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Bismillah Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah ala alihi wa sahbihi wa, Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. To everyone joining us here live humbler, it is good to be here. It's good to be doing another live session. I know there's people here live. So when you comment in the comment section, I will be reading it because we will be doing a discussion in sha Allah. Try to mention where you're from, because it's always nice to see where people are joining us from. So the way this is gonna go. The way we're gonna have this session today is I'm going to do a fairly brief and I'm going to try and keep it concise introduction. I'm going to give you my reasoning why I

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don't celebrate Halloween, I'll break down the issue. And then we'll have a discussion. So if you think have some some questions while I'm speaking, you can post them and then we'll we'll take it from there. I'll try to try to do it first come first serve. So whoever asked the question first, I'll address that question first. Inshallah. You're free to ask whatever you want, or say pretty much whatever you want. And I'll try my best to answer. All right, Mr. Miller, let's get started. Why I don't celebrate Halloween. Now. This issue before we get into Halloween, a couple other issues that we need to break down. And I don't want to get too technical here. And I know sometimes people

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get bored with the technicalities. So I'm going to try and like I said, keep it as concise as possible. But we have to first go back to the issue of imitation, imitation of other religions, imitation of other nations. This is a principle which is well known in Islam, that it is not permissible for us to imitate other nations or other peoples. Now, what does that exactly mean? Well, that is what we're going to break down in sha Allah. So first of all, this comes from the Hadith of the prophets of why send them one other Hadith it's not just one Hadith. Sometimes people think if you quote when Hadith think there's only one Hadith regarding this issue. There's not only

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one Hadith, but this is the main Hadith regarding this issue, hadith of Omar mentioned in widowed in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa said them said, Men, the Shahabi are meant for our main home, meaning wherever imitates a nation, Whoever imitates a people, then they are from them. Now, why is that serious? Why is that a big deal? Well, when the prophets I send them says, for one min home there from them, meaning they're not we it means they're not from us, right? So a person can no longer attribute themselves to the Mohammed some Allah Allah He was sent them. And so that is the meaning here. That's why it's such a big deal. The prophets, I send them says they're from them,

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meaning they're not from us. They're from them. And that is why this is a very serious matter. Now, once again, what exactly are we talking about when we talk about imitation or emulating or copying

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or resembling another nation. Now, our scholars break this down into two categories. Number one, there is that type of imitation that has been referred to in this hadith, which is the Haram type, the prohibited type of imitation, which is not allowed, then there is a type of imitation, which is permissible, and we're going to break that down as well in sha Allah. A lot of times people have this misconception that all imitation is bad, any type of imitation of non Muslims is something which is bad.

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Mother was saying, yeah, yeah, keep your questions. Always asking, like was said on first of all, keep your questions relevant to Halloween, that would be preferable. Insha Allah, if we have time, I'll get to other questions as well, but I prefer to keep it on topic. Anyhow.

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So,

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as I said, some people have this misconception that all type of invitation is bad. And that is not the case there is a type of invitation that is bad, what does that type of imitation? Well, first of all, even among the type of imitation there is imitation, that is or I should say, among the prohibited type of imitation, there is imitation that is

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much worse, and that is imitation, where a person desires to be non Muslim, right? So in their heart, they desire to be like non Muslims to the level that they don't want to be Muslim. Right? They think other religions are better than Islam. And so this is the type of person male or protectors, the type of person who may be Muslim. Just by title, right. So maybe a person is, you know, they are born in a Muslim household and, you know, they, you know, because everyone else in their house is

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Muslim, they're like, Yeah, I guess I'm Muslim as well. But in their heart, they're not really Muslim, right? They would rather be non Muslim maybe because non Muslims have certain things that they desire. So this could be certain sins or whatever a person wants to, you know, drink and do drugs or whatever other things that a person may see that non Muslims do, and they desire that in their heart. And so there's this level of colfo, this level of disbelief in their heart will not protect us, this is the severe type of imitation, then there's imitation where a person is Muslim, but they imitate non Muslims in those matters, which are haram or impermissible, and they may

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imitate non Muslims in sins, right? So this doesn't make a person not Muslim, they're still Muslim, but what they're doing is haram or impermissible. So, in general, this is the impermissible type of imitation. Now, we said there's impermissible and then there's permissible imitation, the allowed imitation, this is the imitation, once again, you know, we talked about two levels in the impermissible in the permissible type of imitation, there's also two levels. The first is the imitation which is allowed, right, which is simply allowed is moved into something which is permissible, this would be imitating non Muslims in things that are not associated with their faith,

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there are no religious beliefs attached to it. These This is imitating non Muslims and things that are not identifiers or things that are specific to non Muslims. So, for example, there are certain things that only a non Muslim were were only a non Muslim would do, and they can be identified by it. So for example, wearing a cross, right, so wearing a cross is something that not only is it specific to non Muslims, it is something that is that they're identified by so if you see someone wearing a cross, you're not going to say, well, I don't know if they're Christian, or Muslim or whatever, you're going to automatically be like only a Christian would wear a cross, right. So this

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is the type of imitation that is that they are that is specific, this is the type of clothing or whatever this action is specific to them. So then the permissible type of invitation is is other than that, right? So for example, the style of clothing, as long as it you know, fulfills the Islamic conditions of clothing. The style of clothing is not defined in Islam, right. And so the our style of clothing really goes back to our culture, we see the prophets of Allah, Allah, he was sending them dressed according to the clothing of his people, right? So it wasn't that Subhan Allah, the message of Islam came and the prophet sent them started to wear different clothing, right, he

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changed his clothes, okay, now Muslim gonna wear different clothing? No, he wore what the people of his time with people in this culture war. And that is why if you were to go back, if you were to somehow be able to look at the process in them in that time, let's say you were to show up on the day of the Battle of Buddha, on one side, you have the machinery, corn, the non Muslims, on the other side, you have the Muslims, from a visual standpoint, it would be hard to tell the difference between the two between the non Muslims and the Muslims, because they were wearing pretty much the same clothing, right. So this is the type of imitation that once again, is not specific to a faith,

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it is not specific that only non Muslims wear this particular type of coding, or they're identified by that this comes under that which is allowed, then there is the type of invitation that not only is it allowed, it is something which is recommended, something which is

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preferred, and this is imitating Muslim non Muslims, in the goodness that they do. As long as it is not. There isn't any beliefs attached to it, as long as it's not a part of their faith, meaning it is in identifying matter in their faith. And obviously, when we say goodness, we mean goodness, as in it is good, you know, as defined by society, but more importantly, it is goodness as defined by Islam as well. I'll give you a very clear example of this. Let's say down the street, there's a church. And they, every Sunday, they go and feed the homeless. And the Muslims will say the masjid down the street says, you know, the the Christians in the church, they feed the homeless every

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Saturday every Sunday. Sorry. That's something which is good. Right. And so Islamically is feeding people good. Absolutely. Is helping those who are in need good. Absolutely. Did we get the idea from them in this case? Yeah. Does that make it okay? Absolutely. Not only is it okay. It is something which is recommended that we see them doing something good, and we want to imitate them in that

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Goodness, maybe we say we're going to do it on Friday, or they're already taken care of Sunday, we'll pick Friday, right? They've driven out where we have Juma anyway. So we'll do it on the day of drummer, so imitating non Muslims in something, which is, which is good, something that they do, which is good, as you said, goodness in society, but more importantly goodness as defined by the [???]ty I defined by Islam as well. Now, in all of this, one of the factors that needs to be understood that one of the goals of our faith and one of the goals of our deen is that we should be proud of who we are, and we should not have an inferiority complex. And that is a very important

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aspect of our deen because there are some matters that we may have in our deen that go against the norm, right. And so, if it is something which is good in Islam, then we should be doing it right. For example, give an example of this eating with the right hand. Now, this is something which is in terms of the [???]ty items of Islam in terms of an Islamic ruling, it is something which is recommended right it is something which is must have

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to eat with the right hand, and it is on. On the flip side, it is moku it is disliked to eat with the left hand now, this may not be the norm in the society that we live in, right. So in the society we live in, you know, and this is what I've seen, at least Allah knows best. If you're right handed you would your right and your left handed use your left. Now, out of out of having having being proud in our deen would mean that even if, you know we're let's say we're left handed, and we're left handed and Subhanallah normally society dictates that if you're left handed and your left that we say no in Islam, it is recommended that we eat with our right ear for left handed so we take

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pride in them. Right. And we find we say that that is something honorable in Islam, even though it goes against the norm, right. So that is something to keep in mind when it comes to imitation and this issue as a whole. Now, Halloween, where does Halloween fitted? Halloween comes under imitation, which category permissible or non permissible? Spoiler alert, it comes under the impermissible type of imitation. Why? Well specifically, it comes under the issue of holidays. And you know, imitating non Muslims in their faith in their beliefs in certain traditions that are specific to them. That would not be considered a Muslim belief or Muslim tradition or Muslim holiday now there is a Hadith

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that gives us some clarity on this issue. The hadith of undersell of the Allah I'm in which NSL the law and says that when the prophets that I send them came to Medina, the people of Medina, they had two holidays that they would celebrate and basically they would you know celebrate it they would have fun they would have these games that they would play to celebrate this date and the profits of a licen them he said what is what is what are these two holidays? And they replied, presses him said Maha Donna your man. So what are these two days? And they said, couldn't unendurable feed her in January? Yeah. They said these are two days that we celebrated in January. Yeah. And then the

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prophets of Allah and he was sending them. He said in Allah, Abdullah can be Hema hydro min Hama Hiram min Hooray said Certainly Allah has replaced these two days with two days that are better than them Yeoman uppa were Yeoman FIPPA the day apart and the day of fill out the day of sacrifice and the day of the breaking of the fast and this is what for us we now known understand as a

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FIPPA. So this hadith tells us a few things and this is an authentic hadith mentioned in widowed and a necessity. It tells us a few things. First of all, it tells us that in Islam, we have our own holidays, right so there are holidays that are specific to Islam. Second, we learn that these holidays that were being celebrated, were actually religious holidays. They're not cultural holidays. They are not holidays that are part of they're not national holidays. They are religious holidays. And so Allah replaced religious holidays with Islamic religious holidays right so we have when it comes to a week another way to say that is spiritual holidays, meaning holidays that are

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related to our faith holidays through which we get closer to Allah celebrations through which we get closer to Allah. This is what we mean when we say religious or spiritual holidays in Islam. When it comes to spiritual holidays, or religious holiday

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Other days, we only have two, we have eight and a half. And I didn't fit on any other day where a person says, you know, I'm getting close to Allah. By celebrating on this day, we say, Sorry, man, that's, that's not in Islam, we only have these two days there, either I'll talk and in the FIPPA, we celebrate meaning celebrate as in celebration that brings us closer to Allah. These are only two, or even even a thought and are able to fit on. So any other holiday where a person claimed that they're getting closer to Allah, that it is something which is recommended, you know, in Islam in terms of their faith, then that is not permissible other than these two days. And so looking at

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this, we can break down any holiday into two categories. Either it's a religious holiday, it's a spiritual holiday. Or it is other than that, meaning it is either a cultural holiday, or it is a holiday that is maybe a national holiday. And so when it comes to religious holidays, then not only do we only have to also we're not allowed to take part and celebrate any religious holiday holidays that have any beliefs attached to it. And from our perspective, any superstitions attached to it, we're not allowed to celebrate it. That's one. On the other hand, we also have holidays that are impermissible because of the practices that take place. So let's say there is a place in the world

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is a hypothetical, where they have a holiday, it's not a religious holiday, it's a cultural holiday, it's a national holiday. But on that holiday, they go around slapping people in the face right? Now, we would say, Well, this is not a religious holiday. So it should be permissible, right? There's no beliefs attached to it. So it should be permissible, we would say no, it's not permissible, because the what is being done on this holiday is wrong Islamically It is wrong to harm other people to slap somebody. Right? That's wrong. So from that perspective, we don't celebrate it. Now, bringing all of the information that I've just given to you, and applying it and looking at the holiday of

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Halloween, we find that it is impermissible according to the vast majority of scholars. And that is why I don't celebrate it. I don't take part in it. For both reasons. Not only is it a religious holiday, it has beliefs attached to it. It has a religious origin.

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It is also impermissible in the sense of there impermissible things that take place on this holiday.

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And some I know people asking some questions, I'm just gonna rush through this finish this I'm going to get to all the questions give you all the clarity Insha Allah, I want to give you a little bit of background on Halloween. That just to get to have you understand, you know why Halloween is, is is impermissible. So first of all, the origin of Halloween is actually a it's a it's a it's a pagan holiday. And I know today's Subhan Allah, there are Christians who celebrate Halloween and it's thought of as a Christian holiday. That is because it was brought into Christianity. So originally, it was a pagan, a European pagan holiday, in which you know, certain things, they a lot of

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traditions, which actually now they've been brought back into the holiday. We'll talk about that in a little bit. But as Catholicism spread, they adopted this holiday and they made it into a Christian holiday. And so it was celebrating there's other names for All Hallows Eve, All Saints Eve, Eve of All Hallows Day, All Saints Day, all this is brought into Christianity. So this was a day in Christianity where they would starting on the 31st of October, which is today, where they would remember their saints, they would remember the dead they would remember the faithful. And so it was very much it became a part of Christianity even though the origin that is pagan, and it is for it is

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because of that because of its pagan origin, that there are actually some Christians today who don't celebrate Halloween, because they say, Look, this is this is a in Christianity. It's a bit like in Christianity, there's something that has been brought into Christianity, right? So they're like, this is a Christian, this is a good guy. We don't celebrate it, because it's not Christian. Actually, it was brought into Christianity later. And so there are some Christians. And you may know some people like this, who don't celebrate Halloween because it's a little it's not a Christian holiday. It was brought into Christianity. And somehow as Muslims, that should be a lesson for us.

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We don't want it to become a holiday that is brought into a snap. Right? So yeah, and we don't want to say we don't want to import something into Islam and try to make excuses for it and say, you know, whatever excuses people make, so that's, that's a that's a lesson for us.

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A lot of these

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traditions that take place, for example, a trick or treating obviously that's

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That's a big one. This comes from practice known as soli right soul as in the soul that the, the neffs. This is a tradition where poor people would go from door to door, and they would, they would sing, and they would do prayers. And in and in response to that people would give them some food, they would give them sweets, they would give them cakes, when they would pray for them basically make some prayers, things and prayers. And this slowly, you know, has been turned into this tricky tradition of trick or treating. Interestingly enough,

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there was a lot more Christian overtones to this holiday until capitalism got involved. So when capitalism came into the picture, basically, they're like, how do we make money off of this holiday, then more of the pagan traditions were brought into this holiday. So the, you know, the tradition of celebrating the debt, getting more, leaning more towards, you know, the horror aspect of it, making it scary, you know, demons and ghouls and this, and that, because it was a chance to make money off of this holiday. And you know, a lot of these holidays now are really just about making money, right? So that's why a lot of these traditions, a lot of the pagan traditions that were initially

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taken out by Christianity are have been brought back into into this holiday. And once again, it's another reason why some Christians today don't celebrate Halloween, they're like, You know what this is now even the traditions have become pagan traditions. Nobody is you know, singing songs of worship, and so on and so forth. People are just dressing up, as, you know, demons and ghouls and things like that. And that's, that's a pagan tradition. So we don't have any part of it. So that as a Muslim, that should become very clear to us that because because of his religious origin, we don't we don't get into it. Right. We don't celebrate it. And by the way, like all honesty, like just go

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look at the Wikipedia page for Halloween. I don't, I don't really understand a Muslim who can read the Wikipedia page of you know, Halloween, its origins and whatever else that goes on. And even like today, and say, like, yeah, as a Muslim, like, I'm totally comfortable celebrating Halloween because it is so far removed. From our D it is so far removed from our morals and our principles as a Muslim.

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Some other reasons why I don't celebrate Halloween.

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In essence, you know, a lot of it is a celebration of evil, right. And evil is personified in different ways, whether it be through vampires and ghosts and witches and so on and so forth. Demons. Right. So she has been so has she been right, the celebration of Shell theme, this should be once again, a big red flag that we don't even as a joke. Subhanallah person I know people say like, I'm just joking. Like, I don't believe it. You know, I'm just dressing up. I don't. But even as a joke, like we don't we don't celebrate something which is evil, something which is bad, even as a joke, right? So that's why we don't get and also like talking about joking, scaring people and all

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of that.

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This is something that even scaring people as a joke is not something which is permissible in Islam. So for all of those reasons, and others, I don't celebrate Halloween as a Muslim. Now, I know people have been asking a lot of questions. Let me just run through some of these questions that we get into this discussion. And I want to take it from the top. And the question that I see Bismillah Marois said, If children have to dress up or do any activities related to Halloween in school, is it okay for them to take part or buying food that has Halloween themed, like toffee, apples or cakes and so on? Okay. So, obviously, a lot of this goes back to where you live. Living in a in a in a

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living as a minority in a non Muslim land. Obviously, we're faced with a lot of challenges.

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As a Muslim, we we shouldn't take part in how right we shouldn't eat, you know, whether it be school or otherwise, what I would recommend is to contact the school and say, Look, this goes against my religious beliefs. So I'm not comfortable taking part in it. And I don't know how the school would react, it wouldn't depend, you know, from place to place this can differ in every, you know, place has a different challenge. And so it's really hard for me to say but just from from my end, looking at my culture and my context, if this were to happen with my kids, I would contact the school and say look, you know, as a Muslim like, I'm not comfortable celebrating Halloween. So Can my daughter

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or my son be exempt from this celebration? Buying food that is Halloween themed? Right so this is something that scholars different over? Is it okay to buy Halloween candy, right. Some scholars say that as long as a person is not buying that Halloween candy to give out on Halloween

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meaning is bought for the candy itself and not for the celebration, it is okay. And I lean more towards that opinion that as long as that as long as a person isn't using that candy to celebrate Halloween, then inshallah Tata is okay. If it's just used as food or sweet, then inshallah out of this fine, we'll look at it.

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And the law said, Is it okay to give out candy but not actually go out. So when we say take part in a holiday, it means that we don't take part in any of the traditions related to that holiday. So giving out candy would be considered taking part of that holiday. Even though we're not receiving the candy or we're not going out we're not trick or treating ourselves. But you know, giving out that candy meaning means that we're in the we're taking part in the traditions, or the rituals, that's a better word, I should say. The rituals associated with that holiday that were taking part in it. So that would that would not be okay.

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If children knock on your door and ask for sweets on Halloween, can you give sweets? Oh, same question.

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Yeah, so as a Muslim, as I said, it is better to not we should stay away from taking part in, in Halloween.

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If someone says Happy Halloween to you, what do you say back? Can you? Okay, so in general, I don't expect that the average person or someone says Happy Halloween to them, they're going to be like, okay, hold on. I'm Muslim. And let me tell you about why I don't celebrate Halloween. And this is our like, you may be at the grocery store, and somebody at the at the cash register was like Happy Halloween and like, you're not going to realistically, you're not going to like let me give you a lecture on why as a Muslim, like, I'm not going to say Happy Halloween back to you. So I would recommend that in a case like that. Don't be rude, right? Just be just say, okay, or just say thank

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you, right? And you're not thanking them for their greeting, that particular greeting, you're thanking them because they're being nice to you. Right. And as a Muslim, that is something praiseworthy, to, to, to, to thank someone for being nice. So it's not that they want you to celebrate Halloween. And, you know, we don't know exactly what someone's intention is, but we assume that you know, they're just trying to be nice to you. That's why they're saying Happy Halloween. You can just say thank you, right? And reply and say, Have a good day. Alright, so say something good back to them. Hope you have a good day. Thank you, whatever. Thanks for your help, whatever it is,

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just be nice. All right, Allahu Allah.

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Let's see how often are these live sessions. So my intention is to do a live session at least once a week trying to do Sundays around this time. So I'm trying to try to get on and do more live sessions in July Dallas. So usually Sunday, Sunday evenings, my time. So around this time, which I'll let down, look out for more.

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Live sessions inshallah. And if you haven't, by the way, I was told that I have to say this. If you haven't subscribed to my YouTube channel, make sure you subscribe. Because if you're subscribed, and I guess you'll get a notification or something to say that, you know, I'm doing a live session so you can jump on inshallah. Okay, let's take a look at some of these other questions. This Mina that

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you someone says, Okay,

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can we go out and get candy if we don't dress up? And we don't have the intention? Yeah. Okay. So I mentioned this earlier, that, you know, as long as the person not celebrating Halloween, I mean, let's be honest, let's be real. A candy is on sale during during Halloween, right? So as long as our intention is that we're not celebrating Halloween, and we're not passing it out. And we're not saying to someone like Happy Halloween or whatever. And we're just eating the candy as candy that Intel looked at that is something which is okay, love. Ana.

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Mila, did Can we buy things in shops that are that are an offer from a Halloween discount? Yeah, as I mentioned in shall worked out and that is something which is okay. Can you this mean that travel lovers and Muslims have started celebrate in Pakistan and Dubai? Shocking. Yeah, it is. It is shocking. And it is not shocking as well. What we have to realize is that

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America, American culture, you know, being an American myself, I can say this American culture is exported, right. And American culture slowly becomes slowly becomes a global culture. And so it's not really shocking. And this is what you know, one of the things I did want to say is that we need to be very careful when we talk to other people.

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We need to be kind. We need to be gentle when dealing with others because when it comes to other people, we have to understand that not everyone is at the same level of Eman, right so not at the same level of faith. Not everyone has the same level of knowledge. Not everyone has the same level of understanding. Not everyone has the same level of work.

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Right. So there may be Subhanallah people who simply don't know, right? They don't know that it's something which is bad. Or it may be that they know, but they don't have proper understanding of the issue or maybe that their Eman isn't strong enough for them to not celebrate Halloween, and therefore they take part in it, we should honestly leave the judgment out of it. Right. I'm not saying that we that we say that you know that we change the ruling of Halloween. So what I'm saying here, what I'm saying is that we don't know what a person is going through, we don't know what their life experiences are. We don't know what they've been through. We don't know how much knowledge they

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have. So instead of quickly judging someone and saying you're bad Muslim, or you know, this is wrong, and no, you're no better and it doesn't lead like fear Allah, like, how dare you so on and so forth. Like, leave all that out of it? Instead, maybe just educate people, right? And just talk to them have a discussion with them, without looking down upon someone, right. And, you know, we put away your your, uh, called foot two hammers, right, if you don't order. A hammer is when you take when you learn a fatwa, you hammer somebody on the head with the federal right, so put away your federal hammers, that a hammer is not convincing anybody with a hammer just causes pain. And we're

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not trying to cause pain to people. We want to educate people, right. And that happens by softening the heart and really having a disc talking to people having empathy towards people Empathy means try to understand where a person is coming from, even if you disagree with the person, right, try to understand why they have a certain belief or why they have a certain view on a certain matter. And that empathy will help us

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connect with them. And the more we're able to connect with people, the more the more, the more successful, or I should say, the, the better, the more success we're going to have at reaching a person, when we're able to have a connection and empathy builds connection, right?

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The opposite of empathy is to separate ourselves from others, right and put ourselves in a camp and put them in another camp. A lot of people they'll go like, good Muslim, bad Muslim, so you're bad Muslim, good Muslim, we're now separating ourselves from them. And that separation means that we're not going to be able to connect with them and reach out to them. And if you look at this Wi Fi, look at the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu, I think was send them the signal person was about empathy. Right? It was about reaching out to people, it was about connecting with people in order to guide them in order to educate them, and we want it very much. You know, adopt the characteristics and the

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manners of the prophets of love it was send them as a luxury kind of went to Allah said, No conda found one honey that then felt homesick that if you were harsh and hard hearted, they would run away from you. And this is who the prophets of Allah, Allah, he was sending him, Allah is reminding the prophecy send them that if you were harsh, and you were hard hearted, that they will run away from you who would run away, not average people, the Companions, the Companions would run away from you. And this is what this was a reminder for the Prophet send them to be gentle with the people, right to not be harsh with the people and very much the prophets of Allah and He sent them was gentle in

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which in the way that he spoke to people the way in which he related to people, and this is why the provinces and them had such a beautiful, beautiful character and how he dealt with people. So the law who was okay, I'm gonna take a couple more questions, any other issues, and then we'll call it a date. If I celebrate Halloween when I was younger, should I repent for it? It depends on how young you are, if it's before the age of puberty, this is not something that we are accountable for. We know that as a Muslim, no as a human beings in general, but as Muslims, we understand that we are our accountability starts when we reach the age of puberty. So just before that, there's no no need

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to make Toba even though, you know, making Toba? Nothing wrong with that, but if it happened after the age of puberty, then yes, a person should repent to 100 Tiana, ask Allah for forgiveness, and move on in sha Allah, La Quinta, Ana, Ana, does the same ruling apply to Christmas celebrations and so on and so forth? So any religious holiday right any spiritual holiday would take the same ruling? Right, so we have to ask ourselves a few question. Is this a religious holiday? Are there any any beliefs attached to it? Are there any superstitions attached to it?

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And then also is anything bad happening on this holiday anything haram happening? All of those would be reasons why as a listening, we don't take part in that holiday. Allah Anna

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did a will the live session be on Sundays 8pm UK time so I'm trying to settle on a time I did a I did a poll on my youtube so this why subscribe to my YouTube I did a poll on my youtube you know which time works best for people and and the the option that one was 4pm. eastern standard time just 4pm my time and I believe that's 9pm UK time

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So that's why I picked that time I'll do another poll. So you know, if you subscribe to my YouTube channel, I do another poll to see what what the best time would be. I have a question unrelated to this topic. So here's what we're gonna do. I'll do a another live session in sha Allah, where I will just take general questions and I will do like a, an AMA. So you know what an AMA asked me anything. We'll do one of those AMA's week you can ask general questions Inshallah, because I think this live format, a lot of people like it because there's that interaction, real time interaction, and I think it's good as well. Also, one of the problems with live is I see the sun coming in from the window

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here. I don't know if you noticed in this live session, hitting me in the eyes, that's maybe a sign from Allah that it's time to call it a day. So we'll call it a day here does not come a little clearer to everyone who joined us live. It was good to have you here and seeing people from all over the world it's always great. This recording will be up on my YouTube channel. So if you know someone who could benefit from this, please share it with them inshallah Tada. So they can watch and they can benefit. If you have any questions. We'll take them in the next live session. And Allah who's pelota knows best. Take care of me. Allah bless all of you. Will Lakota ALLAH SubhanA. Allah Houma

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will be handed a shadow in the hand and still feel good to the lake was Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh