The Madinan Society – Part 9

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The Madinan Society: A Tafsir of Surat al-Ḥujurat Part 9/12
Delivered by Shaykh Riyadh ul Haq on Friday 30th September 2016 at Al Kawthar Academy, Leicester (UK)

After the Prophet and his companions emigrated to Medina, Allah revealed laws with which Muslims must abide by so that they may live together peacefully. This Surat serves as a prime example of such intricate laws that detail not just how people should behave with one another, but how they should speak and think about each other.

This lesson expands on the previous lesson and goes further into describing how a Muslim should think about another Muslim. In order to reform our tongues we must also reform our minds so that we are free from judging others and creating false thoughts about them. Purity of the mind will lead to purity of the tongue.

This lesson also details the progression of how backbiting starts and how to cut out this bad habit from the root.

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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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salatu salam Ala Moana cirino has been

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drinking King wasabi hedge my name.

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My battle for him in a shape learning regime similar

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Allah, Mohammed Kumasi later on I wanna eat Brahimi in Needham Majeed

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la hum abetik Adam humid in Wagga Adam whom had come about Donnelly Brahim whiner and evil are human may even need to Majeed

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respects listeners, we gather once again you for the continuing

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the seed commentary of sort of

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last week we reached the end of verse number 11.

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In which last panel with Allah speaks of the prohibition of mocking, taunting

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one another and calling out to one another with offensive names

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and labels.

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This verse wasn't in isolation, but it follows the previous verse in which Allah says in the middle

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Firstly, who've been awakened, what the law

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that the believers are but two brothers. So reconcile your two brothers.

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And be wary of Allah in the hope that you you may receive mercy.

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And then Allah says, oh, believers do not mock one another. So

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what this clearly shows is that this is the method of achieving and realizing that brotherhood.

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Not by me a slogans but by implementing the teachings of a law and is it a source of the law legal system. And first and foremost, is that the believer should avoid those things which break the bonds of brotherhood.

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And the law begins with three sins. They're all sins of the tongue,

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mocking one another, taunting one another, and calling out to one another with offensive titles, labels and names.

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Following on from that, that was the end of the last verse and following on from that in the 12th of this last panel with the AMA continues with first.

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And just as in the previous verse, he mentions three Sins of the tongue.

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In the following verse, he mentions three sins.

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One of them is clearly to do with the tongue. One of them has clearly to do with the heart and man

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and one involves the heart, the mind,

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the body, and even the tongue.

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So what are the three sins? And again, these three sins aren't mentioned at random? But they consistently and continuously follow on from the previous three sins, all of which break the bonds of brotherhood.

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So Allah azza wa jal says, Yeah levina homage then he walked through the middle one

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in the bank of London.

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What are the

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what are the boundaries?

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Are you Hello?

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law in the law, the wobbel Rahim. Allah says all believers

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from excessive speculation.

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some conjecture is a sin

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and do not

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or rather, do not searched for faults.

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And do not backbite one

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would one of you wish

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that he conceived

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The flesh

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of his dead brother.

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So be wary of Allah. Indeed Allah is off relenting.

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Most Merciful. That's a translation of the verse.

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If we can systematically go through the verse l'affaire says all believers refrain from excessive lung

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cathedra Milan refrain from abstain from excessive lunch. So, what that then means speculation, conjecture, guesswork.

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And in the context of this discussion, what it refers to is

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forming an opinion.

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Think thinking something, believing something, imagining something,

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without evidence is speculation and conjecture, but this is more to do with other people.

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Since this is in the context of brotherhood, so, do not

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imagining things about one another, do not resort to speculation and conjecture.

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A believer has to

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develop a carrot,

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which is just

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an approach

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which is very balanced.

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And that means a believer has thoughts or balance about everything.

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One shouldn't be irrational.

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But one should form one's opinions

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on reason, on the basis of evidence, on proof

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and one should side with the truth side with the proof as the last season of verse one Oh ALLAH and faucet.

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Yeah, you have the vena cava Mina bill, this Shahada de la What are other unphysical

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that oh believe believers

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be establishes

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of ob upholders of justice,

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witnesses, for the sake of Allah?

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What do I learn, even though this testimony may be against yourselves?

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All right, no one could have been, or even against one's parents and relatives.

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So if the if the evidence is there,

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then one shouldn't be bigoted, even if it means that one has to accept about oneself that I am wrong.

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So I believe it should have this character of justice of standing for the truth with the truth, relying on evidence, not some hearsay gossip, or mere speculation conjecture.

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one's thoughts must be correct and pure.

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And when one starts thinking too much, one can even think ill of Allah.

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And it's true in these late Obama mojari La Jolla a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that la has the original essays, and are in the one NAB dB. It's a very beautiful long study.

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And they're in the London Adibi. What an American who is advocating for in the Quran either Kotaku Venus in the Quran in Phoenix at the Kotaku field of sea we're in the currently female to female environment.

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to Colorado corrupt to lay there are ways to curb a run to corrupt to LA Heba. Wayne attorney MC

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Carson de la Vallejo, seldom female here we are upbeat about Cortana Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says Allah says, I am with my servant as he thinks of me.

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Literally, I am

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with the fall

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of my servant army.

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And I am with him when he remembers me.

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So if he remembers me in his knifes in a soul,

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then I remember him in my soul

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If you remembers me in a gathering, than I remember him in a gathering, which is far better than that gathering.

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And if he draws close to me,

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by one span

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I draw closer to Him by cubits.

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And if he comes close to me by a cubits,

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I come close to him by to arm's length.

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And if he comes to me walk, I go to him running.

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This is edito. So he will have. So the beginning of the headache is what concerns us today. The last panel with Allah says, In the lunaire, Db, I am with my servants thought of me, which simply means that as he thinks of me, I shall be with him. The meaning is,

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if he

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entertains a good opinion of me

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of mercy,

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of hope,

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of love, affection,

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affection, fulfilling my promise,

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then I will be just as he thinks.

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But if he thinks ill,

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if he despairs, loses hope,

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and teens, il four, and we do, why isn't Allah answering my prayers?

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Why isn't Allah giving me what I want?

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Why isn't Allah doing for me what I thought he would be, or he should be, and so on.

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So if one entertains such ill thought about Allah, thoughts of despair,

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even in bereavement,

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many in their panic in the pain of their bereavement, and in their rash moments. And as an immediate reaction to their suffering and pain, they often bless me.

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Why does the law take my beloved away from me, you could be a parent, it could be a sibling or a child.

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And of course, later people realize but as that lady was by a grave, she was weeping. And not only was she weeping, but she was in a state

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of severe grief and mourning, and the prophets on the line, he was seldom said to her, be patient.

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So she turned, she never recognized who he was. She turned him and said away with you.

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For you have not been afflicted with the suffering that

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Prophet sallallahu wasallam left her when

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she had inquired or was informed that that was a messenger of Allah, and the love it was. So she arrived at his house and found no doormen. Now, God,

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she sought his audience, and she sought his forgiveness. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in the Masada in the submitted oola, that patience is that the first shock

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meaning later everyone realizes, everyone calms down, everyone comes to term terms with their loss with their grief. People become more rational, more accepting, more reason, reasonable about the whole thing, but it's what happens late

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is not really what counts what counts as one's immediate reaction. That's true, so

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and that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he lost his son Ibrahim or the alarm on the

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so how about the love I've learned now for the love I'm so him weeping, so he said the art of sudama even up on this occasion, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam explained that the eyes weave in the heart grieves, but the tone does not matter except that with pleases love.

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in one's grief, sorrow, pain bereavement at times one, not only has ill thoughts about love actually utters

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evil words and blasphemous words.

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So, as a Muslim, we are expected to ensure that our Not only is our speech pure, but even our thoughts remain pure

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And that our thoughts remain pure about a law that we don't resort to thinking, overthinking, conjecture, speculation.

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And not only should our thoughts about a lobby appeal, but what really matters today in this context and in this discussion is that our thoughts about each other are pure.

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That's what reading.

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So in the last panel with Anna says OBD is

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from excessive speculation and conjecture.

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He is referring to what we think about each other

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in everyday life, and specifically,

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when we see something from

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when we hear something from someone about something,

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we should always give it a favorable interpretation.

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Never an unfavorable or negative interpretation,

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we should be fair, we should treat others as we would want to be treated ourselves.

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And at times, it can be lots of explanation.

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I remember a story once related by a scholar, he says that this is in a Muslim country. He says that someone had agreed to come and see.

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And so he arranged an appointment

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with that person,

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that person had, he never knew him personally. But he identified himself that I am such and such a person. This is my name, these are my details. He gave his family name. I think his father's name was his name, his father's name, family name, where he was from.

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he agreed to meet with the scholar

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at a particular time.

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And so

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the scholar,

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something happened, and they couldn't meet.

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and then,

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a person came to meet.

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Actually, this person came to meet him after the agreed time, so they arranged to meet after Salah in the mystery. And the person was coming from out of the city.

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The person met him.

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And that was that it's so happened. That the, the person who rang him

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first time, he contacted him again and said, I'm sorry, I couldn't come that day. I'd like to come and meet you. Just while you're talking about.

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You came to see me. Just No, I never

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said Yes, you did. You asked about this. He says no.

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He said then Subhana Allah long story, but to cut it short what transpired is that this person had agreed with this scholar to come and meet him in the masjid on a particular day after one particular summer.

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He couldn't make it.

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By sheer coincidence, another person of the same name with the same father's name. From out of the city came to meet the scholar he thought this was him.

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You could have

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many explanation You see that? Barbara de la hora to say that whenever

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you see something

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sorry, whenever you hear something from your brother, as long as you can give it a favorable interpretation give it a favorable interpretation.

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Things happen.

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You could see someone somewhere I'll relate to my own story.

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A few years ago, we went to the city center with

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one of my students

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since in the six

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center parking is extremely difficult. We went late at night.

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And in the evening

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and we were trying to find parking, no parking was available.

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So there was an open carpark. So the place we went,

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we parked the car outside, and we went in and we inquired from the

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proprietor, that where can we park the car?

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So he said, Oh, we don't have a car park. But next door, there is a shared car park. So go there. And just pop. That's fine. We were that's where we were supposed to go. So we followed his instructions. We went around the corner, and we thought that there was a guard there. So we said, Oh, we've just come from this place around the corner. And he's told Yes, yes, can park here.

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Then we were parts and we went.

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Some time later we came out.

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And the gates were locked on the carpark seeing what's going on here. And there were lots of cars inside of the gates were locked. And now it was quite late about 10 o'clock in the evening at night.

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So we started looking around in in the city center, there was no one there that week, so

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and the place we had commands off.

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We couldn't go back to him either.

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Because he had gone.

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What do we do?

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So eventually a guard came, but a different one to the previous one. And he came in is stood up the gates to set him our cars. And

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she said to show us your passes. So we don't have any passes your colleague letters in earlier on that's our car there. And he said no. He said, this is a private car park.

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So we said well, we were told it's a * carpet. This is no this is a private car park. And you shouldn't have been let in Where's your passengers don't have a path. So it's good as they belong to. So they said the casino next door.

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So we said in that so we said what do we do now?

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The students who was with me from out of the city and he actually told me he's becoming today but he's not here. Or halen he so we said what do we do sis as well, you have to go and get a pass.

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Now we were both in fobes. And

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so I set him I'm not going

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to share your weight here. So he went inside.

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Now alone knows what happened. I'm standing there all alone. And

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half an hour later, he still hadn't come.

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So I said in that in that scenario, Rajan, I'm calling him.

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And there's no answer, because inside the casino, he had to go down. There was no signal, which I found out later.

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So I went looking for him.

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And I went as far as I could just to the four year and I called him and I couldn't find him and there was a receptionist there. He said, Are you looking for your colleagues downstairs? So I said, Can you call him so they called him? So what's going on? Sister Oh, Chef, they won't give us a pass. They said you have to become a member.

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In that elaborate, Roger when he was trying to haggle with them convinced them Hayden about 45 minutes later,

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we both came out of the casino. And when we did, there were a few Muslim taxi drivers going past.

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I said in their

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own imagine what they must be thinking.

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So at times, if you see something that they can be a very innocent and valid explanation.

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Say that

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the law says if you hear something from your fellow Muslim, and as long as you as long as you can give it a favorable interpretation, make sure you give it a favorable interpretation.

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It's related from Imam or hanifa.

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Love and we've always heard this about him when he thought

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that if you hear or see something from your fellow Muslim

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and you can there are 99 negative explanation

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For that thing, and only one good explanation, given the benefit of the doubt and apply that one good explanation interpretation

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do not think ill does not resort to conjecture do not resort to speculation.

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In a very beautiful long days later Bye mom hardeen Mr. Muslim in this he and others,

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say is a young Muslim, nothing more than that.

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What are the what are the justice? What are the nuts? Walla Walla

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Walla beaucoup de La Hoya

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de la Hardy.

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He says beware of suspicion. It's not even suspicion the words aren't check. So in fact, it would be incorrect to translate it as suspicion he says he Yakama one. Beware of speculation.

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Beware of speculation. Beware of conjecture. Thing number one UK liberal heavy for indeed conjecture is the greatest lie of all speech.

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conjecture is a lie. Speculation is a lie.

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And one, when one starts thinking,

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it doesn't stop.

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The mind works by itself, the brain runs by itself.

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The brain actually works on

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So that

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psychologists explain that when a person's feeling subdued, or down, per se,

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and negative.

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Have you seen how things only get worse?

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So one bad memory

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brings about a another bad memory. And another bad memory brings about another bad memory. And then, before you know it, you are on a downward spiral of negative memories, negative thoughts, sorrowful recollections. Now, why is that?

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neuroscientists and psychologists explain very well that the brain works on auto pilots.

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Just like an auto pilots plane or car.

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If you take your hands off,

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it'll just carry on all by itself.

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And it will go in any direction. Wherever there's momentum, it will follow that direction.

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The only way you can stop it going in a particular direction is to intervene personally.

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So if the car is veering off in that direction, he has no sense is just on autopilot will do what he wants. Same with a plane. Unless the pilot or the driver personally and physically intervenes and redirects it.

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It'll just carry on. But does it take long for the pilot or the driver to redirect it? No,

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an instant intervention, a quick turn of the wheel, or a quick turn of the joystick and job done. And you'll go in another direction. So the brain runs on autopilot. And it works by connections. So if you have a negative thoughts and negative memory, and you let the brain continue

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it'll pick it up. It works by connections. So the brain simply searches for something which is relevant and connected to its current thought. So when it finds something in its memory banks in retrieve it and then it looked for something else it looks for connections all the time.

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So it connects negative to negative, sorrowful thing to sorrowful thing. sad thing too sad thing.

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And it's an it's a vicious cycle.

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The SEC so why am I explaining all of this because this is what happens with lung speculation and conjecture.

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The brain carries on, it never stops.

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So all it takes is for one seed of suspicion, one seed of doubt to be planted. And then what happens? The seed sprouts

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into a plant, the plant grows into a tree. And before you know it, there's a whole forest

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of thoughts where there was absolutely nothing.

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And this will Mr. From the very beginning, have always explained,

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you may have heard of the term worm.

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worm means an imaginary thought, ie,

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a thought, which isn't based on evidence, but a paranoid thoughts or doubts and suspicion.

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For instance, some people they do will do.

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And they've got this nagging doubts

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related to OCD that

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I'm not pure enough or my will do isn't complete, or haven't washed my hands or my face properly, or my arms. And we shouldn't scoff at this, because unfortunately, it's a condition.

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And I've known people who have come to me and said that it takes me

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20 minutes in the bathroom,

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even after just passing water, to ensure that I purified myself, and then I come out, and when I do will do. The same person has told me and other other examples of different numbers. One person told me that I do will do 20 times I repeat it.

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And even then I'm plagued by dance.

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So this is one

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down suspicion, imaginary thoughts. So how do you tackle it? And that will Mr. have explained from the very beginning, centuries ago, there is no Doran.

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There is no particular there is no magic formula.

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The only way to tackle this is to stop thinking.

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That's all simple solution. Stop thinking. And I must be very honest with you when I was much younger, as a child, I used to think that when I first heard that I was only about 14 years old when I first heard that from our teachers that just stop thinking and I used to think that's a very simplistic answer. It's a it's a very old answer. Surely there must be something that we can do. And then 30 years later, 25 years later, I was reading a few books not on this topic, but just about neuroscience and psychology, and Panama.

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They all say exactly the same. neuroscientists say exactly the same. And we're not just talking about psychologists, but neuroscience scientists who have actually been successful in what they call neuro plasticity, which is reshaping the physical brain by thoughts. And they say you can actually take control of your brain. And they say this is it, there's only one way of doing it, break the pattern of thought, your brain, you can you should control your brain, not the other way around.

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So when it comes to conjecture, when it comes to speculation, when it comes to negative thoughts, the brain like any other thoughts, will run on autopilot. You have to intervene. You have to come in between, you have to take control and direct.

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Sometimes when we price alone, c'est la vie.

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And you've gone through the whole seminar, you've actually prayed you're sort of unfair to her and your other students and you've done your speed. And before you know it's that mid Kumara de la slammer la cumbre de la and you don't know where the Salah went, because your mind was somewhere else altogether. Once your mind starts racing, it's like a runaway train.

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So you have to take control.

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This is why I lost Pamela Diana says oh believers abstain refrain from avoid excessive speculation and conjecture. There's no magic formula. Once your brain starts thinking something about anyone else. You have to put a stop to it pass

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it around me I can't think about this.

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A lie explains it beautifully in this verse. A law fair says abstain refrain from excessive conjecture. Then Allah says without the justice and do not search for faults. Then Allah says what is the battle the combat and do not back by to one another? Why does Allah mention all three because this is gradual progression. The first will lead to the last

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We start thinking about something, or someone.

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And these runaway thoughts build up.

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Now we convince, we're convinced.

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We thought about it so much. It's etched itself in into our conscious.

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See it itself in our memory in our brain.

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So we convinced now all we need is proof.

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So we go out looking for proof.

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And then there's confirmation bias. We'll see 100 things which refute that, but these seem to escapers. But if we come across one ambiguous thing, which possibly may suggest something close to what we were imagining, we seize upon it as definite proof. Now we convinced them we've actually got evidence, what happens then?

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We can't rest. We have to give the good news to the whole world. So we begin talking when the bad boy come Baba, and let's not want to have you back and do not backbite one another. So we start spreading the good news, telling everyone.

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And then a lot ends the verse by saying, Would any one of you wish that you consume the flesh of your dead brother? So somehow, you know what this verse shows? This verse begins with something and ends with something and Shall I tell you what it begins with? It begins with a single thought, which is baseless. It's merely a speculation, and mere conjecture.

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So it begins with a single thought, and he ends with this person feasting on the flesh of his dead brother's corpse.

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That's what that one thought leads.

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So our last panel with Dallas has cut it from the roots.

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Do not resort to conjecture did not spec.

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There could be many explanations

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about why someone has done something why someone sets

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it could be many explanations. And wouldn't we want others to give us the benefits of that?

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Who is pure?

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Who is not prone to mistakes? Who is not prone to the battle to the gap to gaps? Who is not prone to making ill Jetsons

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who is there who doesn't send

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profits in the law it says guru bunny

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in the womb.

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All the children of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are the ones who repent.

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speculation and conjecture is also about projection.

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If our thoughts are, if we are pure, our thoughts will be pure.

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If we are sinful, our thoughts will be sinful about others

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they will be. And again in psychology This is known as a projection of guilt.

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And the way it works is

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we know

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that we really are. We know what we really love.

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We know our faults.

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But they are we know our sins, both present and past. But we can't face it.

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They are too hard hurry.

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Just a very convoluted psychological mechanism. What we do what our egos do, what our investors what our brains do, is that we know what we truly are allowed, but we can't live with that we can't face up to that we can't accept that about ourselves.

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we project it onto others, we throw it onto others

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and we see our sins in others. When we see our sins and others, we point at them and say look how terrible that person is. Look how sinful that person is. And for some strange reason that makes us feel better.

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So, if our thought if we are good, our thoughts about others will be good. The good and innocent will always think good and innocence about others.

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The corrupt will think everyone else is corrupt people see others as they see themselves.

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I've always created a story about two men.

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It's just a story that illustrates the point that there was one person who used to go for Fidelis Allah and

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pray sellout in February in the midst of the jamara and return after fetch, but not immediately, just before sunrise or at sunrise.

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And there was another person who spent the whole night in a dental vise

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and this is in a Muslim country.

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And then after fudge

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all night and then after dawn just before sunrise, sunrise, he used to stagger his way home.

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Now the person coming from the machine, they were both cross paths. The person coming from the machine

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being who he was and how he was he would always look at the other and think to himself, Masha Allah, just like I've prayed Salah in the masjid and I'm going home he's also coming home from a Masjid

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and the other hoodlum. He's look at this pious was suddenly from the masjid and he's to think to himself See, just as I'm coming from Adana, Vice, he's also coming from identifies.

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We think of others as we are ourselves.

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So Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us Don't think about others think about yourself, and that's why going back to that Cadiz Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says he Yakumo

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beware of speculation conjecture for in a vulnerable Hadith because conjecture, speculation is the greatest lie of all speech. There's no truth to it.

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Beautiful words is the greatest lie.

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Then the prophets and lilavati, who sent them saying,

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what are the hustle and do not eavesdrop? What are the justice and do not search for faults without an issue, and do not try to outbid one another in order to harm one another? meaning you're at an auction, or you're at a sale.

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You have no intention of buying something. But you see someone else's buying as he thinks yourself, you know what, I don't want it. And I know he wants it really badly, but I'll make sure he pays for it over the arms. So you continue raising the bed with no intention or pets.

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So that, even if he does get it,

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he has to pay an extortionate sum since you've artificially inflated the practice. This is known as the Naresh outbidding one another with the intention of harming the other. And undoubtedly, what would fall into this category along with dishonesty is when sellers on eBay.

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I've been asked this question I didn't know.

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Some of you may be wondering, where did he get these ideas from? Well, again, refrain from conjecture, conjecture and speculation. So I've been asked this question a number of times that what's the ruling about this where some eBay sellers, they set up a number of accounts on an on one account there sell an item, then they log on using all these other accounts and getting their friends to do the same and make bids. So the bids show up as official bids on eBay. And they are artificially inflating the price because they're all his clients, and he himself is bidding against himself.

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And all of it just inflate the price. In the hope that whoever some poor punter if he does buy it, he's playing an inflated price, profits of the largest as well as an ash and do not outbid one another with intention of harming each and he continues without the hassle, and to not be envious of each other. What out about and do not hate one another,

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one after the other, and do not turn your backs to one another will come about

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and be servants of Allah as brothers. But all of that comes late Subhanallah all of that comes late. Hate turning away from one another, outbidding one another in order to harm each other.

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He's dropping, spying on each other. All of that comes later. What's the first thing he mentioned in the heavy? Yeah.

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Beware of conjecture, for indeed speculation is the greatest lie of all speech.

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Cut it from the roots.

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Think only good of each.

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Then Allah subhanho wa Taala says what are the justice

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and do not search for one another's faults, do not search for faults.

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And this is a natural follow on is the natural consequence to conjecture and speculation.

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Do not search one another's faults, and that's by making inquiries

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investigating, researching,

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finding evidence proof

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searching for faults in each about each. It's completely however, we should never fool ourselves into thinking that I'm

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doing something good. By trying to search for evidence if it doesn't concern you doesn't concern you. As we learned about money and shadow the alarm.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a public figure.

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He was the leader of the room.

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He was a ruler of Medina.

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He was a prophet of Islam.

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For all the people of Medina, Muslim and non Muslim, he was the chief ruler,

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the chief judge.

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He was the military command.

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He was a political

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he was the chief judge all of the people of Medina including the non Muslims, how to refer to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam as per their agreements. So he was a very public figure.

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And he most importantly, he was a moral spiritual guide, and the Messenger of Allah for the whole creation.

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His most beloved wife mean a shadow of the alarm and he was also a public figure.

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And she was falsely accused of infidelity.

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He was very serious Matt.

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But Allah subhanho wa Taala did not tell the people of Medina even though this

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point was made into an all engulfing scandal, which lit the city of Medina Allah.

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Allah subhana wa hall with data did not tell the people of Medina

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you should have

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discovered the truth.

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You should have made the inquiries before opening your mouth.

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You should have gone to the messenger some of the lighting, you should have obtained proof before you said

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Allah did not say that, rather than Allah Subhana. Allah, Allah told the people of Medina, it never concerned you. Therefore it was haram for you to even talk about it.

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Let alone go out and search for evidence find proof, one way or the other. And as some people say, we will we make an inquiry in order to disprove the points.

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So we're doing something good, we are actually searching for evidence to the contrary, so that we can provide proof and disprove the point.

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The onus and responsibility and approval and the burden of proof lies on the claimant,

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not the innocence.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala said, Never concerned you. So it wasn't even permissible for you to talk.

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And I mentioned two things in that regard. And just the set of verses of sort of the more last panel with ad essays. Lola is a Samaritan of London,

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to be emphasizing Hydra wakad ohada movie when you had this.

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This, if this calumny this allegation, this great line, why wasn't it that when you heard this, believing men and believing women fought good of themselves,

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they thought good about themselves.

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Also meaning or thinking good about themselves, I explained it before in detail in detail if going on other occasions, in my commentary of the whole idea, and so he will hardly so please refer to that. But in summary, the last panel more than this was, this is clearly demonstrated, but I bought you but I'm sorry, really alarmed. And this was before the revelation of God and this is how the Sahaba of the loved one who were

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Even before the revelation of aura

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about this a while you will have the alarm. And it's also mentioned about other Sahaba. You were seated with his wife, and what are you, but I'm sorry? Yeah. She said to him, Have you heard very casually? She said to him, Have you heard about adding Shannon Mr.

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Savoy you will and sorry about the alarm set to her. On what are you? Would you ever be guilty of such a sin?

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And she was horrified.

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She was horrified.

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And she protested her innocence. So what are you? What are the alarm speaking to his own wife who said to her for an issue to hate on minkee that know that he is far better?

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If you can't imagine this thing about yourself,

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then how could you entertain such a thought about the mother of the believers who is far far better?

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This is the meaning of why didn't believe in men and even women think good of themselves?

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So if you want to think about someone, don't think about someone else, think about yourself. And if you think good of yourself, why not think good?

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We all like to believe that I'm innocent. My parents are good and innocent. My siblings are good and innocent, but all pious, Allah Subhana Allah, Allah says, Filipinos

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who are in a moving money, do not declare, declare yourselves to be pure, Allah knows best Who is the most wary and fearing of love.

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And before that, Allah says, He, Allah knows you better way than agenda when people tune in.

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When you were fetuses in the wombs of your mothers, therefore do not declare yourselves to be pure, Allah knows best, who is most fearing and wary of Allah. So we like to think of ourselves as being good and pure.

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And yet we think ill of others. So here Allah told the people of Medina that when you heard this, from from going out to investigate and find proof, and research the matter, nope. Why didn't believe in men and believing women think good of themselves? And then do what? What? Do you have that if convene and straightaway declare that this is a clear law?

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And then later on last panel with the lsaps?

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Why wasn't it when you heard this,

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the believing bit you said,

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my corner mountain will be hard. So Kanika has been that it is not permissible for us to even speak of this. May you meet hallowed be your name or Allah? May you be Hello.

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This is a great calumny, and allegation.

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So even about woman walking out in Chateau de la, despite her being a public figure, despite the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam being who he was, a lot didn't tell them Oh, before you speak,

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obtain proof. Before you speak, investigate. before you say anything, verify the facts ascertain the truth know, Allah subhanho wa Taala says it was haram for you to speak about it. It was hard for you to discuss it, it was hard for you to think about it. And if anything, you should have been thinking about yourselves and not this.

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And that's how it is even today for us. So what are the justices do not search for Fox?

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We may think we're investigating, we're ascertaining the truth. We're verifying the facts. But law declares that searching for Fox. It doesn't concern you and as I've explained on numerous occasions, whenever some whenever an allegation is made, it only concerns those people they impacts directly.

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If an employee is accused of something, then he affects the employer.

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The whole idea of ascertaining the truth and verifying the facts and investigating means that the employer should verify the facts, obtain proof, make sure they have all the evidence before they make any judgments or take any action because it concerns them directly.

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Similarly with the husband, or wife, if an allegation is made against the husband, or the wife, then before they make any rash judgments before they rush into any decision, they should investigate verify the facts ascertain the truth because these matters concern the spouses. Yes, they are entitled to search

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Not anyone else.

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It doesn't concern anyone else.

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And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, interesting Islam in Turku man irony, part of the goodness of a person's Islam is his abandoning and shunning and leaving that which doesn't concern him.

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If you want to be a good Muslim,

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if you want your Islam to be good, just make sure that you'd never concern yourself with things that don't concern that will make your Islam beautiful. If you want to corrupt your religion, if you want to corrupt your faith, and you want to be a bad Muslim by the words of the messenger salallahu alayhi wasallam and concern yourself with other peoples of concern yourself with that which doesn't really and shouldn't really concern.

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So what are the justices who did not search performance?

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The very

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law and you know, when we search for one another's faults, Imam Ahmed ibn Hanbal Rahmatullah Healy related Ethan's Muslim and the same Hadees is related from say the man to live the alarm

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and even from above, or the alarm or even from thoburn love the alarm. So actually a number of sahaabah the alarm all relate this.

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So the words of

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this Hades in the Muslim Imam Mohammed is from another Sahabi, Abu Salah, Samira the alarm.

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De labarre who say he's the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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announced and we learned that I'm delighted. Allah says that he raised his noble voice

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and another Hadith he spoke so loudly because he was passionate, he was angry. The messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam spoke so loudly that from inside the machine women who were in their homes at a distance could hear the message. Some of the love it was an even though prophets in the law it was an almost softly spoke very softly spoke he was very passionate and angry. And you can just imagine him saying the following words with passion and with anger.

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Loudly he said yeah, Matt Sherman am and a bit isn't what I'm you're holding the email.

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taboo muslimeen to be rude to him.

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For him to whom he had to bury him

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in la hora de

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la hora de Yes, the whole fee by

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the messenger salallahu alayhi wasallam loudly and passionately proclaim

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the ocean all those who have believed with their tongues, but he man has not entered their hearts do not back by the Muslims while at the debit to Him and do not search for their faults.

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For he who searches for their faults,

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a lot of searches for his fault. See the difference? For in Lumia tiberi our RT him

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plural and single for he who searches for their faults, plural. Allah searches for his fault sync

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will mean you

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and whoever's fault Sr. Allah searches for you if that will work. That will Phoebe, Allah will disgrace him in his own home.

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So when we search for one another's faults,

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do we not know that the same could happen to us?

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And that even if it doesn't happen to as in the

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last panel with Anna does not need to search for any of our faults. Allah is aware Yeah, animal heart in the office at all, will love Wi Fi bill Huck, Allah sees it as he he, he knows the treachery of the eyes. And he knows that which the hearts can see.

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And a lot of judges with the truth.

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Law knows the treachery of the times.

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So we may cast rapid glances here and there. We may steal glances here and there.

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The man is walking with his wife along the road. And the wife's keeping a watchful eye over her husband

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and he's conscious of that.

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So he looks around make sure he doesn't move his head, but he steals glances here and there.

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And his wife doesn't catch him even though she is the jealous protective type.

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yeah Allah Maha. Allah knows the treachery of the arms. And okay anyone can if someone's in front they can see the treachery of the arms. Well my daughter Surah loggos Allah even knows the lust and the desire and the secrets of hearts Allah will be with How can a large churches by the truth

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even if you happen to come across the faults of a Muslim you should never search for it but even if you happen to come across the fault of a Muslim

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should you do

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in many howdy the prophets in LA it was an

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omen cetera Muslim, cetera Hola.

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Whoever conceals the fault of a Muslim, whoever shields and Muslim, Allah will shield him on the Day of Resurrection.

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And in one hand Eve, whoever conceals the faults of a Muslim, forgotten who I am older than it is as though he has restored to life. He has revived an infant girl that was buried alive.

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Some of the Arabs will want to bury their newborn daughters out of shame and for fear of poverty.

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Fear of a bird

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Prophet sallallahu wasallam said whoever conceals a fault of a Muslim. It is as though he has given life to an infant's girl who was buried.

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You may have heard of the same What have you been inside of the alarm line?

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Well, you will insert it into the alarm. The same hobby I spoke about earlier.

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You may have heard that he wants travelled from Medina.

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He had heard of the from the sort of Lhasa lahardee.

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And he wanted he learns that there is another Sahabi who heard the same ad.

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And he wanted to hear the same idea from the other so happy that he had heard. He knew that he had heard it.

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And that's a hobby that he learns of was awkward for the law firm who was in Egypt. So who you are you been in Saudi the alarm travels by Campbell,

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from Medina, all the way across the desert across the Sinai Peninsula, all the way into Egypt.

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And then

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he made his way to

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the alarms house. And he met with him and he told him that I have come this whole distance because there is a hadith which I've heard from the messengers, the love it was on them, and that you have heard the same study, and I wanted to hear it from you as well. So rock bottom Nando de la home after a discussion he confirmed with him. he recited the same Hadith to him about you but I'm sorry of the alarm and raised his hands and said Allahu Akbar, and then he refused to remain in Egypt. And when

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you travel that distance, listen to one heavy. Do you know what that had? He was saying? Whoever conceals a fault of a Muslim in the dunya. Allah will conceal his faults on the Day of Judgment.

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That's if you happen to come across. Someone's saying someone's indiscretion someone's fault.

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So even if you do come across inadvertently, this is what you should conceal one another's false prophets in the law. It wasn't until the so how about the law? Do not bring me complaints of each other.

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For I wish to come out to you in such a state that my heart is clean. In relation to if

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you did not wish to harbor any ill will and your feeling towards any.

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We shouldn't be poisoning one another's minds about each.

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This is how we create conflict.

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Is there any parent who hasn't said an ill word about their child?

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is there is there any parents who hasn't said an ill word about their child?

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Don't parents mothers and fathers get angry with their children

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Tell them off. And we're talking about adults, not young children, adults. Tell them off rightfully so, I'm only speaking about when they are justified in doing so. Or maybe because of what they think what they believe. But don't they get angry? Don't they say things? Don't they complain? Don't parents complain about one son to another? Or one daughter to another?

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yet? Does anyone hold it against them? Does anyone hold it against them? That's human nature. What we shouldn't do is carry these tales

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to one another. How would it be Imagine if a family members spent most of their time on the phone? ringing up siblings and saying mum said this about you? Mum said that about you. Mum said this about you. Dad said this about you. Imagine what would happen.

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It leaves the other person in the gutter. And not only about not just how they would feel, but it would poison their mind about their own delivered father. And

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so the intelligent we all do it. We all complain for Allah sake, we complain about ourselves. True.

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I mean, you have to be a real psychopath.

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Not to not to ever think negatively about yourself.

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It's true. We all have our moments of self doubt, self censure, self criticism.

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Don't we don't mean secret, grit our teeth, bite our tongue, put our head down in shame. And think I shouldn't have said that I shouldn't have done that I was wrong. Oh, I wish I could take back time. I wish I could turn the hands of the clock.

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turn back the hands of the clock. And we're not talking about major things just a gaffe. Just something we said, the way we behave. And one occasion, we actually go red in the face afterwards and privacy and say, I wish I hadn't done that. I wish I hadn't said we center ourselves, we criticize ourselves. We are negative about ourselves. We blame ourselves

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a lot. That's why I said earlier everyone knows the truth about themselves.

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Law says about man, but even sooner if so he will see your

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name man is very observant about himself, even though he may make his excuses. man knows himself. We all know ourselves. So aren't we self critical, self deprecating. Self century? Aren't we?

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Don't we have our self doubts? So if we believe this about ourselves, even though we love ourselves so much, then why should we imagine that others won't think the same others or others may not say things about us, when talking about those will have the right fathers mothers, those who have been wronged at our hands.

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The dangerous thing is when people carry these tails.

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So they relate from A to B B to C

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when your friends come to you

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and say to you that oh such and such and such and such a person said some disobey even fail speaking the truth.

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You should say to your friend even though Are you my friend?

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What good does this achieve?

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What good

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does this achieve?

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Remember when someone rang me, and I was on my way to a conference.

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And it was a major day. It was the completion of so he called

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I had to do the completion give us give the main speech. And it was a momentous occasion, a number of students were graduating. And I was on my way there.

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And someone called me in the morning. So we were traveling on the motorway. And he took up about 20 minutes of my time.

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And in in those 20 minutes, he spent about 19 minutes relating to me what a few people had said

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negative stuff.

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And then at the end of it, he said, sous chef, how's everything else I sort of handed. So chef, is there anything I can do for you?

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I had to bite my tongue.

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And say does our como la Hadar for your idea for today for your gifts for today? What good did it achieve?

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I heard one very great scholar say in one of his speeches, he said

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Whichever friend comes to you, and carries Tales from other people and tells you what others have said about you, then realize that they are not your friends, they are your enemies.

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What good does it achieve.

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So even if we come across another person's fault, inadvertently,

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we should shield it, we should conceal it by carrying tails to one another, this is how we create conflict.

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And then when we do, even if we do end up seeing something, or we actually go out and investigate what we shouldn't, because when you search for faults that you will end up being very biased in your search. And as I said, you may see 999 things that actually can confounding and that disprove your allegations or your suspicions. But you find one thing then because of confirmation bias, you will seize upon that one thing and actually strongly believe whatever you want to believe, or your neffs wants you to believe. And then after that what happens you can't rest

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so you go and backpack you go and share it with us

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that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said do not backbite the Muslims and do not search for their phones they're all go hand in hand

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there's a story about saving

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the law related by a number of authors

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say that the law

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exam criteria law here actually later says massage

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is a matter of the law and what happened one one night remember he used to search he used to walk the streets of Medina he used to patrol so one man he heard some

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a man singing in the house and he heard other sounds

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and I'm gonna have the alarm became suspicious.

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So, what he did is that to ensure that he could catch the person see that the alarm instead of going from the front door because if he had knocked and they would have had time to sort themselves out. So see then the alarm he had a man singing and the reason he was singing because he had a he was inebriated intoxicated

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or maybe not fully but see then the loved one that's what he suspected.

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So see the nominal the love and climb the wall from the rear

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and jumped into the courtyard of the house. And there he saw the man

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with a goblets of wine drink.

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See the nominal the loved one shouted at him and said, Oh enemy of your soul? Did you really think that you would engage in such behavior and that love would consider your sin?

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So the man spoke up and said, Oh, I mean what mean?

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I have committed one sin.

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I have committed once

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but you have committed three.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah says what are the just system and do not search for faults? Do not spy and you have spied on me?

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Allah Subhana Allah says what do we use them in our behalf and come to the homes from their front doors and you did not come from my front door you left over the wall. And and these are verses of the Quran and Allah Subhana Allah Allah says latuda will utilize AWS data standards towards solimo Allah Allah and do not enter homes that don't belong to you other than your homes until you seek permission from their occupants. And that until you give them Sadam and you did not seek my permission to enter Maya. So Amit, I mean, I confess, I have committed one sin but you have committed three. So say that one of the alarm, remember he will always halt when he was confronted

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that was a beauty of see that Allah is he was a he was a man of great passion. And a man of great anger. But a lot of work well.

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He would never get his he would never allow his anger to get the better of him when it came to the whole.

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Anyone could read a verse of the poor

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and he would fall silent.

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Totally love, a man of that courage, a man of that rage.

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Doesn't mean he was a raging person. He was very controlled.

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Historians non Muslim historians believe that what say that oh my god, Allah, I'm from a purely worldly military, economic and social perspective and political perspective, what's even better the alarm achieved

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in his 10 years was remark unprecedent.

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So, say that the lover and was an amazing individual. But he was a man who struck fear and shear all in people.

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And of course, he had a temper.

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he would never ever

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allow his anger

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to come in the way of the left. For some remarkable reason. Whenever he heard a single verse, or, say, the normal the law of minds, anger didn't just subside, it dissipated, it disappeared completely. So the man said to him, and I have committed one sin, you have committed three, see the normal, the alarm accepted, he accepted.

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And he said to him, I make a promise that I won't do this again, as long as you make a promise that you won't do this again. So the man said, I promise. So let me see that.

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What that story illustrates, is that look how serious his sin was, he was drinking.

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But when he told me that I don't want to be alone I've committed once

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you've committed three. The first one was, well, I have to just assume do not search for Fox. Even though he was a medium, I mean, he was the ruler. He was the ruler.

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In fact, a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam informs us

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that when a ruler,

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subjects people to suspicion of siddur him then he corrupts them.

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When the populace believes

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that they are always suspected, this corrupts things it corrupts their well being it corrupts their mind, it corrupts their mentality, it can even corrupt their behavior. They are no longer at ease, and that's not healthy.

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So let's head over to sue law some of the law already.

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So what are the just system do not search for forms? What if the Bank of Baroda and do not backbite one another?

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backbiting is a major sin? It's a sin of the tongue.

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backbiting what is backbiting? We like to think that backbiting is when I'm speaking terribly about another person. No, you're Muslim racket. The law here relates to the province of the law my Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said at the Drona Mila Viva. Do you know what Leber his backbiting? Allah what a suitable atom. They said Allah is messengers of the love it was in the mail best. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Vic Raka harkavy Marya, cara, you're mentioning something about your brother which he dislikes.

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So, this is your sort of law.

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What about if what I say about him is true.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in canopy him at home

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with him you can feed him at home.

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If you if if what you say about him is true of him. Then you have committed backbiting against him. But if you if what you say is not true about him, then you have slandered him.

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So, the arguments that are what I'm saying is true.

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You know, once a woman woman in shadow, the alarm rang her, a woman came.

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So when she left the province, she said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Yasuda Allah, look how beautiful that woman was.

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She actually said that she said, Look how beautiful

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and fair that lady was.

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If only she wasn't so short.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to her or Anisha

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you have committed a Riba and backbiting against her. So she protested. She said, you have a soul Allah, I'm only telling you what's true about her because she was praising and what was ritual that Oh, she's very beautiful, very fair.

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Not feign complexion meaning, fair, as in beauty and handsomeness. She's a handsome baby.

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Beautiful lady, If only she wasn't so short.

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So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Oh, are you sure you have

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So she said, you're sort of like, I'm only telling you only said what's true about it. So the prophets of Allah and it seems that indeed, that's what's backlight.

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backbiting is to say something about someone in their absence, which they would dislike. That's it, no other explanation. It is a matter whether you've got the guts to say to their face, as we like to say, it doesn't matter whether it's true. It doesn't matter whether you've got the courage to say to their face. What's the definition of backbiting and the word of the messengers allied equals backbiting veba is to say something about someone in their absence, which they would dislike. You could be talking about their height, their complexion, their weight, their appearance, their clothing, it doesn't matter.

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If they would dislike such a thing being said,

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then that's backbiting

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and backbiting is a major sin. inshallah, we don't have time today. I'm going to end in a few minutes. But I will hopefully, maybe after the completion of sort of job sometime in the near future, I'll speak individually or I'll give individual sessions on these particular topics, spying, suspicion, and backbiting. But just as a summary, for now, there are so many hobbies about backbiting.

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Javid Abdullah the lavon relates among reporters had Ethan as Muslim that once he says we will walk in with the prophets and the love it or send them when there was a sudden foul stench that rose so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Do you know what this stench is? stink? stench. It's a no yada sort of law. So he said, this is a smell of those people who do LIBOR and who backbite others.

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ultimately is to consume the flesh of your fellow lungs.

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Allah has likened it to cannibalism. That's what it is. We may not think of it but Allah himself says this is akin to cannabis.

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And for us, it's normal. We back by two hours fasting, we're very careful will avoid water will bring up the item and say, Can I take this injection? Can I take this medicine? And everyday Can I eat this number? Can I eat that? He number, a miniscule amount? He number this is a number that can I eat this? Can I eat that?

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And yet we happily gorge on each other's flesh. That's what it is.

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And that's exactly how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would describe it. Once the Sahaba or the alarm rang.

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He was he stood up and he left.

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So another man who was sitting there he spoke ill of him after he left. So a man the profits of the loans and receipt of the Sahaba one of them got up and left. So after he left another one

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spoke of him

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spoke ill of him. The province little alarm it was them said to him pick your teeth.

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She said you had a sort of love. Why are you asking me to pick my teeth? Have I eaten meat or anything? So he said, you just consume the flesh of your brother.

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Once Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was traveling riding, and he came across the carcass of a dead meal, look at the carcass of a meal.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam pointed to it and said, it is far better if one of you to fully consume and eat this whole dead meal than it is to consume the flesh of his federalist by backbiting.

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In fact, there's a famous as well it's not very famous, but

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one author actually narrates the story with a with a sound chain of narration of the duck to see in his how

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he relates that one see that a robot currency then are the alarm when they were traveling. There was someone who was looking after them and serving them

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and he would prepare their food for

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one day. The other Sahabi love the lover and he overslept. So we'll look at a number of the alarm

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clock and he was supposed to prepare the food for them but he was still sleeping. So they awoke and there was no food.

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So they they said one or both of them said in the hulan own that look at him.

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He just sleeps a lot.

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That was that he woke up. So they said to him, no food.

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So he said, Go and find some food. Maybe go to the messenger, sallallahu alayhi wasallam and say to him, but we'll look at an aroma request for some food.

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So the man went to profits in the lab it was, according some narrations. The suggestion is that this was actually some manual fallacy. It'll be alive.

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Anyway, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he approached him and he said he had a sort of

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sense send me to you. they convey their Salaam and ask you that, do you have any foods provide for them? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, What food do they want? they've eaten.

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Go back and tell them

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so he came. And he said to them, that the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that what food do you eat them? So they're both very fearful. So they hurriedly went to the messenger some of the law it was something they said Yara sort of love.

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What makes you believe that we have eaten. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, you consume the flesh of your fellow Muslim.

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And even now I can see pieces of meat and flesh in between your teeth.

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And that was Abu Bakar and tomorrow the alarm

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as I said among the elvina muchness de la Haley, he relates his hobbies with an authentic chain of narration all the way to abubaker normal the alarm

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in his other hobbies and

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so then they said the our soul Allah seek forgiveness for us. Do it's too far for us.

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pray to Allah forgiveness. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, No, he will seek forgiveness, meaning you have to seek forgiveness from him. If anything, he is the one who will forgive you or pray for your forgiveness, not me.

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There are many Hadith about backbiting and inshallah I'll devote one session to that. Let's end with the verse last panel with Allah says, Are you

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one of you wish and yet God allowed me to see that he eats the flesh of his brother made that dead

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but the law

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so fail law Be wary of law.

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Sorry, forget that you would surely to test this what the law so and be wary of law in the law of the world or him indeed a law his often relenting meaning he turns to his servants and accepting their

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repentance for him his full of mercy. So we still have a chance to repent and mend our ways, ma'am hardy law he and he, he says that ever since I learned that backbiting is how long? I have never done LIBOR against anyone. And when did he learn that backbiting was held in his adulthood? No, as a child, that means a man Well, how do you say it's from childhood, I have never committed the sin of LIBOR. There are many stories of many relena they protected their tongues, they would not gorge on each other's flesh. And we may be shocked about this a lot actually likens it to cannibalism. But indeed, I once saw a documentary about cannibalism in the south, Southeast Asian islands.

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Papua New Guinea.

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I don't know if any of you have seen the same documentary. But in there, they went deep into the jungles.

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And they interviewed people from villages who actually used to practice cannibalism till the night till 1974, I believe when it was outlawed first in that country. But because these are remote tribes living in the remote jungles, and forests, they have their own practices, and they actually used to practice cannibalism.

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And they interviewed

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and when they interviewed some of the old people who had actually eaten before eating him flesh

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when they talk to them,

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it's like, it was something so normal.

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One of them when they interviewed him, they're actually asking him, how did you get this human? How did you

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end up eating him? And he's describing how they caught this person, how they skinned him, how they roasted him on the pits, how they access flesh, what it tastes like.

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In 1989, a Roger and once is describing all of this is actually eating something at the same time. He wasn't flesh he was some, you may have been a large vegetable or a coconut or something. But he was very casually so he's having bites and in between morsels just chatting away. It's like someone eating a Mars bar and talking very casually Yeah, I went here I went there. So he's like eating and in between morsels is in gory detail. He's describing how they skin kill this human skin him roasted him over a pit and cutters trash and at what it tastes like. And they say that all of them consistently said one thing, which is that

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they all call humans long pic, because they say the flesh is exactly like pork. It's just like eating a pig. So they actually named the human meal as long pig that all of them in their simple tribal language consistently all the people who had ever consumed human flesh, when they spoke to them, they all call this long pig. So the called humans long pigs when they were conceived, cocksman consumed because they said the flesh is exactly the same. This is one more reason why the last panel with Allah has made the flesh of Hannah Z of swine

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because it's

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once we declare that to be Haram, we are one step further removed

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from the sin of eating human flesh.

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But the reason I mentioned this, it was so natural was so normal. When he was actually it's like he's describing

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the last time he had kebabs and that was it.

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So casual, and I mentioned that because we may find that shocking. I mean, I can see the expressions on everyone's faces. But when it comes to

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we have become so accustomed it's normal for us. Absolutely not

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worried about eating Helen Holloman enough when it comes to consuming one another's flesh, which Allah describes as cannibalism and what we find the absolutely normal

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sort of last panel with Allah say surely you would detest this of course you would suggest as you test that for character to test this what the blood and be wary of Lucha, Lucha Libre he Verily Allah has offered lensing and most merciful I am with the for verse last panel with Allah says all believers refrain from excessive conjecture, speculation. For indeed some speculation is a sin. I didn't explain that which simply means that once you begin thinking there will come a point when your thoughts are no longer innocent, but straight into heroin and are sinful themselves even before you do anything.

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And do not search for faults. What is the bag of Babel and do not back by to one another? And one more thing.

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When we think even if we don't speak to anyone that Allah mentioned a very beautiful point. If you speak ill about someone and what's LIBOR, the definition of LIBOR if you say something about someone which they dislike in their absence, that's backbiting. So when you don't mention it to anyone, but you just think of it yourself, you still committing the sin of backbiting because you're doing backbiting with yourself.

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You're doing Riba about someone to yourself. You're speaking to yourself, you're speaking to your soul. You're dealing with Heba about someone to yourself, and do not backbite one another. Would one of you wish that you consume the flesh of your dead fellow?

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Surely you would test this

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and be wary of a lot indeed a lot is off relenting and accepting the servants repentance or him for the Most Merciful or some of the law was, he was also in in the

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early he was a huge Marine, Chronicle long shuttle and learned stuff