Fasting and How to Make the Most of Ramadan

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Navaid Aziz

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But he taught us how to do that. You're on the roll, though, Mashallah, you're on a roll. The answer to this is that when you look at the narrations of the event, this is something that the Sahaba or the Lahontan were given in dreams, and they didn't frontally process them, and they actually approved of it. And then after that the processor was actually ever never known to have given the event. And because he would always leave the salon, right, so someone else would always give the event and the processor won't leave the salon. So they say that the event is one of those outs to be bothered that was the processor them didn't do himself because someone else did it so that he could

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leave the salon. We can get any more information on this. Tour lock eyes after macula then I would like to know more about it. Sorry.

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No, but why would you say that the positive never did it. That's why I'm asking

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that any incident? If you can find it, let me know. That'd be very good to read up about inshallah. Okay, so our last session inshallah, we'll be discussing two things, the concept of fasting and what we're meant to attain from fasting and then, you know, how should we be spending our time in Ramadan. So when it comes to actual fasting, Allah subhanaw taala. He tells us the objective behind fasting is that we may attain taqwa, right quotevalet camassia mocha makutsi Valentina Min publikum, Nan Lacan Excuse me. So to attain taqwa. Now, when you look at how even this habit of the low unknown, interpreted taqwa, those definitions that they have are very, very different from one

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another. But they're also similar in terms of what the state of the individual is, once they've implemented those definitions. So my preferred definition when it comes to taqwa is something that is found in the Tafseer of

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AB Hatem. In sort of lm Ron, when Allah subhanaw taala tells us yeah, even the Drina Amano takala. haka. tokachi Well, that's mutanda 11. To Muslim on that Oh, who you believe have Taqwa of Allah subhana wa Tada. A taqwa that he is truly deserving of and do not die except in the state of Islam. ebina behind them with his isnaad he narrates that our beloved masala de la Han who was asked, what does it mean to have a taqwa of Allah subhana wa tada that he is truly deserving of and they must know that they love and we responded with three things. He says that this is for the slave of Allah subhanho wa Taala. To remember Allah subhanho wa Taala so much that he never forgets Allah subhana

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wa tada and it is to obey Allah subhanho wa Taala so much, that he never dis obeys Allah subhanho wa Taala. And it is to show so much gratitude to Allah subhanho wa Taala that he is never ungrateful towards Allah subhanho wa Taala. So a very heavy emphasis on remembering Allah subhanaw taala obeying Allah subhanaw taala and being grateful to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So now when you look at these three components, particularly and you tie it in to fasting, they actually tie in quite well. Because when you look at the act of remembering Allah subhana wa tada because the slave of Allah subhanaw taala is not distracted by eating and by drinking and by marital relations, or other than

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that, he actually has more of an opportunity to do the vicar of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And then in terms of the obedience to Allah subhanho wa Taala. Here, Allah subhanho wa Taala has asked the slave, to give up his eating, drinking and marital relations, and that is perhaps like one of the greatest acts of obedience to do to refrain from something that the body naturally has an inclination towards, right, our bodies naturally have an inclination towards those things, yet you refrain from them, even though the natural inclination is there, then that is what obedience is like. And then the act of gratitude. The act of gratitude is built up in many, many ways, gratitude

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by obeying Allah subhanho, wa Taala, but even an internal gratitude, that you become grateful for the food, when you actually eat it, you become grateful for the water, when you actually drink it. Right? You become grateful for everything else that you have in Ramadan, that you refrain from while you are fasting. So this definition ties in really, really well with the objective of fasting itself. So those are the things that you're trying to achieve while in the state of fasting. Now, when an individual is fasting, one of the common mistakes that is made is that there's a heavy emphasis on the physical aspect of fasting on refraining from the physical things that Allah

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subhanaw taala has prohibited. But that spiritual element is just as important that spiritual element is just as important that when you view the month of Ramadan, the month of Ramadan is supposed to be a training for the soul to minimize the sins it commits and the way it does that is

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by two ways, number one, by increasing the good deeds that the slave does, and the more good deeds a slave does, naturally the bad deeds will wither away. But the second way of doing this is that the slave is to become cognizant of his own weaknesses of his own areas that shaytan can exploit, and then try to cover up those areas, so that she thought cannot exploit them. It was reported that a Buddha or the Allahu anhu, he says that from the true filk of an individual is to understand where shaytaan can come and attack him from where his vulnerabilities are, that she thought gets the best of him. And that is what Ramadan is actually about, that you understand your vulnerabilities, and

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you work on those vulnerabilities. So that shade bond does not get the best of you. Now, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam makes it quite clear in the Hadith, what are two of the major vulnerabilities that people have? Number one is in terms of matters of intimacy, and number two, in terms of matters of their tongue, and particularly in the month of Ramadan, these are two things that need to be observed. Why, in terms of intimacy, there's a huge cafaro for the slave of Allah if he was to have intimacy with his own wife, right? the freeing of the slave the fasting of, you know, 60 consecutive days, the feeding of the poor people. This is like one of the strictest photos that

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we find that even though it is Halloween of itself, Allah subhanaw taala has made it impermissible. So that is a clear indication that Allah subhanaw taala wants us to learn to control our desires, in the month of Ramadan, that self constraint has to be there. Right. And, and also in terms of the tongue, there's a very clear wisdom behind why Allah subhanho wa Taala equates backbiting, with the eating of the flesh of your dead brother. So just like you do not eat and drink in Ramadan, then you don't want to backbite your fellow brother, or sister, because it is the equivalent of eating their flesh, it is the equivalent of eating their flesh. So that is like some of the symbolism behind

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that. And those are the two things you want to have really focused on. So now let us talk about the issue of one's intimate desires, in terms of the intimate desires, and we'll call him Rahim Allah, he has a beautiful discussion on the relationship that thrilling the stomach has with wanting to fulfill desire. And he says that if you look at the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam where he says, All your group of young men, those of you that are able to get married, should get married. And if you're not able to get married, then you should fast and he prophesized. And I'm goes on to explain why they should fast, because it will help them lower their gaze, and will also

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help them control their private parts. So I have no claim, Rahim Allah, He expands on this Hadith, that the body naturally has its own priorities, and it will not focus on procreation, if it is not being sufficed with food. So the less the more you deprive it of food, the less it focuses on procreation. So here, Allah subhanaw taala actually makes it easy for you, that that your body has been deprived of food, it will not long for that procreation, but in those instances that it actually does, then this is where that willpower needs to be enforced, that force your body to submit to Allah subhanaw taala and wait until sunset so that it can copulate in a halal manner with

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one's wife. And this is you know, something to understand in it. Also, in this Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam clearly explains that it will help lowers one's gaze. And the way that does is that the the desire naturally goes down. Now, this was an interesting study. And you know, I mentioned this with a grain of salt that as Muslims, we, some of us have developed a bad habit, that anything anytime you find something scientific, that coincides either with the Quran or the Sunnah, then we jump to say that look, you know, our religion is being proved right by science. And I find that statement very, very troublesome, you know, as our own personal belief system, our religion is

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the ultimate source of truth. So it should be our religion has now proven science to be correct the opposite way around. So even conflating the two you know, is a dangerous road. But if you do conflate them, then religion proves science correct and not the other way around, particularly from our own standpoint, from the Muslim ethos. So now the study that I was reading was, what is the chemical

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body or element that is related to desire inside the individual, and particularly for the man is directly tied into his testosterone. And naturally, when a man is fasting, his testosterone levels will naturally drop. So that means that the desire itself has naturally dropped. So the desire that a man will have internally is no longer forcing him to a certain degree. And I use that term loosely, to look at that which Allah subhanaw taala has made impermissible, so what causes him to look at that which is impermissible, while his testosterone is down is just the weakness of his soul, and the trap of shavonne. And that is where the person needs to rectify the situation of their

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soul, and protect himself from the traps of shaitaan. And the way you rectify that situation in terms of your soul, is that you force yourself to lower your gaze. And what that means is that if there's ever an opportunity that you didn't lower your gaze, you actually punish yourself for that, and punishment. And again, lose very use very loosely, like simple things like hey, if I, you know, look at something and I'm supposed to look at, I'm going to increase the amount of sadaqa that I give. The first day you look at something Haram, you get one pound. The second day, if you look at something Hold on, you give five pounds, the third day you look at something how long you give 10

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pounds, a time where one of two things will either happen either you're going to run out of money, or your soul is going to run is going to say hey, you know what, I actually need to stop doing this because this is getting too painful for me. So that is in terms of refraining from the soul, then in terms of protecting yourself from the traps of shavon. She Thawne takes advantages of those opportunities where he knows you're vulnerable. So if an individual is looking at something hot, I'm in a particular place, so for example, you're walking through the shopping mall,

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or is that shopping mall, we were just at the bullring right the bouldering here in Birmingham. So in the middle of summer, you're in the bowl rink, you know, people aren't going to be dressed very appropriately. And that's where you're probably going to find difficulty lowering your gaze at that time. So the obvious lesson is don't empower shade on by going to a shopping mall at that time. If you know, this is what your problem is, right? Just don't do it. So don't empower Satan. And that is how you protect yourself from the plots of Satan. So this goes back to the statement of a Buddha, from the film of an individual is knowing how she will attack him. So recognize where you are

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vulnerable to the attacker of sheet one, and refrain from going to those places or being in those situations. Now the second element is that of the tongue. Now, as I was mentioning, there is a divine wisdom behind why Allah subhanho wa Taala

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describes backbiting as eating the dead flesh of your brother, and how that ties into Ramadan that just like eating and drinking is how long then backbiting is even more Haram in the month of Ramadan, than it is outside the month of Ramadan. Right. So in terms of the tongue, because the tongue is meant to be busy with the vicar of Allah subhanho wa Taala and the recitation of the Quran, naturally, it should not have an opportunity to do anything haram with the tongue. But again, it will come down to understanding the weaknesses of your soul and understanding the traps of shaitaan. And then with certain people, you will find that naturally, all you will do is backbite.

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Or naturally, all you will do is speak about foolish things. So avoid that company, particularly in the month of Ramadan, so that you don't fall into that trap of shaytaan very become vulnerable. You know, Islam has a social element to it. And it understands that, yes, there when a group is doing something, you naturally want to be a part of that group and be a part of what they're doing. Now, no one has forced you to be a part of that group, though, right? And that's what we need to understand. So there's a particular circle of friends or a certain particular circle of associates that we have, that we're doing harm with, then make sure you distance yourself from them in the

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month of Ramadan, and eventually build on that outside the month of Ramadan. So you stay away from that. So this is how taqwa ties in to Ramadan and into the act of fasting that is not just about refraining from food and drink and intimacy, but even the sins that we commit need to be decreased and that is how it ties in to Ramadan. Now, what I want to focus on for the next half an hour inshallah

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is what should our schedule look like? In the month of Ramadan? What should our schedule look like in the month of Ramadan? So what I want to share over here is starting off with the nights of Ramadan, the nights of Ramadan, generally speaking, are very, very blessed nights, right. And there's a huge opportunity for adjured in the nights of Ramadan, and they want to share with you how some of the predecessors of the past you to divide us to divide their nights of hotel but daddy Rahim Allah, he talks about what the scholar

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of the past used to do. He says the scholars of the past used to divide their nights into three with three things, the first third of the night, they would use for the seeking of knowledge and for the revision of knowledge, the second third of the night, they would focus on the reading of the Quran. And then the last third of the night, they would focus on the salaah, the last third of the night, they would focus on Salah. Now I found a similar statement in the sermon hijo cassadine, where he talks about the the righteous people of the past, they would replace the seeking knowledge and revising knowledge with the making of Vicar and the doula the making of Vicar and do our so that

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they will dedicate the first third of their night to the making of Vicar. And then the second third of the night to that of the Koran, and the last third of the night of the Salah. So now, this understanding is going to vary from person to person, just based upon the fact that if you're in school, or if you have work in the morning, you cannot dedicate your night completely to that. Now we have a principal in filk that says, mela Eudora cuando, la yusaku julu that even though you may not be able to attain the completion of something, it doesn't mean you don't go after its noblest part. So what that means is in the way we typed in, is that just because you're not able to spend

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your entire night in the birth of Allah subhanaw taala It doesn't mean that you don't spend any part of your night in the bother of Allah subhana wa Tada. So making sure that you're getting up early for support, even if you have to go to work, just to spend some time engaging in a bother, whether it is in Salah, whether it is in recitation of the Koran, whether it is in making Vicar it should be done during that time. It should be done during that time.

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Number two, how do we spend our days in the Ramadan? Now one of the biggest mistakes we've made as an oma is that we've separated our worldly life, from our religious life. And what we've done is, either there's a time to be in this dunya, or there's a time to do something for the dean. But we never put the two together, we never put the two together. Whereas when you look at the attitude of our predecessors, it was completely different. You know, one of the What a beautiful story that I love from the people of the past was one the halifa of the mannequin number one. He is on a journey. And he's with his three young children. And if you've ever traveled with young children, you know

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that they're an absolute annoyance. They're like, every five minutes I have to go to the bathroom. Or you know, Baba, when are we going to get there, Baba, when are we going to get there? Or they're going to be like, I'm hungry, or I don't feel well. And it's just an absolute pain. So now you look at how someone from the past dealt with this issue. So as this Khalifa is riding on his journey, his three young sons are just causing havoc, not listening. He does something very, very smart. He says, Do you guys see that tree over there? And they're like, yes, Baba, we see that tree. He's like, I want to see which one of you can say Subhan Allah the Most till we get to that tree. So they're just

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sitting there the whole time. They're competing amongst themselves, who can say Subhan Allah, and they're not they're not distracting their father anymore? They get to that tree that does like do you see that other thing over there? Hogan says hamdulillah the most till we reached that other thing. And this way, their journey became an act of ibadah because they're constantly making the vicar of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And that is how you put the two together. And that is why even the in the modern day Saudi Arabia,

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you know, one of the beautiful aspects of it is that as you're traveling on the highway, they have these beautiful signs, you know, don't forget the vicar of Allah subhanaw taala or see Al Hamdulillah or say Subhana Allah, this is one of the beautiful things that is still there, Mashallah at the bottom of Allah. So now, the way we put this together, is we want to make sure we have the same approach to our lives, right? It shouldn't be it's either an act is either a time for a bada or a time for doing something from the dunya when in fact they should be both be done together. And there's like a beautiful conversation between Mohammed bin Jabba the number Musashi where Mr.

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lashley he asks, Why were Yaba Musashi? No, madam God asked Mr. Musashi, you know, how do you attain your agenda from Allah subhanho wa Taala. So who mostly responds you know, I recite the Koran I pray I give sadaqa I never Moosa, he asked the same question to why this is a white How do you earn your adjured from Allah subhanaw taala. And why the bingeable dolla dolla and he responds by saying, I earned from my sleep just like you earned from your prayer.

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What he meant by that is that an individual that has a righteous intention before he even goes to sleep, then even his sleep will be an act of EBITDA. So anything that you're meant to be doing, number one, find a way to have a righteous intention behind it, so that you can be rewarded for that activity. So the wife that is as at home and is cleaning the house, her intention shouldn't just be you know what I don't like the house being dirty. So let me clean the house because that's what I like. But her intention should be that Allah subhanaw taala loves purity and loves cleanliness. So as an activity by the Let me clean my house, and she's earning a job in the month of Ramadan and

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outside the month of Ramadan, as she's cleaning her house. So with each and every single activity that you're doing, find a way to have a righteous intention behind it, and you'll be naturally rewarded for it. Number two, find a way to incorporate the vicar of Allah subhanaw taala with it, there was a photo that I was reading from schekman basil Rahim Allah, where he was asked about a woman that is cleaning the dishes at home, while he vacuole Quran is on in the back while the recitation of the Quran the Quran radio station is on. And she said, you know, am I allowed to do this that, you know, I'm not completely focused on listening to the Koran, but it's still playing in

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the background? Is this something I'm allowed to do? Now obviously, this is a matter of love. But I want to share with you the perspective of chicken even though buzzer Rahim Allah, that he says yes, this is something that she is allowed to do. Because one, she didn't intentionally engage with the Koran, meaning she didn't intentionally put like a tape or a CDN, where the Koran is being played, she just turned into a radio station, and inshallah, that foreign key fire of someone listening to the Koran is being done elsewhere to people by people that are listening to the radio station. Number two, is that she needs to look at that if she's not going to listen to the Koran. Sorry, she

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needs to look at that. Is it better for her to have no listening of the Koran, or for her to zone in and out of the Quran. And obviously, for that woman to have a little bit of the Koran and to have no Quran is much, much better for even if she's just listening to bits and pieces of it, and not completely. And then number three, also points out that if she was not to listen to the Koran, would she be listening to something else? And the reality is, it's very possible that, you know, she might be busy on the phone talking to someone and that could lead to a futile conversation, or she's listening to something else on the radio that she shouldn't be listening to. Right, those four sort

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of possibilities are all there. So this is how even if you're doing something mundane, where you have the ability to listen, then there's nothing wrong with listening to a lecture during that time. Or you know, listening to something else that can incorporate in order a reminder of Allah subhanho wa Taala so intentionally putting on a CD I don't think that's a good thing. But if you can find like a quote on radio station next segment basil him Allah mentions in this fatwa of is that something that's fine you there's many Koran radio stations now on YouTube. In fact, in the month of Ramadan, they're constantly streaming the live tarawih and recitation of the Quran from the haramain

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tune into that that's perfectly fine as well. And that is how incorporate the Quran.

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Number three, is that in your free moments, you want to incorporate as much of the vicar of a less pangolins on as possible. When you look into the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, there are certain numbers that are mentioned for a reason, right? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam telling us that whoever says Pinilla 100 times, then you know he will have the rule See, whoever says panela will become the 100 times he will have you know, his sins forgiven, even if they amounted to as much as the form on the see. Now, those 100 times is not just thrown out as a random number is thrown out so that you have a goal in mind that this is what you should be trying to

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achieve. Now the son of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it does not stipulate that it has to be done all at one time. Right? It doesn't say you have to sit down and you have to do 100 times, you know, while you're sitting in the machine is not stipulated like that. But when it comes to the act of Vicar, there's a lot more freedom that you can separate it throughout the day and do it at your convenience. So you want to look at what is easily done for you. So whenever you have those mundane activities where, for example, a person is driving, right, they have to commute to work and to back and back. What can you do at that time, right? You would listen to the radio, a lot of times

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people don't even do that. They're stuck at a traffic light. And we just start looking around, you know, we look at what's happening in other people's cars. And I want you to think of what that really like the vast majority of people when they're stuck at traffic lights. What they do the most is that they look at other people's cars just to see what they're doing. It's like psychologically proven

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So we're to Panama. But if you just take advantage of that opportunity, then as you're driving, you know, just busy yourself with the code of Allah subhanho wa Taala. How easy is that. So make your goal, you know what today I want to try to achieve things to Panama will become the E 100. times. And other times, I'm going to say subpanel 100 times and other time, I want to say this, they got 100 times, and just look into the books of the center. And what numbers have been legislated for us and try to live up to those numbers, you know, even saying, I stuck with the law, up to 70 times or up to 100 times just do it. And a lot of these cards, they don't have restrictions on them. That it

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doesn't mean if you can't do 100, you don't do it at all, no, do what is easy for you do what is easy for you to incorporate that into your mundane acts. And that is what should be done during the days of Ramadan, that you still live your day to day life, but you've incorporated your faith into it. And so you can do both together, it doesn't have to be either, or it doesn't have to be either, or. Now

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something that I want to highlight over here is that in the month of Ramadan is the role of family and friends. And I want to bring a different perspective to this is that people love to be generous in the month of Ramadan. And especially if you have a big social circle, you're naturally like every night or every second night, be invited somewhere for a thought. Now the reality of if thought is, we justify going to those thoughts. And we're like, Man, that food is going to be amazing. And I get to keep ties of kinship with my family and with my friends. And it's going to be fun to be with them. You know what I should do that? But what are the consequences of those? If thoughts? What are

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the consequences of those if thoughts, the consequences of those if data's is that if not all the time? A lot of the time, your eba will struggle by going to those if thoughts? What do I mean by that, you might end up missing a shot in congregation, right? Or in fact that, you know, while you're there, time that you could have spent reciting code and then doing a youth guard and doing other things. You just spend, you know, chit chatting away. That's the first element of suffering. Number two, is that when people invite you over for if they're not just going to give you dates and water and say Jazakallah khair. for coming, you know, you guys can leave now, it has to be like the

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most lavish of food, like multiple types of variani multiple types of curry, multiple types of desserts. So that even if you do end up coming to the machine that night, you're having trouble standing. And as you're having trouble standing, you're like burping every two minutes. And not only is it like bad for you where you're like oh my god, I can taste what I ate. The people standing next to you can taste what you eat as well. And it just makes it so much worse. So that is how you're on the bar the struggles. And then the third thing is that the very next morning, waking up for soda is an absolute mission, because you had that heavy meal. And then the fourth thing is that the whole

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next day, those lavish foods have ridiculous amounts of salt in them, you're going to feel even more thirsty than you should be feeling just because of how much sodium is inside your bloodstream at that time. So that is a perspective I want to bring into this is that be very, very careful and selective of the doubts that you accept in a normal been that in the month of Ramadan, you have to prioritize. Generally speaking, it is the Huq of a Muslim upon another Muslim to accept their invitation, but not at the expense of worshipping Allah subhanho wa Taala. So if you know for a fact that you're a Banda is going to suffer, don't accept those invites, or minimize them that say, you

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know what, I will accept it once a week, either on a Saturday either on the Sunday, and we'll go out we'll do this. And you know what, I'm going to end up praying for a week in congregation somewhere, I'm not going to miss that congregation whatsoever. And I'm going to minimize the amount of talking that I do so I'm not distracted and do anything wrong. And you know what, I'm actually going to minimize my portion intake as well, just so it doesn't, you know, become harmful to me in the ways that I mentioned. So those are some of the important aspects of our social atmosphere in the Ramadan, like our social activity completely revolves around food, and other elements I would like

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to share when it comes to family in the month of Ramadan. And this is particularly for the brothers. We have a very, very bad habit of abusing our wives in Ramadan. Completely bad habit, that we expect them to wake up extra early to prepare our soul. And then they spend the whole day slaving over getting our authority and then

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time between their FDR and their support. They're completely exhausted. Because they've had to do their own chores. They've had to look after the kids, they've had to do their own work. And it's just complete abuse and annihilation. And that shouldn't be the case. So this is like a plea, that we need to have mercy on our families. You know, let your wife cook and prepare a couple of times of the week, and give her the rest of the week off. You want to be a super good husband? Why don't you try preparing the thought and disorder one day, just try for one day, we'll see how much of a struggle it is. And you'll actually appreciate your wife even more for that. So like I said, the man

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is responsible for the man of his family. And in this cycle of abuse that takes place in Ramadan, their Eman actually goes down, because we don't allow it to flourish. So make sure you allow the amount of flourish, make sure you have an environment that is conducive for a man in the month of Ramadan for your family. If you're coming to the masjid, perhaps you can bring them every night, but at least a couple of nights of the week, try to bring them with you. Let them experience and enjoy Ramadan, let them experience and enjoy Ramadan. So that's the second element of the family, I want to share with you. The third element of Ramadan, kids need to feel about Melbourne. Ramadan cannot

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be like any other month, it has to be special for them. And what I mean by that is that this is an ideal opportunity to educate your children. Right? When you look at education of children, at the time of the Sahaba De La Hoya and home, there are two major things that stick out. The first major thing is that raising of children during the time of this haba was not a family obligation, it was a communal obligation, the whole community raised each other's children. So anytime a child was doing something, right, they would encourage the child to do more anything a time a child did something wrong, the community member took the opportunity to educate the child, hey, don't do this, do that.

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And it was a completely obligate community obligation to raise those children. The second thing that you learn is that there is no formal concept of a mcgillis or a school, right. They weren't advanced enough in their, you know, skills of reading and writing to have something like that. But what they did implement very, very well is that every opportunity was an education to teach and to direct. So when you look at the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam, when he sees that young boy, eating with his left hand, what does the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam tell us And boy, he says, yo volum or young boy, eat with your right hand, eat from what is close to you, and say Bismillah before you

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eat, so every opportunity is an opportunity to educate. Now particularly for the month of Ramadan.

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We're experiencing Ramadan, anyways, let us try to make the Ramadan an educational experience for our kids. So in this month of Ramadan, spend extra time with them in the activities you're going to do anyways. So if you're going to recite Koran, time, bring your kids along and recite Koran with them, and get them to read the Koran as well. It's time for Salah, get the kids to pray with you as well. And then naturally, that love that is fostering between a child and their parent and exponentially grows. Because this love is no longer based upon that natural affinity between a parent and a child. But now it's exponentially you know, invested in through the love of Allah

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subhanho wa Taala that relationship has gone to the next level that you're worshiping Allah subhanho wa Taala together and it will naturally flourish even more it will naturally flourish even more. Now, what I want to conclude with as this session is coming to a close soon, inshallah is that there are multiple things that you should be doing in the month of Ramadan, to take complete advantage of and this is what I want to share with you. Number one is a buddy system, that when you're experiencing Ramadan by yourself, it's nowhere as half as good as you when you're experiencing it with someone else. And what I mean by that is human beings go through like cycles, and particularly

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in the month of Ramadan. I think we all experience it, that the first five days of Ramadan really hyped up really Jew rejuvenated, we come to the masjid we want to do as much as we can. And then from like day five, to like day 10 like half the community disappears that you look at the machine and there's a sizable population, that's no longer there. Why? Because they've started to experience that burnout. So it's not like there's no time from day 10 there's from like day five to day 20 before the last time night start. That's when the community starts coming back. So one of the good things that we can do is establish a buddy system, someone that you

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You're going to come to terms with. So one day you drive them and other day they drive you. And the beautiful thing about this is that you hold each other accountable. You don't let a night come where you want to skip the lobby, oh, I feel tired that night, I'm not going to go, your friend is there to remind you that you know what, we're in this together. And we're going to go and pray Dada, together. So you have that extra motivation to keep you on track. Number two, is that there is this really, really nice app that was launched last year by a brother in Scotland, you know, it's not perfect, but it's still a very, very good app. And it's called the Ramadan legacy app. And I would

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suggest that you guys download this app, if you get the opportunity, and just experience it that each and every single day of Ramadan, you actually get multiple reminders, reminders to read the Quran, reminders to make Vicar reminders to give to do an act of sadaqa. And those reminders are very, very nice. It also allows you to journal in that app. So how much code can I read today? And where am I going to start and continue from tomorrow? You know, how many times did they do the garden, how much is left over so that I could continue at a later time. So it has those features that are really really nice as well. So downloading that app is something that is highly, highly

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encouraged. And then number three, the third and last thing, in terms of maximizing your potential for Ramadan is from now think about the goals that you wanted to achieve. Right? As I mentioned this at the beginning, we talked about what are the objectives of Islamic law? And what are the objectives of Ramadan, that each and every Ramadan, choose some of those objectives. And try to make the utmost most of them, don't try to do everything, you can't do everything. It's not possible. But each and every Ramadan, try to focus on a few of those objectives, like giving sadaqa like completing a reading of the Koran, like you know, praying a certain number of guys, right, those are

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all goals that are very achievable. So focus on the few of them, every Ramadan, perfected them, and then next Ramadan, either increase on it, or perhaps even change your goals all together, and then tried to make the most of them have been. But goal setting is very, very important. Right? We have goals in terms of our education, we have goals in terms of our work, what do we need to have goals for our iba as well. And I want to share a beautiful story that one of my teachers from Saudi Arabia told me

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and this is what we'll conclude on this one and open up the floor for questions in Sharla. Now there's a young 16 year old boy, and he's telling the story as if you're experiencing this as a movie. So that's what I want to tell the story as imagine experiencing this as a movie, that there's this young man, 16 years old, and he wakes up at the event for us. So the event is going off Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar. And this young boy wakes up in a panic. And in his bed, he starts crying. So now as you're watching this movie, you're wondering, why is this boy crying as he's hearing the event, you know, doesn't make any sense. This boy runs inside the bathroom hurries to make widow

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comes back out, and he runs out of his house. And he's walking as fast as he can towards the machine. As he's walking towards the machine, you're just watching him from a distance. And you see this boy stop. And he starts crying again. And this time he is crying, because people are coming out of the masjid. And you're wondering, why is this boy crying? What's causing him to cry as people are coming out of the masjid? Then you see this young boy, he starts thinking he's contemplating his wondering, you can see his mind is very engaged. Then you see this voice smile, he becomes happy now. And you see him walk as fast as he can, in the direction of another machine. He climbs up the

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stairs, and in the area where people take off their shoes. You know, if you go too much in Saudi Arabia to take their shoes off on the outside, it's just like a mess outside. And that area where people have taken off their shoes. This boy he takes a peek inside the machine. And in the area where the shoes are taken off. He does such a shocker. He thanks Allah subhanaw taala by making such that time, and then he goes inside and he prays. Now this young boy, he comes out. And you're curious that why was the boy crying multiple times? Why did he become happy? Why did he perform the surgery to sugar right there. And then what was that great event that he remembered that he needed

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to thank Allah subhanaw taala for. So now you finally get to speak to this young boy. And he starts to tell you that he heard the Hadith of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam that whoever prays 40 days in congregation, unless I know it's either would free his neck from two things from hypocrisy and from the hellfire. And that day where you saw him woke up at the event of ourselves. It was his last day his last salah and he knew that if he woke up at the event

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He would miss the congregation altogether. So that is why he woke up crying because he thought that he had missed the congregation. So he made will do and he walked as fast as he could to the mustard. And as he saw the people coming out of the mustard, his heart completely sank. He's like, it's actually come true. Now, I missed the last slot, the last 39 days and for Salas have been in vain. I couldn't achieve my goal. And he was so distraught. And as he sat there, now he's thinking he's contemplating. He's thinking is there another way that I can catch another congregation. And then he remembers that there is another machine that praise us are later than the machine that he usually

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goes to. So he starts walking to that machine, he's climbing up the stairs. He's not sure if they finished us or not, though. So he climbs up the stairs, and he peeks inside the machine from where the shoes are, he looks inside, and the people are still sitting in the first row. They haven't prayed yet. So right there, and then he's so thankful to Allah subhanaw taala, that Allah subhanaw taala allowed him to catch this congregation that he makes such that the show go over there. And then he goes inside, and he prays a lot.

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Now, the biggest lesson that I derive from this, and by the way, this is not the story of some Sahabi. That's not the story of some famous email of the past. This is literally the story of a 16 year old kid in Saudi Arabia in Medina, right, just a regular person, but made him unique though he was he had goals in his ibadah. He wanted to make it an objective for 40 days, I want to pray in congregation. This is my goal. And this is the message I want to leave you with that in life, we have goals for everything. And it is only through our goals, that we measure our success and failures. So this will move on. If you want to see how successful your Ramadan is going to be. Start

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setting your goals from now start thinking about what it looks like. And at the end of Ramadan. You can see, hey, I was successful in this, but I failed on this. And this is what I need to work on. So now I want to quickly recap everything that we talked today, that in the month of Ramadan, you are meant to focus on three things, you're meant to focus on your relationship with the Quran. And we mentioned on how to make that practical that that relationship needs to begin before the month of Ramadan. And it needs to be consistent every day. And you will have three types of reading the reading for the sake of reading, reading for the sake of understanding and reading for the sake of

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implementation. And that needs to start before Ramadan. And in the month of Ramadan, try to do a kata or a completion of the Koran by just reading five pages before after every Salah. Then the second thing you want to focus on in the month of Ramadan is the salon itself is the salon itself. And that needs to happen in two ways, building upon the layers of the salon, the Father, the Son and the novel, and also building on the quality of the salon. By taking your time by understanding the meanings and understanding the actions that you're doing. And a good book for that, as I mentioned is the inner dimensions of salon, but it will call you then the third element of Ramadan is the act

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of fasting. And the act of fasting is to teach self restraint to teach the vicar of Allah subhanho wa Taala and to teach gratitude and that is how we defined taqwa according to our beloved episode. And then we took the practical steps that we mentioned at the end. So how those goals, jot them down, write them down, measure them, and build upon your own model and experience every year. And this is how I've been trying to get over the pain of missing animal bones in Medina. You know, since I graduated, as I mentioned, I haven't been able to go back for Ramadan and that's something I longed for. But the only way I've been able to compensate for that feeling of having Ramadan in

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Medina, is by setting these goals for myself that Ramadan in Medina, you are part of the system, right? You can't really create those goals as much as you want. Just because there's that system that's already in place. But in the Western world where a system isn't in place and you get to create your own system, that's when you can take advantage of those goals. So set those goals and take advantage of them. Anything that I've said that is correct, All praise is due to Allah subhana wa tada and Allah subhanho wa Taala alone. Anything that I've said that is incorrect is for myself and from shavon and I seek forgiveness from Allah subhanho wa Taala and from you and I will leave

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this opportunity now to answer any questions that you guys may have inshallah.

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Please go ahead.

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Are their exams in Ramadan time?

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Why, like there's a school finish early on.

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Not over here when the school finished over here.

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Just

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school finishes in August

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That is so strange is that like is it like that every year? That's so weird spawn I didn't know that

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interesting. So in my advice over here

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is like the words of the prophets I saw them I believe this is the the best advice that the possum could have could have given in this situation that nothing is abandoned for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala except that Allah subhana wa tada replaces it with something better. Now, I'm not saying over here, a person abandoned school, that's not what I'm talking about. What I'm talking about is the person leaving off the worldly means. And Allah subhanaw taala replaces that with something better. So a person that studying for his exams, he may think it's a form of weakness, if he's unable to eat properly and unable to sleep properly. But if you look at how the Sahaba of the

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law understood it, what we consider weakness, they actually considered strength. And that is why so many of the expeditions of Islam took place in the month of Ramadan, but there took place in Ramadan for the federal marketplace in Ramadan, because that Baraka factor is definitely there. So my advice would be twofold over here, number one, get as much studying as you possibly can before the month of Ramadan begins. And that's like the story of the the turtle and the hare, that slow and steady wins the race to start studying from now, if you know that, you know, you're going to have exams at that time, and you're going to be busy and preoccupied, start studying from now. And number two, put your

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trust in Allah subhanaw taala don't become dependent upon the means become dependent on the creator of the means. That if you're fasting and you're praying to Allah subhanaw taala in your nights, and you're doing those extra acts of ibadah, Allah subhanaw taala definitely put Baraka in the actions that you're doing, and it will definitely grant you success. So that would be my advice, start preparing from now. And then rely upon the bulk of Ramadan. melas final don't make it easy for all the students. I mean,

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any other questions? Go ahead.

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With the three kids, yes.

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For young kids, they're excused. Like young kids. They're what we call her Tomoko left and at the age of responsibility at that age, any good deeds that their parents direct them to their parents get the reward for that. That is why if a parent takes their child for hygiene mama while they're young, the parent gets the reward for that hygiene. So anything that the parents tell their children to do, and they do it it goes towards the towards the parents will the hotel.

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Any other questions?

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No, I think that's it, then. We'll conclude with that. I'll be around here if anyone has more personal questions or has more questions. I'll be around to answer those questions in sha Allah Subhana Allah Mohammed deca shadowline, Atlanta Sakura, go to blue lake resort located for your attention was Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh