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Fahm Al-Quran – 04E An Nisa 1 23

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Taimiyyah Zubair

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Juz’ 4: Al-‘Imran 92-200 – An-Nisa’ 1-23
An-Nisa’ 1-23

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Bismillah Al Rahman and Rahim Yeah, you harness all mankind, or people it could have become, fear your Lord who created you from one soul and created from it, it's made and dispersed from both of them, many men and women and fear Allah through whom you ask one another, and the wombs, meaning fear Allah, in whose name you demand rights from your relatives, meaning if a relative demands his right from you, and he takes the name of Allah, then fear Allah and give that right? Indeed, Allah is Ever over you and observer. He's watching the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, No relative goals to his relative, and asks him of what he has of the surplus that Allah has given him.

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But he becomes stingy with him, except that on the Day of Judgment, a snake called shujaa will emerge from hell with its tongue out, and it will be tied around his neck, whose neck, the person who is stingy with who with his relative, he has surplus, he has extra wealth, he's got the money. And his relatives, brother, sister, mother, son, they come and they ask him, we are needy can can we can we have something and he becomes stingy over there. He doesn't give them this person. What what is it that he will be tied with what is it that will go around his neck on the Day of Judgment, a snake that will emerge from hellfire.

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Imagine a snake emerging from the fire with it strung out and it will come and wrap around the neck of this person who was stingy with his relative This is a hadith. So he in a filter to say, Now sometimes our closest relatives come in, they come to us in dire need. And what they need is something that is sitting with us extra, we don't need it. If we give it to them, we will not suffer. But what is it that prevents us from giving to them? stinginess, if I give it I will have less or pride? Why should I give it to them? Why are they asking me if I give them now tomorrow, they will ask me for more. And this is something that is even in children in siblings, you have an

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extra snack, you have an extra bar of chocolate extra extra, and somebody is asking somebody wants it. They're just looking at it with hasslein their eyes. But what happens? Why should I give it it's mine?

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It's mine. But when a relative asks, remember, a relative has a Hulk over the extra wealth that we have, the extra wealth that we have the things that we don't need, but Allah has still given them to us. What are they they are in fact the rights of other people and from amongst other people, first and foremost to those who are related to us, our own brothers, our own sisters, our parents, our siblings, our uncles or aunts or cousins grandparents grandchildren, but unfortunately we will give it to everybody else, but who is it that we will deprive our own relatives, whereas the Prophet sallallahu Sallam encouraged us to give sadaqa to first who to those who are closest to us in

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relationship Why? Because then there is double reward wonder award for charity and the other award for maintaining good relationships. So unless has what the hola hola de casa aluna he will or have fear alone with regards to the our home the wombs, meaning the relationships that are through the wombs, meaning blood relationships, Fear Allah concerning blood relatives, people who are related to us through blood, fear unluck. concerning their rights, a level question is about them concerning them.

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Now remember that this Surah Surah, Nisa was revealed after the Battle of Earth, and the Battle of 117, Muslims were martyred. Now imagine if 17 men have been killed? What does that mean? There are now many orphans and many widows. Now there's money property that needs to be divided amongst the heirs. And now who's going to look after these orphans who are not capable of looking after their own wealth? Who's going to look after that woman, that widow if she needs help? So this sort of talks about such matters? Firstly, the orphans to leota home and give to the orphans their properties, and do not substitute the defective of your own for the good of theirs, and do not

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consume their properties into your own. Indeed, that is ever a great sin. And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, meaning if you marry them, you won't be fair to them, then who should you marry? Then marry those that please you have other women? Don't marry that orphan girl if you think you cannot be fair to her. Instead, marry somebody else whom you will be fair to. How many to marry to marry three or four. But don't marry a woman whom you

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will not be fair to, which means that first condition of marriage is what the first thing that a man needs to think about before marriage is what if he will be just to his wife? If he can be just to his wife? Then he should? If he thinks he can, he can be just to her, then he should marry her. And if he thinks he cannot marry her, then who should he marry someone else that he can be just with, even if it's two, or three or four. Now remember, this is permission being given, not an order, because people women get offended, they feel insecure. This is not an order. This is not an instruction. This is permission. Because you see, after the Battle of the after the Battle of or

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hurt, many Muslims had died by this point. And who is it that they had left behind? widows? amongst them was the daughter of Ahmad have a lot more on

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her husband? Her husband died. She was a widow, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam married her, we learned that her moral dilemma on him was worried for his daughter, he went to Abu Bakar Can you marry my daughter? He went to Earth man, can you marry my daughter? Both said no. And he was offended. He went to complain to the prophets of Allah center, and the prophets of Allah incident, he proposed perhaps, and he made likewise we see him Salama, her husband also died, right? And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam married her. Because what we see is that there is nothing wrong in marriage after the death of one spouse. Because what we think is that if a woman her husband has

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died forever, she should remain single, realize that those women whose husbands had died at these battles, they had to be taken care of. Not that they weren't able to support themselves, they had money, they just inherited a whole lot of money. But what is it that people need more than just money? What is it that we need as human beings more than just money? What do we need?

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What do we need? Hmm, companionship, we have emotional needs. Also. We have emotional needs financial needs. So we see the prophets have a lot of sort of also married on Salama have started a lot more on her because both of them were widows. But if you fear that you will not be just meeting just to more than one wife, then what should you do marry only one or those your right hand possesses, that is more suitable that you may not inclined to injustice, because it's very much likely that when a man will have more than one wife, then he will end up being unfair with them. So if he does not find himself the capacity to handle two women, then what should he do? Keep himself

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to only one woman, what are two Nyssa Ducati Hina Nicola. And this teaching is a very important lesson in life. Because sometimes what we do is, we grab one good opportunity after the other, and all of a sudden, we have 20 things going on, and we cannot even do five of them. What do we learn from this take only what you can handle? Do only that which you can do property, what Adam Nyssa also Ducati, Nicola, and give the women upon marriage, their bridal gifts, but how should you give it to them graciously, happily, and this is an obligation, this is forced upon the men. In her these we learned that whichever man marries a woman, over a meeting a man was agreed upon, and he marries

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her, and that Maha whether small or big amount, but in his heart, he had no intention to give her that much.

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Then this person, if he dies in that state, then he will meet a law on the day of judgment as a fornicator.

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Then he has fornicated he has not married, this is dinner,

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to Nyssa. Also Ducati hinden Allah, give to the women their bridal gift, but if they give up willingly to you, if they give it back, or if they say it's okay, willingly not that they're forced to do that. If they give up willingly to you anything of it then take it in satisfaction and ease and do not give the weak minded your property which Allah has made a means of sustenance for you, but provide for them with it, and called them and speak to them words of appropriate kindness, and test the orphans in their abilities until they reach marriageable age, then, if you perceive them sound judgment, then release their property to them when you find them capable of handling their

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money, then give it to them and do not consume it excessively and quickly anticipating that they will grow up and whoever when acting as a guardian is self sufficient, should refrain from taking a fee and whoever is more than let him take according to what is acceptable than when you release their property to them, bring witnesses upon them. And sufficient is Allah as accountant for men is a share of what the parents and close relatives leave. And for women as a share of what the parents and close relatives leave, be at little or much an obligatory share. What does it mean that the sharing

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of inheritance, Allah has a lot of them. Allah has fixed them, they have been appointed by Allah. So any estate, whether big or small, must only be distributed, according to the law that Allah has revealed. And in this law that Allah has revealed the law of inheritance, men have a share. And women also have a share. And this was something that was new, because at that time, women were not given any share of inheritance. And we see that even until as recent as less than 200 years ago, women did not have the right to inherit in many parts of the world, many parts of the world. So Allah says, For Women also is a right for men is a shared but these shares are fixed, you cannot

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change them. And when other relatives and orphans and the needy are present at the time of division, then provide for them something out of the estate, and speak to them words of appropriate kindness, meaning Allah knows the hearts and inner feelings of people, he knows that when when money is being distributed, when things are being distributed than someone who does not have a share in that, how will he feel left out. So even though they do not have a share? Still, Allah says give them something, give them something, give them something of your own share. And if you cannot give that then at least say something good to them.

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And let those executors and guardians the executors mean those who who have been given the duty to execute the will meaning divide the estate, these people, like for example, an elder of the family, he is dividing up the shares, okay, this son will take the share, this doctor will take this share the person who's executing the will, the guardians, what should they do? Allah says they should fear injustice, as if they themselves had left weak offspring behind and feared for them. Put yourself in the shoes of the person who has died? What would you want that your children are treated fairly, that they are given their rights, their shares? So be fair over here? and think, what if you had

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died? And what if your children were given their shares of inheritance? What would you want for them, so treat the other the way you would want to be treated. So let them fear Allah and speak words of appropriate justice. Indeed, a warning is given those who devour the property of orphans unjustly are only consuming into their bellies fire, and they will be burned in a blaze. Now, the law of inheritance, Allah instructs you concerning your children, for the male what is equal to the share of two females? Why? Because the financial burden and responsibility rests on who on the moon. Think at the time of marriage, at the time of marriage, the man has to give to the woman the woman

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is receiving. After marriage, the man must spend on the woman the woman is technically receiving.

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And at the time of inheritance, what is happening, a woman is again, on the receiving end, when is it that in a woman's life she's obligated to spend from her own money

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when she must, it's fun to on her to spend from her own money. What is that time

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the cat even that women just tell their husbands calculated and you give it he knows how much the gold weighs. Right? He knows what the prices and he is giving from his cash yours accounts for the jewelry that you're wearing.

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Right? Your money, you're using it in the form of gold in the form of jewelry, you're using it and his money, he's earning it and constantly spending spending, if he gets it an inheritance he has to spend on his family. So this is that one time that the poor guy, he gets to get a free gift. So when he gets it, let him have it. Let him enjoy it. And Allah is fair, Allah is fair. This is why he's given the man double the share of a woman at this time. Why? Because even what the man will get, eventually he has to give it to the woman he is going to marry. And then after he marries her, then he has to give it to her. If he divorces her, again, he has to give her something. And if they have

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a child, then he has to continue to spend on her until the child is nursing.

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So where is the man free of any financial obligation, this is the one time that he's receiving a gift. So let him take it. But if there are only daughters, two or more than for them as two thirds of one's estate, and if there's only one for her is half and for one's parents, to each of them is a sixth of his estate if he has left children, but if he had no children, and the parents alone inherit from him, then for them for his mother is one third. And if he had brothers or sisters, then for his mother is a sixth after any request he may have made or that your parents or your children, you know not which of them are nearest to you in benefit. These shares are an obligation imposed by

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Allah. Indeed Allah is Ever knowing and wise. The thing is that we think that our parents, they love us

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More. So all our wealth should go to them after we die, or we think our children are more deserving or we think that a particular relative is more deserving or we think our relative they don't deserve it at all. So we want to deprive certain people of their shares and give to others more than what they deserve. But what does Allah say? You don't know. You don't know who's of more benefit to you. You don't know for whom this money will be best for. So leave it to Allah to decide he has decided what portion should go to who so Simona will Alterna and for you as half on what your wives leave if they have no child, but if they have a child for you was one fourth of what they leave after any

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requests they may have made or that and for the wives is one fourth if you leave no child, but if you leave a child, then for them as an eighth of what you leave after any requests you may have made or debt, and if a man or woman leaves neither ascendance nor descendants, but has a brother or a sister, than for each one of them is a sixth, but if they are more than two, they share a third after any bequest which was made or debt, as long as there is no detriment caused. This is an ordinance from Allah. And Allah is Knowing and forbearing Delica hoodoo de la. These are the limits set by Allah And whoever obeys Allah and His messenger will be admitted by him to gardens in

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paradise under which rivers flow abiding eternally they're in and that is the great success when my jasola how Rasulullah who, and whoever disobeys Allah and His messenger and transgresses his limits, he will put him into the fire to abide eternally there in and he will have a humiliating punishment. So in love or hatred of people do not change the law of law. Why? Because this is something that will take a person to the fire. We don't that a person is allowed to will make a will have up to a third of his wealth for non IRS. And if a person dies leaving behind debts, then firstly the debt must be paid off, and then the will should also be executed. And after that the heirs should be

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given their shares. And even if the heirs are well off, still they should not be deprived of their inheritance shares. And how these we learned that Sargon Malik he said that the prophets of Allah Islam came to visit me while I was sick. And he thought that he was going to die. Because the sickness was so severe he didn't think that he was going to survive. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said to him, do you have a will?

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And he said, Yes, I do. He said how much he said all of my money for the cause of Allah. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, What did you leave for your children? He said, they are rich, they have enough. He said, we'll attempt meaning only one 10th He said, The Prophet sallallahu Sallam kept decreasing it until he said that no will only one third.

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Meaning the prophets of Allah some suggested that okay, a 10th of your property, give that in the way of Allah. But someone said that no, no, I want to give more than that. So the Prophet said, a lot of them said, Okay, this much this much this much, until finally the prophets of the law said a maximum you can give is only one third was to Luther, Cathy's, and he said that even a third is too much, too much, because it's better that you leave your heirs with money, because they also need it.

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And we see that there was a man at the time of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam who had who had six slaves. And right before he died, he sent them all free wine, so that his heirs would not get them in their share of inheritance. So he wanted to deprive his heirs, he wanted to deprive his relatives. So he said, all those slaves free. And the prophets of Allah said when he found out about that, he said, I was thinking of not offering the funeral pray for this man.

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Another person we learned, he had also done something similar and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, had I been present before his burial, he would not have been buried in a Muslim cemetery. I would not have buried him over here in the graveyard of the Muslims. So this is something very serious. We think that it's our wealth, we have control over it. No, once we die, it's not ours anymore.

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It has to go to other people. So let it go to them. Those who commit unlawful sexual intercourse of your women, whether these are prostitute women, or zania. Such women Allah says bring against them for witnesses from among you, when the guilt is established. If the testify, then can find the guilty women to houses until death takes them or Allah ordains for them another way, and later on the punishment was revealed concerning them. And the two meaning the man and the woman who have committed Zina who who committed among you dishonor them both, but if they repent and correct themselves, then leave them alone. Indeed, Allah is Ever Accepting of repentance and merciful, this

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ayah and later on, we learned that this was abrogated with the punishment of Xena. And these verses are also understood to be about those who commit acts of homosexuality.

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And this is why we see that any door that leads to sinner that leads to homosexuality. All these doors are

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Closed why to protect us from before. In these Wheeler the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said a man should not look at the private parts of another man and a woman should not look at the private parts of another woman. A man should not lie with another man without wearing a lower garment under one cover, and a woman should not lie with another woman without wearing a garment under one cover. Being This is something that is not permissible. And if an act like this has happened, an act of Xena or homosexuality, then if they repent in taba will,

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then remember that Allah is Accepting of repentance, but from who the repentance accepted by Allah is only for those who do wrong in ignorance or carelessness, and then repent soon after. It is those to whom Allah will turn in forgiveness and Allah is Ever knowing and wise. But repentance. Repentance is not accepted of those who continue to do wrong after knowing who continue to do evil deeds up Until when death comes to one of them. He says, indeed, I have repented now, or of those who die while they are disbelievers. For them, we have prepared a painful punishment. What does it mean? that a person who knows yet he opposes the law of Allah, and he says tilba tilba tilba his

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Toba is not accepted. Why? Because if he really meant it, you would have left the sin. Likewise, if a person dies without repentance, and at the time of death, or after his death, he repents, then that repentance also has no value.

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Or you have believed it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion, women are not property, and do not make difficulties for them in order to take back part of what you have given them. Unless they commit a clear immorality, and live with them in kindness. This is so beautiful, live with your spouse in kindness. For if you dislike them, perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes they're in much good. So look at the positive overlook what you dislike in your spouse, and notice and appreciate the positive. But if you want to replace one wife with another, and you have given one of them a great amount in gifts, do not take back from it anything. Would you take it in

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injustice and manifesting? Meaning if you take it back, you are committing injustice? If you take a gift back that is a clear sin? And how could you take it while you have gone in unto each other? Meaning you have enjoyed one another? Then how could you take something you gave back and they have taken from you a solemn covenant and do not marry those women whom your father is married, except what has already occurred? What has happened, that is done. Indeed, it was an immorality and hateful to Allah and was evil as a way, hopefully much Alaykum Omaha to come prohibited to you for marriage or your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, meaning these women a man cannot marry. Why? Because

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these women are who Mohamed. But it is sad that in Muslim households even women are not safe. Girls are not safe from their own male relatives. Sometimes the father sometimes the brother, sometimes the uncle, so it is necessary that every girl be taught to protect herself. Because there's a lot of perversion out there today. Sadly, this has entered the Muslim households even so it is necessary that every girl be taught from a young age that she must learn to protect herself. I once saw a young girl four years old. And a man a gentleman someone very knowledgeable, said Assalamu alaykum reached out his hand to shake her hand. And she said to him, I'm not allowed to shake hands with

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boys. I don't shake hands with boys four year old girl. She knows even though I mean she can technically but this is something that her mother taught her

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that you don't touch boys. You don't need to touch men. So girls need to be taught about this. Because this can happen. Even in the house. This can happen in the school. This can happen at a public place. This can happen at a public gathering. So girls need to be taught that this is something that is not right. If this happens, you need to tell me you need to tell your mother you need to tell your father. On the other hand, mothers should also educate their sons. Keep an eye on your boys. What are they doing? What are they watching?

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What are they doing?

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also forbidden to you or your father, sisters, your mother's sisters, your brothers daughters, your sisters daughters, your milk mothers who nursed you, your sisters through nursing your wives, mothers and your stepdaughters under your guardianship born of your wives unto whom you have gone in. But if you have not gone in unto thee unto them, there is no sin upon you. And also prohibited are the wives of your sons who are from your own lines, and that you take in marriage, two sisters simultaneously, meaning at the same time. It's not allowed to have two sisters married to one man, but if it happens that he marries

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One good one woman, she dies, and then he marries her sister that is fine, except for what has already occurred Illa ma cada Salah,

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whatever has already happened has happened. So now fix your situation and move on from it. This is a very important principle that we must remember in our lives. Indeed Allah is Ever forgiving and merciful to who, to those who repent. Those who made a mistake, those who do their Islam, then Allah will accept their repentance. Now many times it happens that a person keeps thinking about his past, the previous mistakes, the things that went wrong and he grieves over his past and he gets nothing out of that. Nothing at all. Bad things happen, mistakes happen, someone wounded you, you wounded someone else, you injured someone else. You got hurt, they got hurt. But Allah has also created

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passing time, right? Time with time what happens? wounds heal, right? So as things are now in the past, leave them in the past. And now worry about think about your present situation. Think about your future, look forward to the future. So let's not dwell in our past and work for our present and our future. Because where mistakes happen, if a person repents than Allah also accepts repentance from who those who made mistakes. So May Allah subhanaw taala Forgive us our mistakes, and he may have mercy on us. So panicle long will be handed a shadow Allah Allah Allah Allah Anta astok Luca to Willig. Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh