Giving Advice (Nasihah)

Riyadul Haqq


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Bismillah R Rahman Rahim

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hamdulillah Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala See you then Misurina wahat min the being one way or the other. He will be here Jemaine

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Allahumma Sanada so you then didn't need to be me while he was symptoms

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continuing with the theme of Mercia.

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Insha Allah Today I'll share a few thoughts about

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giving Mercia giving

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counsel imparting advice

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and giving good counsel to others.

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This falls under the instruction of the prophets Allah Allah Almighty He was salam

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at the mercy

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lemon of the law when he could be he was sued he was in Madrid Muslimeen are taking

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a hadith related by Muslim in his so he and others from the meanwood Daddy or the Allah one who says we the prophets of Allah Almighty was salam said, religion is no see.

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We said for whom he replied for Allah and for his book and for his message and for the leaders of the Muslims and their communists.

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And part of

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the nasiha for Muslims is to advise them, guide them

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and show

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that's part of Mercia.

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And as we've learned repeatedly, not see her originally means sincerity.

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Wishing Well, purity, genuineness being true

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to something or someone

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wanting the best.

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harboring good intentions towards another

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and having their wealth and their best interests at heart, all of these meanings and more fall into the single word and asleep.

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And the word nnessee as we commonly understand it, ie advise counsel, this is merely a small part.

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But this is what we will concentrate on today.

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The teachings of Allah hundreds of assume sole Allah Almighty He was sort of them

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in giving mercy to others in advising others in imparting

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good counsel to others.

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How should this be done? What should be

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our thoughts and our feelings in such situations?

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What are the correct and appropriate times and actually conditions

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for imparting advice

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and when someone

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seeks us out for help,

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guidance and advice. How should we respond?

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Inshallah we'll try to address some of these issues, time permitting.

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The first thing to

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categorize here would be Who are we actually advising.

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So on the major part, it will be one of two people, either someone who has actually come to us and solicited our advice.

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They've asked us to help them to guide them

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To show them

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and to give them counsel.

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And the other

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either of individuals or more, would be those

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who don't approaches. But we approach them and solicits.

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And we actually take the initiative and guide them, or try to guide them, try to advise them.

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So let me speak about the first category.

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Every day, or almost every day, we may find ourselves in a situation whereby someone is seeking our advice, if not every day, then regularly frequently.

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This is what colleagues, acquaintances, friends, family members, and loved ones do.

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And even in this in giving the sea

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salt allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has taught us so much. First of all,

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he's actually told us that responding to someone's request for advice,

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guidance and counsel

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is an obligation on Earth and they're right over us.

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So it's not a responsibility which should be sure.

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For instance,

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in a famous Hadith later by Mahatma Muslim from Abu Huraira howdy Allahu Allah and Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam

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says How could Muslim and Muslim humps but the salam where he had married what Tiburon Jana is what ejabberd Dara shmitah lanatus

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the rise of a Muslim over another Muslim sorry the rights of a Muslim over another Muslim are five

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the returning of Sudan

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the visiting of the Sikh

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following the funeral,

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and other Muslims invitation, are you for food

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and finally with the Shmi to allow this to respond with a prayer of mercy to someone who has sneezed and praised Allah.

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So these are five things

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and then,

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in a similar Hadith

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related by Imam did me the right Allah Helaine son and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam says there are six rights. So these five and the six right is

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William SatoLA, who either rubber OSHA hit.

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The additional rights mentioned in this hadith is that along with these five

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Muslims right over another is that he is sincere to him.

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He wishes him well.

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And he has his best interests and welfare at heart, whether the other Muslim is present or absent. And in another narration of the same Hadith by Imam Muslim racket Allah Healy in his he Prophet saw love it was salam again says there are six rights of a Muslim over another

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these five and the sixth one

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what are the stun sahak Irfan salah, that when he seeks your advice and your good counsel

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then you be sincere to him, you advise.

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And in another Hadith Prophet Sall Allahu Allahu wa salam

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that when your brother

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seeks your advice and your guidance, or for you Sherif Ali, than he should advise him and guide him when one Muslim seeks advice and guidance and counts

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All, from his brother, then for your Sherif Ali, he should advise him.

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Now, an interesting question here is that

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why should this be considered?

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A write?

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Because surely,

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when people are asked for advice, everyone tends to respond, in fact, people volunteer advice without being approached. So what's the meaning of this hadith? Or one way of understanding it is

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if I can elaborate briefly on one of the rights, so amongst these five, right, amongst the six rights, one of them is

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what Jabba to Tao.

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And responding to an invitation.

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Which means if someone invites you for food,

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then it's their right over you, if they invite you for food, that you respond positively, and you accept their invitation. Now, again, the question here is, who wouldn't?

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But this has to do with circumstances.

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Now in rich, wealthy developed countries,

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moms pee,

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are wealthy.

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When someone invites another for food,

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it is an occasion and one would expect that the other person will

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a lavish dinner.

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And so it's an occasion

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but in some parts of the world.

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And if we understand this hadith at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, not everyone was rich.

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Many people were poor. But despite their poverty, they were

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generous, hospitable,

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caring, and considerate.

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And what they would do is they would try to honor their friends, their neighbors, their guests, as much as possible, despite lacking the means to do so.

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Which meant sometimes inviting them for food, but not being able to present much

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and sometimes a food symbol.

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in such situations, there is a danger that a person is invited.

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But looking at the poverty and the privation

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and the lack of wealth

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of the hosts, a person may make excuses and declined the invitation. So it's

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sort of person looks at not the invitation, but the host, the person who is inviting them that are they worthy of my attention of my being there guest of my responding to them, of me visiting them in their home.

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Because it doesn't look like this person can do much for me.

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So it seems about situations that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam emphasizes where there is a danger that where there is a danger, that the person will look at the person who's inviting them the host and be dismissive and contemptuous and arrogant and remain aloof.

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The prophets allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has taught is that it's actually the right of that Muslim over us to respond positively to that invitation and to accept it. Similarly.

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The right of a Muslim over under the Muslim to be advised to be counseled to be guided, when they seek a person's guidance and counsel

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is in such situations where there is a danger

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of a person making excuses and trying to wriggle out of that responsibility. And that happens. So yes, on many occasions, people volunteer advice

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without being approached, however

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sometimes in their desire to protect themselves, and in their desire

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preserve their standing with different parties, sometimes a person, even if they are approached, declined to get involved in any way, and thereby not even offer it offer that advice. So let's imagine someone approaches another person, they approach them because

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they feel they can help they feel they can advise, they can go

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and they they have the knowledge and and are in a position to assist them and to guide them.

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And yet the other person, the one who is being approached, they may have other considerations, such as well, this person has approached me for advice.

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And the advice they are seek.

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I don't want to get involved.

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Because it's not my problem. It's not my concern. And I don't want any fall back.

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Even though the person has, in great desperation comes.

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So this is just one crude example. Indeed, there are occasions when

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a Muslim approaches another Muslim for guidance and advice.

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And the approached individual,

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tries to shirk this responsibility, flee from it, wriggle out of it, and declined to advise the person

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or sometimes they can advise them, but partially incorrectly, or with the bare minimum, which actually doesn't help or maybe even harmful.

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So, the first thing the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has taught us is that

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when one Muslim approaches another for guidance, for counsel for advice, it's actually the duty the obligation of this other Muslim to respond costs. And the

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petitioner, the one seeking the advice, he has a right over the one he has approached. That's one thing.

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Number two, Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam

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in different ways, we learn from the Hadith, that there are etiquettes there are duties when advising someone.

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It goes without saying that the advisor the counselor has to be sincere.

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So if someone approaches is, we should review our intention.

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Check our purity of intention and motive and sincerity. To ensure that we are advising them correctly, sincerely, properly,

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with the right

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golden objective in mind,

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there should be no share no personal share of gain.

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It should be very sincere advice it should be given in the spirit of the hadith of ANSMANN or mollycoddle the Allah Han relates Bukhari and Muslim. Now it may not matter you see, he may well enough See, one of you does not believe until he desires until he loves for his brother that which he loves for himself.

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Now, imagine if I was in this position.

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What would I do?

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This is how I should advise this peers.

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Not vicariously like I explained before, where we are too weak

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to act on our own advice,

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but we richly give advice to others expecting them to at times.

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But we in our own weakness and our own failure. We are unable to act on that advice.

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As Allah says in the Quran, that will warn a nurse with a barrier within Sonam for second month and that Luenell kita

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filata What do you command people to virtue?

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And you forget yourselves.

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Even though you recite the book, do not have any sense, do not understand

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that you instruct others to virtue, and yet you forget yourselves.

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Even though you recite the book of Allah therapy, what do you not understand? So, when we advise someone, it should be sincere advice.

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This especially if we've been approached.

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So, at the moment, I'm only talking about giving advice when we've actually been approached and requested to help advise and guide someone.

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The person who is approached the prophets of Allah Haile, who will send them actually says in the Hadith that this individual, but consulted individual is more than almost the Shadow Demon.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in the Hadith amongst the Shadow Demon,

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the consulted the one who is consulted, the one who is approached for advice and counsel is more common, is one in whom trust and confidence have been placed.

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So that's a major responsibility.

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A Muslim has reposed their trust and confidence in you.

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Now you have to act on that a man on that trust.

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You cannot betray.

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And this is why the prophets of Allah Almighty wa salam says in a hadith led by my ramblings Muslims,

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and by others,

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will minister Shara who who will Muslim for Ashara la he belated rush then forgot Han

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whoever is approached and consulted for advice, and by his Muslim brother, and then this approach, individual has consulted individual advises and guides his brother, without true guidance, without understanding and intelligence, quite simply, without guidance, it without right use guidance for Kahana then indeed, he has portrayed. So imagine, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, If a approaches be for advice, and be advisors, them

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without rights here Skydance

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insincerely partially without their best interests, and their welfare at heart, without wishing well for them without wanting the best for them, because that's what Nancy has should be. It should be a distillation and an extraction of purity of sincerity of the best wishes.

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And if a Muslim doesn't respond in that manner, for Karna, then he has committed an act of treason and betrayal against his fellow Muslim.

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So it's a major responsibility.

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And it's actually better if a person can't fulfill that responsibility.

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Either because they aren't sincere enough, or there's a danger that they may

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ill advise them because of personal gain or motive and personal interest or a conflict of interest.

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Or they may be sincere,

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but they don't have the knowledge, the the intelligence, the wisdom, the experience, the ability to advise, as we learned in the talk last week, that the consulting person also has a duty of care on themselves, that they only approach a heavy Wallaby or an add in or the era

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or a word meaning someone who truly looks after them cares for them loves them, wants the best for them is intelligent as wise is of sound opinion and is knowledgeable.

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if the advisor feels that they don't have these qualities

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Then it's actually better for them not to advise and help and decline sincerely.

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This doesn't contradict the hadith of

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and of the other person having right over them, because in fact, they are fulfilling that right? They are responding sincerely by saying that, unfortunately, I'm not in a position to advise.

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Because I may advise incorrectly, they don't have to elaborate or go into these details. But if they declined sincerely, then then that's except if they're declining to advise declining to guide

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is based on sincerity. Because they genuinely feel that there's a conflict of interest or that they don't have the knowledge and the experience and wisdom

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or the ability than they're actually doing the other person a favor, that's acceptable.

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So these are just some of the etiquettes

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when a person is approached, for advice,

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to be sincere,

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to advise

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with the other person's best interests and welfare at heart, to extract the best that they can of themselves. In imparting that good counsel and advice. These are just some of the etiquettes mentioned in the Hadith.

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The other category

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of advising people,

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unsolicited, this requires a bit more explanation.

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it's often happens that we feel compelled to go out of our way, and approach others

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and guide them, advise them as to what we think is best.

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But this is a very delicate, and it can actually be a very tricky situation.

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And in a way this is related to a mobile model for now you're on in one go, meaning enjoying the good and forbidding sin.

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Again, there are many, many etiquettes and duties and responsibilities when it comes to giving the see her to others.

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Again, the first is sincerity.

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And more so than even the first category, because in the first category, at least we are approached and when we are approached, then we need to review our intention and ensure that we are sincere, we are genuinely helpful. We have the knowledge, the experience and the wisdom, and we guide accordingly.

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But when we aren't even approached and we take the initiative,

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when we should really ask ourselves, why am I getting involved? Why am I saying what I'm saying? Why am I approaching these people

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isn't just to be important, feel important, get my own way to make a display and a show of myself.

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To be heard, to be looked up to.

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One has to be very sincere

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and more than the first category, we have to seriously review our sincerity and our intention.

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The best example of this

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I giving advice without being approached is that the prophets of Allah Allah

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as Allah repeats from a number of prophets in the Holy Quran, on a satellite

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that I

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wish the best for

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I sought the best for you.

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And as part of that the prophets of Allah had eaten was salam gave

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Advice imparted good counsel repeatedly to their followers, but no one could have been more sincere than the prophets of Allah.

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Jedi Dibner Abdullah Al Virgilian of the Allah

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who I've mentioned repeatedly in the context of Naseeha

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Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim

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both relates

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the Hadith from him about

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mercy how her

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mom Carrera de la Haley relates that when

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Mohit Sharma

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will be Allah Who and the governor of gufa passed away.

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It could have been a volatile situation.

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But God did not delete oil but deleted the alarm a man of great humility

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and sincerity.

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He realized sincerely that his contribution on that occasion

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may prove to be helpful.

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He wanted the best for everyone, for all Muslims. So he did step four. But let's he did step forward. Nobody approached Wellwood to our knowledge P he wasn't approached, but he

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assumed responsibility. He took the initiative, and he stepped forward. And he spoke publicly advising the whole population.

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But then let's look at Jerry Rubin, Amity love the Aloha.

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He had those qualities, that sincerity, that devotion.

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He had that authority in position, he was the leader of the people. In fact, he wasn't just the leader of his own tribe, but he was appointed by the Khalifa as the as a military commander.

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he was a man of position of authority of influence, wise, intelligent, humble,

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even say than I would have thought but at the law one said to him, that you were a good leader before Islam, I of your people, and even after Islam, you are a good lead. You have remained a good lead.

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Even the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him that said that about him after offering him a pillow in one narration, the cloak for his own cloud for him to sit on, which he declined to do. That is that Karima poem in a gray moon, that when a nobleman of a people comes to you, then honor him.

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So even the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam called him noble and honored, and he honored him himself.

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So Jared, Villa habitually it'll be Allah was sincere.

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He was a military commander.

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He was a tribal lead. He was influential.

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He was humble.

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He was good,

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well respected, and he was noble by the testimony of the messenger of allah sallallahu.

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam had specifically told when he offered his allegiance

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to the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for Islam. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam stipulated the condition of oneness Haley couldn't be Muslim.

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Have wishing well and sincerity and genuineness towards every Muslim and he acted on that fully.

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So Imam Bukhari relates that on the day and will determine the Sharia law, the law has been passed away.

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Jednom de la hora de la one stood up,

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most likely on the member, he ascended the member

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and he praised Allah for me the law who Earth narrowly, he praised Allah and lavished praise on Allah. And then he said

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oh people

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La combitech are in LA he was the WHO lash at Ecole

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Walcott he was speaking in

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Hatha Yoga to me,

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the old people

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cling on to and adhere to observe

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the weariness and the fear of Allah

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alone, he has no power

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and be

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adhered to composure

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and a dignified demean

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and calmness and tranquility. Because remember, it could have been a volatile situation

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until adopt this dignified demeanor and composure

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and position of peace comes until another governor comes to you.

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For he will come to you shortly another governor and indeed another governor did arrive to replace and located in a charmer

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and then he added

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will start fooling me. Let me recommend for anyone who can have your Shibboleth and seek forgiveness for your late governor. For indeed he would love forgiveness

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and then see how he advised the pea sincerely how he sought forgiveness and the

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for the diseased. And then he explained to people why he had stood up.

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And he said I owe people I approached the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam to pledge my allegiance to him on Islam.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam specifically stipulated the additional condition of when most Haleakala Muslim,

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of wishing well of being sincere and genuine towards every single Muslim

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of wanting the best for every single Muslim.

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So indeed, Geneva the Allah horn said, I did pledge my allegiance to him on this. And then he said, What are behind the masjid in Nina Nasser Malecon the OP by the lord of this Masjid? I do wish I am sincere towards you.

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By the lord of this masjid, I am sincere to watch then he sought forgiveness from Allah and descent.

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This single I've elaborated on this because the single Hadith and story of Geneva the Allah Allah tells us so much, we can learn the etiquettes of giving unsolicited advice

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of imparting good counsel

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and advice to others when we haven't been approached.

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Of course, we can do that. And at times, we should do it provided we observe the etiquettes we fulfill the obligations and we adopt the correct methodology.

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We have to be sincere

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we have to have the ability, the position

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we have to have the knowledge, the experience

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all of these things Matt.

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We must wish well we must be sincere.

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He even sought as the fall after giving this in the seat. He even sought the forgiveness of Allah

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as a manner in a method of giving unsolicited advice and mercy to individuals all people

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so the single incident teaches us a lot

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another thing we need to ensure when giving the see

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we have to have the knowledge

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and be quite sure and confident that what we are saying is actually correct.

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Number two

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It shouldn't even be

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that we have an opinion.

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And the other person's opinion and practice are also correct. But we wish to impose our own opinion and understanding.

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That shouldn't be the case.

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beautiful Hadith explains this actually.

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Imam Bukhari Rahmatullah. It relates to Hadith from

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Abdullah hidden emerald, the hola armhole. Now,

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before I actually mentioned this particular narration, let me remind you

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another, well have a hadith which many of us have heard repeatedly,

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which is, we've all heard that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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passed by someone

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who was advising his brother. Well, who are you though ha.

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Whilst he was advising his brother about higher about shame, modesty bashfulness.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, that aquifer in the higher Amina Eema, that leave him for indeed higher is part of Eman.

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Part of faith.

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sometimes we understand this hadith to mean, that the Prophet Sall Allahu alayhi wa salam meant that don't advise him. There's no sometimes you may think that this hadith means that don't advise him. Because

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here is such a basic thing. It's part of Eman.

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if he is a movement, if he is a believer,

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he doesn't need to be advised about higher. There are other explanations as well which are normally given. But the truth is, this hadith is often misunderstood.

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Because what the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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actually said was a positive message about the one who was being advised. It wasn't negative taught.

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And this narration of Buhari of Sahiwal Wahhabi from Abdullah abnormal the Allah I'm Omar explains it clearly. The wording of the hadith is and this hadith this narration explains the other narrations

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I'm delighted no matter the Allahu Anhu man says that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed by someone who was advising another Muslim about higher

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bashfulness modesty

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but he wasn't just advising him the words of the Hadith Ha, your earth him. He was rebuking him for being too bashful for being too modest

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for being full of shame.

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And then I'm delighted no matter the hola Harinama continues. It was almost as though he was telling him that your shame your modesty your bashfulness

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has harmed you that you shouldn't be so soft and modest and bashful.

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So when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam heard this

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so what was he saying to him? He was rebuking him that you shouldn't be so soft. You shouldn't be so humble. You shouldn't be so meek. You shouldn't be so

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bashful and modest. You shouldn't have so much higher in you, because this is home G

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so when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam heard this, he said to him, he said to the adviser that

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leave him I don't rebuke him. For inner higher Amina Eman for Montes, modesty for bashfulness for hire is part of Eman. This is how a mock Minh is this is how I believe that is. So this trait

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should be is a commendable trait he should be praised for this not repute leave him for you know hire I mean an email for hire is part of an email.

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And this is similar to the other Hadith related by Muhammad without an imam didn't within their son and from Abu Hurayrah de Allah I'm Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

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and put me in a little room getting

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Wolfer Joe Hublin letting

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a mock me, a believer is innocent, is gullible.

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is naive,

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Wolfer gentle Hub One E and the sinful person

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a deceiver a scoundrel letting

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despicable lowly me

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what does that leave me?

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This is it.

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A believer is shy,

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modest, bashful, soft, me

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not stupid, not unintelligent.

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Believe it is trusting.

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Veteran, which means naive but not naive in the negative sense is that a believer is unworldly is trusting

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so people take advantage of

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Kareem he is noble. He is above

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these lowly, despicable behaviors that many deceitful scoundrels engaging.

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And the verger is a total opposite. The father has no shame.

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The father will lie, the father will deceive, the father will betray

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the father meaning a sinful person.

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The father takes people for a ride

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at times, and fortunately, the believer is taken for a ride, not because he's unintelligent, rather because he is innocent and naive, and trusting.

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this is the meaning of that hadith. But that will fit in higher Amin, Iman that leave him. I don't rebuke him for being shy, and bashful and Modbus.

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Rather, because hayah is part of email and it's a sign of EMA.

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That's how many, that's how a believer is. So

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I'd like to use this hadith to show that

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sometimes we can approach others and advise them

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thinking that what we are doing is good. Whereas we could be totally wrong. Totally wrong.

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So this person was advising his brother, not blood brother, but rather the brother in faith about higher.

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And the Prophet Sall Allahu alayhi wa sallam said Believe him for hire is part of EMA. So not everything

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has to be according to our understanding, our taste, our preference, we need to be very, very careful when we approach others unsolicited on our own initiative and tries to try to advise them

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become a busybody

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we really need to review our position.

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We have to be sincere. We have to adopt correct methodology. We have to have the knowledge, the experience the wisdom, and we also need to ensure that the thing we are advising them about is actually correct. And we can't always make an issue.

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I wouldn't be advising so if someone's doing something and that's permissible.

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And I have an opinion that's permitted.

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suitable, but for some reason I think my opinion is better than theirs or love textbook from such an attitude or I believe that yes what they are doing is correct, but I think this is even better. So, let me go and advise them Subhan Allah, sometimes it just leads to misunderstanding arguments.

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Be a net be

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unsolicited advice is a very slippery slope

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and even if the other person is actually doing something wrong and they need to be held, they need to be advised, then there is a manner in which to do it's a time a place.

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A man

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one of the first things is it should be done softly

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with wisdom as Allah says in the Holy Quran, who the civilians applicable Hekmati will Maori, that in Hasson

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Invite to the way of your Lord or invite to your Lord Yeah, Invite to the way of your law with wisdom

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and with good counsel with good advice.

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Beautiful advice, calm

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with the right choice of words.

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Haroon Rashid, he was the emperor, the Abbas emperor, he was approached and confronted

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by someone who rebuked

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so how do we know Rashid said to him,

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you have spoken to me this

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I spoke to him harshly. You said you spoken to me harshly.

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Even when Allah sent

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His two prophets Musa and Harun at a human's Salah

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to the worst of his creation for our own

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Allah set to both of them for Kula Allahu Allah lay in and learn who you are to the Karo Yaksha both of you go and say a soft word to him. Perhaps he may take heed or he may come to feel love

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so then Haroon Rashid said, and

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you are not any better

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than the prophets Musa and Haroon Alayhis Salam, and I'm not worse than Farah.

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And yet Allah told them, Allah sent to people who are far greater than you to someone who was far worse than me.

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And yet Allah told them to say a software to him. So imagine for words of wisdom, Harun Rashid, being a king and an emperor reminded someone who went to advise him

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and who ended up being schooled himself

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if you wanted to advise me if you wanted to give me good counsel if you want to correct my ways,

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make me see your way and the light of your way and there's a manner in which to do it. Allah sent those who are far better than you'd someone who was far worse than me and yet they were told to speak softly so I can't cheat

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so last holds to in the Holy Quran to adopt

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beautiful advice and beautiful counsel and wisdom and a soft word soft speech.

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In another verse were called Eva the poodle that the here Assam and say to my servants that they speak that which is the best

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in all situations.

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An imam Muslim and others relates from many in Arusha or the Allahu anha that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to her

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in the Rift, cada Yakubu fie che in in LA ZAN.

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Well, are you in Zion che in Illa Shan.

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That softness and leniency

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indeed softness is not to be found in anything you

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except that it beautifies its doors

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and softness is never removed from anything except that it spoils it and disfigures it

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makes it ugly.

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So speech becomes ugly, when they're when it lacks softness and means character becomes ugly. When it lacks softness and leans and compassion.

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One's mannerisms become ugly and disfigured when they lack riff, softness,

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and never does softness enter

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into anything

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except that it beautifies and adorns it just like the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said about that brother who was being advised, he was soft, he was me. He was humble.

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He was quiet.

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He was shy and bashful and modest. But that made him beautiful as a person.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah even says of the prophets of love it was selling them for be Mara Mithi min Allah He Linda, Willow Quinta for them a riddle. And, and for them in heaven. Five, one whom are still feeling alone, or shall wait.

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For either as for the work of Allah, Allah in the law, you're able to work killing. Allah says, addressing the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa salam. So it's was only

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through some mercy from Allah,

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that you were soft and lenient towards.

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Coincidentally, the word in the Holy Quran is Linda law, that you will lenient towards. It's just how the word has turned out. It comes from learning lean or lean. And so it was only through the mercy of Allah that you were lint, Allah whom you were lenient, and soft and compassionate towards ie to the companions

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will open the further than the legal and had you been harsh of tongue, heart of heart, lung fog boom in how Nick, they would have dispersed from Iran.

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They wouldn't have remained with you. And indeed, that's how the prophets Allah, Allah it was some of them was soft, shy, bashful, modest.

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So when giving advice to others, unsolicited,

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then there's a manner in which there's a time in which to do it. There are circumstance

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or long as a salsa Lulla, Arnie was salam haven't taught us

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to barge in everywhere, into every situation

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and begin correcting things.

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And begin begin making our voice heard, and our views known.

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And rectifying everything that we believe to be

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correct, which we believe to be correct.

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Advising everyone all the time, Allah and Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam have not taught us to do that. And even when we do it, that is a manner that is an approach that is a method of wisdom,

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of good counsel of beautiful advice of softness of lenience of understanding of tolerance of compassion.

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And this actually ties in with a mobile model for you and even Wanko in joining the good and forbidding the evil for bidding sin. So inshallah I will hopefully

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speak on that, because it's ties in with Naseeha.

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They overlap sometimes and see how can become a little bit AmeriHealth in joining the good

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and forbidding

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and preventing forbidden things and sinful things. So in sha Allah I'll defer that discussion till then. I pray that Allah subhanho wa taala. Allah enables us to stand May Allah makers amongst those who

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when approached for advise, do prove to be helpful and productive in giving good, sincere

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advice and counsel. Helpful counsel.

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And who act on the teachings of Allah and his little sauce Allahu alayhi wa salam of sincerity of lenience of compassion of choosing the correct time and method. Even when we find that we may offer our advice unsolicited or subtle Allah was salam ala Abdi we're assuming maybe you know Mohammed while the he was so huge my aim is panic Allah more panic, Shadow Allah Allah Allah and stuff