say better. And the word bear includes all meanings of goodness, sn love, caring, obedience.

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Giving sacrifice.

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This is how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam informed us that when we deal with our parents, we should deal with them with bear

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because obedience alone is not sufficient. You may obey your Master, why do you hate him? Right?

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A slave will be obeying his master. But he may not love him at all because of certain treatments. But when it comes to your parents, you have to obey them with love with mercy with compassion walkthrough lahoma Jana has Lululemon aroma, and lower to them lower to your parents, your wings of humility, and humbleness.

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And ask Allah subhanho wa Taala, to have mercy upon them, as they have cherished you. When you were little when you were weak, parents, we hear a lot of stories, my brothers and sisters about how children are treating the parents today and we weep.

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And I'm not surprised myself because I came from a dark background myself and I used to give hard time to my parents, I used to really cause them pain.

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I didn't want to listen to them.

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The fact that they will open the mouth and give me an advice for me was so heavy

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that I didn't like to listen to them.

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In fact, I will listen to advice which are similar from my friends from you know my surroundings. But when it comes to my parents, I wanted to tell them just don't speak you're bugging me. You are, you know, making me look bad in front of my my friends. I don't want to listen to them. And one day I left home.

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I just left home. I couldn't stand living with my parents.

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And my my sister called me up one day and she said come and visit your mom. She was cooking our favorite soup. And she slipped and all the boiling soup were spilled over her. And we took her to the hospital. And she's not really in a good condition come and see her.

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And guess what my brothers and sisters back then.

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I didn't.

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I didn't go and see my mom a few months later, my mom fell down from the first floor in our house on her head and she was rushed to the hospital.

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Again, my sister gave me that call and she told me Your mom is in the hospital she fell on her head. She's injured.

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And for the second time my brothers and sisters I didn't go and see my mom.

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And in handily let her banana mean that Allah Subhana Allah opened my heart to this beautiful religion.

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hamdulillah as a hamdu, lillahi, Rabbil aalameen that I was awake before it is too late. So now when I call my mom because she's back in Egypt, I live in China in Hong Kong. So I called my mom and I told her you remember how I used to behave with you? Are you happy with me now? Are you okay? My mom would pose and she would say, yeah, you were stupid.

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But then she will say but now you're okay.

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We forgive they let go of the past.

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But the point here my brothers and sisters, how many of us will be given the opportunity to repent before it is too late?

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And how many of us will die disobeying to pay their parents?

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Yanni the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said man metta Allah Shea in bartali, Whosoever died upon something whosoever died performing certain act will be resurrected on the Day of Judgment, doing the same thing. Now imagine you will be resurrected on the Day of Judgment, this obeying or parents shouting at them, telling them words that hurt imagine

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will Allah subhanaw taala accept from you that the answer is absolutely not as we will see the narrations and when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam describe the disobedience of parents he used another Arabic word which it's called aku

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aku and holidaying. Again it is not simply mean this obeying your parents. It means this honoring them disgracing them.

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And in Arabic When you say cassava who are cassava who means he tear up he ripped off his his garments. So it is as if the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wanted to tell you my brothers and sisters that when you dishonor your parents, it is as if you are ripping off your relationship not only with them, but with Allah subhanaw taala because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in one of the narration read the law mineral while eating the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala is found in the pleasures of your parents, and his anger is found in their anger.

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So when you displease a loss, when you displease your parents, when you make them angry, Allah subhanaw taala immediately is angry so long as you're not following anything from them or any instruction from them that goes against the commandments of Allah subhanho wa Taala because the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam peace be upon him, he said, there is no obedience to any creative being on the account of this obeying the Creator. So that's why I lost it on the Quran. We're in jaha Dhaka, Allah and to Shrek habima la sala cubby here in Montana, Oklahoma, that if they strive if they struggle to make you disobey Allah or to associate partners with him, if the come

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into that area, do not follow them.

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But even then, do not show disrespect to them also hibu Macedonia Mara and live with them in a way that is most appropriate and most noble.

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Also, when we use the word aku, or disobedience, or dishonouring, according to the Hadith of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, or according to the words that he used, in reference to this honoring parents, the Arabs used to say

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our Alma Alma means made the water bitter and unpleasant.

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So when you this obey your parents, my brothers and sisters, when you show disrespect to them, it is as if you are making your life miserable.

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miserable.

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So, when we look at the rank that you know that the classification that the scholars have made about major sins, and major obstacles, I believe Dr. Mohamed Salah spoke about silk and of course, the its opposite which is tohei.

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We see that every time Allah subhanaw taala will speak will speak in the Quran about worshiping Allah. Right after that he will tell us an after worshipping Allah, and after staying away from associating any partners with him. Will bill Worley Do you need Santa and do good to your parents and be beautiful to them? Every time.

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And when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wanted to define for us major sins he said what? Al Qaeda al sruc hoobler while cuckoo

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Leading measure sins are to associate partners with Allah and to dishonor your parents.

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And one day he was sitting with these companions sola lohana, Mohammed in Seoul, olalia salaam, and he starts saying three times around the man Sumeragi man, summary man, he starts saying he's in this grace, he is in this grace. He's in this grace, the companions of the Prophet salatu salam, who is that person or messenger of Allah. He said the one who would witness his parents growing old with a bulk of them or any of them yet, he will not intergender

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indicating that some of us Unfortunately, they will feel bored, they will feel annoyed when they see their parents at old age and they need special attention. They don't feel like we wanted to serve them anymore.

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And we have seen recently many videos on the internet showing children wanted to kill their own elderly parents because they are annoyed they don't want to attend on them in Allahu ala Rajon

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my brothers and sisters in Islam I want to tell you something when I was in Hong Kong in 2011, I received a message from my sister. She always bring to me the bad news masala.

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Allah bless her.

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She texted me, she said,

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Our dad passed away.

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Your father passed away. And I remember I was sitting in my room in my comfort zone and my laptop was in front of me. And I was stretching. I was about to sleep. And all of a sudden I just froze.

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I couldn't think of anything but a hug. To give to my dad.

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Only now

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I mean, only now you wanted to hug him and he was there all your life. He was there. He was healthy.

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He is the one who buy for me everything that I requested everything that I asked for. He's the man

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but I wanted to hug everyone else except my dad.

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Right? I want to tell I love you to my girlfriend to my friends the you know my band members. Yeah, I love you man. I love you. I love you too. I love you three I love you for we tell the words I love you to everyone but when it comes to our parents It's heavy. Why so why should you wait for your parents to leave?

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Why should you wait for that moment my brothers and sisters if they are alive today seize that opportunity and spend time with them. Well ah Hey, my sister's was was narrating to me how my father in his last day used to shout without any reason without suffering from any pain. He will be in his room and he will start shouting Oh.

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And then my my family members will rush to the room. Are you okay? Say yes, I'm okay. I just want you to be seated next to me.

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That's it.

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But with the rise of internet, cell phones, iPads, and so on, and so forth. We don't speak to them anymore.

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We don't speak to them they wanted they wanted you to make them feel that they are still alive. When they reached that critical age. My brothers and sisters in Islam they feel that death is coming nearer and nearer day after day. They wanted you to make them feel that they are still alive. But yet we are with them at home on the dining table. Everyone is busy with games with chatting with Facebook with Twitter when with Instagram. Instead of saying to your mom Thank you mom and kiss her hands for the food that she had prepared for you. You are taking picture of that phone and uploading it on Facebook. in Manila he were in LA Rajon

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and making us feel hungry in Ramadan.

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The Prophet sallallahu Sallam again, emphasized the fact that major sins, one of the major sins is dishonouring and disobeying parents by saying, shall I inform you about the biggest listen to the words of Allah, the words of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. Baraka, he said, shall I inform you about the major the biggest of all major sins?

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Elisha COVID while cuckoo I didn't again,

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to associate partners with Allah in worship, and to dis obey and dishonor your parents again.

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So in short, in short, my brothers and sisters, this obeying parents is considered as

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one is considered as a major threat.

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The second of all major sins

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and one of the biggest and worst of all major sins, I will repeat that again.

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This obeying and dishonouring and disrespecting your parents in any form or shape is considered as a major sin. The second of all major sins and the biggest and the worst of all sins

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before killing before killing

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before sinner before Xena before drinking alcohol before drinking alcohol

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This is how Allah subhanaw taala had mentioned it in the Quran

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workato bukanlah taboo

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and Allah subhanaw taala had decreed upon you that you should not worship anyone but him and to your parents do good.

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Be truthful to them. Be humble when you deal with them be soft when you talk to them. Let me see by a show of hands how many in the audience here regularly not occasionally? Not during I eat so that you can get some money from them

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regularly How many of you hear the kiss the mother's hands raise your hand

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masala quite a good number masala I didn't expect that hamdulillah Malaysians are bullae Yeah.

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masala. Okay. How many of you in Sharla in the audience are ready if they are not kissing their mother's hands and the Father's hand how many of them are ready from now on in sha Allah to do it on a regular basis every morning every day after every Salah or after? fudger you rush to your parents and kiss their hands. How many of you in Sharla are ready to practice that? Raise your hands mula hamdulillah. Hell bless alameen handelian because my brothers and sisters in Islam I believe all the Messiah all the speakers who came from different different parts of the world as far as Mashallah the depth of Africa

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and Egypt from Egypt.

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from Saudi Arabia Masha Allah

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they didn't come here just to speak in you just listen because Mashallah we have two types of audience in any conference. We have sisters we have brothers, obviously

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the sisters Masha like and see most of them are making notes. The brothers Mashallah are looking at me enjoying my big nose?

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Yeah

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the sisters are making notes because they don't want to any they want to remember later on what we have talked about. The brothers are Mashallah Allah has given them brains like Al Bukhari and Muslims. They don't need to write

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La La La quwata illa Billah. So we didn't come here just to entertain you.

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If you came here just to see people who appeared on TV and appeared on YouTube videos, and that's it, then you have wasted your money, you have wasted your time. But if you came here to gain some knowledge, and to put it into action, then a loss of Hannah Montana is going to reward you in this world and in the next inshallah

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there is a huge difference my brothers and sister huge difference between knowing and doing.

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I believe everyone in the room, they know something about honoring parents in Islam.

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I believe that everyone in the whole the know the status of parents in Islam, we know that. But are we really following what Allah subhanaw taala has instructed us

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are really are really keen to practice what we know.

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Good intentions are good. But are they good enough? The answer is absolutely not. We are good. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam told us that he said that if any of you intends to perform a good action, but he didn't perform it, Allah subhanaw taala will write it down with him as one good deed, even if he didn't perform it. So good intentions are good.

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But then the continuation of this narration is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said and any of you who intend to perform an action and did perform it, Allah subhanaw taala will multiply that action for him by how many times by 700 times by many more fools Allahu Akbar. So good intentions are good. Now your intentions those who raised up their hands to go and risk

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detect and honor depends by kissing their hands and feet, even their feet.

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Those who intended today when they go home and add the exact particular action when the when the action is about to occur, some people will get cold feet. You say, Oh no, it's too difficult for me to, to practice, allow a reward you and you will get one reward for your good intention. But if you did it, if you break that ego and bow down and a soul Mashallah even, even the volunteers Mashallah May Allah bless them. And some of the community members, when they see us coming in speaking, they have this culture of holding your hands and put it on the top of the head right? as a way of respecting the speakers and so on. You just do it to your parents. But instead of just put it here,

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give them that compassionate and passionate kiss, to show them how much you care and how much you love them. Once you do that, Allah will multiply that action that simple action by 700 times allow it.

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Now,

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there are certain consequences for those who disobey dishonor and disrespect their parents, there are consequences don't think that it will let go a Lost Planet, Allah will let it go. No, there are many consequences.

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One of the consequences, the negative consequences that will happen to you my brothers and sisters, if you disobey your parents is a law with will shut out your lights, meaning Allah Subhana Allah to Allah will not guide you further in this dunya he would be misguided.

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I believe wholeheartedly, that the man who kicked his parents from their own buildings in that country, the story that I just narrated earlier, I believe, despite the money that he had made after that,

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I believe that he lives a miserable life, I believe. And I believe that Allah subhanho wa Taala will not take back his soul, unless he will show him his punishment in this domain. Unless you repented of course and corrected what he does.

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The Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam advising the people who have you know who have lost their fathers by saying if father would be keep good relation with your father's connection after his demise. Look at the advice of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam like if you father have

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you know his parents or his relatives or his neighbors or his good friends, if you used to love those people, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is advising us children to keep good relationship with them after his demise. Otherwise, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said for your twill la noroc Allah otherwise will shut out your light will will cease to guide you.

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And this advice is about people who my father used to love us to respect us to sit down with how about cutting ties with your own dad.

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How much more you should strengthen that relationship before it is too late.

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Before you wish to give him that kiss or that hug. Before you say How I wish to go back now and see him for a minute just give him a hug have a goodbye before that. Fix the relationship or else Allah subhanaw taala according to that narration, alone shut out your life Allah will never guide you in your affairs.

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So this is one of the dangerous consequences relations related to your father's friends or father's connections. So keep that relationship even after his demise. The second point I mentioned that Hadeeth earlier, this grace in this dunya humiliation in this dunya

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you will never be successful my brothers and sisters if you have this obeyed this honor your parents. And we mentioned the Hadith earlier but it is good to remember to remind you again the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, are all the men so marotti man, so marani man, he is in humiliation. In this grace, he's in this grace. They asked the prophet SAW Selim who is that person, the one who will witness his parents at their old age with a both of them or any of them. Yet he will not enter.

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It means that he didn't he didn't do what it takes.

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So that he can be admitted to gender by our last panel.

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He did not show them mercy.

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He did not treat them with kindness. He didn't sit with them telling them words of of love and compassion is

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stead of spending hours on Facebook saying nothing, doing nothing just crawling his life away.

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Just checking the profile of sister Fatima.

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That's it. You're just sitting because she changed her profile picture yet, when she changed her Facebook cover page yet or whatever.

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Instead of wasting your life on social media without any responsibility, spend time with your parents online. This is very serious. And the problem with the oma today is that we look at these things lightly without really giving it much thought. As opposed to the early generation who used to look at the minor sins as major

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early generation they used to look at the small mistakes as a big issue. There was one Tabby or a companion I forgot his name but he was coming out of the masjid and he put his left shoe first in the shoe so he will his left feet foot first in the shoe before the right so the Sunnah is to wear you know the right foot first yeah to put your right foot first in the shoe that's the son of the Prophet salallahu SLM, so he forgot his slip.

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And then he gave a charity away one dinner.

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So one person saw him doing that. He said, Why did you give one dinner you should have given like one Dirham any less in value. He said because I forgot one of the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam

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said yeah, it's not even haraam Yani it's not Haram. It's just a mistake of forgetting to apply one of the traditional son of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, they used to look at that as something huge. Because if you started looking and belittling the main the minor sins, major sins will also become normal.

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And it is happening today while la Allahu Allahu people will come to me and say what is the problem with having you know boyfriend and girlfriend Muslims are asking these questions today.

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What is the problem my intention brother is to marry her.

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Like I remember just a story very funny story. I cannot skip it. And I must tell you

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this brother came to me in another country.

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And he told me Don't tell me cigarettes is haram. Okay.

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So I told him brother Jani. I am not a Mufti. I'm not a scholar. I am a speaker. And I don't do any try to say halal or haram stuff. But I want to give you a test. I told him if you don't believe that cigarette is harm, no problem. Do you have a cigarette? He said yes. I say okay, take one. Take one from the pack. He took one say light it up. So he looked at me and he looked left and right.

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And we were in a in an exhibition, you know, mall, Exhibition Center. So it's anyway it's not allowed. So are you serious? Yes, I'm the boss. No problem. Just smoke. So he's about to smoke to light it up. I told him But wait, say Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim.

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Sometimes the lie we don't need scholars to tell us what is haram What's wrong? All you need to do is to reflect. If it is not Haram, we are told as Muslims before we begin any action any deed What do we say? Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim before going out of our houses after entering before eating before drinking before working, we are told to you know associate the name of Allah in any action.

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So we say Are you serious? I see. Yeah. saves me a lot of time and after you finished say, Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen you know

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Alhamdulillah who burned my lungs Can you

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say I got it. I got Okay, I get it.

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And this brother he quit smoking later on. But

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the point is sometimes and the sister another sister, while I witness this, by my own eyes in one of the countries also

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a sister came and she embraced Islam and everybody was happy to be here and so on and so forth. You know, the excitement when you see somebody coming to Islam.

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And two years later, she did not practice the hijab.

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So the shake was sitting one day in the office and he told her sister you've been a Muslim for two years martial law. He joined the Tao activities when the time for Salah comes he put on the hijab and after the Salah you take it off. Isn't it a time? Isn't it the time for you to practice the hijab properly. She said brother

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hijab is in my heart

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that she looked back in her to her and nice

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With a smile on his face in his face, he told her, take it off from your heart and put it here.

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This is where it's supposed to be.

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What do you what do you mean his job is in my heart that Jani the wives of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, his daughters and their own man after, after that they used to put it here.

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Who are you coming 1000s of years 1500 years later saying hijab is here. Any way to get that knowledge, you understand? I mean, sometimes just we need to ask ourselves, these questions will not be acceptable in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala when the answer is no, between you and yourself, you know now what to do action take an action, don't wait.

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I have witnessed two of my friends back then when we were in music and band and all that they died in a hotel room out of drugs.

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So Life is too short, voila, he Life is too short. And as I said, and I will repeat again and again, you may never be given an opportunity opportunity to repent.

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You may never be given an opportunity to say the Shahada before you die. So correct your your your ill behaviors today. Otherwise my brothers and sisters as I said earlier, the more you're doing goodness, the chances for you to enter Jenna is great. And the more you're doing sin and this will be a Lost Planet Allah in these you know, small matters that we look at it as if it is just small.

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Then the chances for you while at the block to go to the opposite destinations also great. Tomorrow, tomorrow inshallah. In the second talk, we will be also mentioning about movies, the impact of movies, songs, music, TV series, TV drama, how many of you here honestly the Mufti is not here. How many of you

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don't worry

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How many of you How many of you here are still watching TV series movies? Don't Don't be lying. Lying is haram by the way.

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Raise your hand Don't worry inshallah, we are here to correct our our behaviors Mashallah. You have to come tomorrow, guys.

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One of the other consequences that may happen if you continue dishonouring your parents and disobeying them and showing disrespect to them is that Allah will haste his punishment for you in this dunya

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the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said two things Allah subhanaw taala will hate the punishment in this dunya before before the hereafter. One is cutting ties with your relatives. And the second is a poorly done, or dishonouring your parents, Allah will punish you here before the hereafter. It's a serious matter.

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Sister just came to me while I was, you know, the book section. And she asked me this question. Sometimes our parents really annoy us sometimes they say things that we cannot cope with, and we cannot control our anger. What What to tell them and sometimes I say, Why did you tell me that? Don't talk to me like this? Don't talk to me like that, right?

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So I told the sister what are the chances?

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What are the chances for you to remain alive while you're shouting into parents?

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And then I told her you know what? I remember a friend of mine who contacted me just you know, recently.

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And that friend of mine, we saw him disrespecting his mother in a way that I cannot fathom.

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That he treats sometimes to beating and we thought that when we were young, he will beat his mother up because of what he wants maybe ice cream.

