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Fahm Al-Quran – 28A Al Mujadilah

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Taimiyyah Zubair

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Juz’ 28: Al-Mujadilah – At-Tahrim

Al-Mujadilah

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Soon autonomo J Dilla, Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem? Certainly has Allah heard the speech of the one who argues with you, concerning her husband, and directs her complaint to Allah and Allah, here's your dialogue. Indeed, Allah is hearing and seeing.

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Before Islam, there was a tradition known as Leon, which was that a man would say to his wife, you are to me, like the back of my mother, meaning forever. I shall never ever be intimate with you. You are unlawful for me, just like my mother is unlawful on me. Likewise, you are also unlawful on me. Oh, spin sommets alongside de la the la hora and who he said these words to his wife, Hola, hola, de la hora and her and she came to the prophets of Allah cinemas seeking a solution. And the prophets of Allah said them in accordance to the tradition. He said the Tanakh is in effect, because he has declared they are. So if he has declared the HA, you're no longer his wife. It's finished. But this

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lady was extremely worried that if this means divorced, and what about me? And what about my children? And what about my family? There should be a way out of this. She was talking to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam seeking a solution. However, Allah says, that's the key in a law. She was complaining to Allah. This is so big, that our person seeks solutions to his problems from people he's discussing with them, asking them for an answer, seeking a solution from them. But he can complain only to Allah subhanho wa Taala because Allah alone is the controller of all affairs. He is the owner of his treasures. He is the remover of difficulties, and he alone can make

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the best ways out for us when we are in difficulty. Really, people do not have solutions to our problems. They don't even the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, did he have an answer for this lady for this woman? He didn't. He couldn't help her. Because there was no law concerning this issue. Now what happened? A loss of handled automated way out for this woman. That's the key is Allah. She was complaining of her worries, her fears her hurt to who to Allah subhanaw taala that Allah should help her out of this. And will La Jolla smarter Howard Akuma meaning whatever conversation was taking place between the prophets of Allah and Allah. Allah was hearing that

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conversation in the law has Samira mislead. Allah mentions two names over here to assure us that when we call upon him, then he hears us. When we are in difficulty he sees he knows our situation. Our state of affairs is before him. So the one who hears us and the one who sees us the

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One who knows our condition? Here's our please. Then what solution do you think will he present? When he is the owner of bousema? worth? He will up? Are you sure of the lower on her? She said praises to Allah, whose hearing encompasses all voices, the woman who disputed concerning her husband, the mujer de la, she came to the Prophet salallahu salam, when I was sitting in a corner of the house, and the house of the prophets of Allah was not that big, by the way. And she complained about her husband, but I did not hear what she said. And Allah revealed, these ayah that Allah has heard her, this shows is, firstly, that a discussion like this should happen in a soft voice. First

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of all, that when a woman is complaining about her husband seeking a solution to the abuse that he has committed against her, or to the disagreement that she has with him, how is it that she should talk about this issue by screaming, and by yelling? By raising her voice? By creating the scene? No, we see that this lady called out of the lower under how calm she is, and how quietly she was discussing a problem with the prophets that allows them that I should have Lorna sitting in the same house in the same room, she didn't hear, she didn't know what was going on.

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And remember that the more calm and composed a person is, the better they can communicate their concerns. But generally, how is it that we complain so negatively, and so loudly, that even those who don't need to know about the problems come to know about the problems? Remember, when it comes to family problems, a problem that may exist between husband and wife, it's necessary that they should be solved by the husband and wife themselves. And if the matter has become aggravated, it's so severe and so difficult that the two cannot see eye to eye and they cannot solve the problem themselves. Then, when they go to a third party, who should it be? every friend, and every neighbor,

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and every aunt and every grandparent and relative, know who shouldn't be one person, the person who can actually help? Not that every friend's house we go to we start talking about our husband and his problems, and our in laws and their problems? No, discuss, seek a solution if necessary, but with who, those who can actually help you who will actually advise you, and then do so in a way that is quiet, meaning don't publicize your issue. Many times what happens the problem is this little, and it's blown out of proportion, literally blown out of proportion. Why? Just to seek attention, and to look like a victim and to appear to be so innocent, so that people take pity. And immediately

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everybody turns against the other party. And then we can have what we desire.

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And also remember that most people what we learned from this incident is that most people who do listen to your complaints also what can they do? They can just say, uh huh, I'm sorry about that. That is so sad. That's all they can say. Can they change the heart of the person who's abusing, you know, can they go and fix your situation? Can they pull you out of it know how long it takes even after a divorce? What happens? People are still stuck, things don't get clear immediately. So the fact is that people cannot really provide solutions to us. We can go and discuss with them. But real Shockwave should be to who? to Allah. What does Stacie Ellen law. So complain to Allah, before you

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complain to people. And remember, when we complain to people, the more the problem spread, the worse the situation becomes. And you see over here, Allah has preserved this in the Quran, a lesson for all women, because there are many times when a woman finds herself as a mudra. dealer, right? Fighting, arguing, disputing concerning her rights with who, with her husband, or with her children are with her family. She says something with the husband wants something else. so in this situation, what can you do? The shakeela complained to a lot that Oh, Allah, you you solve this problem for me. You know, many times women struggle concerning halaal income, that the husband doesn't agree. What

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is she meant to do? Go tell the whole world. My husband has this job. And my husband has agreed to buy a house and mortgage and now I'm stuck with it down the hall worth No, don't tell other people. There's no need to share this with your friends, no need to tell them. And by the way, we also never need to ask other people about how they have bought their houses. This is invading other people's privacy. We don't need to ask them. So what kind of mortgage Did you take and how did you afford this? We don't need to do that. And when a woman is struggling with this issue or any issue, then what can she do? Can she change the mind of her husband? If she fights with him argues with him

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every day every day. What does that lead to constant tension in the house and what does he say this alota of yours By the way, this Quran that you've been studying

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Stop it already. I've had enough you're becoming an extremist.

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You want a change to come in your life, it's difficult to bring it. complaint to Allah. Ask him, ask him to bring the solution to you to open the door for you. Just as Allah opened the door for this lady, Allah revealed alladhina EULA hirono Minh company, sir him, my own Omaha team, those who pronounce the heart among you to separate from their wives, they are not consequently their mothers, you say that she is like your mother, she doesn't become your mother. their mothers are none but those who give birth to them. And indeed, they're saying an objectionable statement and a false hood. But Indeed, Allah is pardoning and forgiving, meaning if they repent, then Allah will forgive

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them, and those who pronounced Li Han from their wives, and then they wish to go back on what they have said, then there must be the freeing of a slave before they touch one another. Guevara a penalty for who for the husband, for what for what he said. That is what you are admonished there by meaning you're not just being advised, you have to pay the penalty also. And Allah is acquainted with what you do. And he who does not find a slave like today, you can't find a slave to set free than a fast for two months consecutively without a break of a single day. Can you imagine what Ramadan is for 29 or 30 days, and it's a big deal. Women do get a break in the middle, but men

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don't. So imagine that is doubled. And if one facet is missed, then he has to start all over again, two months consecutively, before they touch one another, and he who is unable than the feeding of 64 persons meaning a person tries several times too fast for two months in a row. And he's not able to then what's the other option he can feed 64 people full meals, that is for you to believe in Allah and His messenger. And those are the limits set by Allah and for the disbelievers is a painful punishment. All of this for what purpose to discipline, the tongue. All of this for the purpose of disciplining the tongue, because the wrong use of the tongue in marriage is very, very detrimental.

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Imagine a man says this statement and he has to pay so much money or fast so many facts or feed so many people. Why for one statement, because how many times is it that people are abused in marriage? How through words, that this threat is ever hanging on the head of the woman, if you don't do this, or divorce or divorce or divorce you

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attract constantly, and women also sometimes they use their tongues abusing their husbands. So we have to be careful. These are all the consequences of what the wrong use of the tongue. Now remember that pronouncing the heart does not affect the marriage status at all. The two are still married, no divorce happens. But it is a major sin. And therefore the man who says it is penalized. Allah says indeed those who oppose Allah and His Messenger, meaning they disregard the command of Allah, they do not follow it. There are based as those before them were abased. And We have certainly sent down verses of clear evidence and for the disbelievers is a humiliating punishment, rejecting the command

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of Allah, disregarding it, belittling it, not acting upon it, Hillel is clear. hallowmas clear. A person still opposes. This is a cause of humiliation, this world and the hereafter. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, What do you realize the letter was sorrow? Allah man holla for Emery, the one who opposes my command, my matter my instruction, then Villa humiliation, and a basement will be stuck to him means such a person will certainly be humiliated and debased in this life and in the Hereafter, who the one who opposes the way of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam many times we complain, oh, people don't respect us. My family doesn't respect me, my children don't respect me my

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in laws don't respect me. I am nothing in the eyes of my people. I'm so humiliated. They have no respect for me whatsoever. Then we need to check ourselves. Immediately check yourself, where is it that I am opposing the command of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam? Where is it that I am opposing the command of Allah? Do I honor the command of Allah by obeying it? And if I don't honor the command of Allah by obeying it, then how do I expect that I should be deserving of honor what kind of honor do I expect on the day when Allah will resurrect them? He will resurrect them all and inform them of what they did. Allah had enumerated it while they forgot it. I saw hola who wanna Sue

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will la huella coalition in Shaheed

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Allah is over all things a witness. You see a person keeps sending and forgetting. Allah does not forget. Allah does not forget. So what is necessary that we think about our actions, we think about our statements. We take account of what we're saying and what we're doing. You see one statement that a man utters what a big penalty for it. Imagine. And this statement, by the way, has no effect on the marriage in the sense that it doesn't cause divorce, but still look at the consequences. And what do we learn that other statements also other actions also, they can have very, very serious effects. So what is necessary, we remember our sins, and we recall them and we acknowledge them. And

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we cry before Allah for committing those sins. And we ask Allah to forgive us for those sins that we are asking forgiveness for, and also those sins that we have forgotten, because Allah does not forget the sins, have you not considered that Allah knows what is in the heavens and what is on the earth, there is no private conversation of three, but that he is the fourth of them. There is no private conversation being held between how many people, three people, except that Allah is the fourth of them, meaning a private conversation is never private. It's never private, Allah is always a witness. Allah knows what's going on what is being privately whispered and secretly communicated.

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Nor are there five people, but that he is the sixth of them, and no less than that, and no more except that he is with them in knowledge, wherever they are. And on the Day of Judgment, what will happen, everything will be exposed what either servile nasura there'll be publicized, then he will inform them of what they did on the Day of Resurrection. Indeed, Allah is of all things knowing. Have you ever considered those who were forbidden from private conversation? Then they returned to that which they were forbidden and converse among themselves, about sin and aggression and disobedience to the messenger. These are the hypocrites, because they will talk to each other

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quietly, secretly. All right, and when they will do that, they will talk about these kinds of things, sinning aggression against people, disobeying the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And when they come to you, they greet you with that word by which Allah does not greet you. And they say among themselves, why does Allah not punish us for what we say, meaning we must be right sufficient for them as hell, which they will enter to burn and wretched is the destination. This is about the LM keytab I shall do our own has said that once on Jews gave the prophets of the Lord cinema and they said Abu Carson, Assam alikum mean they would not even call him Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam

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they wouldn't even say messenger of Allah, what would they say I will pass him and they said Assam are they committing that be on you?

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May you die, and notice how they change Assam, a Salaam to Assam. And we have to be very careful about how we are saying a Solomonic because sometimes we change it completely. We just saying it in that way because it sounds nice, or it's just more fashionable or everybody says it like that we need to say salon property because the meaning can change. So the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he said why they come? And I showed the loan, and she was there. And she heard what happened. So she responded and she said, and may the learner also be on you and they learn and she went on and on basically. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said or I said do not use harsh words. She said, Didn't

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you hear what they said? The prophet SAW the loss of them said Did I not respond to them when they said that? I just said to them wireless

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and YouTube may be on you as well. So we see that they used to greet the prophets of Allah sort of like that. And enemies who openly display friendship but inside the hate you this is how they try to hurt you. Yeah, you Halina amanu Oh, you have believed when you Converse privately, do not converse about sin and aggression and disobedience to the messenger being private conversations should not be about sin against Allah, aggression against people disobedience to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, rather converse about righteousness and piety and fear Allah to whom you will be gathered, because this fear rectifies our actions and behaviors. private conversation is only from Shelton, that he

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may grieve those who have believed because those who are excluded from these private conversations, how do they feel left out and sad, but he will not harm them at all except by permission of Allah and upon Allah let the believers rely. So even if someone is whispering, excluding You do not worry, because they cannot hurt you, without the will of Allah. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, when you are three persons sitting together, then no two of you should hold secret counsel, excluding the third person. Don't do that. Why? Because the third person is going to feel bad about it. It's going to make them feel sad. But when you are with more people, meaning if there's a crowd and they're two

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people with

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to each other, because it's necessary, then that is okay. But in general, we see that this is something that's not liked. Why should we whisper to each other? I mean, some people have a habit of this, everything has to be said so secretly, top secret, really, the whole world is not after you. So we need to be careful about this because it hurts the feelings of other people. And everything doesn't need to be a secret. Or you have believed, when you're told space yourselves in assemblies that make space, Allah will make space for you, how do you space yourself, by gathering yourself together, so that you can make space for someone else, when you will do that Allah will make space

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for you. And when you are told, Arise, then arise, meaning if you're asked to sit somewhere else move from your spot for better organization purposes, don't get offended over there, arise. Here, the etiquette of sitting in a gathering is stopped. And what is that, that you must make space for other people. And before that, we have to learn to fill gaps. Also, right? So fill in this gap, please somebody.

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But when you fill it up, don't leave a gap where you are, because then somebody else will have to come and fill that gap. Okay, for somebody come, please, and fill this gap.

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So first fill in the gap. And secondly, if the space becomes tight, being it gets crowded, there's a lot of people and more are coming in, then what should be done, what should be done,

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make space for other people.

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And when we fill in gaps, let's not do it while making other people feel uncomfortable and tight. And this is something we need to remember when we are sitting in a gathering and also when we were praying in a Masjid. So if you're tight, you can sit relaxed and one person can sit on the chair. Okay?

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Because you see if we're not sitting comfortably can we focus on what we're doing? No. And if there's so many gaps between us, then who will come shaitaan will come. So both things we need to remember fill in the gaps and also make space accommodate other people welcome other people in. Now generally what happens is that in a crowd, when we are sitting, what do we like a spot next to us that is free. So that in case I want to put my feet up, or I need to put my bag and you don't know who's gonna come and sit next to you. So just make sure that you go and sit in a place where there's five empty seats around you. And on one seat, you put one bag and another seat, you put another bag,

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we try to do that, what does Allah say to us, gather yourself together so that more people can be closer to you. Because when people are in a jamara, then what happens, then this is something that our last panels are also like groups of angels go around and look for gatherings where Allah is being remembered. But if they're trying to remember Allah, but shavon is also leading them astray, because there's so many spaces in the middle, and then what will happen anyway. So summary is what that when we have to make space for other people, let us make space for them. And do not sit in a way so as to bother people either. And the thing is that we need to make room in our heart, because

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if the heart is tight, then we will be unhappy. Even if there's five spaces around us, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam curse, the one who sat in the middle of a circle, meaning somewhere where he should not be sitting, as if sitting in a different spot away from everybody in order to draw extra attention. So sitting in the middle, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, No person should ask another person to stand at his place. And then he should himself sit there, meaning don't go anywhere and tell somebody, please get up from here, remove them, and then take their spot. This is something that's not correct. But he should simply say, Make room and accommodate. So sometimes you

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go to the masjid and you want to find a good comfortable spot for yourself. And you see the first two, three rows are full. But you see a small gap there. Don't go there and tell a child move from here because sometimes we move children back. And what happens when they're sent to the back girls, their friends come? And then they have to go play also.

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So where are the children supposed to be technically, between the roles of men and women? So in the middle, why so that they also learn to pray? What happens is we put children at the back and when they're put at the back, then they don't pray.

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What do they do then? Play and playing is fine. It is okay. But there is a time for everything. I mean, after a child has reached the age of seven, they should be told to pray. So if a child is nine years old, 10 years old, and they're coming to the masjid or not even praying a single Raka This is not correct. The prophets of Allah Islam also said a person is most deserving of sitting in his seat. Meaning if a person has a particular seat where he generally sits, all right, he is most deserving of it and especially

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If he came and sat there first, he is most deserving of it. Even if he got up from it and returned, he is still more deserving of it. Meaning sometimes it happens that a person is sitting somewhere, or, for example, a person who was praying somewhere in the masjid, and what happens, they leave their bag, and they have to quickly go make will do. And when they come back, they can't find their bag and their spot is also gone. And even though the prayer had not begun yet, but still people take over their spot, this is something that's incorrect. So do not sit on someone else's spot. And don't take their seat either. The Prophet said alongside himself, when one of you goes to a gathering and

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spaces made for him, that he should sit there, for it is something that Allah has honored him with. It is something that Allah has honored him with. And his Muslim brother has also honored him with it. If space is not made for him, that he should look where there is space, and he should go and sit there. Because sometimes what happens we go somewhere people make space for us, we say, No, no, no, no, no, thank you, thank you. They're honoring us, but we don't accept it.

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Or sometimes what happens we go somewhere, nobody makes space for us, we get offended. So what should be done, if somebody makes space for you accept it, and if they don't, then don't disturb them. Don't get offended over there because otherwise this will disturb good relations. Allah will raise those who have believed among you and those who are given knowledge by degrees and Allah is acquainted with what you do. So be considerate and if you really want honor, it is not in people getting up for you and leaving their spots for you and opening doors for you. true honor is with a man and an armor on there at the greater the amount of a person the greater has an affair the

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stronger his action. The more Allah soprano tada will also raise him.

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Yeah, you have Latina amanu all you have believed, when you wish to privately consult the messenger present before your consultation, a charity that is better for you and pure. But if you find not the means then Indeed Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. You see the Prophet sallallahu Sallam Can you imagine how lovely it would be to talk to him?

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This lady came and asked the prophets, Allah Lawson about her matter. So imagine now everybody wanted private conversation, private time with the Prophet sallallahu sallam, but he had much greater responsibilities also. So the believers were told that if you want time with him exclusive time, then you must give back to the community how you have to give sadaqa and the purpose was basically to teach people later on this was abrogated. The purpose was that be considered when you're taking someone's private time, don't go on talking to them for an hour, hour and a half. They have other things to do also, early on, who was the first one who acted upon this idea, and he was

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very proud about this, because he had a particular issue we have to discuss what the profits or losses so he gives us, and then he discussed with the Prophet sallallahu sallam. However, the majority of the Sahaba they were hesitant. They got scared, they thought maybe they weren't allowed to do this anymore. So Allah says, Have you feared to present before your consultation charities? Meaning what happened? Why are you so scared, it's just South Africa, you should be giving further anyway. Generally what happens, as long as something is free, we show willingness, but as soon as we have to pay, then we change our minds. Then when you do not and Allah has forgiven you, then at

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least established prayer and gives aka and obey Allah and His messenger and this is abrogating the previous and Allah is acquainted with what you do. Have you not considered those who make allies of people with whom Allah has become angry? This is the hypocrites befriending the who because like minded people come together, they are neither of you, nor of them how dangerous this is. And this were to untruth. While they know they're lying, Allah has prepared for them a severe punishment. Indeed, it was evil that they were doing, they took their false oats as a cover. So they averted people from the way of Allah and for them as a humiliating punishment. Never will their wealth or

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their children, avail them against Allah at all. Those are the companions of the Fire, they will abide there and eternally, on the day, Allah will resurrect them all. And they will swear to him as I swear to you, and think that they're standing on something unquestionably It is they who are the liars, you see, liars think their lies will work everywhere. And lying is the biggest sign of hypocrisy. And a person who lies here will try to lie on the Day of Judgment also shavon has overcome them and made them forget the remembrance of Allah. Those are the party of shame, pawn, unquestionably, the party of shavon, they will be the losers, those who lie will be the losers,

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indeed, the ones who oppose Allah and His Messenger, those will be amongst the most humbled, humiliated, disgraced, Allah has written I will surely overcome I and my messengers. Indeed, Allah is powerful and Exalted in Might, you will not find the people who believe in Allah and the Last Day having affection for those who oppose Allah and His Messenger, even if they were their fathers or their sons or their brothers or their Kindred. Those he has decreased.

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within their hearts faith and supported them with spirit from him, and we will admit them to gardens beneath which rivers flow where they abide eternally, Allah is pleased with them and they are pleased with him. Those are the party of Allah. Allah in the Hezbollah whom will mostly Hoon unquestionably the party of Allah. They are the successful, so those who are truthful, they are the party of Allah and those who lie. They're the party of Shelton.