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The benefits of forgiveness and letting things go with Guest Mufti Menk. Advice to Celebrity Muslims, How to accept Islam and some great stories with some Christian Nuns.
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This will add hamdulillah Salam aleikum greetings of peace. Welcome to the deen show. Thank you guys for tuning in each and every week as we bring you hamdulillah new and exciting show. How time is flown. We spent a lot of time together. And hamdulillah it's going on our relationship I think has been going on 12 almost 12 years, over 600 episodes and I want to thank all a devoted D show fans who have been tuning in
benefiting from the program sharing the programs. We want to continue the work we want to continue on don't have a guest in the studio.
This week, we're going to have to make a call. I got a special friend, a special brother, a special Mufti
connect that with mink, there'll be Mufti menk. All the way in Zimbabwe. How about when I come back? Let's see if we can ring him up and get him on the show to do a special interview with him because it's Ramadan is the most special month of the year. So why not have our special guests? Mufti menk? Join us let's see if we can make it happen inshallah. Don't go anywhere. Because at the end of the day, you get something you always want more, you get some weed, you want more, you get some drugs, you want harder drugs, you get a girl you want a nicer girl, you get a car, you want a nicer car, you get a house with a nicer house, and we've got so many pressures
by enslaving yourself worshipping God loving God with submission to the one who created you and by worshiping God and seeking His pleasure. You get pleased. And you
Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salaam Alaikum Mufti menk How are you?
Good to see you. It's been a while.
A very long time The last time I spoke to you I don't think the connection was that grand? Better Mashallah. Mashallah hamdulillah Ramadan Mubarak
to you and to all the viewers hamdulillah shake I want to start off with recently, I had an experience that really impacted me. And I think it's something so profound. I had a an uncle of mine, he was probably the closest relative that has has died this far. From my side of the for my family, he had a stomach cancer. And along with making doors that Allah heals him, I also made the dua that Yala if you decide to take him because Allah knows best, what he's going to do, let me be there for that moment when he dies. And Allah answer that moment, that doula I was there to see him go from life to no life and to see him through his lips, moving his lips saying the Shahada. So I
got to experience I got to experience that I don't know if you ever did it's it's just something that has a profound impact on you. So if you can tell us remind us what actually happens because we made a plan, we were just talking to the doctor. And then a doctor turns the corner a law had another plan. All of the gadget started beeping and next to you know, we're saying c'est la la se, la la la la. And he's going on he has his oxygen mask on and then he starts to move his lips and next thing you know, you just it's like, you can tell the soul just left the body flatline. SubhanAllah. So what happens now, what what happens from here?
We all belong to Allah, and unto him, we all shall definitely return. And also we are taught to say in Melilla, Hema Huma,
there will be some, indeed for Allah is that which he has taken away, it was always his whatever he gives is also his in terms of belonging, and indeed everything that he has given life to is given that up to a specific time, so that is there. So I have seen this several times in my life, being a counselor and being you know, an Imam in the community. And we have visited sick and Ill who have been taken away while we were there at times. Now generally, at the time of the death of a person, we should try to remind them you know, if we get to a point where we feel that perhaps there is very
little hope or they're not doing really well, it's good to remind them of the good deeds that they have done in their lives, remind them of the mercy of Allah, it's wrong to get to a person's deathbed and to start reminding them of the bad they've done or to, you know, to tell them something that's not good also, in that company should be people they like they would like to see, they would they got along with their friends or family members whom they would have loved to be there at the time. There is no point if you had a bad condition or friendships, you know, something that was bad between you and that person, that you then work around them at a point of death, that's probably the
last thing they wanted to see. So it's important to remind them of the mercy of Allah, and the goodness that awaits them the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And what you rightly did, to prompt them to recite the Shahada, generally, depending on their condition, instead of saying, say, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, which is also applicable if the person is in their senses, and they're not in so much of pain. But generally, to start saying the Shahada yourself would prompt them to say the Shahada as well, I'm so glad to hear that your uncle actually did say, you know, the, with some words from his lips, hopefully, the Shahada by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So, the rule,
the soul actually starts departing the body, according to some durations, from the bottom of it, it comes out to the top until it gets to a point here, the throat known as, you know, literally that, like, at that point where you can hear that sound, where the soul starts departing, and starts leaving from that point. So the feet become cold, sometimes I have seen them, actually, you know, like, the toes go in slightly, and then the feet become cold, sometimes they lose a little bit of color. And that goes all the way up, there comes to a point where you see you know, that the person starts
feeling a bit of pain in their throat, they obviously have it in their chest, Allah alone knows what exactly they're going through, but the process of send them says, In the montella socket, indeed, death has its pangs, you know, the difficulty that the pain, the hardship, it's not so easy, those who are pious, you know, it goes out of their body, like a hair that comes out of, you know, pulled out of the throat. And, and so the soul is actually gone into what is known as the bursa. The Hadith says that when the roof comes out, the eyes actually follow that rule, I've actually seen the rolling of the eyes as well, that's probably the end. That's the last bit with the eyes actually
roll, they follow out that route that leaves the body is a halogen. buzzer You know, when the hook comes out that the eyes actually follow that. So thereafter, the rule has gone into the buzzer, and not to return again to that particular body, and some had a lot of body then becomes our completely, we're meant to cover it. If you want the face to show a few people, it's fine, respectfully, but you don't expose any of the organs of the body for the public, unless it is needed because of medical reasons or investigation and so on. What and
Yes, go ahead, I'm sorry.
And what happens at that juncture is we need to start planning and preparing the burial and the reason why the Muslim men are taught that we should not be delaying unnecessarily is because the body with this that we're given is temporary in this world. inshallah, we will be getting bodies on the day of judgment that will be different from the ones we have right now. These ones will decompose in the case of the majority of us back into the soil. Allah says Mina Halak na Kumasi, Hallo De Luca, mean Alfredo Tara Tanaka, you know, we created you from the sand or the dust the soil, we will return you into it and resurrect you from it again. So to get the body back into the
soil is the most respectful thing to do because it also begins to decompose almost immediately. And like I said, if there is necessity to delayed, then it's that necessity would permit the delay, but unnecessarily we should not be delaying, and respectfully we should be managing that there is I'm sure you know, and you know, it's worth mentioning that there is the normal bath that that particular body deserves something very interesting. You have a name until you pass away after that your body is known as the body. So people say where is the body? They don't say Where is Abdullah? They say where is the body Have you brought the body here Did you take the body there it goes to
show that your identity already becomes disconnected from your body the body goes back into the soil, they say lower the body. No one ever says lower with the first name. So your name is Moosa, lower Moosa, they don't say that they say lower the body. So this is very interesting. The body is washed and shouted the Genesis Allah is fulfilled and Subhana Allah The body is then buried it returns to the soil. There is a gap that is left between the body and the soil. It
Either on the side or at the top. And obviously, that is what we're taught by someone. But from a scientific perspective, it is enough oxygen to allow the decomposition of that particular body and you put the soul straight onto the body, perhaps the decomposition would be much more difficult. And this is why would you have mass graves where people have just thrown the soil over the bodies, if you were to dig it up, after years on end, you'd still find a lot. Whereas if you were to have left a gap, you know, oxygen, equivalent to almost double the size or triple of your body, it would give enough oxygen to allow the decomposition of that particular body which is something unique. That's
amazing. What should move the mind tell us what can someone expect we often hear B days birthdays, but many people they forget about the DD the death dates, right? So for someone who prepared for that day, what can someone expect at that moment when the soul leaves the body? What can they expect if they live the life of obedience to their Creator, they worship the Creator, not the creation, and they didn't ignore the death date.
May Allah make it easy for every one of us, we all have opened the mercy of Allah is the driving factor and force. Just this evening I was speaking in the seat at the masjid here in Harare, Zimbabwe. And I was reminding the brothers of the verse that we heard in sort of Baja were in need of foreign lemon tabouleh Armand awami, lasagna and from Matata. I continue to forgive without stopping, you know, afar means one who keeps forgiving, I will keep forgiving those who repent those who turn back to me who believe who do good deeds and who are rightly guided. So yes, if you are concerned about your date of death, what to expect is an angel would come are the angels who come to
actually take the soul away would be very, very pleasant already, as Allah says in the Quran. In surah, Allah Allah subhanho wa Taala says in a very beautiful way, what are bishoo Bill genetti letting you know tetanus Allah, Allah to have one know what I'm sure will be generated let you continue to do so this goes back to the west in Medina Allah bonala, Formosa karma, those who say our bs Allah, they worshipped Allah alone to Mr. Karma and they were steadfast. This brings in light to things. they worshipped Allah alone and they worshipped Allah the way Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam taught them to worship. This is called Rob Boone, Allah to master karma. they worshipped Allah alone
and they did steadfast deeds. Allah says tetanus is a human melodica at that point of death, according to one of the trustees, at that point of death, the melodica who come down, they give them good news by saying don't fear latter half what is no, no need to be sad, and we give you good news of gentlemen, that is to come. So the initial glad tidings for a believer happened at the point of death and this is why a lot of people leave with a smile, you see a lot of people Subhanallah they look and sometimes even say things wow, look, Mashallah, you know, who's come to take me, I've seen that when people say Subhana Allah, you know, look, and they actually own the last few seconds.
Yes, the pangs of death, right at the end. And this is amazing, because what happens is we, you know, we, we are reassured that what Allah has promised is indeed the truth, you know, may Allah make it easy for us, and may we not be caught unaware at the time, may we be constantly, you know, thoughtful or considering or mindful of the fact that we can lose our lives or we can get into the akhira at any moment. You know,
like when we read Salah, the Hadith says, suddenly Salah, in fulfill your prayer, as though it's the last one that you're ever going to be able to fulfill. And if you do that, and definitely, it will one day be the last prayer that you would have fulfilled anyway. So it's a very good thing to get used to. We don't know how long we're going to live for. And Allah says, while automaton Illa and to Muslim you know, do not die, except in the condition that you are Muslim and submitted. So people say, Well, how do I know when I'm going to die? Well, the answer to it is you don't but if you lead your life in a way that you're always submitted, a day will come when you do die and you wouldn't
have been, you know, doing the right thing by the will of Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all a good death. I mean, she remind remind us what comes to your mind when I mean also as counseling a lot of families, you see a lot of wars internally between families and now you would think sometimes Okay,
that a person seeing death You know, this would humble them and they will start to think about you know, letting go of grudges. But have you witnessed some people even to the death date, they hold on to grudges, they don't let that go. What advice do you give
People, to have them soften their hearts to kind of you know, have them be more forgiving and holding grudges then rather than holding grudges.
quite clearly, if you would like the mercy of Allah you need to be merciful as well. Layer honey lahoma Allah. Allah does not have mercy upon those who don't have mercy upon people. You know how momentous we are Hong Kong Memphis, Allah have mercy upon those on earth and the one above will have mercy upon you. Now, there are so many people who definitely I've seen this as well, I'm sure you may have, even after the death of someone, they are so hardened. And they feel that that what they are holding inside is actually something that is worthwhile, whereas it's not, you know, the prophets of Salaam stood up. When a genocide was passing. It happened to be the genocide of a Jewish
person, they told him or messenger This is a Jewish boy. He says, Isn't he a human, you know, we should be softened by this. This is a human he was created by Allah, Allah just took the life away. If you want forgiveness, learn to forgive if you want a softness towards you, you need to be soft towards others. That's how Allah subhanho wa Taala works. Death is one of the biggest lessons ever. When we see others dying, we're supposed to be so humbled that the Prophet peace be upon him says there was a time when people used to commit evil in the graveyard so we disallow them from entering the graveyard but now he says I would like you to visit in order for you to remember that you have a
hereafter that you are going to go to so he says container Hey to come and Zahra to Cabo, Allah for Zoo ha ha to the Kyoto como la jolla, I used to prohibit you from visiting the graveyards. And obviously the reason is, there was a lot of evil that was happening. So he says, Now visit them because they will remind you of the Hereafter, my brothers and sisters, if death does not soften you what is going to soften you. Like I say if the words of Allah are not going to soften you what is going to soften you. We we should not hold a grudge to the degree that we take it even beyond a day or two. But sometimes as human beings, you know things build and we we tend to hold things in our
hearts, I promise you if you if you just broaden up a little bit and you you, you create a little bit of space, a little bit of space, in your mind, in your heart, you will lead such a comfortable life with so much of contentment because you're calm, you're relaxed, you know that Allah is in control, whatever has happened to you. Allah is in control. Allah knows, when someone's done bad to you, as many times we don't understand it. But Allah knows this evening, we read verses in the Quran, about herbal and Musa alayhis salam, and how he made a hole in that boat. for them. It was something very bad at the time you made a hole in the boat. But if because they believe they did
good deeds, they were honest, you know, people who were laborers, they worked very hard ferrying people to and from that particular stream or river, a lot of protected that boat from bigger harm. So sometimes when something happens to us from another person, perhaps there is a bigger thing that Allah is testing us regarding allow us to see Are you are you a person who's willing to forgive it reminds me of Abu Bakr Siddiq, the best of those to tread the earth after the prophets of Allah subhanho wa Taala was a man known as Abdullayev North man of the level. And he was also known or more commonly known by every one of us as Abu Bakr, Siddiq of Allah, when he made an oath not to
spend in one of his relatives who are spreading the worst rumors about his family, and his daughter and the wife of the province are seldom actually alone. This man's name was misdiagnosed as data about the loved one. And obviously he committed a sin by by saying nasty things and spreading dirty false rumors. So aboubaker acidic or the law says I'm not going to spend this man, what he's done is terrible, alone, reviewed verses and so on to you know, saying that this is not how a person with virtue who has been blessed by Allah should operate. A person who's, who has virtue blessed by Allah grants us granted sustenance and goodness by Allah should not take an oath not to spend, you have to
be bigger than that. You have to be far greater than that type of attitude. So I call on myself and every one of us to say, Let's become greater than the situation of negativity in our lives. Learn to forgive, learn to let go learn to embrace, sometimes if someone's done something really nasty, you might not want to interact with them so much, but let go. And I think on the day of piano, you will see definitely the fruit of that Allah says Allah subhanho wa Taala in another locale, I mean as me or whoever is patient, and whoever forgives, that is the best of affairs, the best thing you could have done, and those verses are just after the verse where Allah says Joseph who say he didn't say
to me throughout, when someone does bad, you have the right to retaliate in an equal way. But Allah says if you bear patients and if you feel
Give it better for you, you know, you won't have depleted your resources. I can say another thing. When we hold grudges. When we hold something when we have this bitterness, I promise you, it affects our health. It affects the general thinking, the thought process, our mind, it affects mentality, emotions, everything is affected, you let go see how good you feel. It's the mercy of Allah and inshallah, the day you die, you die with a smile. You know, may Allah make it easy. For every one of us. People might be thinking right now, it's easier said than done. But we have to keep talking about it because it is possible.
Before Mashallah, this is such great advice. Tell us one more thing on this before I go to the next thing I want to cover with you. You had mentioned something about if a person let's say they held on to that, and then they went in front of the court of the Creator of the heavens and earth. And now you mentioned the reality of how the creator last $1 can hold that individual accountable for let's say, 303,000 some other cases? You remember talking about something like this? Yes, yes, yes. So what happens is normally when we say, I've got a problem with this guy, let me leave it for the Day of Judgment. We actually don't know when we arrive on the Day of Judgment, there may be evidence
that proves we were wrong. That's why Allah says in the process, our sellers encouraged us sort out your problems on Earth, either way, because that day when the duhem and the dinar will not be of any avail and any benefit to you, then perhaps, you know, you may be at a loss also what happens is the currency on the Day of Judgment, his deeds, these these are so so you know, valuable, so we need to look after them. We do the deeds, but we need to protect the deeds by having a good heart good character, by learning to let go. I would rather forgive a person who did wrong to me clearly, than to take him on the day of judgment and find out that I have wronged him because of something I might
have said and done. And then suddenly my deeds have gone. I don't want that to happen. I'd rather forgive him. When Allah sees you forgave, Allah will tell you, you were forgiving. I want to show you I am the most forgiving and forgiving you a lot. You know, if you if you if you're merciful, Allah will show you He is the Most Merciful. You know, when when we read the Quran, the term of afar, it brings about so much of happiness in my heart because I'm so sure that when Allah says I keep on forgiving Subhana Allah, why should I ever lose hope in the mercy of Allah, I should not commit sin knowingly or purposely thinking that okay, I'm not forgiving, but wherever I have fallen
out of human nature, I definitely have opened the mercy of Allah that I'm never going to lose. And the reason why I say human nature is my brothers, my sisters, do you want to know the sign that you're a movement that you believe the sign that you actually are concerned about his sub accounts on the day of judgment? You see, when you do a deed, and you regret it and there is remorse, if it is a bad deed, you regret it and there is remorse? Definitely. It's a sign that you are, you are concerned about the accounts of the Day of Judgment. It's a sign of Eman, the flicker of email, so we need to know that's a gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala. When I seek the forgiveness of Allah, why
should I ever lose hope in the mercy of Allah when Allah tells me never to lose hope in his mercy, when I seek forgiveness or when I feel the remorse, it's assigned? Definitely that
I'm a believer, and Allah subhanho wa Taala will keep forgiving for as long as you seek that forgiveness. When you commit a sin, ask yourself, Am I doing it? Because I want to defy Allah? The answer is no. None of us who say that Rasulullah would ever commit a sin, out of defiance to think that I'm defying Allah made us haram therefore I'm defying him and I'm going to do it. That would be a disbeliever. But a believer does commit sin out of human weakness, error, and shape bands plots. And that's why we still have the mercy of Allah that we hope for, because we say Oh Allah, my weakness, whatever I've done was never ever to defy you. But rather it was because of my weakness.
So forgive me, and Allah says, You are my worshipper, you will be forgiven if you seek forgiveness and mend yourself. So my brothers and sisters, don't lose hope in the mercy of Allah but a word of encouragement. Try not to leave your disputes and squabbles that you had in this world for the Hereafter, because I promise you, you may not know what you will. What, what how you will be judged on that day, you might come out to be the one who was wrong. What will you do on that day? Therefore, let's try and sort our methods out, even if it means you know, letting go. People say, Well, how long should we let go? I have a policy. Sometimes I say no, I'm not want to be followed,
but I'm happy with what I've just got myself to do. I say Oh Allah, you know, I might want justice in this world. Correct? Because we
Someone wrongs you once, twice, three times, four times, you want justice, you want to see what is right. But Oh Allah, I bear witness that I really and truly forgiven this person, don't hold it against them for the archaea. And, you know, forgive them, grant them Jenna to, I promise you, you know why the angels are saying, oh, like, give this person the same. I don't mind if the person I really didn't like it's actually my neighbor in general. Because in that day, I'm going to have a perfect heart, they're going to be having a perfect heart. And we will, we won't have any hatred, we will be brothers, or brothers and sisters, you know, in the most beautiful blessed condition with no
jealousy, no envy, no sin, no negativity whatsoever, I cannot begin to imagine how beautiful it will be. I don't care who's going to be next to me, for as long as I am there, I've gained. And that's a beautiful attitude. I asked Allah to help us all to make me strong as well. And to help us all to develop an even better attitude than that. I mean, I mean, you know, what makes it what it has me thinking of when you when you also read some of the books of some of the not yet Muslims out there who right on to some of the life coaches, motivational coaches, you'll see a pattern, it's like these Islamic concepts is like they went and they studied them, and they use them. And one of those
things is exactly what you're talking about to be happy is to not hold on to grudges and to learn to let go.
We see a lot of this. That is so true. Because
when we speak to people and say let go, they keep on telling us why should we let go? How long should we let go you guys keep on telling us Let go Let go, let go. But I promise you when you let go, you're doing yourself a favor. People hold grudges for years on end, I've come across even parents who hold grudges against their children, I'm going to give you an example because maybe the children got married to a woman or someone whom the parents were not too happy with its own, let things go come on Allah will release you from the clutch of the bad deeds that you've done because you released the others who might whom you felt have wronged you, you don't you think Allah is
watching and Allah knows Allah place that situation in your life, in order to test you, Allah knows that that situation was tailor made for you. So try to let go. And you see, you will have a very, very happy life. You know, if you want content life, you just need to broaden up a little bit, you need to make your heart broader, you need to have, as I say, a broad chest you know, which means just be a happy person Alhamdulillah shake if you're somebody who has, we know the responsibility of sharing, I often say if you share your care, now you're someone let's say you have the spotlight, you're out there in the public eye, does that obligation on you to share this message to trying to
the best of your ability, convey the message of Islam, in your actions and somehow have the intention that you like, for example, we have a great example in, in Muhammad Ali, anytime that the mic was put in front of him, you always heard him praise the Creator, you always hear him, you know, giving analogies examples of doing Tao basically. So let's say for the other people who have the spotlight who are out there, and there's a lot of Muslims, let's say they're celebrity soccer players, you know, a basketball players, you know, but they're kind of with the rapid growth of Islamophobia. You see them hiding under rocks, talking about being proud to be unapologetically
Muslim, especially in this day and age where people are trying to really, you know, scare the Islam out of you.
Number one is everyone is on a different level, at different levels. The level of Eman is different, the level of honor, which means the deeds you do different, the opportunities you have are different, that the ability and capability capacity you have is different. So each person should use whatever Allah has bestowed upon them in terms of capacity, capability, ability, and so on and try and improve on that. I know sometimes I've personally met with a lot of, for example, famous people who are not famous for religion, but they are Muslim. So I tell them, you know, just by being an upright movement, and by making it known that you're a Muslim, that is a starting point. I mean,
that is a very, very powerful starting point, if they know you're a devout Muslim, and you're a top sports person, that is already the beginning of the doubt, as time passes, Allah will give you opportunities that you will have to seize because if you lose them, it's just gonna be like a gym that you just dropped, you know, the data, in my cases on different levels, depending on what platform it is. So
if it is, you know, the, the close the closer the circle, the more specialized it is. So sometimes if it's very broad, it's just general and then it becomes more and more specialized as the circle becomes closer.
So that is just my system in my way. I do agree that I can do better and must do better and always looking at ways to improve
Based on the circumstances we have the opportunities we have the capacity and capability given to us by Allah, we ask Allah to help us to do much more.
That having been said, some people have it, you know, in a much greater way, I take a look at Muslim politicians from Muslim lands, they have a greater responsibility when it comes to Muslim politicians from non Muslim lands, they also have a huge responsibility. When it comes to influential people who are Muslim in Muslim lands, they have a great responsibility in non Muslim lands, they have a great responsibility, but each one of them is on a different level, we cannot ask everyone to be on one level. So we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make it easy for all of those who are, you know, out there, but the point is, please, my brothers and sisters do not give up and
abandon your Islamic identity because the world is beginning to think that Muslims are the good Muslims are those who give up their identity and who try to just, you know, become as close to everyone else as they are dissolved in this cauldron, which is something very, very bad, you know, we should not just dissolve but rather than maintain your identity, because you still have your smile, you still have your beautiful character, you will still reach out you will help the non Muslims you reach out to everyone and they will know from your dress, from your style from your name, from from your appearance, your the way you carry yourself that you are a devout Muslim, but
you're such a lovely person, you've invited them to the beam, you've clarified the misconception, you've tackled Islamophobia and at the same time you have served Allah subhanho wa Taala. So if you were to give up your your identity completely, and even your name, you're embarrassed of them, I think we can do much, much better by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. You know, notice I'm not condemning anyone, but I'm strongly encouraging everyone to say, let's be good people, you know, let's try and be in the millions, the hundreds of millions where we are proper Muslim, known as good Muslims, read our Salah fulfill our duty unto Allah and character and conduct is so beautiful, that
when people interact with us, they want to be like us, they want to be Muslims, they want to be people who are smiling, helpful, people who are so good to their family, they take care of their loved ones, and so on. inshallah, it is a very, very great opportunity and chance, I also like to strengthen me to strengthen you to strengthen every one of us, for indeed, you know, different people have different conditions in different lands, different situations. In each situation, we hope you can do what you believe is the best. And never think for a moment that you cannot improve on what you've done by Allah make me from among those who can keep on improving. And every one of us
I mean, I mean, while we're in this month, share on fasting, move the mag tell us, now you're coming into it. And let's say somebody reminded us of the importance of not just giving up food or drink. But let's say someone is kind of got into a habit of cursing, telling some lies, maybe really bad mannered and belligerent behavior that is opposite to Islam. Now they're fasting. And they're starving themselves. But let's say some people are still carrying on this behavior remind us of how we should come in and holistically.
There is a narration that says that there you know, there are people who stay away from food and drink and the only thing they are gaining from that the people who fast and the only thing that they're gaining from that is hunger and thirst. And there are people who stand up in night prayer and the only thing they're gaining from that is actually lack of sleep and becoming tired. That would be in the case of those who don't understand what the past is all about. In a nutshell the fastest about one word taqwa achieving God consciousness, Allah says Allah Allah, taken all the prescription of the fasting and everything that Allah has actually prescribed in this month, is in
order that you achieve the consciousness of the Almighty, that consciousness is about what goes into your mouth, what comes out of your mouth, just as much as I should not put in haram food throughout the year. Allah is disciplining me, giving me an opportunity to become more conscious of what goes in by telling me even the halon from dawn to dusk, don't put it in your mouth so that after that you can appreciate the debt which is helpful and stay away from that which is haram. But we need to also know that in the same way we are conscious about what goes into our mouth, we need to be conscious about what comes out of our mouth because the Hadith where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
says cola Zoo when he when he said that he had a convenient Rama who was Shahada, a person who's not going to be abandoning bad speech, foul language, false witness and and ignorance from their mouth. Then Allah doesn't need the fact that they have abstained from food and drink they wasted their time because they
Since while they were abstaining from food and drink, that's why when the prompts or sentences if someone were to swear you or curse you tell them I'm fasting for
him. They should say I am fasting which means I'm in my literally rehab. You know, I want to go to the rehabilitation. I'm in rehab, how can I be evil while in rehab so panela I'm being conscious of
my character, my conduct. That's why the prophets Allah send them the Hadith says, Can I do it the nurse? What can I do? I did my akula film, Yvonne, that the processor was the most generous of people. His character was superb. He was more generous than the blowing wind that is felt by everyone when it blows. And in the month of Ramadan, he was even more generous, the most generous, the greatest generosity of the process, someone who was always the most generous, was actually in the month of Ramadan. Why? Because he was softened up used to come to him. alayhis salam used to read the Quran, the Quran used to soften even more not to say he wasn't suffering, he was the most,
you know, the highest form from amongst us, the most noble of all messengers of Allah subhanho wa Taala But still, when Ramadan came, he was on a different level. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us so my brothers and sisters, this is a month of consciousness of Allah, you know, we stay away from food and drink, we add a smile to our faces. And I don't have to pretend like this fast has really broken me destroyed me, I'm hungry, and I'm visit No, those words are bad. You need to put a smile on your face. I stayed away from food and drink, I'm happy. Allah gave me a chance to worship him to obey Him. Allah showed me what to do for him, you know, when you have a loved one, and they asked
you to do something for them, you'd be so excited to prove that you can do it properly. And you want them to actually or you want to talk mileage with them because of the love that you have between you. What about the love of Allah? What about your maker, he's giving you a chance to fast so we should be honored that Allah has allowed me to do something that I can get closer to him by no wasted by vulgar words bad words, lying, cheating, deceiving, false witness saying that which is hurtful, Why say hurtful words, and I call on those who are married to actually address their spouses with the most respectful beautiful, loving, kind, romantic words and terms that would
actually increase the love because if that unit is solid by the will of Allah, the children will also have a good upbringing, they will be secure, they will be inshallah staying away from bad habits and so on. And if that happens, you have fulfilled your duty unto your children for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So I call it all of us, everyone, myself included, let's become more conscious of the words we say stay away from bad words, it will definitely nullify the reward of your past. Not only that, you lose respect. If you want to be respected, you need to start off by respecting yourself by uttering good words, pure words, clean words, words that are food of food
with love, kindness, humility, and so on. May Allah bless every one of us. I mean, I mean, we're almost out of time, say just a couple more questions. inshallah. Tell me over here, the Islamophobia industry is a quarter of a million dollar annual business, it's huge. I don't know how it is over there, and your side of the world, but how do you like how do you deal with it? How do you have you had any encounters experiences and you can share with us
I have had many experiences and I promise you, nearly every one of them, I've just dealt with it with a smile and with lots and lots of patients. So one in particular that comes to your mind that we can we can benefit from? Is there anything that comes to your mind anything that in particular that we can we can derive we can take from mimic that?
Well, I can you know, I normally I fly quite a bit. And so it's very interesting to see who's sitting right next to you. And I had an incident where there was an elderly lady who, who moved away from right on to the other side of her seat simply because I was sitting next to her as though to say that, you know, someone dirty is here. And I looked at her I smiled. I told her that money, man, you know, she just looked at me like, Oh, this guy speaks English, you know. And I told if there's anything you need, you can let me know you're not seated here and so on. I put my check my bag up, I sat down and Subhanallah It was amazing what happened afterwards because she was still with her
frown and so on.
Later on, we happen to fill in these landing forms, and she saw me writing with beautiful handwriting. She was actually reading what I was writing on there. And when I filled in Zimbabwe, she was very, very surprised. She actually addressed me and she asked me more about Zimbabwe telling me she was also originally from there, and her children and grandchildren. It turned out that her grandchild one of her grandchildren was actually in my class in the school when I was studying in high school. And you know, we ended up speaking and that was like a sigh of relief for the entire plane because a lot of them were non Muslims. Just watching and
I felt that it was really a big, you know, sigh of relief because everyone must have thought, you know, finally this guy is actually making conversation. And I was like, you know, nothing elderly lady. But a handler. There's just one thing that came to my mind. Now, I think I've spoken about it many years ago, in my in one of my talks, because this thing keeps coming back to me when I think of it, I don't know if the grannies alive or not, but I definitely do know that I've learned a lot every time. In fact, I can tell you another story of two nuns who were who had landed
here in Zimbabwe once and I was I helped them with their baggage from the carousel, and everyone was watching this Muslim guy, obviously a religious figure, who has two nuns, whom he has placed their bags on the trolley and is now pushing this trolley for them. It was just something amazing. I think it broke so much ice. And they actually told me Oh, you know, you visit us. And so on the minimum that happened, these were two Christian nuns, you're talking about two Christian nuns, who were who were wearing their, they were wearing hijab, I really respected them completely as they were and I just did what I had to I helped them, I took the bags, I push the trolley up to when we got to their
vehicle. And they were so so delighted, they couldn't believe it. And I really don't know what must have happened thereafter. Because I'm sure they must have figured out that what the minimum they knew is this was a Muslim guy. And I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala make you the means of their guidance and the guidance of Allah for every one of us. I can go on and on another story comes to my mind where I was dressed in white, I stopped to help a group of ladies who were actually stuck, they had a puncture on one of the highways. And I stopped and I actually told him to step aside, I, I set I repaired their their tire. My family was in the vehicle. And then we continued, we proceeded to
the capital city. Sometime later, there was a lady who came to me at one of the supermarkets telling me you know, I remember you helped us with a tire and so on. Yeah. And I saw you on Facebook. And so I can't believe it, because you and I'm like, oh, wow, you know, so handle. And I was thinking to myself, guidance is in the hands of Allah. But sometimes a deal of this nature can change everything. I think when we give up, that's when
you know, things start going pear shaped what we need to do, don't ever give up. You know, if people hate, we will not do that. I know sometimes people say, look, you don't need to respond to every hate crime. I do agree that we do. It's not our duty to respond to everything that happens. You know, sometimes I hear of things that happen across the globe. Later on a few days later, because I'm busy doing my thing. I'm in a third world country. And then someone told me, you know, you didn't speak about Allah, whatever. I said, What happened to him? Who is he? How can you not know who he is? Come on, it's all over the news. I said, but I'm sorry, I don't know. You're a leader.
And you're asking Who is he? I really didn't know. But I asked Allah to help. I'm sure people have said things and so on. So we don't have to comment about every single thing that happens. But yes, sometimes we can and you know, wherever we, we have this opportunity, we should try our best to do whatever we can. inshallah, let's not give up. Like you say your part of the world. The industry is very, very big. My part of the world in the third world countries, it's a little bit smaller. We do face a problem of extremism, though not in my country, but in some third world countries where we have people who perpetrate hideous crimes, you know, murder and so on. Just today, I was reading
about people in Mozambique, who had just, you know, killed innocent people from the streets, whoever they were Muslim or non Muslim. They were not even bothered. But they were doing it in the name of Islam. And that is definitely not on because not in my name, not in yours, not in the name of Allah, Who is the giver of that life. We cannot just take that away. But we need to keep on trying to educate the masses to say, one is we don't do this. And two is it doesn't represent Islam at all. Shake. Thank you so much. We covered a lot. We covered. reminding people of the DVD, the death date, many people talk about the birth date, our departure date, the importance of that we talked about
forgiveness, letting go of grudges. We talked about fasting, not just from food and drink, but also modifying our character behavior. And some had some great advice and some tips on dealing with combating the Islamophobia last question now. Some person says, yes.
device we all have today. During the past, we need to be careful how we use it that too can nullify the reward of our past. You know, people who send dirty jokes. People who send monographic pornographic images, sometimes that which is nude, unnecessary waste of time, vulgar all that on your phone, Ramadan, say I am fasting deleted, perhaps tell the person not to forward you such messages. Let's change the way we use our phones as well. That too will actually get us into general
Yes, your question. Now someone says, Okay, I see I like what I hear. They've been following along, they've been silently observing. But then they say, okay, you know, I like I like the mannerisms I like that. But I can get that in any religion, what separates Islam from all the other religions? And let's say now, this last point, the person also gravity gravitates to how can they accept it?
So Allah, Islam, a sign of your piety is that it reflects in your character and conduct, the closer you get to allow the softer you become in nature. So there is a clean marriage between the two where you cannot be close to Allah and harsh and hard at the same time. Being softened is a sign of the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala as the answers for Bhima met him in the law he linked Allah home is what meaning is the mercy of Allah that made you lenient towards them because of the mercy of Allah upon you, you became lenient, you became soft. So yes, people might say, well, any religion teaches you that but in Islam, you haven't given up your, your duties, the five pillars are embedded solid
and strong. On top of that, you have character and conduct, you see. So there is a closeness to Allah and a closeness to the creation of Allah, Coco Cola, and Coca Cola a that we have the rights of Allah and the rights of the rest. So meaning that the creatures of the same Allah subhanho wa Taala. So when we have the two together, that's when we I mean, if you just have one, then obviously, you have a lot of room for improvement. And we could do much, much better in by the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And how would someone if they wanted to now they wanted to, they've been hanging out with some Muslims, they've been watching the deen show they've been reading. And now
they like the point about worshiping the Creator, not the creation, they understand the belief about our love for Jesus as a mighty messenger, but not a god or a literal Son of God. And they are really gravitating to the pure monotheism and now they want to accept Islam, what would they have to do?
Well, primarily, once you understand and you know, when you want to be a part of it, you need to declare the declaration is from the tongue as well as within the heart, you need to believe in it, you need to declare that there is none worthy of worship besides Allah, you can even say the words after me now, even if you hear this later on, you say,
Allah, so yeah, go Illa. Allah, what I do. And then Mohammedan Rasulullah I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship besides Allah. And I bear witness that Muhammad peace be upon him is his messenger, his worshiper, the final prophet of Allah, once we declare this, we are actually Muslim. So this declaration, a lot of the times it's best if it were in the presence of some witnesses, so at least people know that you are a Muslim. You know, it's not a condition that you have to go to the mosque in order to do this, and so on. But it's good because you will be known to the community and society. But if you have a small obstacle you'd rather save now and you can maybe publicize it a
little bit later because I do know of a lot of people who say, I really want to be Muslim, but I don't know. You know, I don't want to make it public right now. So maybe I'm delaying it, don't delayed be a Muslim, you are a Muslim. A lot of the times people are Muslim already in the heart, they only need to utter the declaration. So the say the declaration and one day when you have the opportunity, you will go to the masjid you will then you know, depending on your country, your city, the massage around you search for those who will be able to fulfill the need that you have, and inshallah you will always find them I know of a sister a few weeks ago who was interested in Islam,
and I had told her or her friends had brought her to the masjid because that's what we had said. And some of the sisters in the mosquito look get lost because you're not a Muslim. You need to move out of here, you know, and it was so embarrassing. She began to cry. And later on, I told her look, you know what, I sent the message to say, come back the next day in a different Masjid. And she did and she didn't regret it at all. And I want to I want to encourage the Muslims to say you don't know the circumstances surrounding the presence of a person in the masjid. Remember the prophets I send them also welcome to those who are serious about the deen and those whom he invited in order to give the
message of the deep into the masjid which was mostly the number we will give who gave us the right to chase people out especially when they are appropriately dressed and so on. They are respecting the mustard they didn't come to desecrate or to bless him but rather they came in order to learn you know, we need to reach out to these people so inshallah also what I want to encourage all my brothers and sisters, let's get closer to Allah we will taste the contentment in our hearts. Everyone is searching for happiness and contentment. It is definitely achieved by getting closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala fulfilled
In your duties unto Allah, soften in your heart towards Allah subhanho wa Taala towards the creation of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And by his will and mercy, you will taste that contentment in a huge way. Even if you are not a wealthy person, even if you don't, you're not the most intelligent of people or you don't have a job, etc. But you are just so content. May Allah grant every one of us ease. And Allah bless every one of us. And I mean, one thing came to my mind, it's interesting, there was a prominent figure that we had been talking to here in the United States. And, you know, nowadays in Abu Dhabi, you have this Brazilian Gracie Jiu Jitsu that's becoming very popular. And we
had somebody from here go there to compete, and he's from this Gracie families was a very, they started the ultimate they started this, this martial art, and the person went to visit a Masjid there. And then they sent a message back to saying that the person at the mosque asked him, Are you Muslim? The person said no, so you're not allowed to come into mosque. So that's interesting. How you mentioned how we ended up chasing a lot of times, people away from Islam.
Yeah, I think I need to address those who are responsible and in charge within massages that you know what they are entrusted with the trust from Allah, that house belongs to Allah, not to them. So they need to know, they need to have the ability to distinguish I mean, if there is someone who's coming in, and you you have identified that this person is respectful, and they're not coming in to harm or to desecrate your bloodstream, it's your duty to welcome them into the house of Allah and to show them around if need be, and to let them sit and listen, you know, we have a facility for non Muslims to listen to the Juma every week if they would like and you have a few who do end up coming
from among them. Some have accepted Islam. So they listen because a lot of the non Muslims don't know what's happening in the massage. So when they come, they can feel the tranquility instantly because it's the house of Allah. If you have a softness in your heart, you will immediately feel the peace even when you get into the neighborhood where the mustard is right nearby. It's amazing because that's the house of Allah, it can be no place that is more peaceful than the house of Allah. How can we chase people away from the house of Allah? I really would like to apologize to those who may have had that experience. Surely it is the ignorance of those brothers or sisters that have who
have perpetrated that sin. But you're definitely more than welcome. It's the house of Allah subhanho wa Taala that's the way of learning the deen and that's the way that we would be able to actually build bridges and break barriers now allow us to forgive them and us as well. I mean, I mean shake Thank you Mufti man thank you so much May the creator the heavens and the earth God Almighty Allah reward you for spending this time with us? How can people reach and get in contact with you if they want to learn more if they won't listen to some of your talks and lectures?
That's quite a difficult question. What I normally say is Mashallah we have a lot of scholars around this time benefit from all of them. I'm not the only guy on Earth, you know, we have yourself and your programs as well much of a benefit. But I do have an email address, I get 1000s of emails, I try to I have admin prioritizing Mufti [email protected] I do have a Facebook page just for general messages of motivation. That's facebook.com slash nifty. Make the same handle at Twitter. Twitter is also at Mufti mink. On Instagram, I have slightly different sort of presence. But it's mostly make official, there is a vote there is a brother who puts up the quotes on document reminders, I do have
admin that uses multibank admin.
There is also a very good platform called Mr. Muslim, Central Muslim central.com. If you actually visit them, they have an app, they have many apps for a lot of the prominent speakers, they have a YouTube page, they have Facebook and all that is
totally free. A lot of this a lot of the lectures that are there and they're all free feasterville for those who would like to benefit May Allah subhanahu Allah grant us benefit but don't forget that there are so many around you whom you need to make use of get to the masjid speak to the Imam sometimes they'd be able to solve your problems because if everyone feels they need to contact me, then obviously I'm just one person so weak. So you know, insignificant, a person who's got very limited strength and resources and abilities. And I try to the best of my abilities to help as many people as I can but still people get upset they think I'm ignoring them. That's not the case Please
forgive me I'm just a human being make use of the other scholars as well. Beautiful, brilliant scholars across the globe. gems who are doing great work May Allah bless them, strengthen them all and myself as well yourself as well. And every one of us. I mean, we could Let's leave off on a note let's make a date. If we're still alive inshallah we can hook up again next year, same time, same
Next neuroma down in Sharla
is Neela. You know when you say make a date I was about to tell you I can make a whole box of dates right now.
So inshallah we can we can hook up again, have you back on in about a year next Ramadan? is Santa la reunites is we're still around inshallah, thank you for having me. And I asked the brothers and sisters also to pray for those who are struggling across the globe, so many are struggling. Let's never forget them try and reach out to them in every possible way, starting with a doula and its application, may Allah alleviate their suffering and the suffering of every single one of us. I mean, I mean, we may have a blessed Ramadan and a wonderful eat.
So there you have it, guys. Brothers and sisters, Mufti menk, we covered a lot. Death date. Wow, wow. That is something that when you just think about, I mentioned the story about having my the one of the closest relatives that I was connected to, you know, people die, and you don't really have a connection, and then you quickly forget. But this was someone that was a catalyst. For me, coming to the dean,
he passed away, and I was there to see it. And that really had a strong impact on me. We got to talk about reminding people about death in it. And I often say it's, it's not to be pessimistic is to be optimistic, there's, there's hope. I just don't I cannot wrap my mind around the fact that some people, they live without this hope, the ultimate hope that you're going to meet your Creator, that there is something after this life. So you sweat, you struggled and strive to make all that money to build that house. And then a tornado comes and earthquake destroys that house. And then the insurance doesn't give you the money to rebuild the house. And life is taking the time is over. And
that's it. And that's all you live for. But Islam gives you the hope. There's something else coming after this life, a blueprint for life was sent by the quote, the creator of life, we have it in Islam, it's there. So we got to talk about the death day forgiveness, holding on to grudges Let it go. Let it go. And it was great advice from the bank about this very crucial important because people hold on to these, these Family Feud. So we talked about forgiveness. And we talked about fasting five pillars of Islam, one is to testified that there's nothing worthy of worship. So if the Creator of the heavens an earth
and praying five times a day, that's recharging the battery. And then we also have the blessing month of Ramadan that we're in right now. And that's a spiritual bootcamp. He gave some great advice, how it's not just some people be starving themselves. They'll be starving themselves, thirsty, hungry, but they're not watching what comes out of their mouths. They're uttering words, that the prophet SAW some had said that a person will see it say a word not thinking the ramifications of it, and then be thrown into Hellfire because of this, that, that that word that hurts someone else. You know one word, you can break up a family one word, you can go ahead and
destroy someone's self esteem their confidence. So we have to choose our words wisely and come out of this blessed month better human beings than we came in. And that's the whole point of Ramadan. So we talked about Ramadan. And then we talked about advice to the celebrities, people who are out there, don't let your manager stop you from continuing
sharing this message like Muhammad Ali, share this message. Don't let anybody into fear don't let that fame into fear. Don't let that status you have now you're a celebrity you have won the NBA championship, soccer championships, UFC championship, whatever it is. Now you have an opportunity the lights on you we talked about that gave some advice to the Muslims who are in the spotlight. spend an hour talking on an interview you can spend 30 seconds praising the critters has an earth reminding people about the purpose of life. with wisdom you can do that with Lila sabella, Rebecca bill Hekmati, invite all to the way of your Creator of your Lord with wisdom. This is a direct
command from the creator of heavens and earth, Allah. So we talked about that. We talked about so many beneficial things. And at the end,
the show gave an invitation showed how someone but even before that, it was interesting how the doors we talked about Islamophobia and having that good noble character. He gave some great examples on how he through his behavior, he was able to break down some doors and he was even helping those Christian nuns and this is very important.
That we're always on our best behavior that we're acting in accordance with the Quran and the Sunnah. So we talked about that. And then at the end, if somebody from watching the programs, they want to accept Islam submission to the Creator, not the creation. He even showed you how to say the Shahada, La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasulullah very simple. There's nothing worthy of worship except the one who created you the one who made you, the one when the deaf day comes that you're going to have to return back to Allah, the Creator of the heavens and earth. A lot that we covered in sha Allah it was of benefit and to see more shows like this subscribe right now support the de show. And
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