Concern Yourself with Yourself
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The speaker discusses the importance of taking control of one's behavior and avoiding confusion and distraction, as well as the significance of fitna in the context of marriage. They also emphasize the need to remind oneself of the importance of control and stay at home to stay safe. The conversation touches on the history of Islam, including the use of the symbol "has been w believes" to avoid harm, the importance of privacy legislation, and the importance of not being caught up in falsity and false words.AI Generated Transcript ©
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I spoke about fitna recently
during the course of that lecture, I also mentioned
that Allah is the source of the lie syndrome have also advised us about
what our response should be.
Do P periods of fitness
and the truth is, for us, there's no concept of life without fitness. Fitness is part of our lives. As I explained in detail.
Fitness simply means a test.
So
our whole life is a test.
The Domina is a test.
We are a test for each other. Allah says what Jeremiah barber knew back then
what the hospital what can see you.
We have made some of you, a fitna for us.
So will you be patient
and your Lord is Ever Watchful. So we are a fitness. Life is a fitness
is a fit.
Our wealth is a fitness.
Our children are a fit. Our spouses are a fitna.
It doesn't mean something negative. Fitna simply means a test. And what kind of test as I explained, the original meaning of fitna and for the nifty is to say, precious metals. So the process of
inserting
metal ores into the fire and placing them under intense heat
and thereby evaluating the purity, quantity and quality of the precious metal contained within that all whether it's silver or gold or any other precious metal. This process is the original meaning and name of fitna.
And therefore
this is why fitna is called fitna because it's not just a test. It's a test in which
one the test isn't easy. It replaces as under immense but tolerable strain.
And it's a test during which Allah subhanho wa Taala distinguishes the pure from the impure, the sincere from the insincere the true from the thoughts.
This is the reason why it's called a fitna
as Allah says Mark and Allah will either mean Allah and tamale after yummies with Amina
Allah He's not one to leave the believers as they are and as you are, until Allah distinguishes and separates
the and removes the impure from the pool, and he Allah, he's speaking of the believers. So during these fitten, plural a fitna, Allah subhanho wa Taala will test believers for the quality and purity and the quantity of their faith and lessons on their sincerity.
These are
minor fifth and
minor trials and tests
The mind the daily trials and tests and fitna of family life children spouses, wealth, neighbors, everyday occurrences and then you have the great fit
fit in
that are all engulfing all encompassing. He'd scandals, huge conflict,
huge confusion, wall strife, Discord disharmony.
So whether it's minor, especially the major ones, what should be the behavior, the character and the response of a movement of a believer in these times a fitna Allah and His Rasul Sall Allahu alayhi wa sallam, have both been very clear about this
one of the things consistently mentioned in the Hadith about fitna and what the believer should do is
to concern yourself with yourself.
That's one of the greatest teachings of the Hadith in this regard. concern yourself with yourself. And Allah even mentioned that in the Quran. Yeah, you Halina Armando alaykum and forsaken law you took mandala either the datum or believers, concern yourselves with yourselves. Those who are those who deviate.
They cannot harm you as long as you have found guidance.
To Allah is your return Allah will then inform you
of what she used to differ regarding.
Now
this is one of the most consistent messages in the Hadith that during times of fitna, concern yourself with yourself
and that means
control your speech.
That's part of concerning yourself with yourself, which is don't become involved in matters that do not concern you, that are irrelevant to you.
That make no difference to you.
Don't become physically involved mentally involved, remain detached, do not open your mouth, do not say anything in that regard, do not contribute in any way to the confusion to the scandal.
So guard your tongues,
guard your speech, observe signs.
If possible, try to limit
your involvement with the people even if it means confining yourself to your home. Of course, there has to be taken on balance. So it doesn't mean one becomes a hermit. Rather, if we look at the collection of Hadith what we learn is that one has to be mindful of one's company, company has a huge effect.
Company influences a person's behavior, character, mentality thinking even speech and mannerisms. So, one should opt for good pious company
which has a positive influence rather than a harmful. This is part of concerning yourself with yourself. So
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam actually specifically said this about fitna and there are a number of Hadith instance in one Hadith lated by Imam Muhammad and a humble Abdullah Helene is Muslim and also by Imam Abu they're all within his son from Abdullah Hypno abdomen Alas, it'll be Allah on Houma.
He says once we were seated around the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam. When those who were seated the Companions they mentioned fitna.
As I've said before, although Fitna means test,
and it can be it has many meanings in the Quran. It can mean punishment, it can mean fire can mean lab, it can mean test, it can mean disbelief, it can mean confusion, strife. Normally, in the Hadith when fitna has discussed in such detail, it's a reference to major confusion, major Strife and discord and disharmony.
major scandal, so I'm delighted when I'm gonna be nervous about the Allahumma says we were seated around the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam. When someone when the Sahaba of the Allah
horn mentioned fitna or fitna was mentioned to Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa salam.
So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam set, a tone will come upon the
when people
will be filtered,
a thorough filtering
and the words of the Hadith are your herbal
herbal it and your herbal means they will be saved. So just as the chaff is separated from the weeds and the rubbish is separated from the pure through a sieve that's in Arabic as soon as I hit a bath. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said people will be saved and filtered, a thorough filtering
and then only the worst will remain.
amongst the people in the dunya, only the low one, the lowly ones, the worst ones, ie the filtered rubbish, only they will remain sorry, only the rubbish will remain, the good will be filtered out.
Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam continue
that when people their pledges marriage
will have faith Amana to whom their pledges will become corrupt and confused.
And their trusts will be learned the meaning of this as a time will come upon the people. When a man's word means nothing will mean nothing. People will make pledges, or the pledges will amount to nothing. People will
offer their trust, but their trust will be light and meaningless they will be unreliable. And in another Hadith Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that hadal nurse coordinator Malini ronovan from Malini and ONA, the best of all generations or the best of all people is my generation than those who follow
and those who follow. And then, in some of the narrations of this hadith,
a time will come thereafter, or a people will come thereafter. The speaker shahada to him you mean who will you mean who shall,
where people will be such that one of their testimonies will outdo their oath and their oath will outdo their testimony. What this means is, there was a time when people were mindful of their pledges of their trust of the O's
of their testimony. People wouldn't give false testimony, people would speak the truth. And these were the best of times. But then a time will come when people will not bother. And if you want someone shahada testimony, you can get it instantly. If you want someone's oath and vow, they will swear in the name of Allah and give you an oath. And it will be with such rapid succession, that you can't tell what comes first. Someone's willingness, they will outdo themselves to offer testimony when no testimony is required. They will swear in the name of Allah and swear an oath when no oath is required. So that's the meaning of that old shell out do their testimony and their testimony
shall outdo their oath. So this is meaning of this headin here to that people will be filtered a thorough filtering, and then only the worst will remain such that people, their pledges will become corrupt and confused the meaning of corrupt and confused as people's pledges will amount to nothing, people's pledges, their trusts their word, their promises will be false and corrupt. And they will be utterly confused in the sense that you will hardly be able to tell whether the person is honest and truthful. It will be very difficult to distinguish, as it's as simple as saying you don't know who to trust. That's the meaning of marriage or who do their pledges will become corrupted and
confused. We'll have a man out there trust will be light meaning meaningless. And then the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam did this. And he said, and people will become like this. And then He locked his fingers.
He demonstrated it, He locked his fingers and with entwined into even locked fingers. He told us how about all the Allahu Alem people will become like this. And that doesn't mean people will be you know
lated know, what it means is people will be engaged in intense conflict with each other
conflicts, differences, fighting, disputes, arguments.
So I'm delighted when I remember the last or the Allah Allah He said that when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said this, remember there was a group of Sahaba the Allah with him, he said, I stood up and I went to him, and I said Dr. Saul Allah, when this happens, what should I do? May I be your ransom or messenger of Allah? What should I do? At the time of such fifth?
So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, in one narration, it the biller, first of all,
be wary of Allah.
Be conscious of Allah be fearful of Allah observed Bagua in respect of Allah. That's why
then Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said it was in beta
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was hold my 30 for that amount don't care
where I lay it could be I'm gonna house that enough sick.
Well, they're uncomfortable with that uncomfortable our prophets Allah allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said first of all, fear Allah. Be wary of Allah. Observe, observe taqwa in respect of Allah. Number two.
Stick to your home.
Stay at home.
Now this doesn't mean that a person doesn't go anywhere. It's it's a metaphor to explain that keep yourself to yourself as much as you can.
Keep yourself to yourself
similar to another Hadith, related by Imam Timothy to Allah He in a in a sunnah and also by Imam akademin humble in his Muslim from rock bottom diameter of the Allah Han. But when I met with the Allah and said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam ya rasool Allah, manager, what salvation what's deliverance?
How can I guarantee my safety, my salvation, my deliverance?
What salvation
So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said three things to him
in Mexicali, equally cernak What are your cerca de took? What Canada how to
control your tongue? What?
Number two
let your house confine you.
Let your house be sufficient for you.
And number three, weep over your sin.
So it's the same meaning.
Control your tongue, let your house confine you let it be sufficient for you enough for you. You don't need to go here then everywhere. Keep yourself to yourself. And number three, weep over your sins. So he said the same term hula hooping Ramadan analysis of the Allah and Houma that
feel law
isn't basic.
Stick to your home.
One look at equally Sonic
and control your tongue.
Keep yourself to yourself, stay at home. That's the meaning of keep your stay at home. Keep yourself to yourself. Control your tongue.
And then he continues. Well, he was mad at me for that amount of time kill. Take what you know and recognize. Leave what you don't know and don't recognize.
Be safe. Be sure in what you take and accept in your religion. That's amazing.
What you don't recognize what you don't know leave.
And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him and concern yourself with your own exclusive affair
and leave the matter of the people. concern yourself with yourself.
So indeed, this is the consistent message of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam in another
Famous Hadith related by Imam even the merger in the salam also Bible though with an imam Timothy
Warmia Ashara Bernie says that I approached a very liberal cushiony you know the alarm the companion
and I said to him, what do you do with this verse? So Will Ferrell about said which verse? So he said the verse of the Quran Yeah, you heard Adina almond or Alikum and fossa comme la Eurocom mandala to date
that
Oh, believe it's concern yourselves with yourselves.
Those who deviate cannot harm
as long as you have found gardens. Now the reason for Omiya
question questioning of authorial Abba huddled the alarm about this verse that what, how do we understand this verse? The reason for asking him will simply this, that apparently, the verse can give a message that you should not enjoin the good and forbid the evil. You shouldn't advise others to do good. You shouldn't enjoy good, you shouldn't try to guide others to do good or encourage them or discourage them, persuade and dissuade them, but rather forget the people concern yourself with yourself. So this verse can be misunderstood. And in fact, I move across the vehicle the hola Juan actually addressed this. He said, oh, people you are misapplying this verse.
I, those of you who are who understand this verse to mean that you shouldn't enjoin the good and forbid the evil, you shouldn't give that he shouldn't encourage and discourage, persuade and dissuade. But just forget everyone else and concern yourself with yourself. So there is a possibility that this verse can be misunderstood. So this is my Warmia question that will thread about the alarm. So thought about all the alarm said, Indeed you have asked one who has knowledge because I asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about the same verse myself.
So the prophets Allah, Allah Almighty who send them said no, but tell me Ruben Madhu to know who and in whom
you should name you should enjoin the good and you should forbid the evil
until had their either ate the shahada will hold them Tara with dunya, Matera wearing Java Cola, the Euro Emira
What are eight Umbra lion Ernie look at,
that you should enjoy the good and forbid the evil until you see.
Greed
which is followed.
Desire, which is obeyed
the world which has always given preference
and the
conceit, the self conceit of up possessor
of an opinion
with his own opinion
and until you see an affair in which you have no control or power, then when that happens
FileMaker who is that enough sick
that when that happens, what you should do is
concern yourself with yourself.
You should concern yourself with yourself and leave the people leave them leave the affair of the people. And that's exactly what the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to Abdullah have normally been lost on the Allahumma that concern yourself with yourself.
Friday could be somebody has said enough sick with our uncut with our uncommon alarm
that leave aside the affair of the people concern yourself with yourself. So in many a hadith Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa salam has consistently given this message concern yourself with yourself specially at the time of fitna
especially at the time of discord, strife, confusion, scandal, conflict,
and part of concerning yourself with yourself is these things that the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam said, Keep yourself to yourself, control your time.
And this is why In another Hadith prophets, Allah Allah Almighty
So themselves Hadith related by Malik and as motha man I heard as well in his Muslim
that from an Hussein it not to be seen him or any even though he planted the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his grandson.
He said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said when Harrison Islam and moderator Kumar irony,
all the goodness of a man's slum
is his leaving that which doesn't consider
a very beautiful I think it's also related by mama Buddha ruled by him I'm Timothy from Abu Huraira Ravi Allah. So the hadith is related from two companions of woreda as well as the prophets of Allah and he was the grandson of the Allah and Hama
Midhurst in Islam in Morocco Humala iron he
many Aldemar have said many
that this hadith is one of the foundations of Islam.
Verbal Judo, Allah Healy, he actually said
that
I have compiled
4000, meaning over 4000
Hadith.
It is soon in his collection of Hadith sunnah. He said, I have collected
4000 Hadith,
meaning over 4000.
And instead of these 4000, Hadith, all of them revolve around just for Hadith. And these four Hadith are sufficient for a man in his faith. And this hadith he mentioned as being one of the
other one I may have said, this hadith is one of the four pit foundations of Islam. Others have said, it's one of the three foundations of Islam. Some have called it a third of Islam, some have called it a quarter of Islam. Some have actually gone to the extent of saying, this is all of Islam.
And this is why we should actually memorize this hadith, and constantly remind ourselves of it. Midhurst in Islam in Morocco Humala irony of the goodness of a man's Islam is his leaving that which doesn't concern.
This is true. Whether it's a time of fitna or not, Allah who is resourceful Allahu alayhi wa sallam have taught us to mind our own business to concern ourselves with ourselves.
To be Oh, not to become involved in anything and everything. Not to make a contribution by speaking about anything and everything. Controlling one's tongue is part of this. We have a habit we have to say something
Imam Malik Rahmatullah hiya les also relates
that
in his motto, he relates that look man and his salon.
There's a difference of opinion about Look, man,
who was Look, man, Allah subhanho wa Taala quotes him in the Quran.
And Allah says,
that, indeed, we gave We bestowed hikma wisdom on Look, man,
and then Allah quotes some of his words of wisdom. In the Quran, a whole surah is named after him. So who was Look man, there is actually a genuine difference of opinion amongst the scholars of Islam, as to whether he was a prophet of Allah, or whether he was just a pious servant, whom Allah honored with wisdom and knowledge, and whom Allah mentioned in the Quran and Allah actually cited as wisdom. In any case, Imam Malik, Allah He relates in his motto, that look man was approached by someone and said to him, that what gave you this rank, what elevated you to this position that Allah has given me of greatness, of wisdom of knowledge?
So look, man said three things.
cidco Hadith? What other will earn
what third Comala need, he said, three things have elevated me to this rank and what rank it was.
Many earlier man say he wasn't a prophet of Allah.
But he was a pious servant of Allah, endowed with knowledge and wisdom, but Allah elevated into such a rank that Allah has mentioned him in the Quran. Allah has cited his words of advice for the whole of creation to the level of the AMA. So what elevated him to that rank? He said three things. One, true
for speech to honoring my pledge and trust.
And number three, what are Comala Nene leaving that which doesn't concern me.
In fact, in some ahaadeeth, we learn about more than one person that a person died.
Or in other cases, it was just mentioned about someone
that indeed he is one of the people of Jimena. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, What do you know that he is one of the people of Jimena? Maybe he spoke or he engaged in that which didn't concern.
Spam Allah, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam denied.
He prevented others from giving such a testimony about other people, whether living or dead, that they are of the people of Jimena Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, of one of the things he said was, what do you know that he is of the people of Jana? And one of the reasons he gave was maybe the something you don't know. Maybe he spoke or was engaged in that which didn't concern him. Speaking about something that doesn't concern this
can actually prevent a person from Jim.
This is a testimony of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, concern yourself with yourself.
The culture of Islam is very different. It truly is. It's quite removed from what we are accustomed.
We jealously and passionately guard our own privacy.
But we are forever intruding and encroaching on the privacy of others. We don't want anyone to know about us. But we want to know about everything and everyone else.
This insatiable appetite for salacious gossip,
social media
news,
who's doing what we're not talking about practical, informative, educational, useful, meaningful news. We're talking about salacious gossip and scandalous talk.
We will never want anyone to speak about us in those terms, or come to know about our private affairs in that manner. But we want to know about everything and everyone else.
What
interests the public is not necessarily in the public interest.
Law has was suicidal Allahu alayhi wa salam
have told us so much which in a single stroke in a single sweep, removes much of what we are accustomed
this idea of investigate
others, what he said what she said, what he does, what he did what she did,
Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam forbidden?
Completely.
Privacy
is one of the greatest rights that Allah has bestowed upon
the creation.
And Allah is resourceful Allahu alayhi wa sallam have taught us to guard not only our own privacy, but to guard the privacy of others, to not intrude
the privacy of others.
There's that famous story about Ahmed Barbara de Alon.
Whilst he was Ameerul Momineen he was patrolling.
We don't have time, but I've mentioned this story on numerous occasions refer to sort of the larger two seater sort of the larger out and when I spoken about not being suspicious and entertaining a good opinion and not investigating what I did just listen to it in that context. But love it is a source of alarm. It was seldom have instructed us to guard our own privacy and to guard the privacy of others, which means we shouldn't investigate. We shouldn't speculate. We shouldn't talk about these things. We shouldn't eavesdrop. We shouldn't
research about one another in this way.
Once you do it, you can't keep it to yourself. It's inevitable that you will share it with others. Then it becomes gossip. It becomes backbiting it becomes calumny. It becomes Botha
A
false allegation and these are major sins in Islam.
Islam has attached great significance to
the products of the tongue.
Islam considers
our thoughts and our speech to be deeds.
Islam considers our thoughts and our speech to be deeds, ie there's no distinction.
We, we tend to distinguish between action,
practical physical deeds
and speech and thought, thoughts are harmless. Speech is harmless. As long as you don't do anything, that's not.
So, one consequence of this
concept of distinguishing between speech and deeds is that
for some reason, we tend to tolerate people abusing one another.
And it's almost like, look, sticks and stones break bones, but words never hurt. So as long as a person is just talking, let them talk. It doesn't matter. You shouldn't react.
If someone lays a finger on another, then there's an uproar.
Why
his body is sacrosanct.
sacrosanct. His body is sacred. You can't touch another person, it's a sin. It's haram to hit another person.
There's no justification. I'm just saying that there's an immediate uproar if someone raises a hand to another.
Well, prior to that, even though there's a long history of verbal, mental and emotional abuse,
it's not considered abuse.
Whereas in Islam, there's no distinction.
Abuse as abuse. It's only now that people are even in psychology. It's only now that psychiatrists psychologists are beginning to equate all forms of abuse. Whereas hitherto, until recently, there was a distinction between physical abuse and emotional, mental and verbal abuse wasn't even recognized. Now, it's recognized that mental and emotional and verbal abuse can actually be far more dangerous and physical abuse, it's insidious. It's more it's longer lasting. And its effects are long term.
Because it attacks the one's psyche and emotions, and actual mental, mental well being. So, in Islam, there is no distinction between the deeds of the body and the deeds and actions of the tongue and the deeds and actions of the mind and the deeds and actions of the heart. All of these are considered AMA, they are considered deeds. This is why from the very beginning.
Let me give you a perfect example. Ma'am. Karima Muskan both relates Hadith that someone said, they're sorry the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in them in Akbar Al Qaeda, a yeller an original Valley de be they are Sula. Okay, if he had an Rajawali they are the super Raja Abba Rajan Facebook about what
he said, Indeed, one of the greatest of the major sins is that a man curses his own parents.
So the Sahaba said, yeah rasool Allah, how can a man curse his own parents? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said a man verbally abuses and swears at the father of another man.
So he In retaliation, he in turn, swears at his father and his mother.
So what the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam is saying is a
swarm of bees five.
Bee in his anger, retaliate by swearing at A's father as well as mother he actually transgressed.
But in this hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam doesn't even speak about or judge B.
He blames A
Of course,
It has to be understood in the wider context doesn't mean this person is harmless. He has he bears his sin for what he did especially for transgressing.
But in the context of the Hadith Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam speaks only about the first
and says,
He is responsible for cursing and swearing at and abusing his own father and mother. Once hammer said, How can a man abused his own parents said he became the cause. So what the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam did is that he looked at the provocation, he looked at the history, he looked at the precedent, he looked at what came before.
So in Islam, there is no concept of sticks and stones break bones and words never hurt. No.
words or deeds, thoughts are deeds, and bodily actions are deeds, which means that part of a person's being a good Muslim, is that one leaves that with doesn't concern him, I in action, indeed in thought, in emotions and feelings and especially in speech,
we are very unguarded when it comes to speech. See, to commit to form an action of bodily action, it requires energy strength, time, effort,
motivation center, it takes a lot to do something
to speak highly requires much effort. So we tend to wag our tongues, which is have to say something.
Abdullah him, no matter the Allahumma
Imam Malik, again, relates that Abdullah live, no matter the Allahumma he was once at home,
patching his sandals, so he was repairing his sandals.
So a man came to visit. And when he saw him repairing the sandals, he said to him O, of one through Rahman, he said, Why don't you get rid of the sandals? Instead of repairing them and patching them? Why don't you get rid of them and get other ones?
So
Abdullah, who normal the Allahu Anhu I said to him?
Did my sandals bring you here?
Man giome business. That was Abdullah, Amara, the Allah. He said, did my sandals bring you here? Mind your own business.
I quite simply didn't concern him.
We have habits on always speak. And we have to say something, we have to make a comment. We have to judge we have to offer an opinion. We have to make a contribution. We have to say something.
All of this is part of
that which doesn't concern us.
And this is why it's actually mentioned by many scholars, that if someone considers this is what I was saying about
speech being deeds,
that if someone regards their speech as being deeds, they will be me they will be more mindful and watchful of what they say. And they will ensure that they do not say and utter that which doesn't concern.
It's very easy to speak about things which don't concerns.
Leave people be
just like this man who came to Abdullah him Muhammad Ali, Allah Allah.
We have to make a comment. We have to comment about people's homes, people's clothing, the way people dress, the way people look.
What people do, how they speak, it's part it's in our nature. We have to say something. We wouldn't want anyone else talking about us, judging us commenting on our behavior, speech appearance.
Why do we want to do the same for others?
So and as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in these hadith of
Ramadan Abdullah have normally been Lara's controlling your time. Control your
immune mechanically Sanuk Control your tongue, and this is specifically in times of fitna
and there's no better example of this than the story of menina a shadow the Allahu anha
when
she was falsely accused by the hypocrites
of
being unfaithful to the Prophet Sall Allahu
Allah revealed verses of the Holy Quran have sought to move in this regard. And I've commented on this in thorough detail from the hadith of so he will.
So to refer to that, but just to briefly mention that many in trouble the Allah one was falsely accused by the hypocrites, originally,
of being unfaithful to the sword, allah sallallahu, alayhi wasallam.
Islam doesn't even have this concept of there's no smoke without fire.
In Islam, this is invalid.
There is no concept in Islam of there is no smoke without fire.
Remember, for an allegation,
there has to be some substance.
And that's the smoke.
For a false allegation, there has to be some substance. This reminds me of the humorous story where there was a poor
worker in India, recently.
extremely poor, totally impoverished,
who was a manual laborer,
fed himself and his family and lived a hand to mouth existence. And what someone had done is committed identity fraud. So they're taken his name.
And he the poor chap,
was illiterate in this regard.
So someone committed identity fraud, took his identity, and used it to commit fraud in the millions,
opening a bank accounts taking money from here and there. And this lasted for a few years, eventually, after investigations that came to him, and lo and behold, this
chap is working on the streets of India, totally impoverished. It just didn't add up. So, of course here, everyone accepts it, but he was innocent.
Even though investigations could have led him to being convicted, accused, convicted and imprisoned, but
there was no substance there was absolutely nothing to shove it.
So no one the point I'm trying to make is that no one believed it and no one would believe it's because just doesn't add up. So to make a false allegation, there has to be some substance. Now substance is always there. And that's what we call smoke.
But the saying there is no smoke without fire.
Or that that's the fire. So
the same there is no smoke without fire means that wherever there's a little and we automatically conclude that yes, this must be true.
In the case of woman woman in a shot of the Allah who
did the hypocrites just wake up one morning and out of the blue and rather randomly hurl a false allegation against someone what minion actually Allah?
Of course not. No one would have believed it.
So where's the test there? There's no test.
There is always some substance
which people call the fire
and then they automatically conclude from that, that there must be
the smoke of scandal.
Of course there was some substance. So what did the hypocrites rely on? This is what the one article relied on what we needed a shuttle the Allaha and how was held back
on the journey hold her hostage was lifted up.
And since she was liked the carriers The bearers did not realize that she wasn't in because she had gone to answer the call of nature
someone what Nina shuttled the Alana got left behind and the caravan moved along.
People didn't realize that she was missing too much late.
One of the companions so finally when Mark didn't know the law when he was appointed to
remain behind the caravan, just as some would be sent ahead as scouts. Others would be kept behind to look out for stragglers and for lost property and anyone in need of help. So he arrived, and he eventually helped me and he showed the Allahu anha. Both of them so find him and mark the winning shot of the Allahumma came into the camp, just the two of them much late. That was the substance.
This is what the winner of it all relied on.
It wasn't just a random allegation. This was a test. This is why I say that was a fire
according to the saying that there's no smoke without fire, but immediately jumped to the conclusion
that
a sin was committed.
That's speculation.
That's a false allegation that's completely.
So again, in slam there's no concept of there's no smoke without fire.
Unless you have proof.
Don't say a word. Don't speculate, don't think about it. Furthermore, as I explained on that occasion, in the, in the commentary of the story of the great lie, as well as in my commentary of sort of the larger art unless you are directly involved. You don't even have a right to think about it or to speak about it or to discuss it. You have no rights. It doesn't concern you.
Allah subhanho wa taala.
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And to see what's going on with Jonathan to spear Rama file to the mean, oh believers, if a sinful person comes to you, with any news
for W
and investigates, clarify the matter,
ascertain the truth, verify the facts.
Lest you inflict harm upon the people without realizing.
Now that verse
is not universally applicable. It doesn't mean that in every situation you need to go out and investigate and research. It doesn't.
Only in those things that concern
ie
if you if you're at work
and employee has been accused, of
misappropriating funds
of
Mr. mean, is that the workplace?
Now,
what should be your response?
Does the Quran tell you go out and investigate and research and verify the facts and ascertain the truth?
Before you make a judgement before you make a comment? No.
Islam is teaching is, look, it doesn't concern you. You're a co worker.
It has no effect on me. You are not responsible. You don't need to come to a decision or a judgement about it. So there's no reason for you to go and investigate?
Who should so who does this verse apply to? It doesn't apply to everyone. It applies to those for whom it's irrelevant, ie in this case, who would it be?
It would be the employer, the owner of the business, the one senior.
So what the Quranic teaching is, is that the senior person shouldn't just dismiss the person out right based on an allegation, and most people do this. They carry out their research, they conduct their investigation, they try to reach the facts before making a decision. But not everyone's involved in the process. Only those who are responsible, only those for whom it's relevant.
Only those
who make concerns.
And this is why when the fitna arose because this was a fitna, fitna a test it was a test for the believers of Medina.
For the Muslims, What did Allah subhanho wa Taala tell the believers did Allah azza wa jal tell the Muslims of Medina look when you heard this
ruler. You see what happened initially? The hypocrites they are the ones who instigated the shrew.
But then as the news spread
unfortunately, some Muslims, honest sincere Muslims in a momentary lapse, they also entertain this gossip. They spoke off it and they repeated it to others.
So did Allah subhanahu wa Tada tell the believers look
when this rumor was spread,
you should have first of all verified the facts and ascertain the truth. Now
again, there's no concept in Islam of he or she is a public figure. And therefore
I have a right to know everything about him. Who could be more public than the wife of resort of last Allah honey was
on what we need. Your shadow the Allahu Allah was the wife of the Prophet Sall Allahu Allah. He was
the daughter of his closest companion
of his second in command. Abu Bakr Siddiq are the Allaha
if there was a scandal, that scandal affected the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam directly.
He wasn't just a prophet. He was the leader of Medina, the political need.
He was their chief, he was the commander in chief.
He was the supreme figure, in every sense, militarily, traditionally, legally, politically.
Who could be more public and then Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and I say all of this even for the non Muslim so those non Muslims who resided in Medina at the time, although they didn't accept him as a prophet of Allah, they still accepted him as a political, military and judicial leader. In fact, some of the, the non Muslims, when they would have their own common disputes, they would actually go to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, for arbitration and for judgment.
So who could have been more public than Rasul Allah, Allah Allah equals
his household affairs. Some could have argued, where Republic met because they concern the public. But alas, carnival without us had no.
Allah didn't say, oh believers, go you should have gone out and investigated the matter know, that the teaching of Allah so categorical in this regard, Allah Subhana Allah said Lola in Semitic the womb,
then than than what we know no one want to be unfair to him. Hey, Rob, Wakarusa, if goMobi why wasn't it that when you heard this rumor, and this allegation and this gossip,
believing men and believing women thoughts good of themselves?
Why didn't they just say this is a clear line?
What's the teaching of Allah again, concern yourselves with yourselves.
concern yourselves with yourselves. And then later loss crownhill with Allah says in the same context, is the owner who builds sinitic with the guru and a bit of a hidden man, a silicon be here, what are some who are you know, who end Allah here? Aleem will Hola, it's Samir to Altmaier Coralina and that can never be harder. subchronic Heather Waterman or lien? Allah says, Remember, when you were receiving it, this news, this gossip
with your tongues and he was saying with your mouth, that which you had no knowledge and you thought this to be light, whereas it was grave with Allah. By Allah this was immense and grave. Why wasn't it that when you heard this golden, why didn't you say my Hakuna Linna unethical lemma be heard that it is not lawful for us? It is not permissible for us to even speak of it. And your response should have been Subhanak. May you be glorified? Oh Allah, Allah down now. veem This is a great calumny. This is a great allegation. This is the teaching of the Quran. That it's not even permissible for you. It's not even lawful for you to speak about it to discuss it.
concern yourself with yourself. Even in this don't look at others look at yourself, and the meaning of why didn't believe in men and believing women think of themselves very beautiful.
Oh, which means that when you hear something about someone else,
think about yourself first. judge yourself first,
focus on yourself first.
So if someone tells you that he did this, first of all, does it concern me?
No,
there's no point it's not permissible. It's not lawful for me to engage in it, to discuss it, to talk about it. To look at myself, one of the meanings of looking at myself is, would I commit that sin?
Would I commit that sin?
If the answer is no, that how arrogant is it of you,
that you consider yourself so pious and pure that you wouldn't commit it?
But you believe about others that they would commit sins?
And this is why even before this verse was revealed, the Sahaba or the Allahu Anhu already acted on it of a human entirely under the Allah Han. And it's also mentioned about what you look at but of the Allah and so Abu uban in Saudi Arabia, the Allah what He did, is that he was seated at home with his wife on what are you bill and Sally are the hola and
she said to him?
Oh, boy, you have you heard about our insurance software?
What happened?
So well, you will in sorry, it'll the hola on said to her. Would you do this? Are you would you commit the same set?
So Omar, yubel, and sadiya are the Allah and her immediately, she was scandalized. She forcefully protested her innocence.
You can imagine the reaction that Oh, would you do this? So, you can imagine the reaction of what you will and sorry for the alarm? So following her reaction of what you will and sorry, has been commonly said, for our Isha to hire a monkey, then Aisha is far, far better than
if you do not believe this about yourself. How can you believe it's about her?
This is a beautiful meaning of when you heard this, why didn't believing men and believing women think of themselves think good of themselves.
So all of the teachings of Allah is a source of the love it was in them are about, concern yourselves with yourselves. This is part of the goodness of a men's Islam.
This is what makes a Muslim a good Muslim is saves him. It protects him.
Because the less you speak, the less you get involved in other people's affairs. The more you concern yourself with yourself and keep yourself to yourself, the safer you are, you will not have to answer for anything. Everything that we do, we have to answer for Allah says in surah, two in sort of our
Ma yellowfin olan, Illa Allah they could have given a deed, but man does not spit.
Man does not spit a single word, single same, except that there is a monitor,
present and ready to record what he says.
My yell for them in olden Illa, they hear a peep on earth.
Every word you know, we are so conscious about privacy. I was mentioning at the beginning. And part of that passionate and jealous defense of privacy is that we don't want anyone spying on us.
We don't want anyone recording what we have said.
We don't want anyone capturing our speech.
Subhan Allah, Allah's angels
are forever recording every deed of
every utterance of ours. And as Allah says in this verse, He does not spit a single word. And the words are ma yellowfin. You may know in Asian languages, what's the meaning of a word loves?
In order to in other Asian languages, what's the meaning of a word loves? Where does it come from Arabic. Love for the yellow for the love. Originally What does love mean in Arabic it means to spit.
So that's what we do. myofilament Oh, he does not utter me he does not spit a single word.
We should realize that is not just a natural flow of speech.
Each from our tongues this innocent.
Every word that comes up out of our mouths is an utterance. It's a spitting. It's a conscious active deed on our part. We strain ourselves and we take it out, we spit it out, we throw its hat
and it doesn't just disappear or dissipate. No, an angel, a monitor is ever ready ever present to record it. And then on your multi Irma, every word will be played back to us every single
This is why in a hadith raised by Mahatma Muslim Abdullah Hema Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, when Ghana you're going to be learning well yami filioque will heighten Olia Smith, whoever believes in Allah and in the final day and let him say something good. Otherwise hold silence. Beautiful Hadith. Otherwise hold his hands.
It doesn't cost anything to remain silent. This was the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, you wouldn't speak about anything and everything.
This is a similar of The Old Man and the pious of the Sunnah.
They would observe sides, engage in the vicar of Allah in the recitation of the Quran, not just for an hour of the day at home. Now, while it's walk, while it's traveling, whilst working, they would be silent and engaged in that the speed and liquor of ALLAH SubhanA wa.
They would only open their mouths to say something good and acting on this hadith. It's a beautiful Hadith, whoever believes in Allah and in the final day, let him say something good otherwise remain silent. Hold your peace. Hold your silence. Hadith after Hadith says the same thing. What did he say to him like nom de gras? Fear Allah. Stick to your home in legality. cernak Control your tongue. What did he say to Okoto mera mera, when he said manager, what salvation. He said, In mechanical esodoc. Control your tongue Hold your tongue.
Let your home confine be enough for you, and weep over your sins, concern yourself with yourself.
You are only going to have to answer to Allah for yourself on your own the piano, not anybody and everyone else
to be involved in everyone else's business. It's a waste of time and at times, it cannot just be a frivolous, vain act. It can actually be sinful. Especially if you are intruding and encroaching on someone's privacy. If you are engaging in sin for speculation, thoughts or gossip, allegations and
speech
backbiting for instance.
This is why I'm one Hadith related by men Thumbelina, Sonnen Subhan Allah
ma they want to dribble the Allaha and says I was traveling with Rasulullah Salallahu Salam when I riding with him when I drew up close, so much so that my knees were touching his knees meaning that my legs were touching his legs, thighs, thighs.
This is an explanation of the Hadith
says Dr. Sood Allah tells me something
which will bring me close to Jana and distance me from the fire of some of them lined up and said, Oh my God, what you've asked for is great. It's immense. It truly is. But it's easy for whom ever Allah wishes it to be easy and makes it easy. Then the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, so much spoke about salah and spoke about the pillars of Islam and worship, spoke about prayer at night and 100 and he spoke about many things. Then he said, Oh my God, should I not tell you the Billa garlic a cold death? Should I not inform you of something which is the root and which encompasses all of the above?
So he mentioned so much of the good deeds of Islam and what should be avoided. And then he said should I not inform you of something that encompasses all of the above? So rather than the Allah He said, of course, jasola Allah, so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam physically took hold of his tongue. He actually held his tongue and he said with Hold your tongue control
some wild little the Lebron was at Yarra suit Allah, will we be seized and held to account for what's our tongues?
So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, while Yakubu Nassif in a while Yakubu Nassif in that era will do him Illa Hassan and Senator him and that is
Nothing else which flings people flat on their faces into the fire of Jahannam except the harvest of their tongue
harvest
so the words are recited Well Senator him Hustla is plural of hacienda, which means harvest, what we reap.
So the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam described our speech as our harvest, because it doesn't disappear.
It's not forgotten. Every single word is recorded, recorded. It's accumulates and our products, our projects, our harvest, what we have reaped
will be present on your watch.
Every single word.
And in fact, in one a hadith of Imam Muhammad Muhammad in his Muslim, the wording of the hadith is, it is part it is out of the goodness of a man's Islam
that
he speaks a little of that which concerns
or he sorry, not little, but he leaves speaking of that, which doesn't concern him. So I'm not just general that he leaves what doesn't concern him, but it specifically said, part of the goodness of a man's Islam is his leaving, talking and discussing that which doesn't concern.
I suffice with this I spoke about fitna and one of the greatest defenses against
against scandal against being sinful and against being caught up in the fire or fitna on any occasion at any time is to concern himself with oneself, which means
not to become involved. To keep oneself to oneself. control one's tongue, not to contribute in any way to the fitna by being involved by speaking about it, by discussing it, especially at the time of scandal. And the perfect example is what Allah says, in Surah to mu about the story of one woman in a shot on the Yamaha Mm hmm. That was a fitna that was a test.
And Allah says, it wasn't even lawful for you to speak about it, discuss it.
And one who adopts this attitude
will be safe in his religion
will be safe, protected in their religion. I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala enables us to stand
before I end let me just mention one or two verses of the Quran
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indeed successful are those believers who all divots in their prey.
And those who Allah mentions a number of attributes. The second attribute is will Levine who man in love with more on it all those who turn away from vanity? Are you futility for voluntee things that don't concern?
They turn away from them. Imam nussey and others relates from Nina eyeshadow, the Allahu anha she was asked, What was the character of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam. She said his character was on earth. And then she recited these verses are salted. And she said this was a character of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam. So what was the second attribute?
Just as a woman in eyeshadow, the Allahu Ana says, just as Allah says, Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, along with being devout and concentrating in his prayer, he would turn away and ignore and shun all vanity, futility and frivolity. Anything that didn't concern him was sort of lust and alarm, it also had nothing to do with it. This was a character of a sort of last on the lies and in fact, Allah mentions this in sort of gopher con,
where Allah speaks of his chosen servants were about or the servants of Rama and the gracious ones are those and then he's He says, When Ledeen Alicia Dawn azul, way the emerald, ruby language, Rama, those who do who are not present at falsehood, any form of false, they are not present, and were either murderer or beloved were murdered row KERAMA when they pass by vanity and frivolity and futility, how do they pass Maruka Rama they pass by in a dignified, noble, honorable
anything which doesn't concern them, the true servants of
Rama just pass by, in a very noble, dignified manner. This is the character of the believer Allah and is also the Lucha Libre some of tortures to leave that which doesn't concern us in thought in speech and indeed May Allah make us amongst servants or some Allah or salam ala Abdi he would have sold in the b&m Hamad while he was happy its main screen on a cola home organic sugar Allah in a land are stuck on