Channel: Musleh Khan
Laila Ali, he of total Salah woman while married.
So we are just briefly talking about why this area talks so much about the woman and the pains that she goes through, particularly labor pains. Well, first and foremost, the context in the subject of the A has everything to do with her and nothing to do with him. So in context, we're talking about when she's carrying a child,
only women do that. Secondly, the pain that she has to endure through pregnancy, then delivering the child and all of the things that we've talked about, there's nothing really equivalent to that a human being goes through in life. There's really nothing like, I don't know, you tell me.
Is there anything in life you can think about? That kind of shares some sort of equal scale? To labor pains?
Yep. So I mean, even in the animal kingdom, you have examples of this, right? So the point is, is that there's really nothing you can think about that equates this level of pain and struggle.
The next point is
the most honorable thing
in life is to be able to raise another human being.
When some people say, I don't want to stay home and take care of kids on my life.
Think about the most blessing, an honorable thing. You're nurturing and caring for another human being.
And it's even more blessing. When you're caring and raising more than one human being. Like, I just think
a lot of us who come from big families just know and those of you who nurture big families till this day, it's truly truly a remarkable feat that human beings get to. And so when they're there, especially her mom, and just the last point on this,
because Allah Himself designed her, he knows the level of pain she's going through, that other human beings will never truly understand. And like I said to you, and again, the mothers here you told me, not even the mothers can really describe what labor pains are and the pains that are associated with pregnancy. Like they can't even find the words to describe what that feels like.
Right so Allah highlights it. There's a hidden gem or wisdom behind this. This is not just a conversation about oh, look at all she's going through Subhan Allah and that's it.
Is Allah also calling for a bit of sympathy?
is the low one is to care about this pain? Yes.
Is she entitled as a result of this pain? Yes.
What's her entitlement, take care of her, relieve her of other struggles and pains she has to go through because she carried your child. And Allah said, look at all that she's going through. So do something to relieve her life and all of the other struggles that surround her that you can be part of you can participate, and you can help relieve. So that's really the whole point of this verse. It's not just to, for us to be like, Oh, my God, oh, get all the pain. And next day or no. And then Allah continues, this is where we're at. Okay?
And take a look at this. This was one of the last points that we talked about in terms of father.
They have to learn where they fit in the world of raising families. They have to figure that out. Because
you and I both know that it is very normal for no matter how big the family is, that the mother is 80%, maybe more 80% of the time, maybe more. She's the one that's really closer to the kids than the dead.
Like that comes home after a rough day and kids want Daddy Daddy Daddy, yeah, go go to your mom sleeping alone. Let me watch TV for four hours. Man, I'm tired. Okay, go go go play a mom's
almost never do that. They might have a day here and there. But almost never. As a matter of fact, moms are pre programmed to find relief when they come home after a stressful day. Through whom
through their kids. Like God who was thinking about you all day, how's your code still hurting as you're arming massage.
That's, that's her mind. That's how Allah designer. Fathers have to figure that out. And they have to figure out where they fit in that puzzle. And a lot of fathers just can't do it. So you can see that clear
separation within that relationship. And it's going to be highlighted a bit more in this sort of so let's find out what inja Carla and tertiary can be my Lisa Lockerbie here in Allah says and even if your parents struggle against you, everybody knows what jihad is comes from what word?
Jaha from jihad, what does jihad
struggle? What kind of struggle and the kind of struggle in inner struggle, outer struggle doesn't matter? Struggle, struggle struggle, in an Islamic context, it has more than 12 different meanings. And the one that we are concerned about in this A is is more so the internal struggle, okay? What's the internal jihad in all of us? That even if we don't do the action, that's wrong, right? We don't actually fall out and do the wrong action.
Our hearts and minds imagination, all of that stuff is kind of toying around the thought of doing the wrong action. So you're fighting that neffs you're trying to say to yourself, Man, okay, I'm not gonna think about that. I need to I need to distract myself. That's all jihad.
You know, I can't get that image out of my head. I need to just look at something else. That's jihad. Enough's. Allah says though, this area, it starts off, we're in Jaha, DECA. It's not specified, whether its internal or external. So the Romans say it's both. Okay. So when your parents struggle against you,
why doesn't it say when your parents tell you, when your parents just talk to you and say, Hey, I don't like how Islamic you've become. Why did Allah use Jed? Because 99% of the time when a parent is against their children, practicing their religion, it usually ends up being what a silent comfortable a little conversation or do they usually argue?
Usually fight over it right?
So that's why Allah says if you're in an argument or if you're in a fight with your parents, about against you in shirk, that they have no knowledge of. So they're basically telling you you know, I don't like the way you look were the way you dress, the way you talk. Now, you pray, the things you eat the things you don't need, and and and and and you left all of your friends, you left everything that you've grown up loving and enjoying. You just left it all and look what you've become and those kinds of things.
then don't obey them. So this is the one and only time as I mentioned to you in the whole poor end where Allah tells children don't listen to your parents. This is the one time and this A is repeated with slightly different wording in Surah to Lanka boot. Okay, that's just for you to know. So Allah says don't obey them, really. So if let's really, really
put this in front of us for a moment, okay? Your parents are saying to you, I don't want you to pray like this in my house.
And or they tell that that I don't want you to wear that hijab till the sun. start shaving, like I don't want you to grow that beard. I want you to say these these Arabic terms. Don't do that.
Allah says don't obey them.
Is that going to escalate the problem and it might turn into a bigger fight.
So is Allah and like, I'm just gonna throw the question. Oh, is this kind of like a setup?
I was like, just don't listen to them. So mom, you can keep screaming Dad, you can keep punching me. I'm leaving to the masjid.
You can do that. Like you can just walk away. Just say no, I'm not gonna do it.
The answer is yes.
You can literally say I'm sorry.
Uh, here's the here's the key behind this. There's one rule of thumb and it's found in other sources. Okay, so it and for con at the end of sorbitol for cotton which is the 25th surah Allah says why they don't recommend Ladino Chanel are the owner were either hot tub of whom will Jae Hee loon Paulo. Salama, when somebody is yelling and screaming in your face? Then what do you do in turn?
Callooh Salama, you respond in a peaceful and dignified way. Allah didn't say you respond by agreeing.
Do you see see how beautiful it is? Allah says just respond but be civilized. So when you're here, this situation, respond. We just chill. Keep yourself together. Stay civilized, don't yell. Don't fight back.
Yeah, I was with a student in University of Medina. And this was an American student. And he was originally Spanish. He was like six, eight or something and almost 300 pounds. And he looked exactly like his face looked exactly like the Imam of Mecca, Shahab Dora menace today's. So this student His name is Abdullah but we just called him two days, anywhere you wanted yesterday, skiff, Hollywood, just two days, he was a revert was a revert. And his story was very similar to this scenario. His mother once one day saw him just looking through an English copy of the Quran. She stormed in his room. She took it out of his hand. And she threw it across the wall. She's like, I don't want you to
read this, you know, garbage. He just sat there.
He didn't say a word.
That was the turning point for mum. No. Why? Because Abdullah, quote unquote, today's had a real temper problem before Islam.
And she looked at him and he didn't budge. He didn't curse. He didn't throw anything. He didn't run out of the house and fight back. He didn't argue he just sat there.
And she said, You know what?
I'm sorry, the mother went and purchased a new core en for him. They both started studying and they both took shahada.
They both took shahada together because she said
this religion has like calm you down. In times your whole life I've raised you I've known you would lose it. It's really kept you under control. I want to I want a part of this to
say it's remarkable when Allah says Jaha that there is a strict rule especially when it's parents Okay, so just keep that in mind. It's not a flat out No, I'm out of the house I'm moving out No. lies like struggle with the problem. So this is the second point when you are saying no.
The no is not the cut off point. The no is look, I love you. I appreciate what you're doing. But I can't agree with you on this. Sorry. See you later. Not I'm sorry. I'm moving out. I'm going to go to Abdullah's house or Miriam's house, I'm just gonna stay there. No, Allah says Jahad you gotta struggle and figure this out.
That's the whole point. Then it continues phenethyl tahona. Here is the point where we here's the most important part of this whole idea. Let's dissect it piece by piece. Okay.
Aladdin says and don't obey them and accompany them see this guy's and accompany them in this world in a decent way, as it's already known, you understand this portion of the Asia, you will understand the whole idea right here and accompany them while Sahiba Houma
what does that mean? What does Sahaba mean?
Companion? So one of the words for friendship in the Quran is Sahib Sahaba suffer when you're a companion to somebody, how devoted are you to that individual? When you're like, you're like a Sahabi to the process. Tell him how devoted ARE YOU TO THE PROCESS Tell him
he's everything to you, right. So when you're a Sahabi, to your friend, he or she is everything to you, you trust them, you confide in them, you hang out, you're really close. There is 1x There's one tiny little layer that doesn't fit in the definition of Sahabi when it comes to friendships, but that's a separate conversation. But the point is, you're really close. Okay? So Allah says that when it comes to these kinds of parents that are against your Islam, Sahiba Homer, you've got to still keep a good close relationship. How fit dunya variables are dunya is comes from the word Edna. Edna means something that is of really no importance to you, like a straw. You finish using a straw. You
don't be like, Oh my god, I love you straw, I will keep you forever. You don't do that. You don't just like pack away after you use like a serviette or a napkin or something. They just put it away nicely in an envelope and seal it and put it in a drawer. You don't do that. Those are that's called Adnet. Allah called this world from an dunya. Just by name. What does it tell you about the world? Subhan Allah, see how beautiful Arabic is. Then Allah says Mount opha. I've said this over and over that mouth roofer is really truly one of my favorite words in the entire poor. And please don't ever forget my roofer.
Does anybody have any idea what my office? This word?
Good. So that's the first layer. But there's a key word I want you to have in that answer. Doesn't mean you have any idea.
If you've ever listened to me give a hotbed IIT, and you don't know the answer to this, you're expelled.
Good. I like to phrase it. You're absolutely right. So what you said, Maury, and what you said, if you put fuse those answers together, it is literally a universal standard.
Remember that mauto is a universal standard that is globally and widely acceptable in any culture and society time or place. So an example makes it crystal clear. Have you heard me give an example somewhere, whether it's a hookah or talk or whatever, where I said something like, you don't get to call your wife or your husband, like idia
or stupid, and then say to them, when they're offended, they're like, I can't believe you just call me stupid. And you say, Well, I don't think that's a bad thing.
You don't get to do that. Why? Because Allah said, your marriage should be based on mountains. It is known you don't call your spouse these names. In some cultures, you call your kids like we talked about right home like Kelvin dog and animal and Python and so on. Even if you say, Well, it's my culture. Congratulations. It's a bad part of your culture. You're not supposed to be practicing that. You shouldn't do that. And you can't just say, Well, you know what, it's so normal. The kids don't get offended. That's the problem. They've gotten used to something that is considered pretty much anywhere else on the planet is horrible, demeaning, and it's just an flat out insult. That's
called metal roof. Don't do it. Even if it doesn't mean anything bad or wrong to you. You don't do it. Now, go back to the idea. Allah says to these parents, be really
Nice to them, like your close friends in all worldly life.
And it's got to be in a way that it's understood that this is how I respect parents.
My question to you is this.
This A is highlighting parents who are against your Islam. And Allah says that's the level of relationship you need to have with them. How close is that to Muslims who have relationship with Muslim parents. It's almost like a sister. It's almost as if it all it just peeled off one layer of the whole parent child relationship. That one later was the Islamic part. So you don't have to go up to your non Muslim parents and be like,
You don't have to give them set up.
Mom, I need you to fast for 30 days. But I'm not Muslim. Still. Allah will reward you. You don't know. Let's just remove that later.
