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Overcoming Our Struggles with Hijab

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Umm Jamaal ud-Din

Channel: Umm Jamaal ud-Din

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No company, no matter what, in order for people to go live, when I would have been learned even Shruti and Hussein Amin say at the Melina my Yankee level but I'm Belinda well may you've been Fela heavy Allah wash had one that Linda had no more who watched the hula surely you can watch her do and Mohammed Abdullah who want to sue so long while he was salam, or present for Allah, we praise him with thanking, we asked him for his help when we ask Him for His forgiveness. We seek refuge to Lahore to either from the ebook ourselves and the eve of our actions. Whoever is guided by law, the no one can misguide them, and whoever is misguided then no one can guide them except for lawful Tyla

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I've never witnessed if there is no God worthy of worship except Allah. And I bear witness that Muhammad has a lot of money he was there to learn is his funny messenger and my bag. First of all, my dearest sisters are Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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May Allah Allah to Allah reward you all for your intention in coming here that you can lead to Allah, we ask a lot of Tyler that, you know, this gathering will be the cause for us to be increased in shot a lot in every man and you know, surely for us to get closer to Allah to Allah, and to Revive, revive our hearts be delighted to Allah, because we're all in need for reminding us of all of us reunite with need for that reminding and in need to come together. You know, in places where the vicar of Allahu taala, you know, takes place with with the remembrance of Allah who to Allah takes place, especially in these times when Subhanallah we have so many negative influences around

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us, it's very difficult for us to kind of want to stay strong. So we ask a lot of times that, you know, what we're going to share today is an opportunity for us to still be the lead to Allah revive and to feel stronger being in that. So my dear sisters, the topic that I was asked to speak about is concerning a hijab, you know, and if I was gonna give this a title myself, Mike, the title I would give it is, you know, how to overcome our struggles with hijab, you know, how to overcome our struggles with hijab, and how to remain steadfast upon our hijab, you know, because one of the things that, you know, some people bring up sometimes, too, which is white gentleman, you know,

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sometimes I feel that, you know, there are certain topics, we tend to always speak about Muslim community, you don't mean that always we speak about these topics, and then there are a lot of topics we fail to speak about enough, you know, I'm trying to say they just don't feature. So I think that's quite a valid, it is quite a valid,

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you know, concern that some people do have that, why really focus on some things, and they're like the, you know, the hype subjects, but yet, there's so many other things, they're just totally not, they're just, like, ignored, and not really spoken about enough. So that is a valid data valid point. But look, for me, the reason that I feel it is important to speak about the hijab is, you know, especially at this time that we are living in, right, we have to acknowledge that, you know, sisters, you know, what are exposed to, especially since social media came in, you know,

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you know, the way that you dress, for example, is presenting on social media, that's having a lot of pressure on sisters, right. So we find that, in particular, in this time, we find a lot of sisters, you know, struggling to stay strong, in, you know, in, you know, in wearing the hijab, and even wearing it without compromising it has not been it's not just wearing it, but where are you without those compromises? That's another thing, right? So, you know, no doubt, be exposed from time to time, you know, to also to, you know, influencers or even sometimes close associates, who take off the heat job, maybe and, you know, are very public about that, that doesn't really help you, if

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you're already struggling, you know, I mean, it's a lot of things going on out there that's causing people to sort of feel get shaky, or like, you know, to feel like, you know, why, you know, what's the what's the use of all this, you know, so this way, you know, in order for us to stay strong, it's very important that we all go back to the very reason it all goes back to you know, the very reason why we chose to wear the hijab in the first place.

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Because the reality is, if you use your body, right, if you lose your goal and your purpose for why you're doing anything in this life, you you will begin to find yourself struggling with it. That's the reality with anything, okay? Once you lose your goal, once you lose your purpose for what you're doing it for, you will start to struggle with it, right. So that's why it's very important for everyone, to brief you what is the reason that you put the hijab on for and, you know, because some people for example, you might find that really, they didn't put the hijab on, you know, really like initial

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They might not put it on because they really wanted to, they really believed in it and everyone to get close to a walk through it, you know, maybe it was their family that, you know, sort of pushed them. And so they really did it more for for, you know, sort of like family pressure, or maybe their husband or something like that. Or for some people could be like their business like that they run out of Egypt shop and, you know, how can they be promoting eugenic going to Americans so so there can be multiple reasons why someone wants to put the hijab on initially, not for the real reason that we need to be having for us to wear hijab. And if that's the case, then once you know, things

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change in life, you know, you can get a bit shaky with that, because your initial reason really wasn't that firm, right?

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And so

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that's like, that's the same thing for anything in the den anything in this day? If what if the reason you're doing it or, you know, the reason that you're doing isn't truly coming from your hearts, it is not truly coming from your heart, it's not truly coming out of pleasing Eliza just and seeking the reward of the next life, you're gonna find it very hard to stay strong. Right? That's the same for anything like you ask any non Muslim to try to foster a bond, for example, and see how far they go. They will get they will, they will not find it, but they can't do it. Like, believe me. I've known I've had work colleagues who tried to fast from a barn a couple of days, no, like, how do

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you do that? Because if you don't have like, if you don't have it's not from your hearts, you won't be able to do it. Right. And Allah, you know, Allah helps us when we have that intention for Allah, that Allahu Taala strengthens us, right?

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Even if you look at the salah, in the Quran, and a lot of times says what's tiny, nobody, somebody was salah, we're in like a viewer tune in for shooting, right? So local law tells us to remain firm, you know, you know, seek help through a soft, seek help through patience, and seek help through prayer. But that is very hard. And that is something really big, except for in law and family law, unfortunately, except for the harsh ie those who really have that, you know, true. God, consciousness and awareness of Allah azza wa jal, and when you get close to Allah, they will find it easy for themselves. You don't have to think because it's coming from your heart, you want to pray

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to get close to Allah, you want the Jannah you want to be with Oman the next life. So you'll find prayer easy, right?

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So this is why it's very important that you know, you renew your invitation, you renew your attention, you revisit your why, you know, you revisit your why, and your ultimate reason behind wearing the hijab, because you need to realize that you know, any, I'll be honest with you any external weakness, any external weakness that someone has, I can tell you right now that it is a reflection of this state within it is a reflection of the state within and that's why the Messenger of Allah so Allah with us and tells us that Allah what enough you just said, the MOOC wa either Salah huts, Salah has just said to Kulu, what is assessor that's faster than just do Kulu Allah wa

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he'll call, right so that very early in the heart, it's very, very in the body and our industry, just a D in the in the body, there is a lump of flesh, that if it is,

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if it is rectified, and is correct, the rest of the body will be correct. But if there is corruption in it, if there is some sort of corruption in it, then Subhanallah the rest of the body will also become corrupted. And verily, that is the heart. Right? So this is what we know that if like, what people are seeing, like, see, see what people are seeing or what you're seeing out there or even with yourself. realize, like, because people I find generally when they see you know, people, for example, maybe take off the job or you know, change their job and all that they just looking at the external symptoms, like you can't just go around the cities and say, All this dire, you know,

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you know, generally speaking, you can't just go around saying, you know, you need to do this and you need to do to do that it won't work, the reason they're doing that there's something else going on. So we have to go back to the root problem, the grid problem lies in the hearts, okay, if we can rectify that, then everything else will become rectified in sha Allah. So this is what's lacking. So if you see someone lacking, it's like, as a like a doctor and a doctor, you know, you go to a doctor, you know,

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when someone comes to a doctor, they have symptoms. So in my head, sneezing and coughing, we're still going, let's not talk about that too much.

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But the point is, they have symptoms, okay. So the doctor doesn't just say, okay, just go take Hystrix or, you know, they go back and have a look, what is the cause what is causing these symptoms? You know, that's, that's what the good day, you know, the one who has really died, they go to symptoms, they don't just look at the young sorry, they look at the cause. It's not just the symptoms, you know, so we want to try to treat the cause is not just the symptoms.

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Right. So I can't say that, genuinely speaking in a nutshell, it generally comes down to number one,

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not having a firm enough conviction not having a firm enough conviction from within, right? That causes a person to choose the dunya. Over surrendering to Allah azza wa jal and adorning himself with the hijab, out of the pleasure of Allah, that's number one. That's, that's one of the reasons that can be one of the main reasons is because if you honestly, if your motivation is strong enough, like if your your pain is something strong enough, it will come it will overcome any obstacle. Okay, that's, that's the first thing. So it comes back to that, or the other thing can be is that a person can have a very strong conviction. But for a lot of people, they just don't understand what is the

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true meaning of hijab, they just don't know what the true meaning of the Japanese and that's why we have to talk about it. No.

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So that's why it's very important that we never speak about, like, you know, what is the true meaning of hijab was the definition of hijab, you know, it feels like we've gone over this, like, people might feel like they've been around for so many times.

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But what we're seeing, the reason why it's important to go over it is because, you know, what we're seeing, especially from the hijab, OB, you know, fashion industry in particular, is that the concept of hijab has become very distorted, right? It's become distorted. And so what we're seeing is that instead of the hijab being something that you do out of a little Gu dar to Allah, you know, where you have that servitude, and that submission and surrendering to Allah to Allah, and the exam, the hijab is like, you're exhibiting, you're exhibiting that, you know, surrendering to Allah, who to Allah, you know, through your hijab, and what instead it's become more of a, you know, we could say,

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that personal identity, okay, so what if you look at that, you can actually say that what's actually happened is that people have actually secularized the hijab, so that hijab is like, one thing and your deen is another thing. That's what's actually happened, it's got to do with this new philosophy that's come in is all about individualism, right? The it's very, like, everything's now focused on the individual, how I feel, it's my choice. You know, it's, it's all about me, me, me.

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It's all about that, and to get detached from the day, right.

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So that's why that unfortunately, you find that for a lot of sisters, what the hijab is, to them, what they see the hijab is is basically like this piece of cloth, that, you know, if you just stick it on your head, you know, regardless of whatever you wear on your body, it doesn't really matter, you know, or how much makeup you have in your face. No problem, because it's how I feel, you know, it's how I tell I want to present myself.

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So, this is what we have seen. Now, another thing we also see some analog is what we see the big changes happening with it, your job is like, you can see that how the job is actually become in many ways, sexualized, right? So it's no longer your job is no longer no longer connected to and her Yeah, it's no longer connected to

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you know, having that curious to see modesty for Allah, right, that carries sincere modesty for Allah.

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So rather, it's as I said, it's because it's becoming it's been basically become secularized. That's what we can see. So if we understand that, then we can understand what's going on in the context of what's happened. And that's why you see such a diversion with the way that you've just been presented and stuff like that right. Now. So the first question, we need to be asking ourselves, right, because really, we can't really change a lot of what goes on, but we can change ourselves. And we can try to share what we can with others. But generally speaking, we've only got limited control, we can only try to revive the, you know, the understanding, and try to revive the new man

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amongst our sisters. And that's the way we shall afford to try to, you know, help this situation, right. But the first question needs to be asking ourselves, you know, this is a personal question for all of us, or it's not, so I'm going to renew this intention to because you could start out with a good intention. But you know, as we know, intentions can change too. Right? So, really ask yourself that deep question know, is my hijab, you know, basically an expression of my sincere love, and oh boy, or Buddha to Allah, you know, is it, you know, do I feel that my job is actually an expression for me of my love for Allah to Allah and my booty and I want to get close to Allah

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through this hijab? It's part of the way not the only way, right? It's not the only way get close to Allah, but it's very, it's part of it. For me as a Muslim woman. It's something I take very seriously as a Muslim woman, as one of my ways to get close to Allah Right? Or is it in reality, an expression of my own gnats? Has my hijab actually just become some

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Think that's just really an expression of my own Nast and expression of my own personal desires. Where I choose to wear it, however I feel, regardless of whether that is pleasing to Allah or not, you know, I'm trying to say sisters, and I don't really care how I wear it, because it's all about me, me, me like it was before, right? So, um,

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you know, and that's why we need to even, you know, reevaluate for ourselves, you know, what is our true purpose and reason to be here in this world in the first place? Because it's not just about the joke, er, just funny, pious picture. Right? Even goes back to why am I even here in this dunya? In the first place? What is my ultimate purpose in this? Dunya? Because if we haven't got that, right, then don't expect other things like objectively right, either, it's not going to come either, right? What do I really want to gain from this? Dunya? What is my goal in this dunya? Ultimately, right? We need to ask ourselves those three questions.

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Because we need to realize that in this life, we are going to be tested over and over again and alive that test us to see what do we love more?

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That's part of your testing this dunya Allah will test you to see what do you love more?

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If you look at Sri Lanka boots, Allahu Taala says after this we learn about him. And it can mean a husky banners to a huge Roku a abou

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Wahoo life that one did people think that they will be left to say and may not be able to say my beliefs and they won't be tested? What about this person and let em know quality him been a yawn and no longer letting us sodoku what I learned and then that can be very, we will test.

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Very we tested those who came before them. And a long time ago to Allah tested them in order to know who are the side up? And who are the sincere and true in their faith. And who are you know, the shaky ones in their faith? You don't try and say sisters, this is what I was always testing us to see. What do we love more? Where are our priorities really, and this we have to always come back to when we make decisions in this life.

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And I just want to say he true like if you speak to most reverse right, in particular, I'm not saying only reboots. But if you speak to most rebirth, you will find that gave up a lot to become Muslims, right? They had to sacrifice a lot to become Muslims. They often have had to give up their families. They had to give up sometimes careers, they have to give up money. Go back to the Sahaba and have a look how much did they give up for Allah for literally left? How much were they ready to give up? You don't translate sisters, this is what Islam is also about sacrifice. You know, we had we were afraid for this dunya we will not pay for this dunya you don't get that it's I know it's

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hard because we so surrounded by dunya. Now it's every direction forming us on our face. You know, we start to get sucked in and think that it's just this life. But if we really, you know, we need to regain our focus and realize what is our ultimate goal in this world, right. And I know for me, I know for me, like it's never been it was never especially in the beginning, it was never easy to swim against the tide. It's not easy to get the tight, let's give us let's be on, give us some credit. You know, it's not easy to be different. And to swim against the tide. Everyone's wearing hijab one way, everyone's doing one thing, and you're trying to go in the opposite direction, okay.

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But one of the things that always taught to me short, a long article all done to keep us firm, and to the last breaths of our lives, God bless me. But I said to myself, if I know that Islam is the heart, if I know that Islam is the truth, and that this life is a test, and that I can't come back and do this test, again, to wellness test, I can't come back and have another chance that I want to be in the best date I can possibly be in when I meet with a wiser job in the next life, right?

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So if I can't stand and I know for myself, personally, I cannot stand the feeling of, of the regret of not being willing something like when I when I try to do something, and I don't do well, like if I and I have these regrets. It burns me you're not trying to say so I focus on that sometimes. And I think if that's the regret by feeling dunya for something that I could easily go and do it again. Or I could find that pathway. There's always you know, but then how much more regret would you feel? Meaning a loss of Hamza Allah, having failed to, you know, fulfill something that he made upon you. You don't try to date this, this that's a big motivator to think about that. If you keep reminding

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yourself of how short is this life. And then to think that death can come to us at any moment and imagine that if you haven't done what you want to do before you leave the

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It's likely that you're going to be raised in that state. So then there's no use regretting it, there's nothing you can do about it. So that to me, that's one of the greatest motivators. For everything in Islam not just a job, but for everything. Like if you want any greater motivator, just keep thinking back and looking at how do you want to meet with a walk? You know, we asked a lot to raise to the best of stakes, but really, that's not that's what it comes down to. Are you really happy with this stuff? Now? He's not thinking about what I need to do today to change as much as I can. No one's perfect, right? No one is perfect. We're never going to be perfect. But we want to be

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on that journey. Inshallah, right? We want to be on that journey before it's too late. That's what I'm trying to say. All right, and be proactive, not just making excuses for ourselves and saying, tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow, because tomorrow might never come. That's the reality. Right?

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So um,

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so my dear sisters, we need to realize that if someone this is what I'm trying to say here is that if someone let me say this, be honest, if someone is really convinced from the heart, about wearing the hijab, the next slide like this, nobody in this dunya I'm not even a text, you know, a TEDx speaker, or you know, an Instagramer is going to be able to give convinced you otherwise, that's what it comes down to. Right. So it comes back to myself, it comes back to me rectifying my condition. Okay. All right. So then the next thing I want to also speak about, is some of the misconceptions

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surrounding surrounding danger. Because, you know, as we sit, especially at this time, what we're seeing, a lot of people are starting to begin to think because of the way but the thing is, there has been this particular secularization of feature where why even drugs just really detached from, you know, your grupo de at all are not attached to the D. And so people start to think it's just like, some piece of cloth that I identify myself with. And then everyone has a different say on what that is. Okay. And then you've even got others going around and saying that, Oh, you know, I can't find the Buddha he japin the brand. So you know, mustn't be bought

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experience well, right. So um, that's why it's really important for us to go back to the fundamentals to look at these pieces apart, you know, so first of all, let's just talk about what is the word key Jagmeet? Because that's not a thing right. So, what does he drive offline? What does it mean offline? Was it been originally meant to conceal right? And when you say hagibis sheet, when you say something is

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covered and concealed, something is covered and concealed, right? So any barrier, any barrier that conceals, or you know, shield something else, is what we can call like a jack. Like if we say,

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like this, a wall could be a project, it's screening something else, a wall could be like a jack, a curtain could be a hijab, a door could be a hijab, like there are many different things that could be a hijab, it's basically means like, a barrier, a shield, that's offline. That's that's what that's what hatred means originally, right? So this is how this is how the Kufri that um Mr. adorns herself with became known as he Jack because she screamed at herself, or she screamed screaming her over from the lineman runs, you know, from looking at her elbow, right? And then not sure, right.

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So you see that the word hijack isn't just a word be used only for covering of the head, here's only part of the picture. Okay, in fact, the word claim on the word of the mark is a specific word that refers to the covering that a woman faces on or covers her head and here with its coffee mark, and that's why we look at what allowed to honor the word that belongs to us is in the iron so to know when he commands the baby women, you know, to

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to cover their heads and to cover their hair. The worry years we use this is Kumar because he says what when they move Minetti you're good naming Apple sorry, he knows where your Frogner for who Jamuna What are you good Dina, Xena tahona Illa Navajo and eat ham so say to the believing women to lower their gaze and to guide their private parts and to not reveal anything of their adornment except for that which

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is apparent naturally apparent well yeah are doing another movie Hina allergy up here and the page should draw the more over do you begin? So that I'm gonna explain in a minute so in other words, we're seeing here that the bleeding women were commanded to draw this demark over the chest now we have to understand something very important. How did when in Javea used to wear this remark? You see, they used to wear something that used to wear

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head coverings. Has anyone watched football? Has anyone watched

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a good example? That's a good example to see how that is to wear the hijab in January Yeah, right. They used to wear it to the bag. You can see the earrings for example the next the chests, okay.

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So for example, I mean no code to be he says that the reason for this ayah right is because of the women the way they used to weather FEMA, right? They used to wear it to the back to the next and they is was showing and so then Allahu Taala ordered them to bring this Mr. You know, over over there and cover the necks and chests so that they will be concealed that there's Xena will be concealed, right they adornments and then that the Hour will be concealed and it should already alarm on her, she said is to bring a thick Primark that conceals, right. So the difference between the hijab and the Phenom ID Sisters is the hijab, it actually refers to you know, the covering of

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the whole body of a woman, well as Remar is the covering that she wears for her head and her head, right. So the meaning of your job, you can see it's more comprehensive, it's more comprehensive than came on. So that's in response to those who say our hijab is not in the Quran, right? You need to understand what are the words being used like the Alonso's using the Quran? How does the hobby app? How did this hobby Act also act upon those verses when they came down? Right? They are the ones that understood these verses, not someone in the new 2022 trying to tell me the meanings of my Legion, like we got back in calculus to have understood it more than anybody else, right. So

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just like with a prayer, if you want to be okay, this is a point, just like with the prayer, if you want to be rewarded with your prayer, you know that there are certain conditions that you need to fulfill right, there are certain conditions we need to to feel in our prayers, if we want our prayers to be accepted by Eliza, Eliza Joe. And you can't just pray the way you want, right? We can't just make up our own way of praying suffered a lot. We can't just like, You know what, I'm just gonna sit here and I'm gonna pull out these five times a day do you know we can't do that right.

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So this is the same for hijab, you know, it also has certain conditions that we need to make the same thing that Jeff has certain conditions that we need to meet and need to realize that if we you know, if we're seeking that reward, if we are really trying to seek that reward from the law, you know, through very likely Jad and want to have it accepted then we need to have a look at what are those conditions what are those conditions we need to be adopting in order for our hijab to be accepted by lots of hands on show when we get that full reward for it and Sharla so

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the scholars basically derive the conditions for hijab from these two a the two the two main a Athens or bronze modify just had a look at the first one we said like especially the I O that the power says with Dina Dina Tahuna in an overhaul I mean, you know, they don't reveal their V now they don't reveal their adornment except that which is apparent from it, and then he got the Ironman suit alarm that

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were available. Tyler says yeah, you and Libby you totally as well as the Taliban Attica what is that you mean? You'd need our lay hidden I mean jalebi right out of profit so long it was said that stick to your wives and your daughters and the believing women you'd need on a hidden agenda add in so to bring their geography because agenda give is something that I used to wear but because long like that was a heads down to the ground, bring it around and draw it close over themselves so that they all will be not exposed and not left open for you know think did a dormant tip or be shown a build up

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that he can add to now a you're off now but then that that is

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closer that is never for them for that is in order for them said they will be identified as the believing women, there'll be no we're now seeing the white because from the way that they are presenting themselves, right? That they will be known and identify that that is a believing woman. She is a witness or on up and she's you know you because of the persona that she's giving off, you know, from the way she's presenting herself. It's no not to mess around with her. She's not a woman to just mess around with you understand. So you're making it's very like clothing even that they you know, the non Wilson's even admitted clothing is a very easy state. Everything you wear is a

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statement on a lot. So realize that if your job is a statement, okay.

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And the statement that you're saying, especially to those with corrupt hearts, you know, any

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If you've got a corrupt heart will know that this is a chase believing that she needs to be honored and dignified, you know, she's putting her boundaries, you know, we talk about boundaries. And these times, you know, that's a boundary you're with where you're presenting yourself with your job, because you're playing facing a third boundary. People know that see, this is my boundary, your backup. In other words, if you don't, I mean, I know like, not to just depress you easily, like, I know, because I've done a journey, like I used to working in almost an environment you don't like and I used to work with them before becoming Muslim, you know, I'm trying to say, and I vote again,

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you would sometimes I mean, this was bad, it was worst in those days, but like, Nick will just sometimes come up and start massaging one of the women, like, I mean, these days, there's a lot more like, it's much stricter now that that was going like automatic release ago, and that stuff is to go on guard and go on a lot. You know, but, you know, so wearing something like a giant, like, you know, you're putting a boundary like that don't don't feel like oh, okay, you know, and they do like you see it, you see the reaction when, with fishy novels, the man sometimes wasn't meant that I'd get it. But

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unfortunately, but that's because they're not playing games, they don't find their side of it, you know, that's their problem. You know, if you've done everything, you've done everything from your site, then there's so many. It's on there. This is a two way street. It's not just, you know, she'd mentioned that, too. It's not just a one way street, that women have to take all the burden. And the men just are, you know, nothing's on that. No, they have responsibility, they're going to be asked by lots of content a lot, just dance. So.

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And then also, we've got the additive estimate as well, you know, we've got the hadith of estimate, where, you know, it's mentioned about how men do a lot you mentioned about how, you know, when a woman reaches the age of puberty, that, you know, she should cover everything, basically, except her face enhance, okay? So in a nutshell, we've got to really go to these details. But when we try to skim the surface to get the ID. So like, this is why the football hat is why the jurists when agreement, that's obligatory, obligatory for men who's reached puberty, to cover all of her body except to face enhance, that's something they all agree on. Okay, at least at that point, at least

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at that point they agree on and to shield her Alba, from those who aren't allowed to look at her, right, that's what it's all about shielding your IRA from those who can't look at you from seeing the elbow, right. So as you can see, that is genuine except for the dynamic except for the Hanafi, who they view that their feet only, okay, is also not part of the hour, they you know, so we do have to respect other opinions. But in general, what I'm saying to use, it's limited to the face and the hands, and the do more like the majority of scholars, they are limited only to the face and hands, whereas

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you know, the Hanafi madhhab, they take the whole takes it that you can also show you foods just to just to clarify that as well. So they do have that right. And but but, but besides that everything else is supposed to be is kind of your own right, supposed to be covered. Right? That's what we understand from that.

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So that's why the main thing to keep in mind when choosing a hijab, so it's not like only one solid project that we start with, you know, it's not like, well, it's not like, you know, that you have to only wear one style of project. It's not like that, right? The point is, does this project meet the conditions that is outlined for the project, right. And what I say is sisters, roadside assistance, is if you're gonna go to all this extract right of wearing the hijab, and if you're gonna go through things, right, get done, right, at least you want to get through word for it, right? Make sure you're doing look for it, and you want to make sure that that's your unique conditions. So that's

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why I think it's important

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to keep in mind First noticable sort of look back, which is like the foundations of food, right?

