Family Values In Islam Part 2

Sajid Ahmed Umar

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do my dear brothers and sisters my mothers and fathers Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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I saw some of you smiling, because

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I thought my topic was what she was talking about.

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So,

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brothers, one has just defined it for me that after we have what makes sense, makes sense. I was supposed to speak first. So somehow something but God's purpose, which, right? It makes sense after Chef tofield I mean, basically, the gist of his talk was

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making manifests the importance of family, and how family

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can be a means of great propelling, of great placement for the Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because indeed, everything begins at home, charity begins at home, right? When Allah subhanho wa Taala brought us into this world, we didn't know anything, Allahu arogya.

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Right, Allah subhanho wa Taala says that he extracted you from the wombs of your mothers and you do nothing, right? So we are a product of the environments that we are in. So indeed, family is that entity is that structure that makes or breaks a human being, and does not allow failure. So with that, I've been asked now to touch upon the roles of those that make up a family, the roles that make up a family, and this is something that obviously,

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has to be prescribed as well by the Sharia, because Allah subhanho wa Taala does not create anything, and nobody does anything except that there is a specific purpose for which that thing was created or for which a particular activity was done. And this is the reality, nobody opens a book, except that they have a purpose behind the reading of the book, isn't it, and nobody assumes a role except that they have understood the responsibilities or they should have understood the responsibilities, at least of the role that they are assuming. And this is something that is clear to each and every one of us. I mean, we've heard talk after talk after talk, identifying the roles

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of the mother in the home of the Father in the home of the children in the home. And we have to mention the children as well, because the family or the immediate family is made up of this particular structure. And if this particular structure is intact, then we will see those that replicate or represent or resemble those that came before us. We've heard the stories of those became before us, isn't it? They were nation changes. They were mountain Movers. Right. And they only became like that because of the facility that Allah subhanho wa Taala blessed him to grow up in the environment that they were blessed to have during the nurture and during this nurturing phase

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that they experienced and the upbringing that they

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experienced as well. But the question is that even though we have understood why Allah subhanho wa Taala has created us in general, and that is for the, why is Allah created us?

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for eating?

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For what? For the worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So this is something that is understood, right? There is a saying that we eat to live in we don't live to eat, isn't it? So we all have understood, you've all answered that Allah subhanho wa Taala, his greatest worship, so there's no point me defining for you the parameters of our creation. And I know that if I asked you as well, again, why did Allah Subhana Allah, bless us with the entitlement of father and the entitlement of mother and the entitlement of sister and brother, right. And son, and daughter, I have no doubt that each and every one of us will have valid answers to justify these placements. This is something that

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we know. Right, but the question is, why do we continue to see dismantle families? Why do we continue to see children being brought up in a manner contradictory to the teachings of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. The question we have to ask is why

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Right, we don't need to ask what anymore. We have Rama, we have books, we have everything that makes clear to us the reality of our roles. But the question is, why are we not conforming to those realities? And

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if we think of this, we can bring it down to two questions. Right?

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And the first question I would say is, we have forgotten who we are.

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And we have forgotten why we have been created. If we understand these two questions and the answers to these questions, then automatically the reality of the lessons we've heard throughout our entire lives regarding the roles of each element in the family will become clearer. And we will become entities that implement right, the realities of those roles. So who are you Oh servant of Allah? Who is?

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Have you ever thought about that?

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If we asked this question, we can probably split ourselves into a few elements, we would say we are a body

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we would say we are in mind, obviously, right? Because the body will remind you something else. We would say that we are a heart because Instagram has taught us the reality of the heart. We would possibly say that we are a knifes as well. Right? Because we all have enough's. And we would probably say as well that we are a What else can you think about?

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A mind.

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So can say we are sold as well. So what is the reality of these elements that we've just identified? Let's look at a Muslim or a creation. This human being as a body. We look at this human being as a body we will see that Allah subhanho wa Taala has not placed any emphasis on the body. Allah subhanho wa Taala created you he shaped you in the wombs of your mothers, how he pleased Allah subhanho wa Taala said who will lead the use of who will

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fill out?

