Overcoming family challenges during pandemic

Nadim Bashir


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The pandemic has faced multiple struggles and struggles faced by families, including multiple members with multiple children and economic struggles. The importance of avoiding struggles and working around them is emphasized. The speakers stress the need for everyone to work around and remove their ego to create a human being. The importance of using emotions and bringing happiness and peace to one's life is also emphasized.

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brothers and sisters, as we adopt to this new way of life. And we have this idea that when this pandemic may be over, we talk about now that when this pandemic is over, I will do this, and so forth. Yet, as we go through this Subhanallah, I'm still seeing within the community, the leadership of this machine, we've keep on receiving phone calls, about how people are still trying to cope with this way of life, how people are going through family struggles, economic struggles, children are getting bored at home, the children are eating the minds of the parents, parents are getting sick of their children at home. And then because of this, there's a lot of tension. There's a lot of

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frustration between the spouses, brothers and sisters, we all understand that first of all, this pandemic was never going to be easy. But at the same time, you and me being a Muslim, we remind ourselves the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were in he says, I just been the unreal movement in Umrah, hula hula who hired no matter what situation is, if there are times of prosperity, they are good for us. And if there are times of difficulty, they are also good for us. Why? Because when there are times of difficulty, and you and I we are patient, and we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala for IVF then not only will inshallah Allah will help us get through this, but

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Allah will elevate our Daraja in Jannah in sha Allah, through this we learn from the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that even a prick of a thorn that touches or thorn that breaks a person or hurts a person, even that will be a means of your sins being forgiven. So what do you think about this situation? Most certainly Allah subhanho wa taala, Allah will forgive us in sha Allah, if we are patient, and we continuously ask Allah Subhana Allah what the Allah. But today quickly in my football, I want to talk about few things from the perspective of a family. Today, many families are struggling during this pandemic, and just wanted to share a few things, first of

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all, is that every family is very different. There is no doubt about the fact that every family is different. There are some families that has they have one child, there are some children, there are some families that have four to five children is difficult is different. There are some families are absolutely there are some other struggles, there might be some families that are considered special needs families, there are going to be struggles over there too. So when it comes to these kinds of details, you have to figure out on your own, talk to your family, sit down with your family, you are a family at the end of the day, talk to each other and see how you can work around it. But at the

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same time, there are few things that we can keep in mind. few important points that we can keep in mind. Number one is that no matter what situation that we are going through, there's always another family. There's always another person who's going through more struggles than us. Brothers and sisters. Look at the CETA of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I always stress upon this the seed of the Prophet, the seed of the Prophet why? Because the CETA of the Prophet sunnah has so many gems, it has so many lessons, so many reflections for all of us, because of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, as he has in a hadith that no one has gone through amount of struggles, the amount

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of struggles as as much as I have been through the problems or Salam was the epitome when it came to struggles. Allah subhanho wa Taala put so many difficulties upon Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and that's why when he went through those difficulties, what the Allah told us, Allah Allahu Allah, he was send them go back to the Quran, why would Allah share the story of Musa alayhis salam, and who the alayhi salam and luta Allah He Islam, and Ibrahim Ali he sang with the Prophet SAW Salem to soothe his pain. When we go through these difficulties, we go back to these stories, and I can almost guarantee you that we will find an example in the Stories of the Prophets and then we'll

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When we see what they have done, then inshallah Tao will be a consolation for us. So always is important to understand, there's always someone who has a more difficulty than us, we think that we are in the most amount of problems. But Wallahi when you go around, when you talk to other people, you will realize, and the only thing that will come from your tongue is Subhan, Allah And Alhamdulillah because you will realize at times that there are other people who are in more difficult situations than you. That's why at all times, say Alhamdulillah, all times, no matter what situation you are in, thank Allah subhanho wa taala. Because our situation could be even worse, our

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situation could be worse. The second thing that we need to do

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when it comes to issues in our families

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is that it takes two people, at least the husband and the wife, to sit down and fix the situation, just like it takes two people to bring a human being into this life to create a human being. Likewise, it takes both of them to sit down and resolve the issues. Today's Subhanallah how many times I receive phone calls, that the wife wants to fix the situation, but the husband does not want to, or sometimes the husband wants to, and the wife does not want to brothers and sisters, if you want the situation, your family to get better. Both people need to come to the table. Both people need to make some compromises, it cannot be my way or the highway, it cannot just be my way. And

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that is it. It does not work like that. We don't see that in the nature of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, if you and I we follow Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Prophet was never have this kind of personality, he never had this kind of mind frame in this mindset when it came to this family. So therefore, both people need to sit down and discuss their issues. The third thing that's very, very important is that you have to remove the ego when it comes to these kinds of matters, especially within a family SubhanAllah. So many people have these egos. And remember the ego does not give you the ability to see see things correctly, the ego will will cloud your

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judgment, that ego will put your feelings before other people's feelings, that ego will create you as a narcissistic person, and it will create narcissism within you. And it will not create the emotional intelligence that we find in life. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, brothers and sisters, when it comes to a family, you have to put aside your ego, because we're loving, having an ego in a family is going to only destroy the situation. If you say that, no, I don't care what's right and what's wrong. I'm gonna do what I want to do, because that is what ego is ego and Kibber is what they you put down the hack, you suppress the hack, because when you see that what is right

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and what is wrong, and deep down inside, you still say I'm going to do what I want to do, because I think it is right, then that means that we have ego in our heart. And when a person becomes egotistical than they always then eventually they will resort to gold, and they will do doom upon their family members. And I want to remind myself and everyone here that when the Prophet salallahu it he was sending him once he was passing by. I've mentioned this hadith before by he passed by a Sahabi by the name of Abu Massoud, not even a boumous Oh god Allah Tron, he was hitting his his slave or his servant. And the Prophet said, Allahu Allah, he was sending him he got upset with him.

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He didn't even ask him. Why are you doing this because the fact that he's hitting him is wrong to begin with. There is no justification for wrong, there is no justification for one. And then he reminded us that just like today, you think that you have power over this person. Likewise, a day will come that someone else will have power over you, when we do wrong to someone else. Remember that Allah will hold us accountable today we do wrong to others, because I feel like I am powerful. Remember that there is another one that is more powerful than us. So keep this in mind. And finally, I will say the last thing that we can do is quickly I want to go through this is apply some emotions

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into your life. Try to understand the other person. The problem is that Allahu alayhi wa sallam he told the eyeshadow the Allah Quran ha. Oh Aisha, I know when you are upset with me, and I know when you're happy with me. She said, How do you know that? He says that Allahu alayhi wa sallam, that when you are pleased with me, when you are happy with me, you say by the Lord of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and when you are upset with me, you say by the Lord of Ibrahim alayhis salam, she was even shocked herself. That the problem he picked up on this, there were small, small things and it was something he did to show that how much he cared about other people's feelings. The prophets

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If you remember the story, I also shared the story one time, that once Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. In fact, the story goes on that there were two people that came to eyeshadow, the Allah Tirana and the SI Isha Rhodiola. And how about a story that she remembers from the life of the province of Salem? And what does she say? She says, I remember one night that the province has some he came and he lived down next to me. And then he got up he got up and he says, Oh, I Isha. Permit me or do you permit me that I spent the night instead of next to you? I spent my night with Allah subhanho wa taala. And she said yes. And what she is and what is mentioned from this is the fact

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that the person did not even need the permission of Aisha she not need he did not need her approval to go and do a bother to Allah subhanho wa Taala with the Prophet it is on realizes that tonight is her hug tonight is her turn. That's why I'm at her house. And tonight I spend it with Allah subhanho wa Taala the province Salam he took permission and went away from inshallah the Allah to Allah. He got her approval because he understands her feelings. If the person just did what he wants to do, and did not care about his feelings. How would I shall feel this is emotional intelligence. This is how Ross who has a solemn from his kind and tender heart, he cared about other people's feelings.

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This is what we need to do. When we talk about being like Rasuwa Allahu Allah, He will send them what Allah he will law he Rasulullah saw some never will put himself above other people. It was always about other people, their feelings, their emotions, before his feelings and before his emotions. I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to give us the o'clock and the emotion intelligence of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to bring peace in our families, this difficult time that we are going through I asked Allah subhana without to remove the difficulties that we are going through what each one of us are, are experiencing on an individual

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basis. And may Allah make a make our matters easy for us and Middleburg. Alameen Baraka hola hola now welcome them when I find out what your community what they can Hakeem stuff with Allah How do you welcome well he said Mr. Universe tell Pharaoh in the whole of a full Rahim

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Mr Lai Rahman Rahim Al Hamdulillah and Muhammad who want to stay in Hoonah stuff you know when I was with him you should only unforeseen ailments say yeah to Medina man yeah the love of the woman you didn't follow her. Wanted to do Allah it Allah wa hola Chica. What is the number Hamid Anna Abdul rasuluh I'm about one quick advice I also have at the end is inserted for on perhaps the fifth to last idea or the fourth last ayah Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions a dua dua the you and I should memorize and we should recite this do it every single day, especially if you want a family that will bring happiness to us. And that dua is Robina habla Anna mean as well Gina was already yet in our

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Kurata Are you on? Was your analysis. II mama? This is us asking ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala that oh Allah grant us a family that no matter what difficulties I'm going through this, this family will bring a smile to my face. This family will bring peace and tranquility in my heart and in my life. This is what I do is I ask ALLAH SubhanA what to Allah once again, to give us families that will bring peace and happiness and content in our life. I ask Allah subhanho wa Taala for all those families that where there are conflicts going on May Allah subhanho wa Taala bring the hearts closer to one another. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us get through this pandemic? Allah Hamada unhaggle

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Bella May Allah subhanho wa Taala uplift this pandemic, I ask Allah subhana wa Tada all those who have passed away May Allah Subhana Allah have mercy upon them. May Allah Subhana Allah forgive them, may Allah make their dreams and garden a paradise and all those who have been sick, whether it was because of COVID or non COVID. May Allah subhanho wa Taala give them she felt, I ask Allah subhanho wa Taala that during this time, this difficult time, that if we are drifting away from Allah May Allah bring us closer bring us closer to Him. May Allah subhanaw taala bring us back to him and ask Allah subhanho wa Taala the all those who have lost jobs or who are struggling economically and

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financially during this pandemic, may Allah subhanho wa Taala replace that loss with something that is better. May Allah subhanho Baraka in their finances, and may Allah subhanho wa Taala help them from his treasure Amira al Amin Allahumma Islam on mysimon Allah Hamas Islam one Muslim enough equally McCann Allah Hama, sunnah Allah man holla finna Wafaa Bilal

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah. Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah all