Naima B. Robert – Secrets of Successful Wives Welcome Message

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The whole session tonight will be on Zoom.

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Welcome. Welcome.

Welcome

to the secrets of successful wives conference

live online

this weekend, today, tomorrow,

and the day after.

If you are joining us right now I

just want to wish you all an amazing

welcome to what is inshallah going to be

a fantastic

weekend together.

The first thing I would like to do

is to

take a moment

to just express gratitude to Allah Subhanahu Wa

Ta'ala.

And this is something that I do

at every talk that I'm blessed to give

which is to just take a moment

to say Alhamdulillah.

Alhamdulillah

for the blessing

of being in this space.

Of being part of a gathering

of people who are trying to worship Allah.

For when we are blessed

to be in the gatherings of knowledge. In

the gatherings where Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala's name

is mentioned.

Where the believers have come together for the

common good.

To help each other upon bill and taqwa.

This is a nirma from Allah subhanahu ta'ala.

This is a blessing.

Don't take it for granted.

There are some people who intended to be

here

and Qadar Allah, they're not here.

And some of you maybe you'd never even

intended to be here. Maybe 3 days ago,

you knew nothing about any of this, but

Alhamdulillah,

you are here allah

has chosen you

he's chosen me he's chosen every single one

of our speakers who will turn up here

and

be part of our growth.

Be part of our purification.

Be part of our reminders. Be part of

our

our evolve evolution

insha'allah ta'ala.

I

am so grateful

to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala for his nidma,

for his fuddle

for opening up the doors to this event

where subhanAllah almost 10,000 of you

have claimed a ticket, have put your hand

up and said, yes,

I want to know how to be a

successful wife in the eyes of allah subhanahu

ta'ala.

I want to

know what that looks like, what that sounds

like, what that feels like. I want to

do better in this role. Whether I

am on my way to that, or I'm

hoping for that, whether I am already in

that role or whether I played that role

in the past and I'm anticipating it in

the future,

I want to do better.

And I commend

you because this

this response,

this attitude of

eagerness to learn

and eagerness to apply what you learn and

eagerness to know what is the correct way?

What is the best way? How can I

do this better? This subhanAllah sisters and any

brothers out there this is a beautiful characteristic.

So every single one of you just take

a moment to say alhamdulillah

Allah chose me for this.

Allah chose me to be here. Allah chose

me to even have the desire to have

the willing heart, to have the openness,

right? To have the mindset that is wanting

to be better, wanting to learn, wanting to,

you know, raise my standard inshallah and raise

my status in the eyes of Allah Subhanahu

Ta'ala. This is an amazing barakah.

So take a moment to say Alhamdulillah

and you know, I salute you. I salute

every single one of you for having made

that decision to say no. No. No. This,

I'm going to prioritize this this weekend.

I'm going to learn about this. I'm going

to sit. I'm going to study. I'm going

to listen. I'm going to ask questions and

I'm going to see how this can be

applied in my life. And so I love

every single one of you for the sake

of Allah for that. And thank you so

much for trusting us with this very special

role

of wife,

of explaining,

of teaching, of showing

how to be a successful wife inshallah.

So with that being said, I am your

host, Naima B Robert.

May if you know me, then you know

that I'm an award winning author of almost

30 books for children, teens, and adults. But

more importantly than that, I am,

somebody who's been, alhamdulillah, in this, in the

deen

for coming on 23 years. Mashallah.

I was married for 15 years, alhamdulillah, to

the father of my children.

And I've been through the seasons like so

many of you. I've been a widow. I've

been a divorcee.

You know, I've been a stepmother.

I've been through many of those of those

interesting

journeys along the way.

What I know

is that

we never stop growing.

We never stop learning.

And if we are blessed to be in

a situation where we can

help others with what we have learned, then

this again is a blessing from Allah. So

as your host this weekend

and as you know part of the team

that organized this, I welcome you and I

hope that

whatever it is that you need to hear,

you hear it this weekend.

Whatever it is that you need to take,

you get it this weekend. And whatever change

it is that you need to make you

get to make it with us this weekend.

Thank you so much all for being here

and inshallah.

The first talk

is by yours truly and if you are

unclear

about the program please check your email. All

the programs are all the the the times

and who's speaking when

they are all there. So tonight, who we

have is, you'll be with me inshallah

until the next hour.

And then we will have sister Mariam Lemu

who is going to be talking to us

about how to be an awesome Muslim wife.

The next hour after that, which will be,

trying to say hour because I know that

we have so many different time zones, Masha'Allah.

So for, for, for those of you in

the UK at 7 o'clock, it will be

sister Miriam.

For those of you in the UK, 8

o'clock will be sister halay banani talking about

how to charm your husband.

And then an hour after that we have

a panel with the 2 of them talking

about and giving tips on how to find

a spouse in the first place and then

inshallah

we're trying to have a live stream on

youtube to hear from you guys. Right? To

hear from you

what you liked about today's talks, which were

the big moments for you, the moments, the

takeaways,

what you are going to take on board

and make part of your own routine, we

would love to hear that from you at

the end of each day inshallah. So you'll

be able to just join me on YouTube.

Hopefully,

if all the tech works, you'll be able

to join me then inshallah. Okay. So

with that being said,

we will record this.

Bismillah.

My dear brothers and sisters, because we have

both here,

it is a pleasure for me

to speak with you today

on a topic that is very very close

to my heart.

And that is the topic of showing up.

Now, if you are familiar with me, my

name is Naeema and I wrote a book

called show up. You may be familiar with

it.

In the book show up,

I talk about

showing up as a woman because it's a

motivational manifesto for Muslim women. But the message

applies both to brothers and sisters.

So in that book, I talked about showing

up in a variety of different ways.

But today, what I'd like to talk to

you about specifically

is showing up for your marriage.

Showing up in your role as a wife.

So

we know,

alhamdulillah,

from the deen

that

the

every relationship that we have in our lives

is a relationship that includes rights and responsibilities.

And everybody who is in our lives more

or less is some kind of a manner.

If we're blessed with parents, they are a

manner. If we're blessed with a spouse,

he or she is a manor. If we're

blessed with children, they are a manette.

Right? Give me a yes in the comments,

in the chat, if you understand where I'm

coming from, if you understand what I'm saying.

So

the reality of human beings, unfortunately,

is that we often

SubhanAllah.

We so often

take our relationships

for granted, right?

Because,

you know, once we have the husband,

we have him right. Once we have the

wife, we have her. Once we have the

kids, we have him. And sometimes we forget

how much we were hoping for and praying

for the spouse and the children before they

came along. Now sometimes the reason that we

start to take for granted is because we

realize that, oh, it's a lot more work

than I thought. Okay. So we don't spend

our days in gratitude for our spouses, in

gratitude for our children. In fact, sometimes we

actually complain and we feel a bit like,

oh, you know, like, this is a lot

of work. This is a lot of sacrifice.

You know, is this really what it's all

about?

So unfortunately, what can happen is

we take these relationships for granted. Right? And

when we take these relationships for granted,

we start

to slack off.

Maybe when we went before we were married

or in the early days of marriage, we

were full of