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About about the law

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and the federal Academy Columbia Law Hayden howdy howdy Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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Mashallah Marie de to have

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been involved in finance.

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Today we're going to be talking about something that is very crucial again because it is part of our Deen very important to us.

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And that is the relationship of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam with his wives.

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If you read the book of the law, you will find that the Messenger of Allah received this eye on the day of Juma in the city of Mecca and out of on his camel when Allah revealed and Yeoman acumen to lacantina community day I have perfected your religion for you. And in the same book, you will find that Allah subhanho wa Taala sing about the Messenger of Allah Lapa, the Quran, Allah config rasulillah he was watching Hassan indeed you have in the life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam an excellent example to follow.

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So now here, we are learning about the messenger overload being a teacher, to the students of knowledge. When learning Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam being a father to beautiful children, we're not gonna go and learn about the messenger overload being a friend of a Sahabi like a bucket acidic or the long run. We're not talking about the relationship between him it's a long ride, he was cillum and gibreel, or the relationship between Rasul Allah and the Sahaba. But we will learn today the relation between Mohammed some of the last rally he was sending him and his wives. So we want to learn the personality of Rasulullah, sallAllahu, Alayhi, wasallam, all in one aspect of that, and

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that is him being a husband,

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being a husband, or a father, or a brother, not a friend, not a companion, not a teacher, not a students just being husband.

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Now, since a law set in the foreign law, the Canada confederacy really was one. Indeed you have in the light of missing your overlord an excellent example. I want to tell you something. the household of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was normal household.

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He was in a unique because a lot of us are wow, look, he's a messenger of Allah. Look, his wives, they were out you should have alma selama Omaha Viva. They were unique people I cannot be like him. I cannot be like her. That's wrong.

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Because the purpose that Allah chose Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is for us to be able to to imitate him in every aspect of our lives. Otherwise, Allah would have sent an angel and so he is your messenger, you follow him, but he sent a human being so he can tell that we all the same level in a lot of aspects. the household of Rasulullah sallallahu it he was sending them had issues before we go into the dandy part of the lovely Paul and the intimacy part of the life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam I want to show you that a sort of line sallallahu alayhi wasallam life

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Any other husband had some issues with his wife's

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very normal.

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There is no marriage without struggle.

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A lot of young people, you guys watch movies you watch shows and you think marriage is what this little screen is telling you about marriage. Marriage is about struggle

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being patient with one another trying to understand one another trying to respect giving each other's space trying to understand their psychology between these relationships This is what marriage is all about are sort of long some of the long run he was Salim had some you know little problems with his wife. You can deny that look at the Muslim it

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was the whole Alberni min Hadith and man below Bashir are the last one.

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He said Abu Bakar of the Allahu anhu was passing he asked a permission to enter the house of rasulillah.

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Now imagine

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all while all the wives of rasulillah they came to the house of Arusha.

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And, of course, wives in the same house, messenger overload being with them, they start raising their voices, and they start arguing about certain things, of what color the last one he passed by the House, and he heard women screaming, raising their voice in the house of Rasulullah. He asked for permission. He came in, and then they got you know, scared literally because of a bucket is in

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a narrow the

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wrong home Ahjumma

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he approached his daughter, Ayesha,

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and said, How dare you argue in front of Rasulullah sallallahu. And he was saying, How dare you? Because of a worker, he sees missing your overlay. He sees a lawsuit. He sees a Navy, but I Isha she sees her husband. See the difference? is two different things. I will work he can only see messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he is the man to follow. He's needed to respect he's a nibi. But I Isha, she sees a husband, a person who sleeps person who has a relationship with her personally, the you know, sit together, they alone together. She sees husband she doesn't see messenger overlock in that aspect that this moment,

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sort of sort of lines in the long run he was setting them. When you realize Abu Bakr radi Allahu Allah being upset with Russia. He tried to come down abubaker Cindy, in some of the narration and says I Isha she run and she hid behind the messenger over last a little longer it he was sent him and she forgot about her issues without a suit of lice on the lower and he was selling them. And then they went for solid. They came back Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to Ayesha,

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in one of the narration he says k for 18. You can cater it to camino mineralogy. He said How did he see me protecting me from the man in another narration he said Allah, Allah Karina and need to be in a carabiner. She said, didn't you know that I protect you from the man I protect you from your father, your enemies know I was there for you as a husband. You know, look, your father wants to do something to you. He wants to yell at you. But I protected you from your father.

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And that was Abu Bakr Siddiq de la Juan.

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Also from the sun of nimbyism de la and he was selling them.

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We learn that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a very kind husband

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and what he used to do every day, he used to go through his wives and give them Salaam Salaam Alaikum How are you and he used to go all the houses and he will not have any intimacy with any one of them, except the one that he is sleeping with that hair house that night.

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Also, it was also noted that a sort of long summer long rally he was sending him his wife used to argue with him.

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And they used to be so upset with him that they will not talk to him for a night or whole day.

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In sahadi he said

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he said once I was talking to

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My wife, and I was stern with her. And she responded back with a similar attitude. And I said to her, how could you speak to me like this when I'm your husband? And she said, Hey, wait a second, you know better than missing your ovilla his wives, they also speak the same matters to him.

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He says, I got scared, because my daughter is one of his wives. So I run to the house of hafsa. I said to her, do you really fight with the Messenger of Allah? She said, as a matter of fact, yes. And some nights, we don't even talk to him. And these are assala some nights. We are so upset with him, we don't talk to him. And then he said, Don't you ever do that?

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Don't give

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them hard time. Don't give him a difficult time. If you need anything asked me. Be careful. Maybe Allah subhanho wa Taala would be upset with you if the Messenger of Allah is upset with you.

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That's why sort of La he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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he used to say to our Isha, yeah, Isha.

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I know when you please with me, and I know when you're not pleased with me. She said, How do you know a messenger of Allah? He said, because when you please with me, you say, I swear by the Lord of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He said, But when you're upset with me, you said, I swear by the law of Ibrahim alayhis. Salam, I shadow the law and has said jasola law, what law he, I only abandon your name, and you don't cut feelings. And don't be sensitive, I only leave your name, I still love your Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam I still love you. Now let us talk about Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and how kind he used to be and how he dealt with his wife.

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Now,

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Allah said in the Quran, about women and is talking to us men. Color Well, ahuna and Nadia and Bill Maher off. They say they have similar rights, as they have as you have rights over them. They have similar rights as you have over them. What does it mean? It means, you know, as men don't only demand your rights, don't say what Islam gave me this right? Well guess what? Allah gave them rights as well. He got to respect that rights. One of the time he came to an Abdullah ibn ambassador, the long run and Abdullah Ibn Abbas was beautifying himself was combing his beer, you know, putting a little misc fixing his remember before he goes home, and one of the students he saw Abdullah him in

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a bath for holla. You

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know,

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me, he said for you and for your knowledge and for your status. We travel so far. We make our camels tired because of the distance and you sitting here in front of the mirror fixing yourself like a girl What is wrong with you?

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Can Why are you fixing yourself? Call it a bus

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as a

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beautiful thing for my wife. I'm getting ready for my wife.

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And I find that in the book of Allah. And you say well, what can you find that you should be ready for your wife yeppoon one 100 mythical lady in the model, and they have similar rights as you have over them. So if a man wants his wife to if you want your wife to look beautiful, to look beautiful, and you should look handsome for them, sister Am I right?

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Yes, you want your wife to look nice. You want to look beautiful? But you want to Mashallah

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you want her to be thin and in like this and beautiful but you don't mind having little belly. You know? You want her to be you know, lean and mean and you got your chicken Yeah. And when

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Allah said no, he is saying what mythologically?

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You want her to look good? What Allah saying, well, you better look good for her as well.

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And that's why if young lady she says, You know, I want you to Mashallah go to the gym and lift some weights and start eating berries all the time with moose with banana enough, then you should take care of yourself. I know a lot of you are young men, but the older generation they think women should look beautiful, not men.

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Also Allah said in the Quran, wash Bill maroof. He said deal with them with kindness or men deal with your wives with kindness minmetals, you can be harsh on your wife, you can't be stern always like a, you know, you coming to a military camp. That is not how a relationship shouldn't be. You got to be kind to your wife. And we will see how many years some of the last one he was suddenly him used to be kind to his wife.

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I just said, but in the long run are describing how good her husband used to be. Some of the lohani he was setting them, she said was from the sun interviews a lot he was setting them. If I eat if I take a piece of meat, and I take bites out of that piece of meat. And imagine when someone bites a piece of meat, what happened, you know, the person before they used to share the piece the same piece of meat so you take a bite of that piece of meat and you give it to someone else and your wife or someone and they take a bite of that. I said when he when I take a bite for my piece of meat Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would look where my teeth Mark were and he used to take a

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bite from the same spot.

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If I drink from a cup

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and I take a sip from the cup, and I give it to her solara sola will turn the cup so my lips he I mean his lips would hit the same spot that my lips were some of the lahardee he was suddenly

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to show that he loves her to show you know, this is this is from the center of Nabi sallallahu. It was it? Is it non Muslim nowadays, especially how Hollywood movies. They said a wife will bring a sandwich for her husband and she would take a bite. And they said this is a love bite.

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Right? You know, she ate half of the sandwich and said this is a love bite for someone nom Heidecker, Antonia why eat my son. And she took out a Love Bites messenger overlay. She took a love bite for my meat. I'm taking the same. I'm putting my teeth and my lips exactly where I shadowed the loved one. Put her lips and teeth.

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I just said Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam I used to sit kneel on the wall and a sort of law he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to come down and he used to put his head on my thighs. And you can imagine her stroking his hair, some of the mahadi he was selling them, you know, rubbing his forehead, you know, touching his beard some of the law while he was selling them. And this she said, and I was in that time of the month that I'm not even praying before the time of jania if the lady is in that time of the month, do you say no no, no, she's impure. Like the other face that we know. There's no no she's impure. But I just said I miss and your overlay. I used to put his head on my

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thigh and I used to hold his said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. This is you always see this on movies. You know, you see these two people in love under a tree and he's leaning in slit sleeping on her thigh and then Mashallah she's playing with with his hair. This is the Sunnah they took it from a son of nimbyism, the Long Island he was

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one of the older Yesha Somalian

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his wife she came she wants to sit on the internet put her head on his on his side. Now

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more than a year of me. What do you think I'm a chair, you know? Get away get away from me.

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She said but the shift said we have to be kind nakamuraza for you. So go sit there

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is it's different. This go away for me go sit over there. Why you have to sit close to me The living room is spacious. But is is no No, no. Rasulullah sallallahu it used to come sit on my thought. I mean, put his head on my thigh and so on.

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Not only that, I just said the

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messenger over last Friday, he was setting them. We used to walk together. Work going out together. Look right now you walk especially the summertime. You see this couple men and women, you know, walking together in a park in a holding hands, talking, conversing, you know, beautiful relationship. She's talking, he sees talking, she's talking he's listening miskeen listening, Mashallah. You know, because mean, man, we men hate to talk. We hate to talk. So the best thing is when she talks and you listen, you know, but look, I just see Sarah de la Juana

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on it, either

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I believe Sara mine when the night comes because during the daytime, maybe he was so busy with the sun falls after sunset Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam will take out Isha. And they will go out for a walk, especially

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on a full on the full moon. Danny, how romantic is that about a lot. How romantic that you Your wife is at home, you know, she's been with the kids, or maybe she works and she came back she's tired. And then you say love, let us leave everything. You take your wife's hand and you go out of the house and you walk together fresh air, very common night or any other time. This is the son of Rasulullah sallallahu. It is not something that we learnt from other nations. It is a sin that we neglected as Muslim men.

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No Muslim men, we negative because we mix in culture and Deen and we think as a man as a husband. You know your job is to provide for the family. Make sure you drive kids to school, make sure you do some shopping, make sure you know that's not your job only that's part of your job. Your job is to be romantic is to be a husband like Rasulullah he some lohani he was suddenly

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in another narration eyeshadow de la Juana.

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She used to say

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that he used to joke with me, and I used to joke with the messenger of a loss of the laferrari he was and he said one night I said to him, I say Yara Salama, if you have camels, look at the analogy. If you have camels, and you come to a valley and the Valley has trees here and there and there, and you have one camel, you know a certain camels and the trees being eaten by other camels. But you have one tree that was not touched by any other camel, would you take your camel to those treaties being eaten by other camels? Or the untouched tree? So the messenger ovalized smile? He said, No, our taking my camel to the untouched tree. And she said yep.

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You know what, what that meant to her? She's like all of you otherwise they've been married before, but I wasn't married before. So she's saying I am that tree. And you otherwise you know, she said you know I'm hamdulillah I had no other relationship. Mashallah, you afresh. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam understood and he smiled and said, Our take my camera to that untouched tree.

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I saw the law and also narrated that are so long so long while he was in it was one of them was not one of those lazy people who come home and say, you know, I've been working all day long. You know, I'm tired. You know, just where's my sandwich and just let me watch football? No, she said when the messenger overlord used to come home, he used to help his wife's birthday party the holiday. La Hoya Salim kanopy Nina t le. When he comes home, he used to help his family around.

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He wasn't Look, he wasn't he he never used to work. She had no job. She had no children. She has no dependent. She was a young lady. Mashallah. But when the messenger overlord used to come home, he would help IE around the house. He never used to say what did you do older you've been sleeping all day long.

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No know he would come and help her around the house or the law.

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Also, from the son of Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam is used to give gifts to his wives. How do you

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now messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, if you want to love one another, exchange gifts?

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What do you

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What did he say? If you want to love one another exchange gifts.

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Now who do you want to love you most? And who do you want? Who Who do you want to love your wife? So what sort of line so the longer it was I just said, People used to give us gifts. And he used to give those gifts to his wife. And then people would give to her a gift gift gift sort of sort of lines on the lahardee he was sending out a sort of lines and a lot more it he was setting them would give those gifts to his wife or the law firm and

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also, it

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Sri Lanka Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to praise his wife, she said, he said about me.

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In comparison to other women, she's like 32, the rest of the food 30 was the best fruit of the autumn. So he said, all different types of food are good. But the best food is this type of food. And I like the rest of the woman, she's the best, which means you used to praise her in a way that he can understand. You can praise your wife today. And if you How many of you by the way, that Nero ghanta How many of you are married?

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Oh, good god.

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How many of you are not married?

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How many of you are confused?

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Because some of you didn't raise hand this before. You must be confused. How many of you are confused whether you don't know whether you've married or not?

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Well, guys, if you're not married tabara Cola, just look back. I'm just kidding.

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I'm just kidding.

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If you're not married, majority of these guys are single.

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A majority of the decisions are single insha Allah, as soon as I finished my lecture shefali will be there inshallah. Anybody who wants to get married, come here, inshallah, this side

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and bring your wife to the sister you want to marry.

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So I assume she said, my husband, then if you guys are not married, then this is for you, as well. Because when you get married, you need to know how to praise your wife.

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How to praise your wife, what to say. In one of the guys, I said, you know, he just they just got married and they have little issues and see what he has to do you know how to appraise your wife. He said, I you know, I say I love you all the time. I said that was good. He said, but she keeps asking me to tell her that I love her again. But I told her I love her last week. Why? And you have to say I love her again.

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Okay, Amanda, and yet praise your wife. So

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these kids,

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I said, say something nice to your wife. And he said,

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baby

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You look like French fries to me.

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I took a book and I smacked him with the book. That's the best you could come up with that you look like a french fries.

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You know, never like you look like a beautiful rose to me. You know, you smell so nice. And you know, you look like a french fries. So what do you mean? Are you starving or something?

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Well, no, the Messenger of Allah is teaching us how to praise our wife praise her would the things that she likes about the things that she likes, you need to know what your wife life and then you take that and you praise as a matter of fact, in the sun, you should excessively praise your wife, it is allowed for you to tell about your wife or even about your husband something that is not really is

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if you can say something that she Mashallah she is used to you beautiful, Mashallah. But you say, I have never seen anyone as beautiful as you are. Mashallah. And

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so, is that, is that true? Is that? Yes, that's true. Maybe? That's so true. And then,

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is that what you say, brother say, but, you know, we should not lie. The Messenger of Allah say, these conditions these times, you're allowed to be a little bit extra.

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You're allowed to exaggerate little bit about the beauty of your wife, and so on.

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Is Chateau de la Miranda.

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She used to say, my, the Messenger of the law. He used to be so concerned about me some Hannah law. He knows he's busy during the daytime. She knows he's dealing with the enemy outside. He knows he's dealing with internal issues. He's dealing with the way he's dealing with the TA with the teachings of the oma solar solar Alliance. He was in he used to leave the house, the house and before he goes and get busy, he used to go to her friends is his friends. And he used to say, I left the house. Why don't you go keep Ayesha company Why don't you go and stay with my wife

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and he look how concerned he used to be some of the law while he was selling. Not leaving her all day long. Eight hours, 12 hours, you know

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Not caring about it. He said okay, why don't you guys go and spend some time with my wife Ayesha have fun.

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That is called being considered and loving by the messenger over loss of the long run is

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also a by the law, but a sort of learning some of the longer it was so proud that he loved it Chateau de la Juana and he loved his wives. When a hobby came to him, and he said Yara, Solomon Abernathy, who do you love most? Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not shy to say, I love my wife. I'm sure most and then there's a harvest. No, no, no, no, I'm asking about men. He did not say I love have a backup but purpose. He said, I love her father most to give my Isha credit. She has to be part of the sentence. First he said I love Ayesha. straightforward, but now there's someone else that he loves himself. He was selling he said I love her father issues father most

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so for you if someone says to you, you know who do you love? How calculate your answer. Well, wait, it's not your of your business. No, he as you know, you know what? I was raised in some of the out of country. If you say anything about it, who do you love?

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Oh man, yeah, the mother of the children. He will not even say I love my wife Fatima. I love my wife Khadija I love my wife, Sue me. No, he would not mention her name because some of them they think mentioning the name of a wave is displacement.

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You mentioned some of them they say May Allah protect you. She's waiting on home.

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What is the common law? May Allah honor you? Which means as though she's a donkey or dog? No. You should be proud like Rasulullah Who do you love it? No hesitation. Not like what do you mean? No, I love I love the law.

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Also Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He taught us to look at our wives. But look at what do you like most? Right? You look at her Mashallah. You're allowed to look at your wife. It's not Haram. By the way. You don't have to lower gaze at home and say, Oh,

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you know, don't lower your gaze at home. You can look at your wife.

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And that's why Anivia sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he was asked about the righteous, a righteous wife. He said, Men either number two, he has some risk. He's a righteous way the description of righteous wife is the one that when you look at her, she pleases you.

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she pleases you, honey, you look and don't look at the places that you're not happy with.

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Look at the places and things that you like about your wife. Because maybe some of

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them are in Korea, Amina also could be and if he dislikes something about your wife, you look into something that you like about her Yeah, needless to say, you hear you hear phrases beautiful Mashallah concentrate on her face. But if she has short fingers for the day for a year, say for example, for whatever reason,

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like Mashallah, a whole goat can go through her legs and head away and she has, but you know, don't concentrate on what you don't like about your wife. concentrate on what you like about your wife. Same thing your husband

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Mashallah min Samadhi, the maturity radiance, right?

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They all we have his tiny legs, including me, you know, but the messenger don't concentrate on what you dislike about your spouse. No, concentrate on the things that you like. So if you like her hair, praise her hair. If you like his smile, you praise His smile, sister. It showed the long run. She said she's teaching us how the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to deal with his wife. So he said many than a lot of things he has said not the one that when you see her, she pleases you. It is perfectly fine to look at your wife, as it is perfectly fine for a sister to dress up for her husband.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala so what I said what are you Dina? Xena tahuna they should not show the beauty to someone else other than their husbands. So sisters, when you go home, what law he most of the men, they complain and I'm telling you a lot of you are not married but take this in you know consider this

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Most of the men they sing when we come back home our wives do not look like the women outside.

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They don't look like the women outside. Because in this society a lot of women they beautify themselves outside, you know, makeup outside, nice outfit outside, but inside

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inside, it's not a big deal.

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Outside, you know, you see a sister she's all makeup Mashallah makeup, by the way does wonders, you know, he will make this sister who looks like in Allah tabarrok Allah, you know, all of this. And then she goes, he comes home and she removes everything.

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And he says, sister,

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you beautifying yourself from the people. No, no, no, no, she'll say, I don't put makeup for others. I have self respect. I put makeup on myself.

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I said, Cobra, Kay, Tamara cola. Do me a favor. You do this for yourself. Hmm. You don't want to show off? Yes. I don't want to show up. You care less about what people think of it. Yes. Tonight before you go to bed. But you go to bed, put the best makeup and then go to bed Mashallah.

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None of them will do that. Nobody will go to sleep with makeup on but they will go outside with makeup and remove the makeup when they come inside is the other way around sisters. When your husband come home, he should see his beautiful wife

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and he will forget everything outside everyone outside. But if he comes home and there's a lot of fitness outside, and he comes home, I'm running out of time, five minutes. So five minutes.

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Okay.

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When it comes from outside and he sees someone like Tabata column, then he wants to go back home and be in with the public by.

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Other thing is from the son of nivia sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with his wife. He never used to say anything bad about his wife, never used to mention anything negative about his wife's.

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Anything that happens between them is between them.

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Know that he goes to the coffee shop or he goes to his friends, or she did this. She said this, you know, she's like this. No, the messenger over loss of the law while he was sending them would never do that. And it's against the son of Rasulullah sallallahu. It he was sending also another law from the son of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, His Messenger of Allah used to come and kiss his wives,

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kiss his wife, see the sun. So he had Bahati that I just said, messenger overlock before he leaves his house, he used to kiss his wife. And I said then I used to see the messenger. You look at the messenger through the curtain, and he used to go to the mirror straight to the Salah, you did the Salah. Again, kissing your wife when you come home, and kissing her before you leave the house is not something that we inherited from the Western society or from the movies. It is the son of Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam. When a lot of people in the West women used to be considered as something evil messenger of Allah used to analysis and give women their rights. And you can read the

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history of mankind, if you like. And I sort of liked some of the long run he was selling them.

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He used to like to smell nice for his wife. And I Isha sort of the last one, I can see the whiteness of the shining of the mist on the head of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Why? Because messenger overload always used to love smelling nice. And that's what is sort of that when Allah subhanaw taala said in the Quran, yeah, you have never Ulema to hardly mama Holla Holla Tabitha,

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what happened? One of the wives of the Miss two of the wives of the Messenger of Allah made it made a deal. And they said, well, so on. So she gives it a sort of like, honey, some of the low values, and we don't have honey. So what we do, you know, so he because he goes to her house a lot for the honey, when he comes home, you tell the messenger overlap, or what did you eat? And he says, Oh, I just ate honey. Oh, you smell funny. jasola and then, okay, okay. He said, maybe. And then he said, when he comes to me, I'll do the same thing to him. And then he came to the other wife. I said, Oh, what did you eat? He said, Honey, and she said, Oh, maybe that's why and then he said, Well, I will

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never eat honey again.

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And Allah said, Yeah, are you honey Vu Oh prophet of Allah.

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What would you make out on what Allah made in Holland for you? You want to please your wife? See, you will tell us what you want to please your wife, because you are so eager sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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to please his wife, and that's when suddenly emerged. She said, if they said what was the first one the messenger overlay used to do when he comes home? She said he used to use miswak because you weren't fresh smell, fresh breath, you know, nowadays, Mashallah, before you come home, you know, pop in one of those minutes Mashallah Tabata color, some of the brothers they may eat garlic, and when they say, Honey, the sisters that your family he passed out

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and then

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we actually had that before. No, you gotta you gotta beat it. You gotta smell nice, you know? Make sure you take care of your personal hygiene Mashallah Tabata Kola, well one of the sisters that you know if she said if my husband raises his his arm

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she says some of the kids may pass out.

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That's not from the Sunnah.

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The man has to look nice and has to smell nice, has to be fresh, both each other because you can't be that close to anyone else. Anyone else other than your wife or your husband. So if Mashallah Tabata color when you are that close, there's discomfort. That's not what the nivia subtler lohani he was suddenly taught us the evening. Also about the law. I want to conclude with this because my time is really running out.

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Always missing your overlock taught us to be patient and kind to our wives at the time of argument and disagreement. And it is very, very natural for you to and remember, both of you are for each other we internalize and Hannah wattana always as an idiot, civil Allahu Allah He will send them set Be gentle towards one another and along with that marriage. If a law was paid for family, he would place gentleness between the spouse and inshallah we would have study I think my time is up, which is up from the law Hello sir Malik Muhammad Allah