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We start with the area, what is that? What is the reason for the obligation of hegemon? It's not the only reason, but it's one of the main the main, the main reason or the main reason that the football hat bring up for the reasons for Jeff to be obligatory, right? Is due to let's say def demon lover, right, which means preventing, or, you know, basically preventing the unwanted look at the hour of the of the baby woman, right. That's how I can say and also a whole filming I fit now that it's to prevent fitna you know, but basically what I'm saying is, is to face that boundary to face that boundary from the unwanted and the unlawful look at the hour of the baby woman right. So, if you

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understand what is the what is the basic reason for the for the stipulation for the jack

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Then, when you understand that you don't want to go to styles that basically do the opposite of that, to get on track places, just so you understand what is the what is the main reason for the, for the, you know, the full kind of wonky Jack pulling up project to come down, right? Then obviously, you don't even have styles that are doing the opposite of that, that actually encourage, encourage the unwanted looks or you know, a promoting the unwanted looks at the hour, right. And especially, like I was saying before about those dolls, or that way of wearing a jacket is basically sexualizing the hijab, right, which is what we see happening a lot on social media where the hijab

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is not really about here anymore, it's not so much attached to modesty, but it's more about, it's basically sexualized, I can't really think of a better way of really describing it.

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So for this reason, the scholars, you know, laid down certain conditions that need to be met in order for the eject to be considered as being acceptable, and in line with the whole purpose of hijab in the first place. So I'm gonna quickly go through this was important, we'll just review them. So first of all, number one that already said, the whole body should be covered. And that except for the face and hands, and if we know that there is, if the left to I don't even know how we can maybe talk about that in the pushing dances. But generally speaking, what all scholars agree on that everything must be properly stitched the face and hands and eyes did to you with the exception

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of the feet with 100 Female cap. But what does that mean that it means like, See, now we're seeing that people aren't just showing their face and hands anymore, where there's if they laugh, they're not just showing their feet anymore. But the last one sounds kind of nice, I'm gonna show my feet right.

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You know, really a situation has come down on them. I actually asked my class before I came, I said, Give me some point of what you want to speak about, you know, I'm going to this talk and give you some idea. And once she just, she's just so like, equals equals, you know.

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So, you know, we're gonna understand that. So that's the thing, like when you do uncovered a See, you got to realize it's got to go up, you know, you say okay, it's just my feet, but then it ends up halfway up the lake, you know, I'm trying to say sister so like your feet that you just say that any leash, your feet don't actually end to your knees, right?

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And your feet I can document halfway up the lake or whatever. Okay, just so you know that right? So to some extent the definition or what does it mean by feet and hands also my dear sisters hands don't eat up your elbows or like halfway up your arm right? So this is why it's so important for us to go back to basics because you know, people are becoming flaccid so now we see it like they got a job like Elon Musk leaves. I don't know whatever.

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Alright, so now the next thing is

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it shouldn't be wide. Okay and obviously shouldn't be tight fitted I mean

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if it's gonna be tight fitted it could be more of a fit now by the very tight fitted clothing movies. You weren't wearing that? You know, not that I'm saying you should go that way either. But you don't want to say so. It should be wide so that you know basically adequately adequately covering the shape of the of the body.

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So that that means obviously like no tight leggings because you know, I'm sure you've all seen on age plenty of interesting

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manifestations and say manifestations or interpretations of what what could Japanese certain people it's very interesting. Let's just say that. So you know, we know that that's not right. Even even sleeps Be careful with sleep because my some people wearing like very tight sleeves. Now that's showing your arm. Okay, so just realize that we want to avoid showing those parts because he covered

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the whole thing is that the hijab you choose shouldn't be an adornment, adornment, even all that filth. Okay, so the whole point is if we take the whole concept of hijab, it's like a very

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you know, so then if we go and make it into something like bright and shiny and glittery, and might just becomes a bubble item of clothing everywhere inside the house, the next point, because that's going against what did we say? What was the inner we said, don't even bother, right? Is that the whole point it is to prevent the unwanted like, you know, like I said, See, I've had this, okay, let me just say something here. A lot of people say, Oh, well, if you were to thought more people are looking at you, alright, they're looking at you rather they're looking at you because I think oh, well, you know, she's really hot. No, they're not okay. They might be thinking you're hot, you're

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hot as a song. But they're not thinking about you that you're, you're attractive, right? So please don't use that document. That doesn't work. We're talking about we're talking about how the future is supposed to protect us.

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that barrier against the unwanted the say last fall or you know checking out you know, eyes of you know of the non Maha okay.

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Alright, so for this we know that, like what, like we said that the hijab should not be something that is basically alluring than men to, to want to, you know, check you out basically. Okay? And that's why it's important for us to also understand that

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you know, so if you understand that point then we will look at other thing to do because obviously like I mean Instagram is the best place to look at what not to do. Okay, if you want to know what not to do, just go on Instagram, scroll down, and you'll see everything you're supposed to do and in your mode and you don't even need to come to the system anymore.

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But basically, like you know, you can see like even the women with like they got in the pub on doesn't matter but the follow up friends, that's very heavy makeup and you're going like this might

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be against the law Committee Against a lot of you know, worse is the reason for the hookah Multijet in the first place right

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and then you've also got like you've also got like you know, the earrings are hanging out as well like coming up with the if the if requested whether your deed whether you're dancing, that's right or not, they should not display open because lay there's the that like the adornments and part of your dominance is like your jewelry and stuff like that. Right. And just quickly, I'll just note too and that's part of reason why we have to avoid wearing perfumes that can be smelt, you know, we go out of the house like I'm not saying you go out from the terrible snare like, um, yeah, it's like you gotta wait to see similar to humans, but I'm saying don't go for that. Like, I'm not gonna go

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putting those kind of views on this morning. But you know, Chanel number five was on the

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ship, I'm sorry. But no, whatever it is, you know, you don't put it on because it's, that's what's your, your now that perfume, when you walk past is alluring. You're learning to dance dancing, singing, if you understand all that this is so simple for you to understand about right. Now, another condition is called eviction is as well is that the hijab should not be too thin, right should be to skin, it shouldn't be seen through, like should you see through because like, maybe it might come in and out. But like you got to pick your genuineness see through like that's defined, purposely, you can see the skin, you can see your head, sometimes you'd have to check like sometimes

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I'll be honest, like attempt to meet, your jet can get worn out, you know what I mean. And then when his dad is a smart, you can actually see the color of your hair from the back. So you've got to be careful, you know, sometimes, you know that ADC systems, like they were in their hijabs, which is nice, but then you can see her earrings, you can see the neck, so you've got to be careful, like always, you know, get someone to check for you to make sure that it's not actually see through right. Now, just to give a demonstration of that, you know, there was there's a there's a hadith in which, you know, certain things like, what the Allahu Anhu he mentioned how the Prophet SAW Allah

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has given him a thick Egyptian garments, right? You know, he passed on this gift to him, and he didn't want to himself so he gave it to his wife to wear. And then he mentioned that to the message of law that, you know, I ended up passing that garment on to my wife, and then went and listened to a law heard and he passed on this garment to his wife, he actually told her to tell her to wear a gown underneath it for I'm afraid it may describe the size of her bones, just density. So from that you can see that it's not about you can't miss something like, like if you're wearing something black, but it's like really, you know, leaky, you know what I mean? It's leaky, like something with

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white wood we're more than likely to be or something.

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You can't just wear something like that, you know, something's going to really describe your shape and bones and all that right.

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One last thing I thought I put in here, especially in this day and age where it's getting hard to tell the difference between males and females anymore. Experience it's very important that he also mentioned that that he jack that the one with it shouldn't resemble male dress, like what's something known to be like a male's way of dressing, right? So her her hijab shouldn't resemble that and nothing is if something is unique to non Muslims. So if there's a type of clothing that is unique to non Muslims, like like for example, you know, you know that nuns wear the hijab a certain way and then you go through them all held up nicely to judge so I'll go again by hijab took exactly

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like the way that like the nine outfit with like that would not be allowed and I could show you now resembling I'm not a nun rather than you give me so that's nothing that has to be avoided.

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Alright, so one of the things you can see from these different conditions is that you know, in order for someone's paycheck to be accepted, it needs to be in line with the email that we spoke about all that reasonable that pause for the whole for the for the, you know, for the outcome of food

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Uh, you know, the ruling of Egypt in the first place. And I think it's important to add me to that.

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One more thing I want to add as well, before we go to more of the question answers, and that,

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that the hijab is not just only about covering oneself, okay, that's not a thing, like there is, obviously a certain type of behavior, right, a certain type behavior that goes along with the hijab as well. So

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let's just say it here that, you know, there's no swearing that perfectly jab, if you're engaging in certain types of behavior, or, you know, speaking in ways that you know, entices men to yourself, basically, right? Again, just go to Instagram for all your examples, but like, I mean, you could have, you know, you could not do it,

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like this on Instagram.

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Some of them, some of them, they just need to actually watch them to laugh. Really, right.

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But um, you don't trust that it doesn't matter. It's not just about that covering, but it's also about the behavior that goes with anything if the

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entity persists of the hijab, right? And let's wait a long time

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that he says Select up Barnaby, only a year from now.

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He will be now doing well cool now Oh, let margu fat so a lot of us in the Quran.

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Do not speak a like soft and alluring type of speech. So it's so some people like they're gonna be extremely diverse. A woman's voice, no woman's voice, the natural voice of the woman is not a lot. But there is certain types of speech which then becomes our when she speaks in that alluring way. And we all know what that blue wave is, I'm sure need to fill that out. We all know that that's the type of speech you don't speak like that. Lindsey with the non macro, right? The macro male. Because that can ignite something in the heart, you know, of that person. And especially like Allah says here, and then if you palpate the molars that he had if he has some sort of disease in the heart,

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which I mean, a lot of times Tommy living in

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it is that was that was talking in a child has to harbor do any theorist of hearts. So what about at this time that we're living along Stan right? Is this and he says what we'll call them now. hoopha So, I mean, I I had that question even when one of the things that count for some people and that's one thing that people struggle with too they say well look No, I'm going to jump the best of my ability. But I don't know how to just you know be hasn't just been that it's hard you know, how do I navigate that? It is it is quite tricky, especially his time, but like maybe said his sister's it's stick to have all the marbles like you know all about what is basically like speaking in business

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life speech, speaking your business life speech, formal type of way, you know, not giving them McNugget any feel they've got a chance with you basically you don't ascend sister, so you can still speak you can have a conversation, you could of course, no loan conversation, right? But you can have a conversation with someone, you can speak with your yo for way business like way. That's the you're the high man is that example taught us, right? So that's the best way I can explain it.

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Okay, so what I'm saying is that at the end of the day, what I say No, as long as, as long as you're already choosing to wear something on your head, alright, you can already go through hardships in doing that, right? And you're already obviously identifies itself as a Muslim. And then whether you wear it correctly or wants to go through hardships, it doesn't make any difference, right? So why not just, you know, wear it according to the way that fulfills the conditions so that you don't risk not getting the full reward from Allah Subhana Allah, You know what I'm trying to say sisters, that's the way that we need to look at it like that, you know what I mean.

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And that's why it's so important to keep on reminding yourself over and over again, about the reward, you need to keep reminding yourself of the record of what you're doing right, keep the F cannot always equal focus. Because when you do it properly, you will realize that every moment that each time is taken out of your house, you are in a state of like, you know, you're in a state where for life please for you alive, please if you do too, you obey Him, okay?

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And so and we also know that whenever we do something for the sake of Allah is rewarded from seven, it's from 10 to 10 100 times from 10 to 700 times and, and I believe that in this time when we are trying to swim so hard against the tide, right, and especially with an external phobia, all different pressures alone, Arlen a lot, a lot of heartbreak is there as well that it could be even 700 times and you know,

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we have to realize this too.

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way, another struggle that's there for you the greatest of feed number hierarchies, if you do something for the for the sake of Allah, then the greater the reward will be also.

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And, you know, and you can't keep key our struggle that we have in America to say, to struggle, this hobby out 10 During the job, it's just not the same, they had the Virginian supplier to to support them. And you know, and are struggling, right, your job is not the same as, say, people like who live in, you know, in an in a Muslim environment where your job is something easy for them to do, they don't have those challenges. You don't try, say sisters, and if we're looking at our times, that our times we were in the job, it's kind of weird to put into these conditions is much harder with the social media era than it would have been, they got back, you know, say 20 years ago, 30

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years ago, when they didn't have all that pressure on them as well. Right. So

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also, before it's a situation, once you go through some strategies to help ourselves become stronger, and maybe jack right, because I like to I like to make my talks as much as possible, as practical as possible, not just like just a theory and his his theory of wanting to deal with it. Or try to, you know, make it as practical as possible in Sharla. Right. So the first thing is, what I say is you're trying to examine any negative feelings that maybe you're having with wearing hijab, you know, try to pinpoint where is that coming from a weakness? That's not necessarily negative things, but by just weaknesses? Like, do you have certain weaknesses? there with your hijab? No. And

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then to try it, to be honest, sometimes you do need to deal with this, right? Honestly, we so what is causing that? What is behind that? You know?

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Is it due to not feeling strong enough in your email? Okay, so for those of all identify where it's coming from, then we can move to solving that right. So first of all, is it coming from not being strong enough in every man? Is that that you feel very self conscious, and we wear hijab.

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You know, if the issue is, in fact, relating more to lacking self confidence, you're trying to work hard is because some people, they think it's the lack of demand, it's actually the lack of self confidence, sometimes like that, that's always things that I find very difficult to do things. It's not that I'm happy man, but they their self esteem, don't translate. So then the other thing, too, is like, is it? Are these feelings coming from external pressures? You know, is it the summer phobia that we're facing every day? Is it work pressures? Is it family pressures? Is it you know, wanting to get ahead in your career? I think that's a big one for a lot of sisters now, you know, wanting to

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get ahead in their career. So, or is it simply that you don't like the way you look for failing to drive? You know, there's a whole lot of things that's coming in for one sisters, why they're struggling with each other, right? So we're just going to go back to what is the reason I try to pinpoint that for yourself first, and then we're going to try to solve that. So now the second step is going to be proactive in looking at how you can do something about that. Okay? Because you know, if you're trying to think sincerely for a lot, of course, number one, you may have to ask the Lord for help. But then number two, you got to take some proactive measures to try to work on that, you

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know, not just leave it.

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So let's say that you're not feeling good enough. Some people don't feel good enough to eject. Well, I know, one of the blockers for some people, they say the reason I haven't fully jumped on yet. Look at me, I'm just a beekeeper Greek. And I've done so many skins in my life, who am I to reject somebody with a collection of stones, right?

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So we have to also realize that

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he just has a big gap between us. It's not about being one of us. It's not joining us, Kevin and Tony, when when I'm putting us up on a job that doesn't,

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that's just actually shaped on trying to stop you from moving forward.

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First of all, just recognizing the books spoken about today, what is your pain and ultimate boldness life, recognizing that this is what Allah wants for me as a baby woman, right? And then realize that when you take that step, you may feel like you're not ready for it. But when you take that step, it's actually something that's going to help you to improve yourself. Because we don't even notice that, you know, after the midterm elections, if it takes, you know, even enhance spend towards a lot, you know, don't don't they have much more of a long time to come closer to us become even closer to us going through that. Right. And I know that a lot of

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a lot of sisters have told me that if it wasn't for their hijab, and this is how would you actually be such a protection, they would have fallen into so many more students with that they would have gone to so many more cities if it wasn't for the hijab, so that actually becomes a reminder for you. So what I'm saying is, take the drag as a way of improving yourself if you drag on COVID Now no, you're not. However, you know that you want to become better. So you

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Use the internet as a gauge you know to prepare you to go forward but I don't want to be gentle I wasn't perfect either. But like I tell myself you know what, I'm gonna do this and then I felt like recovery Jack now so and then a lot of you triggers when you come close to a lie one way Allah blesses you and helps you come closer in other ways do you find other parts of your life also improving or elderly or other areas you know, improving for you as well. And this is why the Prophet size and tells us he mentioned about this kind of puts him she's actually a longtime that has stayed with the need to do a lot of choice. A lot has said when Metapod La La Yeah, it was shaped in a

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house that I am living next door to my like McDonald's. Right? Right that my server does not come close to me by anything that is more love to me than what I have made compulsory. So you want to know how like you say, I love football. I want to be close to Allah. The best way to get close to Allah the number one way is, first of all, try to do everything he's commanded you to do. Right? And then he says without gizzard. Bhakti is a part of who it labia fina laughy had that with his right. So and my service continues to significance to the buyer, that awareness they buy the extra year, the extra date, and two, I love him. So he always wants to be loved. But we all want to be loved one

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a lot, right? But you can't make up your own way to be loved by love. You have to look at Canada's Allah Chavez can get his love. Right? It's true. It's true. It's true. First of all, kind of act upon he's in Australia to act upon where he's made compulsory, and then follow them following that up with the extra, you know, extra extra, you know, Sunon, or extra righteous deeds right? Now, you have to also realize my thesis and this is where we have to take the warning that doing the opposite is also true. Doing the opposite of that is also true. So someone might think, what's the big deal, I've taken up my hijab, it's no big deal, you have to realize that also, unfortunately, when someone

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takes that stick you it's not just taking off the hijab, it's that you actually have taken a step away from the loss and handle that as well. You understand? And unfortunately, what we see is very sad and afterwards if you everyone step up and help them to get back on track, not about judging people. I'm trying to show the consequences right you need to know what the consequences are. Because what can happen is this what happens a lot they said to myself, this shutdown was telling them that oh, don't worry, it's just taking off the hijab but even still be religious. You can do a modest clothing. Unfortunately the reality of what we see is slowly slowly it starts going back with

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more than one so be careful too much shape on it's good to watch the shutter is good the sticks have shades on and that's perfect Don't delude us into slowly moving away from the loss of Hamza right sisters. So, realize it's not it's not just it's not just me, anytime we either go close to Allah or when whenever we're making choices, we need to think about the consequences of those choices. Right?

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Okay, so that's one thing. Then the other thing is if you don't feel good in wearing a hijab, it's very important as women who wear hijab just makes you feel confident. So that means you're going to look around for styles like you don't have to wear for women ways. You don't have to wear the style and your grandma always right I know most of you are also comfortable wearing your grandma with any job that she likes it Okay, she feels good in her job content. I'm not judging, but

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But you you ran what what you feel comfortable for you right? So you might say I know when I first became Muslim, for example, ISIS Masha was in this this this this notion came into the messenger I remember and to meet what a priestess I was like wow, it looks amazing, you know? So I went out and I bought that you know, got that style and I started wearing that style and that made me feel really good I felt like you know to my to my house I feel like I'm really cool you know I feel like I'm not sure racism is now you know, I'm trying to say so.

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I have a lot of work like you know, the people she has so many good companies 100

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Anyway, so what I'm saying is look around like you don't feel comfortable wear your dress right now we don't know if your company your style your company or whatever have a look around but just make sure as I was saying to you make sure that it does still abide by those conditions and look there's a lot of different like I said one style is mainly for souls that can fall under those dos those conditions right

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um what else we're gonna say

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the other thing is if you're not feeling strong you're in and you need to take corrective steps in increasing document what was what I that's a whole different that's what we were talking about that even today now but realizing in any shoot you do need to work on me man, you need to stop thinking white look constantly backward. I need to do practice dentistry Chris moneymaker right

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If it's self esteem, work on your self esteem because then you studies people who have strong self esteem, they don't care about what other people think. Like one of the big motivators for me because it was very hard but I just want to quickly mention that when I got a job I was in probably one of the worst situations you could be because I was leaving behind my models and family who are Christians. I was getting important hills that was not important by your one slide. I was going back then to factories ago, I was going to work in an oil company with all just Muslims in my workplace. Nobody even had really seen up some before Okay, and I was going to university part time, and it was

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very troublesome on campus, by the way, I mean, we're talking about something 10 matches in the hole up we didn't used to have prayer rooms when it used to have anything okay, I can tell you how it used to be so mashallah, everybody has served missing out the pit to have this debate. But the point is, to go against that tide was Masha Allah. But that's all from talking about this whole topic from Allah. Right. But what I'm trying to say too, is what really like I was thinking about my break is more like EJ, I can really want to use everyone Judy's, you know, that. It's like, it's so hard to do to how do I turn up like that, you know, but then sometimes, like, oh, show me this guy who turns

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up to uni. And he had like, he had like a mohawk. And it was like dyed green or something. I kind of remember that and like

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he comes to uni looking like that. He's proud of it. He's proud to actually walk out the house like that, you know, he's upon a complete Bala he's open completely skylights. So why should I, as a Muslim, you know, have the level of humidity that normally men up that might have been there, be proud to walk by my house with a jacket or was, you know, commanded me to wear? You know, don't try as he says that. That was that was the thing that tickled me when I thought about him, how can we be proud of not economy. So that's one thing to work on your self esteem, I'm saying is work on your self esteem. Because when you weren't, like, you know, anyone who's got strong self esteem, they

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don't, they don't pay attention to what other people think about them, you know, I'm trying to send a kid but if you're kind of like, very wrapped up in what people do, it's really hard to you know, acknowledge that so it could be even worthwhile even discussing that bug psychologist, for example, and trying to work on that goes obviously would be to not leave for people, not the for the pleasure of people, right? That's one thing. Another thing is it's really important, who you choose to surround yourself with. Like, we do need to have strong connections, you know, like, you can't expect to just go live off all by yourself somewhere and thrive as a Muslim most people like That's

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why in Bergen in our dean, and Janelle, like the congregation and coming together and sticking with the gym out, right? It's something very highly emphasized in his name. And going away from the gym out is something contrary to what you know, Allah wants from us, right? So you're gonna realize that who you surround yourself with has a massive impact on your lifestyle choices. And go back to the Hadith I mentioned before and model Allah Dini quality, the Jambo Khomeini volume, right? A person is upon the religion of their close friends, so look perfect to be your friend.

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Especially if you're the subconscious type, you are going to need to surround yourself as much as possible with people in environments that are actually supporting you in your future like to come up to date, that's part of your choosing a new environment, you always try, like I know for me as as a rebirth. That was my son. That was what helped me survive. Just always putting myself constantly stay with the Muslims, any events, go to Events, classes, anything to find speakers, good company, try to hang out with people who, you know, do stand up to the good company. And then just quickly, as long as it's not to discuss, like, this is a big topic, right? We'll try to cover everything like

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so we've got the issue like this is this is stuff that's happening for a lot of people right? Now, look, what happens is, you know, as Panama opens it for you, you gotta wait education, and you got to read you got a great job, then to me even waited for them to me.

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I was actually in a real company. And I had I had a lot of like,

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I had like, a scholarship with an auto company, actually, and I want to be authentic. I'm a chartered accountant. And so you know, I was progressing this company. And then when I put the job on it so straight out, they told me,

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they told me like, you're not gonna listen, they talk about you're not gonna get a husband. Like you're right, anyway. And they also told me, you know, you're not going to go anywhere, do you understand so? But what you would what you would realize is okay, this, this is where you are going to have to make some tough choices sometimes in life. You don't and that's why I advise everyone to stick to the Quran because a lot of tools in the Quran, mean Khomeini, you need to do what people make you live up to

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Like, some of you are going to choose the dunya. And some of you will choose the effort I said, I've asked him, I said earlier, Allah is going to test you over and over again, which one do you choose? If you choose deskera, I can guarantee you that Allah will open up the path for you, Allah will open another path for you, whatever, whatever you study, you can find another path but you have to look for it. But don't let your don't let whatever your queries or proficiencies come between you and Allah and given the athlete off, that's what it comes down to. All right. So and even there's a hadith actually was kind of awkward, where the Messenger of Allah so as I've said, in the canon

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tech, our shape and the lab that you don't leave anything for Allah in lab, but Danica but DeNicola who behave men who are afraid when they can mean accepting along to Allah Who exchange for you What's better than that, so you don't take anything for the second of all, sincerely, except our exchange, we voice Bob in that when he did that to us, you have to have that personal bonding along the other Allah will find a way and believe me when is a meal, isn't it when there's a will, there is a way you will find a way around

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with your Creek and find another way around it to help especially look for, we want to get reward for what we're doing as well. So try to look for ways to help and also community join Stan get involved and find another way that you can use your skills for the Muslim community but don't compromise don't compromise your deen don't compromise your day is not worth it. You know, we're talking about trading, trade and beautiful Do you guys know worth it? You don't translate says this. So always remind yourself, the greater the struggle, the greater rewards. And like I was saying earlier, practicing, practicing in these times practicing ourselves in these times. The Messenger of

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Allah even warns us we shouldn't be surprised so hard. The Messenger of Allah warns us that the time will come when it will become extremely difficult for preprocessor to practice that day. And he tells us that he already says it in an info ICO. Again, a soft set up in front of you

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are days of sub days of lots of you know, persecutions and trials. And he says that the big patient in that time will be let coffee cake of their agenda like that you have job like It's like holding on to a hot, cold, hot, hot hot charcoal to try to stay firm in your day. And that's how people feel now it's so hard to stay firm upon your principles as a Muslim estate firm on your deed right. But look what he says this is what I want to remind you all I want to leave you with a choice today. He's a nice sick, and he says Lee Lau me fee have at your home seen that the person who does watch a stick at that time will have the reward of 50. And then with the hardest hit in Yasuo law. And you

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will have seen on the one I will consider Lina isn't going to be 50 of them, or 50 of us. He said considered income, you will be like reward of you. And the way that I explained this hadith, they said like for example, of course not great. But obviously the Sahaba has their virtues and there are certain things we can never reach their level in Agile, right? But something like the hijab with Danny, we have to go through so many more trials and difficulties to wear it, then we can be sure that the report we're getting for hijab, when they used to mean a lot he get buried. It's not too much for a lot that he put the alarm on and games are more of one of his hobbies. 50 But 50 as a

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hobby, I think the reward for any job. So I want to I want to remind you of that. And always said the DA Yeah, not well, you can follow that with all the electronic keep saying over again, this was the most to add to the list of allies to say and he was the one school and the most what I need to say Yeah, the one below that reality. Oh, turn on behalf keep my heart firm upon your region.

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Or I'll leave it there

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was still a law, the Senate and maybe another 100 While he was suffering at age nine