Rania Awaad – Lady Khadija (RA) – Defining Womanhood

Rania Awaad
AI: Summary © The segment discusses the birth of a girl named Santa Felicia, who was born premature and early ahead of her generation. The importance of marriage in modern society is highlighted, including the rise of young women and the need for men to get married. The segment also touches on the unique characteristics of a woman named Pamela, who describes herself as a businesswoman and a woman of her age who takes care of her children by herself. The segment also touches on the importance of learning from the holy spirit and finding a partner for one's life.
AI: Transcript ©
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Today in sha Allah, I'm going to be covering sits in a Khadija Khadija been toilet the life of the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And in her story, which many of you have many of you know, I mean, everything I'm going to say here is probably review, by enlarge. But the reason we review and re review is because the panel every time we uncover something beautiful, a gem that we haven't really thought of before, or maybe we haven't paid attention to in some long period of time. And then you draw connections to your own life, or the life of other sisters around you. And it's suddenly all clicks together. Subhan Allah Khadija, the Hola, Juan hmm, her name literally means the

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one who was born early.

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She was born premature, she was born earlier than her parents expected her to be.

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And hence her name. But at the very end of our talk, we're going to sum it up by saying she wasn't just born into this dunya. Early, she was also early ahead of her time and ahead of her generation in the head of most women of society, including today, right? And her beliefs and what she accomplished was well ahead of many SubhanAllah.

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And so as we look at certain additional audio level on how he's had to start actually, with her parents, this is a theme today, every single one of the stories we've said so far, we started with the generation before them, right? Because you don't just sort of come into the world, you come into a family that's already in existence. Subhanallah and then you start to shape who you are after that. Well, her parents mashallah were noble people of Pradesh. And her father had a dream while his wife, but usually mother was pregnant. And he woke up very excited, because he saw on this dream that he was gathering, that he was a young boy. And he had his you know, how you kind of take your

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shirt together fruit, you know, in it, and they were dates, really ripe dates, and they were being put into his shirt. And as much as he they were putting these dates they wanted to fill. And then he was able to taste this date, you know, and then suddenly he woke up, realizing it's a dream. So he got very excited. And he went to his wife, and he said, I think we're going to have a boy.

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Another theme

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of today, right? And she, his wife, kind of just, you know, isn't as excited as he is. And she asks her, why are you not, you know, so excited. And she says, because in the dream, it her interpretation, what she had learned is that dates mean, girls,

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and this would be their firstborn. And input you should not society, this is pre Islamic, right. And that tribal pre Islamic society, having your firstborn be a girl meant possibly, that it would have that they would be buried alive, female infanticide, because it was shameful. The first half to be a boy. And he comes from a very honorable family. And there was expectations. This is awaited his father, as I said, and there's expectations that the first born of the great noble man ascent, his father would be a boy, a grandson.

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And so as you can imagine, now comes the birth. And she sits in a future as we now know, right is of course, the girl and born early. And his her father, Hawaii now is very worried, because he's worried that as soon as they see that it's a girl, they're going to advise him to bury her alive.

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So the sister is at this point, this is what I want you to do. Those of you who are taking notes, I want you to make a table, put three columns, three categories, okay, we're going to try to fill this out together, put a column in sha Allah, the first one and call it things that are unique about Santa Felicia,

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unique and her time but honestly, even unique in our time.

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The second column, please put things that don't seem as they really are.

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Things in the story that you pick up, as we're talking about, don't see him exactly as they actually are. And the third column is every time you mentioned something, and there's a characteristic a character traits, because you want to come out with this from this lecture with something and show love, it's very tangible for you to take, right. So things that are first column things that are unique about her second column, things that are not quite what they seem. And the third column, any characteristics

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that you hear, start making this long, probably it's gonna be a very long list of characteristics, so sits in a Khadija

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and so here comes the birth of still Khadija in her father's trembling kind of really worried his father acid has come and all the rest of his, you know, tribe has come and they're waiting to see. And the news comes out that this is a girl

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and he's worried.

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But then he sees that his father, right for these his grandfather is looking at her almost like with a change of heart. She seems something very special. Like they talk about how like she's very light as in

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* light like light emanating from her. They see kind of a light a *.

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And at that point in time, the head of the tribe is none other than I wonder who can tell me? Do you guys know who would be the head of Photoshop this period of time?

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Abdulmutallab who is whom

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the grandfather of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu, wasallam. Right. So like distant, distant, there's there is a connection between them, but it's not like direct, right? But he's the head, okay, of the tree. So he comes to, and so here is her grandfather aside, and here is the head have put a shot the millennia, and they're standing there. And they're kind of wondering about this girl who is a girl, not a boy, but is very like has all this * light kind of emanating from her. And at that period in time, it's like a love put something in their heart to change it.

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And at that point, Abdulmutallab who would have given kind of a small gift if it was a girl, this is all generally like pre Islamic, you know, in time of ignorance, right? A small gift if it was a grown a large gift, if it was a boy. And suddenly, not only did he give the gift that he was coming to give, but he emptied out all of his pockets and everything he had, he just felt in his heart, this is going to be a special person.

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So in your column of things that are not quite what they seem,

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and things right, in this case, also things that are unique to her. Right, she would have died. But Allah has saved her for something very, very important and special that's to come in sha Allah to Allah. And so we continue on. And there's something very unique about her, of course, is this born kind of with this light upon Allah. Now, her father and her mother decide that also very unique in her time, is to educate her.

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Her cousin who's much, much older, several decades older, maybe about 50 or so years older than her is her cousin, wha, you know this name. We don't even know them. And so they take her as a little girl to what I thought to be taught by Him. He's a learned man. He's studied the gospel, he studied the Torah, he studied so many different things. And he becomes her personal teacher.

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And so she studied with him for years. Right. And she becomes she's able to read, she's able to write and she's very bright. And the news gets out about her that this not only she very beautiful, but she's also very intelligent. And so she's got marriage proposals coming in left and right. And her and her family, reject them, reject them, reject them, reject them, right, until she reaches 15 years. At that point, her family says she's got to get married. And let me just pause here for a moment. When we talk about young ages, don't think about yourself in 2021, in this era, trying to understand young aged marriage, you have to put yourself back in that society back in that time,

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where if your life expectancy is about 30,

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then 15 is half your life. It makes sense to get married then, in fact, many of the girls of our era would have already been married.

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Do you see what I'm saying? So what before people start making a fuss think about that? You know this, you know this? Because how old were the prophets parents both both? When they passed away, so the law had the prophets or the license parents.

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married young

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his father didn't even see the prophets. Allah lives on him. So what does that put him age wise?

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He hadn't reached 20.

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So it's an Amina, his mother had also passed away. Just years into the prophets, toddlerhood people died young in that age. Do you see what I'm saying? So he or she is at the age of 15 back to Siddha Khadija, and she found that social, it's time for her to get married. And she doesn't necessarily want to but she knows that this is something that her society and our parents want to her. And when the proposal comes, right, and this is now a His name is Abu Hala, who comes to propose they can't really say no, he's honest. He's hard working. He's honorable, his honorable lineage. And he's also constant. He's also wealthy, which becomes an important point that we'll talk about in a moment. He

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has everything in American society that would be important for someone of her nobility and statue.

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So she asks her parents they say this is a good fit. She asked her uncle and teacher or cousin brother and teacher whatever. He says this is a good fit. So she agrees. She gets married at the age of 15.

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And here we start to see some really important things start to happen. You talk about difficulties and trials. We heard from about system Imodium, we heard about certain ESEA both of which had very difficult trials. So what is it about Sinha Khadija, we're here starts the story of many things to come.

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She's widowed

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only two years after getting married.

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And not only that, but she's had two children.

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She's had Hannah and Hynde who are boys, if you're wondering, or anybody who's kind of familiar with the names as being girl names, why are the Boys Girls names is because there was a God, you know, pre Islamic society, thing of like protecting any newsletter I mean, or evil eye from the boys by naming them girls. And that's how low what society girls are considered.

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They won't be given that you've lived there their girls.

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So she has had and she has Hynde, the two boys and her husband of ohana passes away.

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Right before even the second one is born.

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So here she was at 17

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a widow and a single mother.

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More themes, right? You see the similarity here.

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And so at that point in time, she decided she's very rational, a very bright person. So she decides to actually, because she's inherited this is an important part because Ohana was very wealthy, she inherited a large sum of money. You know, in the column where you're writing things don't always see him as they are.

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So you think that somebody who has lost their husband and his widowed at 17, and a single mother of two children, it would be disastrous and very difficult.

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Well, things are not always what they seem. Because what if it was that Allah subhanaw taala put Ebola in her path to allow her to have somebody not only to have these children Subhan Allah, but also she inherited a good sum of money.

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And with this money, she could have just used it easily and kind of sat in her, you know, high level of society of elite of Mecca, right, and just, you know, took care of her kids. But she decided to put that brilliance into business.

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And so she does something else in the column of unique for her time, she becomes a business woman.

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And not only does she become a business woman, because you could outsource this and have it to other men to run your business. So she runs it herself.

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And she, it's noticed about her that every time her caravan goes out, it comes back with more profit compared to the other men.

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She's doing really well. Very intelligent martial law. And it's almost like I don't need to do exactly the stereotype of every other woman of society. This is what Allah has written for me. And I'm going to make the best of it. So she dedicates herself to business and to raising her children.

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Now, she's very young still. And in that society, it's expected that she would be married again.

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And so proposals keep coming in. And now add to everything else. We said already in the list of characteristics, she's wealthy,

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even more reason

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every person wants to propose to her, as she turns them down and turns them down, turns him down until we get to a man named Otto.

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And similar to her first husband, I will holla he's also from a noble lineage. He himself is wealthy, so he's not looking to her wealth. He's independently wealthy. And he's industrious, a hard worker.

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And so her family, and her advisor and teacher medical, and everybody else agrees that this would be a good fit for her and I know, you know, good match. And so she goes ahead and marries for the second time at the age of 17.

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And she has a girl from this marriage thing. hinda.

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Now, very similar to the first marriage, after Hindu was born, her father is going out to the caravan with a caravan and never returns. He passes away.

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She's widowed twice over, and three children,

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twice widowed, and three children

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in this period of time, this and even to today, put yourself in even today's shoes, this is difficult. This is heavy. This is what do you do with this? Exactly? What does she do sits in academia. She takes all of this and she turns it into again.

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Allah wrote this for me, therefore I'm going to surrender to what he's written to me, for me, and she's doing well business wise. So she dedicates all her energy into business and her family.

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And she forgets about marriage. So let's try this. Clearly, it wasn't written for me, right? Every time she gets married within two years, the husband dies Subhanallah right. So now she's a businesswoman. And for years, years, maybe 15 years. This is what she's doing. dedicated to her business doing very well Masha, Allah successful, and something very unique about her. Unlike the woman of her time. She's very tuned into the poor, the needy, the orphans, and she uses her wealth to help these folks.

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Not only that, but also a like the woman of our time, especially the elite kind of wealthy woman of Mecca. She takes care of her children by herself.

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She doesn't have she reads he leads a simple life, not a luxurious life that she could have led to because she's wealthy. But she decides to do things for herself by herself, which allows her to have empathy and understand those who don't have a lot.

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So now, as we fast forward into the story, 15 years of the story, so Pamela, but something important happens when she's 34 years old.

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Her father passes away.

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And her father, of course, is a very important person to her. And within a very short period of time, her mother passes away as well. So suddenly, she's alone.

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no parents, no husbands, right? And what aka her mentor is in his 80s.

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But she keeps on getting advice from him. And she does visit with him very regularly, and kind of six amount for any advice and help.

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In this period of time, she has this discussion with what a call, because she hears from him constantly, because he's very, he keeps on saying this message over and over. There is a prophet to come and he's eminent, it's happening. It's in the Torah, it's in the Gospel, it is happening, it is coming. So she's hearing this very regularly. And one night, she has a dream. She doesn't know what the dream means. But she's it's just it's just like her father's dream. She's just so happy when she wakes up and doesn't know what to make of it. So she goes to what I've got to ask, what does this dream mean. And here's how the dream goes, she sees that there's a star in the sky, and it separates

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from the rest of the stars and falls into her lap, literally. And it enters into her chest and comes out into her arms. And then after that it ascends and the entire sky is drenched in light.

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It's this beautiful dream. And she wakes up happy and just excited about it but doesn't know what this means. And so she goes to what UCLA and explains to him the dream and he says,

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the prophet has come. The Prophet has come this is about the prophet, and your home, will be drenched in light. It'll have light enter into and she said, wonderful. But what does this have to do with me?

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And so he foretells some narration say that he actually tells her, you will marry the Prophet. And in other narrations, we just know that you know, he says to her, that light is going to enter your home.

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So Pamela, and so in this same period of time, she carries on with her business and all of you know the story now now you're going to connect the dots of where what happens next, she has a caravan going to Damascus.

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She's in Mecca, there's a caravan going to Damascus. And it's a far distance three months of a journey. And she needs a very trustworthy person.

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Now, the people have put out here that Saudi Arabia, the wealthy woman needs a very trustworthy person, so many people want to be this position. She's going to pay them well.

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Now, in the same period of time, you know, the rest of this part, right? Well thought of who is who exactly is Embleton of

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the uncle of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam, who's taken in the Prophet sallallahu it was send them right after I've done what Allah has passed away. So now he's being raised in his uncle's home. He's a young man is a young is a sharp young man. And he's, and Ableton Live is actually not wealthy.

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And there are many mouths to feed. So Embleton appears about Khadija caravan. So he says to Mohammed say that Mohammed symbolizes Why don't you go and take that job, she'll pay well, and you are trustworthy and she's looking for a trustworthy person and the prophets nickname was what? And saw Al Amin saw the Colombian very good, Mashallah. And so he says, okay, but Yanni, what would she really mean? Is it really going to be any?

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So he says, Absolutely. And look at how beautiful this is. They send an intermediary, the Prophet's Uncle, Auntie brother to ask for dinner, Felicia, with this be the right fit. So tell Khadija surprise because she has been hearing about Muhammad salallahu Alaihe Salam as a very honorable and kind of trustworthy person, but she doesn't think he'd be very interested in this caravan. Right? Because he's like, very noble, like, you know, an orphan. Not well to do, but very honorable. Right. And so when they come to have the business discussion about whether or not it should be the Prophet, he can't even He's so modest. He doesn't even look at her. Look up at her. You heard her face right?

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You kind of was looking down while they're having this discussion. And she's very happy because she feels like if it'll be a Mohammed taking my caravan over that I won't be swindled, I won't be cheated, right? Like she's at the mercy of whoever is going to go take the caravan over.

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And so she decides and says to him, if you take the caravan

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I'll give you not just the two camels that are you know, guaranteed her, you know, that's how much she owes for this. I'll give you more. But it's not about that for the profits a little

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Audience send them, right. It's up because his uncle had asked him and said, you know, we need, we need some help here. Why don't you take this job? Anyhow? She's very excited because she notices things immediately about the prophets of Allah to send them. For example, She notices that honesty kind of right away. And she starts to wonder, you know, because she's been hearing from her from what I feel, you know that there's a profit imminent, but she doesn't know exactly who this is. But she asks what Allah told me some descriptions about this person, because you speak about them from everything you read in the Gospel and the Torah as though you know what they look like and who they

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are. So he says, Sure, I'll tell you some characteristics. So this is what he tells her. He says, This person will never reciprocate evil with evil.

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He will not raise his voice.

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He is Forgiving, and he's very merciful.

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He rides donkeys and camels, and his shepherds. You know, he's a shepherd, and he milks sheep.

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He wears patches on his clothing.

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And he has a sign between his shoulder blades, that's called the mark of the Prophet. But all the other prophets had as well.

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And his name will be Ahmed.

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And so she has all of these different characteristics that she knows about him. And she realizes, wow, this is going to be, you know, it'd be amazing if she could possibly get to know who this person is. Well, in that same period of time, there was a rabbi. Now remember, the Jews and the Christians of that era, were also being foretold that this prophet is coming. And they're also waiting, but they're hoping it's going to be from their bloodlines, right?

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So everybody's looking everybody's looking. But there was a rabbi who came to a group of women were sits in a Khadija was standing, and he actually says to them, he says, a woman of Polish, the signs are telling us that the prophet is here, and he will be from parish. So if any of you can marry him, then do so.

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Now all the other woman who are sitting with synesthesia, start laughing at this man.

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Like what kind of jokesters this prophet and telling us to marry him? Not only are they laughing at him, they started kind of throwing stones at him to go away.

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But not her. She hears this and she feels like something enters into her heart, like, Oh, I hope that could be me. Do you know when some, you know, for everybody here who's ever thought about when they were younger, I thought about getting married. There's always this kind of like, I wonder who that person will be. It'll list of characteristics follows. Sometimes it's a little more shallow, and sometimes it's a little deeper. Depending, you know, in this society, people will say what what is it? Tall, dark and handsome? I don't know. You know what that means? Anyway.

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Characteristics people, however, anyway, Michelle, she had in her heart imagine that could put yourself in her shoes for a minute. She had this in her heart this like little thing into your heart? Like, if that would be me, what would it be like to be the wife of a prophet? Right? Subhan Allah. So backing out to the story about saying that Mohammed, where it's time for him to take her caravan. So she calls her servant, what's her servants name?

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Mesa, as she tells me my setup, this is going to be the leader of the caravan. Do not let him out of your sight. Everything he does everything, he says, I want a full report afterwards.

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She has a sense about him, but she's not really sure. And she wants a full report. So my sister says, of course. And so off, they go on this caravan. And so many things start to happen in this journey that she notices and that he notices Vysa as well. And you know, the stories here, we're not going to repeat all of them because you know them Subhan Allah of the cloud, that that's shading the prophets of Allah, what He was sending him, wherever he goes, that every time that him or Mesa are thirsty, he just kind of hits the ground and water springs up from wherever they're in the middle of a desert. Right? That when they pass by the monk, the Heydo, right, who never comes out and doesn't

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ever want to interact with people he sees from a distance and he rushes over and he sees the the Prophet sitting under the tree, he rushes to Mason, and says, Who is this man? And he says, his name is Mohammed, he is the Caravan leader. And he says, No, this is a prophet, and there could be people out to get in. So go quickly go back to your home. Right? So it makes it as you know, worried about this in so he's amazing experiences, all these strange happenings that are that are going on, right about this man. And one of the most important things that he reports got to sit in a Phoenicia is that in the trade when these the profits doing business? It's a customary that you swear upon the

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But the Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu Salam never does that.

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And so when they say here's actually What did you say that he doesn't swear on the items? So even from his Subhanallah, think about how Allah subhanaw taala puts people and he already has things planned. So it didn't have the Asia is also a monotheist. Not that most of this is before Islam, but because she was raised and taught by what oppa who was also a mono theist, he did not believe in the polytheism of that time and idols. He believed in the One God

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And he raised her that way. So she's already a mono theist. And the prophets alongside him since he was a young boy had rejected polytheism. And he would think Subhanallah how Allah has things planned, right? Because of course, whoever is meant to be with the prophets of Allah cinemas his wife is not going to in her past have been a polytheist Subhan Allah Pamela, right. So here's so she hears this from my son who has all these other amazing things, and she feels like, you know, like, when that enters into your heart, you're like

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Subhanallah So anyhow, she she contemplates this and from two years, back and forth in her head back and forth, you know, you know, how do I make this move? Because again, the list of things unique to her by this point in time. She's 40. And how old is the prophets, Allah laudium son,

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he's 25.

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She's 15 years his senior.

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So even in that period of time, very similar to today. That's unique. That's not typical. And not only is not typical, but you know what else isn't typical still today.

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Although it has nothing to do this job, this is all cultural things, is for her to initiate the proposal.

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To him some love Lonnie was sent up. See, we're drawing out all these color this column of things that are unique, but also very important that things that are not what they exactly see him at Allah has an amazing better plan. So you know the story, we won't finish all the parts of the story. But you know, the story here where she asks him very beautifully, how does she go about instead of Saddam Hussein was earlier telling us about what happens when you have a good friend, somebody who visits with you, and has a pulse on you. And when you're a little off, they can tell?

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And they're like, what's actually wrong? What's actually going on? Are you okay? Right Subhan Allah. And so anyway, she, this is her friend, the FISA and a FISA right now senses there's something going on here, but she does, she wants to ask them kind of pull it out of existence. Most of us don't like friends sometimes pull information out of you, Subhan Allah. And so she asked when Ephesus and Sultana Khadija finally says to her well, I've been thinking about proposing to Hamid, that I don't know how,

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I don't know. I mean, not only is it so uncustomary of her time, that how would you do this? Right? So being the good friend, that nephew says she says I'll take care of it.

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It's really I'll do that for me. Yes, I'll do that for you. And so she does this in a beautiful, adequate way. Because you don't know right? What if he's already thinking of someone else? Like how do you you know, how do you don't want to put her in an embarrassing situation either. So Nafisa goes over to CNN, Mohammed.

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And she has a very beautiful hall, she asks that she says to him, you know, her exact words are, what is preventing you from getting married?

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Now, are you married? Are you interested in what's preventing you from getting married? So the prophets a little I said, I'm tells you know, the FISA and he says to her, I'm not in a financial position to do so.

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I can't take care of a wife and a family, I don't have the the means. So diffusive very smartly says to him. What if the means are not an issue?

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What if that wasn't a problem? What if the woman was wealthy, and beautiful and honorable?

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And so the Prophet SAW Selim says, well, who's that?

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She says to him, Khadija. And so he's, you know, he's kind of he didn't say no, he's kind of quiet. And he's interested. So she's very excited. Right? And if he says, about thresholds,

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and tell her, you know, that there is a potential yours follow us. Anyhow, she consults, so he prophesized that I'm consultants, Uncle Epifanio, who thinks that this is a good match, and sits in a hadiya consult her uncle, right, and they think it's a good match And subhanAllah right, for sake of time, we'll just kind of rub rub this piece together and say, both families agree, and hamdulillah both are represented by their uncles and their wed SubhanAllah.

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She's 40. Here's 25. She's previously married twice, and has three children. He's never been married.

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What's to come after? This is an amazing marriage, something you can take all week talking about the marriage of Cecilia Khadija and say that Mohamed salah, Juana who was in them, Truly when the book say a marriage of bliss,

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and when of hardship and sacrifice, it really is that way. Subhan Allah, but it really was blissful for so many things that we're going to quickly kind of outline here and explain.

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Unique to certain eficacia is after she's 40 When she marries right, which means that because after that point, what they say that Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam she gives birth to six children.

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40 onwards

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Subhan Allah

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All right. And two of them are boys who passed away. Austin and Abdullah and four of them are girls who live into their adulthood.

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Zainab roleplayer uncontrol and Fatima who Dr. Ahmed will speak about bots and all right after this, Michelle well, and when you think about who she is as a wife to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, remember, she has her business, and she's independently wealthy, and she's educated. And she knows and has been told that this is going to be a hard path. But she's signed up for it. She's already surrendered her life, to whatever Allah subhanaw taala has given her.

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And something about being a beautiful wife, like a really honorable wife is that you push this is something I can't wait for high school son to come. There's so many stories and messages in here that I personally learned from ANSYS Olson, who's going to be here in just you know, a couple talks after that I can't wait for you to meet her in person. It's kind of amazing that she's here.

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But one of the things that I remember learning from ANSYS Olson is that a life

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who does well as a wife is someone that when she marries, she understands that this man that she's married isn't hers.

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He isn't her property.

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He has a family. And he has parents and he has siblings. And he has extended members of his family and he needs to do right by them just like he needs to do right by her and this new family that he's creating.

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And a good wife pushes her husband towards his family not away from his family.

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And this is what we see in certain Khadija she reminds him that his milk mother what see them Hamid smoke, mother's name, Halima

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is out there. And how was she doing? So she reminds him check up on the people that were important in your life. And they invite her over and was at dinner, honey and Luke comes over to visit with us in a Khadija Can you imagine she tells her that there's hardships and there's famine and so on and out of her generosity. So it's enough of you she gives her all these sheep and all this. Well, you know what I mean to go back with her, not out of honor of the family of her husband.

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She honors them.

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There was a milk mother that the prophets and Larson have had another one.

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That was the slave of Abu Lahab.

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Right? And she tells the prophets, Allah I said, Why don't we free her

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purchase to free? And he says this is an amazing idea. He didn't have the wealth, but she did. Right. So she's honoring his family, while honoring him through honoring his family. Do you see what I'm saying? It turns out that I wouldn't have said no, because Ebola was you know, from the sutra, but the other Abdullah had been with a break. Like he's not going to agree to this. But later on in life, and of this milk mother does get freed Subhanallah not in that story, because they do actually try and he says no, but the story here is the point is that she honors her husband and honors her husband's family as well. She also surrenders in that whenever the prophets Allah said him now as

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kind of imagine kind of keep going forward, keep going forward in time. And they have had their children and years into this 15 years into this because how old was the prophesy Salam when he first received revelation

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40. So they were married for 15 years and had their six children right, in that period of time. Before revelation even comes, though when it does come.

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It's heavy. It's difficult. Right? And the Prophet SAW I said, um, doesn't know what this is. That's coming. And this is recitative. Felicia plays an incredibly important and pivotal role. Right, because what does she say? Because the first thing that ever happens that the first step that ever but the thing, the first thing that the Prophet notices that happens, right? Is he actually sees it's a Edna Djibouti and the Archangel Gabriel. He sees him and he cut his frozen because he sees him in the sky. He kind of sees him he's just frozen, right? Not sure what this is or what to do with this SubhanAllah. And he hears he hears him say, oh, Mohamed, You are the messenger of God. And

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I am the Archangel Gabriel.

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He's frozen.

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And he stays frozen like that until Djibouti leaves. And at that point, as you can imagine some of the runs

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to his family, right runs back to Santa Felicia. And he's just, you know, you know, just very, very unsure of what all of this is and she calms him down.

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She doesn't get all excited along with him. She sits him down, right? And so she says, he says, I'm afraid I saw a devil. What if this is a devil that I saw? And she says to him, Allah would never embarrassing.

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You treat your relatives well, you help the needy, you protect the poor, and you come to the aid of the aggrieved. You are a wonderful host to your guests. Allah will never

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are embarrassing. This is a good sign, don't worry, don't worry, and if to calm him down, but then again, right when prophecy comes in he's at this point in time that process and and things are happening all around me seeing lights, they start to admit to her that he's seeing these lights and he's hearing sounds. And a person like this is probably on my field. I hear so many people in counseling say to me things like, I think I'm going crazy. I deal with this a lot, right? And I say no, no, no, that's that's not going crazy. That's just you're dealing with difficult things. It can make you feel like you're going crazy, but that you're not actually going crazy, right? And so there

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are difficult things that are happening.

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So what does she do? She says, You're not going crazy. You're not like all the people are starting to say something is possessing Muhammad. He has evil magic. He has something we have all these things that people terrible things that there's the Rumors are spreading about him. She's the one in the background saying what? No, you're fine. No, these are good signs. Allah is there for you because you are good to him. And you are good to the people.

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So the Prophet salallahu Salam, and this is very important here. He starts slowly but surely going more and more and more where where does he go off to?

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A lot of hate on the cave of hate? And in the cave of hate out? What is he doing there? This is all before revelation comes you guys. What is he doing there?

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Yeah, he's contemplating. He's in solitude with Allah subhanaw taala. He knows something is greater but doesn't know exactly what. Right but feels that there's a heaviness and he needs that, you know, subhanAllah I talk with sisters all the time, people all the time. And they're going through really, really heavy things that I say.

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Have you been praying about this? Have you spent some time alone with a lot to sort this out?

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Know, if you are going through something heavy, what is the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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He did two things here. He isolated to really contemplate on what this is and give himself the time to really ask the last content of what is this? Right, help me understand the science. And number two, he sought out help.

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He went to South Asia and said help me What is this? What's going on here? He sought out support and she helped him through this right so here's the profits a little I sent him in Nevada head on we know the story here. We're finally Subhan Allah here Kosei the Jibreel and squeezes in tight and what happens next you know

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you know what happens next?

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What does he say? It put

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it put out dismantled begin now the Holla Holla call in San Amin Allah

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wa Abu Al Quran. A levy on Mr. Bill column, Allah ml in Santa Maria,

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read, read in the name of your board, who created created man from a clot of congealed blood? Read your Lord is Most Merciful. Generous? Who taught by the pen?

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Who taught man but he did not know.

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And can you imagine as soon as he's finally released from this embrace? That's that's a that you feel is holding him in? What do you think he did with profits on a lot he was sending? He went running down that mountain, right? We're running over to sits in a Felicia. And he's trembling shaking like a leaf.

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And what does she do?

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she calms him down. She holds him she literally puts his head on her lap and holds him.

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Right. And she tells him this is a good sign. But she's not sure either. So she goes to her trusted cousin, her mentor, why don't ya? And she says let's go to my cousin. So she takes the profits a little I send them to whatever. And they tell the whole story to him and what was what I can say. He starts to cry.

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Because at this point in time without what else was probably like 95 years old.

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Okay. And he says to them, I wish that I was young enough to be here to support you when your people kick you out. A dangerous thing.

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They're gonna kick him out. Kind of like like a dawns on her like, this is the start of a very difficult chapter.

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And so at that point, it becomes clear that he's going to be expelled and there's some heavy, heavy work to be done. And so the Prophet SAW I said and continues to go back on more and more frequently in here. I'm going to pause for a minute.

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Have you guys seen a lot hit up?

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Have you seen pictures of it? Maybe some of you have been there? Has anyone tried to climb it?

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It's hard. If you haven't seen it, don't please don't use your phones right now. But eventually after this, Google a lot of hype about what this is.

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look like it is where the where the area where the profit center was saying is very high up. It's a hike. It's literally a hike up the mountain. Now remember how old synesthesia at the store?

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How old is she?

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55 years old. I'm not going to ask you obviously as women, how old you all are Mashallah. I imagine we have many people here who are 55 and older. Right? And if you're not, you're eventually going to get there, sha Allah, Allah, may Allah give you a long life, put yourself at age 55 hyping up this mountain, because the prophets Allah lives and then more and more and more is going in there for longer and longer periods of time. It's a heavier, heavier like, what is this prophecy that's come to him, which means he needs food and water. And as a dedicated and devoted wife, there's your column of the different descriptions, right?

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She's very loyal. And she continues to take him food and water and hikes up the mountain just to give him the food and water and comes back down hikes up and gives him the food and it was right, total dedication to a cause that she believes in that this is righteous, and this is the prophet of God, the final prophet.

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Think about that. Subhan Allah right. Now, 40 days later comes yet another time where the prophets of salaam receives a another revelation. Does anyone know what the second revelation is?

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Yeah, you hadn't wisdom in

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Malayala kalila. Right. Now, what happens? The prophesy said, and this is the backstory, he receives this revelation. And he's, again, it's terrifying. You don't know what this exactly is. So he runs over to his wife. And he says, you know, when you're like in fear, and it's like you're drenched and cold sweat. And he says, cover me cover me.

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So she covers him. And again, she puts him on her lap.

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And he stays there for a very long time. But then suddenly, he jumps up, says Allahu Akbar. And she says, Well, what happened? He's received the revelation in her home.

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And it says, Yeah, I just had my son. Oh, you who's wrapped up in the blanket.

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That's what it says. frayed, in the night. So Pamela, so it happens in her home. And so when it happens, he's he does you know, what, what is this? And so she says, this is from God. This is from God. This is revelation from God. So what is she doing here? Think about process, which is happening here. She's believing him.

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She's his confidant. She's giving him support and strength. She's eating him. Do you see what's happening here, Pamela? Yeah. And so and so.

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As we wrap up here, she's without hesitating. She is also the first person to accept a sum. I didn't say the first woman. I said, the first person

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and there's no hesitation there. She accepts Islam. But when you are first at something and a pioneer at something that means she's the first to make will do. After the Prophet SAW, I said, She's the first to pray. After the Prophet sighs. She's the first branch in our congregation, she's the first ad everything a woman. So when people go on and on about women, oh, it's different for them. And it's down on like, really?

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Let's talk about our four mothers, we shall write and kind of like put things into perspective. So in wrapping up here, I'm going to say this, there's many other things that happen as it's in a healthy issues life. Because what happens from this point on, we talked up until she got to 65 and 55. Rather, she doesn't actually live that much longer after this. But she goes through some really difficult things. Like not only were the people saying terrible things about her family, but her daughters

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ended up being divorced because of it to

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her daughters. Two of them were married to two sons of Abu Lahab.

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And they forced the sons to divorce their wives.

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And another woman would have said, no, no, no, no. Up until here, I draw my line. I don't want my daughters divorced, right? But she said, Allah will replace something better.

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And sure enough, that happened.

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Right? Because it's in Africa, for example, ends up marrying who? Osman Ivanoff fun, so much better than the sons of Abu Lahab. Right? Things are not always what they seem.

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This is a message that shows up over and over and sits in a conditions life. She also loses her sons. And so they say to her about her about Satan, Mohammed, that see your lineage is cut off, as in to say the understanding is that it goes through the sons but that's not how prophecy works, right? And so this is difficult. So she's dealing with all these difficult things to Panama. But the beautiful thing here that stands out and is completely unique about Santa Khadija is that once you've mentioned it would come with the way with the revelation

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to give to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, oftentimes it was in her home and in her presence.

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And there was a time that she played a little experiment to see she had learned from what okay, but if it's truly an angel and not a devil, that they don't that they will turn away if there's any Iota, or nakedness. Shelley

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so she said to the Prophet sallallahu, wasallam when he says ICC digitally, so she says, Okay, sit here on the side of her lap. Do you still see him? He I still see him. Okay, no, come sit on the side on my lap. Do you still see him? Yeah, I still see that she kind of moves her hijab literally, like pulls it down just a little bit to show some hair. So now do you see him? No, he disappeared.

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It's amazing, smart, intelligent, right? She understands and is tuned in to these things.

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And the most beautiful, of course story that sums it all up is that in one of the times where she, the prophets have said, I'm going to head out and she's going up to give him food and water. The Archangel Gabriel Gita says to save them from that, and this is the famous Hadith that we know. He says, Your wife Alicia is coming to give you food and water. Give her salam from Allah and myself

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and tell her that she has been guaranteed a palace in Paradise, after which she will not have any noise or fatigue.

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that hadith right there. And if you just look at the little bit noise and fatigue, if you think about the fact that what is she doing to allow her husband to be the prophet of God or the Prophet of the Ummah, she's holding up all the house chores, she's holding the fort down at home, literally. She's making it all work. And there's all these kids, I mean, not just her own, but also this point in time, you know, any of you thought I was living with them. There's other young people living with them, there's a they've been hotter than living with them. There's a lot of noise happening in her home, right. And she's managing this home by herself, sacrificing to allow her husband to be the

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So he says to her, you have a house in paradise with no noise

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and no fatigue.

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There's more to the story. Subhanallah but we run out of time. But needless to say, What's enough of Isha does with the rest of her life. And the rest of her wealth is given all to Estelle, because soon after those those that embargo, as you know, were they embargo, right they put an embargo on the Muslim and they weren't allowed to trade, and they're struggling. And at the very end of certain conditions life, she goes from this wealthy, wealthy, wealthy, noble woman, to having given away everything to the Muslims and to early Islam, to the point that she's on her deathbed. She is so starved and skinny, because she's given away everything, but she herself has starved and she's

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disease ridden. And she's on her deathbed, and she isn't going to recover.

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And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is tearful.

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This is very difficult for him to see. And he says to her, what you've if you've had difficulty here, you won't have difficulty there. So Panama.

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There she is, at the very end of her life until the very end in full support, and dedication to Islam, to allow us to have this sound and full dedication as the wife, who was able to allow her husband to do this great and noble work and dedication to her children, to allow them to become the mothers of the movement, and that we're going to hear about at least versus an off Altima today. And when she passes away, it's the 27th night of Ramadan.

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And there she is of her 65 years of life, she spent 25 years of them with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And in that period of time, like I said, her name is Khadija born ahead of her time, not just physically,

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but ahead of her time, in breaking all kinds of stereotypes and barriers experienced by women

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and not for the sake of feminism. It's not built for the sake of doing what's right for the sake of standing up to her beliefs for the sake of charting her own path. But that path is a path even though it's charted.

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Its surrendered to a loss of 100 watts.

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And she's strong she's independent, she's courageous, she is supportive of her husband, but the dunya never gets to her head. That wealth that she has never enters into

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her heart. She gives and gives and gives Subhan Allah and with that we conclude, masha Allah says in a Khadija not just as the wealthy noble woman that we often refer to her as

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But somebody with nobility and intelligence and independence becomes that role model for all of the woman here who have a chart to path in life that's different than others and difficult and don't do so with full surrendering to Allah subhanaw taala knowing he's going to carry us through BarakAllahu li con was Allah Allahu ala Sayidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salam

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