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That is that is how he Allah subhanaw taala guided him and he repented to Allah subhana wa tada hamdulillah we lost contact for many many years but he came to know what I'm doing in Hong Kong and we got in touch back and suparna la ally my brothers sisters, he sent me a picture that makes my heart weep. His mother later on became paralyzed.

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And he have saving from you know, inheritance that his father left for him. And after he repented he decided that he will never get married.

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And he will sit under his mother's feed just to serve her. While law he showed me the picture. This guy was very fat even bigger than me.

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He lost a bunch of weight because he paid all that tension too is weak and sick mother and you say Believe me when I sleep at night. I don't feel you know, any burden or any sadness in my

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Heart or any, you know

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any discouragement to continue what I'm doing I feel the opposite I feel happy. I feel like I feel that Allah Subhana Allah had made this, this incident to take place in my life so that I can be in Jannah with her.

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So don't wait for that moment to repent now start now go to them now before it's too late. Another

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Another consequence of this abating disobeying parents is a loss pantalla will cause hardship to take place in your life, hardship, difficulties, problems, after problems. And we all know the story of juries or juries, Aladdin, someone who was known in the community as a worshipper. He was known that was his title, George George, the worshipper. One day he was praying to Allah subhanaw taala and recycling and his mother called him up. Yeah, George and one is praying he got confused my soul or my mother, my soul or my mother. So he continued to pray to Allah subhanaw taala and this is Salah. This is prayer we are talking about. She called him again and he again preferred salaah over

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his mother's coal for the third time she got angry, then she made a supplication against him. Be aware, don't ever let your mom or your dad reach a point to make a supplication against you. That could be your destruction. My brothers and sisters will live because they're most likely the eyes accepted

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if they are on the hook if they are on the right path.

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So she made a supplication against them. She said, Oh Allah Do not let him die before seeing the faces of prostitutes.

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Because my brothers and sisters we will talk about that again tomorrow. Xena once Xena entered person's heart while I add to Billa Eman is snatched away.

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The man is gone. Once you perform Zina if you don't correct you know yourself if you don't repent and mate and do that which is right which is pleased, pleasing to Allah. Your Eman will never ever be like before.

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So she made that supplication immediately from nowhere a lady appeared in the community carrying a baby in her arm gaming that that may be belong to George eliab. His reputation was poised in the community. Everyone was shocked. How could you do such an act?

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And every time he denied no one believes them.

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And he realized that maybe my mom's not happy with maybe my mom. I caused her pain or something. So he went and he asked her to forgive him if he does anything that was displeasing to her, and she forgave him. And by a miracle, Allah subhanaw taala made that baby spoke

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and defend him

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and pointing to the real father of this lady. The moral lesson of this story is of Hannah law is that if your mom if your dad, if they're happy with you, if they are content with your behaviors toward them, believe me when you face difficulties in life, Allah subhanaw taala will open doors for you. Allah will save you as he saved your angel added from his trouble.

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So be careful. As I said earlier, do not let them Miss Another consequence. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, three supplications three to us are accepted? For sure. Certainly, we are accepted What are these three supplications number one, the supplication of the oppressed person, the one which injustice has been done against him. If he made a supplication a lot of panatela promise, a guarantee that this application will be accepted will Allah Allah will respond to his call. The second one was our to musafir and the supplication of a traveler, someone who's struggling if he made a supplication most likely his supplication to be accepted. And the third one, what are our two

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lewellyn Allah, Allah de and the supplication of the father against this son, or against his child? Most likely to be accepted? Don't ever let them reach that stage. How many parents are here?

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How many parents are here in the audience? Mashallah, how many?

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How many of you are married? All of you?

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Can I see hands sisters? How many I didn't see hands in here in LA.

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In here in LA rajjo. May Allah grant you the best of all husbands in sha Allah.

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Look at the Amina.

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Have you seen the mean? Very long one.

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For the parents in the audience, I beg you never ever make a dua against your child even if they cause you pain, the profits or the loss and this is a comment from the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he said, letter O Allah and fusi calm. Do not ever supplicate against yourself. Don't ever say Allah take me from this word. I'm fed up. Don't do that. The prophet SAW Selim said don't do that.

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Well, Otto Allah, Allah decom and do not ever supplicate against your children. That is a command that's an advice from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah tada Allah and welcome and do not supplicate against your wealth. And don't say ally, this wealth is curse, curse, this wealth and so on. Don't do that. Don't ever, even if your children reach to the point that they are unbearable, pray for them, not against them by brothers and sisters. Another point that may happen if you kept on disrespecting and this being your parents is that on the Day of Judgment, Allah subhanaw taala will not look at you. You're a law. Yeah, a law. One of the things that makes us patient in this

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world is that there will be a reward in general, the most beautiful reward in general will be looking at Allah subhanaw taala and Allah will be looking at us. Finally, finally we'll be seeing a law and his actual form did in the prophets, Allah wa sallam said in one, one donation when he was sitting with the companions, and the moon was completely full in the sky and he said, by a law you will see your Lord as you can see that full moon, we will see a lot plainly under in general isn't the law I mean,

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but some people Allah Subhana Allah will hate looking at them. Who are these people? One of them is a la

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louella de he the one who disobey and dishonor their parents. Can you imagine I hope and I pray that you're feeling the heaviness of the message.

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Another

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Another consequence, the May consequences that may happen before you die or after later on is your deeds, prayer, fasting and so on. acts of worship may never be accepted. A man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then he said, You're Rasulullah Shaheed to Allah, Allah Allah Allah, I bid with this there is no God but Allah. Well, they was a light two humps and I prayed five times a day, what a day to the cat tamale and I have given charity, the obligatory charity, while some to show her Ramadan and I have fasted during the month of Ramadan. For color supervisor Lawson then the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, if you did that men matter Allah herder whosoever died upon that,

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can Amana been well suited the theme was Shahada. Anyone died upon that state, you know, fulfilling establishing the five pillars of Islam, he will be with the prophets, with the truthful and with the murders

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like this and the prophet SAW Selim did like that except if he was our leader, he again except those so long as he did not dishonor his parents. So there is a condition for your gender, my brothers and sisters, this is one of the conditions to enter gender with your Eman with your belief, you have to honor respect and show mercy to your parents before it is too late.

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And last Hadeeth

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is that most probably most likely, there will be no agenda for our the process of them said let Julio Janata are

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the one who disrespect this obey this honor his parents will not enter

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the one who disrespect this obey this honor his parents will not enter gentlemen will lie It is so scary. And that's why I said earlier Do not ever from now on shala look upon your minor sins as if they are you know, little bit. small child forgive, we take things for granted Abacus to decode the alojado he said biolife one of my foot already in Jana. I will never feel secured from the plan of Allah upon me. Who is saying that was to decode the Aloha norba the best of all mankind after the prophets above was the one who was given good news of Jana during his lifetime. Yani the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam we know the Hadith he mentioned 10 by name, telling them you will be in

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general you will be

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one of these abubakr on the top list. Yet that man did not sit back and relax and relied on this fact. He was worried until then.

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Oman, Qatar the second on the list, he said How I wish to be a tiny hair on the chest of Abu Bakar Allahu Akbar,

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who are saying these things my brothers and sisters in Stan,

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the greatest of all people that best of all generations, they were worried they were working very hard to achieve gentlemen, with the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala they were steadfast until the end.

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Sometimes we have that feeling that because I'm Mohammed Mustafa Shahada born in Malaysia born in Egypt born here born there genda is guaranteed that is wrong worldwide strong. That feeling that feeling of comfort and ease that we are going gender anyway, is very dangerous.

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The righteous before us the consider the look upon themselves as the worst. Imam Shafi, for example, he said what in one of his poetry or hip masala hanaa was to me, no, I love the righteous, but I'm not one of them.

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But today, us

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We consider ourselves to be the best and everyone else is worse. Everyone else is below me. Right? We point fingers at everyone but us.

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We look down upon everyone except us. We look down even sometimes upon our parents, we feel ashamed to be with them.

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In Alabama, he were in a garage.

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Everyone in this venue have got some issues problems that they experienced from time to time.

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And if you wanted to get rid of these problems, and these issues, my brothers and sisters, the key is your parents. We know the story of the three people who were locked in a cave and a rock came and blocked the entrance of the cave. We know that and everyone starts saying okay, let us make a supplication by the good deeds that we have performed. In the past one of them you said your ally had old parents that I used to bring for them every morning a bowl of milk

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to feed them every morning. And one day I came late and they were asleep. They fell asleep.

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Every night he will bring the milk there dinner. And one night he came late and they were sleeping. And he didn't wake them up because he wanted them to enjoy their sleep. So he stood up all night, just holding the bottle of milk for them until he woke up the next day, the next morning when he fed them until they were satisfied. And then he left and they said yeah, Allah, if I did that deed for your sake alone, please let this rock roll the way and the rock was rolled away. And that was one of the reasons why they were saved.

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So if you want to get rid of your problems that you're suffering from today, go and mend your relationship with your parents one of the greatest keys that can solve your issues in this world. And in the next over the top of the alojado he said your parents they could be your agenda, and they could be your help.

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Jani this is this is something that we need to wake up about my brothers and sisters in Islam.

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Anyone can remind me of the homework. And you want to remind me of the homework. Hello, homework.

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You remember I gave you a homework what was the homework

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Jazakallah ohana, we're gonna go and kiss

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our mothers and our dads hands today. And we're gonna tell them we love them. I love you dad, I love your mom, we're going to, we're going to say that we're going to break the ego in our hearts to the inshallah

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And not only that, you're gonna take a picture in sha Allah.

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And you're gonna send it to the straight path Facebook page. That's how you can be productive in spreading the word because you know the process and said, Whoever start whoever followed the sooner or revived sooner than somebody else acted upon the sooner he will get the reward of that person until the day of judgment.

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So you guide someone to do a good action you will be rewarded if he followed that if he followed that good action. So long as this according to the methodology of the prophet SAW Selim, you will get rewarded for that. Can you imagine the blessings? Can you imagine maybe you would be in your grave gaining rewards because someone was inspired by a photo that you have posted on Facebook with your mom while you're kissing hand.

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What my my brother says it makes me appear to you as silly as

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it may appear to you as silly

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but you will never feel the pain until they are not around. You will not feel the pain. As for those who

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have lost the parents. Whether both of them or any of them. I beg you to go home tonight and to spirit sometimes because I know we get busy in this you know world

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I beg you to go tonight after Ayesha and spirit sometimes making diet for them that reach them.

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Spending charity on their behalf will reach them that reward reach them. May Allah subhanaw taala bless our parents, may Allah subhanaw taala make us the best of children. May a Lost Planet Allah help us to serve them the way how they used to serve us, although it is impossible, because there was a companion of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam who carried his mother during Hajj all the time, you know, the whole time during Hajj, all the rituals, his mother was above his shoulder, performing all the rituals while his mother above his shoulder, and he went to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam and he told him, did I pay her back for what she did to me? He said not even one

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contraction.

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So we will never be able to pay them back. But at least let them pass. Let them go while they're happy with us.

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While they are satisfied with us, let them die while giving us a DA that will make us live in this world. You know with the in the protection of Allah subhanaw taala rather than his curse, may Allah subhanaw taala save us all from hellfire missile panna cotta Allah as he got us today in this beautiful country Malaysia May Allah protect Malaysia melas pantalla give you know the necessary

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guidance to the rulers of this country to maintain it as it is today peaceful and beautiful.

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I mean, I mean I mean jsoc law hiren I love you all for the sake of Allah. May Allah Subhana Allah Allah as he gathered us in this day, may he gathered us in the company of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam i mean i mean i mean as salaam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh