Indeed I am Near – Day 20 – Prayers for Sadness

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Insha Allah in today's session of Alibaba Mujeeb we will be going over some drawers related to relief from worry and sadness. At hamdulillah previously we learned about drawers related to fear and anxiety and today's focus is going to be worry and sadness. Allah subhanaw taala tells us in the Quran, that Lucado Hala Kunal in Santa Fe cupboard that we have certainly created men into hardship, meaning, the way that Allah subhanaw taala has created us and the world that Allah subhanaw taala has put us in and the different stages that Allah subhanaw taala makes us live through the different changes that Allah subhanaw taala brings in our lives, there are such that we are constantly put

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into hardship. And hardship is something that is heavy on the knifes, it is very difficult for a person to endure, you barely get used to one thing that another significant change happens in your life. And so you're always struggling. And at times, this hardship comes in the form of not only physical hardship, but getting, you know, adjusting to, for example, loss or adjusting to greater responsibilities or having to earn an income and looking after your different needs. So when a person is constantly going through these difficult changes in life, it is only natural that a person will experience sadness and worry.

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Because Allah subhanaw taala tells us the color canal in Santa Fe cupboard. Jana is the home which is free of any hardship, any worry any difficulty. So Allah subhanaw taala says about the people in Jannah that LA Hove when I lay him wala homea has and they will have no fear, and they will no longer be sad. And they will experience no sadness, which means that in this world, there are times when we feel afraid. And there are also times when we feel very sad. It been our best little de la Horne who said about this is that look at halacha in Santa Fe cupboard, that this is referring to the difficulty that the human being experiences in the womb of the mother, and then coming out of

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the womb, and then as the child nurses, and then the child is weaned off of mother's milk. And then as the teeth grow, and so on and so forth. Any with every stage of life, there is another kind of difficulty that a person experiences. And with that difficulty, there is also some kind of sadness. So for example, for a child to be weaned off of the mother's milk, yes, this is necessary for the child's development and growth, you know, the child has to start eating foods that the body needs, but at the same time, weaning is painful. It's painful in the sense that it is very painful for the heart, it is heartbreaking. The child does not understand why he or she cannot have the mother's

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milk anymore. And then at the end of life, there is death and then the pain, the difficulty, the hardships of death. But other said that cupboard is referring to the difficulties that people experience in this world and also in the hereafter. Any after death. There's there are difficulties in the grave in the buzzer, and then on the day of judgment also. It no Josie says that the world has been created for trials and hardships. So the intelligent person should make himself patient. Meaning in this life there are always going to be some kind of difficulty some kind of hardships. So a person who is intelligent, who wants to not only survive, but thrive, then they must learn to

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observe patience. We learn in Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that a dunya sigil movement. The world is a prison for the believer. And of course, no one is happy in the prison.

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Yes, a person can come to terms with it, that alright I am here, but it doesn't mean that they're happy and joyful and you know, the things are good. No, just like that the world is a prison for the believer. And the in paradise the home of the Hereafter is the place where there is relief from all worries. So we learn that the people of Paradise will say Alhamdulillah he lady and her Bernal husband, all Praise to Allah, who removed sadness from us who has taken away all our sadness. Because Janna is such that as soon as a person will enter Paradise, they will forget about all of the worries, and sadness and heartbreaks that they experienced in worldly life. We learned in a

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hadith that a person from among the people of hell, who had lived a life of ease and plenty in the world, will be taken out of hell.

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Sorry, will be admitted, sorry, a person who had lived a life of plenty and ease in the world will be made to

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enter Hellfire in he just for a moment he will be dipped into hellfire. And this is a person who has only seen ease and plenty and happiness in the world. So he will just be dipped into the fire. And then he will be asked that also of Adam, have you ever experienced any comfort? Have you ever enjoyed any blessing? And that person will say by Allah? No, my lord, I have not ever experienced any joy, any happiness, any ease, because one second in Hell will make a person forget all of the ease that they enjoyed in the world. In contrast, there will be a person who will have lived the most miserable life in the world, and in a very difficult painful life in the world. And he will be

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put into paradise for for a second and he will he will be made to dip in in paradise. And then he will be asked that all son of Adam, have you ever faced any hardship? Have you ever faced any distress any kind of difficulty? And that person will say by Allah? No, my lord, I have never faced any hardship. I have never experienced any distress. This is so amazing. Paradise is the place where there is no sadness, no worry. In fact, it is such that a person will forget all of their sadness and all the worries that they ever experienced before SubhanAllah. So this shows us that Jannah is the home that is free of sadness and it is also the home that will remove sadness. So our aim should

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be that through the difficulties and the ups and downs of this life. We should stay focused on the home of the Hereafter.

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We learned in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala mentioned about Yunus Alayhis Salam that whether noni is the hub or Maha lieben for Luna alumna, Khedira la Fernanda fields guru Murthy, Allah ilaha illa Anta Subhanak in the consuming of volume in first the German Allah who wanna J now hoomin alum waka Valley cannon jewel movement in

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and mentioned the noon and this is Yunus Alayhis Salam. When he left angrily, meaning he left his people angrily and he thought that we would never constrict his mattress for him. So he called out from the darkness is that there is no God worthy of worship except you. Glory be to You. Indeed I am of the wrongdoers. So we responded to him and we saved him from distress from sadness, and thus do We save the believers? Here Allah subhanaw taala mentioned something regarding units or the his Salah unit sorry his Salam. It is said that he was a prophet from the Bani Israel sent to the Bani Israel. And he was inviting his people to the worship of Allah alone for a very long time. But when

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they continue to show disobedience, then it can he came to a point where he felt very frustrated and angry with them. And he left he left them he threatened them with Allah's punishment, and he left them and he and he began traveling to go somewhere else. However, a prophet is not allowed to leave his people without the permission of Allah. This is similar to how when you are working for someone, you cannot just quit your

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work and leave. So Eurosonic is Salam. He became impatient with his people he became angry with them. And that is mentioned over here is the hubba. Mohali when Mahatma Gandhi and he left it in a state of extreme anger. He was very frustrated with his people. And so he left he quit his work, and he didn't think that he was doing anything wrong. So Allah subhanaw taala says fallen alumna Padilla, LA, he thought that we would never constrict on him, meaning construct his mattress for him, because he didn't think he was doing anything wrong. He thought Allah subhanaw taala was on his side. Because people were not listening. They were not believing. So they were inviting the

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punishment of Allah and unis early salaam was doing the right thing by calling them and now that he got angry, he left he thought that Allah subhanaw taala would still be on his side, for one ln noccalula LA. And then what happened? Fernanda feel a little mad, he called out from the darknesses, which shows us that he ended up in many darknesses. And we learned elsewhere in the Quran, that there was that he, he ended up boarding a ship, and there was a storm, and the people decided that one person would have to be thrown off of the ship. And so how to decide who to throw off the ship. They decided to draw lots and when they drew the lots, the name of Yunus or his Saddam king, but

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they recognized him as someone who was a good man, a righteous man. So they said, Let's try again. So they drew lots again, again, use our hair salons name came up. So they tried a third time. And then as Allah subhanaw taala says fossa can Amin and would have been he drew lots, but he was of the losers he was of those who was who were defeated. So they decided to throw him off of the ship. And when he fell into the water, we learned that a fish swallowed him. And this is the reason why he's called whether noon, the known is men of the fish. So the fish swallowed him. And as he was in the darkness of the belly of the fish, darkness of the ocean, darkness of the night. From there, he

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called upon Allah subhanho wa taala. Because when he fell into the water, and he got trapped in the fish, he realized at that time that he had made a mistake. Up until that point, he didn't realize that he was doing something wrong. And so often this happens with us also, that we don't even realize we have done anything wrong until we fall into some kind of difficulty. Something distresses us something makes us very, very sad. So Fernanda filled blue mat. And this darkness was not just tangible darkness, and the darkness of the belly of the fish of the water of the night, but also the darkness that he that is intangible, the darkness of sadness, the darkness of loneliness, the

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darkness of guilt, the darkness of shame and embarrassment. And so often this happens that when you realize you have done something wrong, you will feel like you are drowning in your guilt and your sadness, you know, shrouds you, it covers you, your your worry and your guilt and shame and feelings of embarrassment that what was I thinking? How could I have done something like this? Why, why, why did I do this? How could I have made this mistake? Is there any hope for me? Can I somehow make up for this? So Fernanda filoblu, Matt, in those darknesses, he called out to Allah and what did he say? La ilaha illa Anka, there is no god but you, your Allah, you are one. There is absolutely no

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one worthy of worship but you super Hanukkah, you are perfect glory be to you. You are free from any error, any mistake any injustice in the country. In other words, you mean it is i It is me who has been of those who do wrong. I am wrong over here. This is my fault. This is my own wrongdoing in the continental sodomy. So what happened when he made this dua? Allah subhanaw taala says festa Jebin Allah Who, so we responded to him, when a J Now humming along, and we saved him from lung. Allah subhanaw taala brought him out of his distress, his sadness, what was worrying him what was making him feel so sad? And Allah says worker that he cannot drill meaning this is how we rescue the

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believers, meaning this is not just exclusive to Yunus or his salaam, but any believer who who feels immense sadness, whatever the reason may be, the the cause of immense sadness could be some worldly loss. It could be, you know, a mistake that a person has made. It could be

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I'm finding oneself trapped in in difficulty after difficulty, not knowing how to bring oneself out of that difficulty, because think about units or insulin, when when he was trapped in the belly of the fish, any How was he meant to come out of there, if a person is trapped in the room, you know, they will bang, the doors, the walls, they will make noise, if there is a window they will try to escape from there. But what if a person is trapped in the belly of a fish Subhanallah Yanni you know that in the belly, in the in the in the stomach, there are digestive enzymes. So you can only imagine that within moments. Any the skin would begin to fall apart. And the smell, the darkness,

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the worry any How do you bring yourself out of that difficulty. And sometimes the person finds themselves in situations like this, that they don't know how to come out. It could be debt, it could be abandonment of people, it could be the oppression of people it could be abuse of the you know people who are close to you, can you sometimes you are trapped, you don't know how to help yourself. But even in that situation, remember, you have the ability to make dua and the prophets of Allah who already said and said that the weakest person is the one who is too weak to make dua.

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Even if you have no one to blame but yourself like us or the center, he said in the Continental Army, it was his fault. He should not have left his people he should not have been hasty. So sometimes yes, you have no one else to blame except yourself, you know that it is entirely your fault that you are in the situation that you are in. And you you are feeling more and more sad because of that. But look at how Allah subhanaw taala rescued him. Allah subhanaw taala brought him out of there. And so the fish spat him out, as we learned and he was at the shore and he was sucking he was unwell. And Allah subhanaw taala caused a vine to grow over there, Mia clean, and the leaves

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not only provided him shade, but they contain any that that that particular food, it was also a benefit to him. So Allah subhanaw taala brought him out of the belly of the fish, gave him physical healing, made him feel better. And then Eunice Ali Salam returned to his people. And he found that his people had already believed and repented. Because we learned that when he left his people angrily. Then they realized that, you know, they had done something wrong. And so they did collective Toba, meaning all of them together, repented to Allah and began seeking forgiveness from Allah subhanaw taala. So the punishment was averted from them. So look at how Allah subhanaw taala

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completely changed his situation, how he was so sad, and how he was trapped in his in his in his difficulty that he had basically brought upon himself, but Allah subhanaw taala rescued him, and Allah subhanaw taala completely transformed his condition. And Allah says worker that he cannot do remote meaning. This is how we rescue the believers. So if you find yourself in a situation where you are very upset, and sad, and regretful, and you feel alone, and you find yourself in darkness, tangible, intangible, you don't know what steps to take, because in darkness, you cannot even see your hands. In the darkness, you cannot even see your surroundings. So sometimes you find yourself

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in such confusion in such depths of sadness, that you don't even know what to say what to do, what steps to take, how to help yourself. And this is how depression is also right that a person does not even find the ability to cup to get out of bed. He they don't even find the energy, the strength to crawl out of bed. This is how physically hard depression can be. And so we learn from the example of UNICEF to his Sudan that one of the most effective things to say is La Ilaha. Illa. Anta Subhana Allah in the consuming of oil, I mean, that you acknowledge Allah subhanaw taala has absolute oneness, that he has no partner. No one is like him. No one is equal to him. No one is similar to

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him in any way whatsoever. He is one. He is unique. He is He is absolutely perfect.

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That ilaha illa Anta he is the only one worthy of worship, and then you say super Hannukah the Arab you are perfect. So, declare Allah subhanaw taala is perfection from any fault or error or any injustice and then in the contaminant, let me admit your own wrongdoing, admit your own mistake, because, you know, when you are sad when you're feeling down, and especially if you're physically unwell also, at that time, you begin to remember your shortcomings, your faults, your mistakes, your errors. So, don't let them you know take over you those thoughts, repel them by seeking forgiveness from Allah. So the first step to towards rectification is one admission that you admit that yes, I

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am not perfect. Yes, I am wrong. Yes, I've made a mistake. Yes, I should not have done this or that whatever. I made a mistake, I messed up. So admit your guilt before Allah in the Quintino volley mean, and believe in Allah subhanaw taala His mercy, His forgiveness, his perfection, and you will find light at the end of the tunnel, you will find a way out of your difficulty you will find a way out of your problem because Allah subhanaw taala saved units or Allah his cell and Allah subhanaw taala is also able to save you will Cavalli conundrum meaning in this is encouragement for us that that Allah rescued Yunus early his setup, he can also rescue you. He can this is good news. This is

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Allah's promise, that if anyone is trapped in difficulty in sadness in worry, Allah is Able to bring them relief. Now this da la ilaha illa. Allah Subhana Allah in the continuing of learning, we learn about this there are the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that this dua of Yunus early sunnah, he made it while he was in the belly of the fish, and there is no Muslim who calls upon Allah subhanaw taala in the same way, meaning if you make the same doll, except that ALLAH subhanaw taala will answer you, Allah subhanaw taala will accept that door. So this means that if a person is in sadness, worry depths of depression, even they don't know what to do, what to say, how to help

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themselves, and even if they're going through therapy and treatment and medication, et cetera. Along with that, we must say, La ilaha illa and the super Chanukah in the continental sodomy. And you see sometimes, what is worrying you is a big deal to you, what is making you sad is a big deal for you. But for other people, it's not that big of a deal. They're very dismissive, very dismissive, they say, or you are physically perfectly fine. You don't have a broken bone. You don't have you know, any issue in your heart or your blood or your, you know, any any organ in your body, any physically you're fine. So just get over it. And it's not possible to just get over it. That's not how sadness

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and depression works. Any, if there's something in the brain that is causing a person to feel like that, it's it's not as easy as you know, just get out of bed and you'll be fine. No, it's it's extremely hard. And this incident is so validating, because Jonas artisanal was trapped in, in the darkness of the belly of the fish. And like I mentioned, it was not just tangible darkness, it was intangible darkness. It was not just one darkness, it was layers and layers of darkness. So how are you supposed to find a way out of that on your own? You cannot, you need help. You need the help of the one true God who is perfectly able to rescue you. So you need to connect to him. You need to

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reach out to him that Ya Allah, you bring me out. And yes, you know, you you take therapy? Yes, you take the medication, but they they're not the source of relief. The source of relief is who it is Allah subhana wa Tada La ilaha illa Anta Subhanak in equal terminal volume in. In another Hadith we learned that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, that shall I not tell you? Shall I not inform you that when a man among you is afflicted by some kind of worry or trial of the trials of the world? He can say something because of which you will find relief. And so the people were very eager to know that yes, or messenger of allah sallallahu or his

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Don't please inform us, he said, The Dura of the noon La Ilaha. illa Anta Subhana Allah in the continuum of learning, so any trial of the trials of the world, any worry, any sadness, and like I said, the cause could be anything. The cause could be the reason of your sadness could be that there's something in your life that you cannot get rid of, or there is something missing from your life, that you desperately desire or you are still not able to pinpoint what exactly is causing all of that sadness and and you know, worry, regardless of the cause, you are feeling like that. So say this La ilaha illa, Allah Subhana Allah in the consuming of Bali mean and the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam said regarding it, for inner who lamea there will be a Muslim honorable who he che in Koto. illustre jab Allah Who, that no Muslim ever calls upon his Lord, with this thorough in regard to any matter, except that ALLAH subhanaw taala will answer him. So it could be some financial distress, all right financial situation that is causing you sadness, it could be your grades, it could be your schoolwork. So often it happens with, with young adults, that at school in university, as they're struggling, you know, they don't know what, what, what path to take, they don't know what courses to take, and then the burden of all of the, you know, loan the debt that

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they have taken, you know, and the grades, and then you compare yourself to others, others are flying through their education, and you are struggling with one course after the other one grade after the other. And then your GPA is constantly going down. You don't know what's going to happen, you had such high hopes and expectations. And now all of a sudden, you see everything crumbling down before you. So this, you know, it could be the distress, the sadness that you're feeling could be related to your grades, it could be because of your family situation, it could be because of anything, La ilaha illa and the super Hanukkah in the continental Bali mean. And I'm poverty said

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that the self the earlier generations would call this Dora Dora will come and he called is distress, extreme distress coupled with sadness and worry, he a common combination of all of these feelings. And this is the doora to say in such a situation.

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And some people think that you know, you have to say La ilaha illa, Allah Subhana Allah in equanimity albala mean 100,000 times or you know, some other number that they have specified, and then you will find relief? No, there is no specified number. We don't even know how many times units are the salam said this, who knows, maybe he said it only once or twice. The main thing is that you say this, with your heart, with honesty, with with presence of heart and mind. You know, our problem is that we don't exert effort, when we are making dua, we rushed through the rock, we just want, you know, some words to say. And we just want to be able to say them a few number of times, maybe a few

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100 times, and then we just want the results to come immediately. And we don't bother to exert effort. You see Dora requires that you put in effort that you first of all, are fully present in mind in heart and you weaken yourself before Allah, you show that weakness, you show that neediness, you cry, you humble yourself, you spend some time glorifying and praising Allah, because when you do that, you recall his perfection. And you mentioned his perfection, you invite His mercy. And then you send some light on the prophets of Allah Who are your assignment? Because that is a form of gratitude to Allah, and gratitude to Allah's slave Muhammad Sallallahu already said and also and

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then you present your need before Allah, you seek forgiveness from Allah, you call upon him by his beautiful names and attributes. You see here, the statement La Ilaha illa Allah Subhana Allah in the country nobody mean are we asking for anything? Is there any ask over here that yeah, Allah bring me ease bring me relief, take this problem away from me. No, you're not asking anything. You're declaring the absolute Oneness of Allah, His perfection. You are declaring the fact that you are in need of Allah, all right, because if he is perfect, He is the the only God that means that I am his slave. Right? So you are showing servitude before Allah and you are admitting your fault your error

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Your mistake in the continual learning. So, through that you invite Allah's mercy. We think Dora is just saying, Yeah, Allah gave me this or some people don't even bother to say yeah Allah, they will say, Please give me this or not even the word please.

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You know, some people will not even bother to say the words of the VA. So this is this is our big biggest problem that we don't exert effort in making dua, we are hasty in making doll and we are very impatient with the results of da ne we want to see the results right away immediately the way that we want and if things don't work out our way, then we despair. A StuffIt Allah, so Yuna started his sunnah he made this there are any with the sincerity of heart and look at how Allah subhanaw taala answered him, Allah subhanaw taala rescued him. So if we want to be rescued from our sadness and our worries, then we need to call upon Allah subhanaw taala with similar dedication, with

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humility, with

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you know, the low roar and presence of heart.

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Now, we learn that this draw is a draw that is Mr. Jab, Right that that Allah subhanaw taala accepts that Allah subhanaw taala responds to. So, this is a door that we should very, very frequently make. And in this drop, like I mentioned, we are declaring Allah subhanaw taala as oneness, which shows us that

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belief in the Oneness of Allah, and declaring the Oneness of Allah, any dough heed, this is a source of relief for us. And we see this in many, many Dora's many Atka that simply declaring the Oneness of Allah, the perfection of Allah, that brings about relief to a person, because who is able to bring us relief? It is Allah subhanaw taala it is by his permission, that we ended up in the difficulty that we find ourselves in, and it is with his permission, that we can be brought out of the difficulty that we are trapped in, because he is on aqualisa encoded, and nothing happens except by His permission. So admitting or acknowledging the Oneness of Allah declaring the Oneness of

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Allah, any This is not just stating a fact no, this is a way of inviting Allah subhanaw taala as mercy. And then another important thing in this torah is that we are admitting our mistake in the content of early mean, this is similar to how Adam or the salam said, and Howard said, Rob bonobo alumna and for Santa, our Lord, we have wronged ourselves, we are at fault, we have made a mistake. So when we admit our mistakes before Allah subhanaw taala this is something that opens the doors of any this is something that brings us His mercy and forgiveness. Now when it comes to sadness, and worry,

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distress, remember that sadness, even though this is a completely natural emotion, and we see that the prophets of Allah, the righteous, yes, they experienced sadness, a great deal. The people of Paradise will be grateful to Allah for removing sadness from them, which means that they experience sadness in the world. We should also understand that sadness, even though it is something natural, it is still an obstacle on the path to Allah or zoologia. Even your claim says, that you should know that sadness is an obstacle. It is an obstacle on the path to Allah. And it is not one of the levels of faith or one of the high stations or destination of those who are on the path of Allah. No, it is

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actually an obstacle. And this is the reason why

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not even once have we been commanded to be sad to feel sad.

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And sadness has not been praised in the Quran or by the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. On the contrary, numerous times in the Quran we have been told that do not be sad. Let that reason, let the user know. We we have never been commanded to feel sad. We have been commanded in the Quran. To be patient. Right. to to to have hope.

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To put put to put our trust in Allah, right? We have been commanded to fear Allah. But we have never been commanded to feel sad. On the contrary, we have been told not to feel sad. So it will claim says that sadness is a trial it is a masiva. And we ask Allah subhanaw taala to remove it from us, because success is in the removal of sadness,

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as the people of Paradise will say, Alhamdulillah he Levy and Habana hasn't. So Praise be to Allah for the fact that he removed sadness from us and freed us of sadness, which means that sadness is not a goal. And it is not something that we want to welcome into our lives, or we want to maintain in our lives. No, it comes, of course it comes. And it happens. And it's not always in our control. But we have to try to get over it. We have to try to move on and we have to learn to manage it. This is not something that we welcome into our lives and we maintain in our lives because it is an obstacle on the path. We learn for example, in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala says regarding the

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believers, that for Atharva como la mambilla min, li ke let the Huizhou so that you do not grieve me the reason why Allah subhanaw taala put them in trial after trial at the Battle of a herd was why so that they would stop grieving any little things would not cause them to be sad anymore, they would develop a greater capacity to bear hardship.

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In the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala says well as the Hino while at the zoo, do not weaken and do not be sad about the mother of Musa Hassan Allah's Panthers as well as the haffi while at the Hasani Do not be afraid and do not be sad.

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The prophets of Allah, if you look at the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said to Abu Bakr, Radi Allahu anhu, that led the Zen in Allaha Marina, do not be sad, indeed, Allah is with us. So remember that sadness is not a goal, it is not a destination, it is not something that we should welcome into our lives. But it's, it's a trial of life, it is a mercy, but it is something that happens. So we have to learn to manage it. And we also have to learn to get over it. Because if we entertain it for long than what happens, it will claim said that four things ruin the body, worry, sadness, hunger and sleeplessness. And if a person is always worrying, this is something that will

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ruin his body, if a person has always said again, this will ruin the body, if a person is always hungry, and he doesn't, you know, eat

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you know, sufficiently, this will ruin his body, if a person does not sleep enough, then again, that will ruin his body. And we have been told that, you know, we have been taught that our bodies, our bodies and Amona.

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So, we have to take care of it, we have to look after it in a responsible way. But when a person is constantly said that this is something that harms the body, it will claim also said that worry and sadness, create weakness in the heart. And they take a person's determination away, any determination of the heart, strong will courage, all of this is removed from the heart when a person is is feeling sad.

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And he also said that, when a person is always worried and sad, then the sadness becomes an obstacle for a person. So he's not able to work hard for things that are of benefit to him. If you think about it, if a person is feeling extremely sad, and they're constantly, you know, in, in the in their home, or they are in bed, they're not able to, you know, even get water for themselves. They're not able to look after themselves. They're not able to help around at home, they're not able to go to work, they're not able to, you know go to school, they're not able to do anything. So, a person's life is getting wasted. Or sometimes sadness prevents a person from from seeking knowledge

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that a person does not even want to read does not even want to listen to something of benefit, because it completely shrouds a person like darkness. A person is just surrounded by darkness. He's not able to see anything he's not able to help himself. So yes, sadness

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Is something normal, it happens. But we need to realize that it is something that we have to learn to manage. And we have to learn to get over it. We don't keep it in our lives, like we were like, we would keep a pet, you know, feeding it constantly letting it define our lives, letting it you know, define our identities. No, we have to learn to move past it. Ibrahimovic, Adam said that there are two types of sadness. One is the type of sadness which is in your favor. And the other is the type of sadness that is against you. It's not in your favor, it is actually against you. So what kind of sadness is in your favor, the sadness and worry, which is in regard to the hereafter. Okay, the

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worry that a person has regarding the hereafter. So for example, if a person commits a sin, all right, and then they're feeling sad, and they're feeling bad about it, and now they're worried, this kind of sadness is good, it's healthy. Why? Because it will lead a person to seeking forgiveness from Allah subhanaw taala, it will lead a person to become better, to change their ways. And if a person does not feel sad, on doing something wrong, then a person will only get worse in their sins, they will only increase in their sins.

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And the sadness, which is against a person, meaning not in their favor, is when a person is sad and worried over the dunya worldly matters, that Oh, I'm so sad, I don't have that much money. I am so sad. I didn't get such and such grades, I am so sad. I didn't get into such and such school or such and such program, I am so sad that my family is so big, I am so sad that my family is poor, I am so sad that my hair is of this texture, or that my skin is of this color. Or that my height is like this or that my nails are like that, or that my eyes are like this Subhanallah this kind of sadness works against a person. Why? Because this kind of sadness, first of all is from shaitan, where he

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likes to see us worried and mentally preoccupied and distracted, and essentially unhappy. Because when we're unhappy, then we cannot focus on the opportunities that Allah subhanaw taala has provided to us. So for example, you didn't get the grades you were expecting, alright, maybe this is a sign for you that you change your program, that you change your career, that this is not working out, you go speak to a counselor, you go talk to a professor, someone who can give you good advice. Maybe this is an indication that you need to change the way you study. Not that you keep thinking that all this is terrible. God does not want me to succeed maybe, and I am just a failure. And I am never

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going to be able to complete my degree, I will never get a good job and I will just be stuck in a cycle of poverty. And as a woman, I'll just have to depend on a man and things like that any one negative thought after the other after the other, this kind of worry and sadness, which is related to worldly matters. This is very unhealthy, extremely, extremely unhealthy. Because it keeps a person away from doing things that they are capable of doing. It leads a person on the path of ingratitude and on a path away from ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada.

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So, yes, we you know, when Allah subhanaw taala has created us such that we have the capacity to worry, and we have the capacity to feel sad, then this is for your wisdom, this is for our benefit. And what is that benefit, that we feel sad and worried in regard to the matters of the hereafter? Not the matters of the world. This is similar to how Allah subhanaw taala has given us

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you know, different

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you know, means different things. So, for example, Allah has given you wealth, all right, what is that wealth for? So that you waste it, so that you show off with it? Or that you,

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you know, commit abuse through it? No, Allah subhanaw taala has given you wealth as an opportunity to earn the home of the Hereafter that you use it in good ways you spend on yourself and those around you in a responsible way. You

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spend with gratitude and so that wealth will become a tool a means of earning the home of the Hereafter. So, just like that, remember all of our emotions even All right, they are a means we can use them in a way that can help us in matters of the Hereafter, and we can also use them in a way that will distract us from from the hereafter. So, sadness is the same worry is the same, you can worry over the world and be sad about it or you can worry over the hereafter and that will lead you to work harder and become better.

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Even though I am mentions that when a person wakes up in the morning and enters the evening, and his only concern is to, to connect with his Lord and he to to pursue the pleasure of Allah to show servitude to Allah. Then Allah subhanaw taala takes care of all of his affairs. And Allah subhanaw taala removes his worries, Allah subhanaw taala takes care of his concerns. And Allah subhanaw taala empties the heart of this person for his love, and empties the tongue of this person for his remembrance, and the limbs of this person for his obedience. But when a person enters the morning and the evening, in a state where his only concern is the world, that Allah subhanaw taala

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attaches worldly concerns and worries to him. Any that a person is constantly worried about worldly matters constantly said, constantly concerned about just worldly things. And then a person does not experience love of Allah. Rather, a person is preoccupied and distracted by the love of the creation. A person is not able to remember Allah on his tongue. Instead, his tongue is busy remembering people. A person is not able to use his limbs in obedience to Allah. Instead, his limbs are being used to serve the creation,

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Allahu Akbar, and he What a difference. So the the prophets of Allah, we learn about them in a class now whom Behala certain vicar down. Indeed we chose them because of an exclusive quality and that was remembering the home of the Hereafter. That was their concern the whole of the year after that is what worried them. That is what made them said that are that are we going to make it there? Am I am I doing enough to get there?

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The Sahaba were also like that we learn about our little might have been our little de la Mourinho that once food was brought to him while he was fasting, so food to break his fast with

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and that food, it must have been very nice. So he said that Musab ibn are made of the Longhorn, who was killed, and he was better than me. He was shrouded in one garment. So if we covered his head, his feet were exposed, if we covered his feet, his head would get exposed. And then the dunya was expanded for us. So now we fear whether, you know, we're going to have any reward left in the hereafter. I worry that am I getting all of my reward in this world? Is there anything going to be that's going to be saved for me the hereafter, and he began crying and crying until he was not able to eat? So look at the concern of the Sahaba what made him sad was not or I don't have any good food

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to eat. No, what made him sad was, I'm getting so much good food to eat over here. What's going to happen on the Day of Judgment, what's going to happen over there?

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This is how we need to think. Because remember, whatever we focus on, that we will strive towards. So if we focus on the things of the world, and they make us sad, then all of our effort will be directed to worldly matters and there is no end to this rat race. But if we make the hereafter our ultimate concern, then whatever is decreed of the world will also come to us. But Allah subhanaw taala will make worldly matters easy for us. And he will like like we learned in paradise, Allah subhanaw taala will remove all hasn from the people of paradise. We learned about

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the earlier generations that when they would be praying salah they would look sad, he worried concerned about what

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about perfecting their prayer. That was their concern. And then after Salah again, they will be worried that is the salah going to be accepted or not. You think about it when we cry in Salah why do we cry? What makes us cry? It's typically worldly things, right? worldly concerns, I still don't have this much money. I don't know why so and so treats me this way. I don't know why my spouse does not love me and things like that, you know, it's worldly concerns that are having on our heart because of which we cry in Salah.

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So we need to shift our focus over Musa Ansari.

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And he said that,

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you know, there was a man who was praying in the night and reciting the Quran,

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you know, a lot and reciting the Quran in such a way that you could tell that, that they're reciting from the heart in their softness of the heart.

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And still, he feels sad. So he asked about the case of such a man. And he was told that this is one of the

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you know, concerns that appear a person experiences. Why

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so that he can he can increase in his good deeds. Because imagine our person is praying, reciting Quran and then crying during recitation. What Why are they still sad? They're sad out, because they want to become better. They're afraid that they might lose this sweetness that they're enjoying this the sweetness that will be a source of so much ease and joy in the hereafter.

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So we need to really check ourselves that what is it that makes me sad? What is it that worries me? Now, how is it that we can manage sadness and worry, especially when it comes to worldly matters? Because, of course, any loss of loved ones? Of course, it makes us sad. Loss of wealth makes us sad, any change, big change, for example, leaving your home, moving cities, moving countries in all of this, of course, it is heavy on the heart, it makes us sad. So how do you manage these feelings? First of all, purify your belief into hate.

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Constantly remind yourself that Allah alone is worthy of worship. Allah alone is the one who is perfect in every way, he is the one who is free from any imperfection any worry, sorry any imperfection any any error, any fault. So purify your towhee Secondly, strengthen your belief in other in divine decree. That Lane also Ivana Elana Khattab Hola. Hola. Anything that happens? Yes, it's painful. Yes, it makes us sad. But this was decreed you know, the prophets of Allah Who are you seven he wept at many occasions. And of course, we know that a person cries out of sadness, and when his son Ibrahim died and he was crying, and

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he was asked that you want to cry, he said, Yes. And he he mentioned that you know, the the heart is sad. The IO beeps, but nothing that displeases Allah will come out of the tongue, any We are pleased with the decree of Allah. And yes, we are sad, but we are not upset with Allah. We know that this was decreed. And we know that God decreed this with his wisdom and knowledge and His mercy and justice. Another important thing is that Think positive about Allah, no matter what happens, no matter how sad you are, no matter how worried you are, think good about Allah, any instead of thinking that Allah wants me to fail, Allah wants me to not succeed. Allah does not want me to, you

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know, live a happy life. These are all wrong thoughts. Think good of Allah. Always think good. So for example, when you're feeling very down in your sadness, and you don't even have the energy to come out of bed, or you know go to work or go to school, at that time also think good than this. I'm going through the space by the decree of Allah. And there is always good in what Allah subhanaw taala decrees maybe perhaps

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completing this degree at this time is not good for me. Perhaps having this person in my life at this time is not good for me. Maybe Allah is protecting me from something that is more dangerous.

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Maybe Allah is protecting me from committing sin. Maybe Allah is erasing my sins through this think good of Allah

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believe that Allah is on your side.

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And then another thing is that when you are experiencing a great deal of sadness and worry and concern, at that time, focus on the reward, focus on the benefit. And what are the pros of, you know, off experiencing difficulty. The pros are that Allah subhanaw taala will remove your sins, right, this hardship will become a cathedra and expiation of your sins, because you remember even the prick of a thorn is something because of which the believers sins are removed. Right? The benefit is that Allah subhanaw taala will raise your ranks, Allah subhanaw taala will perhaps protect you from something even greater. Another important thing is that, in such times, we should

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look at those who are suffering even more than us. Subhanallah recently, I came to know that in Afghanistan since January, about 17,000 infants have died in just these four months 17,000 infants have died, not because of some serious birth defects or some other kinds of complications. No, all of these deaths are related to malnutrition, food shortage,

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food shortage, imagine so

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many years, maybe you are sad that you didn't get to go and have dessert after a thought. Maybe you are sad that you didn't get to eat the best if thought for the third or fourth day in a row. But look at those who are suffering more than you who are struggling more than you Has Allah not kept you in a very good condition.

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Another thing is, remember, recall the call to mind the difficulties the trials that the prophets of Allah endured. Just think about the difficulty that the prophets of Allah who are descent have endured, how he experienced loss and pain, how he managed his sadness. He lost Khadija de la horna All right, his his the love of his life, and he loved her so dearly. He lost his uncle, and his uncle died as a non Muslim, how heavy how painful. That was for the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam. And then, his own people turned against him,

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his own people, and so he had to leave his his hometown, Makkah out of all places, Maccha the kava he had to leave that. And then in Medina would happen, the hypocrites, constantly they were harming the Prophet sallallahu earlier said, I'm trying to attack him, so much so that they tried to hurt him by slandering his wife I shall dilemma on the one whom he loved Subhan Allah, any think about the difficulties that he went through? And take hope and have hope that if he survived, not only survived Allah subhanaw taala raised his ranks through them in sha Allah, what is bothering me, what is heavy on me, what is difficult for me, Allah subhanaw taala will help me through that as well.

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And if if the prophets of Allah who are listening was patient, I should also be patient. He had hope I should also have hope. And it's okay to cry. It's okay to feel sad. You're not sinful for feeling sad, you're not sinful for crying. But the thing with sadness is that prolonged sadness is something like Ibrahim said, it becomes an obstacle on the path. It hinders you from from living to your full potential from doing what is in your capacity,

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complained to Allah in nama Escobar, Theo Hosni it Allah jacobellis Salam, he complained to Allah of his sadness of his grief, and busy yourself in the Dhikr of Allah, Allah Vinick related to my inner Kulu Unquestionably, it is in the remembrance of Allah that hearts find rest. Also, think about fulfilling your obligations. Any if in in in one day you are not able to do a lot, but at least you are able to pray your five daily prayers

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On time properly with will do Alhamdulillah it was a good day. Because you know when you are when a person is struggling with depression, for example, then things like washing your face, brushing your hair even are a big deal. So focus on your basic obligations, the five daily prayers start with that. You know, just tell yourself, I have to get up and pray my budget. And yes, after fajr you don't have the energy to sit, lay down again, lay down again. But it doesn't matter. But focus on completing your basic obligations. Start with that. And then gradually increase in doing good deeds, and give sadaqa keep your tongue busy with the Dhikr of Allah. And especially as you praise Allah,

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any ask Allah subhanaw taala for help was there enough, somebody was salah, seek help through patience and prayer. And it was the way of the prophets of Allah, that when they felt sad, when they felt worried and concerned about something, they would go and pray and do not leave your obligatory prayers at all. Not at all. And I would advise the same to the family that if somebody in your household is going through such a phase, where extreme sadness or depression has overcome a person, then help them perform their obligatory prayers, and don't let them miss any Salah

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you know, maybe sometimes, other things get missed, but Salah don't miss that at all. Because when a person prays a lot, then they are in the protection of Allah. So you want that special protection from Allah. Another thing is give sadaqa because when a person gives sadaqa this is something that cools the anger of Allah any this is something through which you invite Allah subhanaw taala has mercy.

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And this is something that brings relief also we learn in the Quran about those who spend their wealth in the way of Allah, then they will have their reward, and there will be no fear on them nor will they be said. Another important thing is that in every condition, make a habit that you say will lead to builder when you check your results that will lead to Villa when you receive some news that will lead to biller that I am pleased with Allah and say positive words from your tongue, any words that showed that you are pleased with Allah's decree? And he of course you are said, but don't say things like if only I had said such and such if only I had done such and such, because the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that Lo and Nephi do know if only opens the door to the work of Shavon in your inviting shame upon them into your matter. So don't do that. Don't say if only this, this happened, it was written and yes, I am sad and Allah subhanaw taala is the healer of hearts and Allah subhanaw taala is able to change my situation. Another important thing is that when a person is feeling down, extremely sad, then also check your diet. Any what is it that you are eating, eat comfort foods, right food that will be a source of comfort for you. And also food that is nutritious for you easy for you to to eat. We learned that I shall Dylan warn her. It was her

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habit that when someone passed away, then she would tell the women to cook carabiner All right, and it'll be in an alternative read

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which is basically like soup and bread. And Davina is a kind of a porridge. So she would give that to the family of the deceased. Why? Because Ted's hobby Barb and her husband, she would say that it helps heal the heart of the ill person and it also removes some of the sadness. And really, you will experience this that if you're feeling very sad, very low, and you eat something nice, then you feel better. it uplifts your mood. And sometimes a person is feeling sad or constantly bitter. Why? Because there's some kind of nutritional deficiency in the body Subhanallah a lot of times you know women especially, they will feel such symptoms or they will have mental health issues. And sometimes

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part of the healing is not only medication, to help deal with whatever condition that they have, but also taking supplements iron supplements vitamin B

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sorry, B 12, vitamin D, and other vitamins. Why? Because this, this helps with, with the deficiencies in your body because of which, you know that there's an imbalance in the body. So, you want to check what you're eating also. Now this doesn't mean that you're always soothing yourself with chocolate, or soothing yourself with, you know, foods that are unhealthy for you. No, but, you know, it was the way of our Chateau de la marinha. To help people feel better, by giving them food that was good for them to eat. So pay attention to that also. Now, of course, what are some Dora's we can say, we can make in such times when we're feeling low when we're feeling sad. How can we

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manage sadness with the Dhikr of Allah with doras? Firstly, busy your tongue in the remembrance of Allah Subhan Allah will hamdulillah Willa ADA illa Allah wa Allahu Akbar.

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glories to Allah praises to Allah there is none worthy of worship but Allah and Allah is the most great, and the prophets of Allah who already has Adam said, regarding this, that if there is anyone who is afraid of the darkness of the night, or to cower to face the enemy, or to worry to spend their wealth,

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you know, you basically there is a lot of inner weakness, right? There is fear, there's worry there's sadness there's,

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you know, such feelings in the heart, then they should increase in saying Subhan Allah 100 Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah Allahu Allahu Akbar. Because the vicar of Allah strengthens the heart. It brings courage to a person's heart, it brings relief to a person's heart. We learned in the Quran, that Allah subhanaw taala told us messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that will occur the narla that certainly we know that what the people say hurts you layer has zunow Can leather, your cologne, what the people say grieves you it makes you sad. And sometimes the reason why we're feeling sad is the words of people, that the kinds of things they say. Right, so what was the Prophet sallallahu what

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is that I'm told to do for some big behind the Olympic. Do this be of your Lord, glorify Allah. So visit your tongue in the remembrance of Allah Subhana Allah Wa Al Hamdulillah Allah Allah, Allah, Allah Allahu Akbar. And you see sometimes when a person is feeling sad, because of worldly matters,

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for example, a person is really sad about how they're short or or the fact that their nose is, is too flat or or too big, or whatever. You say, Subhan. Allah Subhan Allah means what? Allah is perfect, Allah does not make a mistake, he created me like this. It this is his choice. He does not make a mistake. Alhamdulillah Allah, all praises to Allah, thank you Allah for giving me life. Thank you Allah for giving me intelligence, a mind

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you know the ability to do so much and handle in La, La ilaha illa Allah, there is no God but Allah, I worship Him. And then you think about you know the different ways in which you can worship Allah subhanaw taala in an excellent way. And then Allahu Akbar, Allah is the Greatest. Anything that worries me anything that makes me sad, anything that frightens me, Allah is the Greatest, so busy your tongue in the remembrance of Allah. Another thing is, send Salawat on the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, because when you send Salah baton him once Allah subhanaw taala sends 10 Blessings on you 10 mercies on you 10 sins are erased from you 10 ranks are raised. And as we learn in a

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hadith that the Prophet sallallahu already said and told obey even Carl that when you will say when you will send Salawat on me, for for the duration of the time that you spend making Dora then Allah subhanaw taala will suffice you against all of your worldly concerns meeting Allah's Panthera will take care of all of your worldly matters. Anything that worries you that makes you sad, Allah subhanaw taala will take care of that. So increase in sending Salah worth on the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now, I would encourage you to make a list for yourself. You know, these are the things I have to do when I feel down and share these tips with people in your family with your

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friends, especially someone who you know struggles with, you know, such feelings that increase in the Dhikr of Allah increase in sending salawat and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and then of course, say the dua of Yunus early his sunnah because it is there

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Almost hijab La ilaha illa Anta Subhana iniquity Amina Lolly mean, there is no deity except you Exalted are you indeed I have been on the wrongdoers. This there are others paranthesis vistajet Banana who we responded to him when a Jaina hoomin alum, we rescued him from distress will cathartic and under meaning. And this is a promise that Allah makes to all the believers that you call upon Allah, you declare His Oneness, his perfection, and Allah subhanaw taala will rescue you. Another Dora Allahu Allah who will not be left who should equally be he che. ALLAH, ALLAH my lord, I do not associate anything with Him. A smart winter or mesa de la Mourinho, she said that the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, said to her, that shall I not teach you words which you can say at the time of distress? Or when you are distressed? Say Allahu Allah will not be love wishing he could be he Shi'a and you know, a smart vend or mace or the LA Morena. She, her her life was not easy. She was first married to John follow the law Mourinho and she was with him in Abyssinia and living as a minority. All right, is is very difficult. You experienced poverty, you experience discrimination, you experience isolation, loneliness, and then any they were far from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam all this time. And then finally, when they migrated to Medina, you know,

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in the sixth year after hijra, some companions any they would basically tell them that you know, we're better than you because you know, we we got to spend more time with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and this is something that bothered a smart about the Lahore in her a lot and she complained to the Prophet sallallahu already said about that. And soon after they migrated to Medina, Jaffa de la Horne who he was martyred in the Battle of Mota. So now she's a widow with little children.

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And we learned that she married Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu. And when they were going for Hajj, the Farewell Pilgrimage at that time, a smart Radulov Mourinho was full term pregnant, she gave birth on the way to Hajj Subhan Allah and then a bucket of the Longhorn, who also died soon after that any soon after the the Farewell Pilgrimage the prophets of Allah who were designed passed away vocality Lauren who became the Khalifa two years after that he also passed away so a smell or the LA marinha then we learned she married or they don't do a lot more in home. Honey, this is not an easy thing for a woman right to experience loss after loss after loss any if you think about it, there's no

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stability any typically a woman desires what her own home hurt her husband, her children, right so that and at least her own home, so that you know if something changes at least she has a place where she can feel secure, but asthma or the lung or on her stairs constant changes constant turbulence in her life. How did she manage how the prophets of Allah who are designed and taught her these words Allahu Allah will not be law who should equal be he che Isla de la Marne has said to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam will teach these words to his family.

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And he would say to them, that when any worry or distress or sadness befalls you say this, Allahu Allahu Allah, Vela oshi, liquidity, che. And you see, in this era, what are we doing? We're taking the name of Allah again and again two times. Why? So that you find joy and comfort in taking the name of Allah. And as you say, Allahu Allah, who then you bring to mind, his greatness, you strengthen belief in his oneness. And realize that Allah the name of Allah is very powerful, very blessed it and it encompasses within it. And he all of the other names and attributes of Allah subhanaw taala, because Allah means the God, the only one worthy of worship. So who can be the only

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one worthy of worship the one who is ever living? The one who is perfect in his ability, the one who is the creator, the fashioner, right, so all of the names and attributes of Allah, in meaning are encompassed by the name Allah. So you are calling on Allah by saying this blessing name two times. And then you say, Allah, Allah be Allah is my Rob, my Lord, He created me. He made me he owns me. He guides me. He has given me everything I have. Every blessing I have is from him, I returned to him. So Allah is my job. I am not alone. My job is

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There, he takes care of me. And then now I wish he could be a che i do not associate anything with Him.

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I worship only Him. I expect help from him alone. Uh Yeah, can I go do what ya can sustain? Another day out? We can say yeah hey you you have a young Bureau Hermetica as the lease. We learned in Hadith of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, whenever Cara who Imran a matter worried him and he he felt worried and said he would say this. Yeah, how you yaka you are ever living or sustainer of all neurotic studies. In your mercy, I seek help. And you see here you are taking two names of Allah Hi yah, hi you and then call you. And these two names, the rhythm I say they are is our you need the greatest names of Allah. And we learn in Hadith that if you call upon Allah by these names, then

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Allah accepts the DA

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and Alhaj means the EverLiving the one who was always there always will be because his, all of his attributes, all of his qualities are perfect, perfect. So his knowledge, his power, they do not fade away with time. No, Allah is a hate his life, his existence is perfect. And he's also the giver of life, the source of life. And Allah your means the one who's who sustains everything, and he is independent of all and everything depends on him. So you're calling upon Allah by these names in your time of worry and sadness, that he or Allah, you are the giver of life. Give life to my heart, revive my heart, you are you the sustainer of all, nothing can survive without you. So you're Allah,

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you take my sadness away. You help me manage this difficult situation that I am in

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another dog we can make a lot more hematocrit ojeu filata kidney Ilana superfat Orion will swiftly shut Nicola who La ilaha illa Anta you in Hadith we learned that this is that our were told my crew and in the person who is in cope, in extreme distress, overwhelmed by their worry and sadness, then this is their door meeting. This is a door that they should make that Oh Allah, it is your mercy that I wish for. I desperately desire I want your mercy. So you do not leave me to my soul for even the blink of an eye.

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Because if you leave me to myself, then what will happen? I can end up in your in disobedience in doing wrong things. So don't leave me to myself. You take care of me you protect me. Well, I'll swiftly shut an equal level and set right all of my matters. All of my matters. Any my family, my house, my neighbors, my friends, my business my studies, my inner self, my heart my mind my health. Whatever it is, you use headed right for me you fix it for me. I'm not able to fix it on my own. A slippery shirt Nicola who La ilaha illa Anta there is no god but you. Another thought we should make is La Ilaha illa Allah Allah Allah will Haleem La ilaha illa la hora Bula or shell or leam La ilaha

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illa Allahu Akbar similarity. What are the what are Buddha or she'll carry him.

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There is none worthy of worship but Allah the mighty the forbearing there is none worthy of worship but Allah, Lord of the magnificient throne, there is none worthy of worship but Allah, Lord of the heavens and Lord of the earth and Lord of the noble throne. We learn in Hadees that even our best little de la Mourinho said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would say this in times of difficulty, any whenever some difficulty came, this is what he would say. And in this vicar, what are we doing? We're declaring the Oneness of Allah, His perfection, that there is no God worthy of worship, but Allah, and you say this three times. And then you mentioned is perfect names. Allah

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lien, the most great, the ever great, the perfectly great, Al Halim, the one who was so forbearing, who doesn't punish immediately. He is the Lord of the great throne. And if he is the Lord of the great throne, then everything else is less than the throne. It's smaller than the throne. So it's not difficult for Allah to take care of. He is the Lord of the Skies and Lord of the Earth, Lord of the noble throne. So we see over here that when you repeat the statement of the hate La ilaha illa, then this is something that lightens your sadness, it lightens the burden of

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sadness in your heart. This is the cure. Another thought we should make Allahumma inni are older becoming Wilhelmi well hasn't while urgency Wilkerson will book the will juban Wadala adeiny Will holla buttery jell O Allah I seek refuge in You from grief and sadness, from weakness and from laziness, from miserliness and from cowardice from being overcome by debt, and being over overpowered by men.

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Yeah, Allah, you protect me from all of this. You see, sometimes, when you're feeling so down, you don't know if it is sadness. Or if it is weakness or laziness, any you are feeling sad. And because of that sadness, you don't have the capacity to do anything. You don't have the mental bandwidth to do much work. And people think we're being lazy. You may have experienced this, or maybe you think of others who are going through sadness, that they're being lazy. So whether it is laziness or sadness or weakness, or grieve whatever it is, yeah, Rob, I seek refuge with you from all of this, because all of these are obstacles on the path to Allah. They keep a person away from excelling in

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good deeds from going forward in good works. And they preoccupy a person and distract him from from fulfilling the purpose of his life. So we seek ALLAH subhanaw taala as refuge against all of these things,

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then another hour, we should make him say hello, but sort of bananas, be a DECA Shiva lair Kashi, Allahu Allah and I shall de la Martin has said that the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam would, would do look here with this, that in Sahil, butser robinus Oh, lord of the people remove the trouble, the cure is in your hand, and there is none except you who can remove it, meaning the trouble the illness, whatever it is that a person is experiencing, only you are able to remove it. So sometimes you see your own child, you know, they are feeling extremely sad. They're not able to able to overcome their sadness. And you wonder that, okay, it's just, you know, a broken toy, why isn't my

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child able to get over it? Sometimes we laugh at our children, sometimes we start yelling at them, sometimes they become very harsh. And that is not always the solution. The solution is that you acknowledge the feelings of sadness, don't pretend like they don't exist, acknowledge them, you know, part of managing

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such negative feelings is to first of all, label the feeling any

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pinpointed, identify it, acknowledge it, you know, put your finger on it, that this is the issue. If you pretend like it's not there, then that's not going to solve anything. You have to first of all acknowledge that, for example, with your child, also, whether it's whether your child is a five year old, or a 10 year old or a 15, or a 30 year old, who are struggling with these feelings, talk to them, that this is what you're feeling, this is how you're feeling, let them process and understand what is going on. Identify and then Madara together inside about stubbornness, that oh lord of the people remove this trouble, in your hand is the cure, in your hand is the cure. Because you see,

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sometimes a person is taking medication even for so long. And such medication that has so many side effects, but people are desperate, right?

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You know, it's not fun to take medications to manage depression or anxiety or any any kind of disorder. This is not fun. medication. You know, not only is it expensive, there's so many side effects, so many side effects that people have to take medication or want to take. So call upon Allah, that biotics Shiva era in your hand is the cure. Lie yak shuffle, Korba. Illa, Anta, no one can remove this distress except for you. It is only you who can remove it. So call upon Allah subhanaw taala

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that Allah subhanaw taala heals you that Allah subhanaw taala makes that medication work for you that Allah subhanaw taala protects you from its side effects. The indica Shiva law actually called Corporate illa Anta another thought we should make a lot more in the Arab world nor Abdic WebU ametek. Now see a TV edek Maldon for your hook mug or delune for your dog as a local because policemen who are like some Mater behave sec, our alum to who are Hedeman hereclick Oh until

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goofy Kitab ik I was thumped over here we are in we live here in the UK and Tatiana and Robbie or Kobe won on a Saturday. Where do you learn a Hosni where the hubba Lumby where the hubba hummy in another version where the hubba hummy will haunt me. So in this drop, we're asking Allah subhanaw taala that Oh Allah, I am your slave, and the son of your male slave and the son of your female slave, my forehead is in your hand, meaning you have complete control over me. Your judgment upon me is assured me what you decree for me certainly happens. And your decree concerning me is just you are not. You don't make any mistake, you don't do anything wrong. When you decree anything for your

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slaves, I ask you by every name that you have named yourself with, or revealed in your book or taught any one of your creation, or kept with yourself in the knowledge of the Unseen that is with you, that you make the Quran, the spring of my heart, Allahu Akbar. You see, after the winter, when spring comes, what happens? You see so many colors, you see a brightness, you see light, you hear sounds, you smell different smells, any spring is life, after the dead of winter. So you're asking Allah, Allah, Allah make the Quran the spring of my heart, just as my heart feels dead and lifeless and cold and colorless.

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Yeah, Allah you you bring life to it, through the Quran. And this in this is guidance that what brings life to the heart is the Quran. And this is the reason why we say that when a person is feeling sad when a person is feeling down, they need to recite Quran. And unfortunately a lot of people mock this, that this recite Quran and you will feel better, absolutely. Quran is Shiva. This Quran has to be part of our, you know, our plan to to feel better. This is part of our prescription.

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listening to the Quran, reciting the Quran, reflecting on the Quran, learning the Quran, memorizing Quran, this is not contrary to therapy, it is not contrary to taking medication. No, it is with all of those things.

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So, take the medication, go for therapy, whatever it is, but don't neglect the Quran because Allah subhanaw taala has revealed the Quran for for our Shiva for our healing also. So use this blessing that Allah has given. Think about it. The people before us at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you think they never experienced any trauma? You think they they never experienced any death or loss or pain? What they suffered was way more than us way, way more than us. Can you imagine a woman giving birth while traveling under a tree?

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it's so common that women experienced trauma from childbirth, whereas they gave birth were in the safety of a hospital or in their own home. But still, it can cause trauma.

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You know, if a person experiences poverty for some time, again, that can cause trauma. So the people at the time of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, they experienced hardship that was way more way, way more than the hardship that we endure.

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Of course, they experienced all of these feelings. What, what means did they have to help themselves feel better? They didn't have access to modern medication, they didn't have access to therapy, CBT and whatnot? No, they did not. They had access to the Quran and they use that. So part of our healing plan getting better plan, part of prescription is what that use the Quran, listen to it, recite it,

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and that will help you feel better because this is the word of Allah. This is not the word of men. This is the word of Allah. When Allah says Cohen, things come to life. This Quran, every idea is canal Ma, you think he doesn't have power? This is a miracle. Imagine when Musa Anissa ram through the staff, it turned into a snake. Or he started his sunnah. You know when he performed miracles, what happened? He would make something out of clay and it would come to life. These were the miracles given to the Prophets before the miracle that was given to the Prophets of Allah who where it is and is the Quran. It's the kalam of Allah

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Subhan Allah and we

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If we don't honor the Quran, we don't have that Yaqeen that Quran has Shiva. In fact, if someone dares to say, increase your connection with the Quran to feel better, they're left at their mokdad. And every random person on the internet is ready to ridicule the Quran in order to exalt the status of modern medication and therapy. I'm not saying that medication and therapy is useless. No, it is an excellent excellent means that Allah subhanaw taala has given us but greater than that means is the Quran. So don't dare to ridicule the Quran. Don't Don't belittle it, don't belittle it in order to raise the status of what people have come up with us the Quran. So in this dua we say, Yara, you

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make the Quran the spring of my heart were no the Saudi and the light of my chest would you let a whose knee and the removal of my sadness, the banisher of my sadness, were the hubba hum me and the reliever of my distress, that yada whatever is worrying me whatever is making me sad, make that go away with the Quran. And really, the more time you spend with the Quran, your your concerns and your worries will reduce in proportion to the time that you spend with the Quran Wallahi because this is the kalam of Allah, get busy in listening to the Quran, start memorizing the Quran, and you will have something in your life that will make you happy. You see,

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any when something is making you sad, constantly sad in life? Yes, you know those those factors are there. But you also need something in your life that will bring you joy that will bring you a sense of accomplishment that will make you feel that you are worthy that you did something and when you recite the Quran, when you memorize the Quran surah you know, after I after I a surah after Surah You are gaining a treasure Who will clean on my edge Marone it is better than all the things that people gather.

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So, spend time with the book of Allah, we learn in Hadith, that when a person makes this dua Allah will convert his worry and sadness into ease.

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So if you want your worry and sadness to be converted into ease and relief, and make this dua and and follow what is taught in the Surah, which is that you spend time with the Quran, so that Allah subhanaw taala brings you healing through it.

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Another important door we can make La Ilaha illa Allah will Halim sorry La Ilaha illa Allah who will carry will Haleem Subhana who What about a Kola or a bull*ter Aleem will hamdulillah hero Bella Rabbil Alameen our little de la hora you reported that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught him these words to say whenever he would be in some kind of difficulty or distress or sadness. And what are these words that there is no God worthy of worship but Allah who is Al Karim, the noble al Halim, the forbearing Subhana who glorified he is what about Allah and bless it is Allah, Rob bull*ter Aleem The Lord of the great throne when hamdulillahi rabbil aalameen and all

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praises to Allah the Lord of the Worlds another girl alone Moxham linnorm in her sciatica may or who lubaina ouabain amaro sleek, woman la article Matoba Luna vgn netiq Wamena Leah Kinema to how we know be here, Elena Messiah, mostly about it dunya in this to our saying, Oh Allah apportion for us fear of you, meaning give us the ability to fear you, such fear that shall come between us and the disobedience of you and of disobedience to you, which will cause us to obtain your paradise and have certainty meaning grant us the ability to have to have your clean which will make the afflictions of the world easy for us

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and He give us such European because of which the difficulties of the world become a manageable while material ABS Marina we're upside in our COVID Tina Marie Atana allow us to benefit from our hearing and our with our vision and our abilities for as long as we live. Because Subhanallah imagine a person is alive, they're breathing they're living, but day after day is slipping away. In in, you know because they're experiencing such sadness that they're not able to do anything. So yeah, Allah allow me to benefit from my faculties that you've given me

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When you're unwell well if Amina and make all of these abilities outlive me what your honor Hola Mundo La Mina on Sona or lemon or Donna. Willa today mostly Burton fe de Nina,

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and lead our vengeance be upon those who have wronged us and aid us against those who show enmity towards us and do not make our affliction in our religion. While at the jolly duniya Akbar, O Hamina, and do not make this world our greatest concern, while mobiler, Elmina, nor the limit of our knowledge while to send it to our Lena Mala, your hamona and do not give power over us to those who will not have mercy on us. Because you know, when a person is feeling sad and angry, you know, they're feeling distressed. Sometimes you go to a doctor who doesn't show any compassion to you. Or sometimes people around you don't show any compassion to you. So your Allah protect us from such

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people who will not show any compassion to us. We learn in Hadith of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam would say this there are on getting up from a gathering. And typically, anyone you're sitting in a gathering, and you're talking, typically our conversations revolve around what what's happening in the, you know, political scene, or in your community, or what the latest is on on Coronavirus, or what the latest is on war in this country, or war crimes in another part of the world. Any of these things, then they're heavy on the heart, very heavy. So when you get up, make this thorough. Ask Allah subhanaw taala to protect you. Inshallah, we'll conclude over here. I'm sorry, today's session

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was very long, but I wanted to cover all of these eras. Because I feel that this is something that all of us need in this day and age Subhanallah as things, you know, in worldly matters are becoming easier for us. At the same time. Our unhappiness is increasing. And part of the reason is that we don't know how to call upon Allah subhanaw taala to help us deal with such emotions and how to manage these emotions. May Allah subhanaw taala help us all. I mean, Subhanak Allahumma behenic I should Allah ilaha illa Anta esta Hirokawa to LA was Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh