Tom Facchine – Dos and Donts- A Code to Live

Tom Facchine
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the rights of individuals and their parents, including their health, privacy, and money. They also touch on the importance of moderation and avoiding harm in the face of others, and the need for people to put their trust on their statement. They also discuss the negative impact of romantic relationships outside of Islamic marriage and the importance of protecting one's life and not giving anyone permission to take it. They emphasize the need for individuals to be informed about their rights and obligations, honor their commitment to helping people, and help others, particularly those who end up being mental health violations.
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are y'all

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mind you have to think about liquor permit you didn't know how much I was a law working person he didn't tell me what happened in America water sewer so a lot of money

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suffer the toxic color.

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This will be the last clip up in our series on sort of delay stop until after even show was

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previously in this chapter a lot. I want to have spoken about the rights of our parents, the rights of our relatives, and the rights of the poor. But Allah azza wa jal recognizes that it's not always possible to give, even to the most worthy of causes a law that says what sort

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of our typical rock digger top of the hour like so.

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But if you must turn any ones down, why don't you still hope for mercy from your Lord of them at least give them the kind word.

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Allah azza wa jal is telling us that if we are honest about what we can do, that there is no shame in admitting when we cast it is not praiseworthy to overcome

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meant ourselves,

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or to give other people false hope.

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Even if we can't control our provision and the amounts that we have to give, we can control our interaction with the person who is asking us, we can actually cause our interaction to not only be pleasant, but to be an act of charity that takes the place of the money and assistance that we cannot give

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the profit for local users and upset, cool American some of us are ever going

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to be watching Fox.

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Every goodness is charity. And certainly among the good things is to meet your brother with a smiling face.

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Not only should we be upfront about our ability to give or not, we also need to be responsible in what we can. Allah azza wa jal reminds us to be moderate, even in our charity, by saying next well, I tend to err on the other map in order to be there. And I think what I'm telling

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dusty, that's what

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I saw. Don't be tight *. For if you do so you will be blameworthy. But also don't be too open hand in the door, you will end up in poverty. Allies, which tells us here that the principle of moderation in Islam even reaches to the amount of charity that we give

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Allah azza wa jal described in our Ummah, as a nation of moderation. He said, look at adding a gentleman every four months, I was talking with a woman who saw her nurse. Accordingly, we made you a moderate station, to be an example. So that you would be an example for all people.

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As Muslims, we are supposed to be moderate in everything.

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When it comes to how much we enjoy this life. We are moderates. We don't just do whatever it is that we want. We have limits. But those limits are not so severe and suffocating, that we also can't have any fun at all.

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We are moderates when it comes to self defense. We aren't the bloodthirsty savages like the media makes us out to be. But we also are so extremely peaceful, that we let ourselves be bullied or pushed around. Allah azza wa jal is telling us here and in this time, that even in what we give our charity, we have to be moderate. We can't be stingy, keeping everything to ourselves, that's not fair.

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But also doesn't ask us to give so much that it's a burden upon us. He doesn't ask so much of us that it becomes difficult to live.

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The federal income taxes anywhere between 10 and 37% of your income, what you make a lot so a general only asks you to pay 2.5% is not of what you make, but of what sits for over a year.

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One time the prophets of Allah Harleys he was some dozen was visiting one of the companions and this companion was on his deathbed. He was about to die. The companions of the Prophet sallallahu I mean, it was Sunday,

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that he was very rich, but he only had one single son to inherit all this money.

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The companion felt bad about this, he felt guilty. And so he wanted to give a large proportion of his wealth to charity. He asked the prophets of the love bombing the southern for permission to give two thirds of his wealth to charity. The problem is the Live Set Up said no.

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The man persisted. He still felt guilty. He asked Can I at least get one half in charity?

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Prophet Mohammed said no.

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Finally he asked me for the promise of my songs permission to get a third of his wealth to charity and finally, the Prophet Muhammad

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have put

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what's most convenient? Yes, okay. You have a third of it. But even though the third is an awful lot,

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then the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam said it didn't occur until the law says you cannot the same old man at home and either

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it's a cat for food and has

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to leave your inheritors reaches fender.

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Leaving them poor and dependent upon asking other people for money

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then the profits will go up money was someone tried to expand this companions very narrow idea of what charity was. He said, Why didn't they let him talk about that? taboo, tell me how much of a war he ended up for chips that we have had to match up your property.

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Whatever you give to support other people, if you intend to please Allah via we will be rewarded for it. Even the food that you provide for your own spouse.

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One of the keys to being moderate is realizing that everything that we do can be an act of worship, everything, all we have to do is have the proper intention of pleasing the law as it was.

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Returning to the forehead, the next area, a lot of detail brings us back to the main points in all issues revolving around prohibitions of charity. Saying in the book of the episode, the lizard body making a shadowy of the hidden the whole cabinet he made that he called me up to say, oh, surely your Lord extends or restriction restricts his permission to whomever He wills. He is certainly all aware, aware of everything, seeing everything when it comes to the service.

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More important than what you give or what you take is your internal orientation, of trust, of hope, of reliance upon Allah subhanho wa Taala you can give with your hand, but your heart might be afraid, your heart might hesitate, your heart might have doubts, a lot of us miss them.

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Allah wants us to put our trust in Him above everything else, which is why he reminds us here, and he is completely informed and aware about our circumstances. That hope is essential because it keeps us from despair, when our provision is limited, and it also keeps us from being arrogant and wasteful. When our provision is abundance. The internal worship is much more important than the amounts that begin.

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After a loss which deals with charity. He alerts us to a similar situation. What am I supposed to do? I will not look cautious enough.

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Not to know Zuko money

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in a Pub Sub Oh cat as hippo can be at all. Do not kill your children for fear of poverty, we provide for them and for you, surely surely nothing is a heinous sin.

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Allah azza wa jal is referring to a practice that was widespread at the time of the Prophet Muhammad Somoza, people used to kill their infant children for fear that they were not going to be able to financially support them.

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This ratters two sins into one, the first the external sin is killing the human life which a lot of time has made sacred. As Allah will mention again shortly. The second part of the city is internal what motivation could possibly bring someone to kill their own chotto

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motivation is fear

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and lack of trust and the last time I was

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alone makes a connection between this sin and the last sin, every sin that results from a lack of trusting Allah subhanaw taala

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when we are afraid, and when we don't trust Allah, it's very easy for the devil to scare us into doing terrible things to the company hand over stuff in the modern workplace he was given an equal level first up to in a whirlpool running.

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam, Sunita,

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after telling us to be careful not to commit certain sins which results from not fully fully trusting Allah, Allah that makes us aware of another system that we must have watched that we must watch out for what I'm talking about with Xena in Canada wishes I was a civilian.

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Do not go near unlawful insert

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course, it is truly a shameful V and an evil way.

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Here are lots of honor. He communicates several things in one very, very short powerful guide. First, a lower regulates the types of romantic relationships that we are allowed to have.

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It's important to point out that regulate which romantic relationships are acceptable and which are not acceptable is not unique to the sun.

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Every society and civilization regulates romantic relationships, whether they admit it or not.

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In today's society, we have certain slogans, and messages in the media that try to conceal this fact. slogans such as love is love. Love wins, gives the impression that our society or at least its quote, unquote, enlightened citizens, supports every authentic expression of romantic love.

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This is simply false.

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Thankfully, some things are still off limits in our society, children and animals are still considered off limits for romantic relationships, no matter how much a person swears that their feelings are authentic.

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Similarly, our society still recognizes that consents, while essential, is inadequate, to determine which relationships are valid and which aren't. Every year 1000s and 1000s of people choose to remain in abusive relationships, despite the objective harm that it causes.

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The second thing Allah Allah tells us here is that this regulation of romantic relationships is based on our own individual and collective self interests. Allah azza wa jal uses two strong words here to show this first package, which indicates something shameful and indecent. This lets us know that forbidden romantic relationships are against our own individual interests.

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And the second type of setup is a Betta indicates an evil way. This lets us know that these forbidden romantic relationships harms the entire community.

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Now, someone who's not a Muslim, they might ask at this point, Where's where's the harm? I don't see anyone getting hurt here. But our sense of what is harm as people of faith is not just limited to this body and this life.

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It includes the soul. It includes the afterlife. Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us here that romantic relationships outside of Islamic marriage harm the soul and have potential consequences in the afterlife.

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If someone denies the existence of the soul and denies the afterlife, they will remain blind to this type of harm.

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But the harm of romantic relationships outside of Islamic marriage is not just limited to the soul or the afterlife. The harm is also emotional, and physical.

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Emotional because neither person in such a relationship is fully committed to the other

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physically because you might give up the best years of your life to someone who doesn't care enough about you to fully committed to you.

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A relationship in which there is only intimacy

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and how commitment is indeed a shameful, humiliating arrangements. It's like renting a home versus owning one.

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You pay having to pay but at the end of the day you have no equity.

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If the landlord puts up the building for sale, you walk away with nothing.

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Romantic relationships outside of Islamic marriage damage society in several ways perhaps most profoundly through the children that are born these relationships. Study after study after study shows that children born outside of marriage are more likely to have behavioral problems, more likely to struggle academically more likely to get involved in drugs more likely to get involved in crime.

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Romantic relationships outside of this moment marriages sets our entire community back

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the last 30

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thing that Allah tells us here is that this regulation is so important. Allah as always told us to not even approach is to not even go near as he didn't simply tell us to not have romantic relationships or that telco don't even come close to it.

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Allah subhana wa Tada. He wants to fulfill our deep needs for commitments, for love and for support. He wants our children to grow up in a household where commitment and love and support is never in doubt support a question.

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This is all made possible through Islamic marriage, which brings accountability and commitments to romantic relationships. Next, also founder without a sense of aggressiveness he helped him along with

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well now putting them on the lookout for German NaVi with the EU so far, but I'm so sorry, but I use we can populate the mukana on sawed off

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do not take human life, which will automate sacred except by legal rights, if anyone is killed on Justine and we have given their relatives the authority, but do not let them exceed the limits that retaliation for the law is already on their side.

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If relationships can ruin individual lives, as well as the society, then so can murder, which is why a lot going on now turns our attention to this particular set.

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The first thing that he tells us is that human life is sacred. This means every human life Muslim and non Muslim, black and white. It's all sacred.

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If something is sacred, it means it not only has to be protected, but it has to be honored.

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When people are dying due to injustice and oppression, we have to take it very seriously. It should bother us enough to take an action.

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The next thing that Allah tells us is that he is the one who made it sacred not us. Your life is not sacred because of the color of your skin. Your life is not sacred because of who your ancestors were, or any other man made the reason Allah azza wa jal to make your life sacred.

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And so we're protecting that life as part of the sacred duty.

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That Allah azza wa jal tells us that there will be certain situations where it's acceptable to take human life in these situations are extremely limited.

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They are limited to someone who breaks the law and someone who is on the battlefield.

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The first scenario is under the authority of the government for the second scenario is under the authority of the military, there is no vigilante justice in Islam. You are not allowed to take matters into your own hands, and go punish people for what you think that they did. Everything must go through the proper channels and be supervised by the proper authorities.

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Now some people may wonder, why does Allah allow the taking of human life at all? Isn't he the Most Merciful?

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Doesn't he forgive everything?

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A lot as well. Jeff gives us the answer by saying that if someone gets murdered, Allah has given that person's relatives the authority to decide if they want to forgive, they can forgive.

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But if they want that other person punished that they can do that instead, that is their decision to make. Allah azza wa jal is showing us that in Islam, there is no mercy without justice.

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To forgive a murderer in this life, while a family of the deceased is still grieving. Show a lack of mercy to the family. So Eliza gel has left it up to the family what happens in this life and Allah Tala will decide whether to forgive in the afterlife.

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Even then, Allah gives a warning to the family of the deceased do not go overboard in retaliation.

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We see that the law is warning us that if we're not aware of the laws limits, it's very easy for yesterday's oppressed to become today's oppressor.

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that the law says well that's accountable man and yet he begins to have it gets easier as a hunter Yeah, but the law shows that both will get asked in the last accounting school and others do not

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Come near the wealth of the orphanage unless you intend to make it better,

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and honor your pledges for you will surely be held accountable for them.

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I love groups these two things together because caring for an orphan is like taking a pledge to do what's in their best interest. As Muslims, we do not just live for ourselves, we're supposed to improve the lives of everyone around us, especially those who are under our care.

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Part of lifting everyone around us is to honor our pledges. If we want to be trusted, we must be trustworthy.

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We need to do what we said we are going to do.

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And Allah says, Oh, it

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wasn't gonna build up this fast and steady, then the higher the milestones that we get, give in full when you measure and the way the with an even balance that is Fairest and best to the end. Simply put, don't cheat. Don't cut corners, Allah is using imagery here from the time and things used to be so low on the scales.

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People who were dishonest would measure out a little bit less whenever they could get away with when it came to somebody else. But when it was their turn, they got to keep and keep and even push the limit of what was acceptable to take

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something people unlikeness when it comes to them and their rights, they want to be paid in full Ah, but when it comes to the rights of another person. Now we have all the excuses why they shouldn't get their due justice. This is a mistake. Muslims have to treat everyone fairly and not given anyone including ourselves some special treatments.

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That will also pull out a laser that can be hearing in the Central Hospital for who will die cannot have a school. Do not follow what you don't have any certs in college. Oh indeed. And everything will be called to account your hearing your sights and your intellect, the province of Allah while he sort of told us that parts of perfecting our obedience to Allah is minding our own business. We should not get involved in other people's business unless we have a clear intention to help them in some way.

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As long as it tells us that we will help be held accountable in the afterlife for how we use our senses, our hearing our sights, and what we held in our hearts. Well, that time she can have the most in touch with elbows with some of the vertigo and do not work to not walk on the earth arrogancy surely you can neither crack the Earth. You're stretched to the height of the mountains.

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At the end of the day, we are nothing.

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Do you think you're right because we're the Imam of the Masjid. Or because you're on the floor of the mesquite or because you drive an expensive car.

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It's all going to end up

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It's all nothing and it will all end if you want to be just towards the last creation, including the Earth itself and everything it is. And we have to begin with this correct attitude of humility and submission and service called America Canada say people who end up being a mental health violation of any of these commandments is a testament to your Lord. Allah has truly spelled everything out to us in detail. He is just He is the guy that has spoken definitively about how he wants to be loved how he wants to be served, and how he wants to be healthy. For myself. It was something other than me give us

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a call in

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some way he was something of esteem and oh alone on a Sunday. Well, I

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can isolate our a promotion while you're working in the Camino Majeed Paulo American Bar

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came out about our age or he was or he didn't have to have even Majeed. Allah magazine assembled the CB was in the shelter with Mushrikeen. What definitely rafter team. One sort of thing for me was our former Pinellas I'm having the most money out

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of a great honor to the sun and the Muslims and humiliate fidelity enemy our daughters and destroy the enemies of faith and assist your believing servants and make the land of the Muslims safe and tranquil osis

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maker of the universe all of them are fitted that will be in what we announced but mostly meat what was the meal and you'll see mass

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yeah Sunday. Oh forgive the believing men and women forgive the Muslim men and women those living in those disease. Oh you hear me prayer alone I didn't know what to

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do about it it was a mess Yeah. Oh well let's see the truth for what it is and grant us the ability to follow it and let us see mostly for what it is grant us the ability to avoid yapping about Allah in the Lafayette Avenue and if so anyway anybody can tell you that for about we'll show you a video on a buddy will come to that go on festival a lot and football was cool while he has it while we are

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Muhammad Allah rasool

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Allah so Allah

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cama de sala de Sala Allahu Akbar Allahu Akbar

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