6 Tips to Battling Your Desires – Girls are driving me crazy

Wael Ibrahim

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Excuse me, a Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam O Allah say even Alina was a hurry. He was supposed to be here in

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San elijo Medina or the lumen ma Home Alarm I mean, rubbish salty, salty or silly Emery Lula aka the Tamil assignee of Allah Subhana Allah Allah Milena Illa Allah Tana in Mecca Antalya Maki my brothers and sisters in Islam Welcome once more to girls are driving me crazy the last session in our course that we have started handle a couple of weeks ago

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about desire love relationship, the land of love Jen and today we have collected six advice given by some of my teachers and I wanted to share with the chair them with you in sha Allah tala today and before that I wanted just to see who is online that's

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which I'll greet you. And then we can take it from there.

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As Salaam Alaikum Salam on deliver care to Maria ahlan wa sallam Good to see you

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I hope you don't mind me drinking coffee

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it's one of the things that I like the most this my addiction by the way.

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All right, whoever is online and listening and watching us if you could start sharing the video in Sharla so we so that we can inform others to join us before we get started.

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While they come ceramah live on a ketogenic ananassa it would be also nice to know where are you from? Where are you watching us from

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so that we can see inshallah our audience

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a little further Good to see you

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Mashallah, I don't know what to do when I see a you know, next to the name of

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the participants, those who are with us online. It says top fan I don't know what does that mean, but thank you for being the top fan and May Allah bless you.

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Kuwait martial law, martial law, by the way, I know Sheikh Mohammed Nakai from Kuwait, and I was talking to him, I was in Hong Kong last weekend.

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And I met him and so Pamela he's such a nice man. And we got to talk about how can we cooperate and As some of you may have heard that I'm launching soon, a big campaign in Australia called aware against pornography addiction to raise awareness about the dangerous effects of pornography, and shares Mohammed and Naka we actually is planning to cooperate to bring me over to Kuwait to launch the same campaign and to train the people there on how to tackle this issue and how to treat people from porn addiction. So watch out people equate inshallah perhaps my next vacation will be there in charlo tide

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I am rebirth Islam I assume that you are a convert or revert to Islam may allow you to strengthen your faith and accept from Eugen inshallah tada

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Sharif inshallah soon you and have facebook live every day I mean, I mean you pray for me I could handle that

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I'm not sure if the brother who's handling this also can agree on

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excuse me huh All right, let's get started inshallah whoever is online as I mentioned, if you could please share the video and also remember that all the previous episodes in case you haven't attended the previous sessions, they are all available on our break the cycle YouTube channel and also it is available on wider Brahim space page. You could just visit the YouTube channel subscribe and you will get notification inshallah in the future when we have something similar because we are planning inshallah to build a video library related to these topics only on break the cycle YouTube channel so YouTube channel will be dedicated specifically to any topic related to love desire, you know

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haram relationship pornography, addiction, and all these relevant topics and related topics. So please, I think the brother inshallah will post the links if you don't mind, brother, just post a reminder link of the YouTube channel so that you can show a lot subscribe to it and share it with others. I said I want to fly from Philippines, Elena Sutherland and the

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Anna welcome and in sha Allah looking forward to see the people in the Philippines September and October in sha Allah.

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Allah Han also from Philippines Masha Allah

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Jakob la hyaluron people of the Philippines kindly share the video so that we can gather as much crowd as possible online to start in Charles seeks advice given by a very close mushy very close teachers to my heart, when I discuss with them issues related to the youth especially, who are struggling with desires with loving, you know, with with love in general that leads to wrongdoing and haraam activities. So they gave me the six practical advice. And they said that they are difficult, they are not easy. But this is the way you know, you know, when I will talk about patience at the end, the most hated word in the world nowadays, and it's final. I've been talking

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about it a lot because many people are calling me. And they said actually one of them two days ago, three days ago, he talked to me, he said, Brother, I heard you talking about patience. And you said

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that some people say that don't tell me to be patient and so on. And then he told me I'm struggling with ABCD and he listed a lot of issues. And then at the end he said Can I ask you something please? I said Yes brother Go ahead. I'm listening. He said please don't tell me to be patient. I say or I guess what? What did I tell him actually I told him brother be patient because I have no any other practical advice to give anyone who's struggling with these desires but to tell him be patient. We will explain some on the last advice of this class about a little bit more about patience. And then in sha Allah Allah to Allah will end their

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share please post some of your lecture in Muslim Muslim Central to be honest this that the brothers will live from South Africa and move to me because well, they gave me the username they gave me the password but seems that I'm so bad with technology. Thank you for reminding me I will pass that to the brother behind the camera. Perhaps you figured out how to do that because I myself I try to access the username that account uploading the I'm not that great when it comes to technology unfortunately.

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So hello, we got the YouTube channel on let's get started Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah he sold a lot a Salah six advice inshallah I'll begin with the first one. The first one is something that when when my Shaykh was sharing it with me, I was shivering I was scared. I was like, you know, am I that person? Any hours are saying that I'm going to teach that to the to my audience that might be the be the people who are following me. But am I practicing this because the advice is what

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it is either you are with a law wholeheartedly

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or you are not with Allah subhanaw taala Either you are committed fully to this Deen to this religion. Or you are a yo yo Muslim you know what is your you're Muslim? Are you Muslim in seasonal Muslim? occasional Muslim Friday Muslims Ramadan, Muslims, people who just worship Allah subhanaw taala to earn this massive rewards occasionally and after that they forget about Allah subhanho wa Taala so are you that person? Are you are you fully committed to the deen? Or are you a yo yos is very difficult that He even told me it's black or white. There is nothing in between when it comes to the dean. That's what Allah says in the Quran. What we tolu facil Mika

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enter into Islam whole heartedly. Don't pick and choose and don't try to come up with excuses to holla lies the haraam Jani shaitan will come and tell you you know what's wrong with having a chat with the opposite gender, you know, without having bad intention or lying my brothers and sisters in STEM today I was talking to my year 10 girls, and this topic came up. As always, I always like to, you know, advise young girls young boys on appropriate relationships. And this issue came up and one of the girls say, You know why you guys guys means any mushy? People with beards, scaly fingers, you know why you guys always tell us you know haram relationship, Who told you that I am involved in a

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relationship, why you always assume that we are doing the wrong. And I said so. pantalon. Number one, I'm not talking to you personally. The advice is given very general to everyone. If the oma started experiencing something that is apparently spreading, then we have to actually warn the masses, even those who are not aware of that problem, because they may get infected in the future. So don't be annoyed when we repeat the advice. My wife, I'm not sure if she's watching. Let me talk about her birth.

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My wife is that kind of person who wanted the information brief in a in a Twitter kind of you know

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words like you know 140 even the old Twitter now the extended double there you know the old Twitter kind of girl like give her one or 40 words give the the the the summary of the story don't have too much stuff just be brief to the point so my wife whenever she hears my lecture because I repeat a lot of the concepts again and again I don't know I feel like our last panel has been repetitive in the horrendous world because we always forget so I'm following that path is remind remind for reminders benefit the believers for that kid in the crowd to remind give them reminders again and again because that in Rome in the reminders the believers will get the benefits my wife always

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whenever I have a lecture you said that before okay honey, forgive me but I I have to remind the people you know they forget your mother in law sharp you remember everything.

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So May Allah subhanaw taala forgive us all, but this one will lie he makes me very very scared because it might with Allah Spanner Am I as well Ibrahim am I with a lot of completely fully?

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Or am I a yo yo? So it's something it's a reminder for me as well? Let us all today will lie. Now let us all commit to a las pantallas Deen. Let us all fully commit and ask a lot to assist us yet Jani, the prophet SAW Selim one of the beautiful, one of the most comprehensive Do I have the Prophet Muhammad SAW Selim, along in Niala, the cricket worship cricket, we're hosting arithmetic or Allah assist me to remember you much and to worship you much.

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And to perfect, my worship towards you. Allow me alarm, I Niala the cricket washo cricket, Vic rica the remembrance of Allah subhanaw taala shook again to thank you much for hosting diabetic and the perfection of my acts of worship to you, not just not just to worship not just to pray, but to perfect the act of worship, husband, a bad ethic, to worship to worship you in an appropriate way. Not just to pray to America in a speed of lightning, you know to do it properly. Let us make a commitment. Let us let us learn from all hapa Bundy when he committed his Deen committed himself to Allah subhanaw taala The moment he took Shahada he became an effective members in the community. Let

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us learn from abubaker so before the Allah Anwar about the first day he embraced Islam, he was able to convince six people to become Muslims as well. They became committed and they maintain that commitment for you know years to come until they meet Allah subhanho wa Taala so the first advice is there is no black it is either black or white. There is Islam is like nothing in between. Don't say yeah, I'm a Muslim but you only pray for me brother. Yeah, we are praying for you pray for me to please any people when they see me Subhan Allah was in Hong Kong as I mentioned earlier, people see Please pray for me brother and they look at me like you know like, they are just waiting for a saint

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out who believe me Allah forgive us. While I told one of the sisters will lie sister I need your daughter more than you need my daughter. Do you know why? Because people think of me.

