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Sulaiman Moola

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08 Jan 2016

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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam O Allah McCarthy Rocksmith and Delilah amin Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi woman he did have he had he wakatobi suniti he didn't go back for the college elevada Chiquita Hill, Majeed Ofer Connie Hill Hamid altavilla humanist shavon rajim Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim letta Jaden suddenness Jada was a Latina Magnolia who the well Nadine Shaku well as he then afforable Latina Latina call in Nassau Valley can be an amine newhome PCCW in our room burner or unknown la B roll sakalava lavrion honorable scholars, respected brothers, elders and friends, that is something that is disliked and

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repugnant in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And that is pride, arrogance and haughtiness, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has said Laia totally johnetta mankind if he can be here with God with or with him in Kibera, he will not enter Paradise, in whose heart there is an iota of pride. There is just a fraction of pride. Now we need to understand the definition of pride. And then the reason of its prohibition. The messenger sallallahu wasallam was then asked by a companion on a Bible. I'm very particular about my dressing. I like to dress nice. I like to attire myself, Well, I like to wear good things. Navy salatu salam said in Allahu Jamil on your hibel Jamal. Allah

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is beautiful and Allah loves beauty. the wearing of exclusive OR good clothing does not denote pride, but to wear good or exclusive and perceive yourself to be superior, and others to be inferior. There is pride. What is it possible

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to deny the truth and consider others inferior? This is pride. Why will a person with an iota of pride not intergender Olivia of Allah sallallahu wasallam because when the person has pride, it might be one crime per se, but it's an obstacle, a hurdle and an impediment to 1000 virtues. A proud man will never greet the messenger sallallahu Sallam says the one who greets first is free from pride. A proud person will never apologize below my dignity, who are you? Why must I apologize, they'll never apologize to you, so on and so forth. That is the condition of pride. The verse that I recited before you Allah speaks about the delegation of Christians who had accepted Islam.

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And Allah says, from all the other faiths and denominations that exist, you would find this group to be the closest to Islam. And what is the secret of them being close to Islam, and that is when the messenger sallallahu wasallam had sent the Sahaba to Ethiopia. And they took amnesty there. And the king at that time was a scammer, and he was Christian by religion. And he gave protection and amnesty and safety to the Muslims. And when Jaffer, the olano recited the verses of the Quran. He said this message and the message of Israeli Salaam is one in the same and he accepted the truth. And then Allah praise them, Allah acknowledge them, Allah complimented them. And Allah said their

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proximity to truth is because of two reasons. And this is the basis for a community to thrive on in terms of Islamic values and ethos that it can be and I mean, one PCC in our own banner, that amongst them, there are many leaders, priests, monks, rightly guided individuals. So for the goodness of a community, they need to be sincere genuine scholars, someone said it beautifully an ideal society would exist on four categories of people be available Dhamma will be ideal O'Meara will be Sahaba till as Nia obito her info Cora with the knowledge of the pious with the knowledge of the learner, if the owner Adama and they, in fact, in gentlemen, the one narration makes mentioned that on the

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day of the Yama Allah will address the occupants of Jenna, and say to them, ask me what do you desire? So there was a overlap between internet the pinnacle of bliss was What's there to ask now. So at that time, they would also feel the need to go to the scholars and the orlimar that what question or what request should we present to Allah, and it would be then told to them that request from Allah and ask Allah to reveal his countenance to reveal his beauty, which would be the pinnacle of of joy for the wonders of Jenna. Linda Deena apsidal hasna was a Jada, those who do good we have, we have reward for them, and we have a pleasant surprise for them. We have something separate and

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something extra for them. So the other might say the need of scholars would be something that would even take place on the day of the Yama May Allah protect our true scholars and guide them and keep them under

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is divine care, we will be dealing

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with the justice of those in power, those who have muscle cloud power, authority, those that are in the ruling power not to exploit and abuse their seat and their power to govern and execute with justice in one direction the messenger sallallahu Sallam said that, to establish justice and to establish the huddle of Allah is better for a community than 40 days of beneficial rain. We know now with the shortage of rain and they have to when we have rain, it brings such joy and excitement and happiness, because you know, you you you you experiencing the consequences and the repercussions of the absence of rain. And yet when rain comes, it brings as the Quran says

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it brings life to the entire place. But the establishment of the orders of Allah and the execution of just justice Hiram limited matale babina Saba and better than 40 days of beneficial rain. So with the justice of the governor's will be in Sahar within Alinea. And with the generosity of the wealthy, those whom Allah has blessed with Well, to be generous to spend, through that a community would prosper, a community would grow. And lastly, and not least, and most importantly, will be in Pokhara this application to the doors of the of the poor and the needy. We know not through their doors and this application, the goodness that Allah brings about. So Allah said this community came

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into truth because of two things. There was the presence of scholars that it can be an amine homeplus cc Navarro bana

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kabiru, and they were not haughty. They were not arrogant, they were not proud when it came to throw. The messenger sallallahu wasallam has mentioned in the hadith of Bokhari that a young man was declared, well dressed, attired, mounted onto his conveyance and he was moving to gebouw enough so these are the key words, impressed and obsessed by his physique by his appearance, thrilled by his appearance, look at how I look, look at my muscle, look at my cloud. Allah disliked it a lot Allah award that action allowed the earth to split, he caved in and that was the end of that person. He is off his chapter and his entire life. The Hadith where the messenger sallallahu wasallam said those

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children who spoke in the infancy a woman was missing her child she was suckling her child, and then pass by a person who was well clad, well attired impressive in his look, Mara, Rajan has a really impressive Wow. You know, right in the best of convenience clad in the best of attire. The mother looked at a child feeble, weak, small, simple toddler, suckling, nursing a child, she said, Allahu Ebony mithila who Allah one day this boy when he grows up and is weaned off and he becomes strong. Let me also live to see this baby becoming like that man. upright, dignified, got his own muscles, financial stability riding on the horse in movie there's no authentic narrations, the messenger

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sallallahu senseis, for tharaka said via the child detach from the breast of his mom, and he said Allahu Allahu Allahu Allah, please don't accept the daughter of my mother. I don't want to end up like that man.

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Last week I mentioned in my talk and I client I'll say it again. I wish the Muslim owner had adequate research on the Islamic history and the prophetic narrations that when I could reference a particular Hadith, each man on the strength of his own Islamic knowledge could tap into his archives and know what I'm referring to because he's ready. But alas, when these are these are brought to the fore, our eyes pop up like is this winds this way Is this okay? I'm not sure. That just gives you a reflection of how shallow our knowledge is, on basic, a Hadith of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it would be so ideal that if each man was carrying with him in his own archives, adequate

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Islamic knowledge and history, just a little reference and a little when the messenger sallallahu Sallam passed away, and then Abubakar vilano read the verse Rama Mohammedan ihlara. So, Allah min Kabila, Rasul as a matter Alcatel in collaboration Allah aka become Shani Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam is a noble human, but he is a mortal and he belongs to the galaxy of humans and prophets. And he was preceded by many prophets. And Sahaba said, we knew this verse and we read this verse and we heard this verse and we memorize this verse, but at the time, we did not refresh this verse. But when he brought it, each one of us understood the implications, and we could draw directly because we were

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familiar with the verse.

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Anyway, the child then

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latches on to his mum again and he starts drinking the milk of his mum.

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And while he's drinking and he's been nursed by his mother, and we know that

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Again, I'm just objectively digressing, Allah has created a bond between child and parent in the strongest of bonds is between a nursing mother and a nursing child. And you can express that milk into a container and into a vessel. But you cannot transmit that affection in that bond in that bond in what Allah Allah Allah.

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Allah Allah. Hola, unicharm Elaine elimine

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tim Barbara and tells the mums to embrace the motherhood and tell them to love their motherhood and cherish their motherhood and take pride in giving their children work. That was our glory days when our women were preparing soldiers when a woman will move, grooming and nursing and prepare and people could stand up in society with values. We're not talking about the historical better that the scientific benefits, we're talking about it from an Islamic perspective to start off with. So then she's nursing the child and then passes a woman and she's downtrodden and she's feeble and she's weak. Zen at syrup design at sarathi adulterous euro euro you receive your adulterous euro t if

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you're an adult and she looked at this woman and she said I'll shave you know empathy and sympathy and really said a loving mother Ebony mithila ha allowing my child grows up please Allah that not my child ended up like that. Not my child end up motivated by noble but by the apparent motivated by noble but by the apparent the messengers allowances for taraka sadya the child detaches again. Allahu murjani Miss Allah, Allah please make me like this woman. This levy of Allah Allah Islam says Fatah Raja al Kalam, your mother and child start chatting, mother and child. This is an infant the words of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam as Louisa Larson was sitting with the Sahaba and he

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said in the previous nations, a person got into the back of a cow, and he started writing it. So the animals said, Listen, I haven't been created as a mode of transport. I have been created as a conveyance. That's not the purpose for which Allah has created me. So the Sahaba that were present there, they respectfully asked Nabi sallallahu Sallam Subhana, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah Are we understanding you correctly? You say the animal spoke and this is a verse in the 20 years Jews. Allah subhanaw taala makes mention in Surah Shara that prior to Tiana one of the final signs of the Yama what is our waka la mucho of origin Allah

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better mineral or and when the hour will occur and the metal will fall upon them, we will cause a beast to emerge from the earth and the authentic narration say it would happen at Mount suffer with the Earth would split and this animal would exit and this is a verse in the entire Quran is the one verse that speaks about the Hadith, elaborate and elucidate and expound on it in great detail.

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We will cause a beast to emerge from the earth of Regina lavonda better mineral or the token the moon and this animal will talk to people. What would it say to people? The authentic opinion is this very next ayah anassa can ob it Nana, you know, why didn't you heed the warnings of Allah? Why didn't you change? Why didn't you change? And people would say that which we ignored from seniors and scholars, and from learned and pious today, we want to listen to it from an animal but unless it's too late, you know, sometimes your mom says to you something and you ignore it, and you don't make much of it. And then in years to come, your boss tells you and then there's a tear in your eye.

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And you say oh my late mom, May Allah give an agenda. She always said this, but I never made much to it. I have to hear it from the mouth of someone else. So the prophets of Allah ism said this animal would speak and this animal spoke Sahaba they were present. They said

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only we have a lot you seen an animal spoke the visa Some said yes. And then he said Abu Bakr and Omar have embraced it without reservation, you entitled to have your apprehension. Abubakar and Omar have have accepted it and they were not present. This was compliance. This was accepted. So yeah, again, the messengers, a lot of instances and the point I am impressing is that we need to understand in Islam, there is room for logic. Islam is not blind following because this is again, a thing that people have been told that not all you need to understand. You just follow there's no logic. There's no rationale. There's no application of your mind. There's no brainstorming, there's

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no thinking you're not calculated, you just take no no no. Well, as he said, really at the root in Allah, Allah basura, we apply our mind consciously, and we consciously arrive at the conclusion that Allah is one. It's just not something that was, you know, compelled or forced or imposed upon us. However, we do say that the logic also has a capture of point. The logic has a capital point, it cannot govern everything of your life. It has its it's a vehicle to understand it's a mode to understand, but it's not the be all in the absolute all. So at certain points, where it's divine, and it's beyond the realms and beyond the reach of your logic than Islam cause you to put your logic

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aside and then to submit our game to the Blackstone.

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And he embraced the stone and he said, Listen stone, I am a robot and you are a stone. And I know what I'm doing. You remain a stone and you're a lifeless object and you inanimate and you're not you're not a human living on anything else. But you also know that Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam was the noblest of Allah creation.

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He said, in Allahu Allah, Allah Murthy, Jamia, nursey Nimbus dunya Illa Allah miniloc li fi Giambi, actually Salatu was Salam ala Muhammad amin Bailey Malik dunya. The combined intelligence of the entire world from its inception to its destruction is like one dust particle, and the exclusive intelligence of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam is like the deserts of the world. So a been with such intelligence had put his lips there. That is what I've got to understand and submit and surrender, that the man with absolute power, knowledge, authority, wisdom, foresight, vision, fortitude, he had places placid loves their Lola and Mira rasulillah he Yakubu Kemal cobalto he talks to the stone he

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addresses if I didn't see the Messenger of Allah put in his head, I would have not put it but I know the Messenger of Allah put it that I have no reservations. Allah said say unto them, they face is not complete, it's pending, until they don't embrace the life of the messenger sallallahu Sallam in its entirety. But it doesn't end there to conclude your faith after embracing his life, politically, economically, socially, financially, morally, ethically religiously, then what does the Quran say to Malaya Ji doofy and foresee him Hara Jemima Bonita they must not comply heavy hearted they must not oblige reluctantly they must do it willfully they must read no no these are the teachings and I'm

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now you know we Muslims now we can touch interest no no I don't want interest I hated with a passion. I hated with a passion

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I will not be frequent in venues of sin and not like yeah, you know what we deprived we held back we don't have those options. No, no, I am grateful to Allah. So just embrace I mean, if your son you ask him for a simple glass of water, and then he stands up, you know, reluctant and then wait and yeah, okay. I'm coming in and father wants a glass of water again. Yeah, okay. A limit man living level really. That's not going to quench my thirst doesn't aggravate my thirst. There's not going to quench my thirst. Fellow Arabic. I swear by your Lord and the majesty of your Lord Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, and that again is the honor of the messenger sallallahu Sallam that Allah makes

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reference to himself as the Lord of Muhammad. Allah is the Lord of everything. But Allah made reference, follow Arabic law, you may know Hata hockey mukha FEMA shadowbane until they don't make you the arbitrator, to oversee and to arbitrate in all their matters. Hata you hottie McAfee Masha de rabina Juan de milania de doofy, unfussy him hard and then they don't feel any heaviness or reluctancy in their heart, where you suddenly move this Lima and they submit in totality. So coming back to my point.

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What is this like by Allah subhanho wa Taala, pride, arrogance, haughtiness, someone asked my mother I ishara de la Mancha, Mata, Alamo and Mnemosyne. When do I know I'm a good person?

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When your neighbors say when your friends when you truly believe you're a bad person?

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When do I know I'm a bad person when you truly believe you're a good person?

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When you sincerely believed that, listen, I am not a good, not hypocritical, not superficial, not apparently I know for myself what my reality is. That is it. Now look at the teachings of the messenger sallallahu sallam, how beautiful, how embracing because today pride is brimming in us. It's there. It's loud, it's brazen, it's blatant. I always say and I repeat this again, sin took place from the beginning of time. But sin was never so loud, so flamboyant, so colorful, so brazen, so blatant, like it is today. It's not like in the yesteryear, sin was not there it was there. But it was secret was discreet was with a sense of guilt. But today, it's with a sense of pride and

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accomplishment, with a sense of attitude. It's with a sense of attitude. And that is more more concerning than the crime itself. The crime is serious and nobody can trivialize it. So I want to make mention that that's one of the messages a lot he will sell them and then there's a particular dialogue that I want to share with you. Look at the balance between the two. Now when you are humble, that could be the potential that people abused you and exploit you and they take wrong benefit from your humanity. And yet when you arrogant and you're proud and you hottie then you are disliked in the eyes of Allah. Look at the balance in the prophetic words of Muhammad Sallallahu

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wasallam and this could only be a profit, this could only be a profit to strike that correct balance. Allahu Madani fee is Avira of the Union nasi Kabira Allah keep me humble in my opinion

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opinion so I don't become inflated by the comments of people. But overlock keep me dignified in the eyes of people. Allah keep me humble in my own self, so I don't make much and I know what my condition. Now today is the direct opposite. We are proud in our own opinion. And people don't think anything good of us. We think people have good opinions about us. But the reality is far different. In the private circles and in social discussions, what people's true opinions are, it's completely different. It's completely different compared to what they reflect. Anyway, the incident is of mamoon, Abner Moran, he was one of the great

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advisors and ministers of Amr Ibn Abdul Aziz and Omar Abdulaziz. His reign was amazing in terms of His justice, he enjoys the accolade of being the second Romer and many people had put his rulership on the edge and the pattern of the hollow fire regime, although there was a gap and an interval between them, but he ruled on that pattern, you know, just just to give you a glimpse into the richness of his rulership, that when his predecessor had passed away, and then he was attending to the rituals of burial, etc. And then they brought the state convenience for him to say that listen to the man in office, and now you'll be sworn in. So he said that I'm happy with my regular mule,

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bring my muse To me, it's fine. Currently buli Basilica de Hubba lava. And then he says, Listen, just keep a butler at the door. I'm tired, I'm exhausted. I had a long night, I need to retire to bed. And then we'll get into office and we'll start addressing the issues addressing you know, hands on not a matter of having a banquet and having a lavish party and having an inaugural bash, etc. And he just barely returns to bed and there's a knock on the door and lose it. It's your son telling him I'm exhausted. Your dad says you just want to give him a bit of a gap. He needs to sleep and he'll talk to you later. And I tell my dad, it's urgent I need to talk to him like now. Okay, Asha my son

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in that you do know that now the responsibility is on you. And you do know that there's been a lot of irregularities and discrepancies from the previous ruler. And now that you've taken office, all this is on your shoulders. All this is on your shoulders. Today you look at the political climate. You can reconcile this in your thoughts nevermind in reality. You can read consign this year. So he says yeah, I am cognizant about it but I am tired I by Aster, I will be up so the sun whispers into his dad's ears and he says men liquor be

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in a hurry. There I just have one concern. who stands guarantee that you're going to love the Lhasa

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brothers what we need to do in good we do now. The English proverb is the devil has no issues with our noble intentions. As long as it's for tomorrow. Tomorrow, I'm gonna change tomorrow. Tomorrow, no issues you can go on talking for the next year till the cows come home. But when you say I'm going to do it now, I sit in with the Sahaba he stands up he scans their shoulders, he dashes out they go into panic mode, like all okay such hurriedly and in haste, then he comes out. Only overload is all fine. Yeah, I just recall I had some surplus money with me. I didn't want to die with that in my possession. I don't want to die without getting my possession.

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I want to die with a hefty balance. What we need to do in terms of virtue, we need to do it now say that Abu huraira is conducting the discourse. He said anybody who's not in talking terms with any family member, please when you make amends, the man exits the gathering there. His aunt was living on one of the remote areas of Medina. He goes to his aunt that odd hour knocks on the door. She says I've come here but at this time this odd hour watch it when I was attending the gathering of Abu huraira Delano and he said we are not allowed to sit until we don't resolve that conflict. And I said I need to do it. Now this very moment. We need to take the seriously whatever issues need to be

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addressed. Let's make a commitment to ally this moment we exit the masjid and we do it may Allah grant us the understanding inshallah.

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So anyway,

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he said, for authority No, ma'am in veiny ama when he heard the statement profound brimming with faith rich with meaning and value, he stood up now imagine if you had advisors like this to the rulers, these were the people that were advising them. This was the cabinet. This was the cronies these was the entourage. This was the kind of inspiration today by and large bear you will find an exception but each man when he comes in, he insulates himself with people that he knows his interests are covered and their interests are covered. And hence we see the moral degeneration politically and economically and socially across the globe.

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For authority, no mommy mania, I know he stands up and he embraces his son Alhamdulillah Hitler, the afro Germans will be Marinoni Allah, Dini, ally, I'm so grateful. You've given me children that put me on the line. Whenever I go across wherever I i digress. Say number one, they stood up and he said people if I

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abused my authority. What would you people do? They say the hammer will straighten you with the same sword that you threaten others

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will straighten you with the same sword with which you straighten others. He said Alhamdulillah he levy gentlemen Almighty Muhammad Sallallahu seldom may you remove a recharger Rama. I'm grateful to Allah that there are people here that will tell me and address me and advise me when we reach a point that there's nobody that can tell us that is the recipe of disaster. When we reach a point that nobody each man has to have someone in his life that Listen, you need to tell me because every one of us are fallible, everyone I can be your father to my children. But I can't be right in everything of my life. I have more experience than you might have. But I can't be right all across

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the nibio Bella was guided to Viola was inspired. Then the viola was grown. I've reached a point that there's no body to advise me in my life. I don't want to digress, my time is running out. So maimone abna maharana was a close advisor of Rama Abdulaziz Rama Talalay. So he says one day I came to visit Omar Abdul Aziz, I found he was writing a letter to his son for widget to Egypt to the Sultan Allah evening, Abdul Malik Yakubu, we have a young Saku basura who has zero. So a nice rich, discussion, meaningful, rich, rich in content and in meaning. And in that he wrote he wrote to his son, what kind of images we have

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in common omniva himachali the answer? Oh my son, Allah has blessed you with many children. But you stand out in terms of your intelligence. We're in a lot of accident, Elena feasterville, Emeryville cabiria and Allah has been really kind to us in more than 1000 ways for the Korean Peninsula. alayka Walla Valley lake and everyday refresh your gratitude to Allah and how must we be grateful to Allah is the verse of the 22nd Jews in Surah, Saba

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chakra waka Lido Minerva de Shakur, oh my servants, display your gratitude. Walk your gratitude. Exhibit your gratitude, manifest it just don't claim it. Just don't verbalize it. Do it. Do it. When the son says Dad, I love you. Okay, okay, prove it. Simple. Prove it, prove the claim. Now let's let's get to it. If I may do in this verse. Allah says display gratitude. And each one knows what it is said now you know the Alanna said the minimum right of gratitude is that you don't use the bounty of Allah to abuse the rights of Allah. That's the minimum, that's the minimum you can do is somebody gives you a phone, you don't use that same phone and send him a nasty message. Use another phone if

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you have to.

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We're not condoning that. But I mean, at its least then only you you need to have some skin on your face. You need to have some skin on your face. The man gave me a phone and then I use the same phone and then I send that message to that same man and so you know what? You have an attitude and whatever it is some degree of regard. So refresh and renew your gratitude to Allah subhanho wa Taala. We're in yucca Valley, Kibera lava in Hammond, Amelie shavon. And listen, my son, I just want to talk to you seriously about pride. I'm really worried about pride. I'm not saying you have it. But you know what? Nobody is free of it. And I'm very concerned about you.

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What your cover will cover and as a matter of enamel, Emily shaytaan, who will walk me through movie? Let me pause and interject here for a moment and ask you to put your thinking cap. We live in a world where we need instant updates. We monitor things instantly. What's that? What's the latest from the score? What's the latest from the field? What's the latest in terms of the progress of the sick person last night I spoke to the nurse but any update this morning? What's the latest on the currency? What's the latest on your sugar, everything we want instant monitoring. But when it comes to the condition of our spirituality, we can stall it and delay it we'll see in Ramadan. What's my

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condition? We'll deal with it afterwards. We don't have to be instant and immediate. Everything else like you know what, in the morning is to stay in now. It's all I need. Now. What's the latest? We need fresh updates on everything. But when it comes to what's the condition of my soul and where my state is? We quite complicit about it. What Yaga well, Kibera lava Marina homina homina shavon nila bath la cabeza kitabi has le amarin Bella Vani hunka from a rough time in America in La Jolla, La La Bella Bunny and cache mania Jacob enough sick

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ajab hora de Baca Illa con la minima Taka listen my son, I get the stench of arrogance in you I get the stench of pride the IDI recite that Allah speaks of two types of crime Allahu Allah, your head broken, limited in the verse that precedes it. Allah says I have decreed and ordain and written and predestined everything Why? So you don't become obsessed on your achievements and despondent on your failures. You take solace to say that was decreed and you learn to comfort yourself that Allah has ordained this honor for you is not an achievement of yours. masaba me mostly, but in fill

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The LRP and forsaken in Luffy, kita Min papalii and Nevada in the donica. Allah Allah, Allah has captured everything and it's easy for Allah to recorded. Allah Why have you recorded it in advance? leka Allah, so Allah

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so that you don't over regret your losses. Now I must qualify the statement and say Islam does not advocate an approach of becoming careless and negligent and not adopting measures and instituting precautions. We've been told to take all measures in place, but we're not the custodians of the outcome of our actions. So drive slowly buckle up, follow the speed limit, but that doesn't guarantee a safety driving in a safety arrival that's in the hands of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Why Michaela?

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So you learn to say listen, something that was decreed and ordained, you take solace from it. That is why I say to people, people go for therapy, they go for counseling, they go for all this motivation, an article of faith and that the deed and destiny, that itself gives us so much strength to close chapters and move on in our life. We close it well, this is what Allah has decreed. His knowledge is supreme, he knows better, like a lot. So when I

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attack him, and you don't become arrogant on your accomplishments, on your feet, on your milestones on your accolades on your achievements, because Allah had decreed that honor for you, Allah hula hypokalemic.

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The linguistic difference between macdon and four Hor one refers to pride over inner abilities, intelligence, physical appearance. The other one is financial cloud fame recognition, running a corporate successful entrepreneur. Either way, Allah doesn't like you to be proud. Whether you have internal abilities or external you have wealth or fame attributed to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So my son, I'm a bit worried about you. And I get this sometimes in some of your statements as a bit of pride coming out, please, I'm gonna have to clip your wings and prune those strange shrubs in you, just to cut you down to size and keep yourself from action. Then he looks at me moon who was his

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advisor, he says, mamoon I'm going to open up to you something that's in my heart been playing on me for a long time. I need to talk to you. So multifactor a call in abney Abdel Malik, Pudsey, unifi, highly. We're in the honeymoon, phase, Alec, my son, Abdul Malik. I love him dearly. And it's no secret to anyone. But I think I've overrated him. And I have over elevated him. And I'm a bit worried that I've given him more prominence than he actually deserves. And I just wonder if this didn't create pride in him. So he's been playing on me. Would you do me a favor, go there and just camouflage yourself and then just have a chat with him and engage with him and see what's the vibe,

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we might have a son studying locally or abroad? You're going to this country, okay, meet my Sunday to see how they speak to his professors speak to his class. Colleagues see this eating? Well, those are the concerns and we're not discrediting those concerns. We're not saying those are fatherly concerns. I always say we have a duty as a father and we have a duty as a Muslim father, and there's we can have harmony in the two to see his his funds are in place, his fees are being paid. His dormitory is livable. His condition is decent, those are fatherly concerns and rightfully so. But then there is a Muslim father concern and I were both the caps on my head and I need to be cognizant

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of both. Okay, my son all that is in order but tell me what's your Salah, what's your halaal status? What Who are you associated? Is there any strange woman is there any interested relation? Are you not dabbling in anything haram or forbidden and we between the two priority has to go to the spiritual, we strike the balance and we take care of both. When Satan Abraham left his children in a barren land. He left him by his own admission robina in me has come to mean zuri at BYU in higher ed these are in in the bay at Cal Mohan Allah there isn't a blade of grass you're cognizant that there's absolutely nothing and then when he leaves robina in the skin to miseria to be wise in

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reserving in the bicycle Mahara. Now when he prays for them, it doesn't start off with the prayer of the food and the systems that have been led up masala Allah make them establish prayer. Make them those who bow to you make them those who prostrate to you. brother told me a nice thing I was giving a talk in one place. He says you speaking about prostration you know I must tell you they say men suffer from prostate cancer. But I think the whole oma suffers from prostate cancer.

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men suffer. And in our country, they say the prostate cancer among men is very high just like a woman has to go for her annual mammography and see that she doesn't have any cancerous tumors, etc. and May Allah give a woman and men good health. So we do a check on prostate but how about prostate? And then he told me another thing. He said you know the morning is the most the real period of mourning.

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The morning is the time to mourn. I say why because the machines are empty. I said oh man but great words. What do I do remain

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He first made to Allah make them establish pray. Then he said Allah give them sustenance and Allah, you know, give them the things of this world. So mamoon libnah Maharaj says I travel and I come to meet the young lead for the hell to Allah He for either woman. I see this young boy sharp and passive in his look rajanna Shabaab, you know, brimming with youth and valor and talent, you can see him it's all in his mind and his power and his muscle.

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So he welcomes me and he sits me down and we start chatting and he says, Look at me, Guru Kabila. And I'll hire my dad always raves about you, my mom and my dad always has high opinion. And I'm happy that finally we meet. I hope we can have a good discussion. We're in the larger public, so I spaced myself and I started chatting with the boy. I said, Keith, did you do something Malik how's life going? How's things happening on your side?

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Sometimes

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it's an approach than the change of reality. The English proverb if we change the way we look at things, the things we look at will also change. If we change the way we look at things, we know the hadith of Bokhari Sharif was Satan. Abraham was weathered and he's he went out in the search of livelihood Satan is Milan is salat wa salam and he left his wife at home and the old man came unknown that that was my father in law says would you allow me in Yes. Sister how you live in or we live in embed statement? Really, we probably the poorest in this whole community. We don't eat my husband is our things are bad. It's tough. It's challenging. It's really turbulent. It's in turmoil.

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It's Rocky. It's really not good. Okay, okay, no problem. When your husband comes home giving me alarms and telling me he might want to consider changing his doorstep. You might want to consider changing his doorstep. Maybe it's time he needs to just look at another doorstep. Okay, let's find the old man leaves. Who is this old man above and beyond the father of profits? The man returns the home Ghana who has a BA these are the narrations he sends somebody came home today you send somebody that somebody somebody else is a dangerous somebody is like other somebodies like somebody else here. Yeah. Okay, no, no, it was a children's uncle. Okay with Uncle Yeah, now we know can you

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understand this? No, no, no, no. It was the the band for the blinds. Oh, physically. Visually Impaired. No, no, you put in blind or sighted. Okay. Okay. So there's a lot of gray areas there is a lot of things that are unclear.

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loyalty is everything my brother loyalty is everything. If your marriage is loyal and faithful, you've got everything. alibaba.com Jamie Jose Maria Paiva loyalty is a tree that only bears good fruit. So he was his own man. And he said the spoke to me asked me I told him we live in in a bad state. We live in a bad state. And he said I must consider changing my doorstep. Okay, my wife, I need to tell you that was my dad and he's the Prophet of Allah. And the reference to the doorstep is the probably we need to dissolve this relation and I got to move on. I heard from one of my teachers. Allah makes a reference to Ibrahim is headin in the lemon juice of the Quran in Ebrahim

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Lucha de mon awawa Mooney Rahim is tolerant, a man whose tolerance was recognized by Allah even he gave way at the ungratefulness of a spouse.

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Even he said, no, maybe we done yeah, maybe we done yeah. This wasn't a man who said no, no, I used to you know, hasty is impulsive, he lacks he doesn't have you know, you need to be calculated you couldn't be so important. This is a man who the Quran says the Quran says is tolerant, the Quran says is tolerant but when there was ungratefulness from a spouse, he said, maybe it's time to move on his Miley Cyrus gets married again. And then destiny has it that he comes by again. And then he meets up again and he's ushered in by the new daughter in law and she entertains him and how are you know, to be fair, we live in in a good condition everything is good. What did I say? It's not a

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change of circumstances a change of attitude, change of approach change of mindset change of Allah Kumar takato. The constant crave of amassing more has made you oblivious of what you currently have.

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The constant crave of more I just need to move forward, up, increase. inch forward leave just this order. Allah Allah Allah Allah has made you hitless, we live in in good condition. And then, okay, when your husband comes back, telling him that he must look after his doorstep, he can ask for better, he can ask for better when he returns again, I have a perception someone came. Yes. Barbara rajala an old man like this year, he had a chat with me and these are my my expressions that we had. He said that was my father, and he's complimented you and he's congratulated you and the narration goes on to say that when Cigna prime asked what you ate, he said Aleph moovel, ma, we eat meat we

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have in good

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And we drink in water whereas there was apps there wasn't a grain in the house. There wasn't a grain in the house. May Allah grant us that gratitude.

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So he asked him Oh my young boy, how are you loving? He said behind him in a la jolla I'm living in a good condition. But I must tell you, I think my dad is overrated me. This thing is playing with me.

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So many of them are answered. When I heard this I said look at the hearts of the synchronised That said, the father is worried that he's over elevated his son and yet the son thinks that No, you know what? I'm not like what my father thinks of me. I know my own condition. I know where I stand. This is not the reality of it. So for akuna African Allah He I think I'm going to disappoint my father. I'm going to disappoint him, not deliberately, but purely because I'm not of the stature that he perceives me to be tragic to me at Fatima. I was amazed by this, but I said nothing because I was needed to space myself and I needed to check with him. So I said acronym in aina, Manisha took so

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like what's your livelihood? How do you pass your day? Typically, where do you generate your revenue from? He said, meanwhile, Let the earth in a story to her man Marisa and Abby. What the fact to Samantha mean money nashoba fi look at the whole breakdown because your income says everything about your values and your character where our money is coming from. That is key that is essential that's integral in terms of everything what we put in into our own families and their systems. He said mean hundreds of them. I had purchased the land which I have leased it mimin worry Taha and Avi and this land I purchased it from someone who inherited it from the state of his late father was the father

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to some unhappy men in leadership atrophy and I paid with this with clean pure money. There was no doubt in this money. There was nothing unlawful about it for Stephanie to be unfaithful. muslimeen so in doing so, I've become independent of drawing from the National Treasury in the sun of the moon, but I don't take any allowance from the National Treasury. I My hands are clean and clear. I have not tainted my hands with the wealth of the Muslims. I said great. Martha Amma, what do you eat? He said lady Latin last month. This is about all my variety. One day I'll have made laylat and others When was I don't sometimes I'll have your lentils and I'll have olives. Now this might be

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simple, but look at the nutritional value in each of this year. The nutritional value in this is great. We're talking of olives the Quran swears an oath about it was Chateau Ratan Tata promontory, Santa Domingo to bed donate go to donate was sweeter than lil actually. And that tree that grows excessively on Mount Sinai. When I went to Egypt when we climbed Mount Sinai, the Quran speaks about this year, the trees that grow there, and the produce of that Olive in the form of oil. It's a great gravy soldering, it's a great way in Arkadin for those that want to eat healthy food and consume the numbers and the boundaries of a lot. So one day it would be some lentils and it would be some olive

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oil a Latin halden was eaten. And sometimes I would have some vinegar and some olives, Wolfie has a balance and that's about my variety. That's about my variety. You read the the benefits of apple cider vinegar, and that which is you know,

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organic, and has not been adulterated and the wholesome and the many benefits in it, and the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would eat it also from time to time. So this is my variety and that is what I love what I said okay, that's great. A Moto G bukan. So does it ever cross your mind that you the son of the amuro Mini does it does it crush you? Does your does your ego play tricks with you? Does your ego play tricks with you? Does it the whisper these things to you? We don't know whose ego whispers What? The devil makes different the text to different people? May Allah protect one in all? He said yes, while I being the son of a great man. We my ego plays whispers with me he

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plays he plays these tricks. I often code that English quotation that some of us both the legacy of our ancestors, as if we were responsible for the achievements

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we say you know, you know my father was you know, my grandfather was but what does that got to do with you?

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Who are you my brother? Who are you? Each man's the hadith of Bokhari the profits are awesome said to his daughter Fatima. Fatima. I am your father and you my daughter the little I have you can take it but Fatima your reckoning will be separate on the day of Tiamat winds will be separate.

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Yeah Fatima sileni mercy at me man de la ovni anchee min Allah pulmoquin to be the amener Rasul Allah de mai you find to be a beacon. So I did get the whispers I'm the son of a great man and the devil did play tricks with me but my father sat me down. And we need to have dialogue we live in in challenging times with our children. We have to create dialogue and try and reach out to them. I mentioned this in one of my talks recently. They say when you with your children, speak to them about a law and when your children are not with you speak to a law about them.

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When you with your children

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speak to them about the law and when you're alone in your car, speak to a law about them. This is not so much I can do a lot beyond that. It's out of my grip out of my control. I cannot put a leash around my son and keep him here is that night where the best of people lose their focus and they indulge in womanizing and gambling, Allah, there's so much I can do what I'm talking to you to take care of them. When you with your children, speak to them about the law and when they are not in your presence speak to Allah about them. So my dad sat me down, and he had a good heart to heart discussion with me. And after that,

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I really took benefit from this And may Allah reward him My father is an amazing person. I sat with him and I'm getting more impressed with this person. So this is an amazing young man from Tucson who asked me

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for them arafat and Connor mela Johanna Camila Auckland Villa axilla, Devon Minho, Alicia city, Sydney, he was

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young but calculated, you know, tender but matured.

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You know, he's got values, he's got his head screwed on right, the boy is talking respectfully and responsibly. And this is what by and large our youth led today.

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In fact, in the tafsir, in many tough seas I read regarding satana Yaki Ali salam, Allah had blessed him with two amazing things. Number one, he was hustled, and this was an attribute that Allah had given to him exclusively. This was not something that was found in the other ambia and that is, he had no inclination towards a woman in any way. haram was not found in any Navy, but not even in halon hustle, hustle means Allah praise him that he had no inclination whatsoever. So this was a quality that Allah has blessed him with. But besides that, why aren't they will Herc mesabi Allah has blessed him with great maturity and understanding as a small child. So be the Quran says he was

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a child, but he was so intelligent. He stood out to the extent is mentioned in the UFC that the kids don't come, let's go and play. At the age of four. He said, we have already been created for entertainment and recreation

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at the age of four

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that stands out.

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So I had a good chat with him. And I was very impressed. And while we were talking, somebody just came and said, Your Majesty, Abdul Malik. They done with the bathrooms the communal showers are done. So I'm like, okay, what's happening here now? What's all this interjection Maha, the lady for whom? You know, if I'm not being too nosy in your affairs, what is the man talking about Abdulmalik? He said, No, please, you can ask me please this. There's nothing hidden in my life. He said no, basically, they've cleared it up for me so that I could use the facility. So when I heard this, I said in Allah, he were in Nigeria when this is sad, man. So Abdul Malik said, Murphy, Danica, What's

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so wrong and what's so offensive, that they have basically vacated and cleared the facility that I can use it?

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pride, arrogance, haughtiness. We monitoring everything microscopically. But what about the seed that's growing in us? How are we talking? What are we doing? Sahaba Oh, man, they were watching themselves at every moment. Yeah. Am I behaving? Am I talking? You can call your stuff but you don't have to be arrogant about it. They call me up and yeah, you

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know, you can call him You have to call him and Allah has given you authority to because you better or have

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been, da da da Ting, Li ba ba boom, ba one. So Priya

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Arabica, me management rule. I have made some employers and I have made some employees, not because you own more or you're more smart and he's less educated, because this is the system I have adopted for life to continue on this earth, that one will be dependent on skill and other one will be dependent on remuneration. And it's the merging of these two that will keep the Wheel of Life turning

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the verse of the 25 just one on

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one so Korea

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so I asked him does that those showers those bathrooms belong to you? said no. So then that that's that's arrogant. Why do you tell them to clear it out exclusively for you? What do you feel that is? Are you denying the man the revenue that he would get from other people using the facility at the same time? So suddenly, it's like you know what, you will buy the whole a space will buy weekly or the whole hotel is ours? Yeah, myself and my entourage will take over will take over you look at the exorbitant and the costs that get involved in in in these these these, you know, people flying in the entourage and the related things

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and what's happening on the ground on the other hand

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Kanika turi to enter Santa Monica home with Allah,

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Allah appa dari him. He said no problem is that men will be losing out

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Revenue I will pay for every other cubicle and facility that is there at the time I use it I will pay for the whole thing is that yeah you see that's your wealth that's talking that's your muscle that's your pride that's your because you got money you can talk like that, that that that is more blatant in you have he nefa to several surfin ha, lotta hockey Braun, number one that's been extravagant. And that's brimming with arrogance.

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So I said, Okay, okay, man, I'm appalled. I apologize. You tell me. So he said, No, I'm asking you. Why can't you access the facility with other people? He said, The truth is, oh, mamoon The truth is that many people when they come to use the facility, they expose the private areas. And then inevitably, I get exposed to the center of people. You ask people who use the junk facilities.

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As people who go to the gyms and everything is like to be cleared is abnormal? Like how can you become you're too close to?

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It's the norm you just walk around with absolutely nothing.

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Well, that's the definition of many people have clear what they say. When when the when the chicken is featherless. And they clean it and they call it address chicken.

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Breast chicken is when you when you clean it. So well. Maybe dresses that stress for some people.

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Let me wrap up time is up here. So what stops you said no, there are people there. And remember the teachings Islam is modest. My brother Islam is modest. The visa awesome said don't look at the thigh of a male or a female living or dead. I mean, when we when we are when we are bearing someone, and the teachings of Islam is when you bury a woman. And when when when when when Fatima rhodiola Anatolia delana I'm worried about something. So she said is what said when when I'll be buried. When I pass away, then I'm concerned about adequate cover over my grave. And I want to show you something that usma showed me when she went to EPA senior with her husband. And then she took certain tweaks

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and she made a little canopy like thing. And she's totally gnarly. That's my request, please, I want over my burial, you must make sure this added cover over. And it's that sooner that continues till today that for a woman we take that adequate precautions. Number two humans bury me in at night. And number three, I want you to get married and I'm even telling you who you must get married to. It was hard to clean. The Society was real. They were pragmatic. There was this prejudice and bias and this culture in this tradition, I want you to get married to my sister's a nebrodi and Nana's daughter, Oh, mama. So I'm telling you these are the three things I want you to do. And Satan are either the

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one who carried it out

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what stops you from using know people are not dressed properly. And I don't want to go in there when I get exposed. And I don't want to impose it on people because then they think I'm using the authority of my father on a day now he thinks like, you know, he's not running on the strength of his father. Now he thinks he is the army. So you know, people always have that that very eye to me. And they think so I don't want to tell anybody. And then I don't want to expose myself. So I wait for the fight to win when they clear it out. For me. That's when I use the facility. But oh mamoon Please tell me how can I find a way out of this way I don't feed my ego. I don't have pride and

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arrogance that I walk in escorted, and I have ashes. And then I'm taken in exclusively and the facility is cleared for me. At the same time. I said you know what you do? You don't appoint anyone. You don't appoint anyone to clear the facility. You wait patiently till the last person leaves at his time. And then you walk in as an ordinary mortal.

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So in that way, you don't get exposure to others. Nor does anybody make prior arrangements for you, which doesn't massage your ego Done deal done deal with Lola she had the hill billet medical to Aveda. It's very cold. And occasionally we need this hot showers Otherwise, I wouldn't have used it. Anyway, there's this moment of silence. I appreciate what you said. But I just have one request. When you meet my Father, please don't don't mention this to my father. Don't mention this keep this away from my father. So mamoon said I wanted to test him even more. I said inside any ameerul momineen anchor after to read one akeeba honey so when I go back to your father and he asked me so

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how's my son? You want me to lie and say no, your son is fine. No pride, no arrogance, humble, simple, genuine. Is that what you want me to say?

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So I said no, no, no, no, that's not what I'm saying. What you tell my father is tell him that I've observed certain practices in him which I was not comfortable with. Use vague and ambiguous language, or IE to fee and

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the whole society the whole community. The building blocks every one was amazing. When Satan a Brian swatted a smiley. It wasn't only smiley, that was amazing. It wasn't only Ibrahim. That was amazing. It wasn't only hearted. It was amazing. There was no one there less than the others in terms of impression and amazement, that it made up a complete society. Everyone was just amazing. The mother was unique. The father was outstanding. The son was unique exclusive. That's when the whole community stood out in its color and its beauty. You tell my father I seen some practices in him palace and I spoke to the boy I spoke to my

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PV we can attention demand right to finish a in for we have to work a burrito behind the fissara in a row and let my father know I took instant measures to address the wrong. I took instant measures to address the wrong for in a biela Yes, Luca and Kashi miralem to the hula hoop, the ANA la hapa who

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stutter, because my father is not a person who will probe something that hasn't come before him. If you tell it to him in a modest way, with limits in ambiguity, he will pick up the hint he will understand it, he wouldn't go deeper into it and dig deeper into it. Many of them Moran said that I supposedly came here to examine him, but I walked out more impressed than I could impress Phantom aravalli than when I had an accident when I haven't seen a father and a son like that. We ask Allah subhanaw taala to free our hearts from pride from arrogance from haughtiness. May Allah subhanho wa Taala instill within us humility May Allah make us humble creatures, I'm sure a lot of the honer as

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I said, the pious servants are those not only the speech will tell you that they are humble. When you look at the way they walk, you will realize this man is a humble servant like your ancestors