As a matter of fact, Sahiba who method dunya model fam if your mom is cooking up a storm or your dad's doing whatever, and you're fasting in the month of Ramadan, Sahib whom Effie dunya meroofer is go help her in the kitchen Yeah, you're fasting that too bad just go help because why you've always done mauto for it's always known that you were in the kitchen with mom before you became Muslim you always helping her out around the house and you're always helping out with stuff. So keep up with that. Really understand mouthed off Allah says that when you're speaking to one another will Kulu colon meroofer say words that are understood to be good and respectful and so on and so far so my
so you go over so for our students online, so you go over to your parents home and they prepare a really nice meal and let's just reword it and say that you don't know whether it's halal or not.
What do you guys think
can hit let's Allah's rule. Mom, dad, really appreciate what you did. I'm so sorry. Because of my religion now. This is how it's got to be.
Right so you guys enjoy it. Now you have a little bit of leftovers for tomorrow. You know, that kind of conversation? Don't just be like, Mom repeat after me and stuff. Like don't do that. Because you know why I throw these like weird examples. They might sound silly at first.
You've no idea how real this is. Where a lot of new Muslims become so overzealous when they're part of the deen like the first day you know, mashallah he accepts the deen buys all the Islamic clothing, blah, blah, blah after a week, his beard is coming out. And about a month later. I want to make a joke.
I'm leaving this country. long dead I'm leaving for Allah.
Yeah, I preach this to my youth students all the time, about trying your best to be balanced. Because if you tilt on one side, it comes with an expiry date. If you're too open and you're too liberal, and you're too easygoing, that lifestyle comes with an expiry date. And if you're really really strict and everything you're the Haram police everywhere you go. That also comes with an expiry day. What do I mean when I say that? You cannot maintain that kind of lifestyle forever. It's impossible because it's not normal. Like it's not the way that Allah designed us to be.
Okay, so Maroof remember this word? It is applicable in literally every single relationship marriage with friends with neighbors, you name it, okay
or, yeah, absolutely.
Give me an example.
Today, like it's not really like you already say that every day or like
good. I like you. And yes, that's what my roof is. Let me tell you something. You brought up something really interesting. Have you guys heard of a great scholar named chef invest? Rahim Allah shut them baz was sitting
In his lesson and he has over 1000 students sitting in front of it, okay? There was a man that stood up and he started asking the share her question in anemia like in slang broken Arabic, says ago she had her show for near the bottom, the Middle Ages are spitting it out, right? And it's known in the culture that when you're talking to a great scholar,
the etiquette is you talk, perfect, clear, whatever language you're speaking, right, a sunnah Marley can share that and you just get into it with the etiquettes. And you use the proper wording and you speak appropriate. This man didn't do that. So it's like how some of my youth commentary Hey, Muslim, what's up? I mean, salam, and he just talked to me. He's like, Okay, first of all, relax. This is the Attica. So what you have been best did is he responded to the men with the exact same slang language and advised him Look, when you want to ask a question. Here's the etiquette. Here's how you do it. Okay.
Go ahead and ask your question. But he did it in like, the worst street language you can think of. But that same man, it was said that he never missed a lesson from the chef afterwards, was always sitting there.
So sometimes Maroof is also speaking in the same lingo with the same words style, language, etc. You try to do that. That's from the wisdom of communication and our deen is filled with that. Okay. What tell me your heart metabo sebelum. And I bet you like
I took it to heart.
Like, everybody heard that if all you do is encourage people to do MANOVA
and you discourage people to do anything that is shameful or or unacceptable.
You will be okay.
You will be okay.
Were visiting and this person came over, Robert.
But I don't know, right? We didn't know the ingredients. And what?
So we definitely don't you know, we would partake in it right? So you end up giving it to somebody else. When you get back door neighbor? Was
that's okay. You did the right thing. Yeah, no, no issues with that. Okay.
What are sebelum another LA, then Allah says continues and he says,
however, follow the path of the one that's turned back towards me.
If one parent says, Hey, let's hear them out. Let's sit down. They might be right.
As long might actually be a good religion. So let's hear about that's what Allah is saying here.
Lean towards the one that is closer to Allah. In whatever way shape or form it's not defined here. Allah says sebelah the path there somewhere towards that direction. Allah didn't say sebelah it's they're not Sabina, but they're on some kind of good path in terms of communication and understanding. Lean towards them for obvious reasons, right. It's how you can sort of de escalate problems and eliminate them as best as you can, right? From LA Yamato Giro comfort will now be will come be my quantum timer loon.
Then your final to me alone is the place of final return that I will thoroughly inform you of all the kinds of things that you have done. So let's take a look at some
one more additional note this word. Now just go back
from LA Yamato, Giro comb, all of us are going back to Allah for una bit welcome. Allah is going to NEB Bella is when you're being informed of every miniscule thing you ever did the stuff you didn't even know you forgot about. You didn't even think counted. That's Nabbit number 11 is Ls is going to tell you about stuff that you never paid attention to in your whole life. Like how many footsteps you took on that day to do A, B and C? You're like, Oh my God, even the footsteps counted for something. Yeah, because when you were doing it, you were like both
sticking in you were being pretty, you know, prideful, you're putting yourself out there. So your footsteps now we're against you that's called Nabeel come, be my quantum town alone from every thing that they used to do. Obviously, when you meet Allah, and you're going to be confronted to in that way,
you want to be able to live a life of repentance, like you're always cleaning up your day, every single day of your life just cleaning up the mistakes, even the ones that are you know, unconsciously you've done and you've you haven't realized you just ask ALLAH forgive, forgive forgive. I put this area here this A is found in suited for call verse 70 and 71. This is the i in the Haoran amongst many, but this is the one that I really really like that Allah teaches you how to repent him how to seek forgiveness with him. He teaches you how to do it here.
So it's a side tangent, I put it there. You tell me do you guys want to quickly go through or these the translation enough?
You see the excitement? Isn't there make Toba people
no pun intended actually pun intended, right. Okay, real quickly. What's Toba?
That's a translation. What is the meaning of Toba?
Yes, that's the translation. What is the meaning of repentance?
You're right, you're sincere. You're turning, you're doing all of that. What is it that you're actually doing that you're seeking the forgiveness and so on. You're physically turning your life around, you're physically changing something. So this is Towba.
My phone I keep like clicking stuff. I'm not supposed to click Toba is okay, let me install like a block program. register it. So that way when I start clicking on those things, it'll block it right away. That's Towba you physically did something to repair a problem.
If i don't know i smoking,
you physically try to stop smoking used to be like call, you know, shawl or somebody pray for me pray for me. I stopped smoking, you know, no, no, no, it doesn't work like that. You have to physically try to change your situation that that invites repentance and forgiveness. This is an area in which so many Muslims when they're making Toba or asking for forgiveness, they forget this part. I don't know why. I don't know why this, which I think is probably one of the most important and effective and easiest ways to gain Allah's forgiveness is often overlooked.
You have a problem. Like if you're wasting time, like you're just spending too much time doing stuff that don't help you in life.
And you're like, Man,
I gotta change. I gotta do something different. So what's on Netflix?
So what Episode Are we on? 812? Okay.
If you started doing that, you forgot Towba. And I'm not saying like, stop watching TV. You just got to control that stuff. You got to figure out how it doesn't consume the majority of your time. Like, that's what you have to figure out. That's how Allah takes you from here.
And you start going like this.
You don't want to do you don't want to be here. And your whole life. You're just there.
You don't want that. Why am I saying because Allah gave you time.
And time will stand up against you on your Matsuyama or Allah, you gave them so many hours, but they just still stood here. So So what was the point of me giving you that extra time that extra day that extra 10 years of your life, when your husband or your wife died or your children died or people around you died, you still stayed alive and you still kept waking up? This is why I gave it to you. Because I saw in you, you can still keep climbing the ladder of Tovolo and you can still get closer to me. That's why I put you there. So that's tilba Your physical your mind is I'm not just going to say a stock federal law. But before I welcome a stock federal law, I need to create an environment
where a stub federal law will sit permanently and remain there.
If I understand
Think about how many times in your life have you thought of forgiveness this way?
How many times have you seen that every time you repent to Allah seek his forgiveness that toboe was part of that as well. Right? More you had some Yeah.
It is possible.
Absolutely, absolutely. That's why Allah says in the Quran, you know
that there are dollar jeth or several levels and degrees in the acido. Yep. Okay, here's how you make repentance to Allah. Okay, so Toby is ready, you're ready now to make repentance. Okay? Except for those who repent in the Admin tab. Here's one very important thing you need to write down if you're writing about this verse. Before this verse, there are the three major crimes of Islam.
The three major ones, does anybody know what they are?
Good Schilke number two, killing and number three.
Xena the three major crimes of Islam. Okay. They were already talked about before this a. That's the tone of this A, Allah set the tone with the worst of the worst. People fell into either shirk, or they committed murder, or they committed spiritual murder, Xena.
when all is said and done, Allah describe that for them they're gonna have a punishment in the in the era that you'll draw a fella who lives up, you will die off is that it's doubled and tripled and it's multiplied in the hero
those who repent Illman tab those who make Toba?
What I mean, I'm alongside her,
and they back up their repentance with two things. So for Toba, for Toba to be complete, add two things to it. So this is a three part equation Toba plus, amen. Plus righteous deeds.
what equals that is where we're going to see now. Now we're gonna see what's on the other side of that equal sign. So Toba plus Amen, plus righteous deeds, you have these three things. Now you're gonna see what's on the other side of the equal sign. Now, quick question. Does anybody know if soda for con is mucky, or Medini?
Which means that
the Muslims who are the audience of this sudra AI are either new, or they've known about Islam for at least 13 years.
So long time.
Now, if they're already acquainted with Islam, they're already following the process. I sell them.
Why is Allah telling them to believe, like you have Amen.
And do righteous deeds they're already doing?
Put yourself in the eye too. You already have even you're already doing good deeds. Do you just zoom over the first part of this eye?
What do you tell a? So So one of the main themes of swittel for con is that it was sent to a people to introduce Islam to Okay, so for sootel For candles, one of its main themes is to go to people and introduce Islam. You're giving Dawa to people of the Mexicans here.
What do you tell a new Muslim, when they become Muslim, about their sins? What happens to their sins?
It's all what? It's all erased.
Who's Allah talking to here? Just non Muslims. He's talking to who else? Muslims to.
So Allah says, so really, what scholars say that this A is really doing is telling you and I and teaching us if you have these three ingredients, the reward is not just going to be forgiveness, but potentially you're wiping out your entire slate because of one doba that you made with these three ingredients.
So every Toba you make with these three ingredients could potentially be equivalent to a new Muslim becoming new, anonymous and becoming Muslim.
You're erasing and emptying your scale your scales of bad deeds every single day, and every time you make Toba
because this is the exact same message that Allah is giving to the new Muslim he's giving it to you and I
It's amazing and that's just the intro. So the tone is remember guys Allah is a photo Rahim was really, really exceptionally merciful, loves to forgive, this area gets gets you to taste a little bit of just how merciful Allah is a level of mercy you and I will never ever have with each other, Allah will have it with us. Then Allah continues.
for them Allah will replace their evil deeds with good, my goodness, like
if the area stopped right there where that period is,
would you be happy?
Allah says, I'm going to forgive you and clean your scale like as if you were a brand new Muslim. Every time you make Toba to me, will you be satisfied with that? Absolutely. Not Allah. Look, when Allah tells you what else you get, oh, and by the way,
I'll take even all the history of wrong you've done. You know, when we have the history saved on our websites, and you know, in our phones, and so Allah says, I'll take all of that, that you try to erase, I'll download it. And I'll actually turn it into righteous deeds for you.
So all those years, you never wore hijab? Don't worry about it. Because you may tell them, I'm going to count all those years as though you did. All those years. You didn't pray. Don't worry about it.
Try to make it up. But in terms of reward, you've no idea. You've no idea. I will take all those years of no prayer and turn them into prayer. Well, more of an incentive do we want to just do the right thing?
Remember in suta, to note Allah says,
y z de hoomin fogli Leah Jizya Houma LA who are cinema I mean way a Z de hoomin fugly Allah says, I'm going to reward you based on the best salah or deed you've done and that will be the curve that Allah will mark you on.
So remember, we had that session one time of the once a year Sala I call the remember that once a year Salah where it's the one time you actually concentrated in the entire prayer, that prayer and you cried and you're just like, Oh my God, I wish I could have that every day that pray. Allah says don't worry, I'll take that one prayer. And that will be where I start grading every other prayer I will just kind of put it up that level.
It says if Allah is indirectly saying all the other week Salawat you prayed already but I'll I'll accept it Subhana Allah
Allah is not done guys. So your scale now is reversed and everything is good. So now it's not empty anymore. Now it's full again. But this time it's filled with good
for Allah aka your bed did Allah who say at him hacer net? What can love her food or Rahima guys you're gonna love this.
And Allah is an ever is Allah forgiving and merciful. Past tense or present tense.
Allah has always and ever been forgiving and merciful, past tense or present, past tense. Those of you who study Arabic What can Allah who have who are working to Cana is past tense.
Why is Allah speaking in past tense?
When he's saying that forget he's always forgiving and merciful.
good, exactly. And I'm going to add to that.
So from the very beginning, Allah says I was always forgiving and merciful.
When people sin, especially the righteous
and that's all of us and tell us all of us how you feel when you do something wrong.
Like you you really like you lost your temper and you your mouth just went off and you're just after when you calm down you're just like God
you with somebody who has he met you don't just sit there be like man, I felt good to like Kirsten from head to toe.
You don't do that. Because if you do that and you feel good about it, you don't have even
you don't have to even if you find pleasure in doing the wrong thing. If you get comfortable and get used, you don't have even
but when you get uncomfortable, some people don't know how to internalize that discomfort and they start burying themselves in this in. They get really depressed and they lock themselves
away from community, especially when the community pokes at them. You know, it sounds like this sounds good to see she got divorced a third time. And it's her.
Yeah, guy, huh? Yeah, he used to drink back in the day.
And the thing is, she knows that people are saying that about her. And he knows that people are talking about him.
So after that day, you never see them back at the masjid for like, another year, two years. It's because they're probably going through some kind of depression, loneliness. They don't know how to internalize when they've done something wrong. So they stripped themselves away from the community and ultimately stripped themselves away from Allah. And as time goes on, if they emotionally and you know, psychologically survive that, they come back to Allah,
come back to him, right?
What does Allah tell them? When they come back? Doesn't let us out. We'll come back. Okay, get praying. Now. Allah says, Listen,
I was always there to forgive you and have mercy on you. Even when you separated yourself from me. You did that I didn't do that with you. I was always there. So when we think we leave Allah and we walk away, Allah is telling us when he speaks in past tense, every time you do something wrong, and you separate yourself, I'm always there right in front of your face waiting for you to just say I'm sorry.
It's amazing that Allah would do that. Never give up on people who have Amen. That's what Allah is telling us. He'll never give up on you. You're the one that gives up on him. And people give up with each other. And Allah never gives up on you and I that's what Toba is in this A and this is why I love it. And then the final Aya
can Allahu her fool Rahima woman turbowash Me la Solly halfa in La Jolla to Isla he metabo and whoever repents and does righteousness, then indeed they turn to Allah with a strong case of repentance. There are three types of Toba in the Quran.
One of them is called Toba Latina aminu to Bella Toba 10 na so her so tell Oba like how you know it. That's not so hard. It's like sincere Toba, like sincere Toba. You know, like
we try to throw your real exam, a real example. I used to be an Imam and another masjid, like 200 years ago, right? And there was this brother who smoked and he smoked for 25 years, actually met who knows who this person is too. Right? And 25 years he smoked, and he stopped he quit. So I asked him like we were just sitting in the masjid when I asked him, I was like, Man, how did you quit 25 years, a long time, how to quit. He's like one day I just woke up. And his routine is before he brushes his teeth does anything right in bed. The cigarettes is there. He has one then he goes to the bathroom. And one day he just looked at it. And he knows and he has the guilt in Him. This was
wrong. And he just threw it in the garbage. He was done.
He never smoked again. That's called tilde to know. So when you have like this epiphany or this moment where you're like, I'm done.
And it's very real. Like every one of us has one of those stories. I'm sure all of you has one of those stories where you're just like, yeah, there's one time I just said if I'm finished, or you know what? I'm just gonna go pray and I never stopped praying. You just did it. That's Tobit and that's Toba. Number two is Tober.
Just T A WV Tober.
Offer them what possibily Tober should add a call to the pole Tober is the minimal type of tau it's the bare minimum. You know Toby's tell is this. Toad is this.
You're driving right? And somebody does something and you honk the horn you're like
and then when you calm down, you're like, God staford Allah, that's called help.
That that one stock federal law linked to the one mistake you made and you move on. Bare minimum is a bare minimum Allah wants from you is at least if you're not going to do Tober then do tobe all the time. And the third one
is this. It's called metabo.
And that's what's in this a
Allah says MetaBase this guys were here.
a strong case of Toba. It's the strongest case of Toba that you bring to Allah. In other words, metabo is the kind of Toba that you make that not only are your sins forgiven,
but your scale is reversed and it's filled with good. That's called metabo. So students, where do we want to be?
You aim for metabo
metabo that's what you aim for. You don't just aim for Toba. Don't do what like some of my students say, you know, like the example I give you all the time. You know, I love to go in Genda I don't even need to be eating I can be homeless and starving. As long as I'm agenda, but the most like I don't want no mention. I don't want no servants. I just want to be living on the street under a tree somewhere. No, Allah told you ask for Jenna to fit a dose in our like, ask for the best. So metabo aim for metab don't just settle for a job.
Putting it all together. Everything works together. tob leads to Toba which leads to metabo okay.
Yeah, let's move on. Anybody have any questions before we go on? We have about half an hour ish.
Oh, they say three? Excuse me four. Yeah, three, three. If I said four, it's my mistake. It's three. All right. Okay.
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So look, man continues My beloved Son, even if there happened to be a single grain of wheat. Watch this imagery.
A single grain of wheat.
And that little grain was forced inside the depth of a SATA Sakara. It's like a massive boulder. You don't have the strength, a human being doesn't have the strength to push or move. So it's forced right into the middle, shoved into this rock where there's boulder anywhere in the universe or earth.
Allah will bring it out.
somewhere in this planet, there's a boulder.
If you've ever, like, studied how magicians do their work, do black magic. What do you call it in? In the Chinese term?
Obeah No, there's another thing. What else do they do?
Yeah, like a witchcraft kind of thing. But those doesn't get. They just call it what? Witchcraft? Oh, it's all via. So everything is just Obeah. Okay. So.
So they will take something and create a spell, right? So in Arabic, we call this no Quran calls. It's simple. It's like black magic. And they take this item or these items, they'll bottle it or package it, and they'll go somewhere in the middle of the ocean or throw it in a deepest part of the ocean. And Allah is saying, somewhere in this world, there's that item. In this case Allah is putting to you and I pretty much the impossible that somebody forced this thing in the middle of a rock or a boulder somewhere on this planet. I mean, rocks do we have on this planet, we will never know that because of the to that extent, that's how much we have, we will never be able to count it.
We can never accumulate it. But Allah says that one rock that has that thing in it.
Allah will extract and it'll bring it out in front of you.
So when the magician thinks, oh, it's in the depth of the ocean, nobody will find I planted it in a forest, but they've already excavated the entire forest and built buildings and homes so ever nobody will ever find normalizes
everything's gonna get extracted you know the process with this is called important it's found in soda. Yes, eating some other sodas.
It's also called
My mind just went blank. There is a term for graves and the poor and how do we say grave?
Oh edge of death. edge of death is the word edge death and public so cover is a grave. Edge death is a grave that is hidden. You don't know that. It's there. You ever see on TV?
Sometimes homeowners when they dig up their backyard they find grace. That's called Edge death. And Allah says that he will extract edge death from the planet as well. Places where people were buried and no one knew. Remember those Indigenous kids?
Let's call it death in the sight of Allah Allah will bring it all out even if mankind never finds it. Subhana Allah
right, incredible. So Allah says the sin the mistake now, there's a couple of tangents here somewhere on Earth, there's a rock and so on. So can you find it we will never find it Allah will find that well guarded seed impossible to find will be brought forward. Lovely if that's how the A ends here Latif. No doubt Allah is subtle and fully aware. So look at what these two names and attributes of Allah mean. Latif, son, subtlety and precision. Someone very strong, but they don't realize their strength like oh, sorry, he said, he had this the strength of how many people
he had the strength of nine men. So he was able remember that.
In the city of Meridian, when he came he left Egypt He went to the city of many Medion and he saw people that they were all trying to get water from a well and then he helped the ladies them the tours kind of you know, corner waiting for their turn all the men just kind of hog the area. And then what do you do for so called Lahoma through Matoba amatola ila, Lil sootel cosas tells you that, but the point is, is that there were these massive boulders and he was able to shift those boulders by himself to allow the others to come in. And then he went under a tree under a shade and he started making door I told you, and if you've never ever read the story of Musa alayhis salam,
you are missing literally. If the Quran was in episodes you are literally missing the best episode one of the top three episodes of the entire Quran is this is the story of Musa Musa alayhis salaam his story is just filled with doors, everything he does, he makes the door before he makes the door during he makes the door after he makes the door his whole story is revolves around these beautiful beautiful door.
I put this here for because when I taught this class for the youth, I just put some names that hopefully they can relate to, unfortunately, will Chamberlain
if you have gray hairs, you will know who this person is. But the youth they were just like, wow. So Shakila like these guys are huge, they're big, they're muscular, and they might even not even realize their strength. Right? So that that's the idea of Latif hubiera complete knowledge. Allah says he ilevel heart you know, tell Aryan woman I took this so do he knows the stealing of the eyes and what the breasts conceal.
What does that mean? Does anybody have any thought on it? Describe to me what hubiera means when Allah says he has complete knowledge of something.
We did this in Sula to Nora
and don't worry I'm not going to put you on the spot maybe
hubiera Allah says he knows and he has Kabir go back to the time when we talked about the eyes
the stealing of the eyes you know it's this it's this right? Look at my Look at my eyes look at my face for a second and so this so you're just you're you're watching or whatever and
that's the stealing of the eyes you intentionally because you saw him or her walk or saw something that you know you shouldn't look at but you know it's there.
Even if you don't know anything in your head, you just
can't get through it. Yeah. So you see those moments when they're just taking a peek? That's called
the stealing of the eyes. Allah says yeah, I'm gonna also question you on that.
When Allah does that, that is how you you can sort of capture what hubiera is, is that Allah will capture those miniscule moments that you thought you can get away with. Okay?
Why is Look man telling his son
advice is that? Like?
Do parents tell their kids a
my mom had a really super similar my mom used to say to us what you're trying to spell I already can read.
I thought this was like an A.
Like, how that's how bad it scared me. So you're trying to do something. But I already know what it is before you even think and try. Is like those were like, terrifying life changing Yokoyama moments
Yeah, go ahead
ranking what happened
your parents kind of become their idol. And you will not thinking that they can look like do you think they're watching you?
And so you want to
but as you grow older, the parents are
not there is somebody watching you.
Your parents are there as a form of fear of not doing something.
Yeah, remember that the one hybrid is still watching. You have 24 hour a day surveillance from the sky.
Always watching young people need to have that a painted in their bedroom walls.
screensaver is on their phones. They need to see that every day. Not because they're inherently bad or corrupt. They just there's so distracted and pulled in so many different ways. It's just something that they need to see constantly. And it's not just young people, a
lot of adults need that area to lots of them. I would sit I would say tattooed on your forehead, but maybe hiddenite on your arm or something. Right?
Because you can't add to anything. So that's this idea.
Yeah, Boonie Oh, check what happened here? Yeah. Buena apenas sila toe what motivated murottal One hand in mongkol What's better IML or saw back in early communism? No more students wouldn't number a is this.
Okay. When the look men's advice begin what I was their
you know, it was 12 years 12
When we try to teach and instill Islamic values in our children was the first things we told them to do.
So if the conversation started a number 12
You know, 1213 1415 1617 six a year later, that's when Allah brought Uppsala.
The order is not just by chance.
Intentionally Allah put it this way.
six a year later, that's when Sala came up. We judge a good person based on what how they practice their deen
and even if you put aside the Father Son conversation Suel Baqarah verse 177.
Allah said let's test my head here for a second later bill into well Lou How come cable and measure 81 mockery? Well, a Kindle Bill Roman M and a biller will Yomi headwall mela ecoworld kita one Nabin well Atul mela hobby that will pour Ballia term or will Mr. King webinars you are sir Elian were February carb or a coma Sala. Look how many fingers I had to go through before I got there. Then Allah said, okay, then pray. This idea that I'm reciting to you is the idea that all the qualities of a good person in Islam and look almost at the end of this long as that's when Allah says Oh, and by the way, they also pray.
It's so different from the mindset of how we teach each other and encourage each other. It's so different. I'm not saying that it's not a priority. What I'm saying to you is of the list of things, that is important when you're introducing Islam, to people and to yourself. There are certain foundational subjects you have to work through before you get to the actual work. You can't just you can't just go into the gym and start working out. You've got to have a plan. You've got to be motivated. You've got to discipline, you've got to set goals, you've got to change your diet, you've got a accommodate time for the gym, you've got to ensure that your lifestyle fits that when you
finish, exhausting all that effort and energy you can still go on about your day and not collapse somewhere. You've got to be able to put and compound all of those things. And it's the same idea. You can't go and stand in front of Allah and you're like I'm who are you? Well, you're you
Allah Okay, that's all I know about you by the way, Allah Allah. It doesn't work. It doesn't work this way. And another wisdom why Salah is being mentioned so late is also because
the sun is being trained. He's being taught and he's being trained who Allah is. So that when it's time for father or parents to tell a wake up provider, what do you think the son is going to do?
Know wake up for failure.
After maybe the first time he's told not the 14th time
so that's the whole idea. Your children can respond to Allah's commands. And you and I, we respond to Allah's commands. When we know who Allah is, you don't know who Allah is, is probably the heart of the struggle. Why Islam might be difficult for you or anyone else. So yeah, booting up in your Salah. What motivated Marilou one last point on Salah why do we pray students?
Why do we pray
just tell me in a nutshell why do we pray don't sit there and please don't say to me Allah said so.
It preserves your faith Perfect, good one. Tell me why whilst we pray
protection so there are benefits behind it. You want to protect your Eman your life everything.
What if you didn't get those things? Would you still pray?
You would still pray? Why
even if you weren't told
because if you just pray because Allah told you to your Salah won't be accepted.
You know why I say that?
You've got a What about prayer? If you got a want and desire. If you pray only because Allah tells you to your prayer will look like this log of everything go through Masami love. So check mark for me, right Allah one down. Cool. All right, let's go back to whatever we were doing.
That's how your that's how your Salah will look like.
Say it again? Say it again?
Yeah, yes, yes.
We pray, because it's the link that keeps us connected to Allah. If you don't pray, the link is gone.
You don't have you don't have Allah no more. You lose everything. So whether Allah told you or not, whether you get stuff out of it or not, you know, you need Sala because it's the thing that keeps you with him subhanho All the time.
I always say that when it comes to prayer,
it gives us the things that human beings in life can't give us.
That's what's all at this.
And all of us here that pray. We know what that is. I don't like I don't even know if you can explain that to people who don't pray.
But we know that when we do pray what that feels like. Next, so he tells his son, Okay, gotta pray. And by the way, when you start praying, it's going to lead to something.
What is prayer ultimately going to lead you what is the next layer, the first consequence of prayer.
The first consequence of prayer is in the area.
Establish a prayer command and encourage people to do the right thing.
That's what prayer does. First outcome is when you discover just how amazing and beautiful this is and the things that it's doing for you. Do you want all of it for yourself? Prayer is not like a financial transaction where you hoard all the profits. You try to do what with it?
The benefits and the blessings and the things that you're getting out of solar? What do you want to do with it?
You want to share it. You want to encourage people.
Our strongest form of invitation to the world is supposed to be Sala. And there are glimpses in life where you see that I met a non Muslim one time in Mecca who became Muslim and he came to Mecca came for ombre when he shared his story. Why he became Muslim is because he saw on TV for the first time in life
In his whole life that
how millions of people when they heard a call, stopped what they are doing, and came to one place and did the exact same thing.
So they all in unified form cooperated, synchronised perfectly perfectly, stood shoulder to shoulder beside people they didn't know. They know what they had on them, nothing is when together. And then to top it all off, followed one man
who they couldn't see. They just hear him to hear his voice. DMM just hear him somewhere. And they followed his exact move every time. He said, When I saw all of that machinery, working those parts all working together. I told myself this has to be from God.
He became Muslim.
So that's one of our strongest points of invitation. What more Bill Monroe one here, one Harnell Moncure. Gotta talk about this.
So prayer will put you will put in you the sense of justice. So here are some things that I want you to just keep in mind when you think about pray to be grateful to Allah know you will be brought to account and you must pray. So in context, it is also a reflection of your gratitude to Allah that you continue to pray.
Prayer will put you in the sense of justice, prayer is the solution to problems humans don't have the capacity to resolve and Salah makes you brave. I love this. These are all from Marilla Matt, by the way, I didn't make this up. Like these are things that are translated from books that are in demand, right? So Salah makes you brave, it gives you a Shuja like it gives you this courage, you will have the ability to stand up for what is right. So that's another benefit of when you pray that you're able to encourage people to do good is telling people to do the right thing easy.
Is it always easy to tell her look, I saw where your eyes were going don't do that.
Is that easy? It's not easy.
It's not easy to put somebody on the spot and tell them of their faults and mistakes because it's our nature as humans that we we don't like that. We don't like to be told when we're wrong. If we're wrong, we just like to be wrong and get away with being wrong. And nobody tell us when we're wrong.
Just if you don't know what this means or what this feels like just look at pretty much any kid when you tell them that they're wrong how they react. They don't just say just tell her mom I love you for just grounding me for the next month.
Don't do that.
So Salah on the other hand,
the despite all that rejection.
You still stand up for what is right
guys, Salah is why Islamophobes never win.
Because we have Silla they never were
take away or honor our people or pride, our identity. But as long as we are alive there is one there's some part of us that is still in sala and our Islam will continue to thrive. You can rip my arm off that I can fold my hands don't worry. My brain has arms that it's folding right now.
Cut off my legs that I can sit there I can go and such I don't worry.
Because Allah told me I can pray in any position I want.
Hospitalized me and make me bedridden. Don't worry, Allah told me my heart can still pray.
Let me die and take my life. Don't worry, because the last thing I was thinking about was la isla de la so I was still in the form of prayer when I when I left this world
that's what Salah is.
One day we should do a course on sola not to how to pray no
not talk to you about the fruits of Salah.
I want to talk to you about fifth of sola. There's a lot of that with the halal and I don't want to do that. Actually have a course I've written it long time ago. And I've taught it before about just the purity and the fruits of prayer. Like what prayer does for you. Why we do this a lot why the hands go up? What does that what does that mean? Why fold? What is the significance of doing that? Why can't I just
at hamdulillah he'll be Rabbil aalameen? Like why can I just do it the way I want
all those movements? Why can't I just say instead of Allahu Akbar.
hamdulillah for Bismillah or in Allah, Allah colletion Kadir, like change it up to something else. Why? Allahu Akbar, like all of that stuff? So maybe who knows maybe down the line, you can be one of our courses inshallah. Okay.
We got to talk about this and then we're done. So just five minutes we have Yeah, we got about five minutes and then we're done okay?
Yeah, everybody heard what Sister mentioned that there is a bunch of these online where you see people praying and there's like guns all around them. A lot of pressure. A lot of, I don't know what it feels like to be them to be in a situation like that.
So I can tell you if it's something that like I admire or something that I worry about, because I just don't know what the person is thinking and that kind of surrounding what that would feel like.
So I really don't have any comment on it. Some people are amazed by it, and they're encouraged fine, if you get some kind of encouragement Hamdulillah
I just don't know what that feels like. I don't know if it's a good thing or what I don't know. Anyhow, let's finish this up. And we're done. Okay.
I'm gonna build my roof one final Moncur.
This is often translated as commend good forbid evil, which is a horrible, horrible way of translating. It does not even capture two or 3% of what Mo is. Amaroo is is a comprehensive term and cor n is that is used to commend. But it's also used to encourage
to give someone a second chance or a choice to do the same thing in a different way that's beneficial to them.
So it's like somebody who's eating with a fork, and you see them struggling, but they're not complaining, you see all the food just keep falling because it's a fork. And you say to them, Why don't you try a spoon? That's also a moron. You're not telling them? Look, the fork is just it's not working? Never go to None? No. It's saying Why don't you try this, it's it's better, it's easier. You don't have to struggle that much. That's also a
so it's not restricted not to be restricted to an A or Hadith.
I Emeral. Bill Maher off. So this word to commend is this is when you have the intention to stand up for some form of decency or good. That's what your your aim and your goal is, is you want people around you to stand up for what is right, justice, decency. What is fair. So if you're at work, and somebody is being a racist,
you LM Robell model is you don't say, Hey, you stop that that's wrong. I'm gonna call the police you how you might have to do that. But before all of that if you could actually have a conversation and be like, dude, man, like, why are you like that?
Like, do you honestly believe this right? To look down on people of color? Or this minority or them like, do you really believe this way? That's also a model and that's what my roof is. So anything that shifts a mindset or a people towards some form of decency, IS LM Ruby maruf.
Emerald Bailey Marilou is also this you avoid attention or public embarrassment. So you try to do it in a way that it's subtle, and it doesn't put the person on the spot. It doesn't embarrass them. It doesn't. None of those things. So when you see those YouTube videos, or those tick tock videos of guys giving Dawa, and they're like arguing and putting someone down, and when they throw the AI and the guy gets stumped, and he doesn't know what to respond back and they're like, Ah, come on, man.
I don't know of any Hadith of the products, they sell them that He gave His Dharwad to anybody and then laughed and ridiculed when they couldn't respond.
I don't know any.
I know Phil brown used to do that a lot.
But I don't know the profit already. So as a matter of fact, I don't know of any profits
in any of their stories that they've ever done that
wisdom, wisdom, wisdom, which we've already talked about,
when he on Moncada let's face it
Salah makes you stand up in front of Allah and trained us to stand up in front of everyone else. So that's also a link with commanding good. If you can stand up in front of Allah, you gain the strength of standing up in front of people.
in this day and age,
it's the opposite.
It's the opposite. People fear more of who they stand in front of rather than Allah Himself.
So I'm going to leave you with that. We haven't gotten to win Nahanni Mancha. But I'm going to pause there, I want to leave you with that.
Next week, Inshallah, what we're going to do is we'll finish this off, of course, and we will get into the next page of the sorta there's only two more pages left. So my guess is that I believe, maybe two more sessions in sha Allah next week and one more after and then we will we will be done the surah insha Allah who turn Okay, so we don't have that much time left. So continue to stay with us. And I will see you all next week and to the students online. Thank you all for joining us. Subhanak Allahu Mohammed ik Chateau La ilaha illa Anta Sofitel Coway Tallboy lake was Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh