Channel: Taimiyyah Zubair
An-Nisa 148-162 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 149
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interviewed in over here is connected with the previous hire. What is the previous is a that Allah subhanaw taala does not like evil words to be ordered except by the one who has been wronged.
So those people who have been wronged who have been treated unjustly, they're being told that if you show some good
meaning instead of showing through in your response to the person who has oppressed you, instead, if you show some good,
like if a person is saying harsh words to you, and instead of using harsh words, for them, you use polite words, you use kind words, you use good words,
out of who, or you hide the good. Meaning you do it secretly out there for en su in, or you just fart in the evil, you just fart in the offense. You just forgive the other person for the harsh words that he has said to you, then remember that allies are full. And he's also petite. That he burdens people, despite being capable of punishing people.
Who are you? Who are you? You're only a human being? If somebody treats you unjustly? Can you really take revenge from them fully? No, you can't. You're not studied.
So Allah subhanaw taala while he is Cadiz still he forgives, then why should you not forgive? Because when we read the previous hour, we knew that we should defend ourselves. Right? But over here, Allah subhanaw taala encourages us that if you forgive and save yourself from uttering evil words, even that's much better for you.
That's much better for you.
And notice, it has been said that w hyaluron. You show good out of Ohio, or you hide it
many times, it is difficult to show good in response to evil that has been shown to a person isn't it? somebody saying harsh words, it's very difficult for you to say good words. And sometimes and you know how it has been set out to fool or you hide it in your heart. Sometimes you're very positive in your heart. You're being very patient in your heart. Somebody's saying harsh words to you. And inside, now you're thinking positive, you're saying positive things, but it's difficult to show to express good words. You understand what I'm saying? Somebody is being very mean to you. In your heart, you're not getting back at them. But in your heart, you're being very positive. You're
telling yourself It's okay. I was listening, I was watching.
But we don't go beyond that. We just stop at that stage. We don't go beyond that. What does Allah say if you show good meaning you express something good. You say something good in response
to food or you hide it you do it secretly out therefore on to in or you pardon the evil that has been done to you. But in the luck and our full one Claudia indeed allies most pardoning and he's also put the What does it show to us?
First of all, this ayah teaches us that although it is permissible to take revenge, although it is permissible to take revenge, it is permissible to supplicate against the oppressor, to complain to other people about the wrong that has been done to a person, it is definitely better to forgive. It is definitely better to forgive.
Especially when it comes to you know, minor issues, small issues, little little things. Little things.
Like for example, if you know there's a girl she's living with her husband, maybe with her in laws, and maybe one of her boss says something harsh to her. Now, it's only words, it wasn't that harsh. It was only words. It was only a few words of lesser degree of harshness.
Now in that case, does it really make sense to call your mother who's living in a different city who's living in a different country? And you telling her you know, my mother in law said this to me today? Does it really make sense to do that? No. Can you mother do anything? No, she's only going to feel helpless. She's only going to feel very sorry for you, then she's going to feel angry. That's it chicken or do anything else.
So especially when it comes to little issues when it comes to small matters. We shouldn't make a big deal out of them. Just because somebody said something harsh to you. You know, you start crying and you tell your friends and you tell your parents and you tell your relatives No, especially if it's something very small. If it's something major, then yes, you need to defend yourself.
But if it's something small, then don't make a big issue out of it. So although it is permissible to take revenge, however, it is always better to forgive the other person. And instead of showing Sue In response, it is better to show some hate in response.
We learn and sort of the shooter, I number 40, which is that we'll say he didn't say he attune with blue hair from an alpha. What a slur for edges, who are the law.
And the retribution for an evil action is an evil one like it. What's the retribution for an evil action that has been done,
and evil action that is similar to it, if somebody says harsh words to you, you have the right to say the exact same words to them.
But whoever pardons famine, alpha, whoever pardons will also have any makes reconciliation, then his reward is due from Allah, that Allah subhanaw taala will reward him. So it is definitely better to forgive the other person.
And many times, what do we think that if we forgive them, if we don't say something harsh to them in response? What does that mean? We're weak, we cannot defend ourselves. And we think that, you know, you should stand up for yourself as somebody saying harshly, you know, you should defend yourself and not not give them a chance to say anything harsh to you. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Man acosvo melon means for the cotton, what is the law who couldn't be off when in there is a woman to elderly lady, or for whom law?
No charity show ever decrease well, and Allah will only increase the honor of a servant who pardons. Allah will only increase what the honor of the slave of the servant who pardons other people?
We think that when we're forgiving people, we're humiliating ourselves. We're being a pushover. What does the Hadees fellas
that if a person doesn't, then he will only be increased in his honor. And he who is humble for Allah sake, that Allah will elevate his grade, Allah will elevate his rank.
So many times, we think that if we forgive the other person, if we don't do something harsh In response, and we're being weak, however, if a person forgives the other, he's actually increasing in his honor in the cycle, the loss of
the profits or losses, also said that I guarantee a house in the surroundings of paradise for a man who avoids quarreling, who avoids dispute, even if he is in the right.
Even if he is in the right, meaning he's on the truth.
And a house in the middle of paradise for a man who avoids lying, even if he were joking. And a house in the upper part of paradise for a man who made his character good.
So, a house per person in the surroundings of Paradise, which person the one who does not dispute, even when he knows he is right.
Because many times what happens. Somebody says harsh words to you, you defend yourself and you say something in response, what's going to happen? They're going to say something else, you're going to say something else, and it's going to lead you back and forth. And an argument.
So if you know that you're right, and you know that this conversation is only going to lead up to an argument. What's better than a person gives up his right in hopes of reward for what reward of what a house in paradise.
We also learn from this is that a person should remember that Allah subhanaw taala pardons the sins of slaves, despite being able to punish despite being competent despite having podra.
So, why should we not forget? Allah subhanaw taala is much greater, much higher, much more exalted, much more powerful. And people same day in and day out, does inflict punishment right away. No, he doesn't. He forgives people, he defers punishment for them. Why do we think that if somebody says something harsh to us, we have to respond immediately. Why? Or if they have said something we have to respond, why do we think like that? This Think about it. People are saying vies against Allah lies against Allah all the time. A lot Panthera does not punish mmediately. So why should we not forgive?
a companion of the profits are low the seller wants to glorify the loss of bank data. And he said some Hannukah will be handicap, Island Hill mega, barbarian, mega
handicare What does that mean glorified? Are you praiseworthy? Are you Allah, him Mika? For what? Your tolerance What is his tolerance forbearance bar there in Mecca, even though you have knowledge?
You know, sometimes we don't know what other people are saying about us. So obviously we're tolerant. But if you find out that somebody said one negative word about you, how do we think? What do we think immediately we become, you know, flared up with anger, with feelings of revenge, but Allah subhanaw taala Sub Saharan Africa will be home deca on a hidden Mika bar there in Mecca, that you know, all that we do, all that we say, but despite that, Allah subhanaw taala is most honored.
And he said Subhana Allah will be handicapped Allah if we can borrow the quadratic.
Or now if we can borrow the quadratic,
that glorified are you for your, for your forgiveness, borrow the quadratic, even though you have perfect ability to punish, even though you have the control to punish people.
So we see over here, when we put both of these is together, that one is that a person who has been wronged he takes revenge, he defends himself.
And this is a this is an allowance, a permission that has been given to those people who cannot do subs, those people who do not have any help those people who do not have tolerance.
And the other command is offer azima.
What does that mean? It is a level of nobleness is the highest form of character. You need determination in order to follow this command through which command that even though somebody is wronging, you, what do you do in response? Say something that is good, show something that is good. And remember to do is not the Hulu,
the video is not the Hulu, the Hulu will be just to say, but why don't you show whether it's in the form of words or gestures?
Because sometimes, you know, somebody's yelling at us. Even if we can't say good words, we could smile.
We could smile.
So, the first command is for those people who don't have sub
who don't have any tolerance. Who wants to take revenge?
And the other is for those who have suffered.
For those who have held.
Someone asked him or model dinardo that How many times should someone forgive another? Really? I mean, what's the maximum?
To what extent should you forgive the other person? To what extent should you pardon the other person?
The other day when we learned about compromising, especially in my life, many people came in I said, Okay, what's the limit? I mean, how much do you compromise? I mean, you know, when do you know that this is getting too much? And when do you know that you should not compromise anymore? Many people ask this. The cemetery even or model that I knew he was asked that How many times should someone forgive another? Because otherwise we become like pushovers.
He said, forgive 70 times, forgive how many times 70 times. And if you have forgiven the other 70 times, then think of taking revenge from them.
We also learned a very important lesson from this is
that a person who forgives the faults of others who forgives the injustice that has been done to him, then Allah subhanaw taala forgives this person as well. Then Allah also forgive this person, where do we learn this from? Where do we learn this from, for in Lola her for one video, that if you do run out of food out our foreign suit, then in alarm,
that if you show forgiveness to the other person, then you're inviting the forgiveness of Allah subhanaw taala for yourself.
And we learned in sort of the note where we were caught up in Arno, when his daughter I shall denied her when she was accused by the hypocrites and there were some sincere believers as well who fell prey to that propaganda and who also started saying negative things against our Sheila Donna. And one of those people was actually a woodworker other than his relatives. And he used to financially support him.
And after that incident, he thought I'm not going to support him anymore.
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If you forgive the other person, wouldn't you love that Allah forgives you.
So what does it show? That when a person forgives other people
Then he is inviting the forgiveness of a loss.
Just think of it, compare the injustice that has been done to you by other people to the sins that you have committed
to the injustice that you have done to almost a penalty in the hope of Allah. What's worse,
the wrong that you have done, because many times we make mistakes, we don't even think that we've done something wrong.
We don't even seek forgiveness. And we continue to repeat those mistakes, very arrogantly very proudly.
So let's compare what is worse the wrong that a person has done to us or the wrong that I have done in the heck of a law.
Obviously, it's the wrong that I have done in the right of a loss of penalty.
So when a person forgives other people, then he invites the forgiveness of a loss of
Somebody mentioned that many times we assume that other people are being unjust towards us. And we think that we can take revenge, we can pray against them, we can say whatever you want. So first of all, we have to determine whether or not, you know what the other person has done to us is actually soil.
Because sometimes, for instance, a parent might be correcting the child. Now, a parent has the right to correct the child to teach the child to tell them about the mistake. And we think that we are being treated unjustly. That is not injustice. So don't think you have the right to answer back. No, even sometimes the teachers or people who are older than us. So we have to be very careful about not just assuming that what the other person is telling us in they're telling us they're doing with them upon us know,
anything else somebody would like to share.
If you look at your sense, then it's a lot easier to forgive the other person for the wrongs that they have done to you.
It's very easy to, you know, say something in return. Very easy. But it's another level that a person does not say anything that is harsh, and instead he shows that which is clave.
And the incident of that companion who the Prophet sallallahu Sallam mentioned that he was going to intergender. So this other companion, he went and stayed with him to figure out what special deed was he performing? And at the end, he gave up and he asked him that, what is it that you do, and he said that I forgive people.
And we see the how natural our Deen is that if you are able to, you know, remain patient and not see anything in return, there is definitely more reward for that, than a loss of final thought is going to forgive you for the wrongs that you're doing.
But if you're really unable to do that, and you say something negative, which sometimes we do when we're overcome by emotion, then in that case, as well, a person is allowed to do that. So it shows how natural our readiness as long as a person remains within the limits.
Many times if somebody's saying something harsh to you, and you say something harsh to them in response, they're only going to increase in their anger in their zone, perhaps. But if you remain quiet, and instead you show good behavior to them, then they're going to realize their mistake, and they're going to feel bad about it. And then they're going to stop. So it's one of the most effective ways of stopping the other person. So basically, we have to see the situation, we have to see the situation if the situation requires that you definitely stop the volume, then you have to do that. If the situation is that if you're patient, and you don't say something in response, because
that is going to bring more good than that is better. So you can't just generalize. And you have to look at each situation and then take a step accordingly. That whatever is going to bring more benefit.
Let's listen to the recitation
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