Nouman Ali Khan – Jealousy and Envy

Nouman Ali Khan
AI: Summary © The negative impact of jealousy on family, especially money and material things, is discussed. People with certain characteristics may have a different appearance, and the potential for negative reinforcing comes with being a wrongdoer. The speaker also discusses the concept of a hazard, which causes people to avoid them and describes it as a " insatiableitch inside the heart" that causes people to avoid them. The speaker emphasizes the importance of being a student of the Quran and offers resources for those interested in learning the language.
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Allah azza wa jal says well autonoma football Allah who will be Heba welcome Allah BB, don't wish, what they don't wish for the kinds of favor and the kinds of preference, Allah has given some people over other people. So what happens to you? And if we see somebody that has more money than we do, they have better appearance than we do. They have a nicer car than we do. They have a better maybe married life than we do. Maybe they have, you know, better some some sometimes I've even heard even among siblings, my sister has better complexion than I do. She's more beautiful than I am. Jealousy can take many forms, you can just envy somebody for what they have, and become obsessed with why you

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don't have it. And it consumes you. And it could be the smallest thing, it can be the biggest thing. You know, it could be things like money and material things. It could be in material things. It could be even the love of a father or the love of a mother. Why does dad love this one so much? I never get that kind of attention. You know, she never blames him. She always blames me, she gets mad at me, but she's always nice to her. You know, there can be this kind of thing happens among siblings, you know? And parents sometimes don't help because they keep reminding one of them. He's smarter, why can't you be more like him and, you know, create that jealousy even more inside a

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family? Allah azza wa jal started here by saying, don't wish for what other people have been given by Allah Himself, there are preferences. In fact, there are people better looking than you and me, there are people smarter than us, there are people that are more knowledgeable, there are people that make more money, there are people in your family that get more appreciation than you do. It's a fact. That's just a fact. And sometimes it's clearly unfair. But in some of those things, it's simply Allah has opened the door of risk for them, that he didn't open for you. And he opened other doors for you. But what happens for you is, you want the same things that somebody else has,

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Allah did not make you the same as anyone else. And Allah did not open the doors of provision of risk for you that he opened for other people. Each of us has a unique set of opportunities. And we're going to have to work hard to earn Allah's favor from within whatever we've been given, not comparing ourselves to anybody else. Before we get to the rest of this idea, and the positive reinforcement inside of this is, I want to share with you why this is a root cause from any major sense. As a matter of fact, the first grievous rebellion against Allah that we know of in recorded history, is the rebellion of bliss, which is rooted in jealousy that started why, why does he get

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the attention? Wait, he's just made of clay. That's where that started. The first crime that ever took place on the earth, when humanity came on this earth, is the killing of Habib by his brother carbene. That's also a matter of jealousy.

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This jealousy can be so heinous and so ugly, that even when you are the son of a prophet named Jaco, by the Salah, and your brother himself is a remarkable child, who even if you don't know he has, is not a prophet. It has prophetic qualities. It can lead you to the point where you're even willing to kill your brother. What I'm trying to get at is jealousy and envy are not to be underestimated. They may seem like something going on inside of you, or inside of me, it's just a feeling that I have. It's just an itch that I have literally, by the way, a hazard is actually an allocation literally appeal and a scratch. They describe it as a an insatiable itch inside of the heart. Like when some

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locust or bug bites your skin, and you want to just keep scraping it, that it's this and the more you scrape it the worst again, the worse it gets. You're just supposed to ignore it and let it pass. The feeling may come but you have to let it pass. That's actually what has said is, you know Al Hassan Rahim Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah and who said that I've never seen anybody who's a wrongdoer that looks more like the victim than someone who's jealous.

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You know, someone who's a wrongdoer has a victim. But in this case, the wrongdoer is the victim. That's what he says he's the wrongdoer. He's doing jealousy. But he's the victim himself. This is why in one of the remarkable Sutras of seeking Allah's protection, we seek protection of someone who acts jealously. woman shall rehearse it in either hazard. We asked for we asked refuge from the evil of the one who's envious, especially at the time that he's demonstrating his or her envy at that very moment. It's a very, very serious thing. It can lead to some very serious problems in my life and in yours. And I want to just count for myself and maybe refresh in my mind, what kinds of

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blessings I may deprive myself of when I become a victim of jealousy when I myself can't stop thinking about what somebody else has, or what I wish somebody else had done.

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For specific just to be clear, it's actually Tammany is a while in the AMA Dooney.

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Do you wish that somebody else no longer had it? You don't just wish Okay, this one is so you know, so strong. I wish I was that strong. No, no, no, no, I wish they get sick and I get strong.

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You want them to not have it anymore? Why did they have it? Why did they I hope he gets fired not only Okay, he got a promotion, I hope I get a promotion when they No, no, no, I hope he gets fired and I get a promotion. That's hazards. You want them this, you want to see them fail something and you just desires to see them come down, which it adds to risk in nothing. It doesn't add anything for you. But somehow inside of you, there's this feeling that if you can see them fail, or if you can see them suffer, it will make you feel better, some in some way. That's what happened.

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