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Allah subhana wa tada shaped you in the wombs of your mothers as he wished. We had no

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position, no advice, no input into how Allah subhanho wa Taala shaped us and I want you to pay attention here because we have to bring ourselves to the core we have verged of understanding who we are.

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If we thought we were anything gracias bodies, they know and understand that Allah subhanho wa Taala has created greater things than our bodies. Allah subhanho wa Taala brings our attention in the Quran to the camera and how he created it. Right. And Allah subhanho wa Taala brings our attention to the mountains and how he raised it and he brings our attention to the earth and how he flattened it. So if you thought you were anything great as a body then know and understand that they are the creations of Allah subhanho wa Taala that are greater than the body that you have.

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In fact, when we look in the Quran, we find Allah subhanho wa Taala speaking in a negative manner about this body.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala when he describes the hypocrites, what does he say?

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What is our at home? Georgie buka

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Pamela, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, but when you meet them, when you see them, you will find that their bodies are amazing.

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Why is this in a praiseworthy manner not speaking about the hypocrisy in the hypocrites. This is in the 28th of Jews in the chapter of the hypocrites and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in nawala Jambo in

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Walla

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Walla, Kenya, Allah

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that Allah subhanho wa Taala does not look at your bodies in your outside appearance, but he looks at your hearts and your deeds.

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Right? So this should make us understand in reality what we are as a body. If we think we are great, our bodies that know and understand that Allah subhanho wa Taala doesn't look at these bodies. Allah subhana wa tada has greater creations in the bodies that we live in right now.

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What else did we say? We said we are a mind.

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And yes, the mind is definitely something great.

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The mind is definitely something great when used, should I say? because it brings back to my original question. We know why we are fathers. We know why we are mothers. But the question is, why are we not seeing the effects of these laws because the mind is not engaging this body and the soul and this heart and everything else. Thus we refrain from

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practicing the role that has been entitled to us. Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah has blessed this mind with intellect. Allah subhanho wa Taala has respected its intellect by engaging it in the Quran for Allah subhanho wa Taala constantly addresses the mind of Allah the Quran, Allah de Lune of Allah tada karoun in the Fie radical.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala constantly says do you think do you not ponder? Do you not or in this in these verses are science for those of understanding of us

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constantly addresses this.

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So, we are a body and we are

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then oh servants of Allah, we said that we are enough's as well. We are a knifes and what do we mean when we say that we are?

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Allah subhanho wa Taala has described the neffs in the Quran and described it as something that exists in three stages. It exists at a stage that pulls us towards

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a stage in which it is inclined towards evil. Whatever Allah subhanho wa Taala commands towards it is opposite to that coin. It acts in a contradictory fashion to the command. Allah subhanho wa Taala is in the 13th juice when he speaks about the neffs what is Allah subhanho wa Taala say? He mentioned the statement of the minister's wife when she said

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O'Barry own FC in

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Salah.

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Be soooo Illa in hashima be Allah subhana wa tada teaches us, she says that I do not

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rid myself of blame. Indeed the neffs is inclined towards evil, a great inclination but you also have a lot when you understand who you are and why you were created. You know that you are not created to follow the the inclinations of business, the desires of the snaps, you know that Allah subhanho wa Taala has praised another stage of this nurse, a nurse that acts in a better manner, a manner unlike the neffs amount

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which is that it is the nurse and know

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the self reproaching nurse and allows

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the person by this nurse

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because Allah subhanho wa Taala deems he prays with him Allah subhanho wa Taala does not take a person by anything that's not praise. Allah subhanho wa Taala says in Surah Al

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LA, OC mo ba, ba, ba

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Allah subhanho wa Taala takes a person by the name, Allah wa the self reproaching knifes this neffs that constantly trains itself to act in obedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala whenever it is inclined towards evil itself, reproaches whenever it forgets his duty as a father itself reproaches his duty as a mother itself. reproaches a duty as a child itself. reproaches it says no, I am commanded not to act according to the instruction of my loves, but the instruction of Allah subhanho wa Taala is

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Allah And when that happens, this neffs moves into a third phase, which is the contentedness the neffs

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and this is the knifes or servants of Allah and our children of Adam, that Allah subhanho wa Taala calls out to at the time of day when Allah subhanho wa Taala says yeah, a year 200

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Oh content knifes the self. This the self contentedness injury in our arrabiata Maria returned to your Lord pleased with your Lord and whilst your Lord is pleased with you may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant His death was pleased of us.

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So you are a body, your mind Uranus. And then as our brother said, We are a soul, isn't it? So what is Allah subhanho wa Taala said to us about, about the song about the rule.

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Well,

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has not taught us much about this rule. The secret of Allah subhanho wa Taala is the rule is a secret. We don't know much about it. But what we do know is that this room

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is the electricity of this body.

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When the room is in

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The body the eyes work, the ears work, the heart works, your hands work, your feet work. And when Allah subhanho wa Taala removes it. You still have your eyes. You still have your ears, you still have your heart, your hands, your legs, but do they work? They don't work just like this microphone. Yeah. If we remove if we disconnect the electricity, it will still be here, right? But will it amplify my voice? It won't. So it's the electricity of the body. And Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked about the roof and Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Why is aluna

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be

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key to

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Allah subhanho wa Taala reveals to his prophet when he was asked about the soul, he said,

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I'm very rocky, it's something that is from the creation of my Arab woman. Mila Padilla and I have not been granted knowledge about it except English.

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But we do know that this soul and this room comes out of our bodies in two stages of our lives. One stage is at the time of

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death.

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Right? It is removed and never comes back.

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And the soul is also removed at the time of sleep.

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Did you know that? Do we know that? Japan Allah Subhana Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Oh la jolla tower fell through sushi in a minute he had

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been be Miami here, Panama. Allah says that he removes the soul from the body at the time of death and for the body that does not die them at the time of sleep. And that is why when we wake up the prophets of Allah Allah He will send them to us to say what Alhamdulillah has already here.

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Isn't it all praise? Allah subhanho wa Taala, who granted us life after giving us death, and unto him is our ultimate return.

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Subhan Allah

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Subhana Allah who guarantees that the soul will be returned back to your body when you go back to sleep at night? Who guarantees that? And yet we guarantee futures. Time's running out pretty quickly. We also so we've said we're a party, we're a mind we are a heart We are soul. And we said we are a

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heart so we haven't discussed the heart.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam summarize the heart very beautiful. And let's just stick to that which is Jeremy's conclusion. He said, Allah in the field just

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said, could look

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at that festival Jessa Dooku Allah

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said there is nothing about yourself, your body except the heart. If this heart is correct, everything will be correct. And if this heart is corrupt, the entire body will be correct.

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So, understand that we are five things, understand who you are, understand who you are, we've broken down inside into five things. Right? And when you understand who you are, it's time to understand why you were created.

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You were created.

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We understood that we were created for the worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And we need to understand that if we're created for the worship of Allah then we are slaves of Allah subhanho wa Taala in lumen,

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all be in a rush man, after everything in the heavens and the earth are nothing except that they are in front of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala is aware of each and every one of us creation.

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So

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we know who we are. We know why we were created. We know the roles Allah subhanho wa Taala has placed upon us we've heard it time and time again. It is

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not entirely beneficial for me to come and repeat that which you already know.

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But let me end this particular session with something from series.

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Because in Surah, Yusuf Allah subhanho wa Taala defines our roads in the home of a parent. Allah subhanho wa Taala defines our roles in the home of our parents or parents in the home of the children as the families made up

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Yusuf alayhi salam, as a young boy, he saw a dream.

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A dream that didn't make sense to him. He saw the sun, the moon and the 11 stars bowing down.

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But he

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was the ultimate father. He was playing his role in the home, as he should have. And when you saw that dream, he immediately went to his father. He didn't go anywhere else. He went to his father, who is his hero, who is the one who teaches him values, who is the one who teaches him what's right from wrong, who is the one who teaches him about Allah subhanho wa Taala, who is the one that causes ease to his difficulties, he went to his father and related the dream, right? And Yaqoob listens to this dream from his son, after his son says, Oh, my dear father, in the most respectful of ways because the son knows his role in the home of his father, he turns to his son and says yagoona in

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beautiful ways as well. Oh, my dear son, because he's the ultimate power and ultimate dad. He says laptops

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do not relate this dream to your brother's less ratio plotted against you.

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So he commanded his son towards something.

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And when he commanded his son towards something he didn't end the day.

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Today, we always tell our children do and don't do, we give them commands similar to number one after

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he did an NDA he gave him he explained why he should not explain this dream to his brothers, because shame on is a clear enemy.

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And he went on to advise his son, that the difficulties you will experience is part of the famous that Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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has in store for him. Isn't this complete fatherhood?

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So in this dream, Allah subhanho wa Taala at the end teaches us that the Son represented a member of the family, and the mother represented a member of the family.

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And the moon represented a member of the family.

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And there are two opinions of Mr. C regarding this. But if we take one we find that they say that the Son represented the Father, and the moon represented the mother. And the stars represented the children, isn't it? So let's compare the sun to the Father.

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When the sun is out, we feel warmth. that correct? Do we not feel warmth? Do you not feel secure? Do we feel secure? When when the sun is out? it's daytime, we don't use as scared as we do at night, isn't it? When the sun is out? People work, isn't it? there's anything that takes place? Not so. The correct is anything that takes place. And let's compare the father in the home when the father is at home and playing his role as a father. Is there not warmth that is felt? Is there not anything that takes place?

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He works isn't it? He brings in the income?

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He wears the pants, isn't it? Is there not? security that is felt? Don't we feel safe when our father is at home?

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Let's look at the mother in law.

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Is it the mother serene and beautiful to look at?

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Like the moon?

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Is it the moon also beautiful to look at? When the moon is out? We see the stars, isn't it? When the sun is out? Do we see the stars? We don't see the stars because children are mostly with

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the mother isn't it? So when the moon is out, the stars are twinkling. And the way does the moon get its light from from the sun, isn't it? So the brighter the sun,

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the brighter the moon, and the stars twinkle even brighter, isn't it?

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Let's look at the mother in the home as well.

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The mother in the home is peaceful. She's beautiful to look at the children around the if the father is very effective in the home, we find the mother more effective as well. And we find the kids more righteous as well. Just like the status quo income, the kids are more righteous. Can you see these comparisons? Can you see Allah subhanho wa Taala teaching us the roles of the family members in the home samsara useful from the sun in the moon and the stars and you see that

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now what happens when the sun wants to be the moon and the moon wants to be the sun what happens then?

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What happens?

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What happens? You have an eclipse. You have an eclipse

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what happens in the home when the father wants to be the mother and the mother wants to be the father.

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You have an eclipse as well, isn't it? But associate Eclipse isn't it?

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When you have an eclipse, the role of the sun is not seen, and the role of the moon is not seen. And the stars are nowhere to be seen.

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And the homos servants of Allah, when the mother wants to be the Father, and the Father wants to be the mother,

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when we have a social Eclipse, and when we have the social Eclipse, the role of the Father is not seen. And the role of the mother is not felt, and the children suffered the most La Ilaha Illa How beautiful is that? from the book of Allah subhanho wa Taala so I leave you with this message. I have taken three minutes more of your time. barakallahu li comm for this opportunity. So what should you take from here today? You know your roles, but understand who you are, and why you were created and implement those roles. You love the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam show him that love by being parents and children upon the teachings of this final messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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everything correct said is from Allah subhanho wa Taala and is perfect and any mistakes are from myself when Shabbat and I see colossal Panama has forgiven us I love you all for the sake of Allah Subhana Allah Subhana

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Allah Allah