The Pursuit of Perfection

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smilla rahmanir rahim hamdulillah

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when I will be learning surely emphasis now on and see

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me at the Hillel for them.

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What should we learn in a law hula shriek Allah? wa

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salam ala Donna

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mob Erica for biographer will be learning in a shape on the Prejean smilla Rahim in Allahu amudha it could

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be a Latina animal Salalah he was

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a long Muslim Madam

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canossa Lita, Ibrahim Ibrahim, Majeed,

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Allahumma barik

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Mohammed

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Ibrahim Ibrahim in

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respect to listeners are salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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As announced,

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insha Allah, I'll speak on the topic of the pursuit of perfection.

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What do we mean by this?

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To some degree, all human beings,

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all of us are perfectionists.

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We want everything to be perfect.

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Everything to be in its proper place.

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We want things to be orderly,

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on time,

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on routine,

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everything in its place.

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Now,

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to some degree, this is normal, to be expected and it's good,

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but only to a certain degree.

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for things to be routine, orderly in place,

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on time,

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proper, prim.

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All of this is good and well, but only to a certain degree, beyond which, like anything, if it's taken out of moderation,

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out of balance.

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And it becomes an unhealthy obsession. And it's problematic.

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it's problematic in many ways.

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It's counterproductive.

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We want things to be in place we want to be.

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We want things to be in place, things to be proper on time on routine.

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We want things to be complete, to feel complete within. We want things to be good and proper in order to feel good. Once it becomes an unhealthy obsession, and we take it beyond that reasonable limit, it's counterproductive in the sense that it actually makes us feel very bad.

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Rather than making us feel complete, it makes us agitate

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aggressive, unpleasant.

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And it's mentally and emotionally damaging.

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Now what does this have to do with spirituality?

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Over all with what Islam teaches us?

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Well, Allah subhanho wa Taala. Allah says in the Quran in surah, as I've looked at Ghana, looking for you to sue de la,

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lemon County, to LA when Yeoman weatherguard a la cathedrale.

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Surely that is for you, in the Messenger of Allah.

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A beautiful exam, a beautiful model

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for one who fears Allah and the final day, and who remembers Allah excessively?

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What this verse tells us is that Allah subhanho wa Taala has made the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his life, his character, his person, his personality,

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an example to follow a model to emulate,

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but only for a certain type of people.

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He's a role model, but only for a certain type of people. It depends on what you want.

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If you want the dunya

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if you want the world,

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then Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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is not an example. It's not even a suitable example for you.

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He is not a role model fee

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is not a model to be emulated or an example to be followed. Allah says that, that surely that is for you. And what's the definition of for you? Doesn't mean all of you, it comes later, lemon county yellow ju La Jolla Yama for you IE for those of you who fear Allah, who fear the final day and who remember a lot excessively

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is a role model for these people. Not Not for anyone on everyone, because it depends on what you want.

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If you want the dunya, he is not a role model.

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If you want the pleasures of the world, he is not a role model fee.

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If your horizon n,

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with only what you can see,

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before you around you, and

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the limits of your vision is a few school years of this life.

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And you cannot see beyond that

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you have no concept or maybe you do have a concept but no fear

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of the final reckoning of the final day

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you are not attached and connected to Allah.

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You do not fear at all. You do not remember a lot excessively. Then, if this is your state, the sort of lesson the Lombardi who was in them is not a role model fee.

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So it really depends on what we want.

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If we want Allah, if we fear Allah if we fear the final day,

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if

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we remember like excessively than indeed, or pseudo loss in the law, it is the perfect a role model an example for us.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his life can teach us so much.

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And it contagious, to correct this

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obsession with perfection

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in us, because it's unhealthy.

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And I don't wish to speak about perfectionism as a condition, or OCD as a mental state or a problem.

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What I wish to draw our attention to is how this is damaging is spiritual.

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It's preventing us from progressing in the

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and how we can learn from the life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the lives of his family and noble companions.

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In our desire for perfectionism, which when taken to unhealthy

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and unhealthy extents, becomes OCD, obsessive compulsive disorder, and we all suffer from it to some degree. We want everything to be in place. And this perfectionism extends to

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what we do

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in terms of our religion and our relationship with a lot.

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One of the problems is contingency. And I don't mean contingency in terms of preparing for

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disasters or preparing for crises, or preparing for emergencies, even in our own personal lives. Now, what I mean by contingency is that we make other things contingent on things being orderly, on time, routine and perfect. So for instance, many of us at the back of our mind, we know that we have a duty to Allah, we have a duty to ourselves spiritually.

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spiritual life matters. But we postpone these things.

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And we make our attention and devotion to our spirits and our inner self contingent on so many other external things.

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So

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famously, we have milestones,

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a good career, a good job, a good income, a good marriage,

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a good home.

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And we have everything plotted and charted out. And we believe that unless all of these things are in place, and in order

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and available, and everything is settled,

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only, then we can settle down.

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So I have to finish my education. Before I can focus on myself, I have to get a good job, I have to settle down financially, I have to make sure that my house is built and complete, I have to make sure that things are in order in my life here there, my business is up and running, my work is guaranteed my income is steady. My financial position is stable, my marital situation. First is I have to get married. And then after marriage, I have to have children. And then after children, I have to have a good family. And then things have to be settled at home. We make our devotion and attention to our inner self and our spirits. And our rule, which is the essence of life. We make

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this attention and devotion contingent upon all of these things being perfect and orderly.

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We're always and these are just things in our personal lives. Apart from that, we feel confused.

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We will

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sad,

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of course,

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this inevitable that we will feel confused and bewildered and saddened. But to such a degree that it paralyzes us. We don't do things and one time, we don't do the necessary things for ourselves. What I mean by confusion and bewilderment. And sorrow is when we see things around us, our own situation.

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situation around us in the world, whether its political,

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whether it's social.

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We want things to be perfect everywhere.

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We want

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everything to be organized, everything to be in place.

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ie they should there should be no disturbance, no turbulence, no problems, no issues.

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Everything grieves us in politics, in life, in society, in community, in our own lives, in our families, the world around us, we feel is not perfect, and it's almost as well we think once the world becomes perfect around us, I will feel better, I will be able to focus on myself and focus on my spirit. This is not what Islam teaches us. It's not what alone is awesome. Love it, who seldom have taught us in the in the life of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam, in the lives of the messengers

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is that they will always be

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chaos, they will be they will always be problems. The world is not perfect around us. And Allah has not destined for the dunya to be perfect.

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And

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we have no control

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over the world around us.

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The only thing we have some control over is ourselves. And that's what we should be focusing on.

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A good example is the prophets of love, it was seldom see them and the light of the alarm. He relates to his own story relates by many authors, including a man humbling as Muslim. That once I was in contact with the man with our relations had these as well. He says that once I was repairing a shack of ours with my mother,

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so his mother was actually helping him. And they were both repairing.

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Well, he says we and he also mentions his mother. So it may be he and his mother or more family members, but they were repairing a word in the head with his horse and what's a horse? It's not even the house. It's a wooden shack. So the shack had lemons and it was about to collapse.

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So

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They were repairing the shack, the wooden shack, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed by, and he said, What are you doing? So this is the sort of law, we are repairing this shack of ours.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Man,

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gentlemen,

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but I do not see the affair,

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except that it's swifter and faster than even this.

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Meaning

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that affair means the final hour.

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And the final hour

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is our departure from this word.

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Our Syrah in Arabic is known as sir, the hour

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and the hour could refer to

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a certain Cobra, meaning the great hour, ie Yamaha piano, the day of reckoning, when the world will come to an end. That's the final hour. So the final hour of the world, or it can just refer to a sack of silver, our meaning, the lesser final hour, the end of our

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and this is why in Arabic and Islamic terms,

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the

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sir, the resurrection, the reckoning the final hour, it doesn't always refer to the great disaster. No, it just refers to the world come to an end. And whether it's a whole world that comes to an end, whether it's our world that comes to an end, it's our final hour.

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And most importantly, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam here was saying that the affair meaning the final hour, our departure from this world, is quicker and swifter than this, what this how these teachers is, is we need to get our priorities in

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the world will never be perfect.

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And this idea that I have to do A, B, C, D, E, before I can settle down, before I can focus on myself, why am I saying this? If I can be a bit more frank and open, some people actually say this openly. So they say, look, I can't devote myself to religion. I can't concentrate on

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religious observance. I can't pray or fast or fulfill my religious duty. I can't concern myself with religious education. And until I get married, until I get a good job until I complete my education, in fact,

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in the previous generation, and as well as before, sometimes

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older family members would actually say this, they would say this openly.

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The traditional thinking and mentality was that young people should not concern themselves with religion.

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Religion is for the elderly.

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So once you retired from the world, this was actually the thinking and mentality, and it remains so in so in some courses, that once you retire from the world,

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so you've worked all your life, you've completed your education, you've built your career, you've built your business, you have your home or homes, you have your family, your children are married off. Now you are retired from the world. You're a person of leisure, now you can start frequenting the masjid. Now you can start practicing and becoming religiously observant. Now you can start worrying about

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departing from this world in your twilight years. That actually, this persists as a mentality. And this filters through to others and in fact, at times is imposed. So there are

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many stories of parents.

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Not even young but elderly parents, forcing their children not to practice preventing them from practicing, verbally abusing them. If they see them, becoming religiously observant, and telling them in as many words that this isn't the time for you to pray, or fast or be religious.

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This isn't the time for you. Now's the time for us to learn to earn to build a family to look after yourself, your children to earn enough wealth.

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The idea is that everything is in stages and religion is for retirement.

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So the last and the last

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hidey ho slim did not teach us

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a sword. Luckily, his Serato salon taught us to prioritize. The truth is, we will never have enough time.

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Coming to

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no one has time No.

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No one has all the time in the world.

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And we find it difficult, it's not easy to take time out to pray, to fulfill our religious obligations, or even to improve ourselves. So for instance, to come to gatherings such as this, to learn to listen to the words of a law, hundreds of students will allow it

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to improve ourselves.

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It's not easy, it's time consuming. But we have to prioritize.

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There are never enough hours and minutes in a day to do all that we want, then never.

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But we have to prioritize, we won't be able to do everything. So we need to plan and just decide what are my priorities in productivity when,

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when people in management skills in productivity skills, one of the great lessons that is taught is this, that

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you won't be able to do everything. So you need to look at your tasks, even our task list, task list is very long. So you need to filter your tasks and see which ones are routine maintenance, and which ones are productive, in the sense that they actually lead you towards achieving your goals and objectives.

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So if your goal is to expand your business,

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then you look through your tasks. Now most of those tasks you will realize are routine, do the accounts,

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order supplies,

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complete cleaning,

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sought out this sought out that these tasks are important, but they are maintenance tasks and routine.

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Strictly speaking, these routine maintenance tasks don't advance your goals, they maintain your business, but they don't actually advance your goals.

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And don't lead you to achieving your objective. But if you look through that list, there will always be a few very few tasks, which you will realize that they aren't routine or maintenance. If you do them, they actually propel you forward. They lead you to achieving your goals and your objectives. Not that the others are not important, they are important. But these are vital to helping you achieve your goals. So even in productivity skills, and management skills, one of the great things that is taught is this that distinguish between routine and maintenance tasks, and those tasks that lead you towards your objectives and goals that actually push you and propel you forward. And the

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idea behind it is you will never be able to do all your tasks, you have to prioritize another good skill which is taught and which in fact we can apply to ourselves. Someone once asked me that, how do you

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get through your work? Same as everyone else.

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endless list of tasks. Well, one good skill is this, which is that

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if you are about to travel,

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you're about to leave the country, and you're traveling for a moderate period. Not just for a few days, but let's say a month or so.

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And

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you now

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have to prepare for your journey. Obviously preparing for your journey is not just about packing. But it's also about sorting things out before you go.

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Now this is a good skill. What happens when we are traveling, we're about to travel. We look through our list of tasks. And we just cross out all postpone or ignore so many. ie, this is unimportant. This can wait. This can wait. I've only got two days left before I travel in those two days. What do I have to do?

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Forget these routine maintenance tasks out of the way. If I start doing them, I'll miss my flights.

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My journey, I miss my train.

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So a good way of prioritizing your tasks is to even if you're not about to travel, is to mentally think, okay, if I was leaving the country tomorrow for one month, or for three months in this list, what can I ignore? And what can I prioritize? And why I've given this exam, I've given these examples, not because I wish to sit here to teach your management skills, but rather, both of these skills apply to us. What is our goal and objective, if genuinely, our goal and objective is Allah, and the earth,

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and our spirits, the development and the fulfillment, and the giving of life to our spirits, then, in all of our tasks, we will prioritize those that lead us towards that objective.

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Number one, we won't burden ourselves with routine maintenance tasks all day long, we will prioritize those tasks, which lead us to our goals and objectives. That's the first skill, the second skill

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journey.

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This is exactly what I sort of lost on the level it was hinted at in this heady model, I'm going to

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click that I do not see the effect except swifter and quicker than this, our journey from this world. So imagine, I know it's a morbid thought. But Allah, Allah protect us, but we all have to go.

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Imagine if you were to think that if I was to die,

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if I was to do some people love taxes, all they contract terminal illnesses, like maybe someone contracts terminal cancer.

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And they are told that no chemotherapy, no medicine, no treatment, and fortunately, it's going to work because your cancer has gone beyond that redeemable stage.

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And so, tragically, we tell you that you have three months, 90 days.

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It could be before, it could be late, slightly, but we cannot do any more for you. Now, people have been told

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they come home, because there's no treatment.

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They informed their family.

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Now this individual has 90 days,

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approximately.

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Only Allah knows the hour of death. But there are indications.

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Of course there are indications

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when the prophets of Allah Almighty Who was sending them

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was in his final days.

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And

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Rasulullah sallallahu Salatu was salam, no one could predict

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whether he was to live for longer or depart from this world. But his uncle and our boss have nabbed him.

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He looked at him.

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And he said, I recognize death in the face of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam, just as I recognized death, in the faces of the sons of abdomen,

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meaning his father.

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So because of our best buddy, who was an uncle of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, and he had many brothers. And he had seen some of those brothers depart from this word.

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So alabaster, grabbed him, looked at us all muscle, and we're hiding or Solomon's head. I saw us he could probably relate to this later. But I saw death in the face of Rasulullah sallallahu, I recognized death in the face of the sort of loss of the law hiding himself.

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Just as I recognize death, in the sense of abdominal meaning

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in his family, the signs that he had seen, have an imminent departure from this.

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So

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of course,

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only Allah knows a true hour of death, anything could happen, anything could change, but we're not talking about certainty. We're talking about indication that simulates In fact, the verse of the Quran in which Allah says that only Allah knows

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that when death will occur in the law in the hood, we will have a youth we add a muffin or ham or mat to the Dean of some Mother Duck, single mother

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In the law Halima the verily with Allah is the knowledge of the hour. Again,

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the great town, he is the one who reveals the rain sends down the rain. He is one who knows what is in the rooms.

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And no soul knows what shall do tomorrow and no soul knows when he will die. These are five things which are hidden things of the unseen only Allah has knowledge of these things. But yeah, if you look at every one of them, they are indications Allah, only he knows where and when rain will fall. But we have some indication, if you see clouds rolling toward you.

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laden with rain,

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and there's a cold wind proceeding the arrival of the clouds, these are indications that it will rain, of course, we could be wrong, we can't say with certainty. But this is what weather prediction is. So

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when someone is told that you have three months to live, we are not saying that they are most definitely accurate, but there are good indications. So what does a person do in those three months, he or she prioritizes

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only those things that really,

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they divide their wealth that state, they try and reconcile themselves with people. And with Allah, people reconcile themselves with creation, and with Allah. Remarkably, those who

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they never got home with for their whole lives.

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Those that they were bitter enemies,

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and whose enmity and whose hatred they clung on

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with their lives. Now on the end of their lives, they let everything go

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bitter, lifelong enemies are forgiven.

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Bitter, lifelong, grievances are buried and dismissed. Especially I'm talking more about family members, others won't be they won't come, this person will not be concerned about them, but immediate family members.

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So much is forgiven and overlooked because it doesn't matter anymore. It's no longer a priority. Wealth no longer matters. Do you think this person was about to leave this world is worried about earning more money now? Because they know now that their journey is?

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So just as one of the management skills of timekeeping is this, that you think to yourself, if I was to leave the country for a month tomorrow, I had to go, and I have 24 hours? What do I do in those 24 hours? How do I prioritize my tasks? Similarly, we should think that all if I was to journey from this world, and that's a journey from which there is no return, what do I prioritize,

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we will never be able to do everything. So we need to prioritize.

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And

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we need to realize that this obsession with contingency that he has to be perfect, be has to be perfect See, has to be perfect, before I can move on to something else. Or if everything is perfect around me, then I'm going to be happy. Now. We will never be able to make the world perfect, we will never be able to change the world around us. What we can change is the soul within as the world within us, our own heart. It's the way we deal with things. This is what Allah is the source of the love it was sent him have taught us, the greatest lesson in the world is not perfect. No situation is ever going to be perfect. Nothing.

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The life of Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam is an example. Now, please don't misunderstand anything I say. But let's look at the life of a soldier last a little It

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was his life not hit his own individual personal life because he was a messenger of Allah meaning within, but the world around him. Was it perfect as we seek the world to be perfect.

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So in a perfect world, politically and socially, we want peace, prosperity and stability.

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Every nation, every country, every state, every society wants peace, prosperity and stability.

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Of course we should work towards it. But if it is not in existence for whatever reason

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for things beyond our control, then how do we respond to it?

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One of the greatest lessons is to learn to accept,

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is not to become agitated.

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Now was the world around the Prophet salallahu, alayhi wasallam, perfect as we seek to be perfect in our own lives.

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We have this idea of a perfect family,

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father, mother,

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living comfortably surrounded by their children, all happy.

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Did

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so Pamela

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Do you know,

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who has had a perfect child

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who has had a perfect child, we feel the victim, we feel that the world is against us. I have a right to be miserable, I have a right to be unhappy. I have a right to be miserable within myself, and miserable towards others. Because you just don't understand. No one understands. No one knows or understands what I've been through.

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Who has had a perfect child?

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What's our idea of a perfect child?

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Children today are surrounded by TVs games, consoles, xboxes, PlayStations. Nintendo Switch.

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TVs in every room in the bedroom laptops, computers, tablets, smartphones, all manner of toys have got everything. And even they think Oh, I wish I had a better child.

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So Whose child is his perfect?

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Look at the childhood of a sort of loss.

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He was born.

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When he came into this world, his father had already passed away.

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If

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you and I came into this world,

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with our mother and father alive, just in that sense,

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we have had more than one sort of loss in the law. It was

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just in that sense.

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When he was born, he had no brothers or sisters, just his mother. If we came into this world,

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and we had siblings before or after, just in that sense, we have had more than what we saw last summer it was

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his mother passed away when he was only six years old.

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And he witnessed her death and burial. At six years of age who was left alone in this world. No father, no mother, No brother, no sister.

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How many of us

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have been in that situation or know anyone personally who's been in that situation? In that sense? So many of us have had more than what was sort of last a little while it was

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two years later, after the age of sorry, at the age of six. He then went into the care and custody of his grandfather I'm done with buddy looked after him for two years he died.

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And then from there, he went into the care and custody of his unkillable body.

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And barley was noble but Paul, so he couldn't really look after him financially. He did. He managed. We had a large family, and he wasn't rich or wealthy.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam began working as a shepherd at a young age. What age possibly 10, at least by 12 was a young teenager, a young teenager Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam, worked as a shepherd labored and earned his own income and key. How many of us have been in that situation?

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A lot.

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And that's how he grew up into

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having suffered bereavement after bereavement loss after loss and being

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Quiet alone.

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No brothers no sisters.

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So when we speak of having a perfect childhood or a better childhood, what did we want?

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No one's childhood is perfect. We always think that his childhood must have been perfect, her child must have been perfect. Nothing is what it seems nothing.

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When it comes Pamela, we have two words, our external world and our inner world.

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When it comes to the external world, we always think everyone else's external world is better than ours.

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And when it comes to the inner worlds, meaning the spirit, we always think that our inner world is better than anyone else as well.

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So who has that a perfect child?

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Or suit Allahu salatu salam, early life around him. I'm not speaking about his heart or his inner condition. No, the world around him. Was that perfect?

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So look, another thing marriage. So everyone wants a perfect childhood, then everyone wants a perfect marriage

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was a prophet sallallahu It was a Lim's first marriage, perfect. I don't mean for him. I mean, as we see it as we perceive it.

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So what's the ideal of perfect marriage for someone

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in our culture, not just in today's culture, but it has been the culture for many generations and many centuries, in most parts of the world.

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The purpose the idea of a perfect marriage is that a young man

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marries a young and married lady.

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Suit Allahu Salatu was Salam did not marry till the age of 25.

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And the lady that he married was not younger than him was older than him

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for the gyro, viola.

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And not only was she previously unmarried, sorry, not only was she previously not unmarried, but she was a widow, twice widowed lady with children from both marriages.

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That was the first marriage have a sort of loss in the law highly.

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And it was a happy marriage.

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When they had children,

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but sort of lost some of the love it was suddenly lost. His first son, his first son,

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passed away in his infancy. And he had daughters. All of those daughters, with the exception of father modeled the law on her. He witnessed their death in his own life.

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He had a second son, he died. Later in life, he had a third son, Ibrahim some duration say he had more sons, but this is a minimum, everyone agrees that he had two sons. Some say he had a third and a fourth, who also passed away

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in the early years.

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So that would make it five seconds for at the beginning and Ibrahim Rue de la langue towards his later life. But other than duration, say only two seconds at the beginning.

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Aslam Abdullah and the third son who also died in their infancy, and the third son Ibrahim or the Allahu anhu was born from Marietta, Dr. de la is in his later life. He was very devoted prophets of the law it was done to witness his passing away and burial too. So the only time left with him was file to model the law.

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And even follow the model of the law. He told her before he passed away that of my family, you shall be the first to meet me. He actually told her that you will die soon.

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So we what

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perfect family setting too we seek to sue the loss of the law. It wasn't.

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This was his families. And if we meet if we look beyond the sort of loss and the love it was, we want our children.

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We want our children

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to be the best for us. We want our marriage to be the best for us. Look at the profits or loot and more highly

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him Salaam, they will also prophets of Allah, the best of last creation are the messengers.

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Both their wives Allah says in the Quran for HANA Tahoma. Both their wives, the wives of loot and more Halima Salaam, betrayed their Prophet, husbands, they will prophets of Allah, they should have had the perfect marriage, but their wives actually betrayed them, not in terms of fidelity and chastity. But in terms of their loyalty to Allah. Their own husbands were calling their people to Allah, whilst their own wives were rebelling against them, despite believing in them, mocking them. It's related that the wife of mohalla Hassan would call him Matt, the wife of Mohammed Hassan would call him majan.

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We want our children to be the best for us, the son of Mahalia, salaam, he disbelieved in his father, his father prayed to Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala. Allah said to him, in the who lays him in Erlich in the middle of a bizarrely, he is not of your family, he is an empire deed.

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Imagine how mohalla his salon must have felt his wife has rebelled against him. His son has rebelled against him. While he was busy inviting his people as well as his family.

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Was it any surprise that some members of his people opposed him when his own wife and son disbelieved?

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We want the world to be perfect part of our perfectionism is that we want to be liked by everyone. We want to be obeyed by everyone.

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And we become mad, agitated, anxious, filled with anguish in rage. When that doesn't happen. It's apparently one scholar, his students who had spent some time with him.

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He, when he was about to depart, he said,

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our great teacher and shave any parting advice? So the teacher said to him, don't be alarmed. Don't be the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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What kind of advice is that?

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What

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he was about to depart, so parting words of advice. Don't be Allah, and don't be the prophets of Allah Heidi.

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To me,

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and he explained, he said, Listen,

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only Allah subhanho wa Taala has control over the world.

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You have no control.

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Except

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he was a harsh way of putting it but it was a way to hammer the message home. Only Allah has control over the world. So don't go from here thinking that you have control of affairs. You do not control anything. Remember that much. So when things are beyond your control,

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except Don't be the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam meaning only a prophet of Allah has the right to feel that they have to be obeyed. Since Allah says in the Quran, Sunnah, Musudan, Illa, Liotta, even Illa. And we have not sent any messenger except that he should be obeyed by the command of Allah. So even the messengers are to be obeyed, because Allah commands the creation, to obey them. So only a prophet and a messenger of Allah has a right to feel, and to be entitled to be obeyed by everyone. Because that's the Express Command of Allah. So don't be a prophet, in the sense

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that, don't go thinking, don't go away thinking that everybody has to follow me. Everybody has to obey me. And if people don't, then you will become enraged and agitated. If you take go away with these two lessons, life will be so much easier and simpler. things out, don't be God. Things are beyond your control, too. Don't be a prophet, in that don't expect to be obeyed. Even the prophets of Allah went obeyed, even though they had every right to be obeyed, and not only were they disobeyed were they disobeyed by their evil Nuala. his surroundings, disobeyed by his wife, Ensign, and literally Hassan was disobeyed by his wife, as a law testifies and

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so, we want perfectionism. We want a perfect situation, a perfect marriage, a perfect family setting. Allah subhanho wa Taala did not even give all of the prophets of Allah a perfect set in their family.

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What perfect what perfect situation to want.

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When it comes to marriage is a famous problem.

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one only has to look at the life of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam truly, he was married later when Khadija had the alarm had died and he married the other wives. I shot so that'll the alarm shuttle the alarm son, the remaining wives, what happened?

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I'm not speaking about the inner state of Rasulullah sallallahu. It was

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wrong.

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The situation around

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what we could see and what we know.

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Was that perfect as we deem it to be perfect.

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As we want things to be perfect. Look, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam contemplated divorcing all of his wives.

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At one stage, he contemplated divorce in order.

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And he actually did divorce in half side of the law. And

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there were challenges in the marriages of Rasulullah sallallahu. It wasn't them. There were difficulties.

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There were jealousies, there were rivalries,

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there were moments of displeasure.

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There were many moments of disapproval.

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There were many times when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam refused to speak some of his wives.

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Because there were difficulties.

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And he contemplated divorcing all

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marriages and divorces took place in the lives of the Sahaba of the alarm.

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So this is a given.

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Even our marital situation will not be perfect. It's how we deal with things. This is why I say the path the pursuit of perfection. We want things to be perfect around us. And then we think that this is what Islam teaches us that everything has to be perfect. And then I can be happy and content. And if things aren't perfect around me, then I have every right to be miserable, to be agitated, to cause grief, to be grieved, and to cause grief and give grief to others. It's how we deal with any situation. Look, we would all want the weather to be perfect. Perfect temperature, perfect climates, perfect clarity. So that we feel happy.

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We have no control over the weather. So what do we do?

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When when the weather is not the best? It's how we react.

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If we accept, okay, then we might even be able to see beauty in what we accept.

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We will we will actually see beauty in what we accept. If we don't, it will be bad weather outside and with bad weather inside.

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That won't change we can't change.

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Now, even in marriages, in any situation, I'm not here to speak about marriage. It's about perfection. We want perfection in everything. And if things aren't perfect, we are aggrieved, agitated.

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disillusion, displeased, unhappy, very miserable. As a result of which our spirits surface our root surface our religion surface. Allah has told us what to do to connect yourself with Allah. To remember a lot of focus on Allah to accept that the world around as was never meant to be perfect. It's it's organized chaos. Nothing's perfect. The highs and lows.

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Once Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he had a camel, a suave very beautiful camel. camels were prized.

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So always been in a race. Once the

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hell out of the love and the raced with the profits of the law it was

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and or another rider was riding the camel of Rasulullah sallallahu it was it lost. It didn't come first it lost. So the Sahaba of the Allahu anhu actually became very sad. They were deeply saddened by this that the camel Goswami lost the cannon of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam last prophet sallallahu Sallam said look

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it's his Hakuna Allah He ally of the fair I show you Mina dunya in LA water. It is a GT on Allah. That nothing wrong.

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rises in the world, except that a lot brings it down. Okay?

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This is the reality of the world, there are highs and lows. Nothing's perfect. Everything that rises, rises to fall

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in the dunya.

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That's the cycle of life.

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We rise and we fall.

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By the end of our arms, nothing stands forever, the greatest of structures have collapsed and will collapse.

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This is not a world of permanency, or perfection.

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It's how we deal with things around us how we accept them. We want the impossible. This is why I mean, we want the perfect solution. Speaking about marriages, let me tell you how I deal often with people in with marital problems.

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Very simple.

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People, let's say I'm speaking someone. So the husband says,

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My wife is like this, like this, like this Like this. Like there's

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a litany of complaints, a whole list, all the frustration, all the anguish is expressed.

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And I listen.

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And then I say, Okay, what do you want?

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What do

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I have only three answers for you.

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There are only three solutions.

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There is no fourth.

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Now, obviously, this I've honed over many, many years, so I'm very proficient at this.

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Before I would spend a lot of time my ears would hurt.

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My head would hurt because I'd give a lot of time. But now I've chiseled it down. So I stopped them. Support.

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I'm sure we could spend the whole week discussing your grievances.

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I have

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three answers fi three solutions. That is no fourth. Remember that? So now let's go through these reasons. Number one,

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you are deeply unhappy about your wife and your marital situation. I want you to answer these questions. And therein lies the solution. Number one, change the situation.

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Change changes.

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Change Your Life. Can you change your life? No. Fine. Can you change your situation? No. Your first answer is given. Let's move on to the second solution. So the first solution is not right. Is it? Can you change her? Can you change your situation? I can't change it. So that is no longer the first solution. Number two,

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leave.

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Leave her.

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Can you leave her? Now don't misunderstand me. I'm not telling him divorce. What I'm trying to get him to think that this is the second solution to your choice, not for me to say it's your choice. Leave her Can you leave now?

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Fine. So the second solution doesn't work. So now you only have the third solution. There is no fourth by Allah there is no fourth. And the third solution is accepts

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three A's amend the situation.

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Can you amend the situation? No. to abandon the situation second a Can you abandon the situation? No. There is only the third accepts.

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amend abandon or accept, amend abandon or accept. Can you? Third thing except I can't accept it. Then I said you are now asking for the impossible.

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You're asking for the impossible. You want a perfect solution. There is no perfection.

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No perfection. You want her to be perfect. You want your situation to be perfect. You want everything. You want her on your terms as you want her you want your situation and marriage as you want it.

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You don't want to and you can't change. You can't amend and you can't abandon it.

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So what do you want?

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Your answer lies in these three solutions. You have to choose one

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And the most difficult is that well, one of the most difficult one, all of them are difficult. It's difficult, it's impossible to change someone's situation. To some degree, yes, but not completely. The other is to abandon that's not easy either. The third is to accept. No one's saying that's easy, either. The reason is we want a perfect solution in all three, we want it to be a perfect situation where I should be able to change him or her completely. Nobody changes for anyone. One of the rules of life is nobody changes for anyone.

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Even in marriage,

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you get what you get. You have to live with it.

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True. You get what you get, you have to live with it.

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So

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change, amend, amend, abandon or accept there is no fourth solution. Now why am I giving this example because this applies to everything in any situation.

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We want the perfect solution to there is no perfection in the world.

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We want to change the world so that it's perfect for us.

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That can't happen. We can't abandon. Sometimes we can sometimes some situations we can just walk away from

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because we are not so tied to it.

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And where we can't, for whatever reason. And third is to accept to accept that imperfection.

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It's our failure to accept which causes us so much grief,

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which makes us miserable and the way we are with ourselves and with others.

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Yes, there is one

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thing in which we should be trying to attain perfection. Perfection is not possible there either. But that's if we want completion. That's a completion we should be working towards and that's completion, and fulfillment, and some degree of perfection in ourselves.

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That's what we should change. That's all that we have control over. We have no control over anybody else. Some hand on the more Hello, his Salam had no control over his wife,

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let alone his wife knew alayhis salam had no control over his own flesh and blood over his son. And he was a prophet of Allah.

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When some fathers, some parents, mothers or fathers, both speak to me about their children, some who are so beatings, and rebellious and arrogant, and insolent, even practicing, it's remarkable.

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I've constantly deal with situations where the father and mother are practicing. And the children are practicing their loggerheads. I'm not just loggerheads. But the child is fully practicing, and yet, is rude and insolent, and arrogance towards of parents, and even contemptuous, and to so beat.

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And yet still practice.

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I regularly deal with situations. So again, this idea that religion will make everything perfect, it won't, it won't.

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Who could have been a greater teacher greater guide than the prophets of Allah, Allah Himself. And you know how his salon was unable to change or control his own son. So one word of advice I give to parents as well, who weep over their child adult children's behavior

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is this, that you have to abandon this thought that they are your cuddly, cute little children who are still infants in your lap. They are adults think of their brains as a machine. They have their own machine.

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This machine in their head, it has its own way of functioning and its own way of thinking. For them to change, you're going to have to change their brains, their machine

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by character, and you have no control over that no ability to do that. So the best way is treat them as adults. treat them as adults, not as your children. They will always remain your children, but in dealing with them, treat them as adults. That way you will be better able to accept their relationship with you. Do not treat them as that cute, cuddly little toddler that you could scold and

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cuddle and kiss when you wanted and scold them.

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Man when you wanted, and he would still love remain loving and affectionate and clingy and attached to you don't, they've grown up, they've grown up.

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And they have their own machine in their head. They have their own brains, they are their own being, treat them as adults, and you will feel much better, much, much better.

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We want everything to be perfect, the world around us will never be perfect. The only place the only thing which we should be working on, to try and achieve some sort of Completion is ourselves within.

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And people say that well what about when this idea that if you practice if you do good deeds, Allah will give you a good life, your heart will be content. So in the Quran, Allah says, Allah, the

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Quran, Allah, Allah decree law to

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those who believe and whose hearts are content, or settled, with the remembrance of Allah. Lo, in the remembrance of Allah, do or with the remembrance of Allah, or by the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find settlement?

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contentment, and the other verse of the Quran, when I'm in asylum in Dhaka, in

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Milan, fell in love nokian, who

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wouldn't

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be as an American Ramadan? where Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah says,

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Whoever

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does a good, whoever does good, are you good deeds, whoever does good

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man or woman

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while spinning a belief for the North Korean who hired on by Eva, and we should give them a good life. We shall give them a pure life, a good life, and we shouldn't reward them.

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Give them their reward with the image of the best of their deeds. Now.

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This idea that, oh, does this verse mean that if I start praying to Allah, and if I start practicing,

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then

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my life will become perfect things we will be settled around me.

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My heart will find peace. See, again, we are approaching it in the wrong way. We are still trying to make the world orderly around us. We're still trying to do it. But we're trying to do it through religion. So our goal, our objective, our purpose is still bringing order and perfection to the world around us. And we think that religion is a way to that. So Oh, the vicar of Allah brings about peace, I want contentment. I want that.

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Religion, good deeds bring about a good life. That's what I want. I want a good life. So religion is a means to a good life, we're still looking at it in a completely different way. We still are trying to bring order and perfection to the world around us through religion through pious deeds, through good deeds, through religious observance. That is not what these verses mean. When Allah says we shall give him a good life. Many rollermouse said, there is no good life accepting that

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the meaning of a peaceful good life is for the agenda, engine.

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You do good in the world, Allah will give you a good life and where's a good life? In

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other words, what do you mean by a good law? Who don't you think the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam?

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This verse apply to him more and better than anyone else, that whoever does good man or woman, whilst being a believer, we shall give him a good life. So the life around Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam only spoke about his childhood and his marriage and

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his children and his family setting. But beyond that, what about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his own health

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did not assume the loss of the low Heidi who seldom get injured. Did he not bleed? Did he not fall? Ill? Of course it was not poisoned, wasn't it the effects of this poison that resurfaced towards the end of his life?

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Did not the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam departs from this world at the age of 63 in loony ears.

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Many people have outlived him and will outlive him.

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Did not the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam suffer pangs of hunger and thirst this

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Not the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam suffer poverty, was he surrounded by wealth?

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So what's the meaning of good lives upon Allah? He suffered bereavement after bereavement, poverty, pangs of hunger, thirst. And what about the social and the political setting? in Makkah, Tomoko Rama. He was fine.

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Until he declared profited. And he declared the revelation of the poor, and the same people who honored him and loved him and hailed him as being the trustworthy, honest one. Suddenly they switched even family members like Abu lahab and his wife, Jimmy, what do they do? They began taunting him, abusing him, persecuting him, ridiculing him, calling him a liar till yesterday, he was the most honest person in their own words, now has become a lie.

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So society was not friendly towards him in Macedon, waka Rama for fraud, he suffered persecution, ostracization.

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And politically, they persecuted him. Eventually he had to leave Makoto karma, and then where the 10 years of his life and Madina munawwara settled externally, in that there was peace and prosperity and security. No.

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skirmish after skirmish, battle after battle, siege after siege, raid after raid.

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death upon death,

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loss of life, loss of wealth, loss of crops, just as a loss as well in the mushy middle, hopefully we'll do

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well, we'll enforce it with them or artificially, slobbering alladhina either it's hard to see, but I'll imagine that you were in Iraq, would I carry him so the word Rama?

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Allah says, We will most assuredly test you.

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With some loss,

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we will most assuredly touched you with some just a bit of fear of hunger

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and loss of wealth and loss of fruits and properties.

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And give glad tidings to those who are patient, though What's the meaning of patient those who when a calamity strikes them

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a calamity befalls them. They say in Nadella who were in Iraq. Indeed we it says to Allah that we belong and then we shall return.

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These are the ones on whom there are prayers and Sunnah

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prayers, meaning mercy from their Lord. So prayers and mercy from their Lord, these are the ones who are guided Allah subhanho wa Taala, even in this verse doesn't say, when we will test you with loss of wealth and loss of properties and crops, we will give you even better not a lot doesn't give that promise. Allah says when you are patient, and in your patients, you turn to Allah and you focus on what really matters, which is the alpha that will allow you belong and then to a lie shall return. Then Allah promises what Salah worth and Rama, meaning prayers and mercy, the hearts will be content Sakina Sakina tranquility, Allah will make you tranquil.

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So how do we achieve that tranquility. So even in the life of Rasulullah, sallAllahu, wasallam, those 10 years, there was hunger, there was fear. Fear struck Medina

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as a loss as well.

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Not

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only I will hope,

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whenever a thing of security or fear

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comes to them, and that's to do with them at the end of the month. There were rumors of safety, there were rumors related security, there was fear. So in those years of Medina, there was hunger, there was fear there was loss of crops produce loss of life, loss of wealth, profits in the law, it was an Sallam witnessed all of that for 10 years.

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And finally, when politically the whole of Arabia came under his rule, and things were settled politically, Allah subhanho wa Taala decided to take him away from this. So if they were fitten, we were always talking about this word fitness fitness fitness. Course. There will always be fitness. Allah said, there is fitness. Your children are a fitness. Your families are a fitness. Your wealth is a fitness.

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What's a fitness the word fitna originally means? Well, the word fattening originally means to

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burn something like metals.

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To check whether it's genuine gold

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and silver or not, so they would melt, gold and silver to check whether it's genuine gold or silver, so severe and intense heating and burning, to test, that's the original meaning of fat to burn, and in order to test, to melt in order to test to see whether it's genuine or fake. That's the original meaning of

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so.

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And then the meaning developed to any trial or tribulation, any test or any temptation, which places a person in a position where they have to decide and make a choice. And their choice, that decision will either be a good one or a bad one, it will test their faith, it will test their integrity, their sincerity, do they pass the test or not? Do they succumb to the temptation? Or do they resist it and Spence, do they are they? Are they proven true in that trial and tribulation? Under the heat of the test or not? Do they prove to be sincere, insincere? That's the meaning of fitna. So anything which becomes a fitna, Allah subhanho wa Taala tests us for our wealth through our wives, spouses,

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our children, our neighbors, our community.

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Everything, all of this is a fitness. So we're always talking about fitness fitness. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has promised us full told us that you will see fitness one after the other, the plural of fitness is fit and you will see fit, one after the other in rapid succession.

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each subsequent one will be more testing more darker than the previous one. In fact, one had he says, fit and will come in such a way that the subsequent ones will

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make thin and dilute the previous ones, ie a fit now will come and the person will think this is going to destroy me. This one is going to destroy me. And then they somehow scrape through. So another one comes and that subsequent fitna is so great that the believer thinks that Do you know what this is the one that will destroy me. And in comparison to this one, the previous ones were nothing.

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And then he manages to scrape through that until another fitna comes, which is even great. And that one makes thin and dilutes the previous ones. So the suit will last a little longer. It sort of has already foretold that this won't happen. Even in terms of politically, we have this idea that

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in terms of khilafah in terms of rule in terms of

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politics, they will there can be a perfect situation.

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Even politically there is no perfection. Look at the

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after a loss in the law, it was sudden passed away. Yes, look at us, the director of the law firm, assume the reins of khilafah. But did he do so?

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easily without any difference of opinion? No. As soon as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed away, a difference of opinion arose out of the lover and home as to who should become the leader. Although it was settled, they overcame that difference, but there was a difference. And then bucaro de la hora and only room for 10 seven months. And yet in those 10 seven months

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upon fitna raged, many tribes rose in rebellion. Many refuse to some of them renounce Islam. Some others did not renounce religion, but they renounce their loyalty to Albuquerque alarm, and others. They did not renounce their religion, they continue to be faithful pray and fast, but they refuse to pay him soccer.

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Because of interpretation, their interpretation was that we we we were only expected to pay zakat or a pseudo last allow it was them and not to anyone else, in any case. So these were the fitten that raged in Mercado de la hora in shorts in Africa. And then was a tongue of say that Barbara de la. Yes, he ruled

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for approximately 10 years, but even in that period, that was feminine. There were other problems. And then he was assassinated. He left this world not peacefully but assassinated. Where was he assassinated? What grateful

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Could there have been on the fact that he was assassinated? Only Sajad animal sulla of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Whilst he was leading the believers in Michigan Nabi sallallahu Sallam in federal solar

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after him say they're not a man of the Aloha and became Phoenicia. And there was great turbulence in the later years of his khilafah. For six years, things were relatively settled for six years. For the latter six years, there was great turbulence in lead to rebellion. And this was during the time of the Sahaba of the love Island, although the rebels were not the Sahaba they were non Sahaba and then it lets his own martyrdom

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and then any of the Illa horns khilafah and then during that time, there was opposition to either the love or and, and difference, strong differences from amongst us How about the love army, we know of the famous battle of German, the Battle of the camel, where on the one side, you had one of the wives of the Prophet still alive, it was sort of a shadow, the love on her, you had many of the other senior Sahaba on the other side, you have a leader of the lava and many of the senior Sahaba that was in to all intents and purposes. It has been described by historians as the Civil War. It was the first civil war and then after the time of Manuel de la and an elite of the, in fact later

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during the Lohan's reign, there was the walkout to Safin the Battle of Safina again another civil war that as historians have described it, and then while you're gonna be Sofia and eventually became the ruler after and either your loved one has them or the alarm, the eldest son or any of the alarm around came to a truce and agreements with him. Things were relatively peaceful till tomorrow it'll be Sofia departs from this world. And then his son years he took over as soon as he as he took over what happened. Many of us have out of the alarm who refuse to pay him homage and accept him as a leader Abdullah Hamza VEDA the alarm set up his own killer for in Makoto macabre. And this was

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arrival Hilla to the Hill out of the blue omiya. In dimished, in Damascus,

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there were many battles, there was a massacre just outside of the Medina through menorah known as the Hara, the massacre of the habra and Sahaba de la who were killed in that period. Eventually, the carrabba was bombarded by manga and Island catapults, and they were set on fire. And by the army and army, they laid siege to MacArthur makara these were Muslims fighting Muslims. In fact, Sahaba the alarm of victims of the law who was evade or the law one whom people gave bear to as a halifa. He was eventually and quite tragically, he was executed and strung up on a jibbitz. And his mother had to retrieve his body, a smile, the alarm on her, the daughter of Abu Bakar Sudeep will be allowed in

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the system, and he shall be allowed to retrieve the body of her own son in her old age.

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And he was a Sahabi of a sort of last allottee.

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So, and this was in their time, and then after the bundle omiya. These fitten Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam has foretold that these fitten will come right in rapid succession, one after the other, each one more kilometers, each one more darker, each one more dangerous, and more threatening than the previous one. And this will never end. So this was in the first 100 years of Islam

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during the time of the Sahaba of the law. So even politically, even socially, this idea that they won't be threatened, the world will be filled with fitting and chaos, in religion, in our families in our lives around us. What matters is that we don't seek perfection in the outside world. Rather we seek perfection, or some degree of perfection, some degree of completion, some degree of fulfillment within that so only place where we can find it. And what's the meaning then and I end with this of the verse, Allah will give them a good life and hearts find domani domani net does not mean joy or happiness.

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vamana means settlement when something settles, in fact, another good way of understanding is you want to pray Salah

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when you say Allahu Akbar and you go into the war, when you rise from Rahul and then you fall down again, there are some postures of Salah, which are very brief. So like when you rise from rapport and you stand which is known as oma the standing and then you fall into salute

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ration that standing in between the record and the sujood that is known as an owner.

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Many of us make the mistake of

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rising and then falling straightaway, the foot behind the jurists of all the schools have said that one needs to practice domani

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domani. And what's the meaning of Bomani is that all the bones of the body, the limbs of the body should be settled. So when you rise from rocor

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you don't fall into Salut, straightaway. you pause and how long should the pause be until your body has settled.

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So when you rise from Morocco, you wait momentarily until your limbs and your bones settle, they fall into place. That's damania. Then you go into surgery. When you rise from sujood.

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And you sit before your second frustration, again, you don't just sit with your body tense and spring back into the subdued now you're set. And then you wait until the bones and the body has settled. That's damania so the word actually use is Bomani.

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So your body should achieve Bomani. Now before you move to the next question, otherwise, our prayer will simply be a series of rapid motions or as a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam describes in one Hadees packing like birds pack. So

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Omar Nina means to be settled. And that's what Allah says in the verse. Those who believe and whose hearts are settled with the vicar of Allah,

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are settled by the vicar of law.

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This is the meaning of the money. It doesn't mean that if I start doing this, we have a last panel with Anna everything will become perfect around me and I will be happy. Now it means I will find contentment and acceptance and settlement, my hearts will no longer be agitated, perturbed, disturbed, turbulent, there may be turbulence around me, but in the vicar of Allah, my hearts will no longer feel that turbulence, but my hearts will be settled, there may be chaos around me, but inshallah there should be no chaos in my heart. I have no control over the world around me, but I can bring about some control in my heart. In fact, you know, when we control one of the reasons,

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perfectionism is that we try to

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feel control, we feel out of control in ourselves. So we try to control the situation and people around us. This is why control freaks control people around them is because they are suffering from inner chaos, they lack control within. So they try to control people and situations around.

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The sensible thing to do is not to try to control anyone or anything else, why do it indirectly, try and gain control of yourself within.

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And that is done through the vicar of Allah, through establishing that connection with the last panel with Anna, and with acceptance. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I end with the verse I began with, which is Ghana looking for you to sue the law it was Santa lemon county or La Jolla.

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Whether it got to La Casa de la, surely there is for you in the Messenger of Allah, a beautiful model, a beautiful example. For those who fail a lot on the final day, and who remember a lot excessively. Let's make these things our priority. Allah, the earth, the final day, and our relationship and connection with Allah through the vicar of Allah subhanho wa Taala and remembrance. If we do that, we shall find peace,

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contentment, settlement, in the example of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam whose heart was truly content and settled despite everything that rage in the world around him, and we can achieve the same. His life was one of very of calmness again, this is part of that, but we are when we are perfectionist, when we try to seek perfection out outside. We become very anxious part of the agitation is anxiety.

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The sort of last alarm it was sort of taught as calmness in everything in speech

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in manners

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In approach once the alarm run, we were always worried about timing. Yes, I mentioned earlier we want everything to be on time.

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We want we're never on time, but we expect everyone else to be on time. And if someone comes late, even by minutes we become very agitated. I expected you to be here now. Subhan Allah, Rasool Allah so Allah Allah Hardy, who was sending them

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did not even become displeased when people arrived late for Salah

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he encouraged them to arrive on time for Salah he encouraged them to come early. Once a man came, and for Salah he was late, so he was running, he ran in the machine. So after Salah Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

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when you come solar

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comm solar car,

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calm,

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no need to run.

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If

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you arrive on time, so be it. But if you miss a rocker or if you miss part of your Salah, you just make up for it later. So Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for whom and to whom Salam meant everything.

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And that's the first pillar of Islam. He did not become agitated or plead displeased or annoyed. When people arrived late for Salah it encouraged them to come early.

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Even when they did arrive late even then it's a no need to rush. Don't run in the machine. Don't rush, come calmly, and his whole life was like this. One of car.

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Real cars calmness and patience in everything.

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People provoked when he was paying patient.

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Things didn't go according to plan. He was patient. Things weren't the way he wanted them to be at any particular time. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was accepting, tolerant and patient. This is why Allah says this is the meaning of settlements and peace.

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If we are going to become annoyed and agitated over minor things, because of our obsession with perfection, and things to be the way we want, how will we ever deal with major things? How

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this is why we lose it.

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We become agitated because someone's a minutes late, we become agitated because we're driving and someone cuts a corner. We become agitated on the roads this leads to road rage over small things minor things. So when we are unable to control ourselves, and our feelings and our emotions in minor things, what then happens when major calamity strikers what happens? We go haywire, we lose ourselves. We are unable to cope, we completely break down.

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We do

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a lot of salsa lilavati, who have taught us so much and this is part of that. bring about fulfillment and completion, within work on your soul. Try and change the world within you work on your tolerance, your patience, and you're following the example of the sort of law so the law it was on them. Don't try to achieve perfection outside. Things can be broken outside, but you can mend your own heart within. Things can be unsettled and chaotic that you can bring about some peace and order and tranquility to your soul by working on yourself, not by trying to change the world around you. Because that's impossible. I pray that Allah Subhana Allah enabled us to understand what's the

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law, what's the law and after he was sued in the Vietnam humid, while he was certainly huge marine panic a lot more

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than I stuck to wake