Tom Facchine – Is Dirty Talk During Intimacy Permissible-Q&A

			My husband speaks with bad words in our private time as haram when we're intimate. So I'm going to
talk about this in a in a general way. And then in a more specific way, I don't believe and I could
be wrong. But I don't believe that saying such things when people are intimate is natural. I do not
believe that that's natural. I believe that comes from an outside influence, whether it's
*, whether it's other sorts of culture, whatever. And so I would suggest to have a broader
conversation as to where this sort of thing is coming from people act like desires, and fetishes,
they just kind of are like quirks, just like you know, you'd like to put your phone in your left
		

			pocket or your right pocket. But that's it's not that simple. Some of these things are implanted in
you, right or developed in you from outside influences through movies through especially
*, and the kind of * culture that we have in the west right now. And if that's
the case, then this thing needs to be fought, and this thing needs to be fought, because we don't
want our sexual lives and our our idea of what is sexually appealing and attractive to be shaped by
these forces. And there's lots of data out there to show that * increases people in
violence, specifically, sexual violence, because * is not simply the inappropriate and
		

			lewd recording of to people being intimate, it is often bound up in ideas of abuse, and sexual
violence. And so it actually pushes people towards that. So that's what's going on. You need to be
very worried and very concerned, and you need to address that. If this is something that you enjoy
as well. And maybe Okay, let's forget about the broader societal influences, but you're both kind of
like this. And you both think it's a turn on, then it's permissible, and that's a general principle
within sexual relations between a man and his wife, is that the default is that is permissible until
proven otherwise. And so even dirty talk and things like this between a husband and a wife, even
		

			certain sexual acts, and I think we'll get to that with another question. Unless there is specific
evidence to prohibit it, then it's fair game and Allah knows best