Ramadan 2019 – EP05 – Blocked Him-Her

Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah brothers and sisters in Islam Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh and welcome to episode number five of Ramadan reminders 1440 after the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to Medina Yes, episode number five means this is evening number five and that means very soon, one week of Ramadan will come to a close me Allah accept what has passed and inspire what remains. I mean, your appeal I mean, I pray you benefited from episode four of our Ramadan reminders titled, do not forget or don't forget, or let's not forget, and I will pray you benefited from the instruction and took note of the

action points and put some of your own contemplations into good use. After that particular episode, you know, many times we come across people who say it takes years to build trust, and it takes a second to break it. And that's a very unfair attitude and yesterday's episode addresses that. Today's episode is related to Allah subhanho wa Taala saying was still higher, and that is in Surah, Nisa Ayah number 128. And we continue with is related to husbands and wives because Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions this particular

in relation to a wife who fears

you know, for the safety of her relationship with her husband, she fears that husband will maybe sort of, you know, divorce her husband is losing interest in her. So, Allah subhanho wa Taala says was so high, right? That reaching a settlement or an agreement is great is good, is beloved to Allah subhanho wa Taala, that you keep the marriage going, but upon different paradigm. So for example, the wife can say that, okay, I give up my right to A, B, C, D. And, and, you know, based on that we keep the marriage going, I'm happy, you know, to forego these rights. As long as we remain married, maybe she sees this great benefit in that for the sake of her kids and nurturing her kids and the

kids having access to a present father, and so on and so forth. Allah says there's goodness in this, there's goodness in this. So this perhaps is a step after yesterday's episode or the steps of yesterday's episode. We also had, who added his wallet and soulful who do not forget the virtuous acts between each other so that you, you know, you come together here, perhaps both parties looked at the virtuous acts and they still feel, or the wife feels that the husband really is has lost interest, he's going to move on. So she takes a next step and that is to forego some of her rights and the same can also apply

with, you know, with regards to the husband, in the event that the wife seeks to leave. So Allah says was sort of reaching a settlement reaching an agreement is good is great is beloved to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And the scholars of Tafseer. They tell us that this particular mention in the ayah in number 128 is not only specific to marriage, it's a principle from the principles of life that in general, Allah subhanho wa Taala loves for principles to be reached for sorry for settlements to be reached. But based on principles, this is what I wanted to say. But based on principles, what principles Islamic principles, so every settlement every resolve, is great is

beloved on condition. It doesn't make haram halal or halal haram and this is the principle that I revert. So all settlements and resolves and reaching agreements is beloved to Allah subhanho wa Taala as long as we don't make haram Helen and Helen Haram.

And when we look at the context of the i O Allah subhanho wa Taala teaches us this concept of reaching agreements and trying our best to get there and by doing that, you will earn the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala and that is closer to taqwa and so on and so forth. Allah tells us to ensure that we stay away from those aspects that prevent agreements being reached. And Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions the greatest aspect that prevents us reaching agreements and that is what they're writing for so sure.

Where you, you know, you always bring to the forefront, your rights, your wants, your needs, there's no halfway with you, it's my way or the highway. Allah says this is going to prevent the soul the agreement, the resolve being reached. Subhan Allah

Subhana Allah, right.

So look how comprehensive the Quran is. It's absolutely amazing that Allah tells us this and then tells us what not to do. So that we can help ourselves in building our agenda and doing that which is pleasing to us.

Allah subhanho wa Taala so this is the instruction for today's episode My dear brothers and sisters in Islam and like I said, this is not only specific to marriage, this is specific to all aspects of life, whether it's with our relatives, whether in fact we're talking about relatives, Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us in at the beginning of surah, tool and fat and so tall and fat is said to be the surah that is dedicated towards community cohesiveness and community progress and productivity. Allah says,

Colin, and finally, yes, aluna Connell anzahl Colin and finally labor Rasul Allah says, De La Hoya ously. Who that have been, for de la This is the month of taqwa for Allah, be God conscious of Allah subhanho wa Taala will also live who and perfect fix and perfect Don't, don't just fix it, fix and perfect, meaning perfected in a way that it doesn't break again.

That being equal, the relationships between yourself the relationships between relatives, relationships between relatives, so hon Allah and when Allah says what are three Allah right, and what also Allah and obey Allah and His Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam teaching us that looking after the relationships between each other, even if it means reaching a settlement and foregoing part of your, your, your desires, your wants in the matter. This is from taqwa. And this is from obeying Allah subhanho wa Taala and his Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Right, so it applies also, to settlements that we endeavor to achieve. between us and our relatives also at work

between us and our colleagues, between us and our friends, who panela how many close friends Pamela fall apart, fall apart? Right? I know, I was created as you know, in depth with different characters. Some people have this harshness to them Subhanallah you know,

they, they they take a position on you even though you are very close, they take a position on you, to the extent that they won't even discuss the matter that they feel is you know, you know, that they feel is the problem between you and them. They just take a stance. And in today's day and age alone, Mr. And Luke, I don't want to belittle anyone, but I find it childish. We start blocking people on social media, we block them on WhatsApp, we make a point by blocking people, I blocked him and we feel proud about it and we tell people have blocked him. That's weakness. That's weakness. Remember, early episode we spoke about a goodly word. Right? And a goodly word comes from goodly

character, you know, some poets were sent to Mr. Malik, so that Mr. Malik could rule in their case by the leader of the Muslims. He referred them to my medic and my medic route. So, you know, they weren't happy with the ruling. And they said that they will attack Mr. Malik with the with the poetry. So even Malik said that, you know, to the extent what he said I'm paraphrasing you seem to them that you guys want to do that which is easy for every ignorant to do.

Every ignorant person to do you priding yourself on using your tongue in a way that's easy. Praise is in using your tongue in a way that is difficult and that is looking after it. Using your character in a way that is difficult using it in in the better way. Blocking people is easy for locking people is easy being patient

and and running due diligence and taking into account due process. This is where life is brothers and sisters in Islam. Blocking is easy stop talking to people is easy. Look, as I said I'm not maybe some people are listening to this who have done that I'm not trying to be disrespectful, me personally, I find the childish, like nursery school behavior. We stopped talking to our to each other as to the who that had been the conflicts, the situations between relatives was so higher fixed relationships between each other friends, colleagues, husbands wives, even if it's to the extent that Look, listen, you know, this thing hurt me. Right? I feel you did this to me even though

you're denying it. Right. But we have a great past together. I can't forget that. So insha Allah, you know, we're going to be brothers, but we can't hang around as we used. That's that's an agreement that's reaching an agreement and a resolve that I won't block you on WhatsApp. I won't block you on social media. But you know, we're not going to hang around like we used

you know, until the point in time, please. That's fine. That soldier is better than cutting the relationship. You know, cold tech. A lot of understand anyway, I think the point is clear. I mean, Allah subhanho wa Taala guide us and fix our face. I mean, until next time, Salaam Alaikum alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.