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Shake so and so May Allah forgive us. Well Ah, here we are. We need your daughter more than anyone else while I May Allah forgive us and protect us and make us Jani do these actions only for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala I mean,

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so do your best my brothers and sisters to make a commitment with Allah Subhana Allah fully Are we going to be? Are we going to sin? Yes.

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Are we going to you know, earn? Yes, we are human beings. The prophet SAW Selim said coligny Adam hapa all the children of Adam, are sinners by nature, we are going to commit sins, but let us make our sins unintentional. Let us when we fall into error, we fall you know, out of forgetfulness, not intentionally, knowingly, you know planning to go on the website planning to go and meet a girl who's not my our wives behind the back of our family members behind people so that we commit the sin we commit haram and we know that we are going to do harm let us avoid that kind of sin.

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Let our sins be unintentional and may have lost planet Allah assistance to do that in Sharla second advice in sha Allah, Allah remember my brothers and sisters, so long as you are alive. You are in a test again, this is the second most hated word. Muslims nowadays don't want to hear. Life is a test. Who wants to say test exam people get you know frustrated? The sometimes the stuff will allow me last month Allah forgive us all. Why would Allah subhanaw taala need to test me

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does it

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He No, you know, why would he make it difficult for me? You know my brothers and sisters in Islam Allah Hi. This is something that I consider as

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you know not not that Allah Subhana Allah doesn't know stuff for the love of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah wanted you to have that experience. Allah subhanaw taala wanted you to excel and to be developed to become a better person through these tests and trials. Otherwise you will just remain seated without any you know effort to do a better job. Let it kill Levine, I'm Johanna, Allahu helluva homely, taqwa those the successful ones are those who Allah subhanaw taala tested their hearts regarding taqwa.

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Allah subhanaw taala is going to test you Allah pathogen or an assay banaswadi you and your holy men, while homelife tahnoon do people think that they will be left alone doing whatever they want? Just because they say we believe without being tested? You know, a lot of attendant Lavina we have tested the people before them a lot this these prophets, who are you to complain about the tests that are and this is part of life. This is actually the Sunnah of life is to be tried. In fact, Allah subhanaw taala will test you just because you're a Muslim. And just the fact that you became a Muslim, or that you made a commitment tonight. Be careful. The fact that you make a commitment

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tonight to practice Islam to the best of your ability, that's an evidence already that you are going to be tested. If you're if you're, if your commitment is sincere, allow a test to allow it put you into hard trials. So are you up for it? Are you up for it? And remember, leaving the haraam doesn't make things easy. And once he left the hotel and said hamdulillah I'm not gonna do sin I'm not gonna watch pornography I'm not gonna you know, I will cut up my relationship with these girls. I will delete them from my Facebook friend list. I will delete them from my Instagram and Instagram and all these things I will cut it out.

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The next day a Lost Planet Allah will test you the next day things will be even harder. So are you up for a challenge?

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Are you up for a challenge my brothers and sisters? Are you ready to challenge shaitan himself and see how to be a chef on a resume? Are you ready to challenge our town for the sake of Allah to please Allah subhanaw taala so that you can earn the gender that we explained last episode? May Allah Subhana Allah grant us that string. And again, I will remind you, are you going to fall? Yes. Are we going to do haram? Yes, the moment you fall, repent, repent and don't despair and don't torture yourself. And don't turn this easy, you know,

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phases that we experienced the laziness stage that all of us experienced don't turn it into depression. Don't say Allah Subhana Allah hates me that's why I'm not praying like before I'm not making the highlight before whenever you feel that coldness or laziness stage, just you know take it easy it will take also two three days and then you in sha Allah make a comeback.

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Advice number three, which I talked about last time, the first episode is the homophobia issue.

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I think this is the third word that Muslims hate the most and that is haraam sister this How long is it how long even the question now start with the is it haram to do the so and so.

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The word haram exist in Islam. This is one of the things any inshallah good news for you. The word haram exists in Islam.

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And we'll have to get accustomed to these things. And we'll have to actually train ourselves to ask whether this thing with this action pleasing to Allah Hillel lawful, permissible or haram prohibited because at the end their last advice we will talk about the three types of patients one of them regarding Haram, we will talk about it in sha Allah. So let us learn these things. And I found something very interesting. I found that the reason why people don't actually have patience is their lack of understanding of what patience is. They don't know what does that mean, you know, so we will talk about that in sha Allah even haram the world harm people. What does that mean prohibited just

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don't do it. But they don't know the meaning of it. Really the serious meaning behind it, we will have we will discuss it in in brief inshallah Allah later. But the word haram exists you have to accept that the moment Haram is established any action that the competitor Lost Planet Allah, the Prophet Muhammad SAW Selim his companions, the scholars said it is haram and it is confirmed and there are evidence for it. Sacrifice it for the sake of Allah subhana wa sallam manufactures female lobby please with him. Sell man and faricy May Allah Subhana planet Allah be pleased with him. He left his village in Ferris in Persia for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. Later on, he became the

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Amiga

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Over Ferris, he became the prince over the entire nation for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala on muku May Allah Subhana Allah be pleased with her. She migrated with the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, she left her. You know, she left her, her, her beloved city, she left her money she left everything behind for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala and she was the poorest of the poorest. During this journey, Allah subhanaw taala gave her up the ramen and now the richest of all the companions as a husband of a hora de la hawala. He sacrificed food and drink for the sake of knowledge, a Lost Planet, Allah made him and me a prince over Medina, mantra Casa de la, la, la

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mina, Whosoever sacrifice something for the sake of Allah, along with substitute that thing for with something even much better, sacrifice your heart and desire now allow me to give you maybe the most beautiful wife in the world, sacrifice the haraam. Now, my dear sister, Allah subhanaw taala, will give you the best of all husbands who have manners, who have, you know, Dean who have good looking Allah subhanaw taala would provide just sacrifice the harm now. And I know that many people will say brother, but we have sacrificed the harm and nothing is happening. No husband, be patient, suffer, suffer suffer the most hated word in the world today. Let me read some of the comments. Life is a

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test but Allah said

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in

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enamal, Austria, sir, yes, in the malossi, Yusra with difficulties always comes ease but the problem is, brother we've been in difficulties for so long, when is the East coming? Just be patient, that's the key Allah

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May Allah test us in a way that we that it will be a blessing I mean, Allah will never test you with something that you cannot bear. Remember, this is a basic rule in Islam.

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A basic one and four and that Allah subhanaw taala will not put a burden over you that you cannot bear. If there are any question my brother and sister start putting your questions so I can deal with them at the end in sha Allah to Allah advice number four, remember,

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remember, remember that if you fooled anyone today if you fooled a girl today with her if you played with her emotion, if you try to play with, with her with you know sweet words just to get her to do what you wanted. remember Allah subhanho wa Taala could actually turn this against you in the future. You will you probably have a sister, you have a mother. Probably you will have a daughter in the future. Be careful you will never like anyone to play and to roam around with your sister or with your daughter. Will you actually like it? I wanted to see a man who say yes, I like my daughter to be fooled by by men. I wanted anyone to commentate? Yes, I don't care. So long as she's happy. I

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don't care. No one will accept that. Whether you are a man of faith or otherwise, no man will accept someone to you know, fool around with his daughter. So why would you accept that to others Allah, the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam. One of the qualities of good believers is to love for your brother, what you love for yourself.

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Whatever you love for yourself, love for others. Whatever you hate for yourself, hate for others as well. Then Allah will protect you from falling into this dangerous trap

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malice mentality worry for me and me. May Allah reward us all Amina blind, so be careful. Remember, that if you fooled around with anyone today, Allah subhanaw taala may send you someone and he may test you so badly in your loved ones. This is this is very, very important, the treatment will be repeated in a way that maybe you can't even bear. So remember,

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advice number five is something called a PC panel a PC A is for ablution P is for prayers, and C is for crying.

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This teacher told me that the ultimate solution to intense intensive desire when when your desires like you know,

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controlling you and your thoughts become occupied with these sexual images and so on. These three solutions are the best to run and perform ablution to pray to record and in your sujood or after the prayer big Allah subhanaw taala and go out and cry and if you cannot shake tears, even pretend that you are crying. Pretend meaning like shout, talk to Allah Subhana Allah tala as if you're talking to a counselor or a brother or complaining to someone tell him tell him you're a lie. I've lost all hope. I have lost all hope. I don't know where to go except to yourself.

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You guide me, but prayer is the key spot Allah Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran Look what was done in ob Sabri, was solid. seek help from Allah through patience Pamela Shall we remove this from the Quran? My brothers and sister Jani. What can we do? Saba is everywhere, was dying over Sabri was solid seek help, through patience and solid and upon Allah in this ayah soveral came even before Salah loose Allah I met Dean the pillar the biggest pillar the backbone of the deen is solid.

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So spawn Allah this advice, our last panel to address a failure study, Bulli failure study bully, let them respond to me, let them respond to my call, let them follow my commands. As a result, I will respond to them

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as a as a result of you responding to the last command allowed to respond to your call. So are you ready for that in sha Allah, Allah? Are you ready, whenever you have that feeling of you know, doing the wrong thing to stand up to make ablution to make will do and to rush for to Raka and to ask Allah subhanaw taala to cleanse you and to cry for him you know, crying is something you know that we are missing in our community, we are missing that point. So panel I attended so many religious gathering

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among the Christians, you know, and tears are there, the emotions are there, this is something that we're missing. We're missing to sit alone and cry to a Lost Planet Allah and Allah we have nowhere to go back to you. So help me take me out of this misery. And that should be constantly every single day.

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Every single day sit with you with yourself in a corner and cry to Allah subhana wa

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and we'd like you know, I see people in the message a raise up their hands and door and the members making the door and their their faces everywhere moving around poking their nose. Their hearts is not in the door. Learn to how to make them learn the art of door or lights in artistic it's it's a systematic thing. If you can learn that you can change the color of Allah can you imagine my brothers and sister we talked about this great deal. During the break the cycle.

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episodes that we have launched in Ramadan we talked about the last month Allah can change the his own plan for you just because of your sincere desire. So why are we neglecting this tool? The last advice my brothers and sisters in Islam is taqwa. subber, funnel. Angie had been sober. And she had three words. And just before we jump into conclusion, what type of jihad and so on and people Oh stop, Oh, brother was asking us to go on

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Jihad here, because the ayah that I'm referring to is in Surah falon kabu verse number 69, where that's the last iron sort of like Kabuto, last panatela silver Lavina had seen an idea no sooner that those who struggled for our codes, we will guide them to reach you know, to their to our ways, meaning like a las panatela will open doors for them to practice their faith properly. So Jihad here doesn't mean in the battlefield, though. This is one of the types of jihad that we have in Islam, we don't have anything to hide. Jihad means to struggle in all situations to provide a good cause, or for the sake of a good cause. But in that particular context, I'm referring to struggling against

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your own sins, your own evil inclination, in order for you to, you know, cleanse yourself.

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We sit somewhere, right, we said, taco taco, I will leave sober till the end because I know that people don't want to hear it. But tacos is something beautiful. But before that, any one of the

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one of the scholars of the past he said jahad 2pm and layli Center, what Allah does to be he sreen Asana, I struggle with jihad, sorry with the PMO line with the night prayers for one year. So this man was praying Kamala, it was very difficult for him to stand up, you know, all night and pray. It was very difficult for him to wake up and pray. But he struggled. He did it constantly, consistently, every single night, every single night, you have a clear moonlight, moonlight night prayer and write prayer for one year.

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And after one year, he said, then I enjoyed it for 20 years. So the beginning is always difficult. The beginning required that struggle and that you know,

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difficulty and, and what we call Jihad to strive against your own evil inclination to beat up your laziness with actions Pamela, I remember one brother told me whenever I'm hungry, I fast when I feel hungry the next day I fast. When I feel too much too sleepy. I wake up for gambling.

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The opposite to discipline yourself, do the opposite of what your self is inviting you to Pamela's beautiful. Lesson. So this this scholar said that I have struggled with Dr. Mullen for a year, but I enjoyed it for 20 years, it becomes part of his life, it becomes something that he's looking forward to. But unfortunately in our time, we pray tahajjud we enjoy it for one night, and we don't perform it at all later on. Because we get excited when we hear a nice lecture. Then we perform like 20 or 30 Raka and then we forget about it the rest of our lives. No, start slowly, slowly and give it six months one year to work on for a maximum don't go beyond that. Don't go beyond that in the beginning

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if you haven't prayed that prayer at all, and then increase as you progress inshallah, as you feel that you are you need more, you you started enjoying the process, go for more Alhamdulillah but this is this is just an aspect of how to do jihad against your own evil inclination. And we talked already about taqwa before but briefly taqwa means to

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to create a barrier between yourself and anything that anger a las panatela and a taco taco is in your in your heart. Taco is the realization that Allah is over watching you How can you sit on your computer Will I ever be lamea lifesavers, knowing that now they say what actually do you do what you know the the old the laptops they have this inbuilt cameras now the have a sticker or a tape the block the camera because they say that somebody can hack you actually and can see what you're doing in your room. They can see what you're doing on your laptop. So what they do they put a tape on the camera on the webcam of the inbuilt computers have you heard that before even the soul the

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the founder of Zuckerberg the founder of Facebook, we saw him actually blocking this cameras panel of people are afraid to be seen doing something private by others by strangers we are Muslims we know that the lies are rocky the monitor or rocky the one who's actually monitoring you. We know that a loss a semialdehyde who he is, we know that Allah lolly is the one who knows everything that aware the one who's aware of all your actions a lot. And even a lead from a tree that falls he knows what happened to this leaf Allah knows everything. Yet when it comes to Allah we

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we don't care as long. That's a lack of Eman, lack of belief, lack of taqwa. We don't have it. Otherwise, we'll life you have, you know 50% of your top law, you know, revived you will never be able to sinned against Allah subhanaw taala.

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Have you heard that story of the man who came and told another you know, scholar, he told him advice me always do the sin and then go back to it again. And so he said whenever you're about to commit the sin, sin against Allah in a land that he cannot see you.

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So that's all How could How could I do that? Unlock and seize everyone. Allah can can see me wherever I am. So how dare you to sit in front of the king? The one who provides for you?

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Yeah. So my brother and sister taqwa and Jihad now sober. sober is the most hated word nowadays. To me. I mean, you know, I keep hearing from people don't tell me to be patient. Even wives who complain about their husbands even husbands who complain about their wives I've been waiting and waiting Enough already. Don't tell me Give me practical tip.

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Be patient.

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There are three types of suffer and then we'll end with here with this note in sha Allah tada three types of patients sub Braun, Allah more well sub boon Allah was sub Broan Allah moku

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a type of fasion with a title a type of patience with a loss commands with a loss orders in the La Jolla moreover loggly or sand eater evil corba Allah subhanaw taala commanded us with justice with perfection when we do anything we perfected we do it properly for eternal evil horrible and to be you know, in touch in contact with our relatives and and you know, our loved ones Be kind to them and so this is this is a command orders or last month Allah commanded us to pray on time in salata, Cana Mina kita, then mo Kuta. Allah Subhana Harrison, the Quran that Sala has been prescribed upon the believers in a specific time. So is it easy to pray? Is it easy to get up?

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Early morning and pray? No, it's not easy.

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It's not easy. And if you say it's easy, then you're lying. If you said that you're getting up for February

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Like, you know, like a butterfly enjoying, you know, the cold weather and no, no, it's never it's again, it's Jad, it requires jihad. And it requires sobor sapana law it requires that struggle against your inclination to sleep and you know to hug your teddy bear and pillows, you know and blanket. It's difficult. It's difficult. No one says it's easy. This life is uneasy. Yeah, so do it for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala that required patients that require a waiting period that is longer than usual. And that's the best definition of patience that I get I can give you is to wait is to wait a little bit longer than usual.

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or lie My brilliance I remember when when I was young, my uncle, may Allah have mercy on his soul he passed away a couple of years ago. But this man, you know, he used to love soccer so much. And I used to cheer up for a team and he used to afford the opponent that what he called the competitor of that team in Egypt and we used to wait for these matches from time to time but suparna line all the while we were watching that match always the match will come during this whole time in Egypt

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and back in the days I remember they used to you know the the the webcast or the broadcast of the match will will be cut off and then they will actually broadcast the and then complete and then

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they became advanced they just made a note notice on the screen during the match that now it's time for salon so the we stopped the event back in the days to distract people even more. So this panel on my uncle, I remember growing up he would leave the match although he loves his team so much you you would see him jumping in the steam score a goal back he's he's fanatic about it. But as soon as he then in the masjid, he would go in the Muslim pray and sometimes even will tell him why don't you pray here with us? Because praying here with us means what a lot. But

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have you seen that video called the ninja prayer, go and go and find that ninja prayer. It's a beautiful, it's an Arabic but you will understand it because the guys just acting how

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Muslim sometimes just you know eat up the prayer to for the sake of a match or a game or a TV series and so on. So that requires patience

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for someone to leave what he loves for the sake of Allah to pray properly in the message because the message is just next door. So he would say that there is no excuse. My uncle I remember there is no excuse to pray here. The message is just next door is few steps next street

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and I can hear that and in the house like then in Egypt and then the microphone is on balconies. And some people will will contribute a microphone to be on their balcony. What is their excuse not to go in the masjid unless you know something severe. The more other than the the man who used to give the other day in Egypt. He was our neighbor and he used to give the salon then Allah subhanaw taala tested him with you know with the disease that left him bedridden for the rest of his life. And so upon Allah the last day, the last day, he every time he would hear that then he would cry the last day of his life he stood up on the bed he give the complete and he died on the bed giving the alarm.

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So you see him a madman actually shiny metallic whosoever lived for a cause he will die upon the cause. So Pamela did not compromise the dean for match. We will not compromise the dean for for a TV series or for the the addiction to pornography or to any heroin thing. Now I was talking to a brother A while ago. He's arguing for an hour about secret about what are the possibilities that you know that perhaps I told him maybe maybe it's hard for it's by the way it's Haram. Yeah. I don't want people to, to think that I'm saying it's, it's doubtful matter no to all the scholars, all the scholars that I know of they say it's harm haram because it damages your body that Allah Subhana

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Allah had given you pure, but that bronze panel I told him imagine with me that maybe there is a tiny teeny possibility that cigarettes is how you say I will not leave it

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oh how can you advise such a person

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and will you will you can imagine with me Will that person even accept the word patience?

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Finished

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so the first type of submit is to be patient with the commands of Allah with the instructions of a lot

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more Umrah means command you know it's it's compulsory. So be patient with the compulsory matters in Islam number two sobre la Lu to be patients with the haraam that always appear good always tastes good. All the herranz with no exception. It has a taste of

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enjoyment. It has some some enjoyment with it.

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That's why people don't always you know, some Muslims they say,

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brother Have you tasted beer? And have you tasted wine? And what does it taste? You know there is an enjoyment there is an excitement, curiosity around the Haram things, Xena, people who are who experience in our life as a biller, they will tell you it was it was good because shaitaan is there to beautify the harem, so that he can hook you on it. And so that you can come back again and again. People who are addicted to pornography, those who have fallen into sin Allah, Allah, they explained to me that we were addicted to porn, that was okay. And for us, they say that it was just a matter of pleasuring myself on screens.

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But the addiction is collated and they started acting out their activities outside. So they started, you know, going to prostitute house or edible and engaging in Zin, and so on. And at the end, they said, We became addicted to zielen

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they didn't care about pornography anymore. That wouldn't give them that satisfaction anymore. And so, I was talking to my students today, I will warn them, you're 10 1516 years old.

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I told him one line if you decided to sacrifice the Hillel,

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the Hillel the the the desire the Hillel desire for your husband in the future if you decided to forget about that, and given and start enjoying these desires in a horrible way, you will never be able to enjoy the holiday later. No way.

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All these images in your mind will be gushing to you and you will look at your husband you will look at your wife. You will not feel any desire for them. Hello. You married them.

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Alison Natalie taala Allah kita Bella them. The man who's officiating the marriage This is upon the Sunnah of the prophet SAW Selim. According to the direction of Allah subhanaw taala. Yet you will look at your wife you're not really any sexual desire for her you will look at your husband you will not feel even coming closer to him. Why? Because you have fed your fuel your brain with filthy images throughout all your life.

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Be careful that require patience patience with the haraam patience to sacrifice the harem now so that you can enjoy the holiday later, patience upon all with all the haraam activities. That's a second type of patients. And thirdly is sub Broan Allah marcador sablon patients with the honor of Allah subhanaw taala that he decided for you many people unfortunately, they are not happy with who they are. They are not happy with what how they look, they look in the mirror every day and why am I not looking? Like this actor or this actress? Why am I white? Why am I black and I remember a Chinese friend of mine was in China when we were doing business this friend used to buy a lot of

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creams and lotions and imported products from America and why because you want to darken his skin he is not happy with the whiteness that God has given him.

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And of course there are many black you know, who used to also do the same thing to

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you know, have a lighter color so that the whites are not happy with the colors the black are not happy with the colors that everyone is trying to compete with each other. Why? Why would you enter into this? Muslims should be colorblind number one any, we don't see color, we see human beings.

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We see human beings and we appreciate the creation of a Lost Planet Allah. And this is another thing I've seen in the Muslim community, people will mock you know how the ear of this brother look like or the big nose like myself, and so on. They will make fun of people, people's features. Be careful. This is the creation of a last primetime. Well, I even I was talking about my hands today. Those who are closer to me, they know how rough My hands are, to an extent that one of the students in iOS 11 yesterday he touched my hand and he said brother, are you wearing gloves?

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The funniest, beautiful, most beautiful comments I've got about my hands growing up. I hated myself because of those hands panel. I hated myself. Because my hands are looking looking there. And but by the way, I'm sending a challenge. I'm making a challenge for anyone who's watching if if you find anyone in this world whose hands look exactly like me how much brother we can pay him how long you know, we don't we don't pay just it's a challenge. No one in the world have hands like myself

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except those who are you know, family members like my brother, because this is in our genes, something in our gene that we don't understand what it is. But, but earlier I didn't I didn't like it, I hated it. later on. I understand something called contentment to be happy and satisfied with what Allah has given you. Once you develop that in your heart, it is off your brain. You don't think of it anymore. It does not actually

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block you from reaching your goals, it's not there anymore. You don't care about it anymore. So be happy and be patient with how you look. Maybe sometimes, some sisters are unmarried and they it takes it takes so long for them to find the right husband Be patient. So this is your cover. This is your other, be patient and pray to Allah subhanaw taala to open doors and to provide you a husband who is sincere, who is well mannered, and who also is doing

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practicing his religion. Do you have any idea about brain neural pathways? Yes, brother. And I talked about this a lot, that anytime you watch something or you like something, immediately a pathway is created in your brain. And that pathway becomes particularly

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focused on that particular activity that you have started. And that activity you have liked it like you know, when you like sugar or like type of food, or you watch a scene or something like that, immediately that pathway is created.

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And those path pathways are created by the billions upon billions for any activities that you have started. Now the problem is,

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the problem is that so long as you go and revisit these activities, the pathway is engraved. And the dopamine that's the hormone responsible for your excitement and happiness and even addiction increases. And the more that dopamine increases, the more you want, and the more and when the dopamine drops, then you become depressed and anxious, and so on and so forth. But the good news is that we can actually rewire that pathway, rewired it by developing more new, healthy habits

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from this old, beautiful patient, I mean, I mean, I mean, so sobre la la more to be patient with the commands of Allah, to be patience with the harem that is around us and to be patient with the color of Allah and what a las panatela has provided for you. If you can develop these three. Is it easy? Ah, nothing is easy. It's all difficult. We are Lost Planet Allah. Grant us a beautiful patient like patients like the sister stramonium prayed for us. I mean, if you don't have any questions my brothers and sisters, officially our courses ended. I hope and I pray that it was beneficial if there is any mistake that perhaps I have said throughout all the hours of the course they may Allah

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subhanaw taala Forgive me for my shortcoming and if there is anything good beneficial that you heard from me, it's only from a Lost Planet, Allah and His tofik so Pray for me, pray for the team. Pray for my family as I pray for all of you may Allah Subhana Allah only grant us success to achieve what we want and May Allah subhanaw taala cleanse us from any sin that is bothering us or any addiction that is actually preventing us from reaching our goals in terms of our Deen mailed last month ALLAH forgive our shortcoming Armenia

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and just before leaving my brothers and sisters in Islam, I wanted to remind you that in sha Allah tada on the 10th of August I will be launching in sha Allah to Allah, a campaign called aware to spread education and massive awareness about the most dangerous effects that pornography could have. So I hope that you can Charla support and endorse the program.

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What about losing hope that you will never find the right person to marry in early life? Let me get back to you said Zubair just wait for a second so inshallah I want you to find a web page on Facebook aware a you so you just search the page aware a you that's the page for the aware campaign that will be launched here in Australia inshallah, then we have plans to take it to Sri Lanka to Philippines to Hong Kong to Malaysia charlotta we want to make a massive it even more fuming told me that the UK also is interested to bring the campaign

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to raise awareness of pornography addiction and the dangerous effect that it could cause so May Allah subhanaw taala grant us all success I mean your blood I mean just like law heightened as regards to your question, brother briefly, what about losing hope none could lose hope

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in in the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala except the disbelievers those who don't have faith so my brothers and sisters Islam keep your faith up a Lost Planet Allah mentioned and that even if you have sinned, and even if you have done a lot of you know, bad deeds in the past, a las panatela is willing to forgive you completely so long as you don't lose faith in him and so long as you repent and do that which is right so keep the faith in Allah. Keep

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Making God we just said the dog can change the order of a law so don't lose hope ever so long as you're breathing

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truth in all trust in the law have supper alone was best the second law Highland Enza I will end it here my brother and sister I have to run May Allah Subhana Allah accept our deeds and please send me your feedback your questions if there is anything that you have spotted in this course and by the way we will be sharing the notes my handwritten notes as I promised, can we can we give them the PDF file now brother so I will we will be launching sorry we will be posting the hand written notes that I used

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throughout this course Don't make fun of my handwriting please Thank you. Or the funny colors that I used I just this is my way to remember the knowledge I put many colors and drawing

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it's just my own person personal handwritten notes so I hope that you enjoy it. But inshallah aside from that we will be also inshallah compiling a proper PDF file type not handwritten on the same course inshallah, in the near future, one of our sister would be working on on it inshallah, from the Philippines, by our Asia Connect Institute. May Allah bless her good that I mentioned her name so that she is you know, so the task is confirmed, may Allah make it easy for you? Does that come along? And once again, thank you brother.

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behind the camera, you don't want his name to be mentioned May Allah bless him for his effort de la Heiden everyone as salaam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh